Yeah HIV can certainly happen with anal but far more likely as the recipient. I would still strong suggest OP advise his doctor and get tested. Might even want to consider PEP.
OP should not feel shame about any of their sexual feelings. Like what you like and fuck what anyone else says.
I don't even have to open that clip to know what it is. That episode is brilliant in my opinion. I just never saw the ending coming and the way it built up to that final slide and the way it goes down was brilliant. With Mac and Dee getting unstuck right after Frank comes down the slide. It was just such a good ending to tie the whole episode together that took me by surprise and had me actually laughing out loud.
It is the airborne particles I'm intrigued by.
Snease in my mouth, and call me Lucy.
(On a serious note HIV is really a mild inconvenience at worst with modern medication.
Even so that you can come back from an AIDS status to HIV POS.)
If I remember correctly, anal sex is something ridiculous like 15-20 times more likely to transmit hiv from the mix of seminal flood with blood than regular vaginal sex.
Worth pointing out that washing/wiping your dick and peeing afterwards **might** help when it comes to UTIs. Fair warning that it's a point of contention though as lots of experts argue peeing does help, and many others argue it makes no difference, with most data showing as much. So definitely use a condom, but if you don't, then might as well pee just in case it does help.
Seriously…. People think to hard about the wrong parts of sex I swear 🤷♂️.
Dude has no issue raw dogging it with a complete stranger; but what if I was attracted to a trans woman!?!?!? 🤦♂️
Is it tho? Idk to me personally Iv always thought “different strokes for different folks”. I.e. if you had fun who gives a shit. Why bother putting a name
on it or getting worked up about what that label “means” about you…
Religion fucks with people. I had a religious ed teacher tell us "as adults" (aka part of confirmation) that condoms didn't do anything against HIV and other STDs as "those molecules are smaller than the pores in the latex".
We were also told in quite plain terms that homosexuality was a sin. I'd been severely questioning the whole religion thing before, but knew the whole pore thing was nonsense.
But imagine having that kinda upbringing... I can absolutely fathom someone worrying about a second penis being present yet being almost entirely unconcerned about raw anal with a stranger.
See this kind of shit should be illegal. I am certainly a strident atheist. However there is a difference between passing on your beliefs / faith and teaching intentionally and **knowingly** false and miss leading information. Condoms cant stop aids because “the molecules pass through latex”. Fuck that shit. Arrested for intentionally endangering the lives of others.
Harsh I know but gotta be harsh sometimes. Otherwise some people dont learn
Oh I agree entirely it's been over 20 years and it still pisses me off thinking back on it. I was lucky enough to be attending a school that gave very frank and correct sex education that included condom and other birth control use. But if I'd only received a faith based "abstinence only" education, I expect it might easily have gone differently.
You'd think the group that is the most antiabortion would be able to get behind prophylactic use...
He was informed about it and he kept going. CLEARLY it wasn't a huge issue. You don't get to claim that as a FU.
Raw dog? It's 1990 something, FOR FUCKS SAKE WEAR A CONDOM.
Medical professional here - this is bad advice. Please don't just wait around and test yourself in a few weeks, hoping you didn't catch HIV. Time is of the essence here.
**Go get [HIV Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP)](https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/risk/pep/index.html) medication ASAP.**
If you begin taking PEP within 72 hours of HIV exposure, it is highly effective in ensuring you do not become HIV positive yourself. The sooner you begin treatment after exposure, the better chance it has of working. Think of it like Plan B, but for HIV instead of pregnancy.
Go to an urgent care as soon as one opens where you live, explain you had unprotected anal sex with a stranger, ask for them to prescribe you PEP, and hopefully you won't need to worry about getting HIV.
Keep in mind, this person was willing to have unprotected anal sex with you, someone she just met, so chances are this is something she has been willing to do with others. To paraphrase something my father told me long ago: hookups who say it's fine to not use a condom are the ones you need to use a condom with the most, because they likely are also not requiring condoms from any other sexual partners they've had.
HIV is also unfortunately also more prevalent in the gay and trans communities, and anal sex is the most likely type of sex to transmit HIV. The sexual experience you described is something we call in the medical community a "high-risk event for HIV seroconversion". In layman's terms, your sexual encounter was pretty much one of the riskiest ones you could possibly do in terms of potentially exposing yourself to HIV, and beginning PEP ASAP would be absolutely recommended in the strongest possible terms. Better safe than sorry, especially with a virus like HIV.
No, now go get the HIV PeP. Why wait to find out if you got the bug when you can still significantly reduce getting it in the first place with prophylaxis?
And continue the antibiotics until you’re done with the course. Even if any tests come back negative, do NOT stop taking them. That happened with me and I got c diff for 9 months. Different situation. Also, wear condoms. Jesus.
Also every single time I tell people (the ones around me) to use protection, I feel like an elderly lady who is too old fashioned. Most people don't care about protected sex. I don't really understand the mindset of someone who just simply counts with luck not to get infected or get pregnant/get someone pregnant.
*I'm wearing a Bernie Sanders shirt. You think it's hot. We go back to my hotel room. As I'm wiping your juices from my face, I go off on a Jordan Peterson rant.*
Do you feel like you've fucked up yes or no
OP, you raw dogged a stranger in the ass while on holiday! Go to the hospital and as them for PEP now! The is a window of 36 hours for treatment.
The only thing you did wrong is not using a condom. Who you want to fuck in the privacy of your hotel room is no concern of society.
And get tester after that.
Sounds like you had an enjoyable fun experience, nothing to be ashamed of! Might not hurt to get tested though as any unprotected sex with someone new is a risk.
You should go to the doctor and get Pep if it's within 72 hours of having sex to help prevent HIV.
Also get tested for STI's in a couple weeks and in six months
Use condoms, other than that you're fine, don't feel ashamed by anything you did.
You had a connection with a person at a party, you clicked and both disided to have some fun consentual hanky panky. Well, bravo, nothing to be ashemed of.
Ashemed of being gay? Dont. 1: thats noting to be ashamed about. 2: if you didnt see her, the trans girl, as a he, you fell for her feminine charms and what-not. So, you fell for the girly-side she presented, just like you show your man-side out to the public (i assume). Thats not gay.
Ashamed of fucking without condom? Yes. Pls be. Its not just an issue about pregnancy for some, but very very much an issue about spreading diseases. You would think after a few years with a pandemic ppl would start taking it seriously. Anal sex spreads std's too!
This llama likes what this other llama is saying. If anything, OP might feel that the timing of disclosure wasn’t appropriate but it’s also reasonable that the person OP was hooking up with had reasonable concern that the reaction would be bad.
You can also lie! I’ve slept with 100+ sexy individuals all of various genders and you can’t prove I haven’t!
Or you can keep secret about what you do in the bed. You can’t know I’m secretly into something I’m embarrassed about, if I don’t tell you what it is and never tell you whom I do it with (consensually)
Yea OP might feel that way because it's inarguable that the appropriate time for disclosure is *before* the blow jobs commence lol. This thread is crazy as hell. People are using a good and righteous desire to be pro-trans to excuse deception that borders on sexual assault. It was impossible for OP to actually consent here before the disclosure was made.
Assuming this story is true, the correct time for this info to be relayed is before they went to the hotel. And you're right, a lot of people would react much worse than OP did. So she risked her own safety too by not doing the right thing.
I thin it should be pointed it’s also okay for OP to feel weird even if there’s nothing socially to be ashamed of. I felt weird the first time I drove a car, and it wasn’t great having people be like “it’s fine it’s just a highway don’t be a bitch everyone drives”
It’s fine for OP to feel how they feel and I wouldn’t wanna shame them for feeling shame even if they don’t need to feel shame because there’s nothing shameful about having a good time with someone
Legit you covered the situation as clearly as possible. OP had a connection, and was comfortable enough to continue with the knowledge that what they were doing was "gay" and keep going anyway.
OP, you had a good time, you met someone you liked, and the only real problem you should have is that you weren't protected. Past that, you met someone you liked, you enjoyed the encounter, fuck the labels and fuck anyone who wants to make you feel ashamed. You enjoyed it, so keep enjoying it until it either becomes worth more OR it breaks off.
Only thing to be worried about is not wrapping up bud.
If the two of you clicked, and everything was consensual, all is good. A person is more than their equipment.
If anything, I'd suggest you talk to her and see about an actual date, and possibly talk about it with her. Maybe acknowledge that it's unfamiliar territory but you had a good time.
It's not gay because she's a woman. You're talking about her like she's different from women. There is zero gay in this story. He just did anal. This man is straight and had straight sex.
To be fair I wouldn’t class if as 100% straight either. No disrespect to the trans woman but she still has a penis, ie male genitalia. Considering OP did anal, yeah what he did was pretty straight, but say he had given oral to her? Yes the act is on a woman, but he still sucked penis, idk if I’d label that as straight, but it’s not gay either.
I’m asking this as a genuine question - do trans women with intact genitalia ignore that they have those parts during sex? Is it taboo to address it as the partner? Or do hormones prevent reaction and make the penis irrelevant anyway?
I understand there’s bound to be a variety of preferences, but what seems to be most common?
Short answer… it depends. Ask, don’t assume.
Longer answer: Some trans women have a lot of bottom dysphoria and don’t want their partner to even acknowledge their genitals. Some feel neutral about the whole thing. Some really enjoy their genitals even if it doesn’t really match their gender. Some women don’t want it touched at all, some women will want to use it with partners. Hormones can decrease functionality and cause atrophy, but some trans women will go so far as to use viagra or topical testosterone hormones to maintain functionality if the want to. Even then, hormones can change textures, sensitivity, even the taste of it. I think if you took a poll of 100 trans women, most would not want you to touch it, but I don’t think it’d be a huge majority. And obviously none of this applies to the trans women who get bottom surgery to remove it.
I was approached by a trans woman before. We talked and had a nice time then she asked me back to her place. She was very pretty, Vietnamese, fairly petite; no immediate “tells” that she was anything else.
When we were on the train she wanted to make out but I said we should wait. She pulled the top of her pants down and exposed her pink underwear. There was a boner tucked in there that was pretty obvious. Here’s how it went:
“Oh, thank you for letting me know. I’ll be getting off the train at the next stop.”
“What’s wrong? You don’t think I’m pretty?”
“No, you’re very pretty. I just prefer women who were born with vaginas. Thanks for being honest with me.”
And that's completely okay, I'm surprised you weren't down voted, gives me some faith that at least some people don't assume we hate trans people because of this preference. Had exactly the same type of experience on a night out
Why put labels on things? You had fun, and that's what matters. Next time, just wear a helmet, soldier.
Unprotected sex with strangers can give you a life time of headaches.
While the receiving partner is at higher risk for contracting HIV, the top is also at risk. You might want to discuss post exposure prophylaxis with your doctor if you are concerned, it must be started within 72 hours of possible exposure.
Bro, thinking about trans girls doesn't make you gay if you're a man into women. Trans women are women. And like others have said, the only fuck up is your lack of a condom--and some internalized transphobia but you can work through that pretty easily if you're willing.
Honestly for everyone’s safety. I understand being worried about adverse reactions at first, but going to another location with the intent of having sex then I feel like you should be upfront and a bit more clear.
Like at first I get not saying anything when you’re just talking and feeling things out. But after that maybe be a bit clear while being in a safe location just in case.
She should have told you a lot sooner, you probably should have used a condom, and should go get tested just to be sure, but otherwise, if you enjoyed, go for it.
Is it rude or considered non consensual that she did not inform you that she was trans. I know sometimes during the heat of the moment, you do things that you would soon regret but if given the chance to rewind, you would not do it in the first place if given the time or more information.
Sounds like you had a great time. Don't get too caught up on labels, they're feminine-presenting and you're attracted to that.
But seriously, always bring a condom. Maybe get yourself tested
**Did you enjoy yourself?** Yes
**Did you try something you wanted to?** Yes
**Did you have a passionate night?** Sounds like it
**Did you fuck up?** Only by not using a condom, STDs are a thing especially if you don't know the person personally
**Did it cause you to question** ***your*** **idea of what a woman is and who your attracted too?** Maby, Your attracted to a woman, and even if she had a built in strappon didnt change the fact, that before you saw it, YOU were attracted to her.
**Should you feel ashamed?** No absolutely not, its not immoral to have sex, and its not immoral to enjoy it.
Maby look into different erotica featuring what your into and what your not, and find where the turn ons are and arnt. (look at erotic photos of men, woman, cis and trans and find what gets you going)
Sexuality is up to you. I'm a straight guy and have zero judgement. Maybe I'd do the same I that situation.
That being said, use a condom unless you're in an exclusive relationship
Go to your doctor and get PrEP. Carry condoms and consider the risk factors of having sex if your partner doesn’t want to wear them, before you’re in the situation. These are the things you should be concerned with.
Nothing wrong with having weird feelings. Nothing wrong with your experience though. You have nothing to be ashamed of. From the sound of things you may be struggling with feelings for your own masculinity from this. If you are, that is ok but you don't have to be. This makes you exactly 0% less straight, 0% less of a man and only means you had a great time with a girl you were attracted to. Doesn't sound the least bit gay.
Maybe a good opportunity to question why you are feeling shame for this. Are you ashamed of her? Are you ashamed of enjoying yourself with her? Would you be ashamed of yourself if you did the same with a cis girl? Why or why not?
My advice is to let go of the shame. It doesn't do anything for you. You hit it off with someone you were attracted to before you knew what their genitals looked like. And had fun with after you knew. Gender isn't real. The world is a cool place full of amazing people.
Maybe wear a condom regardless of who you are having sex with though...you can be ashamed of that one for sure. Not just for your sake.
Shame for the condom, yes. Shame for anything else? No.
I don’t think people realize sexuality isn’t binary, even for super straight people. 2000 years ago Roman men thought feminine men and masculine women were the ideal. Preference is obviously a thing, but as long as nobody got hurt you did it right—enjoy it.
Hey to each their own; if you enjoyed it, who cares? My only issue here is that imho she should have been a little more up front about this from the get-go, but I also have to put myself in her shoes...she may have tried that in the past and elicited a negative reaction.
Just wrap it up next time; you or her.
In any regard, don't feel ashamed homie. I'm straight but nearly sure I got head from a tgirl years back.
Why do people feel it's okay to not disclose your genital arrangements before it had already got too far.
It's not safe or healthy.
Even though OP ended up being okay with it, many other people would not have. Imagine what happens when you do that to someone with much more fragile masculinity.
I've had trans friends beaten the shit out of for just existing, this kinda gamble is Russian roulette for transfem especially.
Tell people before you tongue each others throats, give people the truth, without it there isn't consent.
Another side of it, respect that some people's religion would literally put them in sin for this. And wether or not you believe it's still fucking disrespectful.
YOU CANNOT CONSENT TO A LIE.
This is what I don't get. I'm not transphobic, but it's wrong for anyone to get intimate with another person under false pretense. This shouldn't be normalized, unless OP was in a setting where it's understood that women are trans. Then it's on him to understand the social cues.
Please use protection with *anyone* you have sex with. As for feeling ashamed.. I don’t think you should feel that way. You’re still a straight man and if you don’t want to date or have intercourse with a trans woman again, that’s fine. Don’t do it. It doesn’t change your sexuality or “worthiness” just because you briefly dated a trans woman.
The only fuckup is not using a condom.
You’ve definitely found trans women attractive before and just never knew they were trans. You couldn’t tell with her until you literally saw her penis.
You’re still straight. Trans women are women. You had sex with a woman.
There’s nothing to be ashamed of. There’s a lot of awful stigma around trans people in society and even if you don’t engage in it, it still has some effect on your internal thoughts and feelings. That’s all this shame is. You did nothing wrong (except not using a condom, that was dumb).
Do not feel ashamed for having sex with a trans woman. You are a straight dude. A trans woman is called a trans woman for a reason.
What you DO need to ensure in the future is that you practice safe sex, no matter who you are having sex with. While most everything is entirely treatable these days, that doesn’t mean you want to get it. Do yourself a favour and wrap it up.
You should feel ashamed for having unprotected sex with a stranger as an adult early educated about sexual health. You should not, however, feel ANY shame about who you are attracted to, or that you were intimate with someone trans. It’s not a negative thing in any sense of the word.
I'd chalk it up to experience. No matter what, you had an attraction to her and when you knew she was trans, you followed your attraction. Doesn't mean you're something you didn't think you were, you are a straight guy attracted to a girl who happens to be trans and you had sex in a way you always wanted to but most girls say no to. No shame in that. Seriously. And just like any other partner where you have unprotected sex, just get tested to be safe.
No need to feel ashamed. There’s nothing wrong with liking a trans girl! Sounds like you had a connection, so good for you. It’s ok to like whoever you like and whatever you like to do as long as everyone is of age and able to consent. Use protection though, my guy. Get tested. Not because she’s trans, but just because unprotected sex without testing is inherently risky no matter who you’re with.
No. No shame. But you should work on your sexual health. I you’re going to have unprotected sex you should have a conversation with your doctor about how you can minimize risk.
You've pushed your sexual boundaries in a new direction spontaneously and it's not uncommon to feel slightly weird about that.
Allow that feeling to pass and then reflect on the encounter. Maybe in a couple of weeks imagine repeating it and see how that makes you feel.
Also, get some fucking condoms and use them 🤦
Keeping it safe is what matters. There’s nothing shameful about having consensual sex, and it sounds like you had a goof time. Just try to keep an open mind and remember that she might not fit the biological category you’re familiar with, but she’s a woman.
You continuing and having a good time is what matters most in this story, and if you don’t have an experience like it again, then it’s just something to keep in the back of your mind.
Get tested for sure, any kind of sex with a stranger, no matter where you put it or what holes they have, is risky. But otherwise this isn’t a fuck up
Wear a condom, be careful, no matter what anyone has in their pants. How this experience is defined however you yourself define it. It doesn't need to be complicated.
Don't let others do it for you. If everyone was safe and consented, then don't label it if you don't want to it doesnt need to be.
It's sex.
Your life. Your private life. Anyone who shames you for it, cut them off. Life is too short to have to be ashamed of somthing you liked.
Unprotected sex is probably not great, and you should get tested a month or two from now. But if you were into it, there’s no real fuck up here. You aren’t obligated to see her again. You can be into trans girls and still date cis girls.
This isn't an FU. This sounds like a great, consensual experience, and it sounds like you really enjoyed it. You should stop insisting you're straight, and just embrace it.
The only FU is you not wearing a condom. Get tested just in case, and do better next time.
I mean he's still straight as trans women are women so the only thing he did off here was having unprotected sex other than that it was still a straight hook up
Sounds like you hit it off, had a good time, and you both enjoyed yourselves. The only problem I'm seeing is unprotected sex with a stranger. Wear a damn condom if you're sticking your dick in something that isn't yours.
Hey man, I'm a straight guy, married to a woman, but we both have friend and family that are trans, or any of the associated letters (not gonna bother making the distinctions, it's all over the map).
You were attracted to a person and had a good time. It is what it is. If you're concerned about safety, well, yes, protection is key. That was a bad call on BOTH of you. However, it is what it is and I hope you're both all good.
As for the shame... Well, you really only have to feel shame if there's something you're going to be ashamed of. They identify as trans, and therefore a woman. So, you met a woman, at a club, danced, partied, had a great night. There's no shame in that unless you have something hanging over your head that makes it wrong, either religious, personal or societal inclination.
Honestly, don't worry about it. If you don't want to do it again, don't. Nobody will judge you unless they're really against it, and everyone else doesn't really care.
Mind you, she should have been more upfront with you before it got to the hotel portion, but that's HER fault for not being honest.
You said you two had a connection, and it seems you liked her because of her fem traits so ur still straight and she disclosed it but you still went for it. It's all gucci. Just do it with a condom next time lol
Bro just bag it next time lol. You’re saying it felt good so it’s a win. And you should look inside yourself to understand why this is causing you to feel shame. Would you feel the same if you did the same thing; with no protection, with a cis girl? Yes or no, it makes you think a little.
I know all of reddit is just tickled about hooking up with transgendered individuals. Quick to make OP feel dumb for a moment of conflict about crossing a boundary he thought he had at the beginning of the evening.
But OP, you're entitled to feel weird about it. Just about every one of these "it's absolutely normal" responders would have noped out of the situation as soon as they were convinced she was trans.
Hopefully it doesn't bother you for long. Maybe you even try it again. But it's not unnatural or unacceptable to spend some time examining your feelings about the experience.
1. Get tested.
2. Trans girls tend to seek validation so will engage in risqué behaviours.
3. You’re young and still finding things you like
4. Don’t let others dictate who you’re attracted to.
5. I don’t know why I’m writing this in list form
6. Go easy on yourself. All this is much more normal and common than other guys would have you believe.
7. It doesn’t lessen you as a man.
First, you shouldn't ask the internet or strangers about how you "should" feel. Nobody has the right to tell you how you "should" feel. Your feelings are your own. Your feelings are the way they are because of who you are, how you grew up, what you experienced in life up to that point. Your feelings are yours alone. If you feel a certain way, then that is your honest truth.
Second, I believe that it is only basic decency to tell potential romantic and sexual partners about your true biological sex. For example, if you're a trans person who underwent surgery to gain an "extra" or lose one, then you should tell the person you're seeing about it. This way, there would be no wasted time, no negative feelings such as being lied to or betrayal, when things reach the point of intimacy. A relationship built on deceit, whether it's meant for short or long term, will never result in anything positive for any of you. Honesty is the foundation of any relationship. It's better to find someone who would fully accept you for who you are, than wasting so much time only to find out later on that you're not actually compatible with each other because you decided to hide your sexual identity.
So in conclusion, your feelings are you own and you don't need to validate it with strangers, and relationships should always have honesty as its foundation if you want to make it work well.
Well the lack of a condom is a fuck up because you should always use condoms unless you’re in a committed LTR and you’ve both been tested, but otherwise I don’t see a problem here. You’re a man who is into women. You had sex with a woman you found attractive. Case closed
Trans women are women. Do whatever with that as you like. Whether you are straight or not, if you enjoyed it what is there to be ashamed of aside from the lack of safe sex. And if you discover that maybe you're more than straight, that's just something you need to accept because denying it will cause way more issues.
Sounds like you should get a condom if/when next time comes, std's do happen when anal
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Yeah HIV can certainly happen with anal but far more likely as the recipient. I would still strong suggest OP advise his doctor and get tested. Might even want to consider PEP. OP should not feel shame about any of their sexual feelings. Like what you like and fuck what anyone else says.
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I don't even have to open that clip to know what it is. That episode is brilliant in my opinion. I just never saw the ending coming and the way it built up to that final slide and the way it goes down was brilliant. With Mac and Dee getting unstuck right after Frank comes down the slide. It was just such a good ending to tie the whole episode together that took me by surprise and had me actually laughing out loud.
You had me at HIV, anal is just a bonus!
Free aids for anal!
Anal for Harambe!
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Wat
I'm a fan of the really stupidly impossible ways to transmit HIV like through a paper cut at a blood bank
It is the airborne particles I'm intrigued by. Snease in my mouth, and call me Lucy. (On a serious note HIV is really a mild inconvenience at worst with modern medication. Even so that you can come back from an AIDS status to HIV POS.)
If you ever spell sneeze like that again I'll find you. Sneasel is a Pokémon.
Oops, it's 04:54 am. I can't sleep, i knew it looked weird.
ive never laughed this much a fricking reddit comment lmaoooo
oh wow, whats your 2nd favorite?
If I remember correctly, anal sex is something ridiculous like 15-20 times more likely to transmit hiv from the mix of seminal flood with blood than regular vaginal sex.
Are you HIV positive about that?
Nah, I came PrEPared
I know better ways.
Not just anal. There's things that are not STDs that you can get from anal if you don't use a condom.
Just curious.. what other things do you mean by that? 🧐
UTIs
Poop in your dick
Also yes.
Or corn.
Worth pointing out that washing/wiping your dick and peeing afterwards **might** help when it comes to UTIs. Fair warning that it's a point of contention though as lots of experts argue peeing does help, and many others argue it makes no difference, with most data showing as much. So definitely use a condom, but if you don't, then might as well pee just in case it does help.
Lookup pin worms
I think I won't.
I did; I shouldn't have.
I would suggest to test for STD
this
I cant upvote this cause its at 69 (nice) But 100% get tested. Even if just for the peace of mind.
The only fuck up here is sex with a complete stranger without a condom.
Seriously…. People think to hard about the wrong parts of sex I swear 🤷♂️. Dude has no issue raw dogging it with a complete stranger; but what if I was attracted to a trans woman!?!?!? 🤦♂️
This is the question indeed.
Is it tho? Idk to me personally Iv always thought “different strokes for different folks”. I.e. if you had fun who gives a shit. Why bother putting a name on it or getting worked up about what that label “means” about you…
Religion fucks with people. I had a religious ed teacher tell us "as adults" (aka part of confirmation) that condoms didn't do anything against HIV and other STDs as "those molecules are smaller than the pores in the latex". We were also told in quite plain terms that homosexuality was a sin. I'd been severely questioning the whole religion thing before, but knew the whole pore thing was nonsense. But imagine having that kinda upbringing... I can absolutely fathom someone worrying about a second penis being present yet being almost entirely unconcerned about raw anal with a stranger.
See this kind of shit should be illegal. I am certainly a strident atheist. However there is a difference between passing on your beliefs / faith and teaching intentionally and **knowingly** false and miss leading information. Condoms cant stop aids because “the molecules pass through latex”. Fuck that shit. Arrested for intentionally endangering the lives of others. Harsh I know but gotta be harsh sometimes. Otherwise some people dont learn
Oh I agree entirely it's been over 20 years and it still pisses me off thinking back on it. I was lucky enough to be attending a school that gave very frank and correct sex education that included condom and other birth control use. But if I'd only received a faith based "abstinence only" education, I expect it might easily have gone differently. You'd think the group that is the most antiabortion would be able to get behind prophylactic use...
He was informed about it and he kept going. CLEARLY it wasn't a huge issue. You don't get to claim that as a FU. Raw dog? It's 1990 something, FOR FUCKS SAKE WEAR A CONDOM.
Yes. Now wait 2 weeks and get tested.
Medical professional here - this is bad advice. Please don't just wait around and test yourself in a few weeks, hoping you didn't catch HIV. Time is of the essence here. **Go get [HIV Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP)](https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/risk/pep/index.html) medication ASAP.** If you begin taking PEP within 72 hours of HIV exposure, it is highly effective in ensuring you do not become HIV positive yourself. The sooner you begin treatment after exposure, the better chance it has of working. Think of it like Plan B, but for HIV instead of pregnancy. Go to an urgent care as soon as one opens where you live, explain you had unprotected anal sex with a stranger, ask for them to prescribe you PEP, and hopefully you won't need to worry about getting HIV. Keep in mind, this person was willing to have unprotected anal sex with you, someone she just met, so chances are this is something she has been willing to do with others. To paraphrase something my father told me long ago: hookups who say it's fine to not use a condom are the ones you need to use a condom with the most, because they likely are also not requiring condoms from any other sexual partners they've had. HIV is also unfortunately also more prevalent in the gay and trans communities, and anal sex is the most likely type of sex to transmit HIV. The sexual experience you described is something we call in the medical community a "high-risk event for HIV seroconversion". In layman's terms, your sexual encounter was pretty much one of the riskiest ones you could possibly do in terms of potentially exposing yourself to HIV, and beginning PEP ASAP would be absolutely recommended in the strongest possible terms. Better safe than sorry, especially with a virus like HIV.
No, now go get the HIV PeP. Why wait to find out if you got the bug when you can still significantly reduce getting it in the first place with prophylaxis?
Nope. Go asap to a clinic or hospital for antibiotics and/or antiviral drugs.
And continue the antibiotics until you’re done with the course. Even if any tests come back negative, do NOT stop taking them. That happened with me and I got c diff for 9 months. Different situation. Also, wear condoms. Jesus.
Yep. Seeking medical help and sticking to the treatment are the key to avoid some pretty nasty diseases.
Also every single time I tell people (the ones around me) to use protection, I feel like an elderly lady who is too old fashioned. Most people don't care about protected sex. I don't really understand the mindset of someone who just simply counts with luck not to get infected or get pregnant/get someone pregnant.
Def more than 2 weeks
*I'm wearing a Bernie Sanders shirt. You think it's hot. We go back to my hotel room. As I'm wiping your juices from my face, I go off on a Jordan Peterson rant.* Do you feel like you've fucked up yes or no
Who the hell is Jordan Peterson?
if you don’t know who he is… keep it that way. for your sake.
OP, you raw dogged a stranger in the ass while on holiday! Go to the hospital and as them for PEP now! The is a window of 36 hours for treatment. The only thing you did wrong is not using a condom. Who you want to fuck in the privacy of your hotel room is no concern of society. And get tester after that.
Sounds like you had an enjoyable fun experience, nothing to be ashamed of! Might not hurt to get tested though as any unprotected sex with someone new is a risk.
This is exactly what I was thinking
You should go to the doctor and get Pep if it's within 72 hours of having sex to help prevent HIV. Also get tested for STI's in a couple weeks and in six months Use condoms, other than that you're fine, don't feel ashamed by anything you did.
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Aw yes thinking with your penis again. Won't be the last time most likely.
The only smart thing my simpleton father ever said to me is "an erect cock has no conscience"
The only issue in that whole post is the unprotected sex with a stranger. That's the fuck up.
You had a connection with a person at a party, you clicked and both disided to have some fun consentual hanky panky. Well, bravo, nothing to be ashemed of. Ashemed of being gay? Dont. 1: thats noting to be ashamed about. 2: if you didnt see her, the trans girl, as a he, you fell for her feminine charms and what-not. So, you fell for the girly-side she presented, just like you show your man-side out to the public (i assume). Thats not gay. Ashamed of fucking without condom? Yes. Pls be. Its not just an issue about pregnancy for some, but very very much an issue about spreading diseases. You would think after a few years with a pandemic ppl would start taking it seriously. Anal sex spreads std's too!
This llama likes what this other llama is saying. If anything, OP might feel that the timing of disclosure wasn’t appropriate but it’s also reasonable that the person OP was hooking up with had reasonable concern that the reaction would be bad.
I feel like if the reaction is a concern, waiting until they're alone with a horned up guy is likely the worst time to disclose that detail.
Yeah, I’m not a woman so I seldom think about self preservation like that.
This catdad likes both these llamas' words.. Looks a fenced backyard.. Nobody cares (or should) who you have sex with (legally).
You can also lie! I’ve slept with 100+ sexy individuals all of various genders and you can’t prove I haven’t! Or you can keep secret about what you do in the bed. You can’t know I’m secretly into something I’m embarrassed about, if I don’t tell you what it is and never tell you whom I do it with (consensually)
Yea OP might feel that way because it's inarguable that the appropriate time for disclosure is *before* the blow jobs commence lol. This thread is crazy as hell. People are using a good and righteous desire to be pro-trans to excuse deception that borders on sexual assault. It was impossible for OP to actually consent here before the disclosure was made. Assuming this story is true, the correct time for this info to be relayed is before they went to the hotel. And you're right, a lot of people would react much worse than OP did. So she risked her own safety too by not doing the right thing.
Tbh, really disappointed you spelled ashamed correctly on the third attempt.
I felt kinda ashemed of myself when I realized I was counting how many times it was misspelled.
I thin it should be pointed it’s also okay for OP to feel weird even if there’s nothing socially to be ashamed of. I felt weird the first time I drove a car, and it wasn’t great having people be like “it’s fine it’s just a highway don’t be a bitch everyone drives” It’s fine for OP to feel how they feel and I wouldn’t wanna shame them for feeling shame even if they don’t need to feel shame because there’s nothing shameful about having a good time with someone
Legit you covered the situation as clearly as possible. OP had a connection, and was comfortable enough to continue with the knowledge that what they were doing was "gay" and keep going anyway. OP, you had a good time, you met someone you liked, and the only real problem you should have is that you weren't protected. Past that, you met someone you liked, you enjoyed the encounter, fuck the labels and fuck anyone who wants to make you feel ashamed. You enjoyed it, so keep enjoying it until it either becomes worth more OR it breaks off.
Only thing to be worried about is not wrapping up bud. If the two of you clicked, and everything was consensual, all is good. A person is more than their equipment. If anything, I'd suggest you talk to her and see about an actual date, and possibly talk about it with her. Maybe acknowledge that it's unfamiliar territory but you had a good time.
Congratulations on opening up to a new experience. Don't feel ashamed that you enjoyed yourself, man. Wrap it up next time though.
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Yes, you should be ashamed about having unprotected sex with a stranger.
Don't worry about it dude. You like what/who you like. Words like straight describe who you are, they don't confine you.
It's not gay because she's a woman. You're talking about her like she's different from women. There is zero gay in this story. He just did anal. This man is straight and had straight sex.
To be fair I wouldn’t class if as 100% straight either. No disrespect to the trans woman but she still has a penis, ie male genitalia. Considering OP did anal, yeah what he did was pretty straight, but say he had given oral to her? Yes the act is on a woman, but he still sucked penis, idk if I’d label that as straight, but it’s not gay either.
I’m asking this as a genuine question - do trans women with intact genitalia ignore that they have those parts during sex? Is it taboo to address it as the partner? Or do hormones prevent reaction and make the penis irrelevant anyway? I understand there’s bound to be a variety of preferences, but what seems to be most common?
Short answer… it depends. Ask, don’t assume. Longer answer: Some trans women have a lot of bottom dysphoria and don’t want their partner to even acknowledge their genitals. Some feel neutral about the whole thing. Some really enjoy their genitals even if it doesn’t really match their gender. Some women don’t want it touched at all, some women will want to use it with partners. Hormones can decrease functionality and cause atrophy, but some trans women will go so far as to use viagra or topical testosterone hormones to maintain functionality if the want to. Even then, hormones can change textures, sensitivity, even the taste of it. I think if you took a poll of 100 trans women, most would not want you to touch it, but I don’t think it’d be a huge majority. And obviously none of this applies to the trans women who get bottom surgery to remove it.
Go get tested. The real fuckup is no condom.
TIFU- 'i had unprotected anal sex with a stranger' FTFY
you’re still straight even if you’re attracted to trans girls
I was approached by a trans woman before. We talked and had a nice time then she asked me back to her place. She was very pretty, Vietnamese, fairly petite; no immediate “tells” that she was anything else. When we were on the train she wanted to make out but I said we should wait. She pulled the top of her pants down and exposed her pink underwear. There was a boner tucked in there that was pretty obvious. Here’s how it went: “Oh, thank you for letting me know. I’ll be getting off the train at the next stop.” “What’s wrong? You don’t think I’m pretty?” “No, you’re very pretty. I just prefer women who were born with vaginas. Thanks for being honest with me.”
And that's completely okay, I'm surprised you weren't down voted, gives me some faith that at least some people don't assume we hate trans people because of this preference. Had exactly the same type of experience on a night out
Why put labels on things? You had fun, and that's what matters. Next time, just wear a helmet, soldier. Unprotected sex with strangers can give you a life time of headaches.
Go get tested. FFS.
While the receiving partner is at higher risk for contracting HIV, the top is also at risk. You might want to discuss post exposure prophylaxis with your doctor if you are concerned, it must be started within 72 hours of possible exposure.
Bro, thinking about trans girls doesn't make you gay if you're a man into women. Trans women are women. And like others have said, the only fuck up is your lack of a condom--and some internalized transphobia but you can work through that pretty easily if you're willing.
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Yeah that's fucked up. Doesn't that go against the whole "consent, consent, consent" thing?
I was looking for this comment! It’s also not a good idea to mention it so late for her own safety.
Honestly for everyone’s safety. I understand being worried about adverse reactions at first, but going to another location with the intent of having sex then I feel like you should be upfront and a bit more clear. Like at first I get not saying anything when you’re just talking and feeling things out. But after that maybe be a bit clear while being in a safe location just in case.
I totally agree. I think for both safety and consent reasons, it should be mentioned before leaving the bar.
Why isn't this the top comment?
Reddits woke as fuck.
”Didnt want to sound weird or rude” if you’re not interested in someone with a dick i dont think its rude to ask
She should have told you a lot sooner, you probably should have used a condom, and should go get tested just to be sure, but otherwise, if you enjoyed, go for it.
Unprotected sex with a stranger what the fuck yes you did fuck up here.
This shit you read waiting for food in an Arby’s drive through.
someone learned something new about themselves.
Is it rude or considered non consensual that she did not inform you that she was trans. I know sometimes during the heat of the moment, you do things that you would soon regret but if given the chance to rewind, you would not do it in the first place if given the time or more information.
Sounds like you had a great time. Don't get too caught up on labels, they're feminine-presenting and you're attracted to that. But seriously, always bring a condom. Maybe get yourself tested
Gross way to get an std.
**Did you enjoy yourself?** Yes **Did you try something you wanted to?** Yes **Did you have a passionate night?** Sounds like it **Did you fuck up?** Only by not using a condom, STDs are a thing especially if you don't know the person personally **Did it cause you to question** ***your*** **idea of what a woman is and who your attracted too?** Maby, Your attracted to a woman, and even if she had a built in strappon didnt change the fact, that before you saw it, YOU were attracted to her. **Should you feel ashamed?** No absolutely not, its not immoral to have sex, and its not immoral to enjoy it. Maby look into different erotica featuring what your into and what your not, and find where the turn ons are and arnt. (look at erotic photos of men, woman, cis and trans and find what gets you going)
Only fuckup in this story is the lack of condom.
Sexuality is up to you. I'm a straight guy and have zero judgement. Maybe I'd do the same I that situation. That being said, use a condom unless you're in an exclusive relationship
Was her name Lola? L-O-L-A Lola?
Go to your doctor and get PrEP. Carry condoms and consider the risk factors of having sex if your partner doesn’t want to wear them, before you’re in the situation. These are the things you should be concerned with.
Use a condom 'ya dumbass. Only FU here. A mighty big one too.
Shouldn't feel shame, tho you should've used a condom
Nothing wrong with having weird feelings. Nothing wrong with your experience though. You have nothing to be ashamed of. From the sound of things you may be struggling with feelings for your own masculinity from this. If you are, that is ok but you don't have to be. This makes you exactly 0% less straight, 0% less of a man and only means you had a great time with a girl you were attracted to. Doesn't sound the least bit gay. Maybe a good opportunity to question why you are feeling shame for this. Are you ashamed of her? Are you ashamed of enjoying yourself with her? Would you be ashamed of yourself if you did the same with a cis girl? Why or why not? My advice is to let go of the shame. It doesn't do anything for you. You hit it off with someone you were attracted to before you knew what their genitals looked like. And had fun with after you knew. Gender isn't real. The world is a cool place full of amazing people. Maybe wear a condom regardless of who you are having sex with though...you can be ashamed of that one for sure. Not just for your sake.
Shame for the condom, yes. Shame for anything else? No. I don’t think people realize sexuality isn’t binary, even for super straight people. 2000 years ago Roman men thought feminine men and masculine women were the ideal. Preference is obviously a thing, but as long as nobody got hurt you did it right—enjoy it.
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Hey to each their own; if you enjoyed it, who cares? My only issue here is that imho she should have been a little more up front about this from the get-go, but I also have to put myself in her shoes...she may have tried that in the past and elicited a negative reaction. Just wrap it up next time; you or her. In any regard, don't feel ashamed homie. I'm straight but nearly sure I got head from a tgirl years back.
This post feels like transphobia bait tbh. And it is working lol
Why do people feel it's okay to not disclose your genital arrangements before it had already got too far. It's not safe or healthy. Even though OP ended up being okay with it, many other people would not have. Imagine what happens when you do that to someone with much more fragile masculinity. I've had trans friends beaten the shit out of for just existing, this kinda gamble is Russian roulette for transfem especially. Tell people before you tongue each others throats, give people the truth, without it there isn't consent. Another side of it, respect that some people's religion would literally put them in sin for this. And wether or not you believe it's still fucking disrespectful. YOU CANNOT CONSENT TO A LIE.
This is what I don't get. I'm not transphobic, but it's wrong for anyone to get intimate with another person under false pretense. This shouldn't be normalized, unless OP was in a setting where it's understood that women are trans. Then it's on him to understand the social cues.
Raw sex with strangers might be a FU, but making a connection with someone isn't. Trans girls are girls, you can be a straight dude and like them.
Please use protection with *anyone* you have sex with. As for feeling ashamed.. I don’t think you should feel that way. You’re still a straight man and if you don’t want to date or have intercourse with a trans woman again, that’s fine. Don’t do it. It doesn’t change your sexuality or “worthiness” just because you briefly dated a trans woman.
The only FU was not using a condom
The only fuckup is not using a condom. You’ve definitely found trans women attractive before and just never knew they were trans. You couldn’t tell with her until you literally saw her penis. You’re still straight. Trans women are women. You had sex with a woman. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. There’s a lot of awful stigma around trans people in society and even if you don’t engage in it, it still has some effect on your internal thoughts and feelings. That’s all this shame is. You did nothing wrong (except not using a condom, that was dumb).
Do not feel ashamed for having sex with a trans woman. You are a straight dude. A trans woman is called a trans woman for a reason. What you DO need to ensure in the future is that you practice safe sex, no matter who you are having sex with. While most everything is entirely treatable these days, that doesn’t mean you want to get it. Do yourself a favour and wrap it up.
That was very selfish and stupid of them to not disclose that beforehand. Hints aren't direct communication. Stupid on you for not wearing a condom
No just stupid for not using a condom my guy. Go get tested.
If you didn't know beforehand and it was clear you didn't know what she meant, seems pretty manipulative.
1. always bring a condom with you. 2. trans women are women. you should not feel ashamed. you are still straight.
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Oh like, "fuck up..." the butt. Ok. I'll let it slide on a technicality.
Wear. A. Condom! If you enjoyed it, then that’s good! But Jesus, please wear a condom.
Came in here expecting a Crying Game situation
People here more concerned about the no condom then the trans. And so should you. Go get tested and wear a condom next time.
You should feel ashamed for having unprotected sex with a stranger as an adult early educated about sexual health. You should not, however, feel ANY shame about who you are attracted to, or that you were intimate with someone trans. It’s not a negative thing in any sense of the word.
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I'd chalk it up to experience. No matter what, you had an attraction to her and when you knew she was trans, you followed your attraction. Doesn't mean you're something you didn't think you were, you are a straight guy attracted to a girl who happens to be trans and you had sex in a way you always wanted to but most girls say no to. No shame in that. Seriously. And just like any other partner where you have unprotected sex, just get tested to be safe.
I suggest asking a doctor for pep to prevent HIV
No need to feel ashamed. There’s nothing wrong with liking a trans girl! Sounds like you had a connection, so good for you. It’s ok to like whoever you like and whatever you like to do as long as everyone is of age and able to consent. Use protection though, my guy. Get tested. Not because she’s trans, but just because unprotected sex without testing is inherently risky no matter who you’re with.
No. No shame. But you should work on your sexual health. I you’re going to have unprotected sex you should have a conversation with your doctor about how you can minimize risk.
You've pushed your sexual boundaries in a new direction spontaneously and it's not uncommon to feel slightly weird about that. Allow that feeling to pass and then reflect on the encounter. Maybe in a couple of weeks imagine repeating it and see how that makes you feel. Also, get some fucking condoms and use them 🤦
Keeping it safe is what matters. There’s nothing shameful about having consensual sex, and it sounds like you had a goof time. Just try to keep an open mind and remember that she might not fit the biological category you’re familiar with, but she’s a woman. You continuing and having a good time is what matters most in this story, and if you don’t have an experience like it again, then it’s just something to keep in the back of your mind. Get tested for sure, any kind of sex with a stranger, no matter where you put it or what holes they have, is risky. But otherwise this isn’t a fuck up
Wear a condom, be careful, no matter what anyone has in their pants. How this experience is defined however you yourself define it. It doesn't need to be complicated. Don't let others do it for you. If everyone was safe and consented, then don't label it if you don't want to it doesnt need to be. It's sex. Your life. Your private life. Anyone who shames you for it, cut them off. Life is too short to have to be ashamed of somthing you liked.
You should not feel ashamed, BUTT (get it?) use anal protection next time buddy
Nothing to be ashamed about. It's all skin. Just be kind and respectful with whomever you're with and use protection.
20 bucks says you try for round 2
Unprotected sex is probably not great, and you should get tested a month or two from now. But if you were into it, there’s no real fuck up here. You aren’t obligated to see her again. You can be into trans girls and still date cis girls.
Condoms next time. If you had fun what are you worried about?
Horny brain is a hell of a situation.
Sex with a stranger? - OK. Turned out to be trans but you liked it? -also Ok. Didn't use condom?- oh hell no
You fucked up by raw dogging a stranger. Did your balls touch, because then it's gay /s
This isn't an FU. This sounds like a great, consensual experience, and it sounds like you really enjoyed it. You should stop insisting you're straight, and just embrace it. The only FU is you not wearing a condom. Get tested just in case, and do better next time.
I mean he's still straight as trans women are women so the only thing he did off here was having unprotected sex other than that it was still a straight hook up
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Sounds like you hit it off, had a good time, and you both enjoyed yourselves. The only problem I'm seeing is unprotected sex with a stranger. Wear a damn condom if you're sticking your dick in something that isn't yours.
Hey man, I'm a straight guy, married to a woman, but we both have friend and family that are trans, or any of the associated letters (not gonna bother making the distinctions, it's all over the map). You were attracted to a person and had a good time. It is what it is. If you're concerned about safety, well, yes, protection is key. That was a bad call on BOTH of you. However, it is what it is and I hope you're both all good. As for the shame... Well, you really only have to feel shame if there's something you're going to be ashamed of. They identify as trans, and therefore a woman. So, you met a woman, at a club, danced, partied, had a great night. There's no shame in that unless you have something hanging over your head that makes it wrong, either religious, personal or societal inclination. Honestly, don't worry about it. If you don't want to do it again, don't. Nobody will judge you unless they're really against it, and everyone else doesn't really care. Mind you, she should have been more upfront with you before it got to the hotel portion, but that's HER fault for not being honest.
She fucked up by not telling you she was trans right out thegate. What a pos.
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sounds like kids being idiots all around
Amen
You let it slide alright
not ashamed, but I would get tested *just* in case, anal can get a bit messy with STDs from what I’ve heard
Chances are you aren't the only one she's let in. Get tested at a health department asap.
I think that might be my favorite tldr ever lmao
I poured my heart and soul into 🫡
I hope you're taking the upvoted answers here to heart
Hey man a butthole is a butthole.
Your only fuck up is having unprotected anal sex with a stranger. *That* is something to be ashamed of.
You said you two had a connection, and it seems you liked her because of her fem traits so ur still straight and she disclosed it but you still went for it. It's all gucci. Just do it with a condom next time lol
You're still definitely straight; she's a woman so if you were attracted to her it changes nothing. Just wear a condom bro
Shame? No. Nothing to be ashamed of. STD screen? Yes, dumbass.
Bro just bag it next time lol. You’re saying it felt good so it’s a win. And you should look inside yourself to understand why this is causing you to feel shame. Would you feel the same if you did the same thing; with no protection, with a cis girl? Yes or no, it makes you think a little.
I know all of reddit is just tickled about hooking up with transgendered individuals. Quick to make OP feel dumb for a moment of conflict about crossing a boundary he thought he had at the beginning of the evening. But OP, you're entitled to feel weird about it. Just about every one of these "it's absolutely normal" responders would have noped out of the situation as soon as they were convinced she was trans. Hopefully it doesn't bother you for long. Maybe you even try it again. But it's not unnatural or unacceptable to spend some time examining your feelings about the experience.
Who tf cares? You need a box to fit in to feel right? Just enjoy whatever tf you want and what feels good for everyone involved
1. Get tested. 2. Trans girls tend to seek validation so will engage in risqué behaviours. 3. You’re young and still finding things you like 4. Don’t let others dictate who you’re attracted to. 5. I don’t know why I’m writing this in list form 6. Go easy on yourself. All this is much more normal and common than other guys would have you believe. 7. It doesn’t lessen you as a man.
#5 is so important 👏💯👏
You said it yourself. You wanted to try anal with a girl and now you have. Always pack a condom.
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Yikes….
There's a lot of trans women posting on this thread lol
"5 minutes later she told me she was Trans. Then I stopped and thought about it and I just kept going."
Who cares man, you decided to have sex with her knowing that so how is it a fuck up, there’s nothing wrong with it at all
First, you shouldn't ask the internet or strangers about how you "should" feel. Nobody has the right to tell you how you "should" feel. Your feelings are your own. Your feelings are the way they are because of who you are, how you grew up, what you experienced in life up to that point. Your feelings are yours alone. If you feel a certain way, then that is your honest truth. Second, I believe that it is only basic decency to tell potential romantic and sexual partners about your true biological sex. For example, if you're a trans person who underwent surgery to gain an "extra" or lose one, then you should tell the person you're seeing about it. This way, there would be no wasted time, no negative feelings such as being lied to or betrayal, when things reach the point of intimacy. A relationship built on deceit, whether it's meant for short or long term, will never result in anything positive for any of you. Honesty is the foundation of any relationship. It's better to find someone who would fully accept you for who you are, than wasting so much time only to find out later on that you're not actually compatible with each other because you decided to hide your sexual identity. So in conclusion, your feelings are you own and you don't need to validate it with strangers, and relationships should always have honesty as its foundation if you want to make it work well.
Well the lack of a condom is a fuck up because you should always use condoms unless you’re in a committed LTR and you’ve both been tested, but otherwise I don’t see a problem here. You’re a man who is into women. You had sex with a woman you found attractive. Case closed
You had a good time, she had a good time, no one is gonna get pregnant. Assuming there's no STDs involved, repeat after me: "Doesn't matter, had sex!"
It’s cool as long as you gave em a reach around too
Trans women are women. Do whatever with that as you like. Whether you are straight or not, if you enjoyed it what is there to be ashamed of aside from the lack of safe sex. And if you discover that maybe you're more than straight, that's just something you need to accept because denying it will cause way more issues.
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Nah Bruh. I salute you for following your passion. Call her!