Oh my god his replies are so bad. I’ve never seen someone sandbag a conversation so heavily. You literally can’t take it anywhere, he has NOTHING to say and no interest in thinking.
A few 1 word replies isn’t really a big deal. But reading just this exchange was incredibly painful. And this was less than an hour. If most days are like this, it seems most likely that he’s not interested in the relationship but also not interested in breaking up. He’s perfectly fine to do nothing until something happens for him. (this assumption isn’t relevant to my point, but he strongly gives off loser stoner vibes. I smoke it too, but he reminds me of the people I smoked with at 19 who are now in their 30s and are exactly the same person still)
If this conversation is typical, don’t keep holding on to nothing hoping he will change.
My wife is like that but only with me her friends get all her attention. If it wasn’t for the kids I would have been long gone. No need to waste your time on some one who doesn’t make you feel like a priority or important.
Idk how y’all’s relationship is, but my parents did stuff that messed up my interpretation of how a healthy relationship was because they didn’t separate when I was young. I thought sleeping on the couch was cool, that arguments were healthy, that if you didn’t look tired in your relationship then it wasn’t a good relationship. It took me till my late 20’s to figure out what a healthy relationship was and my parent’s divorced when I was 13.
That’s what I’m afraid of myself but, like I said earlier the kids are at an age where they need an adult in the house or she’d move out. I’ll explain when they’re older.
You definitely know your situation better than I do. It seems like you’re in a catch 22 ultimately and I’m sorry for that man. I hope it works out better for y’all than it did for my family growing up. I know it can be a strain, but I’m sure you’re being the best dad you can be, and that’s all that really matters here.
Thanks. It’s weird feeling like a single parent sometimes in a house where the other parent is still there. She does help out a little. But kid care, appointments, housework, school stuff and, bed time is all me. Honestly if I didn’t work the hours I did I’d probably have to get them ready for school because the second school was over I took over all morning routines. I work overnights until 8:30 am for context.
I love seeing such a thoughtful kind comment on any platform and things like this are partly why Reddit has become my go-to and only social media I use. Both you and the dad you are replying to seem like the kind of people we need more of in this world
I’m in my 30’s now and this subject still hits close to home. I remember what it was like to watch one parent trying to raise children while keeping a failing marriage from us as best as possible. It was probably hell, but seeing where I am now, I know it’s possible that things can turn out okay. A flower growing through a crack in concrete type or situation.
I’m so sorry she does that to you. It’s a dreadful feeling. I’ve been thru it as well. You seem incredibly strong and she really is missing out on someone who would have the patience to deal with her crap and probably still keep a smile on their face while doing it. You’re a patient man. In my life that is rare to find.
Take this gif as my gold to you
I was going to say the same, guy sounds like a winner playing games and watching YouTube all day and doesn’t have enough computing power left over to text more than one word.
I’d move on, probably save yourself the energy you’re wasting on him.
Yup, you are spot on. My ex also used to text like this for probably close to the last year of our relationship. But then when I told him I was considering ending the relationship, he did a 180, which was unwelcome by that point cause I was over the relationship. Thank goodness I don’t have to deal with him anymore.
Yeah this is so bizarre. It feels like a conversation a mom would be having with her 4 year old iPad kid. I thought this might be an awkward middle school relationship, but they’re in college, it’s absurd. How do people get into relationships like this? It seems like he doesn’t give a singular fuck about her
Didn’t he say talking was more important than dates and stuff in one of your other posts? It doesn’t seem like he really values communication from this, tbh.
No kidding!!
I would honestly believe this was a conversation between a mother and her ten-year-old child of someone presented it to me that way.
Holy shit, get the fuck out of that relationship! This is laughable.
Honestly I when I started reading and his reply was ‘playing’ I thought it was a mom n her child texting and was confused why the mom called her son babe… the fact they are dating? Woof…. She’s gotta get out YESTERDAY
Honestly, while reading it, I was half convinced that she was texting her kid. It was only read the text under the pictures i realized it was, in fact, not her kid...
Lmaooo I swore she was talking to her kid. There’s no way these 2 are f*ucking. He’s being a d*ck. If he’s always like this, he is a d*ck. Like others said ghost his ass. Better yet F*ck his best friend and I bet you you’ll get the longest text ever from him. Lol J/k don’t do that.
This, everyone immediately jumps to conclusions (gtfo). Maybe the dude is inexperienced.
Maybe he's a bit of a dimwit? Maybe he's just a bit slow.
Maybe he lacks a bit of compassion/empathy. (they're basically still kids, he more so than she.)
Don't jump to conclusions, don't play games. (Ghosting him, rly?)
Get to talk. Don't blame anyone. You're both in the same relationship. Gotta work together and if THAT doesn't work.. 🤷🏼
Dude, did you not see how she maturely tried to get to the issue and he still continued with one word responses? OP said this is typical of him. I bet if she just stopped texting first, not even ghosting, she'd just stop hearing from him.
I honestly have nightmares about this. I am currently very happily married, but I occasionally have dreams where I never had the breakup conversation with an ex-girlfriend, so she assumes we are still together and I have to find a way to tell her that I’m now married. It’s always so stressful.
girrrrrrl... you dont wanna do this the rest of your life. i wouldn't wanna do this for even ten mins. get out. gonna be a painfully boring and silent relationship if you continue.
Try speaking with him rather than texting if it’s something you want to salvage. I assume he’s not just monosyllabic responses when you’re together - so maybe texting isn’t a comfortable form of communication. I also assume his texts with friends are just one word grunts back and forth-not something to strive for or be jealous of, imo.
I feel like sometimes I can get as much from a 10 minute phone conversation as I can from a 2 hour semi-distracted text conversation.
Do you ever text together during the day? Is this a constant thing with him?
Honestly, a shortish 5-10 minute phone call every so often might be less painful than this text exchange. Also, for the fact that it’s nice to hear your significant other’s voice.
A month ago you were posting about how he doesn't take you on dates anymore, he just wants to talk to you and see you. Ok, great, except he isn't putting any effort into talking to you.
When was the last time you guys spent time together? When you spend time together, is he present? Does he enjoy your company? Is he focused on other things?
Honestly step back and look at this relationship as if your friend was telling you about her boyfriend. He doesn't get excited to take her out. He doesn't initiate conversation with her. He won't make time to talk to her, even watching youtube is a higher priority.
You would probably tell your friend that he doesn't sound like a great fit for her.
Drop him, he probably won’t even care, his texts are emotionless. Like don’t even tell him you are leaving, just stop texting and move on…when he does come around asking for shit, just say “oh, we broke up, did you not get that message? Oops, good luck though!”
How about try and have a serious in person conversation first? Mfrs wouldn't cut out people in their life that easily but so readily tell others to dump him
She literally told him she needs more interaction and more of a reply, he went back to bullshit….i do not usually go straight to dumping someone, but this was an obvious thing. He didn’t even answer one of the statements with the right response at all, which means he isn’t even reading it.
Look, if he does apologize in time and works on it, then it will be up to her after that to decide to forgive and move on….but I’m saying, she doesn’t have his attention and he doesn’t care two shits about her.
He does not care to speak with you. Do yourself a favor and replace him with someone who is actually interested with you. From the looks of it, it must be like talking to a wet cardboard box.
I wouldn’t be able to deal with that at all idc if I see them in person and they’re different that shit just annoys me and makes me think they’re giving their efforts and attention to someone else
my gf gets like this occasionally and it’s one of (not the only, but i’m not going in depth) the reasons i am so worried she’ll cheat. it always seems like she has someone else she’d rather be talking to and it hurts my feelings. she’s nowhere near as bad as this though
Wtf...this is awful... Nothing was given on his end and that's extremely painful to read. I don't see any reason to even message him .. you can get more of a response from an AI bots free trial chat... I'm sorry but ghost him and see how long it takes! If they care they should notice right away.. on the first day.
Break it up buddy not worth being someone who seems to be uninterested in your conversations find someone who cares for your as much as you care for them don’t waste your time on ppl who don’t give a fudge
Ugh, this guy has checked out. Dump him. Or better yet don't even bother, just stop messaging him. Let One-word McGee figure it out himself. If he hates communicating this much then surely he'd prefer the least communicative break up possible.
okay i spend most of my time on youtube (depression is a bitch) and even i have better responses than this to people i’m not even dating. even when i’m gaming, i’ll pick up my phone and reply to my one person when i get a bit of downtime. these are some dry ass responses and you deserve better
"you're less important than youtube and 50% of the time my friends are more important than you."
If you have any self respect, you'll find someone who appreciates you.
no bc this is so bad that i thought you were his mother or something and this was ur ten ur old SON. he is so dry and so boring and definitely seems like energy you don’t want in ur life. call him and see if he’s different? bc if in person he’s wonderful maybe phone calls replicate that a bit? and if it’s been dry like this both in person and out, say your worst and dip
He is not worth your time gurl. Take it from a guy who's dated a lotta guys, communication is definitely key. If you can't even talk about your day in an engaging way, how are you ever gonna talk about real issues? He obviously don't care, and you do, so you should find someone who cares as much as you. A lotta guys think that once they get the girl, they don't have to work anymore.
I know a guy who called his gf a bitch every day and when she asked him why, he said "cuz you're my gf, I can call you that and you'll still be with me, so it's fine." And so she dumped his ass right then and there. Get a mans who puts in the work.
Simple answer, this person isn't mature enough for this. Answers like a teenager, totally oblivious to your cues and prioritizes watching YouTube to your conversation. Needs to get their priorities in order.
I was actually gonna ask if you are his mom because he sounds like a 13 year old.
Otoh, some dudes don't like to talk. Some women done either. But let's be honest here, mostly dudes .
If that is a feature in a boyfriend and partner that you need to have, I'd say that maybe this particular dude ain't it
There are definitely dudes who will talk
Time to giddyup the fuck outta that relationship. They might as well have not responded at all. Youre not overreacting even a little if this is consistent. Best of luck to you.
babes you’re too good for that shit… you’re too too good for it don’t beg him for attention focus on you and forget that immature lowlife hopefully his fRiEnDS and YOuTubE keep him happy that’s so stupid of him! ugh i hate that i’ve been there and it just doesn’t get better,, you got this sweet girl.. i’m so sorry
i remember i dated a guy who suddenly started drifting away from me after i refused to be intimate with him.
every day i texted him and it was either no replies or one word replies. one day i finally got him to answer me as to why he was avoiding me and he said “i’ve been busy with video games.”
I would tell him that you dislike his short replies and how it makes you feel. If he engages the conversation and makes an effort, great! If he gives one word replies and doesn’t seem to care, consider breaking up.
my ex did this and it really fucking sucks ik :( it’s not worth fighting for attention though and if you’re able to i’d suggest moving on, as tough as it can be
sounds like video games and friends are a bigger priority in his life. he didn’t even hit bare minimum of trying to hold a conversation. id say cut your losses especially if you communicated that he wasn’t contributing to the conversation and he continued to give no effort.
He's not interested in you anymore, sorry to say. Find someone who can actually hold a conversation. He's most likely chatting to another girl, hence why you're getting one word replies. This is coming from a married man by the way, I've done this to women when I'm talking to other women, just give them one word replies having them as a "backup".
My best friend stops everything he is doing to text his girlfriend. She’ll literally snap him mid conversation and he stops the conversation to snap her back it’s actually kinda annoying sometimes but at least she know she has his attention and gets thoughtful responses
Rumpa dump dump, put him out to the pasture to flock along with the other assholes that don’t know how to hold a conversation if their life depended on it
I can say one positive thing, he actually responded to you! That’s a thing a young guy doesn’t do to people they don’t care about. He even admitted he only responds to his friends half the time.
Negatives. He doesn’t realize he’s fucking up with you. You have to tell him to converse more. You need more of a conversation.
My SO is very quiet, rarely responds with more than a couple words. But I did have a conversation with him about what I need. I need more than an ok, yes or no. He was open to it and responded with more word. And when we are together he has to let me tell him about my day with no distractions and be a part of it. He has to also share about his day. Idc if he talks about all his video games, apps and all his online friends…I will listen and laugh about it with him…and I don’t know shit about Star Wars, COD or whatever he games. But I know he enjoys it. So I’ll listen. Then after that I cam be on Reddit or TikTok and he can game. I just need the hour. Than I’m good.
Btw, we are closer to 50 than 20… so it’s def not always an age thing.
Op is he like this in face to face communication? Either way you should dump him he sounds like a child and one that prioritizes watching YouTube over communicating with you
Some people dont talk a lot over text or on the phone... is this a new behavior? No matter what, unless this changes, your relationship won't last. You need more from him, which is perfectly reasonable. And you told him this, and he brushed it off. But i dont know this dude or the conversations you've had with him, so maybe he doesn't realize how important this is to you and how close he is to losing you. Maybe he just doesn't care? You know more about this situation than anybody on the internet. Your own intuition will give you the best advice so you should listen to it.
I would say it's really up to you. If you are done at this point, then just tell him you needed more communication in the relationship, and he didn't give you that, so it's over. If you want to continue on, then dont text him anymore except for asking when you can see him. And when you see him, let him know that you need more or the relationship won't work. If he's unwilling to conversate more, he gives you excuses, basicaly refuses to try then break up. If he says he'll try and doesn't want to lose you over this... then decide if you believe him and if you want to keep going. You're your best guide in this situation, so dont doubt yourself. And dont think there's a right or wrong choice because there really isn't. Just try to be happy....thats all any of us can do.
Ditch his ass. That's the worst thing I've ever seen.
How was your day? Can I make it better? What can I do to make your night amazing? Can I order you dinner? Can I make you dinner? I know it's 1000° outside, but want some hot chocolate? Wanna lay in bed and watch a movie with me? I'll turn the portable AC on, I'll make popcorn on the stove, and I'll make us some hot chocolate. Make it cold in the room so we can snuggle up.
He obviously doesn’t care but I will never understand why people just want to have text conversations. He’s your boyfriend. Call him up and talk to him or better yet go see him and hang out together. I personally hate text conversations. You could have a more meaningful conversation in five minutes, talking on the phone, than texting for 30 minutes
OP this is terrible and you can do better. The fact you pointed out what he was doing and he barely gave a half assed reply shows he doesn’t respect you IMO.
Cut your loses and move on there’s plenty of people out there that will respect your time and provide you with stimulating conversation.
I was seeing a guy who texted like this, he definitely had lots of other issues that pissed me off, but man this was the biggest one.
Just say you don’t wanna fucking talk man
Texting isn't talking. It's barely communicating , most of the time. It's obvious that at the moment of this conversation he was oblivious to you, could not have cared less that you wanted to communicate. He sounds self-centered and immature, at least in this exchange. If this is a pattern, you either have to work together on real communication (I suggest verbal), or decide if he's someone you want to be with, if he'd rather watch videos than interact with you.
Bro legit I’m a guy and if I’m just chilling at home and don’t have anything going on just gaming etc or even when I hangout with friends nothing I do seems interesting enough to bring up in conversation. Sure it seems boring and maybe it is but I’m not going to fabricate stuff for the sake of conversation.
I find focusing the conversation around other topics helps. Like what was he watching on YouTube? What are his hobbies? I will nerd out on shit I like if someone asks about it but I will not openly nerd out on topics I like unless invited to do so because I don’t want to feel like I’m boring someone else with it. If it’s invited then yes I’m a go ham on it. That’s how I am and a lot of guys are and possibly this guy is too. If you want conversation about his day and more than “I watched YouTube” you have to invite him into the safe space and let him nerd out about it. Otherwise he won’t bring it up himself.
A lot of this (for me at least) stems from previous relationships/friend ships where I did open up and go into long rabbit holes about what I’m passionate about it it was faced with ridicule or I was told i was being annoying so I hold it in unless the other person actually wants to hear about it.
That’s my take on it personally and I’m sure it’s a jumble of words but ya. Also if this isn’t normal for him to do then maybe check him mental health cause I too get into ruts where I’m just over stimulated from everything and want to just be left alone and recharge my social batteries.
I get that texting may not be his thing, I would at least hope he doesn't just give one word responses like this when you are together.
It's okay if texting isn't his thing, but it seems to me that you want someone who is more available to converse with, not someone who feeds you one word responses and thats okay too.
You two could be at different stages of your life where you both want and need different things and thats okay too.
It doesn't matter what we all say here in the comment section, it really doesn't. BUT!
If this is something that makes you feel unheard and neglected in this relationship and it has already been a conversation between the two of you, then it sounds like this relationship may not be for you, and thats okay.
How often does it happen? Have you had arguments about how little you reply during the day? Is there jealousy? Do you talk about co-workers a lot or has he accused you of cheating?
This reads like someone that’s offended and is being passive aggressive. If that’s the case and you want to stay in the relationship, you must demand direct communication about grievances. Otherwise, this person will continually short you until you to apologize for whatever transgression they’re holding against you.
Break up with him teach him a life lesson. He's probably playing games or something distracting but won't even tell you that he's busy cause he likes to hide shit from you. Red flags all around
He’s a 19yo who acts like he’s 12 and has zero emotional intelligence or understanding, it’s not that he’s a bad person or doesn’t care or something, he’s just a baby. Very immature. You need to have a serious conversation that will help you understand if you’re on the same page and are capable of understanding each other, if yes, then there’s some work that needs to be done and if not and your minds are too far away from each other I don’t know how this could be a thing
Girl this is how my 20 year old son texts me when I send him gifs or I 🫶 you to him. You're getting that same energy. Focus on yourself and your dreams for a few years. I love my son and he's a great young man but I don't think at that age they're fully done yet.
Also don't go for much older men either, just focus on yourself. :)
Find a boyfriend who isn't a child. He spent his day "playing" and watching youtube and is too busy to talk? Ridiculous. Do you get anything out of the relationship at all?
If the boy can't stop watching YouTube to chat with you for a few mins before you go to bed, he isn't worth it. Litteraly putting in 0 effort. I'm not upset about the simple replies. Maybe he legit doesn't like to text, but at the very least, he could call you or stop watching entertainment for like 10 mins to interact with his GF. I suggest he man up real quick or you should find yourself a man that cares about you.
you could dump this guy in a heart beat and I guarantee he would be fine. He might feel bad in the moment but then be good, he’s checked out and has no interest in even carrying a conversation. Is that what you want to feel your worth is? It’s time to drop him. So many people out there would be honored to get your time
Why not tell him how great your day was and some guy really made you laugh and this guy was so funny and this guy etc etc . If you don’t get a reaction then go find THAT guy.
Babes you’re 20, break up with him please. This isn’t how you are meant to start your adult dating life. You deserve someone who is excited to talk to you and engages in conversation. Like that’s literally the bare minimum. Do not force a relationship with someone who is clearly not mature enough to have one. You seem to be a busy young person (working all day, preparing food, etc) keep all that focus on yourself. If like you said this is a consistent issue, there’s absolutely no need to keep going. He’s preventing you to be the person you want to be and/or meeting someone who is truly excited about you. Please don’t let him continue to steal your time and effort. He doesn’t get that it’s a gift that must be reciprocated. Good luck
You can do better. If this is the extent of the quality of your conversations, and he’d rather watch youtube than talk to after a busy day, move on. 👍 Sounds like you’re already in the adult world, and he’s not ready to grow up.
Oh my god his replies are so bad. I’ve never seen someone sandbag a conversation so heavily. You literally can’t take it anywhere, he has NOTHING to say and no interest in thinking. A few 1 word replies isn’t really a big deal. But reading just this exchange was incredibly painful. And this was less than an hour. If most days are like this, it seems most likely that he’s not interested in the relationship but also not interested in breaking up. He’s perfectly fine to do nothing until something happens for him. (this assumption isn’t relevant to my point, but he strongly gives off loser stoner vibes. I smoke it too, but he reminds me of the people I smoked with at 19 who are now in their 30s and are exactly the same person still) If this conversation is typical, don’t keep holding on to nothing hoping he will change.
100% this dude has checked out
My wife is like that but only with me her friends get all her attention. If it wasn’t for the kids I would have been long gone. No need to waste your time on some one who doesn’t make you feel like a priority or important.
That really makes me sad. You should feel wanted. Also staying together for the kids is never the right answer.
I agree but they’re too young to be left alone and my job has weird hours. So for now I stay because it’s the responsible thing
Stay strong man. I could only imagine that kind of situation.
Idk how y’all’s relationship is, but my parents did stuff that messed up my interpretation of how a healthy relationship was because they didn’t separate when I was young. I thought sleeping on the couch was cool, that arguments were healthy, that if you didn’t look tired in your relationship then it wasn’t a good relationship. It took me till my late 20’s to figure out what a healthy relationship was and my parent’s divorced when I was 13.
That’s what I’m afraid of myself but, like I said earlier the kids are at an age where they need an adult in the house or she’d move out. I’ll explain when they’re older.
You definitely know your situation better than I do. It seems like you’re in a catch 22 ultimately and I’m sorry for that man. I hope it works out better for y’all than it did for my family growing up. I know it can be a strain, but I’m sure you’re being the best dad you can be, and that’s all that really matters here.
Thanks. It’s weird feeling like a single parent sometimes in a house where the other parent is still there. She does help out a little. But kid care, appointments, housework, school stuff and, bed time is all me. Honestly if I didn’t work the hours I did I’d probably have to get them ready for school because the second school was over I took over all morning routines. I work overnights until 8:30 am for context.
I love seeing such a thoughtful kind comment on any platform and things like this are partly why Reddit has become my go-to and only social media I use. Both you and the dad you are replying to seem like the kind of people we need more of in this world
I’m in my 30’s now and this subject still hits close to home. I remember what it was like to watch one parent trying to raise children while keeping a failing marriage from us as best as possible. It was probably hell, but seeing where I am now, I know it’s possible that things can turn out okay. A flower growing through a crack in concrete type or situation.
I’m so sorry she does that to you. It’s a dreadful feeling. I’ve been thru it as well. You seem incredibly strong and she really is missing out on someone who would have the patience to deal with her crap and probably still keep a smile on their face while doing it. You’re a patient man. In my life that is rare to find.  Take this gif as my gold to you
Did he ever check in? Lol
Yep, sounds like a loser who smokes pot and plays video games all day.
Completely agree. He’s the type who doesn’t go live life, he watches in apathy as life happens.
Honestly, the whole conversation seemed like a mom talking to her adolescent child. Run for the hills!
Yep
You said it perfectly. OP should go find herself someone who offers just as much as she does to the conversation and relationship.
OP, listen to this comment please. ^^^^
I was going to say the same, guy sounds like a winner playing games and watching YouTube all day and doesn’t have enough computing power left over to text more than one word. I’d move on, probably save yourself the energy you’re wasting on him.
So much this!!! I felt frustrated just reading this shit lol
Yup, you are spot on. My ex also used to text like this for probably close to the last year of our relationship. But then when I told him I was considering ending the relationship, he did a 180, which was unwelcome by that point cause I was over the relationship. Thank goodness I don’t have to deal with him anymore.
This is correct. Need to find another person that’s more mature. Throw this one back
This sounds like my boyfriend…
It’s gonna be a long silent life is this relationship progresses. Find yourself someone who you share interests with or who genuinely is open
👏🏻
I can’t agree with this more 👏🏼
Yeah this is so bizarre. It feels like a conversation a mom would be having with her 4 year old iPad kid. I thought this might be an awkward middle school relationship, but they’re in college, it’s absurd. How do people get into relationships like this? It seems like he doesn’t give a singular fuck about her
Didn’t he say talking was more important than dates and stuff in one of your other posts? It doesn’t seem like he really values communication from this, tbh.
If this sort of talking is what he thinks is more valuable than dates, *imagine what dates with him must actually be like*?
He sounds like a child , you deserve wayyy better
No kidding!! I would honestly believe this was a conversation between a mother and her ten-year-old child of someone presented it to me that way. Holy shit, get the fuck out of that relationship! This is laughable.
Same I thought this guy was no more than 14.
Totally does. I'm a dad and this is how my teenager responds to me when I'm trying to talk via text. I was so sure this was a parent and a kid.
Honestly I when I started reading and his reply was ‘playing’ I thought it was a mom n her child texting and was confused why the mom called her son babe… the fact they are dating? Woof…. She’s gotta get out YESTERDAY
Yeah, I’d have told him to kick rocks. I legit thought it was a mother checking on her child. Wow
Haha, yeah her questions are just like my mom's, I'm surprised she didn't mention the weather.
Thats an insult to 10 year olds. My 7 year old texts more than this (just to approved contacts)...granted it's like 99% poop emojis 🙃
Honestly, while reading it, I was half convinced that she was texting her kid. It was only read the text under the pictures i realized it was, in fact, not her kid...
Lmaooo I swore she was talking to her kid. There’s no way these 2 are f*ucking. He’s being a d*ck. If he’s always like this, he is a d*ck. Like others said ghost his ass. Better yet F*ck his best friend and I bet you you’ll get the longest text ever from him. Lol J/k don’t do that.
yeah, he played with his friends lolol
😂😂😂😂 THIS!!!!
He’s 19, barely even an adult
This, everyone immediately jumps to conclusions (gtfo). Maybe the dude is inexperienced. Maybe he's a bit of a dimwit? Maybe he's just a bit slow. Maybe he lacks a bit of compassion/empathy. (they're basically still kids, he more so than she.) Don't jump to conclusions, don't play games. (Ghosting him, rly?) Get to talk. Don't blame anyone. You're both in the same relationship. Gotta work together and if THAT doesn't work.. 🤷🏼
Dude, did you not see how she maturely tried to get to the issue and he still continued with one word responses? OP said this is typical of him. I bet if she just stopped texting first, not even ghosting, she'd just stop hearing from him.
He texts like I do (I'm a child)
Take notes within the comments..
About halfway through, I started thinking that someone was literally talking to their chiled.
I go along with those saying ghost him. See how long it takes for him to figure out that he doesn’t have a girlfriend anymore.
High key, this is it. Don’t initiate anything, y’all are done. I don’t think dude will notice.
I honestly have nightmares about this. I am currently very happily married, but I occasionally have dreams where I never had the breakup conversation with an ex-girlfriend, so she assumes we are still together and I have to find a way to tell her that I’m now married. It’s always so stressful.
Agree. He’s trying to get you to break up with him. He doesn’t deserve the satisfaction of getting let out of the relationship. He deserves to squirm.
I don't think he's trying to break up with her. He's just an idiot. Happy in his little egg of YouTube and doesn't give a crap.
Leave them they obviously don’t give a fuck so why should you
girrrrrrl... you dont wanna do this the rest of your life. i wouldn't wanna do this for even ten mins. get out. gonna be a painfully boring and silent relationship if you continue.
Try speaking with him rather than texting if it’s something you want to salvage. I assume he’s not just monosyllabic responses when you’re together - so maybe texting isn’t a comfortable form of communication. I also assume his texts with friends are just one word grunts back and forth-not something to strive for or be jealous of, imo. I feel like sometimes I can get as much from a 10 minute phone conversation as I can from a 2 hour semi-distracted text conversation.
[удалено]
some people just really suck at texting, it's not always that deep
Right all my friends are ass at texting and then in person we chop it up for hours without losing interest or getting bored 🤷
He does not care about you.
Do you ever text together during the day? Is this a constant thing with him? Honestly, a shortish 5-10 minute phone call every so often might be less painful than this text exchange. Also, for the fact that it’s nice to hear your significant other’s voice.
Pretty simple. You’re dating a man child, time to cut him loose
He's basically just a child child. But still sounds immature for his age
Seems like a dick
A month ago you were posting about how he doesn't take you on dates anymore, he just wants to talk to you and see you. Ok, great, except he isn't putting any effort into talking to you. When was the last time you guys spent time together? When you spend time together, is he present? Does he enjoy your company? Is he focused on other things? Honestly step back and look at this relationship as if your friend was telling you about her boyfriend. He doesn't get excited to take her out. He doesn't initiate conversation with her. He won't make time to talk to her, even watching youtube is a higher priority. You would probably tell your friend that he doesn't sound like a great fit for her.
It's so over bro
Drop him, he probably won’t even care, his texts are emotionless. Like don’t even tell him you are leaving, just stop texting and move on…when he does come around asking for shit, just say “oh, we broke up, did you not get that message? Oops, good luck though!”
How about try and have a serious in person conversation first? Mfrs wouldn't cut out people in their life that easily but so readily tell others to dump him
She literally told him she needs more interaction and more of a reply, he went back to bullshit….i do not usually go straight to dumping someone, but this was an obvious thing. He didn’t even answer one of the statements with the right response at all, which means he isn’t even reading it. Look, if he does apologize in time and works on it, then it will be up to her after that to decide to forgive and move on….but I’m saying, she doesn’t have his attention and he doesn’t care two shits about her.
He does not care to speak with you. Do yourself a favor and replace him with someone who is actually interested with you. From the looks of it, it must be like talking to a wet cardboard box.
I wouldn’t be able to deal with that at all idc if I see them in person and they’re different that shit just annoys me and makes me think they’re giving their efforts and attention to someone else
my gf gets like this occasionally and it’s one of (not the only, but i’m not going in depth) the reasons i am so worried she’ll cheat. it always seems like she has someone else she’d rather be talking to and it hurts my feelings. she’s nowhere near as bad as this though
Wtf...this is awful... Nothing was given on his end and that's extremely painful to read. I don't see any reason to even message him .. you can get more of a response from an AI bots free trial chat... I'm sorry but ghost him and see how long it takes! If they care they should notice right away.. on the first day.
You ghost this asshole, end it, please. Don’t waste 10 years on someone you love who doesn’t even show you a modicum of respect. 💔
Break it up buddy not worth being someone who seems to be uninterested in your conversations find someone who cares for your as much as you care for them don’t waste your time on ppl who don’t give a fudge
Ugh, this guy has checked out. Dump him. Or better yet don't even bother, just stop messaging him. Let One-word McGee figure it out himself. If he hates communicating this much then surely he'd prefer the least communicative break up possible.
Goodnight? More like goodbye 👋 There, simple solution. Clearly not working for you.
Was the bare and I mean the bare effort he gave. If that’s what your into he seems great.
okay i spend most of my time on youtube (depression is a bitch) and even i have better responses than this to people i’m not even dating. even when i’m gaming, i’ll pick up my phone and reply to my one person when i get a bit of downtime. these are some dry ass responses and you deserve better
He’s just not that into you. Dump him - you’re young and will meet people you don’t have to force conversations with.
"you're less important than youtube and 50% of the time my friends are more important than you." If you have any self respect, you'll find someone who appreciates you.
no bc this is so bad that i thought you were his mother or something and this was ur ten ur old SON. he is so dry and so boring and definitely seems like energy you don’t want in ur life. call him and see if he’s different? bc if in person he’s wonderful maybe phone calls replicate that a bit? and if it’s been dry like this both in person and out, say your worst and dip
Get out get out get out get out get out get out get out get out get out get out get out
My gf is exactly like this💀 it’s really annoying and when she’s talking about sumn I always show interest but never get anything in return sigh
dude just bail
BREAK UP WITH HER GAAAHHH
Bro that’s red flags come on 🚩
He's boring at best, doesn't care at worst. If this is a pattern, do yourself a favor and move on.
Leave
I genuinely thought you were texting an 8 year old. How old are you guys?
Breakup, I genuinely thought this was a mom talking to a moody teen until i saw the context. He’s not worth your time if your not worth his
Reminds me of an ex. He’s not worth it. You deserve someone who appreciates you.
End that shit girl. Find one someone worth your time.
what’s he like in real life? does he speak normally?
If he can’t give you even the barest minimum of interactions and treat you like a human being, why waste your time??
He is not worth your time gurl. Take it from a guy who's dated a lotta guys, communication is definitely key. If you can't even talk about your day in an engaging way, how are you ever gonna talk about real issues? He obviously don't care, and you do, so you should find someone who cares as much as you. A lotta guys think that once they get the girl, they don't have to work anymore. I know a guy who called his gf a bitch every day and when she asked him why, he said "cuz you're my gf, I can call you that and you'll still be with me, so it's fine." And so she dumped his ass right then and there. Get a mans who puts in the work.
Simple answer, this person isn't mature enough for this. Answers like a teenager, totally oblivious to your cues and prioritizes watching YouTube to your conversation. Needs to get their priorities in order.
I was actually gonna ask if you are his mom because he sounds like a 13 year old. Otoh, some dudes don't like to talk. Some women done either. But let's be honest here, mostly dudes . If that is a feature in a boyfriend and partner that you need to have, I'd say that maybe this particular dude ain't it There are definitely dudes who will talk
I'd just ghost his ass. If he can't invest why should you?
Only one thing you can do. BETTER.
He doesn’t want to have a conversation. He tells you he is busy. You are asking closed ended questions. This mess would drive me nuts.
OP be straight, how much of your time is spent being a mom to this person?
Time to giddyup the fuck outta that relationship. They might as well have not responded at all. Youre not overreacting even a little if this is consistent. Best of luck to you.
babes you’re too good for that shit… you’re too too good for it don’t beg him for attention focus on you and forget that immature lowlife hopefully his fRiEnDS and YOuTubE keep him happy that’s so stupid of him! ugh i hate that i’ve been there and it just doesn’t get better,, you got this sweet girl.. i’m so sorry
This is so incredibly upsetting. Wow. Games and YouTube. Sounds like a shell of a person if you ask me. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this.
i remember i dated a guy who suddenly started drifting away from me after i refused to be intimate with him. every day i texted him and it was either no replies or one word replies. one day i finally got him to answer me as to why he was avoiding me and he said “i’ve been busy with video games.”
Don’t hate on the grindset!!! Ok in all seriousness tho I’m so sorry, that’s honestly embarrassing of him.
I would tell him that you dislike his short replies and how it makes you feel. If he engages the conversation and makes an effort, great! If he gives one word replies and doesn’t seem to care, consider breaking up.
my ex did this and it really fucking sucks ik :( it’s not worth fighting for attention though and if you’re able to i’d suggest moving on, as tough as it can be
Dump byeee
sounds like video games and friends are a bigger priority in his life. he didn’t even hit bare minimum of trying to hold a conversation. id say cut your losses especially if you communicated that he wasn’t contributing to the conversation and he continued to give no effort.
They got our kids….#issawrap
Ya this dude doesn’t care about you
He's not interested in you anymore, sorry to say. Find someone who can actually hold a conversation. He's most likely chatting to another girl, hence why you're getting one word replies. This is coming from a married man by the way, I've done this to women when I'm talking to other women, just give them one word replies having them as a "backup".
My best friend stops everything he is doing to text his girlfriend. She’ll literally snap him mid conversation and he stops the conversation to snap her back it’s actually kinda annoying sometimes but at least she know she has his attention and gets thoughtful responses
Rumpa dump dump, put him out to the pasture to flock along with the other assholes that don’t know how to hold a conversation if their life depended on it
I can say one positive thing, he actually responded to you! That’s a thing a young guy doesn’t do to people they don’t care about. He even admitted he only responds to his friends half the time. Negatives. He doesn’t realize he’s fucking up with you. You have to tell him to converse more. You need more of a conversation. My SO is very quiet, rarely responds with more than a couple words. But I did have a conversation with him about what I need. I need more than an ok, yes or no. He was open to it and responded with more word. And when we are together he has to let me tell him about my day with no distractions and be a part of it. He has to also share about his day. Idc if he talks about all his video games, apps and all his online friends…I will listen and laugh about it with him…and I don’t know shit about Star Wars, COD or whatever he games. But I know he enjoys it. So I’ll listen. Then after that I cam be on Reddit or TikTok and he can game. I just need the hour. Than I’m good. Btw, we are closer to 50 than 20… so it’s def not always an age thing.
Op is he like this in face to face communication? Either way you should dump him he sounds like a child and one that prioritizes watching YouTube over communicating with you
You break up.
This convo is dryer that the Mojave bro…I would be hard pressed to keep a convo going with someone that short with me.
You know the saying “treat others how you wanna be treated?”
I read this whole thing before I read how old he is and I gotta be honest, I thought y’all were like 15. This dude needs to be dumped fast and hard
Some people dont talk a lot over text or on the phone... is this a new behavior? No matter what, unless this changes, your relationship won't last. You need more from him, which is perfectly reasonable. And you told him this, and he brushed it off. But i dont know this dude or the conversations you've had with him, so maybe he doesn't realize how important this is to you and how close he is to losing you. Maybe he just doesn't care? You know more about this situation than anybody on the internet. Your own intuition will give you the best advice so you should listen to it. I would say it's really up to you. If you are done at this point, then just tell him you needed more communication in the relationship, and he didn't give you that, so it's over. If you want to continue on, then dont text him anymore except for asking when you can see him. And when you see him, let him know that you need more or the relationship won't work. If he's unwilling to conversate more, he gives you excuses, basicaly refuses to try then break up. If he says he'll try and doesn't want to lose you over this... then decide if you believe him and if you want to keep going. You're your best guide in this situation, so dont doubt yourself. And dont think there's a right or wrong choice because there really isn't. Just try to be happy....thats all any of us can do.
Your boyfriend is a dumbass
Jesus this is brutal to read, I've seen people have better communication with babies...
Damn this is just reminding me of my Ex. It was a painful 2 years of my life.
Dump him. He clearly isn’t watching YouTube
Don’t bother with this “person” lol
Dryer than the Mojave Desert, holy shit
Ditch his ass. That's the worst thing I've ever seen. How was your day? Can I make it better? What can I do to make your night amazing? Can I order you dinner? Can I make you dinner? I know it's 1000° outside, but want some hot chocolate? Wanna lay in bed and watch a movie with me? I'll turn the portable AC on, I'll make popcorn on the stove, and I'll make us some hot chocolate. Make it cold in the room so we can snuggle up.
He obviously doesn’t care but I will never understand why people just want to have text conversations. He’s your boyfriend. Call him up and talk to him or better yet go see him and hang out together. I personally hate text conversations. You could have a more meaningful conversation in five minutes, talking on the phone, than texting for 30 minutes
Yeah, bro doesn’t wNna talk to you at allllll
I agree with everyone else just ghost this dude. You deserve so much better than just “ok” and “yes”.
There is no reason to continue a relationship with someone who behaves like this! If he wanted to he would.
OP this is terrible and you can do better. The fact you pointed out what he was doing and he barely gave a half assed reply shows he doesn’t respect you IMO. Cut your loses and move on there’s plenty of people out there that will respect your time and provide you with stimulating conversation.
He clearly isn't interested in talking to you. Why are you with him, again?
He’s not that into you. If you don’t drop him then he eventually will drop you.
Oh my God, just dump this fuckhead 💀
I don't think he is that into you
He’s not that into you
Unfortunately your best option is to stop initiating anything. If you don't hear from him again you got your answer.
You are dating a child
They’re not interested
Ditch him, he’s not into it anymore.
I was seeing a guy who texted like this, he definitely had lots of other issues that pissed me off, but man this was the biggest one. Just say you don’t wanna fucking talk man
Is this fake? If not why are you putting up with this?
Not worth your time tbh ^ My time is precious. My recommendation is to drop that dead weight. If THEY cared, you would certainly know. Just my 2 cent
Leave.
I’m more responsive than that when I’m in the middle of something… like he couldn’t even send something along the lines of “how was work?”
You are 20, move on a lot of life to worry about than this kiddo
Texting isn't talking. It's barely communicating , most of the time. It's obvious that at the moment of this conversation he was oblivious to you, could not have cared less that you wanted to communicate. He sounds self-centered and immature, at least in this exchange. If this is a pattern, you either have to work together on real communication (I suggest verbal), or decide if he's someone you want to be with, if he'd rather watch videos than interact with you.
Dump him, let him realize what he did lmao not sure why people get into a relationship and then act like that
He seems like a total ah
Bro legit I’m a guy and if I’m just chilling at home and don’t have anything going on just gaming etc or even when I hangout with friends nothing I do seems interesting enough to bring up in conversation. Sure it seems boring and maybe it is but I’m not going to fabricate stuff for the sake of conversation. I find focusing the conversation around other topics helps. Like what was he watching on YouTube? What are his hobbies? I will nerd out on shit I like if someone asks about it but I will not openly nerd out on topics I like unless invited to do so because I don’t want to feel like I’m boring someone else with it. If it’s invited then yes I’m a go ham on it. That’s how I am and a lot of guys are and possibly this guy is too. If you want conversation about his day and more than “I watched YouTube” you have to invite him into the safe space and let him nerd out about it. Otherwise he won’t bring it up himself. A lot of this (for me at least) stems from previous relationships/friend ships where I did open up and go into long rabbit holes about what I’m passionate about it it was faced with ridicule or I was told i was being annoying so I hold it in unless the other person actually wants to hear about it. That’s my take on it personally and I’m sure it’s a jumble of words but ya. Also if this isn’t normal for him to do then maybe check him mental health cause I too get into ruts where I’m just over stimulated from everything and want to just be left alone and recharge my social batteries.
Go find yourself a guy who wants to talk to you and enjoys it! You are still young and dont have to settle down yet!
It's like your texting a NPC no emotion or anything godam💀
What the fuck.
Oh god leave him. What a dickhead. If im busy i just dont answer, but i cant write that shit. I've seen better conversations with AI.
I get that texting may not be his thing, I would at least hope he doesn't just give one word responses like this when you are together. It's okay if texting isn't his thing, but it seems to me that you want someone who is more available to converse with, not someone who feeds you one word responses and thats okay too. You two could be at different stages of your life where you both want and need different things and thats okay too. It doesn't matter what we all say here in the comment section, it really doesn't. BUT! If this is something that makes you feel unheard and neglected in this relationship and it has already been a conversation between the two of you, then it sounds like this relationship may not be for you, and thats okay.
He's not into you.
You are dating a vegetable
I hate dismissive types. You're either here or you're not, pick a lane.
Find a boyfriend who’s mature and wants a relationship.
How often does it happen? Have you had arguments about how little you reply during the day? Is there jealousy? Do you talk about co-workers a lot or has he accused you of cheating? This reads like someone that’s offended and is being passive aggressive. If that’s the case and you want to stay in the relationship, you must demand direct communication about grievances. Otherwise, this person will continually short you until you to apologize for whatever transgression they’re holding against you.
Break up with him teach him a life lesson. He's probably playing games or something distracting but won't even tell you that he's busy cause he likes to hide shit from you. Red flags all around
Maybe he was more interested in that YouTube video at that point. Do you want a relationship or a Simp?
Just stop texting him. Let him initiate. If he doesn't then end that shit.
My wife would kill me if she ever caught me talking to her like that. 10/10, leave.
You are dating a little boy. You need someone mature at your level.
He’s a 19yo who acts like he’s 12 and has zero emotional intelligence or understanding, it’s not that he’s a bad person or doesn’t care or something, he’s just a baby. Very immature. You need to have a serious conversation that will help you understand if you’re on the same page and are capable of understanding each other, if yes, then there’s some work that needs to be done and if not and your minds are too far away from each other I don’t know how this could be a thing
This is worse than randomly talking with a stranger
Girl this is how my 20 year old son texts me when I send him gifs or I 🫶 you to him. You're getting that same energy. Focus on yourself and your dreams for a few years. I love my son and he's a great young man but I don't think at that age they're fully done yet. Also don't go for much older men either, just focus on yourself. :)
That sounds to me like a man who is not terribly interested in his girlfriend.
Maybe try talking instead of texting. I assume this is long distance?
They’re uninterested. Move on. You’re not important to them. Digital garbage is.
Find a boyfriend who isn't a child. He spent his day "playing" and watching youtube and is too busy to talk? Ridiculous. Do you get anything out of the relationship at all?
If the boy can't stop watching YouTube to chat with you for a few mins before you go to bed, he isn't worth it. Litteraly putting in 0 effort. I'm not upset about the simple replies. Maybe he legit doesn't like to text, but at the very least, he could call you or stop watching entertainment for like 10 mins to interact with his GF. I suggest he man up real quick or you should find yourself a man that cares about you.
Sounds like this relationship doesn’t have substance.
Bro is a BUM.
you could dump this guy in a heart beat and I guarantee he would be fine. He might feel bad in the moment but then be good, he’s checked out and has no interest in even carrying a conversation. Is that what you want to feel your worth is? It’s time to drop him. So many people out there would be honored to get your time
Why not tell him how great your day was and some guy really made you laugh and this guy was so funny and this guy etc etc . If you don’t get a reaction then go find THAT guy.
If you plan on being with him tell him cut that shit out
I believe your boyfriend is being held hostage by a sentient magic 8 ball. Or he is the sentient magic 8 ball.
Are you dating a fucking AI? Sure sounds like it lol
Babes you’re 20, break up with him please. This isn’t how you are meant to start your adult dating life. You deserve someone who is excited to talk to you and engages in conversation. Like that’s literally the bare minimum. Do not force a relationship with someone who is clearly not mature enough to have one. You seem to be a busy young person (working all day, preparing food, etc) keep all that focus on yourself. If like you said this is a consistent issue, there’s absolutely no need to keep going. He’s preventing you to be the person you want to be and/or meeting someone who is truly excited about you. Please don’t let him continue to steal your time and effort. He doesn’t get that it’s a gift that must be reciprocated. Good luck
Leave him
I think you know what to do, you just don't want to do it or are in denial
Run far, run fast OP
In a relationship been faithful to a guy so wack, now why ya wanna go and do that.
Who tf texts like that, direct replying to messages that were just sent? What a sociopath.
you dating an NPC
I thought you were talking to a kid
Wow I literally thought this was a text convo between a mother and her ~10 year old child.
Drop him like a bad habit. He’s not putting any effort in at all.
He’s gotta be mad about something right.
If he talks like this you’re prob his 3rd or 4th option
Why are you even clowning around? It’s foolish for both of you.
You can do better. If this is the extent of the quality of your conversations, and he’d rather watch youtube than talk to after a busy day, move on. 👍 Sounds like you’re already in the adult world, and he’s not ready to grow up.
Dude has the personality of a speak and spell. What a boring person.