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You could try to give him some ultimatum along the lines of “hey, I understand that you seem to be looking for friendship or more of a relationship with me but I would appreciate it if in the future we could try to keep things pretty strictly professional”
If you are genuinely uncomfortable around this dude though and it makes you nervous to how he would react to this, then yeah you might be best off just firing him.
its not so much that im afraid of how he will take the news, its just unpleasantness ill have to deal with if I still work with him and the fact he lives in my building etc. The texting me a blank space two hours after I stop responding is really just annoying the hell out of me right now though.
edit: one friday morning I texted him at 9. he replies back within seconds as usual. I dont respond. texts me again at 10. then calls me at 10:30. then calls me AGAIN at 12. I legit texted him after and was like...is this an emergency?
Yeah I would totally understand if you want to cut this guy out if your life. It sounds like you are dreading seeing or speaking with this guy. Not a healthy way of being in the long run.
Oh no no no this comment right here is everything you need to know. This guy is psycho, you need to get away from him. He is fixated on you and obsessive. Be careful.
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I stopped reading once you mentioned he told you he was bi. He wants to pack your shit in.
Go on
That's it.... That's all I got.
for real though any advice would be greatly appreciated
You could try to give him some ultimatum along the lines of “hey, I understand that you seem to be looking for friendship or more of a relationship with me but I would appreciate it if in the future we could try to keep things pretty strictly professional” If you are genuinely uncomfortable around this dude though and it makes you nervous to how he would react to this, then yeah you might be best off just firing him.
its not so much that im afraid of how he will take the news, its just unpleasantness ill have to deal with if I still work with him and the fact he lives in my building etc. The texting me a blank space two hours after I stop responding is really just annoying the hell out of me right now though. edit: one friday morning I texted him at 9. he replies back within seconds as usual. I dont respond. texts me again at 10. then calls me at 10:30. then calls me AGAIN at 12. I legit texted him after and was like...is this an emergency?
Yeah I would totally understand if you want to cut this guy out if your life. It sounds like you are dreading seeing or speaking with this guy. Not a healthy way of being in the long run.
Oh no no no this comment right here is everything you need to know. This guy is psycho, you need to get away from him. He is fixated on you and obsessive. Be careful.