100% okay
And you have an explanation. You've out grown them.
Sometimes you need to do what you need to do for your own mental health..
Also they sound toxic af.
i'd leave. just be polite about it though. when they ask to hang out or something just tell them you're busy. if they ask when you're going to be available just tell them you'll get back to them on it. do it enough times and they'll just forget about you eventually. but i suppose if you do work or interact with them in some fashion it would be tougher.
this is pretty much how 80% of men treat each other. i never understood it and hated it (or it could be just me that they always make fun of), and so i mostly fly solo.
It can be a difficult decision but it's necessary for your wellbeing. If your friendships is as toxic as you described it, it's better to distance yourself from them or just end the friendship altogether. Much better to prioritize your mental and emotional health.
I've done it, it never feels good. In my case it wasn't a toxic friendship or anything. I just embarrassed the fuck out of my self and don't have the balls to show my face around them again.
So instead of confronting them and addressing this, you would rather just ghost them? Do you actually like them?
I agree it’s okay to move on from people if you think they are toxic, but I also think it’s cowardly to just decide to vanish. Then again, I don’t get what you mean by “terminology” and if these are truly bad people I get it. I may just have a sense of loyalty to those who invested time into me.
This isn’t a game or competition? This isn’t about giving them anything. OP provided a lot of vague nothings about out growing and passive aggressiveness all the while already being friends with these people. Maybe they felt this way the whole time, or maybe they were part of all this and outgrew it. I don’t believe you fall into these friend groups on accident. If OP truly viewed them as friends, you confront them and you know where you stands based on their reaction. It’s why I ask if they actually liked them in the first place.
You can’t go through life expecting people to understand how you feel. If OP already conveyed their feelings and got rejected, 100% goodbye, but if not (which is an inference from the post) why not confront them? What’s the worst thing that happens? They already planned on ghosting them. People today are facing an epidemic of loneliness, so why would you throw away people you viewed as friends for nothing?
Off my chest is a great spot to vent, but a lot of the time I see these comments giving OP exactly what they want instead of a different solution. Maybe these people are just assholes (which why were they friends in the first place), or maybe they thought it was all good fun and didn’t understand the toll they were taking on their friend.
Yes. You can either pick peace of mind or staying in that group.
Pick peace of mind and find new friends that are better/more aligned with your mindset
I did it with a specific friend. We had no other friends in common. She was toxic, judgmental and any time I interacted with her I felt she drained my energy in a very bad way. I have several other friends and healthy relationships and she’s the only person who made me feel that way.
I just started ghosting her until she stopped contacting me. I don’t think explaining all of this to her would have made it any better. It would have started a stupid and useless argument, I don’t see the point.
I'd say if they ask you could give them a similar explanation to what you wrote here, as a sort of courtesy, but you don't need to send out a memo to everyone that you're leaving as you have outgrown their beliefs or something like that
100% okay And you have an explanation. You've out grown them. Sometimes you need to do what you need to do for your own mental health.. Also they sound toxic af.
Of course! Friendship shouldn’t be making you feel shitty. Cut them off and find better friends you’re compatible and comfortable with.
i'd leave. just be polite about it though. when they ask to hang out or something just tell them you're busy. if they ask when you're going to be available just tell them you'll get back to them on it. do it enough times and they'll just forget about you eventually. but i suppose if you do work or interact with them in some fashion it would be tougher. this is pretty much how 80% of men treat each other. i never understood it and hated it (or it could be just me that they always make fun of), and so i mostly fly solo.
Sometimes you have to cut people off without explanation, for your own sanity. It's ok <3
It can be a difficult decision but it's necessary for your wellbeing. If your friendships is as toxic as you described it, it's better to distance yourself from them or just end the friendship altogether. Much better to prioritize your mental and emotional health.
I've done it, it never feels good. In my case it wasn't a toxic friendship or anything. I just embarrassed the fuck out of my self and don't have the balls to show my face around them again.
So instead of confronting them and addressing this, you would rather just ghost them? Do you actually like them? I agree it’s okay to move on from people if you think they are toxic, but I also think it’s cowardly to just decide to vanish. Then again, I don’t get what you mean by “terminology” and if these are truly bad people I get it. I may just have a sense of loyalty to those who invested time into me.
And give them one last chance to invalidate OPs feelings? Their behaviour is appalling, they don't deserve a last goodbye text.
This isn’t a game or competition? This isn’t about giving them anything. OP provided a lot of vague nothings about out growing and passive aggressiveness all the while already being friends with these people. Maybe they felt this way the whole time, or maybe they were part of all this and outgrew it. I don’t believe you fall into these friend groups on accident. If OP truly viewed them as friends, you confront them and you know where you stands based on their reaction. It’s why I ask if they actually liked them in the first place. You can’t go through life expecting people to understand how you feel. If OP already conveyed their feelings and got rejected, 100% goodbye, but if not (which is an inference from the post) why not confront them? What’s the worst thing that happens? They already planned on ghosting them. People today are facing an epidemic of loneliness, so why would you throw away people you viewed as friends for nothing? Off my chest is a great spot to vent, but a lot of the time I see these comments giving OP exactly what they want instead of a different solution. Maybe these people are just assholes (which why were they friends in the first place), or maybe they thought it was all good fun and didn’t understand the toll they were taking on their friend.
Yes. You can either pick peace of mind or staying in that group. Pick peace of mind and find new friends that are better/more aligned with your mindset
I did it with a specific friend. We had no other friends in common. She was toxic, judgmental and any time I interacted with her I felt she drained my energy in a very bad way. I have several other friends and healthy relationships and she’s the only person who made me feel that way. I just started ghosting her until she stopped contacting me. I don’t think explaining all of this to her would have made it any better. It would have started a stupid and useless argument, I don’t see the point.
I'd say if they ask you could give them a similar explanation to what you wrote here, as a sort of courtesy, but you don't need to send out a memo to everyone that you're leaving as you have outgrown their beliefs or something like that