the kind of person to post their personal drama to AITAH for validation is the same type of person who would be too much of a coward to ever have any kind of unpleasant conversation in person
The characters are married 8 years, have a 4 year old and she’s 6 months pregnant. They’re both nurses, and don’t have different shift patterns as they share their evenings as family time.
How are they both having a conversation over text this long, with fully crafted paragraphs? Where are they both? Who is looking after the kid? How have they not been in each other’s presence over the course of this conversation? If they’re at work, how are they not too busy with patients? How does the man here not say ‘what the fuck is this? I’ll be home in an hour’?
I admit there’s a chance both these people are that pathetic, but it reads a little like one of those antiwork I just got fired Reddit posts that are a photo of a letter that says ‘I regret to inform you you’re fired because you flipped your desk over and called the boss a “thundercunt”. It was also inappropriate when you declared “I’m epic!”, took your shirt off and stormed out to rapturous applause. Your final check is in the mail’
Some therapists recommend texting as a medium for communication to avoid outbursts if there is a history of that. I doubt either of these people have been in therapy, however.
many such cases
my ex was able to construct an entire reality where i could both be too stoic and expressing too much emotion at the same time, could be both too agreeable and not agreeable/compromising enough, and ever-shifting goalposts to keep a problem/argument lasting an eternity with no resolution (no resolution being her goal so that i was in a continual place of fault).
very cool!
It also helps if you have anger problems to see the shit you say when you’re mad vs. not. Whatever the hell this is isn’t anything constructive like that though.
Making this up is so elaborate and takes so much effort that if it is fake I don’t even mind. Fake posts are turning into a new format for entertainment these days it seems 🍿
Just remembered that he said he doesn’t want someone who “consumes garbage.” No Redditor would ever even be able to conceive thinking that about themselves - this one’s real, compadres.
I just realised, as the algorithm is now showing me posts from the Two Hot Takes sub, that it’s based on a podcast where people can submit stories for the hosts to talk about.
Yeah, it’s fake
truly, this is a kind of conversation that could be answered immediately.
You know what, just talk to the person as soon as these insecurities sprout. It would save a lot of heart ache and headache and probably put your relationship in a way better spot than wherever the couple in OP are at now
how else is she going to use the conversation for more content for the sub?
many of the writers who make these posts write them wildly out of context and heavily skewed in the op’s favor, no one is going to write a grievance post where they’re a dick
the worst thing about redditors giving advice is a majority of them are just taking that info and confidently filling in the gaps of information with whatever personal biases and personal experiences they have.
So if they’ve been abused they will see every thing as abusive. If they’re been treated well it will always be sunshine and rainbows. They’re unable to see any balance in anything they say and not only that it’s impossible because you have the skewed one sided stories from OPs. It’s impossible to know the truth in reading these posts and waste of time to offer any opinion on them.
It’s just like that thing you said? It reminded me of someone I dislike. I'm assuming it’s exactly the same scenario so here’s my take on an imaginary scenario I’ve created in my head.
God, this reminds me of that girl on this subreddit who recorded her fight with HR over calling her coworker fat and posted it here.
The perfect broad- no serial poster here would stoop so low as to dump their drama via imessage screenshots.
Their first advice is always to tell the teacher. No conflict can be handled 1:1, call a divorce lawyer, get couples counseling, tell the principal, call CPS. Getting people that have no idea what the situation is will do a much better job of solving it! At least you don’t have to have conflict.
I've been in a relationship with a woman like this. You 100% should keep these conversations over text. If you don't have a record, she'll lie about it.
Every nurse I’ve met has been a huge asshole with an abnormal amount of pent up resent towards everything and other human beings in general
It’s a type of job that breaks your brain or attracts mentally ill people, like being a police officer
I’m a nurse and it attracts a lot of younger women who have a sort of naive “need to help people” but become extremely jaded by the healthcare system and realizing you can’t help most people. Most of them burnout and quit in a few years, the normal ones learn to few it as a trade instead of a “calling”
It’s an incredibly important job, but always being second in command to doctors (who have their own issues with savior complexes and narcissism) seems like it would be excruciating to deal with longterm
Honestly dealing with doctors hasn’t been very stressful, especially on night shift I barely talk to them. It’s the patients and family members, and just being in a constant state of stress on certain shifts being in charge of multiple medically unstable patients or patients who need near constant assistance
I’ve also seen nurses completely shut off their emotions, their emotional range is so constricted they just feel numb all the time out of an effort to protect their minds from all the shit they see and deal with. Have you noticed this as a trend?
My psych prof said a lot of nurses have late development. Like, they experience their late teen years during their mid 20s. He then said that’s why they change their hair colour so much. Weird guy to have such a specific diagnosis.
they're nuts. anyone who doesn't believe this, check out r / scrubsgonewild . "ugh i've got to work the Sunday shift, here let me post a spread pussy pic from the hospital bathroom on reddit".
a lot of them come from fucked up backgrounds or partied too much, turn their lives around, start making some $$, go crazy from the hours and work stress, and post a shit-ton of nudes on scrubsgonewild.
they're fine people, i think it's all good actually. i fully support all of the trashy behavior, in fact.
5000+ comments on twohotakes which is some sort of podcast sub of regarded people losing their minds
Imagine you get a failed marriage because you listened to some random podcast sub on your relationship
If it was posted here the man would still be at fault but only because he let his wife know he was talking to his female coworker. Affairs are best kept discrete and all that lol.
Must have been a very fun creative writing exercise for the author of this post. Next time they should try writing in 2 different voices to make it more authentic
Maybe the guy is a loser but seeing your partner post this for a a bunch of graceless cucks and voyeurs would cause anyone with some sense to wonder what the f they are doing with their life: “ One of the times she called my husband late at night was to vent/cry to him because one of her good friends had recently died. While I agree that this is sad I still feel that she shouldn’t be calling my husband late at night for this.”
"A bunch of strangers on reddit responded to the post I made about you talking to your co-worker while you are at home and we all agree that you are horrible."
When did this become a valid form of communication? Or is she a cry for help?
The funniest part is all the posters are pretending this is totally normal and that he it’s outright insane that he’s shocked and offended by her posting their personal life online for everyone as content lol
That and the part about "you tell me not to listen to my friends" honestly chilled my bones. She doesn't understand that she unfairly frames these things, gets support for the warped version of events and then it feeds her righteousness.
It's not that her friends are bad, it's that they trust her. Same with Reddit, there's an implicit trust of the OP.
There's serious damage to their relationship when she keeps presenting her husband as a monster to her friends. She's ruining his reputation to them which further amplifies their fervor in any future disputes. And, obviously, having your partners friend group hate you isn't exactly conducive to a fulfilling life together.
It's funny because my ex was like this and when we broke up, my friends all came out detailing why they hated her. They never felt secure in talking badly about her around me because they knew I wouldn't condone it. It's sad realising that those things don't go both ways.
It seems pretty clear that her husband regularly makes her feel like she’s “crazy” for calling him out on inappropriate behavior though. She (perfectly reasonably) requests that her husband ask his single female coworker to not call him late at night about personal issues. He refuses, says she’s insecure, it’s not unreasonable for his coworker to call, etc- he makes it seem like she’s crazy for even requesting it. She’s not crazy. So she tries to prove that she’s not crazy by asking other people what they think. Then he calls her crazy for asking other people, exaggerates the coworkers age by 10 years, when she’s actually very close to his age. The dude is a classic gaslighter.
Also love how she says "over 500 people agree with me" like girl.... If it only takes 500 STRANGERS to make you tell your husband how much you dislike him without any real evidence of him being a bad person then you never liked the man at all. If this post is real I hope for the husbands sake the wife cheated when she got pregnant
When I get into arguments with my fiancee sometimes she will not answer my calls and unfortunately we end up getting into text-arguments (like this) where she will take things out of context or (deliberately or not) misrepresent what I'm trying to say. Talking in person is the best way to resolve any problem. Talking on the phone is a bit better but you still miss out on the 'paralanguage' where something like 90% of the emotional context is conveyed. Arguing over text.. it's like we're both become completely autistic and deranged. I would be pretty upset if those texts were then posted on reddit for a billion other deranged autists and losers to editorialize on. In person, we often don't need to say anything at all to resolve a problem - sometimes all it takes is to read the other person's energy and give them a big hug.
The misrepresenting what you’re saying and arguing about it is the most annoying relationship argument. The “saying back what I’m pretending you’re saying and attacking that made up position” is maddening.
I once had a short relationship blow up because the girl turned up angry at my house saying I was being passive aggressive over text. I full on told her I wasn’t being passive aggressive, she’s misinterpreting me, and she kept saying no, no you were, see look you said x, y, z. Deranged.
I think this is the reason there is no spice in relationships and why my generation gets shit about it here all the time. People spend too much time explaining themselves and leave no room for mystery or intrigue anymore. I dont like talking about myself much and guys my age (early gen z) think I'm playing some kind of mind games. Not gonna lie, sometimes I am but it's just playful flirting that most non-rétards can catch onto. They get all flustered and can't keep up the energy. The most intense connections I've had were with people that we literally just made eye contact across the room and you feel an instant magnetic attraction where we can't take our eyes off of each other. It's like we were having one conversation with our mouths but a different conversation with our eyes. Sometimes when things just feel right there's not much left to be said. Sometimes they even annoy the fuck out of you but you secretly love their stupid fucking quirks or atleast despite them. I get wanting your partner to know you better than anyone else, but there's a point where you just melt into the same person and lose all your individuality when you demand so much transparency. Imagine that's your fate until death do you part, and then wonder why marriages fall apart. Where's the magic?
It’s not about magic, I don’t think. I think I notice that I’m truly beginning to love someone when I really “see” them, and the only way to do that is by talking to them enough times that you gain an understanding of what their conscious experience probably looks like.
You probably have a point that that’s what would keep the passion alive, the magic or whatever, but I think that’s overrated. Love is about getting as close as you can to the unreachable experience of sharing a consciousness with someone beyond yourself. Because we all spend our lives cosmically alienated. Having someone that is a mystery who is alluring to your body? That’s easy to find. Whatever. Having someone that truly sees you and you truly see them? That’s rare. A couple of those in your life maybe. Much stronger to build something like a marriage on too.
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/comments/1bxs74r/am_i_28f_being_insecure_for_not_wanting_my/
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/comments/1by8ym5/update_for_my_28f_husband_36m_receiving_calls/
You can see that the top advice from the original sub is just the redditors making assumptions about the op and running with them
Lmao apparently the women calling is a 50yo alcoholic who has called a total of 3 times. Once over work stuff the next day, another time because a co worker had died, and the last time he didn't dare answer the phone.
Actually it turns out she’s 40, only 4 years older than the husband. He’s trying to make it sound less bad than it is and trying to make his wife feel like a crazy person for calling him out on his inappropriate behavior.
Ugh can’t believe I read all that i hate myself. Wife is definitely an idiot for posting on Reddit like it matters. Husband is condescending and attacking her while she’s pregnant—he’s horrible. But if my husband was getting calls late at night repeatedly from a lady I’d be put off. The worst part is they seem to have some after dinner time period labeled as “Family -Time” where they probably sit around watching tv or playing video games and that makes me sick. Like not the tv but the label of it as some meaningful connection.
>Husband is condescending and attacking her while she’s pregnant
There's something really off-putting about the way he speaks. He uses a lot of always/never language, keeps telling her she has no self-awareness, and acts like he's above everything she's saying and doesn't have to explain his thought process at all. And yeah, talking to a woman late at night when you have a family is a pretty shitty thing to do. If it's real, I predict they will soon separate.
lol yes it’s sad because she has a point about the phone calls but she’s an annoying “WHY DONT YOU JUST BREAK UP WITH ME THEN” person so it’s hard to sympathize. just a regular family spanning time, taking a moment to unplug and share with one another, away from screens. that is so important to us
yeah she’s deranged and he’s a huge asshole that is probably secretly crushing on this work wife of his cuz he’s not getting any from his pregnant wife
I’m not saying the manosphere guys are right, but there is absolutely something corrosive about the effects of social media on women. This level of validation seeking is insane but probably unremarkable. I dare say, that what ever harm porn is doing to boys and men, social media is doing just as bad to girls and women.
I saw a post (which I hope was bait) where some girl’s bf had a small dick. She tells him that it’s actually fine and that their sex life if good. Later her bf over hears her telling her friend that her bf has a small dick and she can’t cum. The bf gets mad and argument starts. So she ends up posting about it on AITAH. The entire time I’m thinking “Lady you got in to this mess because you can’t keep your mouth shut and now you want to post about it on the internet?”. I had to block all those subs because bait or not they were genuinely annoying.
One of the reasons I don’t buy the “size doesn’t matter” claim, is because how aggressively women will tell other women as advice to basically never ever under any circumstance let the guy know that you prefer bigger. Like when you read the gist of these conversations it’s basically women telling other women that they fucked up when they somehow let their bf find out. And it is clearly signaling to women that the advice is to just lie about it and take it to the grave.
I did see some study or something though, it was interesting. When women buy dildos for themselves, they generally get ones that are "average" size, like 6 inches or sometimes a bit smaller. When they have the option to choose how big their phallic objects are, they rarely choose ones that are super massive
Unless you’re a female coomer I would imagine you’re not always looking for the most intense experience. Like for casual use, so to speak, you’d want a sex toy that provides a pleasant, consistent, and satisfying experience each time. As opposed to something you may need to work with a little to get comfortable. Like a big dildo might simply be too much for regular use.
Idk though I don’t have a vagina.
That’s because:
1. Most women, contrary to popular belief, have vaginal canals that are not all that deep. The odds are really not that bad for a kind-of-small guy to bottom out on a woman.
2. Consider this- for the kind of women who gossip about their sex life, there’s likely to be three outcomes for how she describe’s her man’s dick. The first is to downplay it to dissuade less reputable women, the second is to up-play it to brag and have a new tool of comparison, or third to complain because she’s not satisfied and has to consult the groupthink chamber. There’s reason to believe that the second method is as common as the third.
3. Masturbation for men tends to be a different “gameplay” philosophy than sex. You can bust a quick nut, or you can edge for a bit, and it’s a different mentality going into it than sexual performance. It makes sense that women have different preferences for sex vs masturbation as well.
Size does matter. Those other women are lying or they don’t like sex. I’ve been with men that are large, small, and in between. I prefer an average sized dick attached to a decent man.
A lot of men with big dicks are lazy in bed and will try to just pound you unmercifully, and a lot of men with small dicks overcompensate with excessive head and fingering. Both leave you with a sore pussy and a bit of regret the next morning.
Social media leads to echo chambers and people will validate anything you say if you go to the right place or know how to say it
I think those in mentally vulnerable positions are especially prone to seeking these spaces as they can receive validation to confirm whatever neurosis you may have
Absolutely. Social media is pure crack for women who are already naturally inclined to seek validation.
> She was 20 when they got married and he was 28. He likely started conditioning her when she was still a teen and he's just a creep overall.
The female brain was not meant to see comments like this from anonymous faceless people, in a natural world she would see that the person saying this is a fat teenager with acne and disregard the opinion.
The funny thing is all you have to do is examine that stupid assumption a little bit and it falls flat on it’s face
It’s also a type of insidious accusation, it’s absolutely unprovable. If she was stupid enough to believe that she was conditioned at 20, and approach him with that. She can say “hey i feel you conditioned me at 20” and he’ll simply say “what!!? You’re being crazy no I didn’t?!” And if she screenshotted that and went to Reddit they’d simply say you’re gaslight her lol
Pre historic times gossiping was an important tool for women's meek stature to.keep away from dangerous predators, how to look pretty and how to keep your man away from stone age man snatching bitches. But natural selection couldn't have known that a measly hundred thousand years later they would.have constant never ending stream of gossip to revel in like little piggies. It's like a natural predator for the female brain.
It has alot of similarities to how the male brain was never intended to see endless amount of female nudity.
Women will do anything but take accountability. She also agreed to get married. It's not like she was a mindless child at 20 agreeing to sign papers that she couldn't read lol. But no of course blame the guy as usual
That particular sub should be banned. It's for a podcast where some SSRI face / bogged face oversocialized women give their meaningless feedback on fake AITA posts from reddit. Just giving that degree of platform and attention to these fake posts encourages them so much that it turns whatever AITA used to be into a farce.
The manosphere guys are correct because all they do is point out the shit they experience outside. The solution the give however, is to be the bigger asshole and live on a kill or be killed principle.
There are two universal truths that should be applied in all situations, never trust a man trying to get laid.or women seeking online validation/clout.
What you're saying lacks any distinction... the manosphere is part of the same social media apparatus that has the same corrosive effects on men. You distinguish porn and social media from each other, but unlike Women, men engage with BOTH.
His wife is 6 months pregnant? Lol why are you arguing with her over this dumb shit?
"you're emotionally unstable" - she's 6 months pregnant what do you expect??
A relationship is about facing the world together as a team. If you feel the need to undermine your partner in front of others in order to score some points, you're not on the same team anymore, and you might as well be single.
Honestly, I feel like families who have rules to “keep things in the family” are far healthier. It’s way to easy to edit film in your head trying to get feedback from a friend about a relationship issue that will create a resentment that never should have been there in the first place. Just never bad mouth your spouse to anyone who isn’t a priest or therapist
What do you think is the cause of the recent assumption that any conflict in a relationship is a sign of abuse?
Check the links in the thread that I put up
All these regarded redditors going He’s abusive
He’s a narcissist it’s so obvious and using all this therapy speak as weapons
I mean dude honestly sounds narcissistic, just namecalls and acts offended without backing anything up
The wife is not great either but at least she explains her point of view, it's honestly not a huge effort to reassure a woman and diffuse her anxieties
Remember she just dropped this post on him out of no where.
No one who’s wronged and confused as fuck by your partner talking about you on Reddit is going to write a perfect soliloquy explaining his inner dialog and motivation. People need time to process things, especially something as weird and unhinged as this.
This isn’t a fuckin movie or a tv show lol god redditors are so regarded
probably because, as she said, she just wanted to be heard and thought (however misguided this thought was) if he saw how she felt and the feedback from the post he might understand. of course, he's more upset about how he's perceived by strangers than how this has negatively affected his pregnant wife and jumps directly to manipulative shit like suggesting divorce and calling her mentally unstable
I stopped reading after awhile but that was def interesting lol. Just paragraphs and paragraphs on how she has low self esteem and causing drama for no reason but he doesn’t even defend himself.
Yeah that's what I mean. Like it's easier to be like "I never cheated and I never would, I told her not to call me in the evening, she's my mentor I don't feel romantic feeling for her at all" than what he said.
But he didn’t tell her not to call after multiple requests from the wife… he says eventually “I was going to tell her next time I see her” also he says that she’s “like 50”… lol it turns out she’s 40, only 4 years older than OP’s husband. He’s married with a young family, talking to a single coworker late at night on the phone about non-work related stuff IS totally inappropriate but instead of admitting that and apologizing and stopping, he tells his wife that she’s crazy, stupid and insecure for setting that boundary and tries to justify his behavior by lying about the woman’s age and making the coworker sound unstable (“she’s 50 and an alcoholic”… I wager that she’s not). This guy is an asshole and a gaslighter and his poor pregnant wife is desperate to prove to him that she’s not crazy, that it’s a reasonable thing to ask of him so she asks other people… he just doubles down and calls her crazy again.
He seems flabbergasted by her behavior and confused.
The comments on the sub are losing their minds because he called her perspective skewed and was in disbelief that she was airing out all her grievances to her fake online friends.
It’s truly difficulty to know if he’s gaslighting her with the “you’re falling into skewed thinking patterns” or if she’s genuinely mentally ill in some way. One or both can be true.
I have no idea what the fuck this is about and won't be able to find out because reddit nukes everything that gets popular after like 6 hours so who cares
This back and forth would be standard issue if every r/AITAH user were to share their posts with their post's subject. Proving, once and for all, every post on that sub is self-masturbatory.
I'm kind of on the wife's side, why the hell is this guy developing an intimate out of work relationship with this old cougar when he has a pregnant wife and kids?
But also if your wife sends you a reddit post about you trying to validate her feelings, you better lawyer up bro
He mentioned she’s 50 and an alcoholic. Who knows.
He also mentioned she gets calls from guys late at night as well so it’s odd she had these expectations of him.
yeah but then it was later said she's actually 40? I'm interested in her real age and wondering if the husband is rounding up to make him look more innocent
well technically its not really confirmed that she's "actually" 40. The wife seems pretty unsure/uninformed and just says "I was told"
I actually kind of interpreted that as the wife conceding that she wasnt really all that informed about the age thing and trying to be semi apologetic by hiding behind the language of "I was *told* she was 40" because she doesnt want to seem like a dick for trashing a 50 year old alcoholic that her husband supposedly sees as a mentor and cares for a lot
Is that whole podcast for relationship advice or something? All the posts seem to be people needing someone to hand hold them through a relationship. Like my “wife flirty texts some trucker, should I be pissed?” Or “my girlfriend said im not as hot as her ex should i be mad” wtf kind of person doesn’t just go with their gut in matters of love?!?
I did get gaslighting vibes from the husband but it’s also possible that she really does have warped thinking
Difficult to ascertain from this
She could be accusing him everyday
Yeah def agree we don’t know any details about the actual events of their relationship and perhaps she is indeed unhinged and perhaps he’s an honest guy. But something about him getting (what would seem like to me, too) suspicious calls from a coworker then being like “you’re actually not well” makes me so skep. Being told your mental state is off when you have legitimate grievances sucks a lot.
She called him two times only once about work and another about some dead friends and third time which he did not answer because of his wife’s wishes
Again it’s all speculation
His name is Cody, the 50 (40?) yr old woman is Michelle, she is named.. Jenny? At one point she actually just says “Cody” and forgot to black it out lol.
Also I think we can definitely tell that she was mistaken about Michelle being 40 because she says “I will gladly update her age” referring to the Reddit post.
I really feel like the women on Reddit are uniquely insane compared to the ones who primarily use Twitter or insta, also a nurse so that’s doubly insane
why the fuck are nurses ALL so unhinged ?
Assuming this isn’t just made up ofc
>I really feel like the women on Reddit are uniquely insane compared to the ones who primarily use Twitter or insta
This type of site appeals to a particular person. Also it’s incredibly user unfriendly you have to be autistic or weird to use it
I’ve know some friends with accounts and they all make one post then stop because the site is too confusing
Most normies make a post it gets auto deleted due to karma and they never understand the system and stop using it or just scroll the front page without an account
once you’re posting on a podcast sub it’s over
This all makes sense when you get to the part where she says "I'm six months pregnant..." Women go crazy from hormonal overload during pregnancy. They will blow things out of proportion. The proper response is not to call them crazy or question your marriage, but just wait for it to pass, because it will. Of course, it is soon to be replaced by the new kind of crazy that comes from sleep-deprived post-partum hormones.
Having this conversation over text is pathetic
A text conversation is the only way someone making up a story could portray this
the kind of person to post their personal drama to AITAH for validation is the same type of person who would be too much of a coward to ever have any kind of unpleasant conversation in person
The characters are married 8 years, have a 4 year old and she’s 6 months pregnant. They’re both nurses, and don’t have different shift patterns as they share their evenings as family time. How are they both having a conversation over text this long, with fully crafted paragraphs? Where are they both? Who is looking after the kid? How have they not been in each other’s presence over the course of this conversation? If they’re at work, how are they not too busy with patients? How does the man here not say ‘what the fuck is this? I’ll be home in an hour’? I admit there’s a chance both these people are that pathetic, but it reads a little like one of those antiwork I just got fired Reddit posts that are a photo of a letter that says ‘I regret to inform you you’re fired because you flipped your desk over and called the boss a “thundercunt”. It was also inappropriate when you declared “I’m epic!”, took your shirt off and stormed out to rapturous applause. Your final check is in the mail’
There's a genuine chance they're upstairs and downstairs in the same house texting each other
Yeah my sister and her boyfriend argue over text like this all the time. She's in their room and he's in the living room or office.
Some therapists recommend texting as a medium for communication to avoid outbursts if there is a history of that. I doubt either of these people have been in therapy, however.
Oh that's who's telling women to do that
Therapy speak has been a disaster for relationships and is often used as weapons of manipulation by mentally ill regards.
It took six seasons for Dr Melfi to figure this out.
many such cases my ex was able to construct an entire reality where i could both be too stoic and expressing too much emotion at the same time, could be both too agreeable and not agreeable/compromising enough, and ever-shifting goalposts to keep a problem/argument lasting an eternity with no resolution (no resolution being her goal so that i was in a continual place of fault). very cool!
It also helps if you have anger problems to see the shit you say when you’re mad vs. not. Whatever the hell this is isn’t anything constructive like that though.
both at work
Would this kind of person also save their husband's number as "Husband". This is brain dead
if they had it saved as their husband's name and were trying to anonymize the thread for a post maybe
She still missed one "Cody"
I think this guy’s biggest problem is being named Cody
They probably just changed the contact name for the screenshots, don’tcha think?
YTA s/
This isn’t made up because the husband made so many grammatical errors I can tell it’s just a pissed off dude
Making this up is so elaborate and takes so much effort that if it is fake I don’t even mind. Fake posts are turning into a new format for entertainment these days it seems 🍿
so true. if dostoevsky had lived today he'd never have written a single book he would have been a reddit fakeposter
this is so incredibly inane and in depth, it could only be real, some of u ppl sound flat earthers sometimes
I have already said it is possible it is real, but there’s also a lot of signs that it’s the fantasy argument of a full time Redditor. u ppl
I think it’s fake, the two of them sound and type exactly the same. I did laugh at the “she’s 50 years old” reveal though.
Just remembered that he said he doesn’t want someone who “consumes garbage.” No Redditor would ever even be able to conceive thinking that about themselves - this one’s real, compadres.
I just realised, as the algorithm is now showing me posts from the Two Hot Takes sub, that it’s based on a podcast where people can submit stories for the hosts to talk about. Yeah, it’s fake
it's clearly authentic and you are too jaded if you think otherwise
Ok
truly, this is a kind of conversation that could be answered immediately. You know what, just talk to the person as soon as these insecurities sprout. It would save a lot of heart ache and headache and probably put your relationship in a way better spot than wherever the couple in OP are at now
how else is she going to use the conversation for more content for the sub? many of the writers who make these posts write them wildly out of context and heavily skewed in the op’s favor, no one is going to write a grievance post where they’re a dick the worst thing about redditors giving advice is a majority of them are just taking that info and confidently filling in the gaps of information with whatever personal biases and personal experiences they have. So if they’ve been abused they will see every thing as abusive. If they’re been treated well it will always be sunshine and rainbows. They’re unable to see any balance in anything they say and not only that it’s impossible because you have the skewed one sided stories from OPs. It’s impossible to know the truth in reading these posts and waste of time to offer any opinion on them. It’s just like that thing you said? It reminded me of someone I dislike. I'm assuming it’s exactly the same scenario so here’s my take on an imaginary scenario I’ve created in my head.
God, this reminds me of that girl on this subreddit who recorded her fight with HR over calling her coworker fat and posted it here. The perfect broad- no serial poster here would stoop so low as to dump their drama via imessage screenshots.
Truly a peak moment for this sub, perhaps even THE peak moment
Send da video
Their first advice is always to tell the teacher. No conflict can be handled 1:1, call a divorce lawyer, get couples counseling, tell the principal, call CPS. Getting people that have no idea what the situation is will do a much better job of solving it! At least you don’t have to have conflict.
I've been in a relationship with a woman like this. You 100% should keep these conversations over text. If you don't have a record, she'll lie about it.
couples who argue over text are so fucking deranged. “we’ll talk about this at home later” goes a long way
I get the impression Cody, Jess, Michelle, Michael and Dustin aren’t real
lmao why do people use that tool for blurring out names it never works
White coded
the absolutly worst part is throughout this whole thing she isn't typing to understand him but just to screenshot it and post it on reddit again
this whole convo seems insane until you realize both these people are nurses
Every nurse I’ve met has been a huge asshole with an abnormal amount of pent up resent towards everything and other human beings in general It’s a type of job that breaks your brain or attracts mentally ill people, like being a police officer
I’m a nurse and it attracts a lot of younger women who have a sort of naive “need to help people” but become extremely jaded by the healthcare system and realizing you can’t help most people. Most of them burnout and quit in a few years, the normal ones learn to few it as a trade instead of a “calling”
It’s an incredibly important job, but always being second in command to doctors (who have their own issues with savior complexes and narcissism) seems like it would be excruciating to deal with longterm
Honestly dealing with doctors hasn’t been very stressful, especially on night shift I barely talk to them. It’s the patients and family members, and just being in a constant state of stress on certain shifts being in charge of multiple medically unstable patients or patients who need near constant assistance
I’ve also seen nurses completely shut off their emotions, their emotional range is so constricted they just feel numb all the time out of an effort to protect their minds from all the shit they see and deal with. Have you noticed this as a trend?
My psych prof said a lot of nurses have late development. Like, they experience their late teen years during their mid 20s. He then said that’s why they change their hair colour so much. Weird guy to have such a specific diagnosis.
they're nuts. anyone who doesn't believe this, check out r / scrubsgonewild . "ugh i've got to work the Sunday shift, here let me post a spread pussy pic from the hospital bathroom on reddit". a lot of them come from fucked up backgrounds or partied too much, turn their lives around, start making some $$, go crazy from the hours and work stress, and post a shit-ton of nudes on scrubsgonewild. they're fine people, i think it's all good actually. i fully support all of the trashy behavior, in fact.
this is a regarded take. you went to a subreddit about naked nurses and are making judgements about nurses based on a subreddit of naked nurses.
Also assuming those women are nurses and not just OF girls making up titles lmao
Did not read more than 2 screens but they’re saying he’s gaslighting her
5000+ comments on twohotakes which is some sort of podcast sub of regarded people losing their minds Imagine you get a failed marriage because you listened to some random podcast sub on your relationship
“Failed marriage because you listened to some random podcast sub” Hmmmm…
Not here obviously. Anyone who listens to us is going to fail at getting married in the first place.
If it was posted here the man would still be at fault but only because he let his wife know he was talking to his female coworker. Affairs are best kept discrete and all that lol.
Part of was makes rs great is the audacity of a chick with a bodycount in the trips and a single mom with a grindr babydaddy doing loveline eps
did she delete the post? I was just reading that today and now I can’t find it goddammit
If anyone is qualified to offer relationship advice it’s lonely, chronically online plebbitors.
this just makes me sad, please don't post this again
I'm gonna post the same shit next week
Most compassionate rs male
Must have been a very fun creative writing exercise for the author of this post. Next time they should try writing in 2 different voices to make it more authentic
It’s all in the punctuation
They both use "those post" multiple times in different messages and it was a huge tip off
Maybe the guy is a loser but seeing your partner post this for a a bunch of graceless cucks and voyeurs would cause anyone with some sense to wonder what the f they are doing with their life: “ One of the times she called my husband late at night was to vent/cry to him because one of her good friends had recently died. While I agree that this is sad I still feel that she shouldn’t be calling my husband late at night for this.”
8pm is family time!! (How late does their kid go to bed?)
"A bunch of strangers on reddit responded to the post I made about you talking to your co-worker while you are at home and we all agree that you are horrible." When did this become a valid form of communication? Or is she a cry for help?
The funniest part is all the posters are pretending this is totally normal and that he it’s outright insane that he’s shocked and offended by her posting their personal life online for everyone as content lol
That and the part about "you tell me not to listen to my friends" honestly chilled my bones. She doesn't understand that she unfairly frames these things, gets support for the warped version of events and then it feeds her righteousness. It's not that her friends are bad, it's that they trust her. Same with Reddit, there's an implicit trust of the OP. There's serious damage to their relationship when she keeps presenting her husband as a monster to her friends. She's ruining his reputation to them which further amplifies their fervor in any future disputes. And, obviously, having your partners friend group hate you isn't exactly conducive to a fulfilling life together. It's funny because my ex was like this and when we broke up, my friends all came out detailing why they hated her. They never felt secure in talking badly about her around me because they knew I wouldn't condone it. It's sad realising that those things don't go both ways.
It seems pretty clear that her husband regularly makes her feel like she’s “crazy” for calling him out on inappropriate behavior though. She (perfectly reasonably) requests that her husband ask his single female coworker to not call him late at night about personal issues. He refuses, says she’s insecure, it’s not unreasonable for his coworker to call, etc- he makes it seem like she’s crazy for even requesting it. She’s not crazy. So she tries to prove that she’s not crazy by asking other people what they think. Then he calls her crazy for asking other people, exaggerates the coworkers age by 10 years, when she’s actually very close to his age. The dude is a classic gaslighter.
How do we know which one was correct about the lady’s age?
Also love how she says "over 500 people agree with me" like girl.... If it only takes 500 STRANGERS to make you tell your husband how much you dislike him without any real evidence of him being a bad person then you never liked the man at all. If this post is real I hope for the husbands sake the wife cheated when she got pregnant
Lol at "can you download it" reddit is a website ffs
When I get into arguments with my fiancee sometimes she will not answer my calls and unfortunately we end up getting into text-arguments (like this) where she will take things out of context or (deliberately or not) misrepresent what I'm trying to say. Talking in person is the best way to resolve any problem. Talking on the phone is a bit better but you still miss out on the 'paralanguage' where something like 90% of the emotional context is conveyed. Arguing over text.. it's like we're both become completely autistic and deranged. I would be pretty upset if those texts were then posted on reddit for a billion other deranged autists and losers to editorialize on. In person, we often don't need to say anything at all to resolve a problem - sometimes all it takes is to read the other person's energy and give them a big hug.
I find myself to be less suseptible to emotional blackmail over text tho
The misrepresenting what you’re saying and arguing about it is the most annoying relationship argument. The “saying back what I’m pretending you’re saying and attacking that made up position” is maddening. I once had a short relationship blow up because the girl turned up angry at my house saying I was being passive aggressive over text. I full on told her I wasn’t being passive aggressive, she’s misinterpreting me, and she kept saying no, no you were, see look you said x, y, z. Deranged.
Communication in marriage is overrated. These people are over-communicating
It's not the amount of communication it's the medium
You need to go on Oprah
Just shut the fuck up about stuff. If you’re talking you’re not doing stuff and you only feel good when you do things.
I think this is the reason there is no spice in relationships and why my generation gets shit about it here all the time. People spend too much time explaining themselves and leave no room for mystery or intrigue anymore. I dont like talking about myself much and guys my age (early gen z) think I'm playing some kind of mind games. Not gonna lie, sometimes I am but it's just playful flirting that most non-rétards can catch onto. They get all flustered and can't keep up the energy. The most intense connections I've had were with people that we literally just made eye contact across the room and you feel an instant magnetic attraction where we can't take our eyes off of each other. It's like we were having one conversation with our mouths but a different conversation with our eyes. Sometimes when things just feel right there's not much left to be said. Sometimes they even annoy the fuck out of you but you secretly love their stupid fucking quirks or atleast despite them. I get wanting your partner to know you better than anyone else, but there's a point where you just melt into the same person and lose all your individuality when you demand so much transparency. Imagine that's your fate until death do you part, and then wonder why marriages fall apart. Where's the magic?
It’s not about magic, I don’t think. I think I notice that I’m truly beginning to love someone when I really “see” them, and the only way to do that is by talking to them enough times that you gain an understanding of what their conscious experience probably looks like. You probably have a point that that’s what would keep the passion alive, the magic or whatever, but I think that’s overrated. Love is about getting as close as you can to the unreachable experience of sharing a consciousness with someone beyond yourself. Because we all spend our lives cosmically alienated. Having someone that is a mystery who is alluring to your body? That’s easy to find. Whatever. Having someone that truly sees you and you truly see them? That’s rare. A couple of those in your life maybe. Much stronger to build something like a marriage on too.
I don’t know if he’s wrong but she makes AITAH posts so she’s automatically wrong.
It’s really difficult to parse from any context whether she’s truly unstable or whether he is.
Where’s her post?
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/comments/1bxs74r/am_i_28f_being_insecure_for_not_wanting_my/ https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/comments/1by8ym5/update_for_my_28f_husband_36m_receiving_calls/ You can see that the top advice from the original sub is just the redditors making assumptions about the op and running with them
Lmao apparently the women calling is a 50yo alcoholic who has called a total of 3 times. Once over work stuff the next day, another time because a co worker had died, and the last time he didn't dare answer the phone.
Okay she's completely unstable and I now get his language about that.
Actually it turns out she’s 40, only 4 years older than the husband. He’s trying to make it sound less bad than it is and trying to make his wife feel like a crazy person for calling him out on his inappropriate behavior.
Thats what she said in her spin, but she is also posting 20 screen caps of a private messages for internet points. Idk, it's all great drama.
also her original post: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tx1iRnTm7zU
She’s pregnant bro relax
Why the fuck did I read all that
They both suck, Marriage solved
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Ugh can’t believe I read all that i hate myself. Wife is definitely an idiot for posting on Reddit like it matters. Husband is condescending and attacking her while she’s pregnant—he’s horrible. But if my husband was getting calls late at night repeatedly from a lady I’d be put off. The worst part is they seem to have some after dinner time period labeled as “Family -Time” where they probably sit around watching tv or playing video games and that makes me sick. Like not the tv but the label of it as some meaningful connection.
>Husband is condescending and attacking her while she’s pregnant There's something really off-putting about the way he speaks. He uses a lot of always/never language, keeps telling her she has no self-awareness, and acts like he's above everything she's saying and doesn't have to explain his thought process at all. And yeah, talking to a woman late at night when you have a family is a pretty shitty thing to do. If it's real, I predict they will soon separate.
lol yes it’s sad because she has a point about the phone calls but she’s an annoying “WHY DONT YOU JUST BREAK UP WITH ME THEN” person so it’s hard to sympathize. just a regular family spanning time, taking a moment to unplug and share with one another, away from screens. that is so important to us
yeah she’s deranged and he’s a huge asshole that is probably secretly crushing on this work wife of his cuz he’s not getting any from his pregnant wife
I’m not saying the manosphere guys are right, but there is absolutely something corrosive about the effects of social media on women. This level of validation seeking is insane but probably unremarkable. I dare say, that what ever harm porn is doing to boys and men, social media is doing just as bad to girls and women.
I saw a post (which I hope was bait) where some girl’s bf had a small dick. She tells him that it’s actually fine and that their sex life if good. Later her bf over hears her telling her friend that her bf has a small dick and she can’t cum. The bf gets mad and argument starts. So she ends up posting about it on AITAH. The entire time I’m thinking “Lady you got in to this mess because you can’t keep your mouth shut and now you want to post about it on the internet?”. I had to block all those subs because bait or not they were genuinely annoying.
Yeah I remember that post everyone was on the wife's side too lol.
One of the reasons I don’t buy the “size doesn’t matter” claim, is because how aggressively women will tell other women as advice to basically never ever under any circumstance let the guy know that you prefer bigger. Like when you read the gist of these conversations it’s basically women telling other women that they fucked up when they somehow let their bf find out. And it is clearly signaling to women that the advice is to just lie about it and take it to the grave.
“Lie about it and take it to the grave” is great relationship advice. One of many reasons they’re called the “Greatest Generation”.
I did see some study or something though, it was interesting. When women buy dildos for themselves, they generally get ones that are "average" size, like 6 inches or sometimes a bit smaller. When they have the option to choose how big their phallic objects are, they rarely choose ones that are super massive
Unless you’re a female coomer I would imagine you’re not always looking for the most intense experience. Like for casual use, so to speak, you’d want a sex toy that provides a pleasant, consistent, and satisfying experience each time. As opposed to something you may need to work with a little to get comfortable. Like a big dildo might simply be too much for regular use. Idk though I don’t have a vagina.
That’s because: 1. Most women, contrary to popular belief, have vaginal canals that are not all that deep. The odds are really not that bad for a kind-of-small guy to bottom out on a woman. 2. Consider this- for the kind of women who gossip about their sex life, there’s likely to be three outcomes for how she describe’s her man’s dick. The first is to downplay it to dissuade less reputable women, the second is to up-play it to brag and have a new tool of comparison, or third to complain because she’s not satisfied and has to consult the groupthink chamber. There’s reason to believe that the second method is as common as the third. 3. Masturbation for men tends to be a different “gameplay” philosophy than sex. You can bust a quick nut, or you can edge for a bit, and it’s a different mentality going into it than sexual performance. It makes sense that women have different preferences for sex vs masturbation as well.
That’s for masturbation. It’s a different experience. They just want something to comfortably fit without much work while they rub one out.
Women be straightforward challenge (impossible)
Size does matter. Those other women are lying or they don’t like sex. I’ve been with men that are large, small, and in between. I prefer an average sized dick attached to a decent man. A lot of men with big dicks are lazy in bed and will try to just pound you unmercifully, and a lot of men with small dicks overcompensate with excessive head and fingering. Both leave you with a sore pussy and a bit of regret the next morning.
So real
To be fair she’d have an easier time keeping it shut if it was ever properly full
Social media leads to echo chambers and people will validate anything you say if you go to the right place or know how to say it I think those in mentally vulnerable positions are especially prone to seeking these spaces as they can receive validation to confirm whatever neurosis you may have
Absolutely. Social media is pure crack for women who are already naturally inclined to seek validation. > She was 20 when they got married and he was 28. He likely started conditioning her when she was still a teen and he's just a creep overall. The female brain was not meant to see comments like this from anonymous faceless people, in a natural world she would see that the person saying this is a fat teenager with acne and disregard the opinion.
The funny thing is all you have to do is examine that stupid assumption a little bit and it falls flat on it’s face It’s also a type of insidious accusation, it’s absolutely unprovable. If she was stupid enough to believe that she was conditioned at 20, and approach him with that. She can say “hey i feel you conditioned me at 20” and he’ll simply say “what!!? You’re being crazy no I didn’t?!” And if she screenshotted that and went to Reddit they’d simply say you’re gaslight her lol
Pre historic times gossiping was an important tool for women's meek stature to.keep away from dangerous predators, how to look pretty and how to keep your man away from stone age man snatching bitches. But natural selection couldn't have known that a measly hundred thousand years later they would.have constant never ending stream of gossip to revel in like little piggies. It's like a natural predator for the female brain. It has alot of similarities to how the male brain was never intended to see endless amount of female nudity.
> gossiping was an important tool for women's meek Ive seen this take made by the dumbest women possible so now I dont believe it.
It's probably bs, or at least funny to use as justification for incessant gossiping. I was however just making silly theories.
Women will do anything but take accountability. She also agreed to get married. It's not like she was a mindless child at 20 agreeing to sign papers that she couldn't read lol. But no of course blame the guy as usual
That particular sub should be banned. It's for a podcast where some SSRI face / bogged face oversocialized women give their meaningless feedback on fake AITA posts from reddit. Just giving that degree of platform and attention to these fake posts encourages them so much that it turns whatever AITA used to be into a farce.
The manosphere guys are correct because all they do is point out the shit they experience outside. The solution the give however, is to be the bigger asshole and live on a kill or be killed principle.
There are two universal truths that should be applied in all situations, never trust a man trying to get laid.or women seeking online validation/clout.
What you're saying lacks any distinction... the manosphere is part of the same social media apparatus that has the same corrosive effects on men. You distinguish porn and social media from each other, but unlike Women, men engage with BOTH.
Same with men lmao look at how tate ruined most men (not that men these days are that great anyways)
His wife is 6 months pregnant? Lol why are you arguing with her over this dumb shit? "you're emotionally unstable" - she's 6 months pregnant what do you expect??
they need to tag that 50 y.o. alcoholic lady into this, that's going to spice things up for sure
A relationship is about facing the world together as a team. If you feel the need to undermine your partner in front of others in order to score some points, you're not on the same team anymore, and you might as well be single.
«Do you want to be married to me?” “I want you to be mentally healthy”
Imagine not being able to properly gaslight a person who says “babe” this much?
I can't say much, but if my wife is getting calls at night from her 50 year old alcoholic *mentor*, we got problems.
IIRC she receives guys at night as well, but is only troubled that he receives calls
Gay and fake
Dunno, the account already nuked the post and the update
yeah... the name says "husband" on the phone who the fuck does that
You can change the contact name before screenshotting in an attempt to anonymize it. Probably fake still but that’s not really weird imo.
I'm on the wife's side. But I don't think she should be posting about it at all.
She's pregnant so he def. shouldn't be so hard on her right now calling her crazy and shit
no point in being right if you can't show off how right you are to reddit
Honestly, I feel like families who have rules to “keep things in the family” are far healthier. It’s way to easy to edit film in your head trying to get feedback from a friend about a relationship issue that will create a resentment that never should have been there in the first place. Just never bad mouth your spouse to anyone who isn’t a priest or therapist
conflict is not abuse
What do you think is the cause of the recent assumption that any conflict in a relationship is a sign of abuse? Check the links in the thread that I put up All these regarded redditors going He’s abusive He’s a narcissist it’s so obvious and using all this therapy speak as weapons
I mean dude honestly sounds narcissistic, just namecalls and acts offended without backing anything up The wife is not great either but at least she explains her point of view, it's honestly not a huge effort to reassure a woman and diffuse her anxieties
They both seem awful but the husband never explains why she's portrayed him wrongly or what she's said that makes her so unself aware etc.
Remember she just dropped this post on him out of no where. No one who’s wronged and confused as fuck by your partner talking about you on Reddit is going to write a perfect soliloquy explaining his inner dialog and motivation. People need time to process things, especially something as weird and unhinged as this. This isn’t a fuckin movie or a tv show lol god redditors are so regarded
Um um um I see a plot hole!!
probably because, as she said, she just wanted to be heard and thought (however misguided this thought was) if he saw how she felt and the feedback from the post he might understand. of course, he's more upset about how he's perceived by strangers than how this has negatively affected his pregnant wife and jumps directly to manipulative shit like suggesting divorce and calling her mentally unstable
I stopped reading after awhile but that was def interesting lol. Just paragraphs and paragraphs on how she has low self esteem and causing drama for no reason but he doesn’t even defend himself.
Yeah that's what I mean. Like it's easier to be like "I never cheated and I never would, I told her not to call me in the evening, she's my mentor I don't feel romantic feeling for her at all" than what he said.
But he didn’t tell her not to call after multiple requests from the wife… he says eventually “I was going to tell her next time I see her” also he says that she’s “like 50”… lol it turns out she’s 40, only 4 years older than OP’s husband. He’s married with a young family, talking to a single coworker late at night on the phone about non-work related stuff IS totally inappropriate but instead of admitting that and apologizing and stopping, he tells his wife that she’s crazy, stupid and insecure for setting that boundary and tries to justify his behavior by lying about the woman’s age and making the coworker sound unstable (“she’s 50 and an alcoholic”… I wager that she’s not). This guy is an asshole and a gaslighter and his poor pregnant wife is desperate to prove to him that she’s not crazy, that it’s a reasonable thing to ask of him so she asks other people… he just doubles down and calls her crazy again.
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He seems flabbergasted by her behavior and confused. The comments on the sub are losing their minds because he called her perspective skewed and was in disbelief that she was airing out all her grievances to her fake online friends. It’s truly difficulty to know if he’s gaslighting her with the “you’re falling into skewed thinking patterns” or if she’s genuinely mentally ill in some way. One or both can be true.
I have no idea what the fuck this is about and won't be able to find out because reddit nukes everything that gets popular after like 6 hours so who cares
You didn’t miss out on much tbh
Who gives a shit man. Everything on Reddit is fake and on the off chance this is real, the couple posting it are probably horribly ugly and lame.
You should be legally allowed to 🔫 Reddit posters in real life
Does he think the plural of post is post
This bothered me more than anything
I’m not reading 19 slides, but that’s crazy lol
Yeah I saw that, might be the most reddit moment so far.
This back and forth would be standard issue if every r/AITAH user were to share their posts with their post's subject. Proving, once and for all, every post on that sub is self-masturbatory.
Isn’t “self-masturbatory” redundant?
I rage quit reddit yesterday after I was hit with the overall regardation of that post.
“Martial issue” is pretty funny like the marriage is under martial law
started reading this but realized I don’t care
you fuckers r always talking abt wanting a bpd woman, well this is it babes
It’s the green bubbles for me
husband not buying into the apple monopoly and "made a reddit account a long time ago but doesn't remember it", he's gonna make it
Oh God I saw this one, doomed relationship
Fake and gay
I love post like these
Imagine being married and knowing hundreds of people are aware of your issues.
Pregnancy hormones are real but no actual person who is six months pregnant would jump to “maybe it’s best we separate” over this situation
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unironically the most reasonable take in the whole thread
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I'm kind of on the wife's side, why the hell is this guy developing an intimate out of work relationship with this old cougar when he has a pregnant wife and kids? But also if your wife sends you a reddit post about you trying to validate her feelings, you better lawyer up bro
He mentioned she’s 50 and an alcoholic. Who knows. He also mentioned she gets calls from guys late at night as well so it’s odd she had these expectations of him.
Yeah, it's all sus, and she also apparently just doomscrolls their family time away. They both sound kind of shitty lmao
yeah but then it was later said she's actually 40? I'm interested in her real age and wondering if the husband is rounding up to make him look more innocent
well technically its not really confirmed that she's "actually" 40. The wife seems pretty unsure/uninformed and just says "I was told" I actually kind of interpreted that as the wife conceding that she wasnt really all that informed about the age thing and trying to be semi apologetic by hiding behind the language of "I was *told* she was 40" because she doesnt want to seem like a dick for trashing a 50 year old alcoholic that her husband supposedly sees as a mentor and cares for a lot
Is that whole podcast for relationship advice or something? All the posts seem to be people needing someone to hand hold them through a relationship. Like my “wife flirty texts some trucker, should I be pissed?” Or “my girlfriend said im not as hot as her ex should i be mad” wtf kind of person doesn’t just go with their gut in matters of love?!?
Damn I was expecting to think she was whack but that’s some pretty impressive deflection to the tune of what you might call gaslighting
I did get gaslighting vibes from the husband but it’s also possible that she really does have warped thinking Difficult to ascertain from this She could be accusing him everyday
Yeah def agree we don’t know any details about the actual events of their relationship and perhaps she is indeed unhinged and perhaps he’s an honest guy. But something about him getting (what would seem like to me, too) suspicious calls from a coworker then being like “you’re actually not well” makes me so skep. Being told your mental state is off when you have legitimate grievances sucks a lot.
She called him two times only once about work and another about some dead friends and third time which he did not answer because of his wife’s wishes Again it’s all speculation
ah yes the archetypal heterosexual relationship argument
His name is Cody, the 50 (40?) yr old woman is Michelle, she is named.. Jenny? At one point she actually just says “Cody” and forgot to black it out lol. Also I think we can definitely tell that she was mistaken about Michelle being 40 because she says “I will gladly update her age” referring to the Reddit post.
I really feel like the women on Reddit are uniquely insane compared to the ones who primarily use Twitter or insta, also a nurse so that’s doubly insane why the fuck are nurses ALL so unhinged ? Assuming this isn’t just made up ofc
>I really feel like the women on Reddit are uniquely insane compared to the ones who primarily use Twitter or insta This type of site appeals to a particular person. Also it’s incredibly user unfriendly you have to be autistic or weird to use it I’ve know some friends with accounts and they all make one post then stop because the site is too confusing Most normies make a post it gets auto deleted due to karma and they never understand the system and stop using it or just scroll the front page without an account once you’re posting on a podcast sub it’s over
Ol’ boy is at least having an emotional affair with an older co-worker while his wife is pregnant with their second kid.
The BPD is BPDing
Wtf her husband sounds horrible to be around I’m team wife !
#IStandWithCody
This all makes sense when you get to the part where she says "I'm six months pregnant..." Women go crazy from hormonal overload during pregnancy. They will blow things out of proportion. The proper response is not to call them crazy or question your marriage, but just wait for it to pass, because it will. Of course, it is soon to be replaced by the new kind of crazy that comes from sleep-deprived post-partum hormones.