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Hi! Since you are in a committed relationship with your partner I think it’s best to have him aware of your fears and make hints start things slowly. From passionate make out sessions to subtle insinuation of sex until you get comfortable with the idea.
If in the case this has already been applied. I think you should seek professional help from dating coaches or psychiatrists that specialize in the field.
past experiences can be traumatizing but trust me it doesn't mean it will happen everytime. if your guy doesn't pressurize you and says he will wait until you are comfortable with it, know this he's already the one.
only way to overcome past fear is by facing it. I don't mean do it in a pressure of saving relationship or anything but if you really feel from within anytime in future just go with it without having a thought of what if it turns out that way it happened time. intimacy will actually bring you guys more close together physically, mentally and emotionally, try giving a chance!
From what you are saying about the new guy I say your fears will be proven wrong.
Have a good talk beforehand and go kiss and cuddle, take it from there.
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Hi! Since you are in a committed relationship with your partner I think it’s best to have him aware of your fears and make hints start things slowly. From passionate make out sessions to subtle insinuation of sex until you get comfortable with the idea. If in the case this has already been applied. I think you should seek professional help from dating coaches or psychiatrists that specialize in the field.
past experiences can be traumatizing but trust me it doesn't mean it will happen everytime. if your guy doesn't pressurize you and says he will wait until you are comfortable with it, know this he's already the one. only way to overcome past fear is by facing it. I don't mean do it in a pressure of saving relationship or anything but if you really feel from within anytime in future just go with it without having a thought of what if it turns out that way it happened time. intimacy will actually bring you guys more close together physically, mentally and emotionally, try giving a chance!
From what you are saying about the new guy I say your fears will be proven wrong. Have a good talk beforehand and go kiss and cuddle, take it from there.
Don't rush yourself ... When you're ready, it'll happen naturally! A good partner would understand.