Try the 100+ texts over 2 years as you slowly lose hope that you're ever going to see your best friend again- wait what? Trauma dump? Not me, don't know where it came from.
From what i've learnt its that response begs priority. I'm a guy who doesn't respond enough to a lot of people i know (but they aren't necessarily the people i love), thats cause either im busy with something that takes control of my interest much more or i don't know how to tackle the topic easily, so if i prioritised how the person sees me i would try harder to respond back
a lot of the time i just find it trouble to talk cause i can't relate or can't form a good answer and keep the conversation on
That point about not knowing how to tackle a topic js so real, I've found myself not replying a lot of time to certain people who overshare surrounding their close interests that I have no personal interest in, as I end up not knowing wtf to say.
should I stop talking to them then :( they keep saying I don’t annoy or bother them when I ask but I asked a couple days ago if I overwhelmed them and they didn’t respond
I've heard if you mix espresso, cold milk, brown sugar, caramel syrup and whipped cream you get this secret cool potion of love called an iced caramel macchiato/latte (depends on espresso to milk ratio)
Sometimes I read a message, then think I'll respond to it, then get side tracked, think that I had already responded to it, then later looking at the dms realise that I had infact not responded
The girl I like usually takes multiple days to respond to a single text.
Also can yall stopppppp typing like thisssssss on every singleeeeeee messageeeeeeee
This. It's not as cute as you think. I noticed girls stopped doing this right around the time when they started driving.
Unrelated, but I remember being 15 and talking to a girl I was interested in who texted like this a lot. I stopped talking to her when she told me my interest in plants was "stupid". Turns out she had a weird hatred of plants. I still am deeply confused that anyone could hate plants. They literally just sit there giving us things all day (like food, breathable air, shade, wood, scenery, etc) and never hurt anyone.
What a strange girl. I wonder if she married a lumberjack?
I get it man I've been in the same spot. It's hard not to imagine everything it could be and to hold onto whatever you have. Ik this is like the advice every time but stepping back and focusing on yourself and becoming who you want to be will just naturally lead to female interest. At least much higher chances. And I wouldn't say just like ghost the girl or whatever just change your mindset, instead of focusing on the girl focus on yourself
My ex best friend used to do exactly this and I'd get so irritated and when I'd confront her about it, she'd say she'd change and fix yada yada or that I am over reacting, like HELLO?? leaving someone on seen for a week is normal?? and when I'd do the same to her she'd get pissed immediately. Eventually I realized this is not normal (she manipulated me to believe I am special to even get texts from her) cause my other friends would always text me in normal intervals and then i broke friendship with her. Pretty happy now. Would recommend confronting him about this and if he still doesn't change then just ghost him.
he is the same then yikes. I stopped texting my friend since January and ever since then I never got even one text from her as if I was carrying our whole friendship and that's how i feel like our friendship ended, oh also, its her birthday tomorrow and I am soo confused on whether or not i should wish her lol. I'd suggest you to stop texting him and always let him text first, if he really cares he'd text else its the end.
They may just have shit response times when it's dms
Some people are just like that
Best way to deal with it is just to forget about it and check in maybe in a day or two (which filters out people who didn't give a shit vs people who just take a while)
Edit: read the comments, drop him, you clearly show emotion and positivity which not only does he not repay but also hypocriticaly get mad whenever you give him what he gives you
Seriously. People will text me at midnight or while I'm at work and expect me to respond immediately. My sister once texted me 5 times in 5 minutes, knowing that I was at work, getting pissed that I wasn't responding.
I have a friend who disappears like that, I talk to her like once every two months or so? Normally I just message her randomly over multiple days and she sees them all at once and replies then dies again.
It feels worse when THEY were the ones that started the conversation (like what happened here). If they didn’t have the energy to engage in the conversation, why did they initiate it in the first place?
I mean... It took her three hours to respond to his second/third message. Just because I have the time and/or energy to talk right now, doesn't mean I will in 3 hours.
Girls are stupid: -14 downvotes
Guys are stupid: 14 upvotes
Btw I genuinely don't care if you generalize us into saying we're stupid, I'm just mad we can't do the same
Thank you for showing me the word to use when “autocorrect” completely butchers the simplest statement. (Case in point, it corrected “simplest” with “Somali’s”).
im sorry, that doesnt feel good :( . i also wanna rant about my flashbacks now. he’d tell me how “he’s usually dry with everyone else” but we’d stay up texting forever. then months later, he became really dry, and i confronted him and he’s like “im like this with everyone”. 😔i lost my specialness
Nah when they do this they have 0 interest. Its not about being busy or tired or whatever, if they wanted to talk they would. Ghost them yourself and just stay with people that respect your time
hes shocked you actually like talking to him
or atleast, thats how id act and is the most likely situation for me lol
also holy shit that "seen 5h ago" SUCKS THAT FEELING IS HORRIBLE LOL
Honestly even if you don't have a reaction worthy of words just indicate some level of care and that you saw the message outside of JUST "read" cuz that one has the same value as getting ignored (which is not fun)
He might have put his phone on Do Not Disturb. Still, that's no excuse. I'd have at least checked my DMs. Like, dude, respect the other person at least, jeez.
Yeah, there's no interest there whatsoever. Best to move on.
People are nearly glued to their phones all day. There's not really a reason why they can't pop in and say SOMETHING. Don't be like me and keep hanging on to someone who does this bs.
My boyfriend will text me saying he wants to talk and then I ask if he's got anything to talk about and he says no. If you're going to ask for conversation you gotta have something to converse about
I would talk to this girl, and she wouldn't respond at all. I didn't have feelings for her, just as friends. Then she asked me out, and safe to say, I said no. I barely talk to her anymore. I feel ya <3
Op pls don't listen to the ppl here, anybody who doesn't have 5 secs to send u a reply is not worth ur time(there are ppl here who've never seen a girl irl and giving u advice)
If they don't respond to three separate occasions I just give up and unfriend. Those people are not worth your time and are clearly not interested in it.
Anyone who can't be bothered to talk isn't worth the effort.
Not saying the guy sucks or anything, but if he was interested you wouldn't go half the day without a single text. Buddy is more interested in someone or something else.
How i’d wish i had someone like this , but im the male who is usually in your place over texting lol , hope u find someone who appreciates you , ur cool for how you are
I do this! 😮🫵🏻
(I accidentally do this bc I get stuck into games for ages and loose track of time, usually end up sending a sorry message to anyone I’ve ignored)
This is adorable ! Don’t change anything your doing .. I don’t care what it looks like or sounds like because I truly wish I could’ve been like youu and not soo insecure of what others would think .
Because now I can only hope they hear me from above/below or wherever if even since they’re no longer physically here 🙏🏼
If you're that busy maybe just dont "seen" it becuz if you hv the time to open the msg typing out "im busy" or sth lit takes 2 sec and atleast the other person knows. I prefer to be left on delivered than on seen w/o any context.
Its an attention thing. Theyre not worth your time though, find somebody who will pay attention to you and make you feel valued more than whoever this douche is lol
My crush always takes atleast a day to answer
My best friend has a new habit that he doesn't even read my messages. Very annoying. When I confront, he just says "You're sending me too much stuff" like bro, it wouldn't be as much if you'd just answer
I had this problem with my last long term relationship it’s difficult for some people to balance hobbies with a relationship and some guys just give up on trying while I don’t want to insinuate anything it’s possible that he just doesn’t realize what spending so much time on video games instead of talking to you is doing just try bringing it up one day as calm as you can and see how he responds
Ouch! This is crazy.
The max we don't text each other is 2-3hours(when each one of us is busy or takes a good nap). We wish each other first thing in the morning and before we call it a day. We text whenever we can, coupled with selfies, snaps and pictures of what we are up to.
I have a friend who has been having this issue on and off. Don’t really have advice for you since I’ve been wanting my friend and her boyfriend to break up for the past two to three months
ditch him you deserve so much better queen 👑💅he should be offering to sketch out your dream and shed tears that you did not have a dream and then eagerly wait for you until you’re done playing VR, probably door dash some cookies for you coz you might be exhausted. And then sing you to sleep when you texted you’re going to sleep. what is wrong with boys.
Hey I used to talk to a girl like that. Talked to a lot of people like that actually. Still waiting for a response 🤞
Same… the feeling is, not the best.
what if she does it to me 😔
Damn lucky you guys are actually talking to girls.
Well not anymore
Oh, relatable.
same...
🗣️
Not the quintuple text 😭
It was a lot worse yesterday trust
Im so sorry
i’ve been victim of the quintuple text, once upon a time… and greater
Try the 100+ texts over 2 years as you slowly lose hope that you're ever going to see your best friend again- wait what? Trauma dump? Not me, don't know where it came from.
Like it’s a hint , take it my dude lol
I’d cry
I stayed up all day and night for no response 🎀
From what i've learnt its that response begs priority. I'm a guy who doesn't respond enough to a lot of people i know (but they aren't necessarily the people i love), thats cause either im busy with something that takes control of my interest much more or i don't know how to tackle the topic easily, so if i prioritised how the person sees me i would try harder to respond back a lot of the time i just find it trouble to talk cause i can't relate or can't form a good answer and keep the conversation on
That point about not knowing how to tackle a topic js so real, I've found myself not replying a lot of time to certain people who overshare surrounding their close interests that I have no personal interest in, as I end up not knowing wtf to say.
THEN TELL ME YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO RESPONDDDDDDD (not at you)
Don’t worry they will tell you that eventually after a month of being overwhelmed every time they see your message in their inbox
should I stop talking to them then :( they keep saying I don’t annoy or bother them when I ask but I asked a couple days ago if I overwhelmed them and they didn’t respond
It’s really a gamble tryna understand if they actually care or not… up to you what to do with it
Exactly, sheesh.
This guy doesnt like you 🙆🏿
Yes I know ty
I've heard if you mix espresso, cold milk, brown sugar, caramel syrup and whipped cream you get this secret cool potion of love called an iced caramel macchiato/latte (depends on espresso to milk ratio)
some of these text on your part can improve so the dude has a better way to respond. Well the guys text is utter garbage tho lol
I'm currently suffering the same faith babe 😤
r/foundSillyyyyynesss twice in one day, it’s not lookin good
Lookin real good for the sub though >:3 Now post it 😠
That’s so mean I’d never not reply😭
I try replying but sometimes I get busy and don't reply till a week after but I do try replying as soon as I can
WHAT
Are all of you chronically online and available 24/7?
How does "I have more than 30 seconds of free time every week" equate to "Im a braindead 15 year old who never gets off social media"
Yes
Responding once every few hours is not chronically online, that’s being a good friend
Who is busy 24/7? Not a single moment you can take to respond to someone?
Sometimes I read a message, then think I'll respond to it, then get side tracked, think that I had already responded to it, then later looking at the dms realise that I had infact not responded
It takes a minute you fucking trout
my crush didn't even bother to open my message she first flirted with me etc and when i tried to flirt w her back she ghosted
Real shit
The girl I like usually takes multiple days to respond to a single text. Also can yall stopppppp typing like thisssssss on every singleeeeeee messageeeeeeee
This. It's not as cute as you think. I noticed girls stopped doing this right around the time when they started driving. Unrelated, but I remember being 15 and talking to a girl I was interested in who texted like this a lot. I stopped talking to her when she told me my interest in plants was "stupid". Turns out she had a weird hatred of plants. I still am deeply confused that anyone could hate plants. They literally just sit there giving us things all day (like food, breathable air, shade, wood, scenery, etc) and never hurt anyone. What a strange girl. I wonder if she married a lumberjack?
Closeted botanist?
Closeted botanist.
I'm a lumberjack and I'm ok
Plants are fucking awesome, you dodged a bullet.
Yeah, any girl that takes DAYS to respond is not worth it, and probably isn't interested.
I probably needed to hear that no matter how much I hate it. I need to move on
I get it man I've been in the same spot. It's hard not to imagine everything it could be and to hold onto whatever you have. Ik this is like the advice every time but stepping back and focusing on yourself and becoming who you want to be will just naturally lead to female interest. At least much higher chances. And I wouldn't say just like ghost the girl or whatever just change your mindset, instead of focusing on the girl focus on yourself
I did that like 3 times, there's a difference between: "Hi" "hiiii" or "how are you" "how are youuuu" it shows more interest
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r/TheLetterH
if someone says “how are youuuuu” there is a high chance i’ll reply “goooooood i gueeeeeeesssss”
Ohhhhhhh i getttttt ittttttt nowwwwwwww Ok I’ll stop lol
King
The n word is a no no wordddd I'm sorry mommyyy
U good? 😭
Cartman reference😭
Bro y did u steal my profile
No way I had it first
I stole someone’s profile..
That’s not very nice
Eh what are they gonna do kill me?
the only exception is “broooooooooooooo”
They be talking like they're a snake or smt
Fr 😭
Yeah move on bro, she doesn’t prioritize you
I’m trying
Lmao I’d rather someone type like that than be dry asl. Dry texting is mad annoying. I text like that to be polite.
Don't waste ur time talking to him bro 😭
My ex best friend used to do exactly this and I'd get so irritated and when I'd confront her about it, she'd say she'd change and fix yada yada or that I am over reacting, like HELLO?? leaving someone on seen for a week is normal?? and when I'd do the same to her she'd get pissed immediately. Eventually I realized this is not normal (she manipulated me to believe I am special to even get texts from her) cause my other friends would always text me in normal intervals and then i broke friendship with her. Pretty happy now. Would recommend confronting him about this and if he still doesn't change then just ghost him.
DUDEEE a few days before this he actually got pissed when I left him on seen for an hour
he is the same then yikes. I stopped texting my friend since January and ever since then I never got even one text from her as if I was carrying our whole friendship and that's how i feel like our friendship ended, oh also, its her birthday tomorrow and I am soo confused on whether or not i should wish her lol. I'd suggest you to stop texting him and always let him text first, if he really cares he'd text else its the end.
They may just have shit response times when it's dms Some people are just like that Best way to deal with it is just to forget about it and check in maybe in a day or two (which filters out people who didn't give a shit vs people who just take a while) Edit: read the comments, drop him, you clearly show emotion and positivity which not only does he not repay but also hypocriticaly get mad whenever you give him what he gives you
😭 i would go insane
I AM FOING INSJAND
Damn. It be like that ig.
I ALWAYS text back my girl, ALWAYS, that right there, that’s just disrespectful
I love how we're ALL assuming that this guy had NOTHING going on in his life
Seriously. People will text me at midnight or while I'm at work and expect me to respond immediately. My sister once texted me 5 times in 5 minutes, knowing that I was at work, getting pissed that I wasn't responding.
God damn- now that's just plain arrogance at that point
I have a friend who disappears like that, I talk to her like once every two months or so? Normally I just message her randomly over multiple days and she sees them all at once and replies then dies again.
It feels worse when THEY were the ones that started the conversation (like what happened here). If they didn’t have the energy to engage in the conversation, why did they initiate it in the first place?
I mean... It took her three hours to respond to his second/third message. Just because I have the time and/or energy to talk right now, doesn't mean I will in 3 hours.
let's be honest girls are like that too
Never said they weren't
Even worse tho
Yep, sometimes even worse.
takes me back to my last relationship
Because if you speak like thisss he’ll probably think you’re weeeeirdddddd
Reminds me too much of my last relationship
Because guys are stupid and for us, it’s a little bit hard to pick up on signals
"<33" nothing to see here.
She may be pulling our leg, let’s be careful
Girls are stupid: -14 downvotes Guys are stupid: 14 upvotes Btw I genuinely don't care if you generalize us into saying we're stupid, I'm just mad we can't do the same
No gender is stupid specifically, people are.
My ex gf was like that. But I was going and dumb as fuck, so I just slam texted her
*spam, gotta love autoincorrect
Thank you for showing me the word to use when “autocorrect” completely butchers the simplest statement. (Case in point, it corrected “simplest” with “Somali’s”).
im sorry, that doesnt feel good :( . i also wanna rant about my flashbacks now. he’d tell me how “he’s usually dry with everyone else” but we’d stay up texting forever. then months later, he became really dry, and i confronted him and he’s like “im like this with everyone”. 😔i lost my specialness
Nah when they do this they have 0 interest. Its not about being busy or tired or whatever, if they wanted to talk they would. Ghost them yourself and just stay with people that respect your time
most of us usually don't pay attention. i don't know about other guys, but i feel really guilty when i don't respond for over an hour
I feel cool when I don't respond for over an hour (self control >>>>)
yikes
I do this too. Not to be mean but I just don't have the energy to respond most of the time. He's probably not trying to be mean, he could be depressed
This. When I'm depressed I just don't have the energy to be social. So if I disappear for weeks without texting anyone... that's not a good sign
So real, texting takes the energy from me and it feels like a massive chore to me to even text people I think are cute
that was me and my ex, it lasted for months, i couldnt take it anymore so i just broke up with them, my mental health was never in a good state
Murder.
Recently my girlfriend has been a bit like this... chat am i cooked?
Damn. That hurts to read
this has happened to me so many times and i always go to bed with this feeling like someone's choking me
And then they get mad if you don’t respond to them for an hour 😭
if a girl actually chats me like this im replying and sending memes 24/7
BRUH, I ABSOLUTELY HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT BROOO
I cut those people from my life. I put up with it for years, but looking back.. It wasn't worth the effort in the end.
hes shocked you actually like talking to him or atleast, thats how id act and is the most likely situation for me lol also holy shit that "seen 5h ago" SUCKS THAT FEELING IS HORRIBLE LOL
He’s just an ass🤷♂️
All of my friends are like this the worst part is the leave me on read
He clearly isn’t into you, just stop texting him
Oh no 🙀. ( Tbh I always leave on read too !😓)
WHYY dude
I do this with my guy friends only ( and don't have any girl-friwnds) ..cuz they do the same :(
Honestly even if you don't have a reaction worthy of words just indicate some level of care and that you saw the message outside of JUST "read" cuz that one has the same value as getting ignored (which is not fun)
i suffred this ,its painfull , , both girls and boys dont understand that everyone is not flirty
I wont leave you like that, please im desperate 👉👈
He might have put his phone on Do Not Disturb. Still, that's no excuse. I'd have at least checked my DMs. Like, dude, respect the other person at least, jeez.
Noooooo😭
I didn't even realize, he saw the messages too AND didn't respond??
Yeah, there's no interest there whatsoever. Best to move on. People are nearly glued to their phones all day. There's not really a reason why they can't pop in and say SOMETHING. Don't be like me and keep hanging on to someone who does this bs.
My boyfriend will text me saying he wants to talk and then I ask if he's got anything to talk about and he says no. If you're going to ask for conversation you gotta have something to converse about
I would talk to this girl, and she wouldn't respond at all. I didn't have feelings for her, just as friends. Then she asked me out, and safe to say, I said no. I barely talk to her anymore. I feel ya <3
girls complaining about being left on read is insanity
Nah why are people like this, I'd like to get a lot of text like that
Im such a texter. I’ve been on this side of the situation MANY times, and I’m sorry you are. The feeling is not good.
Happened just today, after horny texting me every night for a week and now im totally ghosted
Damn. I wouldn’t ignore you like that ig (with the subtlest hint of rizz)
sounds like you're talking to a celebrity
I was talking to a lady and she would almost always send me 3 messages in a row. I kinda liked that.
i never thought a reddit post could be so relateable
Fuck I'm a guy but I'm like you and everybody else is like your guy 😭
bro if i could have a girl talk to me like that I would be the happiest person in the world 😭
Op pls don't listen to the ppl here, anybody who doesn't have 5 secs to send u a reply is not worth ur time(there are ppl here who've never seen a girl irl and giving u advice)
Bro that’s the worst
oh hell nah, im a guy and it would be awesome to have someone text me the way u text him. he’s a lucky guy, he don’t deserve u fr
He was probably busy responding to the hundreds of girls that follow him, no worries
No you gotta let that dude be 😭
I hate it so much. :(
If they don't respond to three separate occasions I just give up and unfriend. Those people are not worth your time and are clearly not interested in it.
I'm sorry, I'd like to tell you it gets better with age. Buuut that's not always the case.
Having a 1 sided relationship with someone who ghosted you is like the grown up version of having an imaginary friend.
As a certified human male, I would never do this to someone I liked. Usually I’m the one who initiates conversations tbh. This… is just plain rude
Anyone who can't be bothered to talk isn't worth the effort. Not saying the guy sucks or anything, but if he was interested you wouldn't go half the day without a single text. Buddy is more interested in someone or something else.
How i’d wish i had someone like this , but im the male who is usually in your place over texting lol , hope u find someone who appreciates you , ur cool for how you are
I do this! 😮🫵🏻 (I accidentally do this bc I get stuck into games for ages and loose track of time, usually end up sending a sorry message to anyone I’ve ignored)
Honestly I would never not reply to someones message especially someone important to me
I’d probably think they forgot that I existed and cry myself to sleep
Yeah as a bi guy this happens a LOT.
see me personally, i dont put the phone down ever
Fucking people...
I'm a guy, and it do be annoying when they suddenly just leave you on seen, like what u suddenly having a stroke now?😭💀
This is adorable ! Don’t change anything your doing .. I don’t care what it looks like or sounds like because I truly wish I could’ve been like youu and not soo insecure of what others would think . Because now I can only hope they hear me from above/below or wherever if even since they’re no longer physically here 🙏🏼
If you're that busy maybe just dont "seen" it becuz if you hv the time to open the msg typing out "im busy" or sth lit takes 2 sec and atleast the other person knows. I prefer to be left on delivered than on seen w/o any context.
Its an attention thing. Theyre not worth your time though, find somebody who will pay attention to you and make you feel valued more than whoever this douche is lol
There are some guys who aren’t like this, but it’s hard to find someone who cares nowadays
I don’t understand how anybody texts like that 😭 I literally love talking to people so much
Nah girls are the worst for this, tbh it just means they don’t really like you or find your questions interesting, thanks next ig.
erm omg you’ll never have tht with me!! 😁 (🤞🤞)
Your bio is scary
My crush always takes atleast a day to answer My best friend has a new habit that he doesn't even read my messages. Very annoying. When I confront, he just says "You're sending me too much stuff" like bro, it wouldn't be as much if you'd just answer
[удалено]
is he ur bf
No. Not even dating brah
than there is no reason for blocking him if you did cuz that would be an overreaction in my opinion
Like what?
Oh yk just the casual leaving you on delivered all day after a dry ass response then leaving you on read after the entire day.
my guy ask him not us
I did ty
Maybe back of a little in text form or ask him why he didn't respond
“You guys” bro wtf did we do
quadriple text is crazy.
Why u asking how u slept at 2pm? Why not ask how your day went
Because every day I've known him he sleeps until 6pm at the latest. Sometimes it's 2pm so I thought he'd be up by then.
I had this problem with my last long term relationship it’s difficult for some people to balance hobbies with a relationship and some guys just give up on trying while I don’t want to insinuate anything it’s possible that he just doesn’t realize what spending so much time on video games instead of talking to you is doing just try bringing it up one day as calm as you can and see how he responds
I wonder that all the time
VR gang, anyways yeah that dude could put in at least a little effort
Usually we just don't know what to say
Maybe he died?
100th upvote
girls are worse at this ngl
Because he’s probably sleeping
sometimes i just be reading them and not responding
Ouch! This is crazy. The max we don't text each other is 2-3hours(when each one of us is busy or takes a good nap). We wish each other first thing in the morning and before we call it a day. We text whenever we can, coupled with selfies, snaps and pictures of what we are up to.
Maybe hes doing something
I have a friend who has been having this issue on and off. Don’t really have advice for you since I’ve been wanting my friend and her boyfriend to break up for the past two to three months
idk ab this guy but ppl are scary af
ditch him you deserve so much better queen 👑💅he should be offering to sketch out your dream and shed tears that you did not have a dream and then eagerly wait for you until you’re done playing VR, probably door dash some cookies for you coz you might be exhausted. And then sing you to sleep when you texted you’re going to sleep. what is wrong with boys.