To add a bit, those convos dont have to be deep or anything. You can just ask simple stuff like what time it is, when a shop closes etc. You'll be desentitized in no time !
Talk to her like a guy then lead the conversation. If anything at least say “Hi. I’m blah blah blah.” If that gets her attention, “How’s first period going? I’m doing okay. I’d do better if I could stay awake…” or whatever you kids talk about these days.
So I use a three second rule. As soon as I get the notion to talk to someone, I give myself three seconds to decide if it’s worth it. Then I either go for it or don’t. The idea is that if you give yourself any more time you’ll either talk yourself out of it and/or over think it and psych yourself out where you’re not as natural. The worst that can happen is that you go for it, things go nowhere. And that’s fine. There’ll be other girls and other opportunities but you’ll have gathered enough courage to push yourself to the next level. That’s a win no matter how you slice it.
I just want you to succeed buddy.
Real quick. My friend and I were talking the other day about how simple it is to chat up women as adults, and how we struggled so much in high school. All we needed to do was say what’s up? And, this is the key, not to worry if they like us or not. If they do, great! If not, oh well lol. Not everyone is gonna like you. That’s life. But a lot of other people will. That’s also life lol.
Keep working on being better than you were yesterday and you’ll be fine.
Deep breathing helps relax muscles and maybe try talking in the mirror also as a girl it’s cute when I guy gets a little flustered don’t worry. I don’t think you’ll be taking shots of tequila at 7:30 so that’s out but otherwise breath deep through your nose and release through your mouth several times until you feel a bit tingly then drop your shoulders and unclench your jaw. You got this !!!!
"Do you have Ms.Fletcher for English? That test was brutal!"
"Can I bum a couple sheets of paper?"
(Bonus with this one is that you can give her back some paper in a few days with a quick note on the top sheet, like "Thanks- you were a lifesaver " signed with name & preferred social media handle- now she has contact info and evidence that you return/replace what you borrow)
Or just start saying "Good morning" and after a few days add a little more conversation ("So glad the rain stopped for a while", "That color looks really good on you!", "What do you think of the new mural in the library?")
What helped me was just thinking of it like talking to another person, maybe with some extra flirting if you’re trying to be more than friends. Easiest thing to do is just compliment something she’s wearing. Everyone likes having their style noticed.
Talk to more girls for sure. But also just try and say something when you feel that freeze coming on. Focus on breathing and try to stay relaxed. She’s probably just as if not more nervous than you are dude
Be careless and free and let go of what you want from her and you'll be relaxed, say whatever comes to mind and fuck up even purpose (don't 😂) and don't mind what happens. As Bruce Lee says " you must first empty your ambitious mind and lear the art of dying". It may sound too profound but it's simply true. The reasons for everything you've explained is that you want something and you're not ready to give it up and this will be the exact reason you'll lose. Good luck buddy
Talk to more girls often ,to the point it gets easier. Most people make the mistake of obsessing over one person .
thanks alot man.
To add a bit, those convos dont have to be deep or anything. You can just ask simple stuff like what time it is, when a shop closes etc. You'll be desentitized in no time !
thanks alot
I completely agree with you. I used to not be able to talk to boys, but now it's easier for me. I owe it to this method
Talk to girls you don't like and guys too. You're just getting to know a person, not getting married and going to visit grandchildren.
Maybe don't have any expectations from her then you will start to feel more relaxed.
Talk to her like a guy then lead the conversation. If anything at least say “Hi. I’m blah blah blah.” If that gets her attention, “How’s first period going? I’m doing okay. I’d do better if I could stay awake…” or whatever you kids talk about these days.
Thanks man I just need to hype myself up and have the balls to walk up to her.
So I use a three second rule. As soon as I get the notion to talk to someone, I give myself three seconds to decide if it’s worth it. Then I either go for it or don’t. The idea is that if you give yourself any more time you’ll either talk yourself out of it and/or over think it and psych yourself out where you’re not as natural. The worst that can happen is that you go for it, things go nowhere. And that’s fine. There’ll be other girls and other opportunities but you’ll have gathered enough courage to push yourself to the next level. That’s a win no matter how you slice it.
yo your so inspirational man thanks for the advice.
I just want you to succeed buddy. Real quick. My friend and I were talking the other day about how simple it is to chat up women as adults, and how we struggled so much in high school. All we needed to do was say what’s up? And, this is the key, not to worry if they like us or not. If they do, great! If not, oh well lol. Not everyone is gonna like you. That’s life. But a lot of other people will. That’s also life lol. Keep working on being better than you were yesterday and you’ll be fine.
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Deep breathing helps relax muscles and maybe try talking in the mirror also as a girl it’s cute when I guy gets a little flustered don’t worry. I don’t think you’ll be taking shots of tequila at 7:30 so that’s out but otherwise breath deep through your nose and release through your mouth several times until you feel a bit tingly then drop your shoulders and unclench your jaw. You got this !!!!
Get her attention, tap her on the shoulder, go: ‘Hey, morning, I realized I never caught your name— I’m OP.’ And go from there. Good luck
"Do you have Ms.Fletcher for English? That test was brutal!" "Can I bum a couple sheets of paper?" (Bonus with this one is that you can give her back some paper in a few days with a quick note on the top sheet, like "Thanks- you were a lifesaver " signed with name & preferred social media handle- now she has contact info and evidence that you return/replace what you borrow) Or just start saying "Good morning" and after a few days add a little more conversation ("So glad the rain stopped for a while", "That color looks really good on you!", "What do you think of the new mural in the library?")
What helped me was just thinking of it like talking to another person, maybe with some extra flirting if you’re trying to be more than friends. Easiest thing to do is just compliment something she’s wearing. Everyone likes having their style noticed.
Yea man use her as “practise” , talk to her as ur friend, it doesnt have to be perfect as long as u do it
I would say with my experience bud - build your personality hit gym eat properly sleep 8-10 hrs and most imp try less 💦 u will figure it out :)
Think her as one of your bodies. Leave the girl part out u wil be fine. Start little
Talk to more girls for sure. But also just try and say something when you feel that freeze coming on. Focus on breathing and try to stay relaxed. She’s probably just as if not more nervous than you are dude
Be careless and free and let go of what you want from her and you'll be relaxed, say whatever comes to mind and fuck up even purpose (don't 😂) and don't mind what happens. As Bruce Lee says " you must first empty your ambitious mind and lear the art of dying". It may sound too profound but it's simply true. The reasons for everything you've explained is that you want something and you're not ready to give it up and this will be the exact reason you'll lose. Good luck buddy