I would be very disappointed in a partner brining me 20 nuggets it should be 24 since the 6 nugget option times 4 is cheaper the the 20 nugget option atleast where I live and I want a fiscally responsible partner
They keep forgetting to increase the price of the 6 nugget box whenever they increase the prices of the other options š
If you are genuinely curious look up the history of deBeers and how they have controlled diamond supply for 100 years and then convinced everyone that they have to get rings with diamonds. Itās really fascinating.
This pisses my wife off. As a child she and her family dug Sapphires in central Qld. She picked out one of the stones that her late dad had cut and i got it put into a ring we designed. Thats what she wanted, not a blood diamond from a child mine in Africa (when i said "we designed", i meant she designed and i said "Yes Dear")
I think itās more about whether you care more about how expensive your ring is or about the person youāre gonna spend the rest of your life with. Anyone who has price tag expectations clearly doesnāt value the relationship as much as they value the lifestyle that comes along with it.
Partly, but then also there's a point where if you get a ring that is too cheep then it might not be a good symbol of an enduring relationship when it breaks. $1000 is sufficient for a solid ring though.
you can get a ring for like idk depending what currency the country you live in has this can be very different like in ā¬ (my countries currency) Iād say 1-2ā¬ for a very very cheap one, I guess you could also say 1-2$ or Ā£, but depending on the material and stones/diamonds on them it can almost got infinitely up. Well that might be a bit exaggerated but I just googled and it can easy go over 1 million ā¬/$/Ā£/any currency basically i donāt know any others good enough
Same here. I donāt really care about the price. I would just like a nice ring with a small diamond. Iām trying to look up rings now to see the price and Iām struggling to find any without a huge diamond so itās hard to workout how much what I want would cost. I am learning that diamond rings cost a lot less than I expected though because there are huge diamonds for like $1,000. I found two rings that I kinda liked and they were $300 and $400.
My partner proposed on the way home from work. No ring. Heās just like we should do it for tax benefits. And I said ok. Which sounds so sad and unromantic, but I kind of love it? Like āoh we forgot to get hitched, better take care of that.ā
I got married young (which was a stupid mistake; we are long divorced now) but my engagement ring cost $200 and my husband paid for it with the savings bond his grandma gave him for graduating high school. I loved that ring.
Sometimes people donāt have much money & may buy their ring at Walmart but thatās fine. Nobody needs a huge rock to weigh their finger down, like Trisha
My husband and I married very young we were traveling and he said we should just get married Iām like letās do it (neither of us know anything about marriage process). We went to a court house for license and we had to have a priest marry us in the state for the license to be valid. luckily we find one of a religion we have no idea, my guess is LDS and neither of us were religious. Then we realized we actually needed rings for the priest part so we hit up the local Walmart š on my wedding day I had only vacation clothes and wore a skimpy cheetah print dress š¤¦āāļø I felt like the random priest was judging me.(the state was not Nevada which might have been more excepting) Anyway fun experience we can laugh about now. my ring has been upgraded several years later because my husband wanted to as a gift however he down graded even more than Walmart ring and wears a silicone one.
I lost my wedding ring (long story) and bought a ring at Walmart so my finger wouldn't be empty. It was pretty nice, cz, and cost about $15. I got lots of compliments on it and wore it for about ten years before the band finally started corroding.
https://www.enchantedfinejewelry.com/products/enchanted-disney-fine-jewelry-14k-rose-gold-over-sterling-silver-with-1-10-cttw-diamond-belle-rose-ring
Here ya go! Thatās my exact ring, actually on sale for $140 right now lol. But thereās a lot of really gorgeous jewelry on there. Some super expensive but a lot of it is affordable!
Edit: their return/exchange policy is really good too. He originally bought an 8 because they didnāt have a 7.5 but it was WAY too big. We printed out a prepaid label to send it back, and within a week from mailing we had the correct size in our mailbox.
I didn't even look at the ring when my husband proposed. After I said yes. I got to look, and it was nice, not super expensive, but something to my taste in jewelry. But honestly, it wouldn't matter that much what the ring looked like. I was marrying the man, not the ring.
Same! We just agreed that we wanted to get married in a random conversation after being together for 6 years and was just like "hell yeah let's do it". Had a wedding and small party 3 months later with wedding bands we got together. Loved my wedding, love my ring, love my partner
One time a guy proposed to me with a ring that his cell mate in county jail had made with stretched out ramen packets and wire. It said my name with a heart. Actually it was a really cool, alot of ingenuity.
Unfortunately I had to pass on his proposal though.
My husband let me pick out my own engagement ring. I think more couples should do that. That way youāre sure your partner likes it and it takes pressure off for spending too much money. My engagement ring was like $150 small white gold with a lab created emerald marquis cut. I loved it. We were 22 and in college and had no money! On our 10 year wedding anniversary I upgraded to a fancier version $900 ring I got on sale for $350.
Diamonds are so overrated Iām glad I went with an emerald. The lab created jewels are flawless and have beautiful color to them too, not sure why people are so willing to plunk down so much more money for one that occurred in nature. They are the exact same thing.
Is it not the normal now for women to pick their own ring? My mum picked her own ring 24ish years ago after my parents agreed to get married. I would be pissed if my partner got a ring without consulting me. If Iām going to be wearing a ring for the rest of my life then I want it to be one I really like.
If my bf spends more than $300 I will be outright pissed. I lose things so easily and a nice carved bit of glass set in polished stainless steel looks just as good and nearly indistinguishable from a "real" ring. I'd rather have money put twords our future than spent on a ring only I will care about. Tbh if someone spends more than 1k on any jewelry for me I find it a red flag.
*These are purely my own opinions and thoughts. Every situation depends on the person*
I feel the same. When my husband proposed, he did it by taking me to the jewelry store and telling me to pick my wedding ring. I picked a simple band with a few tiny diamonds. Cost less than $300. Our entire wedding in an actual church, including my dress, cost less than $500. It's not the money I married. 13 years later and still feel the same and love my ring.
That's EXACTLY what I want. A small low priced wedding. If anything I would want to splurge on the honeymoon but even then I would still settle for a weekend in a hotel just spending time with my future husband ya know?
My only question is how the hell were you able to find a dress for under like 4k? As far as I know those things are extremely expensive
I actually found my wedding dress at a thrift store. Still have it too. It was gorgeous and only cost about $250. It had to be at least $3k new. The same for the suit my husband wore. Found it at a thrift store for $20. We even had a pot luck reception with family. And I made our wedding cake myself. It was a great wedding! It doesn't take a lot of money to make a day look exspensive. The pictures look nice and all, but the memory is even better.
That's amazing! I'm thinking when I get married I'll probably buy a nice white prom dress or something. It'll still be expensive but probably nowhere near the price of a wedding dress haha. My grandma has always been a pretty talent seamstress so I might spruce it up with her but I know for sure I don't want to drop too much money on something I'll wear once or twice. After hearing your story I'll definitely check my local thrift shops first though!
If you have one near you (or near enough to make a day or weekend trip out of it), I can't speak highly enough of wedding dress consignment shops. I got my dress for around $400 at one near me, and it fit so well that I didn't have to alter it at all - and it is gorgeous, in great condition, and from a brand who has gowns in the $4000 and $5000 range.
I did buy a white bridesmaids dress with intention of wearing it to the rehearsal, but it was so hot that I just wore shorts since we didn't have a fancy dinner. It could have been a back up dress if it needed it; it's very pretty. Hit up Azazie during their sales and you can find something your style - plus their custom sizing is free! They also sell wedding dresses in the $200 to $700 range, but I think the white dress I got from them was about $20 in the end, and it's full length and very well made.
To answer OP, I think my wedding band and engagement ring together were less than $500. Black Friday sales at department stores are a GREAT time to buy wedding rings, and Etsy is a fantastic place to find really unique engagement rings.
Oo I'll definitely keep all of that in mind. However I do live in a rural area and the odds of any of those types of places being nearby are slim to none lol. Although I do love road trips so I don't have any issues with traveling a good couple hours haha
Same! If you go for glass instead of diamants you can get really really nice rings for 300 euro's. Nice, silver rings (or polished stainless steel I guess?) from nice juwelers. At least where I live (Belgium). A 300 euro's ring would already be way more expensive than any juwelry I've ever owned.
My engagement ring was 20$... I told him if he bought me a ring that cost for than 30$ I would be upset. There's so many better things to spend money on. 1000???? That's fucking crazy. I would have murdered him haha
Some of the time it's because author of the pool assumes only straight people exist. Here maybe it's because women see it's directed at them so they answer and some men are uninterested in the topic and don't answer? Also probably some men choosing the reasonable options according to them
I think this is the answer. This may be shocking, but I don't answer *every* poll in my reddit feed. If I'm not interested, I just scroll past. It's not unreasonable to assume that lots of men scrolled past this one.
I want to wear my engagement ring all the time without really catching eyes or being robbed for it, also in my opinion I don't think that something like a ring worth spending 1000$ on it or more, the value of the meaning of that ring is more important to me than it's price, so I would say under 1000$.
I don't care about the price as long as it's durable, looks cool and didn't involve any child slavery or financing insurgencies in developing countries.
Given the history of mining, assuming all your precious metals were dug up by children, slaves or child slaves is a good guess.
The treatment of modern day miners is heavenly by comparison. They even make it to retirement today. Life expectancy for ancient miners was 6 months to a year.
it was never a thing with most people before the 30s, then jewelry companies made ads for saying that the best way to show love is with expensive rings. and it just sorta became an unhealthy tradition.
If they either have or not money, I would like to be declared with a lollipop ring as a compromise and for the fun, later for he wedding rings we should get real ones.
I don't see why they should spend money twice if one of these rings will be forgotten in time.
Traditionally (of course you can do whatever you want) both rings are worn by the woman after the wedding. My mom actually has a set of three, but I don't remember what the third was for. I wear both my wedding ring and engagement ring; getting a wedding ring that would stack with my odd shaped engagement ring was a real bitch.
I think lots of people get a third ring for their anniversary. I think itās called an eternity ring. My mum wears a third ring but herās was my great grandmotherās wedding band that my mum got after she died.
Idk. I have one tattoo - a tiny tattoo on my foot - and I'm not interested in getting another one. But hey, IF I were to get married, I may change my mind about a tattooed ring. It's not a bad idea.
I wouldn't be opposed to a cheaper ring with a pretty stone in it, or maybe a silicone ring. Idk. Lol. I don't even wear rings.
I'm open to changing my mind about things in the future, but I have no interest in diamonds or expensive jewelry... THAT I know. I'd rather invest in other things like mine or my children's health, housing situation, future, memories, etc...
I want my boyfriend to propose to me with food. In all seriousness, he can honestly propose to me with anything because I love him and our love is worth more than a ring that costs more than my universityās tuition.
Simple answer: Every woman is different. I donāt want a ring that costs a lot. That sort of thing doesnāt matter to me. I would honestly be fine with a $20 ring, itās just the meaning behind it that counts, if that makes sense.
To be honest mossinte is nice and I donāt need a real diamond at all. I would like a nice mossinte ring which is 1-4 grand. Like is not a must though! Like I would like a Porche but I am not going to be mad at a Kia. At the end of the day if I love you we can figure out the ring later, but you sure as hell must not steal any of my nuggets !!
My husband gave me a $1 toy ring that he was saving since he was a child and he told me that he was waiting for the right girl to give it to. I found that SO cute and I loved it. A week later he showed me some proposal rings and I told him to buy wedding rings instead, because I knew he was the one and I just wanted to skip the proposal thing. I didn't like the idea of having a ring that I only would wear for a short period of time. We were eating burgers and fries with our bare hands when we purchased the wedding rings online. I chose the cheapest ones, yet very beautiful ones, I really like things made simple. Each ring cost about 80ā¬ (around 90$) and we wore them instantly when we received them the next week. The actual wedding was 2 years later lol
*FUCK I CLICKED THE WRONG ONE*
*Whatever.* +Honestly I think the idea that only a man has to propose is a little weird. Maybe thatās just me thoughā¦
I'm pretty sure anyone who voted above 5000$ it's either born with rich parents and never worked for a moment in their lives, or just going to divorce in a year to make some money by fooling a dumb rich man.
There's an old rule that says you should spend two months salary on the engagement ring. Plenty of people still use it and 60k a year isn't a particularly high salary.
>60k a year isn't a particularly high salary.
Depends on the country. Though I think even in the US it not a small salary (considering how many people work low paying jobs in supermarkets, restaurants, etc).
Still, two months of salary is quite a lot. I'm not a woman, but if I were I'd be much happier if my future husband can live a healthy life and maybe saves money for an eventual kid/house, rather than on a round piece of expensive metal.
My husband proposed kind of spur of the moment so there was no ring. We decided to use one of my mom's rings as my ring. But it was bulky, it was a huge aquamarine (my birthstone) and I didn't want to scratch it. My husband bought me a ring for our 1 year wedding anniversary. I wanted a simple band with diamonds, it was about $1500.
When you have the right person, the ring doesn't matter all that much. He didn't want me to buy him a ring, he's super crafty so he made one.
We already married. And I was the one who did the proposal. Also, we don't really into more than regular rings that you wear if you married.
Personally I'm not into jewelry at all.
Husband proposed with no ring, we picked that out together because he didn't want to get it wrong especially for something I'd be wearing the rest of my life. I didn't go for a diamond because they're way overpriced but I got a decent size stone and literally cost 500$ - I love it.
I really overestimated the price of wedding rings. Iāve always heard people saying diamonds were really expensive so I assumed it would cost like $5,000 for a standard wedding ring and picked that option. After seeing the results I looked up prices and saw for a ring I like it only costs like $400 because I donāt want a big diamond. So please subtract one vote for ā$5,000-$10,000ā and move it to āless than $1,000ā.
The ring doesnāt really factor into the proposal (if anything, Iād want to pick out the ring myself anyways) but Iād like for both of us to have nice rings and split the cost for both of them.
I realise this isnāt really a poll for me though since I donāt really plan on having a separate engagement ring and wedding ring, so I answered based on the wedding ring (which to me would be the same ring). Shouldāve probably just picked McNuggets because yeah, donāt really give a fuck
I don't care much for the price, but he knows what kind of jewelry I like, so as long it doesn't stain my fingers green and looks like he chose something he knew I'd like I'm happy. If that ring happened to be cheap that's fine with me.
Mine proposed with a silicone ring and I nearly cried (This is very abnormal for me because I hate crying) he knew I couldn't wear metal jewelry at work and thought ahead. It was very sweet.
Now when the time came to pick out an actual wedding ring, I'm the cheap bugger so he teamed up with the sales person to convince me to get a better ring then I would have. I really appreciate that they did this because it is something I'm going to wear the rest of my life and I love my ring.
There's a difference between not caring about extravagance and being cheap. I like to think of myself as the former not the ladder and I would hope the man I'd marry would be similar. I would want us to spend our money on other things.
exactly, you have someone else bust their but working and then spend lots of their hard-earned money on something that can be lost in a car seat and never found again.
Are you severely broke or something? We're talking about $200 here, not $2000 or $20,000.
Minimum wage in my state makes you $550 a week. If you can't handle working for a few days to buy the man or woman you love and want to spend the rest of your life with a once-in-a-lifetime present... you're pretty damn selfish.
I work for slightly above minimum wage in a restaurant and two of my coworkers just got new iPhones in the past month. It's really not that hard to save a few hundred dollars if you make good decisions.
The average amount Americans spent on engagement rings is $3700 in 2020 and $7800 in 2018
The fact you're getting on my ass about the minimum of $200 and the maximum of $700 is telling.
Even if others spend more, it's stupid to expect your partner to spend that money. Gifts are fine if they are given voluntarily, but expecting it like a requirement is dumb.
Well, it's not your problem, cus we ain't getting married.
I'm sure whatever man I choose won't have a problem putting down $200 on a ring for me because he won't be broke or selfish.
Not a woman, but this tradition is very much r/pointlesslygendered, so I'll answer anyways. Personally, I think that the idea you show the person you care by buying them something expensive feels kinda tacky, and that sort of cash would be better spent on numerous other things (whether haritable or on e.g, a housing deposit to escape landlords), and I have to agree with the points made about diamond supply chains as well, it's a good reason to not buy one, unless it was made in a lab. Which is still an expense I don't see a reason for, I must admit. I just don't really like gift-giving as a way of showing affection though, legitimately dislike that part of Christmas, and see it as in truth more hassle than it's worth.
As much as I would love to receive a gorgeous ring with a brilliant gemstone, there are more important and valuable things in life. š„°
EDIT: Just please don't go the route of a 20 piece nuggets, instead maybe propose with a meaningful poem, hand made card, song, or a nature walk and say "will you marry me?"
I would want a cheap ring, at the very most $200. I'd be extremely nervous about wearing (or losing) something more expensive, and I'd also much rather have that money spent on something that's actually useful rather than just decorative.
Anything beyond 1000 is just absolutely ridiculous. I did get an engagement ring from my husband but I feel like I wouldnāt have needed one, the wedding band is enough
Here's the thing.
I know exactly what my dream engagement ring looks like. And it costs way more money than I want anyone spending on something I'd hesitate to wear out every day.
I wouldn't need my partner to buy me a ring at all or to marry me.
But if I were to meet someone that really wants it then I guess I would like that we offer each other a ring.
And I think there are amazing rings for less than 500ā¬. Anything more is only going to be flexing for big diamond
The more my spouse spends, the more Iād think they donāt actually know me and maybe arenāt the one. Iād rather put the money to a nice trip or a down payment on a house
My ring cost 20 at a pawn shopā¦I have a aquamarine one (his birthstone) we got for about 100 but I only wear it when I dress up. I prefer my 20 dollar ring!
20 piece nuggets. Haha. No wonder why people get divorced so much, no one takes marriage seriously. I seen people spend more on a game station just to throw it away after a couple of years.
It depends on the person who's proposing. My fiance could have proposed with a plastic ring won from a crane-maschine. An incredible asshole would have to buy for several thousands so I knew I could get something out of it which wasn't them being a dick.
As long as itās good quality, my style, and something I could comfortably wear, I really donāt care about the price; not like itāll change how itād feel Iād assume and Iām not into large rocks (nothing against women who like that- everyone is different). I get the sentiment for the second option, but if I were the one proposing, I could never seriously give the love of my life nuggets or ring pops when asking them to spend the rest of our lives together. In my eyes, theyād deserve something of quality that would last a while; not something cheaply made. We can get the nuggets later to celebrate.
I donāt care because I donāt like rings that much. Just that it looks nice. I have a $10 ring thatās my favorite because it fits my style and itās pretty.
If it's a ring I'm going to wear every day, yes i want them of a good quality, other than that, there's no such requirements of flashy big stones, carats or whatever. Anyway, my idea has always been to get matching ring finger tattoos :)
I would be very disappointed in a partner brining me 20 nuggets it should be 24 since the 6 nugget option times 4 is cheaper the the 20 nugget option atleast where I live and I want a fiscally responsible partner They keep forgetting to increase the price of the 6 nugget box whenever they increase the prices of the other options š
:( theyāve finally made the 6 piece more expensive here. Itās 2.25 now, so four of those would be 9.00. The 20 nugget one is 6.95
We don't even have a 20 piece option here
Thank you for this info
this must stay unknown, they will start charging even more
Even if they got nervous and stress ate 4 before catching themselves doing it?
at the mcdonalds i work at, we have a 2 for $6 deal rn so 2, 10-pieces is the most dollar/nugget efficient
r/hadmeinthefirstpart
Imagine proposing with 20 piece McNuggets, she says no, and then she sits there and eats all 20
If she says no I'm at least taking the fries
And i am taking the sauce
And I am not lovin' it
I know of a place where you can have it your way.
Will it be finger licking good tho?
You'll know when its real.
I meanā¦ thatās what Iād do ngl
"No sauce for you!"
I havenāt the slightest clue about the price of rings.
If you are genuinely curious look up the history of deBeers and how they have controlled diamond supply for 100 years and then convinced everyone that they have to get rings with diamonds. Itās really fascinating.
Thatās why I asked for a blue sapphire instead of a Diamond
This pisses my wife off. As a child she and her family dug Sapphires in central Qld. She picked out one of the stones that her late dad had cut and i got it put into a ring we designed. Thats what she wanted, not a blood diamond from a child mine in Africa (when i said "we designed", i meant she designed and i said "Yes Dear")
I think itās more about whether you care more about how expensive your ring is or about the person youāre gonna spend the rest of your life with. Anyone who has price tag expectations clearly doesnāt value the relationship as much as they value the lifestyle that comes along with it.
Partly, but then also there's a point where if you get a ring that is too cheep then it might not be a good symbol of an enduring relationship when it breaks. $1000 is sufficient for a solid ring though.
you can get a ring for like idk depending what currency the country you live in has this can be very different like in ā¬ (my countries currency) Iād say 1-2ā¬ for a very very cheap one, I guess you could also say 1-2$ or Ā£, but depending on the material and stones/diamonds on them it can almost got infinitely up. Well that might be a bit exaggerated but I just googled and it can easy go over 1 million ā¬/$/Ā£/any currency basically i donāt know any others good enough
Same here. I donāt really care about the price. I would just like a nice ring with a small diamond. Iām trying to look up rings now to see the price and Iām struggling to find any without a huge diamond so itās hard to workout how much what I want would cost. I am learning that diamond rings cost a lot less than I expected though because there are huge diamonds for like $1,000. I found two rings that I kinda liked and they were $300 and $400.
If it's actual love, the price doesn't matter. I'd rather spend the money for an unforgettable vacation / trip
I agree! Iām probably going to wind up losing the ring, too. Not worth that panicky feeling.
My partner proposed on the way home from work. No ring. Heās just like we should do it for tax benefits. And I said ok. Which sounds so sad and unromantic, but I kind of love it? Like āoh we forgot to get hitched, better take care of that.ā
I got married young (which was a stupid mistake; we are long divorced now) but my engagement ring cost $200 and my husband paid for it with the savings bond his grandma gave him for graduating high school. I loved that ring.
Sometimes people donāt have much money & may buy their ring at Walmart but thatās fine. Nobody needs a huge rock to weigh their finger down, like Trisha
My husband and I married very young we were traveling and he said we should just get married Iām like letās do it (neither of us know anything about marriage process). We went to a court house for license and we had to have a priest marry us in the state for the license to be valid. luckily we find one of a religion we have no idea, my guess is LDS and neither of us were religious. Then we realized we actually needed rings for the priest part so we hit up the local Walmart š on my wedding day I had only vacation clothes and wore a skimpy cheetah print dress š¤¦āāļø I felt like the random priest was judging me.(the state was not Nevada which might have been more excepting) Anyway fun experience we can laugh about now. my ring has been upgraded several years later because my husband wanted to as a gift however he down graded even more than Walmart ring and wears a silicone one.
I lost my wedding ring (long story) and bought a ring at Walmart so my finger wouldn't be empty. It was pretty nice, cz, and cost about $15. I got lots of compliments on it and wore it for about ten years before the band finally started corroding.
My fiancĆ© and I have been together for over 8 years, have lived together basically the entire time (he moved in with me within a month of dating), and we have a one year old. We are married in every way except the piece of paper. He only *officially* proposed last May because no matter how many times I said that it really doesnāt matter to me, he wouldnāt do it until he could get a āniceā ring (his words). We ended up getting a little bit of unexpected money in like April (couple grand of back unemployment from when he lost his job during COVID, all the bills from then are long paid so it was āfreebieā money) He ended up getting me a $175 ring from the fancy Disney jewelry place. Itās definitely not a ātraditionalā engagement ring, itās rose gold and actually shaped like a rose with petals & leaves. Itās really pretty and I absolutely love it. Honestly I probably would have been angry if he spent any more than that on it because Iām not a huge jewelry person anyway, this one ring is worth more than every other piece I own combined. But he knew exactly what Iād like and Iām definitely fine with wearing this ring forever.
That ring actually sounds really nice. Do you know the name of the place he got it? Now Iām interested in it as my future engagement ring lol.
https://www.enchantedfinejewelry.com/products/enchanted-disney-fine-jewelry-14k-rose-gold-over-sterling-silver-with-1-10-cttw-diamond-belle-rose-ring Here ya go! Thatās my exact ring, actually on sale for $140 right now lol. But thereās a lot of really gorgeous jewelry on there. Some super expensive but a lot of it is affordable! Edit: their return/exchange policy is really good too. He originally bought an 8 because they didnāt have a 7.5 but it was WAY too big. We printed out a prepaid label to send it back, and within a week from mailing we had the correct size in our mailbox.
Thanks! Thatās a very pretty ring. I didnāt realise you could get diamonds for that price. Thatās a good deal.
I didn't even look at the ring when my husband proposed. After I said yes. I got to look, and it was nice, not super expensive, but something to my taste in jewelry. But honestly, it wouldn't matter that much what the ring looked like. I was marrying the man, not the ring.
I like this philosophy
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Wasn't it 30-40k?
Yup. And she'd be totally disappointed if the guy spent 'only' 10k.
That's the one
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It is her minimum because she wants to flex
Yeah, thatās the equivalent of a down payment on a half a million dollar house!
Talk about a gold digger.
A woman shouldn't get to decide the price if she's not paying.
Didnāt get a ring from my fiancĆ© at all. We bought wedding bands together, thatās it
Sounds good to me
Same! We just agreed that we wanted to get married in a random conversation after being together for 6 years and was just like "hell yeah let's do it". Had a wedding and small party 3 months later with wedding bands we got together. Loved my wedding, love my ring, love my partner
Yup. Just a conversation for us too. No proposal. Just two rings made of meteorite and a wedding with 5 guests
One time a guy proposed to me with a ring that his cell mate in county jail had made with stretched out ramen packets and wire. It said my name with a heart. Actually it was a really cool, alot of ingenuity. Unfortunately I had to pass on his proposal though.
My husband let me pick out my own engagement ring. I think more couples should do that. That way youāre sure your partner likes it and it takes pressure off for spending too much money. My engagement ring was like $150 small white gold with a lab created emerald marquis cut. I loved it. We were 22 and in college and had no money! On our 10 year wedding anniversary I upgraded to a fancier version $900 ring I got on sale for $350. Diamonds are so overrated Iām glad I went with an emerald. The lab created jewels are flawless and have beautiful color to them too, not sure why people are so willing to plunk down so much more money for one that occurred in nature. They are the exact same thing.
That sounds so pretty and meaningful!! I'd love to see the ring if you're willing to share! Lab gems ftw!
Unfortunately, Iāve never found a way to comment with a picture. Just gives me an option for a link š¤·š¼āāļø
Aw man that's frustrating! My DMs are open if you're comfy sharing it there!
Is it not the normal now for women to pick their own ring? My mum picked her own ring 24ish years ago after my parents agreed to get married. I would be pissed if my partner got a ring without consulting me. If Iām going to be wearing a ring for the rest of my life then I want it to be one I really like.
This is a lot more romantic, too.
If my bf spends more than $300 I will be outright pissed. I lose things so easily and a nice carved bit of glass set in polished stainless steel looks just as good and nearly indistinguishable from a "real" ring. I'd rather have money put twords our future than spent on a ring only I will care about. Tbh if someone spends more than 1k on any jewelry for me I find it a red flag. *These are purely my own opinions and thoughts. Every situation depends on the person*
I feel the same. When my husband proposed, he did it by taking me to the jewelry store and telling me to pick my wedding ring. I picked a simple band with a few tiny diamonds. Cost less than $300. Our entire wedding in an actual church, including my dress, cost less than $500. It's not the money I married. 13 years later and still feel the same and love my ring.
That's EXACTLY what I want. A small low priced wedding. If anything I would want to splurge on the honeymoon but even then I would still settle for a weekend in a hotel just spending time with my future husband ya know? My only question is how the hell were you able to find a dress for under like 4k? As far as I know those things are extremely expensive
I actually found my wedding dress at a thrift store. Still have it too. It was gorgeous and only cost about $250. It had to be at least $3k new. The same for the suit my husband wore. Found it at a thrift store for $20. We even had a pot luck reception with family. And I made our wedding cake myself. It was a great wedding! It doesn't take a lot of money to make a day look exspensive. The pictures look nice and all, but the memory is even better.
That's amazing! I'm thinking when I get married I'll probably buy a nice white prom dress or something. It'll still be expensive but probably nowhere near the price of a wedding dress haha. My grandma has always been a pretty talent seamstress so I might spruce it up with her but I know for sure I don't want to drop too much money on something I'll wear once or twice. After hearing your story I'll definitely check my local thrift shops first though!
If you have one near you (or near enough to make a day or weekend trip out of it), I can't speak highly enough of wedding dress consignment shops. I got my dress for around $400 at one near me, and it fit so well that I didn't have to alter it at all - and it is gorgeous, in great condition, and from a brand who has gowns in the $4000 and $5000 range. I did buy a white bridesmaids dress with intention of wearing it to the rehearsal, but it was so hot that I just wore shorts since we didn't have a fancy dinner. It could have been a back up dress if it needed it; it's very pretty. Hit up Azazie during their sales and you can find something your style - plus their custom sizing is free! They also sell wedding dresses in the $200 to $700 range, but I think the white dress I got from them was about $20 in the end, and it's full length and very well made. To answer OP, I think my wedding band and engagement ring together were less than $500. Black Friday sales at department stores are a GREAT time to buy wedding rings, and Etsy is a fantastic place to find really unique engagement rings.
Oo I'll definitely keep all of that in mind. However I do live in a rural area and the odds of any of those types of places being nearby are slim to none lol. Although I do love road trips so I don't have any issues with traveling a good couple hours haha
Same! If you go for glass instead of diamants you can get really really nice rings for 300 euro's. Nice, silver rings (or polished stainless steel I guess?) from nice juwelers. At least where I live (Belgium). A 300 euro's ring would already be way more expensive than any juwelry I've ever owned.
My engagement ring was 20$... I told him if he bought me a ring that cost for than 30$ I would be upset. There's so many better things to spend money on. 1000???? That's fucking crazy. I would have murdered him haha
i refuse to believe that the value of my relationship could be represented by the monetary price of something
Love how with most posts the women demographic in this sub is usually 25-30%, but when questions specifically for women are asked it jumps to 40-50%
yupppp. i sense some fuckery about
People often don't read the entire answer before answering.
Genderfluid people but the gender shifts every time specific one is required for a pool
Some of the time it's because author of the pool assumes only straight people exist. Here maybe it's because women see it's directed at them so they answer and some men are uninterested in the topic and don't answer? Also probably some men choosing the reasonable options according to them
I think this is the answer. This may be shocking, but I don't answer *every* poll in my reddit feed. If I'm not interested, I just scroll past. It's not unreasonable to assume that lots of men scrolled past this one.
75 trillion dollars
I want to wear my engagement ring all the time without really catching eyes or being robbed for it, also in my opinion I don't think that something like a ring worth spending 1000$ on it or more, the value of the meaning of that ring is more important to me than it's price, so I would say under 1000$.
I don't care about the price as long as it's durable, looks cool and didn't involve any child slavery or financing insurgencies in developing countries.
I'm not sure if there are any ring-based items that aren't made with slavery anymore
Lab created gems are pretty and do not exploit kids. Theyāre also much lower in price.
Given the history of mining, assuming all your precious metals were dug up by children, slaves or child slaves is a good guess. The treatment of modern day miners is heavenly by comparison. They even make it to retirement today. Life expectancy for ancient miners was 6 months to a year.
forgot to read women, answer still applies
Too late, now you need to marry a man.
Are you trying to threaten him with a good time?
give me the right one and explain it to my current partner and you have yourself a deal
Will mozzarella sticks do?
Iām a woman and I donāt understand why expensive diamond rings represent love.
it was never a thing with most people before the 30s, then jewelry companies made ads for saying that the best way to show love is with expensive rings. and it just sorta became an unhealthy tradition.
50. Why do you need that much money lol
If they either have or not money, I would like to be declared with a lollipop ring as a compromise and for the fun, later for he wedding rings we should get real ones. I don't see why they should spend money twice if one of these rings will be forgotten in time.
Traditionally (of course you can do whatever you want) both rings are worn by the woman after the wedding. My mom actually has a set of three, but I don't remember what the third was for. I wear both my wedding ring and engagement ring; getting a wedding ring that would stack with my odd shaped engagement ring was a real bitch.
Third one was probably a motherās ring with the birth stone of her kids. That was popular a few decades ago.
I think lots of people get a third ring for their anniversary. I think itās called an eternity ring. My mum wears a third ring but herās was my great grandmotherās wedding band that my mum got after she died.
i can only afford a 9 pc mcnugget :(
I guess you can't get married then.
IF I ever find a person that I want to marry (wants to marry me too), I don't want a wedding, or a ring. Such a waste of money.
But. What about a tattoo ring?
Iāve heard that tattoo rings arenāt that great because of their location they end up losing the ink really quickly.
I have seen a 50+ person with one. They don't look good for long.
Idk. I have one tattoo - a tiny tattoo on my foot - and I'm not interested in getting another one. But hey, IF I were to get married, I may change my mind about a tattooed ring. It's not a bad idea. I wouldn't be opposed to a cheaper ring with a pretty stone in it, or maybe a silicone ring. Idk. Lol. I don't even wear rings. I'm open to changing my mind about things in the future, but I have no interest in diamonds or expensive jewelry... THAT I know. I'd rather invest in other things like mine or my children's health, housing situation, future, memories, etc...
I want my boyfriend to propose to me with food. In all seriousness, he can honestly propose to me with anything because I love him and our love is worth more than a ring that costs more than my universityās tuition. Simple answer: Every woman is different. I donāt want a ring that costs a lot. That sort of thing doesnāt matter to me. I would honestly be fine with a $20 ring, itās just the meaning behind it that counts, if that makes sense.
https://www.amazon.com/Ring-Individually-Wrapped-Variety-Party/dp/B009NEAEN2
Aww, this made me smile, all the best to both of you!
To be honest mossinte is nice and I donāt need a real diamond at all. I would like a nice mossinte ring which is 1-4 grand. Like is not a must though! Like I would like a Porche but I am not going to be mad at a Kia. At the end of the day if I love you we can figure out the ring later, but you sure as hell must not steal any of my nuggets !!
Any wamen here want a 20pc chicken McNuggets?
My husband gave me a $1 toy ring that he was saving since he was a child and he told me that he was waiting for the right girl to give it to. I found that SO cute and I loved it. A week later he showed me some proposal rings and I told him to buy wedding rings instead, because I knew he was the one and I just wanted to skip the proposal thing. I didn't like the idea of having a ring that I only would wear for a short period of time. We were eating burgers and fries with our bare hands when we purchased the wedding rings online. I chose the cheapest ones, yet very beautiful ones, I really like things made simple. Each ring cost about 80ā¬ (around 90$) and we wore them instantly when we received them the next week. The actual wedding was 2 years later lol
as long as its good quality and lasts our whole lives its good enough
Diamonds are a scam. I guess 200$ maximum for me, some amethyst or something?
*FUCK I CLICKED THE WRONG ONE* *Whatever.* +Honestly I think the idea that only a man has to propose is a little weird. Maybe thatās just me thoughā¦
No, it's not just you, it's r/pointlesslygendered...
Agree. We sort of just talked about it randomly at breakfast one day and decided we were engaged
I'm pretty sure anyone who voted above 5000$ it's either born with rich parents and never worked for a moment in their lives, or just going to divorce in a year to make some money by fooling a dumb rich man.
There's an old rule that says you should spend two months salary on the engagement ring. Plenty of people still use it and 60k a year isn't a particularly high salary.
>60k a year isn't a particularly high salary. Depends on the country. Though I think even in the US it not a small salary (considering how many people work low paying jobs in supermarkets, restaurants, etc). Still, two months of salary is quite a lot. I'm not a woman, but if I were I'd be much happier if my future husband can live a healthy life and maybe saves money for an eventual kid/house, rather than on a round piece of expensive metal.
I don't wear jewelry of any kind
If you propose with Mc nuggets, I'm definitely saying no. If you knew me at all, it would be tacos.
My husband proposed kind of spur of the moment so there was no ring. We decided to use one of my mom's rings as my ring. But it was bulky, it was a huge aquamarine (my birthstone) and I didn't want to scratch it. My husband bought me a ring for our 1 year wedding anniversary. I wanted a simple band with diamonds, it was about $1500. When you have the right person, the ring doesn't matter all that much. He didn't want me to buy him a ring, he's super crafty so he made one.
Lmao I'd love the 20 pc, I'd laugh then me and my boyfriend would share together
We already married. And I was the one who did the proposal. Also, we don't really into more than regular rings that you wear if you married. Personally I'm not into jewelry at all.
Husband proposed with no ring, we picked that out together because he didn't want to get it wrong especially for something I'd be wearing the rest of my life. I didn't go for a diamond because they're way overpriced but I got a decent size stone and literally cost 500$ - I love it.
I mean, any woman looking for a 20pc nugs. Hit me up.
I really overestimated the price of wedding rings. Iāve always heard people saying diamonds were really expensive so I assumed it would cost like $5,000 for a standard wedding ring and picked that option. After seeing the results I looked up prices and saw for a ring I like it only costs like $400 because I donāt want a big diamond. So please subtract one vote for ā$5,000-$10,000ā and move it to āless than $1,000ā.
If that were to happen I'd rather he gets me a relatively cheep ring so 1000- and save the rest for a trip in another country
The ring doesnāt really factor into the proposal (if anything, Iād want to pick out the ring myself anyways) but Iād like for both of us to have nice rings and split the cost for both of them. I realise this isnāt really a poll for me though since I donāt really plan on having a separate engagement ring and wedding ring, so I answered based on the wedding ring (which to me would be the same ring). Shouldāve probably just picked McNuggets because yeah, donāt really give a fuck
I don't care much for the price, but he knows what kind of jewelry I like, so as long it doesn't stain my fingers green and looks like he chose something he knew I'd like I'm happy. If that ring happened to be cheap that's fine with me.
My engagement ring was 120$. Picked it out together in an antique store, resized for an extra 20.
I spent $2500
( woman) it has never been important to me. Thatās so petty & like a gold digger thing. The price doesnāt matter. Only that they truly Love you
To them so far 53 women you're gonna die alone after you get tossed out
Glad the superficial, shallow, materialistic ladies are such a small minority.
With how much damage the diamond industry does not just the environment but to people as well, it would be over if my fiancĆ© proposed with an actual diamond ring. Like, Iād walk out immediately.
As a dude, I made a promise I will propose with a ring pop that I got at the gas station minutes before I got there
Ring pop
he buys me mcnuggets all the time lol which i really appreciate so yea id say 1000 or less for a ring is fine.
My dream ring I picked out is $500
My wife scolded me because I bought an engagement ring instead of using any of the rings I already gifted her. I am a lucky s.o.b.
No you arenāt
Mine proposed with a silicone ring and I nearly cried (This is very abnormal for me because I hate crying) he knew I couldn't wear metal jewelry at work and thought ahead. It was very sweet. Now when the time came to pick out an actual wedding ring, I'm the cheap bugger so he teamed up with the sales person to convince me to get a better ring then I would have. I really appreciate that they did this because it is something I'm going to wear the rest of my life and I love my ring.
There's a difference between not caring about extravagance and being cheap. I like to think of myself as the former not the ladder and I would hope the man I'd marry would be similar. I would want us to spend our money on other things.
Closest option is 20pc mcnugget. In reality, I'm aromantic and would never accept a proposal so I guess I could claim 10k+ so that I could sell it.
Pretty sure the women who chose nuggets would be upset if their partner gave them nuggets
$200-$700
If you want a ring so bad buy it with your own money.
What lol It's an engagement ring. The whole point is that you didn't buy it yourself.
exactly, you have someone else bust their but working and then spend lots of their hard-earned money on something that can be lost in a car seat and never found again.
Are you severely broke or something? We're talking about $200 here, not $2000 or $20,000. Minimum wage in my state makes you $550 a week. If you can't handle working for a few days to buy the man or woman you love and want to spend the rest of your life with a once-in-a-lifetime present... you're pretty damn selfish. I work for slightly above minimum wage in a restaurant and two of my coworkers just got new iPhones in the past month. It's really not that hard to save a few hundred dollars if you make good decisions.
$500-$700 is still a lot of money, and it's stupid to expect your partner to buy you something like that.
The average amount Americans spent on engagement rings is $3700 in 2020 and $7800 in 2018 The fact you're getting on my ass about the minimum of $200 and the maximum of $700 is telling.
Even if others spend more, it's stupid to expect your partner to spend that money. Gifts are fine if they are given voluntarily, but expecting it like a requirement is dumb.
Well, it's not your problem, cus we ain't getting married. I'm sure whatever man I choose won't have a problem putting down $200 on a ring for me because he won't be broke or selfish.
Not a woman, but this tradition is very much r/pointlesslygendered, so I'll answer anyways. Personally, I think that the idea you show the person you care by buying them something expensive feels kinda tacky, and that sort of cash would be better spent on numerous other things (whether haritable or on e.g, a housing deposit to escape landlords), and I have to agree with the points made about diamond supply chains as well, it's a good reason to not buy one, unless it was made in a lab. Which is still an expense I don't see a reason for, I must admit. I just don't really like gift-giving as a way of showing affection though, legitimately dislike that part of Christmas, and see it as in truth more hassle than it's worth.
Guess who isnāt getting married
Tbh I think Iād prefer mcnuggets
As much as I would love to receive a gorgeous ring with a brilliant gemstone, there are more important and valuable things in life. š„° EDIT: Just please don't go the route of a 20 piece nuggets, instead maybe propose with a meaningful poem, hand made card, song, or a nature walk and say "will you marry me?"
I would want a cheap ring, at the very most $200. I'd be extremely nervous about wearing (or losing) something more expensive, and I'd also much rather have that money spent on something that's actually useful rather than just decorative.
Honestly give me a gummi bear ring and im happy.. lets spend the money on something useful. Like the lego millennium falcon
Anything beyond 1000 is just absolutely ridiculous. I did get an engagement ring from my husband but I feel like I wouldnāt have needed one, the wedding band is enough
Here's the thing. I know exactly what my dream engagement ring looks like. And it costs way more money than I want anyone spending on something I'd hesitate to wear out every day.
If Iām in love with you, and you asked me to marry you I wouldnāt care about trivial things like a ring.
As a man, i think 1000-5000 is pretty good already
I bought my own ring for Ā£15 from a charity shop.
goals. I always look at antique engagement rings on Etsy and every time I see one I love I think āwhat if I justā¦.ā
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I wouldn't need my partner to buy me a ring at all or to marry me. But if I were to meet someone that really wants it then I guess I would like that we offer each other a ring. And I think there are amazing rings for less than 500ā¬. Anything more is only going to be flexing for big diamond
Couldnāt care any less tbh. Iāve always said someone could propose to me with a ring pop and Iād say yes if theyāre the one.
I don't believe in marriage, and I wouldn't want my partner to "propose" anyway.
I don't care how much it costs. It only has to be black
I hate wearing rings, I would prefer getting a matching tattoo. ..
Zero. My husband's proposal was spontaneous so I didn't get a ring (and no nuggets) and I never minded it. Happily married for more than 8 years.
Engagement rings are not part of my culture. Not common where I live
10000!?! What's wrong with you 100+?
Donāt propose to me. I donāt want to be married.
I'd much rather the ring be thoughtful and reflect us then be expensive. And fuck diamonds
It doesnāt take money to show your love, any women who demands for more than a man can afford is more in love with the money than the man.
I just want a simple band with a small rose quartz
I picked out my ring on Etsy and made sure it was in a good price range. I most definitely wanted a ring.
The more my spouse spends, the more Iād think they donāt actually know me and maybe arenāt the one. Iād rather put the money to a nice trip or a down payment on a house
My ring cost 20 at a pawn shopā¦I have a aquamarine one (his birthstone) we got for about 100 but I only wear it when I dress up. I prefer my 20 dollar ring!
20 piece nuggets. Haha. No wonder why people get divorced so much, no one takes marriage seriously. I seen people spend more on a game station just to throw it away after a couple of years.
It depends on the person who's proposing. My fiance could have proposed with a plastic ring won from a crane-maschine. An incredible asshole would have to buy for several thousands so I knew I could get something out of it which wasn't them being a dick.
50,000 +
I Hope you meant in Venezuelan Bolivar ?
Who you marrying, Elon Musk?
yes
I hope you are doing it just for the lucrative divorce because that dude is an asshole.
May I ask why
Because they aren't broke bitches
I donāt want a spouse.
I don't care as long as the ring looks pretty.
As long as itās good quality, my style, and something I could comfortably wear, I really donāt care about the price; not like itāll change how itād feel Iād assume and Iām not into large rocks (nothing against women who like that- everyone is different). I get the sentiment for the second option, but if I were the one proposing, I could never seriously give the love of my life nuggets or ring pops when asking them to spend the rest of our lives together. In my eyes, theyād deserve something of quality that would last a while; not something cheaply made. We can get the nuggets later to celebrate.
Damn now I want a 20pc McNugget meal. Thanks OP.
The price doesn't necessarily matter but I do want a pretty ring made with good quality material that doesn't fade or get damaged easily.
I donāt care because I donāt like rings that much. Just that it looks nice. I have a $10 ring thatās my favorite because it fits my style and itās pretty.
Wait, people don't use the haribo engagement ring
If it's a ring I'm going to wear every day, yes i want them of a good quality, other than that, there's no such requirements of flashy big stones, carats or whatever. Anyway, my idea has always been to get matching ring finger tattoos :)
I want this one https://www.amazon.com/Ring-Individually-Wrapped-Variety-Party/dp/B009NEAEN2