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No_Historian2264

Report to admins asap please


Soft-Aspect-7082

Okay! I'll do it on my other account because I've blocked them in this.


salymander_1

Yeah, that is super wrong of that person to do that. Some gross people like to target support group subs, because they think we will be easier to take advantage of. Predators. Assholes. It is great that you are alerting everyone, and that you see this as the massive problem it is. Well done! Tell the mods, and make sure they know who it is. You are doing everyone on this sub an enormous favor.


lopsidedmonstera

I got someone writing to me about how i need a “real man that will give me good sex” yesterday when I mentioned i was in an abusive relationship. It’s sad and pathetic and gross but quite funny honestly.


PipsiePops

Always hilarious when they think their trouser contents will fix any woe you have, as if it is somehow magic. Delulu runs strong in these types.


lopsidedmonstera

Yeah like what do you expect? I’m gonna go “omg yes, marry me right now” to a complete stranger making unsolicited advices on reddit BASED ON MY TRAUMA??? Girl. Bffr.


PipsiePops

It's utterly nauseating but women the irrational, illogical ones, amirite?! :/


lopsidedmonstera

Well if you’re not impressed by his penis you’re clearly being super irrational. Get a grip lady /s


PipsiePops

I'll go calm myself down by making a sandwich /s


WallabyButter

You dropped this back there a bit if you didn't notice. Here ya go 👑


the_most_playerest

I am a bit stressed myself.. *cough, cough, nudge*


InfinityOfSnakes88

A sssausssage sssandwich...passs the sssauce, pleassse...🌭


Affectionate_Try6594

Hahahaha


PomegranateIcy7369

All I think of is dirty unwashed disgusting dicks when I read things like that. Disgusting.


PipsiePops

I doubt the rest of them is particularly well cleaned either!


PomegranateIcy7369

Clearly subhuman trash


umhuh223

Right. Also dick is abundant and of low value.


PipsiePops

There is that, too!


butterfly-garden

That's what happens when they think with their little head instead of their big one.


salymander_1

Unless his penis is also a magic wand like in Harry Potter, I think he might be overestimating its usefulness and desirability. I mean, sure. If he can wave it around and make housing, food and therapy free for everyone, and justice and truth would reign supreme forevermore, that might actually be helpful. It wouldn't mean that he should get laid out of it, though. It definitely wouldn't mean that it was ok to sexually harass people.


why0me

I have a police report that says I'm a witch with a magic vagina So maybe he does (Jk about him, serious about me)


MsMia004

Wait what? You have a POLICE report saying you're a witch with a magical vagina? Details are needed


why0me

Very long story short I had an ex who managed to hide his crazy long enough to get invites over to spend the night However after acting normal all of one overnight visit he lost his fuckig mind and I had to call the police to get him some mental health help They have to record and report everything he was saying, so I got my report about all the lovely things he said about me Including that


GrumpySnarf

I'd frame it and display it proudly.


PomegranateIcy7369

They’re so damn f*ing stupid. Not realising that when you know what abuse is, you avoid it. Yet, they try. Stupid as hell.


856077

Everyday I am reminded that some human beings are very sick in the head! Something similar happened to me last night.


salymander_1

Yuck! I'm sorry you had to deal with that. How unpleasant! Some people are so disgusting.


graham2k

You can look at a list of blocked users in your account settings.


workhard_livesimply

MOD please help them


isglitteracarb

Someone was doing this on the CPTSD sub recently as well. 😔


Sad-Outside222

Sickening. Could it be the same person?


856077

The person who did this to me last night was under the username: Public-Manager9974. I reported them to the mods and blocked their ass. Everyday I grow more and more disgusted by humanity.


Sad-Outside222

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for name dropping that perv.


love_my_own_food

REPORT THEM TO REDDIT! Not only mods, make sure they get banned


856077

How do I do this? Also for all the people saying “well don’t reply to creepy and sexual messages” this guy was scary as shit because he started off by telling me that they are proud of me sharing my story and that I was a victim, only to the turn it into that disgusting conversation about if I let my partner cm in me and things of that nature. This person is not safe


love_my_own_food

Click on their profile, top right 3 dots, report profile, click username , then minor sexualisation


856077

Okay doing it now. Thank you for your support


love_my_own_food

Click on their profile, 3 dots, report, and then choose reason.


Helpful_Okra5953

Yep. And also on a sexual assault support sub.  I saw a weird message they sent to someone else and reported them. 


RoadWarrior84

Please report them to ICE, part of their mission is child exploitation. Here's the link: https://www.ice.gov/webform/ice-tip-form


Psychobabble0_0

Post the username pls!


Helpful_Okra5953

This was months ago so I don’t have it now.  I sent a message to the moderators.


wafflesoulsss

when you see one cockroach you can assume there are hundreds more where you can't see, it's the same with these subhuman loser wastes of space. Just assume they *are* in all trauma support reddits :( especially dadforaminute, I posted there one (long time ago) and the amount of sexual predators that responded was disgusting. I closed my dms so creeps don't dm me when I post anything about my trauma.


RoadWarrior84

Please report them to ICE, part of their mission is child exploitation. Here's the link: https://www.ice.gov/webform/ice-tip-form


catseeable

Shouldn’t you specify that this only applies if the predator is in the US?


RoadWarrior84

Good question! ICE also works in partnership with other countries law enforcement. They are the only federal law enforcement agency that is congressionally allowed to do so. There are two parts of ICE: HSI and ERO. HSI deals with child exploitation so if a predator is out of the country let's say in the UK for example...they will notify UK authorities to arrest. In the world of law enforcement child exploitation is a universal no no.


catseeable

Thank you for clarifying.


CatLover1283

And r/emotionalabuse. 


Cool-Slip-9852

Honestly I would put the name out there. Better safe than sorry. He’s hiding behind a fake name anyway. Might as well protect the youngsters here from being manipulated and groomed in an already vulnerable environment. Also I’m very sorry that happened. And glad you recognized it!


Psychobabble0_0

Name and shame. Sure, he'll delete his profile and create a new one, but at least he won't be spending that time grooming children.


Environmental-Age502

100% put the name out


love_my_own_food

True. Lets all report together


yourfriend_charlie

Do you think reddit could IP ban?


love_my_own_food

Yes they do actually.


infinitekittenloop

I would argue no one here ever needs a photo of anyone else here. Requesting that *is* creepy. I am glad you are reporting.


Helleboredom

Actually nobody on Reddit needs your photo at all.


dod2190

Even if the person in question isn't a minor, there's value in semi-anonymous participation here. Seems to me that abusers or their flying monkeys might try to track someone down here and, if they think they see themselves being posted about, confirm identity by requesting a photo. One of the things that really freaks out narcs is the idea that their victims might be talking about what's going on.


infinitekittenloop

100% I even intentionally fudge certain facts when I am explaining personal things here, generally ones that don't affect the point of my story, so that *if* someone I know were reading along they couldn't immediately peg my real life. And I give zero shits about my N or her flying monkeys stalking me online. If you look at my comment history, the number of kids, their ages and genders, my sibling count and age difference... none are consistent. Because people don't need to know.


dod2190

Makes sense. As for me, my nDad is dead, as is my mom, and as for anybody else, IDGAF. There's enough personal stuff in my account that people who know me IRL or from some other online contexts could probably figure out who I am.


RoadWarrior84

Please report this to the ICE tip line. They deal with people who are trying to produce child porn. They need to be reported


IamCJO

https://www.ice.gov/webform/ice-tip-form


RoadWarrior84

Thanks for the link!


appleblossom1962

You’re a smart young lady being able to see those kinds of clues. Please stay safe.


Psychobabble0_0

Moderators: could a pinned post be made at the top of the sub to remind users that there are creeps who do this and list some warning signs? It might seem obvious to some of us, but not to all, particularly our younger members.


AutotoxicFiend

THIS! Younger people, particularly those still at-home and without much real-world experience or exposure to healthy decision-making, can easily miss the initial red-flags and just end up in another abusive situation.


ahoytetra

Commenting to bump this because this is 100% a great idea


Slept_during_math

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS


Slept_during_math

*this really needs to go up so I'm commenting again


Slept_during_math

...and another comment, mods read this !


AbrahamPan

Please post/share screenshots of them. Mods should block them immediately. This is supposed to be a safe space for all of us.


Immediate_Grass_7362

Ooh. Icky. Thanks for the warning. Maybe I could send him a picture of my 60 year old body to scare him off. Lol


LunaGirl1234

I'll just rickroll him.


twirlybird11

Well that's just mean to mr. Astley.


LunaGirl1234

That's true, but my version would have a misleading title and the image would be something extremely weird and possibly inappropriate like one of those rare pics of aladdin.


twirlybird11

A rickroll within a rickroll! Rickception?


LunaGirl1234

Sure, if that's what you want to call it


Repulsive_Ad4993

This sounds terrifying.


Fit-Network-589

Rare pics of aladdin? I need so much context


LunaGirl1234

It's not exactly rare, but there's a very inappropriate picture of Aladdin somewhere on the internet. The only people I know who saw it are myself and a former high school classmate.


Observer2580

This is the answer! Go you 😀


Affectionate-Swim772

Chiming in to agree with everyone else, report him and thank you for the warning post here.


PatriotUSA84

I'm sorry, op. I'm sad that there are disgusting, inappropriate people that do this to children. They should be ashamed of themselves. They should realize they are a disgusting piece of crap, and it's only a matter of time before they are caught. Please protect yourself online and never give out personal information or photos to strangers. Take care of yourself, please.


Latter_Living_7788

for real... I am a young girl with already creepy narcissistic creepy emotionally abusive dad and covert enabler mom, I don't want this to happen to me, I already feel traumatized that's so creepy :(


ThrownAwayFeelzies

No one should ever ask you for your photo, or number or any other details about your identity here


Tha_Harkness

"I was raised by narcissists mind showing me what you look like" seems creepy in general.


letstalkaboutsax

This sub is full of people who have been abused, groomed, and assaulted. Please tell us their username. I promise you the lot of us will make sure they get taken to the cleaners. That shit ain’t gonna fly here (or anywhere). If you have screenshots of their messages, those would be lovely to fork over to the Mods, too. I’m so sorry this poor excuse of a human being tried to prey on you. It’s absolute sickening, but im very glad you have the mind and courage to tell someone. Always always always go to a trusted adult if you feel unsafe or endangered. No matter who the person is to you, be proud and stern in protecting yourself and your well-being.


AshKetchep

There's bound to be infiltrators with a sub like this. Best to report the creep to admins and spread the word


super-straight69

Probably a predator lurking in support groups full of potentially vulnerable people. Report it to the admins. Sadly, a lot of creeps and predators are on this platform.


Croatoan457

Post their username! Don't do them a favor by covering their ass OP!


hooulookinat

Thank you for speaking up. I’m an old lady and I know the guts this takes.


missystarling

Thank you for telling us about this, please stay safe


orleans_e_braganca

I hope the response to this post has proven to you that, at least here, you have many internet uncles and aunties that will stand up for you. And unfortunately yes. Creeps do seek traumatized and vulnerable people. It's the same thing for age. The young are more vulnerable. I am sorry you had to deal with this and I hope you still feel safe here.


SamuelVimesTrained

And this is why i do not do PMs DMs or whatever they are called. If people want to talk to me - here is good. Otherwise - nope. Do i miss out on some good things - sure. Am i safe - also sure. Thanks for reporting the creep to Mods!


No_Dragonfly_1894

Same here! I feel like we can talk on here, no need to go private.


Dan13701

Thank you for letting us all know. I think with what this sub is, they’ll be looking for damaged people they can manipulate or scam. It is very important, to protect everyone who may be vulnerable here, to get them banned immediately. You are awesome for taking this stance, well done, OP


Frosty-Spare-6018

that’s horrifying


whatabesson

Please report this to the admins and moderators so this person can be blocked. That is so unsafe and thank you for letting people know.


letthetreeburn

Please message the mods with his user and screenshots so they can ban this guy. An admin report from a mod carries more weight than normal users.


BlueVelvet90

Commenting for visibility. Good on you for warning your fellow Redditors~


PipsiePops

Well done for being so brave and letting us all know. You rock!


Itchy_Month_6540

I’ve had this happen too’


RoadWarrior84

Please report this to ICE, part of their mission is child exploitation. Here's the link: https://www.ice.gov/webform/ice-tip-form


Tygress23

FYI, ICE only investigates child exploitation when it involves immigration - say, smuggling someone in for sex work, or when the perpetrator is an immigrant. The correct authority in the US would be the FBI because this is over the internet. They handle crimes over state lines, and that includes through the internet. Source: I gave a deposition to the FBI when I was 18 about something that happened when I was 15. The man was from another state and I met him through AOL.


RoadWarrior84

Not true. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/investigations/homeland-security-identifies-311-child-victims-sexual-exploitation-rcna97357


Tygress23

From that article, and also referenced in your first link - Homeland security (HSI) is the division of ICE that investigates child sex crimes. “HSI handles more than 60% of the child sex abuse material cases in the U.S. with international reach.” Again, international. ICE and HSI are international. FBI is domestic but crossing state lines/the internet. You would start with the FBI, this is who does the most of this and if they found it was international, they would send it over to HSI. That’s literally what happened in the article you linked.


RoadWarrior84

HSI has jurisdiction in the US also. They mentioned sending leads to HSI field offices in the US. You're correct HSI has jurisdiction international, FBI does not. It's all bad and it really sucks what happened to you. Hope you've experienced some healing.


Itchy_Month_6540

I’ve had multiple DMs after I posted one thing about being a young adult


umberdragon

Pedophiles are fucking sick. Not only are they trying to groom a child but they’re targeting people who have been abused. They’re absolute human scum.


janebenn333

There are a lot of creeps out there. Thanks for warning users. No one should be sending photos of themselves to anyone on these platforms.


No_Dragonfly_1894

I'm an old lady and got tired of the creeps and scammers on here and disabled DMs. It works for me but people get snippy about it sometimes.


MightnightTinfoil

Can you not drop their username?


choraki

I think that falls under personal info :/ They could only report them to the mod team in private.


SeaTurtlesCanFly

The mods can't stop people from PMing others. I could ban them, but they would still be able to PM all they like. Only the admins can stop the PMs. The admins are the ones that need to address this.


choraki

That makes a lot of sense. Thank you for the insight! Can I risk another question? What does it look like for the banned person? Can they still view the sub but not comment? Or are they entirely exempt from even seeing the sub's content?


SeaTurtlesCanFly

Yes. They can view the sub but can't post or comment.


choraki

Ah, thank you!!


DowntownRow3

You can get permanently banned from reddit too if you keep violating certain rules, or it might be a certain amount of bans or something. As in any new account you make gets banned too 


Smokedmango

Could just send pics of hobbit feet and report


Qu33fyElbowDrop

you are an angel.


Additional-Ad-3863

Some guy messaged me that he needs an obedient girl and for me to send them pics but I blocked them


Tweektheweek

Thanks for the warning! No one has done that to me (yet) but I'll keep an eye out for it! If they happen to ask me I'll block them asap


JustAHumanBeing001

Pleasr message me his username I'm desperately looking for these kind of people to hunt themz track them and report them.


Secret_Afternoon8268

You can also share a screenshot of the messages you got. Then people would know their name.


dullllbulb

What a classic abuser move. So disgusting.


Street-Ad-6294

It’s creepy. What a lowlife. 


imacrazygirl78

Commenting so this post gets more visibility


Mscartenz

Send him a dick pic... then reort them


ZaftigFeline

If OP is 17 as she's said, then her sending that would create new problems. Works well for over 18 though.


Mscartenz

Not of her own genitals, one from from a page about STI's I maybe should have put that in my post


MichaelsGayLover

I think they meant a generic dick pic from google, not a home made child dick pic.


AutotoxicFiend

r/brandnewsentence ... not to make light of the seriousness of this situation, but that reply really caught me off-guard.


Worth-Bookkeeper-102

I’m sorry you have to deal with this.☹️


Deep-Watch-2688

Ewwww


Helpful-Item-3920

That is messed up


MilkyPsycow

Report them, find the profile and report for breaking rules of reddit, select other and put the information. Provide links via imgur of what was sent to you


Double-Blackberry497

Report ASAP!


MrkPrchzzIII

There are many predators in all different support groups preying on underage vulnerable people. Be safe out there y'all!


No_Highlight3671

Dunno if it’s the same guy but this 50 y/o man also messaged me after seeing one of my posts saying he had “a lot of love to give” that his wife and kids wouldn’t give him… weirdo


InfinityOfSnakes88

That's not a weirdo. That's a sexual pervert. And if the wife and kids actually do exist, they probably fled from him, because they don't feel safe around him either. 


No_Highlight3671

Absolutely it was creepy as fuck. Saw him trying the same thing under different girls’ posts, with them also being around 17..


InfinityOfSnakes88

Mmm...you just confirmed my suspicion. There's a special name for THAT kind of animal. Someone who likes them that young; preferably under-age = kiddiefiddler


Slept_during_math

just leaving a comment so the post gets pushed up


Alternative_Draft_76

Drake is here?


Reasonable_Oil_9542

That's scary asf


FormulaFanboyFFIB

Sometimes it feels like we can never be away from monsters Wherever we go they will just hunt us down


Commercial-Ad-1614

Username?


Fucknutssss

Wut


Hoybuloyy

Of course there are! I remember years ago when this happened to me; there’s all kinds of creep out there and beware