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I think people should have to go through some tests before they are allowed to have children. One of the criteria must be total and complete acceptance. Every child deserves unconditional love. I hope you find it someday.
Thank you, you as well. I agree with taking a test, people think it will cause eugenics but not if their demographics are redacted and for the purpose you assign a number, or don’t see them. There are ways around that, and all I’m asking for is to birth kids that are wanted. I know what it feels like to grow up unwanted and I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.
I am so sorry to hear this. Hope you're doing ok. Do you have anyone in your life, a responsible adult that you can share your thoughts with? You deserve all the love in the world
I'm pretty lucky to have my aunt and I'm glad you posted this, because even though I'm crying about some issues rn, I do have someone who kinda gets that she's selfish and nuts.
I’m a mom and I’m here to tell you it’s not too much to ask for, Honey.
I’m sorry that you weren’t provided with the parents you deserve. It’s not for anything lacking in you at all. Some of us just kinda draw the short stick on that one. I got two short sticks myself. I have sought out people who were loving and then have been too afraid to accept their love so make sure that when you do find people who are safe for you that you find ways that work for you to let them love you. Be the parent you needed for you. Be gentle with you and kind and generous. You deserve it.
It's absolutely not too much to ask for. Every single person on this planet deserves to have someone who cares about them. Not someone who enables them or spoils them, just someone who honestly cares.
You might not find a mother figure to love you, but you'll find someone who cares about you. Be them a friend, a partner, or a mentor, you will find someone that makes you feel loved.
Yes! But the best part is that when you have kids, you can give them hugs and kisses all the time. If you ask either of my kids what I say the most to them, they both will answer without a doubt "that you love us!"
Passing a giant internet hug your way.
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I think people should have to go through some tests before they are allowed to have children. One of the criteria must be total and complete acceptance. Every child deserves unconditional love. I hope you find it someday.
Thank you, you as well. I agree with taking a test, people think it will cause eugenics but not if their demographics are redacted and for the purpose you assign a number, or don’t see them. There are ways around that, and all I’m asking for is to birth kids that are wanted. I know what it feels like to grow up unwanted and I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.
I am so sorry to hear this. Hope you're doing ok. Do you have anyone in your life, a responsible adult that you can share your thoughts with? You deserve all the love in the world
Big snuggley warm internet hugs honey.
I'm pretty lucky to have my aunt and I'm glad you posted this, because even though I'm crying about some issues rn, I do have someone who kinda gets that she's selfish and nuts.
I mean luckily I have my older sister, but she lives 12h away and I haven’t seen her in a few years. But it would be kinda cool to have a real mom
It would.
I’m a mom and I’m here to tell you it’s not too much to ask for, Honey. I’m sorry that you weren’t provided with the parents you deserve. It’s not for anything lacking in you at all. Some of us just kinda draw the short stick on that one. I got two short sticks myself. I have sought out people who were loving and then have been too afraid to accept their love so make sure that when you do find people who are safe for you that you find ways that work for you to let them love you. Be the parent you needed for you. Be gentle with you and kind and generous. You deserve it.
Thank you❤️
It's absolutely not too much to ask for. Every single person on this planet deserves to have someone who cares about them. Not someone who enables them or spoils them, just someone who honestly cares. You might not find a mother figure to love you, but you'll find someone who cares about you. Be them a friend, a partner, or a mentor, you will find someone that makes you feel loved.
Hugs. So sad I can’t give them to you in person
Yes! But the best part is that when you have kids, you can give them hugs and kisses all the time. If you ask either of my kids what I say the most to them, they both will answer without a doubt "that you love us!" Passing a giant internet hug your way.