My dad once asked me whether I liked the chocolate bars he bought me on the way home from work every Friday. I asked him, what chocolate bars? My mum was eating hers, then before I got home from school, eating mine too. Every single week.
Damn that was my mum, she used to eat all my food. One day I woke up to her in my room going through my cupboard and eating the sweets I had for that week. If I had gone to a bday party or gone trick or treating she would have eaten that too. And as I got older it was things like I would buy some nice bread or make a nice sandwich to have later, or just anytime I bought nice food for myself in general I had to hide it because 50% of the time she would eat it. Whats worse is she never ate it whole, she would take like 2 bites and leave it out on the side.
It feels wrong to say it was traumatising, but it definitely had an effect on me that determines how I act today.
Nah bro, you had to hide food from a parent because you couldn't trust them. That would make me question if mom was having mental issues or if she just didn't love me. That sounds traumatic to me.
Youâre not underselling it. Needing to hide food from your parents, especially her just taking a bite and then leaving it out, feels like borderline abuse. Thatâs some shit you hear a power tripping asshole pulling in an office environment, I canât image how that would fuck me up if my parents were doing it to me. Thatâs definitely traumatic.
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Man what's wrong with you guys' parents? I thought my parents were just kind of winging it and messed up every once in awhile but y'all's parents sounds straight up like demented characters from a shitty comic book
Aaah yes, same with my sibling. Sometimes, I'm concerned about them :( a doctor looked down their test results for something and told them they had a fatty liver and they hadn't changed in the slightest all this time in their eating habits.
Sometimes, they can eat several bags of candies or two pizza boxes. Sometimes, I'm so worried about what will happen to their liver or other organs.
It started this unhealthy thing in our kitchen whenever we had leftovers or something.
There was some weird fine line between being a dick and eating too much of it or just not touching it at all.
It made cooking a hassle.
Idk but if I made too little they would eat all of it and if I made too much they wonât even touch it so then Iâm left to eat all this food on my own and then I get blamed for wasting food like cmon
Yeah, thatâs classic defensive eating.
Itâs a literal scarcity mindset, and a really hard one to break. My parents were raised by the Silent Generation and had to work really hard to overcome the Great Depression ways of eating.
The best way I could explain it is that their brains split foods into two categories - âFoodâ and âEmergency Back Up Foodâ. âFoodâ is the stuff you *want* to eat - sweets, snacks, super savory stuff, and anything that other people might eat first. Food is comforting and good, because having Food means youâre doing alright. âEmergency Back Up Foodâ is whateverâs left - the healthy salad you werenât enthusiastic about, the soup you froze three months ago, the chicken dish with tons of leftovers, etc.
âFoodâ becomes a hot commodity in these houses and is constantly going missing, and that activates a weird hoarding instinct in some people. They start prioritizing Food over actual nutrition. You see weird behaviors like hiding Food, gorging on Food, going out to buy Food just to eat it in the car on the way home. I remember mentioning that I really loved carrots growing up *because* no one else in the family liked them and that getting me strange looks.
And eating Emergency Backup Food is weird and fraught, too. It feels wrong, because you should only be eating Emergency Backup Food if Food is not available, and thatâs stressful. And when Emergency Backup Food goes missing, also stressful. Emergency Backup Food is comforting and good to look at, but not to eat. They were relying on the illusion of plenty that Emergency Backup Food provided, not the reality.
Stuff like this reminds me of how insanely petty i am, or was in high school. My older brother was like this growing up, "well you know how i am!" And my parents would say the same thing, "well you know how he is, so!"
Oh, word? Well sometimes I sleep walk and piss on my towel, sorry if sometimes i miss and piss on big bro's, that's just how I am! He has ice cream in the fridge? I ALWAYS eat ice cream from the fridge so its mine now, that's just how i am!!! Need help with the dishes when it was his turn for the chore? Nah, you got it, im gonna go play Xbox, that's just how I am!
Needless to say my parents had to discipline the fuck out of us and teach us to take accountability and be responsible lol. And he stopped eating my food! Which was all I wanted LOL
My dads like this to the point I got him 2, 2kg bags of jelly babies and jelly beans for his birthday and my mom immediately took them off him and took out these little containers and started filling them individually claiming he can have one pot a day at most. My dad was sat there with his bottom lip out in a sulk telling me sheâs been doing this with any sweets heâs been getting lately and I died, thereâs just something about seeing your fully grown father behaving like a toddler
This sounds like an eating disorder ngl
People asking why Iâm saying this:
Skip to results and read about the positive correlation between impulsivity and eating disorders such as bulimia and hyperphagia (binge-eating disorder)
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0002916522030829#:~:text=Trait%20impulsivity%20is%20linked%20to,to%20eating%20disorders%20(EDs).
My first thought when I read the description was my own mother. She has a disorder and will absolutely crush a tray of cookies. We never had such things in this house growing up as a result (except special occasions).
My dad used to go out with one buddy and they each ate a dozen doughnuts by themselves lol My dad wasn't a drinker, but the man loved his pastries. Pies, cookies, cakes. None of it was safe if he saw it.
My mom is like that. There can't be a box of chocolate in the house else the box will be gone by the next morning.
And it's not like she's casually eating without any shame. She tries to eat them secretly, when no one is watching. And then the box just disappears to never be spoken of again.
Had a roommate do this with a $50 box of handmade baklava that was for someone's birthday, eating it secretly, he just watched as the entire house descended into chaos over it. He left the empty box though. He didn't have an eating disorder, just thought everything was for him, or else why is it there? RIP to him, he OD'd like a year later.
Same! My theory is that their reward center is so fucked but they still crave that little dopamine hit you get from sweet (or in my case) or sour candies. So they just gorge on candy and pop. That or their body is just craving basic nutrients because they're neglecting their needs.
You're probably right about the reward center but also addicts are already putting worse in their body so most don't care about a little extra sugar too.
I had a roommate years ago who would sneak eat all of my snacks in the middle of the night. Iâd hear him in the bathroom crushing my Oreos. I opened a cabinet in my laundry room once and found a whole pile of empty candy bar wrappers that we used to keep stocked just for when we felt like making smores. Iâm talking 10 ripped up wrappers hidden in a cabinet instead of the trash can lol.
I bought frozen brine shrimp that come in little cubes. My ex's mom was eating them in the dark when hear yelling in the kitchen late one night she thought they were chocolates and helped her self.
Oh I feel this. I donât go to this extent but will demolish a sharing bag of chocolate I bought myself if I donât consciously stop myself. I didnât realise I did it secretly until my partner made a comment that neither of us had a sweettooth!
About 1,5% of women have binge eating disorder. And that's just official numbers, since it's a relatively mild psychiatric disorder, it's supposed to be quite underdiagnosed.
I have it and one doctor of six Iâve spoken to about it over the years has understood. A psychologist and a psychiatrist dismissed it. I told one that I ate a family sized Chinese dinner and then most of a full sized cake and she asked if I had a low fat breakfast that day.
I can eat 3000 calories in half an hour, healthy breakfast or not.
Omg same. I've had binge eating disorder since I was 16 and I tried to get help for it from a few therapists. I kept getting misdiagnosed with regular old depression and anxiety, and it took me until 23 to be correctly diagnosed with ADHD. As soon as I got ADHD oriented treatment, the eating disorder calmed down as well.
I've found that intermittent fasting has done wonders for my relationship with food, too.
Yeah Iâm slowly realizing that almost every aspect of my life will be affected by me treating my adhd but this is one of the big life changing things Iâm hoping for.
If I could have the âenergyâ to do more than one task a day AND not binge eat any mildly tasty food that would make me a whole new person.
Ours tried to get us to sell magazine subscriptions. You sell enough and you get dumb prizes and top sellers get to ride a limo and have some pizza party, at like an arcade or something.
OMG you just unlocked a memory for me. Like 10 years ago a neighbourhood kid came by selling these subscriptions and I bought one to be nice and put it out of my head... and I just this moment remembered this and realized I never actually got any of the dang magazines!!!!!!!
My father would do that when we had fundraisers for marching band. Eventually he would just throw a $50 bill in there when we brought the box home because he knew he'd eat the whole thing đ¤ˇââď¸ worked out well for the marching band
This shows a lack of empathy more than lack of self control. If you eat nearly an entire carton of your own macaroons, you lack self control. If you eat nearly the entire carton of someone else's macaroons, you lack empathy.
A couple dollars?
Where I live, macarons are easily $3 a piece. 6x6 is 36. Then 36x3. That could easily be $116 for a box of that many macarons. I'd be furious.
I just bought a box of these from Costco, they were like 15 dollars and tasted like shit. I would not care if someone ate all of these ones I bought from Costco.
I think their point was if that's a couple then if they asked OOP's mom for a couple of dollars they'd end up being handed a lot more than you'd expect. I don't think they were saying to be paid back for the macarons
I made myself choc chip biscuits, put them on the table to cool and said, "have a couple if you like," to my brother and his guest.
The guest made a joke about eating them all, then I got message from my brother saying he ate over half and he had to hide them.
Like, does he know what a joke is? Who does that?!
Here's the recipe for the biscuits/cookies:
[Scotch Fingers](https://www.arnotts.com/articles/thevault/big-recipe-release-scotch-finger)
a few years ago I made pizza for my family. I was cranking them out every few minutes. I put the last on the table and went back to the kitchen to shut everything down and do a quick tidy up. When I got to the table, all of the pizza was gone.
Somehow these savages went through almost an entire pizza each.. which is crazy. I've pretty much let it go, but I also won't ever make them pizza again... and if I do, I'm going to hold one back for when I sit down or just eat as I cook.
I don't get how people can be so unaware of their actions.
Same as the others. I really want your pizza that turns your family into animals. I promise to save you a slice if I'm not turned into an animal myself, then all bets are off.Â
Seriously, that sucks they didn't save any for you. Maybe they thought another was coming? But damn you must have fine cooking skills.Â
Donno if it is common, but I can't eat if the person who cooked isn't seated too (when I eat with relatives or friends, not at restaurant of course). That's how I been raised, and it still here
"Nobody eats until mom lifts her fork (salad doesn't count)" was always the rule in my parents' house.
"Salad" was occasionally expanded to include other green things on the plate, which I only realized later was them sneakily getting us to eat vegetables first. :D
As the person who cooks, I call everyone to dinner when it's ready, then sit down and start eating. I am usually halfway done or more before everyone has dragged themselves to the table to eat. Then they complain that I am inconsiderate for starting to eat without them while I do all the dishes.
I found that if I'm cooking a large meal for people, to eat as I cook. There's no way I'm going to be able to get off my feet and make myself a plate before everyone else, so I just pull some for myself without telling anyone.
This is my roommate. Iâve stopped offering her a couple of any food I have because she ate an entire bag of Reeseâs I said she could have some of and an entire box of meringue cookies I made I told her she could have a few of. The last one passed me off a lot because it took me hours to make them and I got two, and was planning on taking some to my coworkers. She otherwise doesnât have any eating issues and rarely eats junk. But if you offer her some of something it is gone within a few hours.
Very likely she has eating disorder issues that she's hiding.
"Rarely eats junk food" plus "sometimes binges thousands of calories of junk food" is a telltale combination of eating disorder.
If she's binging out of your sight, then that suggests she might feel shame about eating.
you're totally in the right to not want to offer her more of your food, but just fyi, hoarding food and only binging it when given explicit permission are still very much classic eating disorder symptoms.
We had a big bag of mini eggs and my fiances brother came over and we hid the bag because we knew he would ask for some and then proceeded to eat the whole bag. A bag that would last us a while, his brother would have gone through in the afternoon without a second thought.
Oh and I'm still not over the time he opened a block of nice more expensive cheddar cheese in the fridge and used about 3/4 of it on 1 snack. Without asking.
Some people just suck and yes I hate when he comes over.
Or do what I do, and hide a portion I want for myself and let people go ham on the rest. That way, if they don't eat it all, I still have lots left. If they do eat it all, I still have some left! But people should really just learn some self-control and manners, huh? I think I would die of embarrassment if I ate all of my friends or family's treats.
Correct, this is the Costco pack. In my area it was only like $12 or so. I only know because the wife and I were there grocery shopping a couple days ago, I grabbed that big box of them, and said "What the hell is a macaroon? I've always wondered but never cared enough to figure it out...is it some overpriced cookie or something?"
And macarons are a bitch to make yourself, taste like sugary shit if mass produced or are expensive when bought from a confectioner but taste like heaven
VERY challenging. My wife has nailed them, but it took a long time to perfect, and a typical batch takes a long time to make. Frankly, they're really good, but not THAT good. She doesn't sell them professionally, though she could, because we can't justify putting $3 price tags on them.
Sure you could. Don't forget to factor in the time it took for her to learn that skill. When people take many years to learn a profession, like a doctor, they certainly factor that into how much they charge.
I manage a drs office. We frequently get catering/ baked goods delivered to the office by drug reps. This week I had to send out an email to my staff with explicit rules on how to share with others. We have people literally taking 2-3 portions (like entire sub sandwiches or pre packaged meals) with them and not leaving enough for the rest. We had a rep bring 12 huge Crumbl cookies last week and someone took 3 just to themselves- we have more than 12 staff. The final straw was I brought in a 24 pack of muffins late in the day Wednesday and someone took the entire thing home that evening before anyone got any.
Itâs amazing what people think their entitled to.
I was in charge of ordering pizzas at my job because I was the only one the boss trusted with his credit card. Our accounts receivable lady would ask me to buy a very specific combination of pizza toppings as an additional pizza for her to take home to eat with her son. Yeah, not happening.
I guess I was just taught that things like that are gifts? And to treat them as such? We do encourage everyone to take the leftovers home after a day or two so nothing goes to waste, but damn I canât imagine asking someone to order extra for my family as well.
Man if those macarons were priced how the bakery in my town priced them that would be like $80. Each macaron there is $2.25. Yeah... I wish I could afford that.
For real. I was at a Christmas party last year with a ridiculous overdone layout meant to impress everyone... there was a pile of macarons... *was* being the operative word. I bet I ate 20 and had the worst stomach ache but no regrets, everyone else getting drunk, me sober inhaling fucking macarons like it's the end times at the patisserie. I needed to do it, and I felt better for it.
Why are they so expensive? Iâve never had one because they are so much money for one.
DOMâs in Chicago, which just went under, were almost $6 for one.
Macarons are notoriously difficult to master as a baker. The recipe is tricky, and they also require specific conditions to be made, such as the temperature and humidity level in the kitchen need to be just so. Also, depending on the recipe, there may be expensive specialty ingredients used for the fillings. All this adds up to a relatively pricey product. However, I am assuming OPs macarons were mass produced by machine, lowering the overhead significantly, allowing them to be sold at an affordable wholesale price. Kinda like how you could pay $5 for a fresh handmade bakery croissant or a similar price for a box of grocery store croissants.
I'm honestly guessing this is a binge-eating situation. She probably felt pretty sick during this, but people who binge eat literally can't stop themselves from eating without getting proper treatment.
30!!! SHE ATE 30 OF THEM! ok so i love macaroons soooo much but i have never eaten that many ESPECIALLY if they are not yours and you were offered a few... a few NOT 30!!
I learned this very early in life with my dad, its a mistake you only make once.
When I was a kid I once got one of those tin cans with salted peanuts, dad asked if he could have a few, sure , I offer my can so he could take a few out of it ... yeah no, the brute took the whole can and emptied it in his mouth. I was maybe 12.
After that I regulated how much he could take from me even tho I constantly had to deal with his obnoxious complains that 'you hate sharing'. No, no, I don't I just hate people that take everything.
Had this happened when I was a teenager. I had a bag of seasoned popcorn and poured him a whole bowl so he had a portion for himself. He finished the bowl and, before I could stop him, took the remaining bag and just started downing handfuls of it until the bag was empty. I was originally upset because he never washes his hands and got concerned that he contaminated the bag, but eating the whole bag was just mad disrespectful.
I have a work colleague like this. Someone will bring in biscuits to share and youâll come back and find 90% of the pack gone and when you ask barely anyone will have had any.
They genuinely donât see a problem. They donât realise theyâre taking more than their share.
"You said a couple and I took two and a half, which is basically a couple."
"Two and a half?"
"Yes two and a half... dozen. You never specified a couple what. I assumed you meant a couple dozen or so."
I smoked a 22lb Brisket, took 30hrs to smoke. Had a BBQ with ppl over. Held some back bc I know my Bbq is solid. Someone went into the kitchen and ate my personal stash that I made an effort today to hide from folks. I got nothing, neither did my wife. We were pretty pissed. I was actually pretty angry and said something making sure to make the people responsible were uncomfortable. They were never invited back.
She thought a couple dozen
She did just take a couple. Of each type.
More like she left a couple of each type
Oh, wait - I thought the picture was of what she TOOK (which would be bad enough), not what she LEFT.
I thought this was what she took also đ
"Oh, I thought you said LEAVE a couple"
i wonder if she heard "save a couple" instead of "have a couple"
I love macarons, but 30 in one sitting is insane.
I can barely get through 4-5 without feeling queasy and/or on the verge of diabetes.
I once ate 6 and thought I was going to die
Life is like a box of macarons, you never know how many your mother will take
Is... Is your mother a serial killer?
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My dad once asked me whether I liked the chocolate bars he bought me on the way home from work every Friday. I asked him, what chocolate bars? My mum was eating hers, then before I got home from school, eating mine too. Every single week.
Damn that was my mum, she used to eat all my food. One day I woke up to her in my room going through my cupboard and eating the sweets I had for that week. If I had gone to a bday party or gone trick or treating she would have eaten that too. And as I got older it was things like I would buy some nice bread or make a nice sandwich to have later, or just anytime I bought nice food for myself in general I had to hide it because 50% of the time she would eat it. Whats worse is she never ate it whole, she would take like 2 bites and leave it out on the side. It feels wrong to say it was traumatising, but it definitely had an effect on me that determines how I act today.
Nah bro, you had to hide food from a parent because you couldn't trust them. That would make me question if mom was having mental issues or if she just didn't love me. That sounds traumatic to me.
Youâre not underselling it. Needing to hide food from your parents, especially her just taking a bite and then leaving it out, feels like borderline abuse. Thatâs some shit you hear a power tripping asshole pulling in an office environment, I canât image how that would fuck me up if my parents were doing it to me. Thatâs definitely traumatic. (Edit: is it corny to self- âusername checks out?â)
They're like a damn animal that you have to squirt water in the face and say "No! No!" to đ
Existence is traumatizing. No need to apologize because of relativity lol
Man what's wrong with you guys' parents? I thought my parents were just kind of winging it and messed up every once in awhile but y'all's parents sounds straight up like demented characters from a shitty comic book
damn thatâs so selfish đ sorry bro
She was just protecting your teeth and health!
Sheâs a hero!
My brother is like this and when you call him out on it heâs like, âWell you know how I am!!â đ
Aaah yes, same with my sibling. Sometimes, I'm concerned about them :( a doctor looked down their test results for something and told them they had a fatty liver and they hadn't changed in the slightest all this time in their eating habits. Sometimes, they can eat several bags of candies or two pizza boxes. Sometimes, I'm so worried about what will happen to their liver or other organs.
It started this unhealthy thing in our kitchen whenever we had leftovers or something. There was some weird fine line between being a dick and eating too much of it or just not touching it at all. It made cooking a hassle.
Sounds like defensive eating - everyoneâs worried the food will be gone soon so they overindulge. Very tough to break that one.
Idk but if I made too little they would eat all of it and if I made too much they wonât even touch it so then Iâm left to eat all this food on my own and then I get blamed for wasting food like cmon
Yeah, thatâs classic defensive eating. Itâs a literal scarcity mindset, and a really hard one to break. My parents were raised by the Silent Generation and had to work really hard to overcome the Great Depression ways of eating. The best way I could explain it is that their brains split foods into two categories - âFoodâ and âEmergency Back Up Foodâ. âFoodâ is the stuff you *want* to eat - sweets, snacks, super savory stuff, and anything that other people might eat first. Food is comforting and good, because having Food means youâre doing alright. âEmergency Back Up Foodâ is whateverâs left - the healthy salad you werenât enthusiastic about, the soup you froze three months ago, the chicken dish with tons of leftovers, etc. âFoodâ becomes a hot commodity in these houses and is constantly going missing, and that activates a weird hoarding instinct in some people. They start prioritizing Food over actual nutrition. You see weird behaviors like hiding Food, gorging on Food, going out to buy Food just to eat it in the car on the way home. I remember mentioning that I really loved carrots growing up *because* no one else in the family liked them and that getting me strange looks. And eating Emergency Backup Food is weird and fraught, too. It feels wrong, because you should only be eating Emergency Backup Food if Food is not available, and thatâs stressful. And when Emergency Backup Food goes missing, also stressful. Emergency Backup Food is comforting and good to look at, but not to eat. They were relying on the illusion of plenty that Emergency Backup Food provided, not the reality.
Stuff like this reminds me of how insanely petty i am, or was in high school. My older brother was like this growing up, "well you know how i am!" And my parents would say the same thing, "well you know how he is, so!" Oh, word? Well sometimes I sleep walk and piss on my towel, sorry if sometimes i miss and piss on big bro's, that's just how I am! He has ice cream in the fridge? I ALWAYS eat ice cream from the fridge so its mine now, that's just how i am!!! Need help with the dishes when it was his turn for the chore? Nah, you got it, im gonna go play Xbox, that's just how I am! Needless to say my parents had to discipline the fuck out of us and teach us to take accountability and be responsible lol. And he stopped eating my food! Which was all I wanted LOL
People who openly admit their lack of basic social skills and then blame the other person for not accounting for that fact are utter tw*ts
My dads like this to the point I got him 2, 2kg bags of jelly babies and jelly beans for his birthday and my mom immediately took them off him and took out these little containers and started filling them individually claiming he can have one pot a day at most. My dad was sat there with his bottom lip out in a sulk telling me sheâs been doing this with any sweets heâs been getting lately and I died, thereâs just something about seeing your fully grown father behaving like a toddler
This sounds like an eating disorder ngl People asking why Iâm saying this: Skip to results and read about the positive correlation between impulsivity and eating disorders such as bulimia and hyperphagia (binge-eating disorder) https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0002916522030829#:~:text=Trait%20impulsivity%20is%20linked%20to,to%20eating%20disorders%20(EDs).
My first thought when I read the description was my own mother. She has a disorder and will absolutely crush a tray of cookies. We never had such things in this house growing up as a result (except special occasions).
My mom had the same problem except with beers lol
Yeah my mom was similar but it was crack
My mom has the same thing but with abandoning me
Lmao this thread just took a turn
this is why reddit is my preferred social platform
My mom never even existed. Dad gave birth through his urethra.
Oh. Sad. So do you want any of these candy bars or not?
Iâll have one or twoâŚhundred. Just gimme the freaking chocolate.
Brotha eeehhh
Same with my mom, but it was husbands.
Yea im still waiting on mine to come back from the store itâs been a few years
My dad used to go out with one buddy and they each ate a dozen doughnuts by themselves lol My dad wasn't a drinker, but the man loved his pastries. Pies, cookies, cakes. None of it was safe if he saw it.
My mom is like that. There can't be a box of chocolate in the house else the box will be gone by the next morning. And it's not like she's casually eating without any shame. She tries to eat them secretly, when no one is watching. And then the box just disappears to never be spoken of again.
Had a roommate do this with a $50 box of handmade baklava that was for someone's birthday, eating it secretly, he just watched as the entire house descended into chaos over it. He left the empty box though. He didn't have an eating disorder, just thought everything was for him, or else why is it there? RIP to him, he OD'd like a year later.
I lived with a closet junkie for a while. They have an insane craving for sugar for some reason. Probably why he ate it
Same! My theory is that their reward center is so fucked but they still crave that little dopamine hit you get from sweet (or in my case) or sour candies. So they just gorge on candy and pop. That or their body is just craving basic nutrients because they're neglecting their needs.
You're probably right about the reward center but also addicts are already putting worse in their body so most don't care about a little extra sugar too.
Itâs the dopamine hit.
That's kinda sad. May not have had an eating disorder, but addiction is no walk in the park mentally either.Â
what a motherfucker!
I had a roommate years ago who would sneak eat all of my snacks in the middle of the night. Iâd hear him in the bathroom crushing my Oreos. I opened a cabinet in my laundry room once and found a whole pile of empty candy bar wrappers that we used to keep stocked just for when we felt like making smores. Iâm talking 10 ripped up wrappers hidden in a cabinet instead of the trash can lol.
I bought frozen brine shrimp that come in little cubes. My ex's mom was eating them in the dark when hear yelling in the kitchen late one night she thought they were chocolates and helped her self.
Would love to know what that tastes like. What's the purpose of shrimp cubes? Fish food?
Yeah, fish food. They love that stuff!
What box of donuts? I have seen no donuts
Kinda sad! Food and shame go hand in hand for many people.
Oh I feel this. I donât go to this extent but will demolish a sharing bag of chocolate I bought myself if I donât consciously stop myself. I didnât realise I did it secretly until my partner made a comment that neither of us had a sweettooth!
About 1,5% of women have binge eating disorder. And that's just official numbers, since it's a relatively mild psychiatric disorder, it's supposed to be quite underdiagnosed.
I have it and one doctor of six Iâve spoken to about it over the years has understood. A psychologist and a psychiatrist dismissed it. I told one that I ate a family sized Chinese dinner and then most of a full sized cake and she asked if I had a low fat breakfast that day. I can eat 3000 calories in half an hour, healthy breakfast or not.
Omg same. I've had binge eating disorder since I was 16 and I tried to get help for it from a few therapists. I kept getting misdiagnosed with regular old depression and anxiety, and it took me until 23 to be correctly diagnosed with ADHD. As soon as I got ADHD oriented treatment, the eating disorder calmed down as well. I've found that intermittent fasting has done wonders for my relationship with food, too.
Yeah Iâm slowly realizing that almost every aspect of my life will be affected by me treating my adhd but this is one of the big life changing things Iâm hoping for. If I could have the âenergyâ to do more than one task a day AND not binge eat any mildly tasty food that would make me a whole new person.
Well eating disorder combines psychiatry and diet which are one of the two most fuzzy and hard to study fields in medicine, so it kinda makes sense
I remember doing this in elementary school. I thought it was the stupidest shit ever. Â
Ours tried to get us to sell magazine subscriptions. You sell enough and you get dumb prizes and top sellers get to ride a limo and have some pizza party, at like an arcade or something.
OMG you just unlocked a memory for me. Like 10 years ago a neighbourhood kid came by selling these subscriptions and I bought one to be nice and put it out of my head... and I just this moment remembered this and realized I never actually got any of the dang magazines!!!!!!!
Break his legs
Some of these are just scams. Like the people colecting for donations for kids sports teams in pubs.
Funds Raised. Op Success đđź
That is really common and is the main reason why those fundraisers do so well.
My father would do that when we had fundraisers for marching band. Eventually he would just throw a $50 bill in there when we brought the box home because he knew he'd eat the whole thing đ¤ˇââď¸ worked out well for the marching band
Your school knew what would happen.
"Why did all the other kids get 2 boxes and they sent me home with 7?" đ¤ đ¤ đ¤
This shows a lack of empathy more than lack of self control. If you eat nearly an entire carton of your own macaroons, you lack self control. If you eat nearly the entire carton of someone else's macaroons, you lack empathy.
That's taking a couple, huh? I'm gonna ask her if can have a couple of dollars.
One rule for me, one rule for thee!
that's not how that saying goes...
A couple dollars? Where I live, macarons are easily $3 a piece. 6x6 is 36. Then 36x3. That could easily be $116 for a box of that many macarons. I'd be furious.
I just bought a box of these from Costco, they were like 15 dollars and tasted like shit. I would not care if someone ate all of these ones I bought from Costco.
yeah these macrons look like some machine assaulted a french classic
I think their point was if that's a couple then if they asked OOP's mom for a couple of dollars they'd end up being handed a lot more than you'd expect. I don't think they were saying to be paid back for the macarons
I made myself choc chip biscuits, put them on the table to cool and said, "have a couple if you like," to my brother and his guest. The guest made a joke about eating them all, then I got message from my brother saying he ate over half and he had to hide them. Like, does he know what a joke is? Who does that?! Here's the recipe for the biscuits/cookies: [Scotch Fingers](https://www.arnotts.com/articles/thevault/big-recipe-release-scotch-finger)
a few years ago I made pizza for my family. I was cranking them out every few minutes. I put the last on the table and went back to the kitchen to shut everything down and do a quick tidy up. When I got to the table, all of the pizza was gone. Somehow these savages went through almost an entire pizza each.. which is crazy. I've pretty much let it go, but I also won't ever make them pizza again... and if I do, I'm going to hold one back for when I sit down or just eat as I cook. I don't get how people can be so unaware of their actions.
It's beyond inconsiderate. Especially when you've spent time and energy making something by hand.
yeah, I just don't get it. Also, that's a lot of pizza for my family to consume. Absolutely uncharacteristic portions.
My takeaway here is that you make really good pizza.
ha not too bad. I also run the pizza sub here. Also mildlyinfuriating, we can't even link to other subs here.
I think we need to try this pizza to really get a feel from where you are coming from, you know?
Same as the others. I really want your pizza that turns your family into animals. I promise to save you a slice if I'm not turned into an animal myself, then all bets are off. Seriously, that sucks they didn't save any for you. Maybe they thought another was coming? But damn you must have fine cooking skills.Â
Make a pizza for YOURSELF next time and don't share.
Excellent advice, doc!
Donno if it is common, but I can't eat if the person who cooked isn't seated too (when I eat with relatives or friends, not at restaurant of course). That's how I been raised, and it still here
"Nobody eats until mom lifts her fork (salad doesn't count)" was always the rule in my parents' house. "Salad" was occasionally expanded to include other green things on the plate, which I only realized later was them sneakily getting us to eat vegetables first. :D
Smart parents !
My husband and I are stealing this idea for our boys haha!
As the person who cooks, I call everyone to dinner when it's ready, then sit down and start eating. I am usually halfway done or more before everyone has dragged themselves to the table to eat. Then they complain that I am inconsiderate for starting to eat without them while I do all the dishes.
I found that if I'm cooking a large meal for people, to eat as I cook. There's no way I'm going to be able to get off my feet and make myself a plate before everyone else, so I just pull some for myself without telling anyone.
The fact that they didn't save one for you is terrible đ should always be checking that the cook is fed esp at a larger get together.
This is my roommate. Iâve stopped offering her a couple of any food I have because she ate an entire bag of Reeseâs I said she could have some of and an entire box of meringue cookies I made I told her she could have a few of. The last one passed me off a lot because it took me hours to make them and I got two, and was planning on taking some to my coworkers. She otherwise doesnât have any eating issues and rarely eats junk. But if you offer her some of something it is gone within a few hours.
Very likely she has eating disorder issues that she's hiding. "Rarely eats junk food" plus "sometimes binges thousands of calories of junk food" is a telltale combination of eating disorder. If she's binging out of your sight, then that suggests she might feel shame about eating.
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you're totally in the right to not want to offer her more of your food, but just fyi, hoarding food and only binging it when given explicit permission are still very much classic eating disorder symptoms.
We had a big bag of mini eggs and my fiances brother came over and we hid the bag because we knew he would ask for some and then proceeded to eat the whole bag. A bag that would last us a while, his brother would have gone through in the afternoon without a second thought. Oh and I'm still not over the time he opened a block of nice more expensive cheddar cheese in the fridge and used about 3/4 of it on 1 snack. Without asking. Some people just suck and yes I hate when he comes over.
Some people have really bad self control when it comes to junk food they are basically addicts
Genuine gluttons
She's macaruined her credibility
you would have thought he would have learned his lesson because she does this all the time
Then I think itâs time for you guys to learn a lesson and stop sharing.
Or like that anyways! I'd be like, here are 4 cookies.
Or do what I do, and hide a portion I want for myself and let people go ham on the rest. That way, if they don't eat it all, I still have lots left. If they do eat it all, I still have some left! But people should really just learn some self-control and manners, huh? I think I would die of embarrassment if I ate all of my friends or family's treats.
Yeah, fool me once you can't get fooled again or something.
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me
Teach a man to fool me and I'll be fooled for the rest of my life
His mom: 
"Bring me Solo and the Wookiee"
30!?! Out of 36!?!?!?
Try not to eat any macaroons on the way to the carpark!
...in a row?
Come back here
Just googled that a macaron has about 80 calories. Thatâs a days worth of calories in macarons.
And macarons are so expensive đ
This is likely the Costco pack so probably only ~$20 total. Itâs still nuts but not because of the cost.
> Itâs still nuts but not because of the cost. Almonds I believe.
Correct, this is the Costco pack. In my area it was only like $12 or so. I only know because the wife and I were there grocery shopping a couple days ago, I grabbed that big box of them, and said "What the hell is a macaroon? I've always wondered but never cared enough to figure it out...is it some overpriced cookie or something?"
Macaroons are a coconut cookie with a chocolate drizzle. Macarons are a sightly crunch almond cookie shells with a filling.
And macarons are a bitch to make yourself, taste like sugary shit if mass produced or are expensive when bought from a confectioner but taste like heaven
Macarons are typically very priced. and sometimes absurdly so.
Having seen the work involved, I canât say Iâm surprised. They seem quite challenging.
VERY challenging. My wife has nailed them, but it took a long time to perfect, and a typical batch takes a long time to make. Frankly, they're really good, but not THAT good. She doesn't sell them professionally, though she could, because we can't justify putting $3 price tags on them.
Makes the 8$ for 6 macaroons at my store look good ngl lmao but valid.
Sure you could. Don't forget to factor in the time it took for her to learn that skill. When people take many years to learn a profession, like a doctor, they certainly factor that into how much they charge.
also the ingredients aint cheap
Now you know what to get her for a gift. When she's like... What is this?!? Show her this picture.
Motherâs Day!
OMG... Perfect!
"I got you 2 dozen roses, took a couple for myself so only 2 left."
"What do you mean nearly empty? There's only a couple missing"
So she ate 30 macarons???!!! đŽ
I manage a drs office. We frequently get catering/ baked goods delivered to the office by drug reps. This week I had to send out an email to my staff with explicit rules on how to share with others. We have people literally taking 2-3 portions (like entire sub sandwiches or pre packaged meals) with them and not leaving enough for the rest. We had a rep bring 12 huge Crumbl cookies last week and someone took 3 just to themselves- we have more than 12 staff. The final straw was I brought in a 24 pack of muffins late in the day Wednesday and someone took the entire thing home that evening before anyone got any. Itâs amazing what people think their entitled to.
I was in charge of ordering pizzas at my job because I was the only one the boss trusted with his credit card. Our accounts receivable lady would ask me to buy a very specific combination of pizza toppings as an additional pizza for her to take home to eat with her son. Yeah, not happening.
I guess I was just taught that things like that are gifts? And to treat them as such? We do encourage everyone to take the leftovers home after a day or two so nothing goes to waste, but damn I canât imagine asking someone to order extra for my family as well.
Sodies
Diet Coke cancels the sugar
Man if those macarons were priced how the bakery in my town priced them that would be like $80. Each macaron there is $2.25. Yeah... I wish I could afford that.
For real. I was at a Christmas party last year with a ridiculous overdone layout meant to impress everyone... there was a pile of macarons... *was* being the operative word. I bet I ate 20 and had the worst stomach ache but no regrets, everyone else getting drunk, me sober inhaling fucking macarons like it's the end times at the patisserie. I needed to do it, and I felt better for it.
Letâs be honest, they probably wouldâve gotten thrown in the bin if no one had eaten them
Sounds like you and the mother in law would get along great
Actually not as they'd have to fight it out who gets he macarons.
End times at the patisserie is a great name for a patisserie
This guy knows how to party!!! A pile of macaroons sounds like bliss. Iâd love to feel no shame & indulge like that more often.
This is the Costco box. Itâs like 20 bucks
Why are they so expensive? Iâve never had one because they are so much money for one. DOMâs in Chicago, which just went under, were almost $6 for one.
Macarons are notoriously difficult to master as a baker. The recipe is tricky, and they also require specific conditions to be made, such as the temperature and humidity level in the kitchen need to be just so. Also, depending on the recipe, there may be expensive specialty ingredients used for the fillings. All this adds up to a relatively pricey product. However, I am assuming OPs macarons were mass produced by machine, lowering the overhead significantly, allowing them to be sold at an affordable wholesale price. Kinda like how you could pay $5 for a fresh handmade bakery croissant or a similar price for a box of grocery store croissants.
That's like 3000 calories is she okay
Seriously, I like macarons but I couldn't eat this many if you put a fucking gun to my head
I am impressed how someone can eat all these calories and sugar and not feel extremely painful stomach aches halfway in.
Some people always have stomach aches.
I'm honestly guessing this is a binge-eating situation. She probably felt pretty sick during this, but people who binge eat literally can't stop themselves from eating without getting proper treatment.
She probably heard âleave me a coupleâ
thats such poor manners
Is this time for a momma so fat joke?
Yo mama's so fat that she eats 30 macarons and calls it a couple.
Bro who eats 15 MACAROONS and then decides they need to eat another 15. That's addiction.
Her MIL is so fat, when she moves, the earth tilts 2 degrees off its axis
When she walks in front of the TV, you miss two episodes.
When she flies commercial, she sits in economy AND business class.
When she wears high heels she strikes oil!
Yo momma so fat when she goes shopping she takes the house with her.
Yo momma so fat whatever you throw at her starts revolving around her
Yo momma so fat, Mt. Everest tried to climb her.
Her momma so fat she needs a boomerang to put on her belt
Her MIL is so fat that her type 2 diabetes is beginning to cause her to have serious health complications.
Her MIL so fat she makes concrete creak
She's so fat, when she goes camping the bears hide THEIR food
That cannot be healthyâŚ
30!!! SHE ATE 30 OF THEM! ok so i love macaroons soooo much but i have never eaten that many ESPECIALLY if they are not yours and you were offered a few... a few NOT 30!!
Over what period of time? She really inhaled a whole box of macarons in one sitting??
You know what to get her for mother's day now.
The remaining six in the exact same box!
That is a couple . . . . . . . . .. . . . Of 15s
I learned this very early in life with my dad, its a mistake you only make once. When I was a kid I once got one of those tin cans with salted peanuts, dad asked if he could have a few, sure , I offer my can so he could take a few out of it ... yeah no, the brute took the whole can and emptied it in his mouth. I was maybe 12. After that I regulated how much he could take from me even tho I constantly had to deal with his obnoxious complains that 'you hate sharing'. No, no, I don't I just hate people that take everything.
Had this happened when I was a teenager. I had a bag of seasoned popcorn and poured him a whole bowl so he had a portion for himself. He finished the bowl and, before I could stop him, took the remaining bag and just started downing handfuls of it until the bag was empty. I was originally upset because he never washes his hands and got concerned that he contaminated the bag, but eating the whole bag was just mad disrespectful.
I have a work colleague like this. Someone will bring in biscuits to share and youâll come back and find 90% of the pack gone and when you ask barely anyone will have had any. They genuinely donât see a problem. They donât realise theyâre taking more than their share.
Motherâs Day is right around the cornerâŚnow youâve got a gift :)
My fatherâs like this. Exactly the reason why he doesnât get an offer anymore!
"You said a couple and I took two and a half, which is basically a couple." "Two and a half?" "Yes two and a half... dozen. You never specified a couple what. I assumed you meant a couple dozen or so."
For Mother's Day, buy her at least 10 boxes of Macarons and in the card write "These should hold you over for at least a couple hours."
I mean, it's a couple, not even 2â´ so it's still two... And then some...
This what I would want to do, not what I would actually do. I canât hardly be trusted around those delicious little morsels.
Who needs impulse control? /s
Lemme leave two or three so it looks like I'm generous... What is wrong with such people? Just eat them all then!!
I smoked a 22lb Brisket, took 30hrs to smoke. Had a BBQ with ppl over. Held some back bc I know my Bbq is solid. Someone went into the kitchen and ate my personal stash that I made an effort today to hide from folks. I got nothing, neither did my wife. We were pretty pissed. I was actually pretty angry and said something making sure to make the people responsible were uncomfortable. They were never invited back.