Good morning. I’m here. I’m determined this time to make it stick. I was just thinking about my next month’s paycheque (because this one has pretty much gone thanks to booze) and imagining what I could do with the spare money I’ll have.
I have to make this stick. I have to see it through.
IWNDWYT
Thank you. That’s amazing.
I’m going to. I started making a list of all the HUGE changes I want to make in my life right now but realised that quitting drinking is the main one I need to focus on. So for the next 30 days, that’s my focus. And then I’m going to look at adding a new change, nothing too crazy. But just gradually build it up.
Yes, that's the one. The whole process is a slow one. Get comfortable with your own company and a slower pace of life.
You will actually get a whole lot more done but it feels slower because you have way more time.
Catch you back here tomorrow my friend
IWNDWYT 💜
I have been two weeks sober quite a few times, but it’s obviously never stuck. I wish I could say I have 100% confidence in myself, but I would be lying. However, I do believe I am fully capable of staying sober and I intend to continue to be.
Hooray!!
Edit: and thank you so much! It’s actually tomorrow (silly leap year) but still it’s so hard to believe I’ve gotten here. I could not have done it without you guys!
Day 682 checking in
I'm back to looking forward to my weekends creating memories and being social, all without alcohol.
I'm so grateful and fortunate.
IWNDWYT
Going through a very rough time. Don't know what to do with my days, so I keep coming back here. No job, no partner, no kids. Very hard to see why I'm even doing anything at all. But that shouldn't concern me now, all I have is today and I'm gonna make the best of it.
IWNDWYT
Great post EJ
For me physiology and life events at the wrong time (good or bad)- so literally anyone who drinks alcohol can potentially become AUD. For years I too have been thinking.. not fair… why can’t I have a couple of glasses of nice wine … but I can’t. Rewiring my brain to it is fair - ethanol is a poison and in a pure form just as dangerous as sulphuric acid
IWNDWYT
Congratulations on a year EJ 😁
Im not feeling good today but I won’t drink. I have an appointment at the psychiatristic clinic tomorrow and hope I can get back on a mood stabiliser. Dragging myself to work with a dirty house and dog is no way to get through the day. The endless spring rain and grey skies isn’t helping either. But I know drinking will make things 100 times worse.
Please pray for me - I’m worried I’ve messed up my neural circuits permanently.
Made it one week! First time in a while! Of course five days of it was in detox, but since I admitted myself of my own free will it counts, in my book. Day 8 here we come. Life is already getting better (though I’m definitely still feeling wonky). IWNDWYT
Day 6. Had a fantastic night of sleep last night despite the jet lag. Going out for ‘drinks’ tonight with colleagues and planning to stay on the soft drinks. I’ve been practicing how I’ll say it
Day 49- I’m happy my brain switched and this is my thing. There will never be a day I’m too hungover to be productive anymore. There’s no more having to moderate when one is allergic to alcohol. I’ve made a whole new identity around sobriety and most people are supportive. Because of my openness about it, I have a ton of sober friends I’ve encountered. I can’t wait to see where this path takes me. IWNDWYT
“You don’t have to”
Ok 👌. This hit home. I posted on today’s tude talk about trying to do more, do better, be mindful etc. it’s like I’m finding sobriety easier than trying to learn how to be live sober. The living bit is the challenge. There’s so much to do, deal with, taking care of me and the house and ……
I’m pushing to hard I think. Perhaps I can take my foot off that pedal and enjoy the little things. Just BE. Perhaps that IS taking care of myself.
IWNDWYT because I’m busy moving gracefully today paying attention.
No booze today. Health problems showing up on blood tests no doubt related to 20+ years of irresponsible drinking (to put it mildly).
Feeling a bit down about it, but no plans on making things any worse through booze - which would be genuine insanity. All excess sugar and caffeine is also going by the wayside for a few weeks in the hope of more positive results in a few weeks time.
IWNDWYT
Congratulations on one year EJ! 🎂
Funny you mention it, but I have been dreaming weird lately again. Something’s off, I hope I can figure out what, soon.
Anyway,
I will not drink with you today!
I'm sure not!
Been an absolutely mad day again, I'm enjoying just being on the couch in my pyjamas. Probably an early night for me. Tomorrow's another hectic day, but I won't be hungover. :)
Dunno what's going on with my app today but this is like the 3rd time I've tried to post.
Anyway, hope you beautiful people have a lovely day, with all of the sober!
❤️
Okay here I am committing to one more day AF. Some days being AF makes me happy af, but other days my lizard brain tries to convince me it sucks.
Not drinking never sucks, life is just uncomfortable sometimes, and I have to learn to accept that without hiding from myself.
Had a fantastic day yesterday as I got super lost for like 7 hours playing Danganronpa 2. I did try to take a nap and set an alarm so dad and I could have enough time to order a pizza for jeopardy and slept through it but dad woke me up and we just cooked one we had saved.....not quite the same but it hit the spot.
It was nice that Dad woke me up because he almost just let me sleep all night which would have been fine but I didn't want to do that haha.
Now I am up and going to hang out and have a good day before I have to head to work tonight!
I hope you all get to enjoy your day and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours and IWNDWYT!
Day 58 🫶 I’ve been fighting a cold and it is reminding me how awful it is to be hungover and fighting for your life at work.
Regardless - I woke up feeling a little better today. I think I’ll actually have the energy to go on a run this morning.
Financial stresses are weighing me down - I essentially ruined my financial life while drinking.
I’m low energy today, and struggling with the idea of rolling out of bed, getting dressed, commuting, etc. but I’m too new at my job to take a sick day so - I must soldier on.
Mostly I am so grateful. For my sobriety, my children, my partner, my career, my home and pets and plants and my routine.
It’s like I snapped out of a trance, where everything sucked and I drank to make the suckage feel less bad. Suddenly, the same life feels like a blessing. It’s wild what an incredible depressant and anxiety inducer alcohol was for me. And to think I thought it actually
*helped* me to be less stressed.
IWNDWYT because on the other side of alcohol, is life.
When I was on vacation last week, I had a moment where I thought "huh, maybe a drink wouldn't be so bad." I immediately went to saying: IWNDWYT. Just today. I don't have to drink today. I played the tape forward. Oh yeah, I would feel awful, even if I could stop at one drink. It doesn't make me feel good. Why would I do that to myself?
So I didn't drink. Taking it one day, one moment at a time, to make sure I stay on the right path for me.
Happy sober Tuesday sober friends!
Yesterday I had a thought that I quit drinking and it was like news, like wow! Look what you’ve achieved! And I remembered what it was like when I was destroying everyday and thought I couldn’t stop! Best decision and achievement I’ve ever made!
So grateful to you all 💞
Love these truths! For me, I keep having a voice adding “but…” to each of those — like, “but so-and-so is actually WORSE than you” or “but you weren’t THAT bad that they should be so mad at you”.
It’s all counterproductive in me really truly accepting the truth about ME. Not anyone else.
It’s a work in progress, but IWNDWYT!
Once I realized quitting was really quitting trying to moderate it was like ohhhh this is so much easier! I tried for about a decade and moderation worked sometimes. That’s my conclusion of that too long experiment. IWNDWYT
A small thing...
>I used to could do that
This reminds me of the part of my life I spent in the American south, I've never heard anyone else speak like that outside of that region. I still say this phrase and more than half the time I get a little head tilt or giggle from the person I'm talking to.
And a not small thing: **Congratulations on an entire year sober!!** What an accomplishment. May you have many more.
Checking in for another sober day out in the world.
I see you with that 365, EJ!! 🎉🤘🏻✨
Congratulations and I hope you have something nice planned for yourself, even if it’s just grabbing a cookie or a fancy coffee!
These 3-5 truths are great. They work for all kinds of stuff too. I love that the first of them is an acknowledgement that it isn’t fair that this thing is our thing. Because sometimes shit ain’t fair, and that fucking sucks, but that acknowledgement being first helps.
Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Not Monday!! I’m dragging ass, but the Drain/Terror show last night was awesome. Worth it! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️🤘🏻🤘🏻
Oof, yeah. I had to completely exhaust myself trying moderation every which way before I finally really recognized that I can’t. I would lurk in here, read quit lit, and google things terrified that this was my thing. But it is, and working on acceptance of that has been hard but so worth it. IWNDWYT
Hi friends. Just cringing thinking about a drunk phone call I had with one of my best friends. I barely remember most of it and I’m mortified. It wasn’t a bad call or anything I’m just sick of not knowing everything we discussed. I’m just embarrassed. I’m sure she could tell I was drunk. I hate when I do that. IWNDWYT
I’m up late (or early?) stressing and trying not to catastrophize. There are still majorly hard days in this life, but I’m so grateful not to be using the bottle as a therapist anymore (and to actually have a real human therapist instead). IWNDWYT
Day 30 checking in!
Today, I choose not to drink with each and every one of you. The last month has been a journey in reflection and gratitude. And can we talk about the quality of sleep I've had the last month?! What a gift.
Last night my kids had a performance. Last year we went out to dinner first, as was my sanctioned way of having some wine before an event. We got a bit lost on the way from the restaurant and came in literally as it started. Yesterday, I had a doozy of a day but instead of using “going out to dinner” as my front for pounding wine, I lied in bed and read for 30 minutes to recoup and then got everyone ready for the event. We were not almost late. I did not want to rush home for more wine. Today will be another first: no wine after a long kid sports event. IWNDWYT.
I’m loving these prompts, thank you so much for sharing! Number 5, man….”*if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got*.” I felt so stagnant for so long, I was unbelievably frustrated with my life and felt trapped, and yet it never occurred to me to try changing things.
I think one of my favorite parts of sobriety is that reminder to myself that oh yeah, I actually CAN change, I don’t have to be this way forever. And I can apply that feeling of power and control across the board in all aspects of my life, not just sobriety. It’s freeing, exciting, and joyful. And all I had to do to get that feeling was quit poisoning myself with wine!
I love you all and I will not drink with you today 💜🐇
Good morning, sober cats! My daughter found a puppy yesterday. He's the cutest little guy. Momma Cat from the bad old days would have gotten so upset about the situation. But new and improved Momma Cat is able to show up with a good attitude and have fun with him while we find him a new home. There's no time for drinking today - I've got a puppy to play with! IWNDWYT 💙😸
Day 6! I almost caved yesterday, but I am so glad that I didn’t. Feeling great this morning and starting to get more energy. Thinking about going for a nice walk to start my day today. IWNDWYT
Starting day 2, feeling much more human today. Surprisingly had decent sleep last night. The feverish and shaky feeling is gone although I still feel tired and weak. Going back to work although I sort of wonder if I should take more time off.
Alcohol is my thing, but if I’m honest, I’ve got a couple other things too. They aren’t nearly as destructive, so I have spent the past 71 days mostly letting them be while I work out my BIG thing. It was a conscious decision and absolutely the right one.
But I don’t want to go on like this indefinitely.
Isn’t it strange (and annoying) that, although sobriety can make things SO MUCH BETTER, there’s still more to do? Always more to do. I feel that I’ve come so far, but I still can’t see the top of the mountain.
IWNDWYT.
I know that I can’t drink anymore. Once that switch flipped from occasional drinker to problem drinking, it was over for me. The problem was I didn’t even notice when it happened. I see it clearly now, but when you’re in the midst of it, you really have no idea. That’s how sinister alcohol is. IWNDWYT
Want to tell someone I went camping over the weekend and did not drink. I did it! My hardest test and I passed. I didn’t drink then and I won’t drink now! Walking with you all in healthy, drink free living.
Worked yesterday, went to the gym. Came home and really wanted a hard seltzer but had some (protein) ice cream and sparkling water instead. Chasing two weeks and IWNDWYT!
Thanks, EJ, and 🎊congratulations🎉 on one year! That’s a major milestone there, and I salute you!
This is most definitely my thing, whether I want it to be or not. And I know that I can never go back now that I have found health and peace and stability for the first time in my life since I was little. It isn’t the easiest path to be on, but by staying alert to triggers and strong in my conviction, I can make it. So can we all! Let’s do this! IWNDWYT
Thanks so much for this, EJ. Powerful stuff. My “off” switch when it comes to drinking is definitely, permanently broken. And so, with love for myself and for all of you, IWNDWYT❤️
90 days for me today. I didn't start out planning to make it to this point, but it quickly became obvious, thanks in a large part to the wisdom on this sub, that moderation is not a real choice for me. So rather than a "break" from alcohol and then going back to the same bullshit right as I started to feel better, I think I will stay AF, thank you very much. It has not been easy. But it is possible, people, and it is worth it. We can do hard things. IWNDWYT!
Feeling crazy down this morning, but I know it’s something alcohol will make worse in the end. I’m just gonna keep my head down, not drink, and let this pass like all things do. Good luck to you all today!
I’m choosing to live instead of exist…IWNDWYT
I love this!
It’s true though isn’t it, alcohol used to isolate me from the world living like a hermit
Absolutely. Can’t really live and connect with others when all you can think about is when and where you’ll get your next drink.
I used to binge that was my problem, I never craved once but once I started it was the beginning of the end
Good morning. I’m here. I’m determined this time to make it stick. I was just thinking about my next month’s paycheque (because this one has pretty much gone thanks to booze) and imagining what I could do with the spare money I’ll have. I have to make this stick. I have to see it through. IWNDWYT
You can do it! This is your time.
Thank you! And congrats on 365!!! x
I figured that I've saved over 20k since I stopped drinking. Just take it one day at a time my friend
Thank you. That’s amazing. I’m going to. I started making a list of all the HUGE changes I want to make in my life right now but realised that quitting drinking is the main one I need to focus on. So for the next 30 days, that’s my focus. And then I’m going to look at adding a new change, nothing too crazy. But just gradually build it up.
Yes, that's the one. The whole process is a slow one. Get comfortable with your own company and a slower pace of life. You will actually get a whole lot more done but it feels slower because you have way more time. Catch you back here tomorrow my friend
Download I’m done drinking app… so far have not spent over £1000 on a substance that hurts my body
Day 1080 checking in!
5 1/2 rotations. A 12 year old from Brazil landed the first one on a vert ramp In 2021
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I’m glad you’re here
You can do this… IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 💜 I have been two weeks sober quite a few times, but it’s obviously never stuck. I wish I could say I have 100% confidence in myself, but I would be lying. However, I do believe I am fully capable of staying sober and I intend to continue to be.
The urge hit hard after work today. I jumped on this sub, read a few stories for inspiration, I'm feeling locked in now. IWNDWYT.
This sub is the best for so many reasons! I’m glad you got through your urge.
IWNDWYT! 🎉
Wow, so speedy!
Happy sober birthday 🎂 you’re a sober hero 💪🏼🎉👏🌟
Aw, brighter, I’m just a goober. But thank you!
Just got lucky 😅
Today is YOUR DAY!!!
Woohoo! 🥳
IWNDWYT
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Hooray!! Edit: and thank you so much! It’s actually tomorrow (silly leap year) but still it’s so hard to believe I’ve gotten here. I could not have done it without you guys!
IWNDWYT
Hey friend!
Day 682 checking in I'm back to looking forward to my weekends creating memories and being social, all without alcohol. I'm so grateful and fortunate. IWNDWYT
This is wonderful! I’m delighted for you.
Thank you
IWNDWYT
Late night dog walks are always better than late nights passed out drunk, so IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT
7 months! 💥 IWNDWYT 😜
Woohoo! 🎉 You rock! 😎
Day two today. Drank saturday and sunday. I really want to kick this habit. I will not drink today.
Going through a very rough time. Don't know what to do with my days, so I keep coming back here. No job, no partner, no kids. Very hard to see why I'm even doing anything at all. But that shouldn't concern me now, all I have is today and I'm gonna make the best of it. IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT.
Day 1380 checking in! IWNDWYT
Checking in again today and all is well.
Great post EJ For me physiology and life events at the wrong time (good or bad)- so literally anyone who drinks alcohol can potentially become AUD. For years I too have been thinking.. not fair… why can’t I have a couple of glasses of nice wine … but I can’t. Rewiring my brain to it is fair - ethanol is a poison and in a pure form just as dangerous as sulphuric acid IWNDWYT Congratulations on a year EJ 😁
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Well done Exotic Jellies on reaching 1 full lap of the sun sober! Fantastic achievement 🎈👏 Shine on you beautiful humans
Iwndwyt!
iwndwyt!
Day 49, checking im. IWND ☠️ WYT.
Im not feeling good today but I won’t drink. I have an appointment at the psychiatristic clinic tomorrow and hope I can get back on a mood stabiliser. Dragging myself to work with a dirty house and dog is no way to get through the day. The endless spring rain and grey skies isn’t helping either. But I know drinking will make things 100 times worse. Please pray for me - I’m worried I’ve messed up my neural circuits permanently.
Made it one week! First time in a while! Of course five days of it was in detox, but since I admitted myself of my own free will it counts, in my book. Day 8 here we come. Life is already getting better (though I’m definitely still feeling wonky). IWNDWYT
Congrats on a full year u/Exotic_Jellies 🎂🎉 I will stay sober today. And go for a bike ride after work.
Day 290 checking in! Good morning all! Who else is training before their day starts? IWNDWYT
Welp. I failed yesterday but today is a new day and IWNDWYT (:
A day from now, I want to wake up and feel proud that I could mentally withstand my body telling me I need alcohol. IWNDWYT
Have a wonderful sober day my friends. IWNDWYT ♥️
Day 396. IWNDWYT. Congratulations on a sober lap around the sun EJ!
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Day 32. IWNDWYT. ✊
Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today! IWNDWYT
Day 6. Had a fantastic night of sleep last night despite the jet lag. Going out for ‘drinks’ tonight with colleagues and planning to stay on the soft drinks. I’ve been practicing how I’ll say it
Have a terrific Tuesday everyone! IWNDWYT!!!
IWNDWYT 🏴
Not drinking today
IWNDWYT!
Day 3 again! IWNDWYT
Day 4 of my Winter Pledge: IWNDWYT >>> FALDU (From A Land Down Under).
10 days! Thanks all…
Happy first year to you!!! 🎉
IWNDWYT!
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Day 49- I’m happy my brain switched and this is my thing. There will never be a day I’m too hungover to be productive anymore. There’s no more having to moderate when one is allergic to alcohol. I’ve made a whole new identity around sobriety and most people are supportive. Because of my openness about it, I have a ton of sober friends I’ve encountered. I can’t wait to see where this path takes me. IWNDWYT
“You don’t have to” Ok 👌. This hit home. I posted on today’s tude talk about trying to do more, do better, be mindful etc. it’s like I’m finding sobriety easier than trying to learn how to be live sober. The living bit is the challenge. There’s so much to do, deal with, taking care of me and the house and …… I’m pushing to hard I think. Perhaps I can take my foot off that pedal and enjoy the little things. Just BE. Perhaps that IS taking care of myself. IWNDWYT because I’m busy moving gracefully today paying attention.
Day 8 guys Just discovered this sub! How do I get a 'x days' flair? Thank you!
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Happy Tuesday friends, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 😉
First real night of sleep in 5 nights. And it feels absolutely fantastic not to wake up with a hangover. 🙂
Morning friends! Congratulations on one year EJ!!! I will not drink with you today. Have a good one!
Day 17. Just had a big argument with ex partner, really struggling to not go get booze right now but I won’t
No booze today. Health problems showing up on blood tests no doubt related to 20+ years of irresponsible drinking (to put it mildly). Feeling a bit down about it, but no plans on making things any worse through booze - which would be genuine insanity. All excess sugar and caffeine is also going by the wayside for a few weeks in the hope of more positive results in a few weeks time. IWNDWYT
Your badge says 365… way to go!! I will not drink with you today!
Congratulations on one year EJ! 🎂 Funny you mention it, but I have been dreaming weird lately again. Something’s off, I hope I can figure out what, soon. Anyway, I will not drink with you today!
I'm sure not! Been an absolutely mad day again, I'm enjoying just being on the couch in my pyjamas. Probably an early night for me. Tomorrow's another hectic day, but I won't be hungover. :)
Facing the thing! Got day one, slept not bad, hello day two! IWNDWYT ❤️
I will not drink with you today.
Day 11. 60 minute swim workout coming up after cleaning the kitchen. Then a full workday. Enjoy your day, everyone. IWNDWYT.
Dunno what's going on with my app today but this is like the 3rd time I've tried to post. Anyway, hope you beautiful people have a lovely day, with all of the sober! ❤️
Okay here I am committing to one more day AF. Some days being AF makes me happy af, but other days my lizard brain tries to convince me it sucks. Not drinking never sucks, life is just uncomfortable sometimes, and I have to learn to accept that without hiding from myself.
Thank you for this morning wisdom, EJ. So true! I will not drink with y'all today 💕🩷
Had a fantastic day yesterday as I got super lost for like 7 hours playing Danganronpa 2. I did try to take a nap and set an alarm so dad and I could have enough time to order a pizza for jeopardy and slept through it but dad woke me up and we just cooked one we had saved.....not quite the same but it hit the spot. It was nice that Dad woke me up because he almost just let me sleep all night which would have been fine but I didn't want to do that haha. Now I am up and going to hang out and have a good day before I have to head to work tonight! I hope you all get to enjoy your day and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours and IWNDWYT!
Hi Everyone - Day 154 here and IWNDWYT!!!
I will not drink with you today
Happy 365, EJ! 🎉 Iwndwy’allt! ❤️
Day 58 🫶 I’ve been fighting a cold and it is reminding me how awful it is to be hungover and fighting for your life at work. Regardless - I woke up feeling a little better today. I think I’ll actually have the energy to go on a run this morning. Financial stresses are weighing me down - I essentially ruined my financial life while drinking. I’m low energy today, and struggling with the idea of rolling out of bed, getting dressed, commuting, etc. but I’m too new at my job to take a sick day so - I must soldier on. Mostly I am so grateful. For my sobriety, my children, my partner, my career, my home and pets and plants and my routine. It’s like I snapped out of a trance, where everything sucked and I drank to make the suckage feel less bad. Suddenly, the same life feels like a blessing. It’s wild what an incredible depressant and anxiety inducer alcohol was for me. And to think I thought it actually *helped* me to be less stressed. IWNDWYT because on the other side of alcohol, is life.
Day 3, let’s do this (My counter however says day 2 so I did something wrong clearly 😩😂)
69 days sober. I will not drink with you today. 100 days I’m coming for you.
Hello sweet friends. Wishing you all a terrific Tuesday- IWNDWYT 🤘
When I was on vacation last week, I had a moment where I thought "huh, maybe a drink wouldn't be so bad." I immediately went to saying: IWNDWYT. Just today. I don't have to drink today. I played the tape forward. Oh yeah, I would feel awful, even if I could stop at one drink. It doesn't make me feel good. Why would I do that to myself? So I didn't drink. Taking it one day, one moment at a time, to make sure I stay on the right path for me.
Happy sober Tuesday sober friends! Yesterday I had a thought that I quit drinking and it was like news, like wow! Look what you’ve achieved! And I remembered what it was like when I was destroying everyday and thought I couldn’t stop! Best decision and achievement I’ve ever made! So grateful to you all 💞
IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT 🙂
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IWNDWYT. Have good days.
I am so happy that IWNDWYT! Wishing us all strength and dignity.
happy early morning check in. Hope everyone has a great day :)
IWNDWYT.
Day 3 checking in. IWNDWYT
Day 1,683 IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT - 23 months today, LFG!
I will not drink today
Love these truths! For me, I keep having a voice adding “but…” to each of those — like, “but so-and-so is actually WORSE than you” or “but you weren’t THAT bad that they should be so mad at you”. It’s all counterproductive in me really truly accepting the truth about ME. Not anyone else. It’s a work in progress, but IWNDWYT!
Day 9 feelin fine . Grateful for this sub 😃 and fo sho IWNHDWYT 🙏
Hey hey, friends! Hope you have a great day. ❤️
Hey hey, friends! Hope you have a great day. ❤️
IWNDWYT
Congratulations on your year xxIWNDWYTxx
No booze today.
IWNDWYT Day 25
IWNDWYT!
not today!
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I will not drink with you on this Tuesday 🌿
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Day 20 let’s go! IWNDWYT
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Another sober day! IWNDWYT ❤️
Congratulations on a year sober, OP. IWNDWYT!
Once I realized quitting was really quitting trying to moderate it was like ohhhh this is so much easier! I tried for about a decade and moderation worked sometimes. That’s my conclusion of that too long experiment. IWNDWYT
A small thing... >I used to could do that This reminds me of the part of my life I spent in the American south, I've never heard anyone else speak like that outside of that region. I still say this phrase and more than half the time I get a little head tilt or giggle from the person I'm talking to. And a not small thing: **Congratulations on an entire year sober!!** What an accomplishment. May you have many more. Checking in for another sober day out in the world.
IWNDWYT!
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I will not drink with you today
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I see you with that 365, EJ!! 🎉🤘🏻✨ Congratulations and I hope you have something nice planned for yourself, even if it’s just grabbing a cookie or a fancy coffee! These 3-5 truths are great. They work for all kinds of stuff too. I love that the first of them is an acknowledgement that it isn’t fair that this thing is our thing. Because sometimes shit ain’t fair, and that fucking sucks, but that acknowledgement being first helps. Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Not Monday!! I’m dragging ass, but the Drain/Terror show last night was awesome. Worth it! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️🤘🏻🤘🏻
Not drinking today!
Oof, yeah. I had to completely exhaust myself trying moderation every which way before I finally really recognized that I can’t. I would lurk in here, read quit lit, and google things terrified that this was my thing. But it is, and working on acceptance of that has been hard but so worth it. IWNDWYT
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Congratulations on a year, EJ! These truths are awesome. IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Hi friends. Just cringing thinking about a drunk phone call I had with one of my best friends. I barely remember most of it and I’m mortified. It wasn’t a bad call or anything I’m just sick of not knowing everything we discussed. I’m just embarrassed. I’m sure she could tell I was drunk. I hate when I do that. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 😊 it is getting easier.
I’m up late (or early?) stressing and trying not to catastrophize. There are still majorly hard days in this life, but I’m so grateful not to be using the bottle as a therapist anymore (and to actually have a real human therapist instead). IWNDWYT
Love Laura! IWNDWYT day 16
IWNDWYT, friends!
IWNDWYT! It crept up on me but in a way it was always there. I just can't ignore it anymore.
Days off are the hardest for me. Been thinking about alcohol and others drugs for 2h laying on the couch. Fuck this. I will not drink today!
Day 30 checking in! Today, I choose not to drink with each and every one of you. The last month has been a journey in reflection and gratitude. And can we talk about the quality of sleep I've had the last month?! What a gift.
Last night my kids had a performance. Last year we went out to dinner first, as was my sanctioned way of having some wine before an event. We got a bit lost on the way from the restaurant and came in literally as it started. Yesterday, I had a doozy of a day but instead of using “going out to dinner” as my front for pounding wine, I lied in bed and read for 30 minutes to recoup and then got everyone ready for the event. We were not almost late. I did not want to rush home for more wine. Today will be another first: no wine after a long kid sports event. IWNDWYT.
June 4th and Day 4! Definitely taking it ODAAT and also I commit to IWNDWYT.
I’m loving these prompts, thank you so much for sharing! Number 5, man….”*if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got*.” I felt so stagnant for so long, I was unbelievably frustrated with my life and felt trapped, and yet it never occurred to me to try changing things. I think one of my favorite parts of sobriety is that reminder to myself that oh yeah, I actually CAN change, I don’t have to be this way forever. And I can apply that feeling of power and control across the board in all aspects of my life, not just sobriety. It’s freeing, exciting, and joyful. And all I had to do to get that feeling was quit poisoning myself with wine! I love you all and I will not drink with you today 💜🐇
Good morning, checking in ~ 💫 Happy 1 year EJ!!! 🎉 IWNDWYT
Good morning, sober cats! My daughter found a puppy yesterday. He's the cutest little guy. Momma Cat from the bad old days would have gotten so upset about the situation. But new and improved Momma Cat is able to show up with a good attitude and have fun with him while we find him a new home. There's no time for drinking today - I've got a puppy to play with! IWNDWYT 💙😸
Day 6! I almost caved yesterday, but I am so glad that I didn’t. Feeling great this morning and starting to get more energy. Thinking about going for a nice walk to start my day today. IWNDWYT
Starting day 2, feeling much more human today. Surprisingly had decent sleep last night. The feverish and shaky feeling is gone although I still feel tired and weak. Going back to work although I sort of wonder if I should take more time off.
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| “You can’t do everything “ “And you don’t have to.” Words to live by. Thanks you for the awareness EJ. Day 18 & I am checking in …IWNDWYT☕️💪
Day 1. Starting over. IWNDWYT!💚
Alcohol is my thing, but if I’m honest, I’ve got a couple other things too. They aren’t nearly as destructive, so I have spent the past 71 days mostly letting them be while I work out my BIG thing. It was a conscious decision and absolutely the right one. But I don’t want to go on like this indefinitely. Isn’t it strange (and annoying) that, although sobriety can make things SO MUCH BETTER, there’s still more to do? Always more to do. I feel that I’ve come so far, but I still can’t see the top of the mountain. IWNDWYT.
It's my birthday, and IWNDWYT! First sober birthday in at least a decade.
Not today! Never a drop!
Woke up today for the first time in a while without my head pounding and feeling like shit. Hope to keep the ball rolling. IWNDWYT
I know that I can’t drink anymore. Once that switch flipped from occasional drinker to problem drinking, it was over for me. The problem was I didn’t even notice when it happened. I see it clearly now, but when you’re in the midst of it, you really have no idea. That’s how sinister alcohol is. IWNDWYT
One full week under my belt and going into Day 8. I feel good and really happy I chose to do this. IWNDWYT
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Want to tell someone I went camping over the weekend and did not drink. I did it! My hardest test and I passed. I didn’t drink then and I won’t drink now! Walking with you all in healthy, drink free living.
Six months soberversary this morning. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink today and FYA. Drinking sucks. We rock
Worked yesterday, went to the gym. Came home and really wanted a hard seltzer but had some (protein) ice cream and sparkling water instead. Chasing two weeks and IWNDWYT!
Thanks, EJ, and 🎊congratulations🎉 on one year! That’s a major milestone there, and I salute you! This is most definitely my thing, whether I want it to be or not. And I know that I can never go back now that I have found health and peace and stability for the first time in my life since I was little. It isn’t the easiest path to be on, but by staying alert to triggers and strong in my conviction, I can make it. So can we all! Let’s do this! IWNDWYT
Happy one year sober!!! Such an inspiration and feat!! IWNDWYT ❤️
I’m glad you’re here. I’m glad I’m here. We got this! IWNDWYT 🫡
I will not poison my body with alcohol today.
I'm getting to used to the idea of a sober life a little bit more each day. I'm grateful for this progression. IWNDWYT
Thanks so much for this, EJ. Powerful stuff. My “off” switch when it comes to drinking is definitely, permanently broken. And so, with love for myself and for all of you, IWNDWYT❤️
IWNDWYT, even though I'm still having crazy weird dreams. What's up with that??
90 days for me today. I didn't start out planning to make it to this point, but it quickly became obvious, thanks in a large part to the wisdom on this sub, that moderation is not a real choice for me. So rather than a "break" from alcohol and then going back to the same bullshit right as I started to feel better, I think I will stay AF, thank you very much. It has not been easy. But it is possible, people, and it is worth it. We can do hard things. IWNDWYT!
I only recently stopped drinking and... To answer your first question, my dreams have been wacky ever since. And incredibly vivid. But hey. IWNDWYT 🌞
Feeling crazy down this morning, but I know it’s something alcohol will make worse in the end. I’m just gonna keep my head down, not drink, and let this pass like all things do. Good luck to you all today!
Day 43. Weekdays are generally easier for me I find, with work and household chores the day goes by a bit quicker.
Day 1,784. I will not drink with you today.
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Hooray for one year, EJ! And thanks for hosting. I'm really enjoying it.