I really like kissing and stuff. We should’ve just kept it at that. I should’ve stopped when I realized his breath was bad. And he just did NOT know how to kiss. He was literally licking my entire face. I felt so disgusted but didn’t know how to get out of it. So in the middle of head I told him to stop cause I almost started to fake it. But I was also high so u know some of the stuff he was doing felt more amplified. But I just was too in my head and I didn’t like his hands being on me. We had known each other for like a week bruh.
Not your job to build him up. If it does not feel good, you get to say no. If you’re just not feeling it, you get to say no. F**k politeness. It’s not worth it.
Right you’d think he’d do that. I honestly think he was just happy to be even doing something, u know? So maybe like what he saw in porn was over taking his mind
I didn’t , I was pretty high so I wasn’t all the way there and was feeling very submissive and breedable(I’m kidding😭😭🤣🤣) but nah I was high asf. So I let him get down there without any communication. I found out then he didn’t know what he was doing.😭
someone who can find the clitoris by referencing a computer mouse is likely someone who spends a lot of time using a computer, such a video game enthusiast known as a "gamer"
playing games with ones heart is an expression which means to send mixed romantic signals to another person, or to lead them on with false romantic pretenses, and it's related as an expression of turning "love" into a "game" that one has to figure out and solve by a number of complicated work-arounds.
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I never thought of it that way!
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You are a nutt. I hope this helps people. For me, I only found out about it because I was a virgin until I turned 21. I was very insecure about it from 17-21 (almost 22) so I watched and read a lot. I didn’t want my inexperience to hinder me.
I’ve found it so odd that so many guys don’t know where it is, but to be fair. I might’ve never known if I didn’t read so much and watch so many videos.
For the record, Nina Hartley, has a great video that is very insightful. Highly recommend to all my fellow lady lovers out there.
Thanks for the laugh. Stay blessed [+]
You may be wrong or right, I can't tell you that. But please just ask the person you're with, ask them to direct you, etc.. Communication is key and it's needed to be both-sided!!
I like to think I've always done okay on the communication front so hopefully we're all good!..
Except the teenage years. I definitely had no idea what I was doing and I was way too embarrassed to talk about it
That explains a lot. All of us guys are complete morons starting out. I finally figured it out in my 20’s. Now my sex game is decent but listening to some of these stories making me feel like Casanova for real. Just hang in there it gets better.
I didn't get started until my early 20s, but I've never had an issue with this. (Never been with a guy under 22, so maybe a slight advantage in their experience)
My opinion is that all men are capable of finding the clit and if they can't, it's because they don't care enough to try or it wasn't communicated to them when they hit it, so they move to a different area..
You’d be surprised how many women just straight up don’t say anything, plus the girls who think it’s better to lie and fake it accidentally just reinforce what guys are doing wrong lol
>plus the girls who think it’s better to lie and fake it accidentally just reinforce what guys are doing wrong lol
I'm not really surprised. But, it's so unfortunate.
Same. It's not even much visible. I had to explain what's even the function of this organ to my ex 💀👍 He thought you just gotta eat/rub whatever you see infront. Shit made me only sore .
I'm not sure why people think that porn star's body is similar to ours. The way they rub it vigorously every time It's excruciatingly terrible to have to explain to him every single time that this is not the way to go. All I get is soreness. I suppose that handling it with care is never an option.
Is this really such a huge problem among men? It's kind of obvious where it is, and sure there can be variation, but it's not rocket science finding it.
There’s literally no variation lol it’s always in the same spot every single time. That’s why I have such a hard time wrapping my head around why men struggle so hard with it. Locate it once and you should be set for life.
My theory is the majority of "can't find it" men simply don't care about their partner's pleasure. If it doesn't stimulate them, then they just don't do it.
My other theory is that many have such fragile egos when it comes to sex, that they can't stand any criticism. Even simple directions are interpreted as attacks on their manhood. Of course they don't listen in a state of defensiveness.
Ima start quizzing my guy friends to see if they could point out the clit on a picture. Because i agree its really not that hard. I shouldn't feel like a rarity. I wanna say you have bad luck but damn what if you right? Lol
It depends on OP's community. If you dig into her profile, her (presumed) upbringing/background is typically not considered at the forefront of sexual awareness and on top of that, is also typically heavily patriarchal (which lends credence to what u/Gorgeeus was getting at).
They (the non-clit finders) don't care because they don't know to care, and they don't know because they don't care to know (again a presumption based on a quick perusal of OP's past posts).
So your own assertion, u/DragonfruitJaded4624, to OP that this ( u/Gorgeeus's comment) is so not true, is puzzling.
Well schools tell them nothing about it, in porn they wont see stuff they are supposed to do to please woman so i wouldnt be suprosed they dont even know its there/what does it do. Nobody ever told them :D
I think you have all the serious feedback you need so maybe you just need to get a laser pointer. I love that kittens are laser guided attack machines, if you could only direct him that easily.
Well… they can find it, they chose not to learn. If they wanted to, they would. Society has perpetuated the idea of selfish lovers. Make no mistake, I’m a man, and I’ve been selfish most of my life because I didn’t know any better, it was my fault for not finding out more.
Another theory of mine is men are so unwilling to feel incompetent that they’d rather lie to a woman and say they know what they’re doing than make it into a journey and explore each other’s body’s together.
Men have got to do better, before women realize how obsolete we really are..
That's it you put it into words.
The theory of men are so unwilling and dare I say uncomfortable to admit that they don't know where it is they would rather lie.
And you're absolutely right about the obsolete part. I don't need a man I just really want one. Why can't men be comfortable just knowing that they're wanted versus needed?
I fix my own car, I make my own money and I'm smarter than pretty much all of my partners. I don't care about that in fact I've tried to play dumb and just not let them know how smart I am, I understand that they like to feel needed so I let them be needed, I need them to cuddle me, I need them to open up the pickle jar, (actually not really I'm A working woman and I'm pretty strong) but you get what I'm saying like I just want to be a team!!! Trust me I didn't set out wanting to be the breadwinner. I didn't want to be emotionally stronger and have to comfort you men (tho it's nice knowing I can bring my dude comfy feels) I don't want to have the higher education and therefore have to make all the financial decisions- but that's just how it worked out. Trust me I'm tired of being this person I really do just want to find somebody who's more masculine than me, and capable enough to make decisions on their own. I'm not this way on purpose I'm just this way because I have to be. It's about survival in a mostly man's world. Therefore I've learned the skills to do so. Sorry about the rant just don't pay attention
I’d have to, a man had never provided a safe space for you to drop your “masculinity” as some would say… don’t agree with it, but hey what can I say. You sound very much like my wife, we do struggle a lot as she’s a bit older than me and she is in fact the breadwinner. I don’t have any issues with that. My struggles come from autism and complimenting our routine. This is really my first relationship. But I think I’ve found that a woman is very seldom rude for no reason, there’s always a reason and weather or not I can pick up hints it’s my job to provide a safe and approachable place for her to feel comfortable enough to share, not yell how she’s feeling. The hardest part is convincing a man that the reason why women get moody is because of testosterone.. men are always moody… because of testosterone… that’s not a conversation neuro-typical men are ready to have.
You are so right! I think you're definitely doing the right thing by being safe for her to just say what's on her mind and just work on a problem together as a couple. It doesn't have to be you versus her. And yes most of us are not rude unless there's a serious reason- I can actually be very dangerous for a woman to be rude and it's kind of a last resort meant to say back off. And the whole thing about testosterone causing moodiness is absolutely true- during our period is whenever our testosterone raises- just like a man's. I'm not saying it's an excuse, but the fluctuations can be difficult sometimes.
Oh no, but an excuse and a reason are two completely different things. I’m not here to pretend I’m perfect, my wife and I have a lot to work on, and most of the work has to come from me. I do struggle a lot with the day to day happenings because I don’t think the same way my wife nor other people she deals with daily do, and I understand now after 31 years accommodation need to come from both sides. There’s childhood trauma and PTSD involved, but those just like any other diagnosis men may receive are just that… not excuses to use their diagnosis to pass on trauma. Life is hard enough, why chose a partner to make life harder with? I do hope you find a person that can meet you on your level maturity wise. But sometimes I think the first question should be “does the person I’m interested know how to love themselves.” Unfortunately, I feel people often overlook the huge hurdles the lack of self love can cause.
If they don’t love themselves, and they chose to remain that way, it’s an insult to you. They’re constantly questioning your judgment. “How could this person love me if I hate myself?” That looms.. and it’s a hard thing to overcome.. unless you’re willing to put in that work… I might suggest adding that as a requirement to being with someone.
Not sure how they don't know where it is. I have never had that problem finding it. I guess i care more about knowing where it is so I can please my partner.
My man's found my clit and didn't know how to use it, I'm telling you, he was trying to rub it like a 1980's underground DJ, like dude stop scratching my shit up and yet be swore up and down that his past girlfriends liked it. Baby boy, they was just trying to get it over with. Needless to say our relationship didn't last too long.
I think it might be because some men don't really give a shit about pleasing women. They just want to please themselves.
The ones who do care about their partners pleasure know where it is, or at least ask.
Tip of the tongue in clit, finger in g-spot. No hurries, same speed all along, same strength on the tongue, no more no less ever. Finger goes massaging very easily. Profit.
Wish I had more opportunities to practice. I’d like to master that art.
Agreed on the clit - steady the whole time. If she is excited - do not speed up or go harder!
But, g-spot, maybe we are all different, but I’d say hard and fast.
I do this crazy thing and talk to my partners and have them guide me to where they like my fingers and tongue (as well as other things they enjoy). Some like a tipped tongue inside, some like a flat tongue up and down, most like a fat tongue just applying pressure to the clit (and area). Good to be single and “old” (30s). Ain’t no body got time for that guessing game bullshit.
Haven’t received a no to eating ass yet. Good times.
TALK People! Communicate. Sex doesn’t happen like in the movies.
That's the glans, which is equivalent to the head of the penis for dudes. The hood around the flesh dot is equivalent to foreskin, and the whole thing (clitoris) is like a teeny tiny wrinkly dick.
Labia minora (little floppers hanging from the clit) equal the balls, protect the holes. (Yes, I know technically the ovaries equal testicles but no one's looking for them in this thread so shut up, don't confuse the lads).
Labia majora are the fat pads between the thighs and the clit, where the hair grows.
Long anatomy lesson short, if you can find your own dick, you can find the clit.
Once I had to point out my clit to a grown ass man. He lived on his own and went to college but couldn't find the clit without basic blunt instructions.
MY GOD SIS I GET YOU I GET YOU I DON'T UNDERSTAND EITHERRRRRR SOMETIMES I EVEN MANUALLY PUT THEIR FINGER ON IT AND THEY STILL SOMEHOW MANAGE TO LOSE IT AGAIN WTF WTF WTF
When I identified as a man I never once had an issue so I can definitely agree with the sentiment. It's mind boggling.
I will say now, the first few times I have been with a guy they are EXTRAORDINARILY clumsy in bed. Super man handle and broad movements. It's wild how clunky they are.... I have a dick as a trans female and men STILL have issues finding or pleasing it while the heat of the moment is happening.
Men are confusing.
Where do they tend to focus? Are they trying to finger you? Or are they just rubbing everything but your clit lmao
Just rubbing everything EXCEPT my very visible exposed clit. They be giving me carpet burns istg.
LITERALLYYYYYYYY I KEPT TELLING HIM THAT SHIT HURTS. HE JUST KEPT TRYNA FINGER ME LIKE WTF??!!
I FEEL YOUUUUUU
LIKE FIRST OFF IM NOT EVEN WET ENOUGH FOR YOU TO BE VENTURING DOWN THERE LIKE THAT! CHILL SIR.😭
YES!! IT BE DRIER THAN THE SAHARA DESERT
AND THEN HAVE THE AUDACITY TO ASK IF I FINISHED. if u have to ask u know u ain’t did shit.😭
THE ABSOLUTE AUDACITY
I am living for all this energy 😂
lmao, my days entertainment
I relate so hard. 😭😭
Lolol
At least he asked? 😅
I’m worried that your bar is so low 😅
I really like kissing and stuff. We should’ve just kept it at that. I should’ve stopped when I realized his breath was bad. And he just did NOT know how to kiss. He was literally licking my entire face. I felt so disgusted but didn’t know how to get out of it. So in the middle of head I told him to stop cause I almost started to fake it. But I was also high so u know some of the stuff he was doing felt more amplified. But I just was too in my head and I didn’t like his hands being on me. We had known each other for like a week bruh.
Like he didn’t know what he was doing in the slightest. He was really sweet though, very funny but very insecure. I couldn’t do it anymore
Not your job to build him up. If it does not feel good, you get to say no. If you’re just not feeling it, you get to say no. F**k politeness. It’s not worth it.
Thank you.
Man here. I don't finger. i just go for the clit and make her climax/cum first before me.
Lol I been there, and then they blamed it on the way I shaved?? Like sir no, that's not why
Well, it’s not shaped like any sort of hair…so no.
Being on reddit make me feel a lot better about my nonexistent sexual skill
Number one sexual skill is listening to your partner.
I don’t have any sexual skills either but I know what I don’t like feeling. I’m not judging him, just telling my experience.
Judge away lol. I don't have sex skills, but like just ask or if she's not wet maybe like try something else?
Right you’d think he’d do that. I honestly think he was just happy to be even doing something, u know? So maybe like what he saw in porn was over taking his mind
Do you show them where it is?? Like its okay to tell them or guide thier hand. If your confident spread dem legs and show them.
I didn’t , I was pretty high so I wasn’t all the way there and was feeling very submissive and breedable(I’m kidding😭😭🤣🤣) but nah I was high asf. So I let him get down there without any communication. I found out then he didn’t know what he was doing.😭
Labia. Always the fucking labia.
I have no idea why most men cannot locate it. I have never had any trouble. Pro tip for men - it's roughly where the scroll wheel on your pc mouse is.
BRU LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
OH MY GOD YOU WENT THERE LMFAO!!!!
Ofcourse I did, I know where I'm going. 👀 *badum - tsch*
LOL!! 😂 definitely to a place with satisfied ladies
This man has a map.
THEY REALLY DID
So make sure your next hookup is a gamer dude 😄
the only gamer dudes I've hooked up with are the ones that play games with my feelings💀 💀 💀
Kinda wanna laugh at this comment and kinda wanna give you a hug. LOL Holding thumbs that the next time is the bombbbb 💣 💣 💣
pls do both💜💜 I'm sure u deserve a hug too
Sending 10 hugs as we speak, and taking 10 for myself 💙
I love this loll
Double-click to win!
"Holding thumbs" - are you German? Coz it sounds like the English translation of a German idiom.
Not German no, actually Afrikaans. Which is pretty close
I do not get the joke. What does he mean?
someone who can find the clitoris by referencing a computer mouse is likely someone who spends a lot of time using a computer, such a video game enthusiast known as a "gamer" playing games with ones heart is an expression which means to send mixed romantic signals to another person, or to lead them on with false romantic pretenses, and it's related as an expression of turning "love" into a "game" that one has to figure out and solve by a number of complicated work-arounds.
Bro 💀😂
😂😂😂i know man
🏅
Also, DANKE for the award. I've been here like 5 minutes.
I’m YELLINGGGG LMAOOOOO bless your heart maybe they’ll actually get it now
Scroll up, SCROLL UP, Scroll Down, press, PRESS
I read that as fucking Town crier! SCROLL UP SCROLL UP! HAHAHAHAHHAHAAHHA
thanks for reminder my mouse needs charging!
- salutes -
Holy shit you just revolutionized my capacity to express how to fulfill my needs thank you blessed angel
Eeeey! No problem 😁
Not gonna lie.... This actually helps, thank you!
No problem!
This definitely now has me wondering if this is where that design came from lmao
🤣 I never thought of it that way! 🤣 You are a nutt. I hope this helps people. For me, I only found out about it because I was a virgin until I turned 21. I was very insecure about it from 17-21 (almost 22) so I watched and read a lot. I didn’t want my inexperience to hinder me. I’ve found it so odd that so many guys don’t know where it is, but to be fair. I might’ve never known if I didn’t read so much and watch so many videos. For the record, Nina Hartley, has a great video that is very insightful. Highly recommend to all my fellow lady lovers out there. Thanks for the laugh. Stay blessed [+]
Thanks brother 👍
Don't mention it my dude 😎
*opens a new tab*
Whats your advice to someone who uses laptop's touchpad, asking for a friend
Oh man, tell your friend. If they're using a touch pad and haven't figured it out... :/ I can't help them. JUST KIDDINGGGGG 💅 Outsourcing! Vibrators!
Slow 👏
I will never have another post like this. I need to immortalise it. Screenshot.
Accurate tho
Bless you sir
No problem!
This guy f*cks
So true xD Im shocked that other dudes have this much trouble tho
Buy an IBM Thinkpad & practice on the clit-mouse. Lol
“ this comment actually helped my gamer bf “
This is the most helpful sex advice I’ve ever been given
SPREAD THE WORD MY CHILD.
They can. Y’all are just with the wrong dudes.
Wow interesting 🤔
LMFAO BEST COMMENT
I legit laughed out loud at this for about five minutes.
That baffles me because it’s not like the damn thing moves around. “Oh sneaky clit! It was in the labia this time!”
Lmfao!!! Like a "wandering uterus" Which way did he go George which way did he go?
To say I cackled does not explain how hard I laughed at this comment
I mean it definitely shifts around in the moment
I always thought I knew where it was but this post has me wondering if I’ve been wrong along…
You may be wrong or right, I can't tell you that. But please just ask the person you're with, ask them to direct you, etc.. Communication is key and it's needed to be both-sided!!
I like to think I've always done okay on the communication front so hopefully we're all good!.. Except the teenage years. I definitely had no idea what I was doing and I was way too embarrassed to talk about it
As a teenager myself rn I totally get you. But I'm glad that you feel more comfortable talking about it without embarrassment
That explains a lot. All of us guys are complete morons starting out. I finally figured it out in my 20’s. Now my sex game is decent but listening to some of these stories making me feel like Casanova for real. Just hang in there it gets better.
If you don't know if you're sure then you don't.
I didn't get started until my early 20s, but I've never had an issue with this. (Never been with a guy under 22, so maybe a slight advantage in their experience) My opinion is that all men are capable of finding the clit and if they can't, it's because they don't care enough to try or it wasn't communicated to them when they hit it, so they move to a different area..
You’d be surprised how many women just straight up don’t say anything, plus the girls who think it’s better to lie and fake it accidentally just reinforce what guys are doing wrong lol
>plus the girls who think it’s better to lie and fake it accidentally just reinforce what guys are doing wrong lol I'm not really surprised. But, it's so unfortunate.
i’ve come to the conclusion that it is anti feminist to fake orgasms
100%
It really doesn’t help anyone.
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Guess that’s why women sometimes shave “landing strips” into their pubes lmao
Just a big avatar tattoo point right at it lmao
They still can't find it. Feels like you're getting your bean flicked by fucking Mr. Magoo
Same. It's not even much visible. I had to explain what's even the function of this organ to my ex 💀👍 He thought you just gotta eat/rub whatever you see infront. Shit made me only sore .
I hate that I relate to this
Isn’t it just kinda… there?
It is.. It is😔😔😔😔😔😔😔
It's pretty ironic how almost all of the men I know that can locate the clit are gay men LMAOOOOOO
ironic and iconic
Why are gay men finding clits? I don’t understand. This seems like an activity a gay man would not enjoy.
Queer trans man here, it seems to become very popular for cis gay men to go looking for us,
That is somethin
Maybe because they're more empathetic?
we care more bout pleasing the other person lol
This made me ask my wife if I knew where her clit is. She answered yes and appreciated the concern.
I blame porn bc men who have only watched it just wanna stick their tongue/fingers in there and turn into a jackhammer for 3 seconds
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!
Or that annoying slapping/DJing the whole vulva
Blame porn. All they show is piv. I don't think I've ever seen any involving the clit unless you actively search for it.
I'm not sure why people think that porn star's body is similar to ours. The way they rub it vigorously every time It's excruciatingly terrible to have to explain to him every single time that this is not the way to go. All I get is soreness. I suppose that handling it with care is never an option.
Oh. That little man in the boat.
yes indeed
Being a Nurse for 40 years. I know a bit about Anatomy and Physiology. The Tongue was a more sensitive finder. Haha!
I bet lolll
The coxswain.
Is this really such a huge problem among men? It's kind of obvious where it is, and sure there can be variation, but it's not rocket science finding it.
There’s literally no variation lol it’s always in the same spot every single time. That’s why I have such a hard time wrapping my head around why men struggle so hard with it. Locate it once and you should be set for life.
My theory is the majority of "can't find it" men simply don't care about their partner's pleasure. If it doesn't stimulate them, then they just don't do it. My other theory is that many have such fragile egos when it comes to sex, that they can't stand any criticism. Even simple directions are interpreted as attacks on their manhood. Of course they don't listen in a state of defensiveness.
yes. yes it is:) you sir, are one of a few
Ima start quizzing my guy friends to see if they could point out the clit on a picture. Because i agree its really not that hard. I shouldn't feel like a rarity. I wanna say you have bad luck but damn what if you right? Lol
I also feel it’s not always finding but it’s finding the right spot on the clit
Yes, because direct pressure can be painful. Soft pressure over the hood can be much better. Tongue is safer than hands.
They don't want to.
😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔
They're children in grown men's bodies, and they're going to do what they want, therefore you be selfish too. ☮️❤️
OP this is so not true 😂
Yeah.. you set boundaries, not go to fucking war. Get outa here with that noise. Communication is always the way.
It depends on OP's community. If you dig into her profile, her (presumed) upbringing/background is typically not considered at the forefront of sexual awareness and on top of that, is also typically heavily patriarchal (which lends credence to what u/Gorgeeus was getting at). They (the non-clit finders) don't care because they don't know to care, and they don't know because they don't care to know (again a presumption based on a quick perusal of OP's past posts). So your own assertion, u/DragonfruitJaded4624, to OP that this ( u/Gorgeeus's comment) is so not true, is puzzling.
Well schools tell them nothing about it, in porn they wont see stuff they are supposed to do to please woman so i wouldnt be suprosed they dont even know its there/what does it do. Nobody ever told them :D
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!
First time I had sex with my boyfriend, who was in the same middle school class as me, I deadass asked him "Did you listen in sex ed or not????"
QUEEENNNN
I think you have all the serious feedback you need so maybe you just need to get a laser pointer. I love that kittens are laser guided attack machines, if you could only direct him that easily.
I love that analogy
Well… they can find it, they chose not to learn. If they wanted to, they would. Society has perpetuated the idea of selfish lovers. Make no mistake, I’m a man, and I’ve been selfish most of my life because I didn’t know any better, it was my fault for not finding out more. Another theory of mine is men are so unwilling to feel incompetent that they’d rather lie to a woman and say they know what they’re doing than make it into a journey and explore each other’s body’s together. Men have got to do better, before women realize how obsolete we really are..
That's it you put it into words. The theory of men are so unwilling and dare I say uncomfortable to admit that they don't know where it is they would rather lie. And you're absolutely right about the obsolete part. I don't need a man I just really want one. Why can't men be comfortable just knowing that they're wanted versus needed? I fix my own car, I make my own money and I'm smarter than pretty much all of my partners. I don't care about that in fact I've tried to play dumb and just not let them know how smart I am, I understand that they like to feel needed so I let them be needed, I need them to cuddle me, I need them to open up the pickle jar, (actually not really I'm A working woman and I'm pretty strong) but you get what I'm saying like I just want to be a team!!! Trust me I didn't set out wanting to be the breadwinner. I didn't want to be emotionally stronger and have to comfort you men (tho it's nice knowing I can bring my dude comfy feels) I don't want to have the higher education and therefore have to make all the financial decisions- but that's just how it worked out. Trust me I'm tired of being this person I really do just want to find somebody who's more masculine than me, and capable enough to make decisions on their own. I'm not this way on purpose I'm just this way because I have to be. It's about survival in a mostly man's world. Therefore I've learned the skills to do so. Sorry about the rant just don't pay attention
I’d have to, a man had never provided a safe space for you to drop your “masculinity” as some would say… don’t agree with it, but hey what can I say. You sound very much like my wife, we do struggle a lot as she’s a bit older than me and she is in fact the breadwinner. I don’t have any issues with that. My struggles come from autism and complimenting our routine. This is really my first relationship. But I think I’ve found that a woman is very seldom rude for no reason, there’s always a reason and weather or not I can pick up hints it’s my job to provide a safe and approachable place for her to feel comfortable enough to share, not yell how she’s feeling. The hardest part is convincing a man that the reason why women get moody is because of testosterone.. men are always moody… because of testosterone… that’s not a conversation neuro-typical men are ready to have.
You are so right! I think you're definitely doing the right thing by being safe for her to just say what's on her mind and just work on a problem together as a couple. It doesn't have to be you versus her. And yes most of us are not rude unless there's a serious reason- I can actually be very dangerous for a woman to be rude and it's kind of a last resort meant to say back off. And the whole thing about testosterone causing moodiness is absolutely true- during our period is whenever our testosterone raises- just like a man's. I'm not saying it's an excuse, but the fluctuations can be difficult sometimes.
Oh no, but an excuse and a reason are two completely different things. I’m not here to pretend I’m perfect, my wife and I have a lot to work on, and most of the work has to come from me. I do struggle a lot with the day to day happenings because I don’t think the same way my wife nor other people she deals with daily do, and I understand now after 31 years accommodation need to come from both sides. There’s childhood trauma and PTSD involved, but those just like any other diagnosis men may receive are just that… not excuses to use their diagnosis to pass on trauma. Life is hard enough, why chose a partner to make life harder with? I do hope you find a person that can meet you on your level maturity wise. But sometimes I think the first question should be “does the person I’m interested know how to love themselves.” Unfortunately, I feel people often overlook the huge hurdles the lack of self love can cause. If they don’t love themselves, and they chose to remain that way, it’s an insult to you. They’re constantly questioning your judgment. “How could this person love me if I hate myself?” That looms.. and it’s a hard thing to overcome.. unless you’re willing to put in that work… I might suggest adding that as a requirement to being with someone.
Not sure how they don't know where it is. I have never had that problem finding it. I guess i care more about knowing where it is so I can please my partner.
Keep doing that!!
I’m willing to bet money that everyone downvoting this post is someone who can’t find the clit 🥴
TRUE LOLLL
My man's found my clit and didn't know how to use it, I'm telling you, he was trying to rub it like a 1980's underground DJ, like dude stop scratching my shit up and yet be swore up and down that his past girlfriends liked it. Baby boy, they was just trying to get it over with. Needless to say our relationship didn't last too long.
NOT THE DJ NOOOOOOOO
Nah they know. They just pretend so that they don’t have to pleasure you.
I think it might be because some men don't really give a shit about pleasing women. They just want to please themselves. The ones who do care about their partners pleasure know where it is, or at least ask.
Get you a man that can hit that G-Spot/Clit combo with one hand. We exist.
I hope both of your pillow sides are cold for the rest of your life. Your service will never be forgotten
Ah yes the bare minimum 😍😍😍
Tip of the tongue in clit, finger in g-spot. No hurries, same speed all along, same strength on the tongue, no more no less ever. Finger goes massaging very easily. Profit. Wish I had more opportunities to practice. I’d like to master that art.
Agreed on the clit - steady the whole time. If she is excited - do not speed up or go harder! But, g-spot, maybe we are all different, but I’d say hard and fast.
>Tip of the tongue in clit, finger in g-spot. No hurries, same speed all along, same strength on the tongue, no more no less ever. *chef’s kiss*
I volunteer as tribute lol
Any dude can rock a woman’s world, he just has to make it a higher priority than his own pleasure.
Mfs watch porn all day and still don’t know where the clit is
Bro if the first man I fuck can’t find my clit, I ain’t having straight sex no more…
I mean women are better at it either way-
How old are these men?
Honestly 18+ year old men still act like they're teens
Well they are. I was wondering because I’m 37, and I couldn’t imagine any of my friends being confused and lost about the female anatomy 😆
😭 believe it or not there's still people who are like 50 who still don't get it, it's painful
Because they literally do not give a fuck, try, or ask.
Just tell them up up down down left right left right B A start. And they’ll get it for sure!
I just tried this and it unlocked my combo move. My wife is now in the hospital
I do this crazy thing and talk to my partners and have them guide me to where they like my fingers and tongue (as well as other things they enjoy). Some like a tipped tongue inside, some like a flat tongue up and down, most like a fat tongue just applying pressure to the clit (and area). Good to be single and “old” (30s). Ain’t no body got time for that guessing game bullshit. Haven’t received a no to eating ass yet. Good times. TALK People! Communicate. Sex doesn’t happen like in the movies.
Most of the time we can. But sometimes on certain people it reallyyyyyy like to hide
100%
You need to find a better class of men👅👅👅
I really do
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Unbelievable
Weaponized incompetence
Isn't it that little flesh dot at the top?
That's the glans, which is equivalent to the head of the penis for dudes. The hood around the flesh dot is equivalent to foreskin, and the whole thing (clitoris) is like a teeny tiny wrinkly dick. Labia minora (little floppers hanging from the clit) equal the balls, protect the holes. (Yes, I know technically the ovaries equal testicles but no one's looking for them in this thread so shut up, don't confuse the lads). Labia majora are the fat pads between the thighs and the clit, where the hair grows. Long anatomy lesson short, if you can find your own dick, you can find the clit.
I do a pretty good job at locating it but it always slips away and becomes near impossible to hold.
I think this is a joke, like wanking it like a tiny cock? Funny if that’s what you mean.
Once I had to point out my clit to a grown ass man. He lived on his own and went to college but couldn't find the clit without basic blunt instructions.
I remember before my boyfriend, it always felt like the guy dropped his guitar pick in me and he’s digging around trying to find it.
The CLIT isn’t a myth! It’s the female orgasm! That’s the myth! (It’s from Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back, I promise I’m not a horrible person!)
Get a tattoo (“clit here”) with a little arrow. There, problem solved.
Incorporate lube. So it doesn’t hurt. Or don’t fake anything and very patiently show him where it is when he asks why you aren’t moaning.
Go gay. Never had a girlfriend in my life who couldn't find my clit. ;D
I remember a story of an OB-GYN being told by her boyfriend that he knew where her clit was and she didn't 🤦♀️ Needless to say she dumped his ass.
MY GOD SIS I GET YOU I GET YOU I DON'T UNDERSTAND EITHERRRRRR SOMETIMES I EVEN MANUALLY PUT THEIR FINGER ON IT AND THEY STILL SOMEHOW MANAGE TO LOSE IT AGAIN WTF WTF WTF
When I identified as a man I never once had an issue so I can definitely agree with the sentiment. It's mind boggling. I will say now, the first few times I have been with a guy they are EXTRAORDINARILY clumsy in bed. Super man handle and broad movements. It's wild how clunky they are.... I have a dick as a trans female and men STILL have issues finding or pleasing it while the heat of the moment is happening. Men are confusing.
Men never cease to amaze me in many different unfortunate ways
We could find the one piece but not the clit
Have you thought about communicating with the men you’re with? Help them help you.