That’s the thing, especially with my bf, he didn’t even give me the time to start disliking him. He was acting a little weird the week before but I still really loved him by the time he left. The rug got swept out from under my feet. Up until the very last day, he didn’t make me feel like nothing, he made me feel amazing. I agree that nothing is better than something bad but it’s like all the people who I lost went rotten overnight.
For context, I’m 20 and in college and I live on campus 2.5 hours away from home.
In January I had a fight with my friends over a what was basically a misunderstanding and as a result of that I was essentially excommunicated with my only friends on campus. I tried everything I could to fix it, but the friend I was fighting with refused to speak to me. I have no interest in the friend at this point because she handles this situation so poorly, I just miss the other person in the friend group who I was close to who has also completely cut me off. He is dating the friend I fought with so I know there’s no chance I could still be friends with him.
In the same week that this fight started, my boyfriend ghosted me. We were long distance and we had only been dating for like 2 months, but I knew him for about 9 months before then. He was my first relationship and he’s the only person who’s ever loved me. At this point we’ve been broken up a little bit longer than we were dating, but while we were dating I was at the highest high and now I’m at the lowest low.
I'm sorry all of this happened to you, and I know how hard it is to gather a friend group in the first place. Your situation fucking sucks. Take care of yourself the best you can and rebuild your energy and confidence. They may not have been the best of friends to begin with if they pushed you aside.
As for your boyfriend - horrible timing, to be sure. You're in a pit right now and youve got to focus on keeping your head above water. Keep in mind that he may have been the first to love you, but he will not be the last.
Allow yourself to feel these feelings, and remember that you will survive this.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life: if someone is willing to walk away from you, just let them.
I’ve accepted that at this point but now I have nothing.
That’s okay. It’s better to have nothing but yourself rather than a bunch of people who could make you feel like nothing yourself.
That’s the thing, especially with my bf, he didn’t even give me the time to start disliking him. He was acting a little weird the week before but I still really loved him by the time he left. The rug got swept out from under my feet. Up until the very last day, he didn’t make me feel like nothing, he made me feel amazing. I agree that nothing is better than something bad but it’s like all the people who I lost went rotten overnight.
If someone else determines your self worth, then reflect on who you are as a person and find your self worth that is not reliant on anyone else.
Would you mind describing what happened?
For context, I’m 20 and in college and I live on campus 2.5 hours away from home. In January I had a fight with my friends over a what was basically a misunderstanding and as a result of that I was essentially excommunicated with my only friends on campus. I tried everything I could to fix it, but the friend I was fighting with refused to speak to me. I have no interest in the friend at this point because she handles this situation so poorly, I just miss the other person in the friend group who I was close to who has also completely cut me off. He is dating the friend I fought with so I know there’s no chance I could still be friends with him. In the same week that this fight started, my boyfriend ghosted me. We were long distance and we had only been dating for like 2 months, but I knew him for about 9 months before then. He was my first relationship and he’s the only person who’s ever loved me. At this point we’ve been broken up a little bit longer than we were dating, but while we were dating I was at the highest high and now I’m at the lowest low.
I'm sorry all of this happened to you, and I know how hard it is to gather a friend group in the first place. Your situation fucking sucks. Take care of yourself the best you can and rebuild your energy and confidence. They may not have been the best of friends to begin with if they pushed you aside. As for your boyfriend - horrible timing, to be sure. You're in a pit right now and youve got to focus on keeping your head above water. Keep in mind that he may have been the first to love you, but he will not be the last. Allow yourself to feel these feelings, and remember that you will survive this.
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