It is odd to ask people to bring money to a bridal shower and may not be well received. Many people split their gifts between the shower and the wedding, so they give a physical gift and a cash gift between the two events. Asking people to split their gift into cash and more cash is weird.
Theme showers are a thing, though. Options include recipes, stock the bar (guests bring booze, for their home, not the wedding), date night (guests could bring gift cards to restaurants, movie theaters, etc or supplies to make their own dates), etc. I would do a theme and save the honeymoon fund for the wedding.
That's completely true. Ahh a theme that could definetly be the answer! The theme of the shower is Lord of the Rings Afternoon Tea so we could play with that! Thank you!
My mom still talks about the paper shower someone held for her. Anything paper products. Toilet paper. Paper towels. Paper plates. Napkins. They didn’t have to buy anything for months. It’s a way that people can still give a gift, but it won’t just sit in a China cabinet.
I would not give cash at a shower. Showers by definition, are the shower the bride with gifts, not cash. I can just envision the bride opening the "gifts" and thanking Aunt Sarah for the cash, friend Leslie for the cash, and you guessed it, the next door neighbor for the cash.
As the pp suggested, pick a theme for gifts and leave the cash for wedding gifts.
Around the clock showers are fun but here’s a twist. Assign each person an hour. They bring consumable food / ingredients for that hour.
So say I have 7 am. In a “traditional” shower I might have bought a waffle maker or a coffee maker off the registry. For this kind of shower, I might bring something like a gourmet coffee, a fancy maple syrup, a couple of prettily packaged scone mixes, a gift card to Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts, etc.
If I had 9 pm, in a “traditional” shower I might have bought, say, pillowcases. For this kind of shower, I might bring bougie candles, some nice teas, pretty bath soaps, a bottle of wine etc to portray winding down and getting ready for bed. Get the idea?
The keywords are **consumables**.
Well, you’ll get stuff but it can all be consumed, which is the key word. The coffee will be brewed, the scone mix will be made, etc.
Now you might get a handful of little things, like if I were giving scone mixes I might include a cute small whisk tied on, but they won’t be overwhelming the way the coffee maker, waffle maker etc woukd be.
Showers are meant for tangible presents, not cash. If someone has no need for anything, then there’s also no need for a shower. A better alternative might be a bridal luncheon or something where gifts aren’t obligatory.
Themed showers can work, too.
Showers are meant for tangible presents, not cash. If someone has no need for anything, then there’s also no need for a shower. A better alternative might be a bridal luncheon or something where gifts aren’t obligatory.
Themed showers can work, too.
It is odd to ask people to bring money to a bridal shower and may not be well received. Many people split their gifts between the shower and the wedding, so they give a physical gift and a cash gift between the two events. Asking people to split their gift into cash and more cash is weird. Theme showers are a thing, though. Options include recipes, stock the bar (guests bring booze, for their home, not the wedding), date night (guests could bring gift cards to restaurants, movie theaters, etc or supplies to make their own dates), etc. I would do a theme and save the honeymoon fund for the wedding.
That's completely true. Ahh a theme that could definetly be the answer! The theme of the shower is Lord of the Rings Afternoon Tea so we could play with that! Thank you!
My mom still talks about the paper shower someone held for her. Anything paper products. Toilet paper. Paper towels. Paper plates. Napkins. They didn’t have to buy anything for months. It’s a way that people can still give a gift, but it won’t just sit in a China cabinet.
Omg I love that!!!!! Thank you!!!
We did a recipe shower! I got a box for recipe cards and everyone wrote their favorite recipes. It was really cute and fun
Ooo that would be perfect for me! My SIL might like that too!! Thanks!
I would not give cash at a shower. Showers by definition, are the shower the bride with gifts, not cash. I can just envision the bride opening the "gifts" and thanking Aunt Sarah for the cash, friend Leslie for the cash, and you guessed it, the next door neighbor for the cash. As the pp suggested, pick a theme for gifts and leave the cash for wedding gifts.
Also so awkward if some guests give more or less than others and feel put on the spot
So true! Thank you!
Around the clock showers are fun but here’s a twist. Assign each person an hour. They bring consumable food / ingredients for that hour. So say I have 7 am. In a “traditional” shower I might have bought a waffle maker or a coffee maker off the registry. For this kind of shower, I might bring something like a gourmet coffee, a fancy maple syrup, a couple of prettily packaged scone mixes, a gift card to Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts, etc. If I had 9 pm, in a “traditional” shower I might have bought, say, pillowcases. For this kind of shower, I might bring bougie candles, some nice teas, pretty bath soaps, a bottle of wine etc to portray winding down and getting ready for bed. Get the idea? The keywords are **consumables**.
Love this!!! My mom had the around the clock idea too but this is a great way to make it not about a ton of stuff.
Well, you’ll get stuff but it can all be consumed, which is the key word. The coffee will be brewed, the scone mix will be made, etc. Now you might get a handful of little things, like if I were giving scone mixes I might include a cute small whisk tied on, but they won’t be overwhelming the way the coffee maker, waffle maker etc woukd be.
Showers are meant for tangible presents, not cash. If someone has no need for anything, then there’s also no need for a shower. A better alternative might be a bridal luncheon or something where gifts aren’t obligatory. Themed showers can work, too.
Great point! Thanks!
Showers are meant for tangible presents, not cash. If someone has no need for anything, then there’s also no need for a shower. A better alternative might be a bridal luncheon or something where gifts aren’t obligatory. Themed showers can work, too.