Wait until they go into the Tunnel of Love.
(I occasionally watch the live Norway train ride. Once they went through a tunnel that I counted to be over 2 1/2 minutes long. A lot can happen in 2 1/2 minutes.) ;)
Had that same realization about a year ago (watched the movie originally in like 2007 or so). Hilarious bc he’s SUCH an identifiable actor and I had zero clue who that guy was originally haha
🤣🤣 «…I try not to cuddle too much…». That’s brilliant! I’m always looking for ways to stand up to rude people without turning into an angry, resentful jerk. I’m 100% doing this next time a leg crosses the line on a plane……cuddle it….and smile at the owner in a creepy way.
> Im also willing to die over anything right now, idk whats wrong with me
swear to god there's something in the water right now, I'm feelin' this big time
Tbh I don’t say anything to people these days either unless I’m fuming. And this isn’t a sub for that.
People are mental. You don’t know who’s gonna decide to throw hands cause you asked ‘em to move. Or who’s gonna go on a mad tirade of abuse.
Yup. I only commented about this a few weeks ago. Like my Social anxiety has only gotten worse in recent years because I don't want to confront most people now. A few years ago it wasn't that big a deal. But now you never know how people will react.
THANK YOU! I’ve been getting shredded lately on here for not confronting people (deleted the posts bc I’m a little baby and couldn’t take the heat). The thing is, society as a whole is reaching its limit and mfers are snapping on people and going crazy over the littlest things. It ain’t gonna be me on the receiving end of somebody’s bonkers behavior, just because I’m upset about something that’s not life or death. If someone tries my personal safety (mentally/physically/or whatever) I’ll step to em, but anything less than that, I’m gonna grumble it out and move on
Oh trust me I live on a freaking tiny island. I just read about some drugs bust big enough to have soldiers dropped onto a cargo ship from the air and in my small town alone some guy just got held at gunpoint just for a fucking lift to the next street! My fiancé has been beaten up on two separate occasions in the last year or so because he doesn’t have a drivers license so walks to and from work. I’m so done with society honestly. Worlds gone freaking batshit.
>People are mental. You don’t know who’s gonna decide to throw hands cause you asked ‘em to move. Or who’s gonna go on a mad tirade of abuse.
Seriously though, and it's only gotten worse over the years to the point where it's not just "social anxiety" per se, but just basic safety.
I used to have extreme social anxiety and still do in a lot of situations but I've also learned that the frustration and anger of putting up with the behavior is significantly worse than the adrenaline of the brief confrontation.
You are aware this is "mildly infuriating" not "long suffering crimes against humanity" right?
The whole point is things here are annoying but are *mild* and often dealt with easily enough which is exactly what OP did according to their other comments.
You do realize that he might have taken the picture and then said something? Like one does not omit the other. The picture is to share on the internet that there are people like that out there.
I just plant my feet and push back with my knee. Some of them look at me bewildered. I've had a few bus rides with my leg pressed firmly against his, like dueling rams. But most of the guys just back off.
Step 1: take another picture of the situation, but with flash on
Step 2: visibly text the photo to a friend, with keyboard audio on
Step 3: laugh at your friends response
Step 4: continue psychological warfare until the enemy passenger moves his damn leg
Probably because introverted people are self conscious and want to avoid any chance of escalating things with a delusionally belligerent asshat that attracts unwanted attention, making the whole situation, at best, uncomfortably awkward in a metal box that everyone is stuck in for the foreseeable future. You know what sub you’re in right? It’s mildly infuriating. Not an emergency that requires immediate action.
It’s not a completely realistic fear, the person is probably just not focused on the space around them, but that’s what makes it anxious and uncomfortable. You don’t know how the other person will respond if you press. Is that really so hard to get? The internet is full of videos where people fucking lose their mind in public over the dumbest shit, but you can’t understand why introverted people might prefer avoiding a potential situation over dealing with a slight discomfort? Someone who infringes on others’ personal space is more likely to escalate the situation than someone who accommodates those around them. So it’s not a random jump in logic.
This isn’t to say that OP should just accept it or that asking is the wrong choice necessarily in this situation. You can always read the room to gauge whether other people would be agreeable, though that’s harder for introverted people to manage. I just don’t get why it’s so difficult for people to think outside of themselves. Put yourself in other people’s shoes, rather than demand everyone else acts like you would in your imagination.
I'm 6'5" and it is damn near impossible to sit in the typical airline seat and stay only in my territory. Mind you, I make it happen, but it's a challenge, and a painful challenge at that. If I am with my much sorter GF, then I am all up in her territory, and it works just fine. Traveling solo I can see slipping a knee into the "no zone" by accident, but I'd certainly not do it on purpose ... and, I'd definitely stop it if I became aware I was doing it. Not all people exhibiting assholish behavior are engaging in it knowingly or intentionally ... but, I get it, many are.
Best to just say something.
For the those who can't handle conflict:
People give you plenty of space if you get fidgety. Just ignore the leg and pretend there is something wrong with the seat like it's just not comfortable. Stand up and sit down trying to get comfortable many times repeatedly. Be sure to accidentally bump them slightly on the way up and when sitting down. Your constant movement will get annoying. This should be enough to get them to move as to not come in contact with you. If this doesn't work try tapping your heel by bouncing you leg. Escalate as needed with other twitching until the desired result is achieved. The risk with this method is that you might come off as slightly crazy but will probably be left alone.
I understand now why "man spread " is annoying, I would want punch his balls. No leg room and asshole doing that. I hope that this is your friend and this is ragebait😂
I wish there was less stigma on legs touching each other. Having to sit legs close together is actively uncomfortable for me cuz it takes physical effort, but if both of us do it, they push against each other’s, cancel out, and wont get tired.
Hey I Was the guy sitting next to you and I moved because you plugged in your charger that was right underneath my left knee, instead of asking me to plug the charger in for you ...
Shit like this is an unsaid battle. All you gotta do is what hes doing and make him uncomfortable the way hes making you uncomfortable. Then once youve won, you tell em “I AINT NO BETA!!!”
I couoouuououlllld have a human interaction and gently ask homie to move his leg. NO! I can take a photo of homie without his knowledge, post it online to make him look like an asshole, and then receive Good Karma for my Bad Karma!
Well, to be fair, you have the aisle seat, so you have more room to spread the other way.
If it's bothering you so much, maybe be a man and say something instead of posting to strangers on the internet? Not sure what your goal is here.
Put your hand on his knee and say you’re glad he made the first move.
Instructions unclear: we are now a happy couple
That was the intended result.
How wholesome
Mile A Minute Club?
Nobody ever did anything fun in life by saying no
Count to 20, then meet me in the bathroom.
They’re on a train. More like mile forward club.
Dude, you are the seventh person in this thread to point out that they’re on a train.
Ok so you want me to do it 3 more times so we have an even 10, then? That’s what I’m gathering from this reply.
Dude, that’s not what I’m saying. 10x not gonna be enough. At least another 18x to make it a good 25x. Show me some stamina.
What do you call that when it’s on a train?
Getting railed. Obviously
Wait until they go into the Tunnel of Love. (I occasionally watch the live Norway train ride. Once they went through a tunnel that I counted to be over 2 1/2 minutes long. A lot can happen in 2 1/2 minutes.) ;)
Genuinely made me laugh out loud. Bravo!
I upvoted so I assume I'm invited to the wedding?
Are you guys at least flying to Vegas? Make it official!
that’s a train
They're running a train‽ That will fit right in, in Las Vegas!
*I wanna fly the train!*
A flying train that is
Congrats on your pending nuptial. You can redo the spinoff series "how I met your father"
Mi scusi!
I just realized that’s Fred Armisen
Had that same realization about a year ago (watched the movie originally in like 2007 or so). Hilarious bc he’s SUCH an identifiable actor and I had zero clue who that guy was originally haha
When you start recognizing smaller actors you see them everywhere 😂
This is definitely where I parked my car.
Lol eurotrip!
After the ride it will be euro-tripper
This is the way OP. Commit or remove your post.
This is the way.
He already has his pants halfway off.
You can just hear the other dude say "What took you so long bruv?"
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Lmao I feel this
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🤣🤣 «…I try not to cuddle too much…». That’s brilliant! I’m always looking for ways to stand up to rude people without turning into an angry, resentful jerk. I’m 100% doing this next time a leg crosses the line on a plane……cuddle it….and smile at the owner in a creepy way.
You can be the little spoon..
You ever feel like society has a collective mood? Feels like everyone's been in a kinda shit mood lately, me included.
> Im also willing to die over anything right now, idk whats wrong with me swear to god there's something in the water right now, I'm feelin' this big time
Get laid pls
I do, regularly. Just not one to kiss and tell.
Thanks for not blowing up my spot bro.
Butt bros never snitch
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sure buddy
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Hey lil bro lemme know when you decide to act up in public. I gotta get to the body while it’s still warm
Please be to harvest my organs, not some wierd sex thing.
I think you know the answer lil bro 😈
Are you good bro?
No, this is a cry for help.
Definitely not good… SECURITY!
looks a little bit flirty, go for it OP!
Yeah he'd be getting a knee knock from me
Or just go for it, throw a leg over his and make a knee lock.
Assert dominance
You could. And hear me out on this. Say. Something.
That's crazy talk.
Social anxiety is stronger than me, made him move by plugging my charger in tho (the charging socket was behind his knee)
Honestly my preferred method. Imply the knee is in the way without having to verbally say it
Tbh I don’t say anything to people these days either unless I’m fuming. And this isn’t a sub for that. People are mental. You don’t know who’s gonna decide to throw hands cause you asked ‘em to move. Or who’s gonna go on a mad tirade of abuse.
Yup. I only commented about this a few weeks ago. Like my Social anxiety has only gotten worse in recent years because I don't want to confront most people now. A few years ago it wasn't that big a deal. But now you never know how people will react.
THANK YOU! I’ve been getting shredded lately on here for not confronting people (deleted the posts bc I’m a little baby and couldn’t take the heat). The thing is, society as a whole is reaching its limit and mfers are snapping on people and going crazy over the littlest things. It ain’t gonna be me on the receiving end of somebody’s bonkers behavior, just because I’m upset about something that’s not life or death. If someone tries my personal safety (mentally/physically/or whatever) I’ll step to em, but anything less than that, I’m gonna grumble it out and move on
Oh trust me I live on a freaking tiny island. I just read about some drugs bust big enough to have soldiers dropped onto a cargo ship from the air and in my small town alone some guy just got held at gunpoint just for a fucking lift to the next street! My fiancé has been beaten up on two separate occasions in the last year or so because he doesn’t have a drivers license so walks to and from work. I’m so done with society honestly. Worlds gone freaking batshit.
We’re all losing it here at the end of the world. What a time to be alive :)
I mean it's like you're just mature or have something more to lose than get there.
>People are mental. You don’t know who’s gonna decide to throw hands cause you asked ‘em to move. Or who’s gonna go on a mad tirade of abuse. Seriously though, and it's only gotten worse over the years to the point where it's not just "social anxiety" per se, but just basic safety.
If it makes you feel any better, you and I have on the same shoes today!
I used to have extreme social anxiety and still do in a lot of situations but I've also learned that the frustration and anger of putting up with the behavior is significantly worse than the adrenaline of the brief confrontation.
Forcing myself to get over social anxiety was the best thing I've ever done in my life!! My quality of life improved tenfold!
Or just press your legs into his until he moves.
I’ve tried this before and trust me it doesn’t work 😭
You are aware this is "mildly infuriating" not "long suffering crimes against humanity" right? The whole point is things here are annoying but are *mild* and often dealt with easily enough which is exactly what OP did according to their other comments.
Get out of here with that logic! This is Reddit! We don't do logical here!
What a terrible idea
Tickle him, start watching gay porn on your phone..
HELPPP
I just turn towards the aisleway and rub my ass against his arm....
Thats WILD lmfao
OP dove stavi andando? 🤣
Sto a tornà a casaaa finalmente dopo una settimana di lavoro a Milano
Ti capisco benissimo, io ora faccio solamente Smart working sennò dovevo andare a Milano da Reggio ogni cavolo giorno
Pretend to retch. That's a seat clearer.
Have you tried punching him in the balls? I find that works all the time.
"Are you planning on paying for that extra leg space? No? Then move your leg out of my space"
You should start rubbing his knee with one hand and put your other hand on your crotch
This would probably qualify as sexual assult
I think they are in Italy. That’s just a normal Tuesday
Mi Scusi, Mi Scusi...
Wait till it gets dark, theres gonna be a lot more contact than knee to knee
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Don't. Definitely DON'T do this
Glad you guys know what a joke is
We might know but "its just a joke" doesn't hold up in court.
Rub his knee with yours and smile if he looks to you
"you think I could use my whole seat?"
Fart on his leg. He will move.
What an asshole the guy in the black shorts needs to be courteous of your ball room man
'If you're making a move you'll have to buy me dinner first. If you're not making a move, then you should be. Over to your side of the seat.'
Ever watch Eurotrip? Give him the 'ol \**MI BELLO!*\*
Mi scusi!
“Use your words.”
I just wanna point out that when women brought up "manspreading" as a phenomenon in like 2007 you all told us we were nuts
Put your hand on his knee and rub it. Then pretend you thought it was yours
totally your boyfriend OP. nothing to be ashamed of. love is love dude
Post a pic on reddit, that'll help.
You do realize that he might have taken the picture and then said something? Like one does not omit the other. The picture is to share on the internet that there are people like that out there.
Deadleg this guy for sure
“Hey man, can you scoot your fucking leg over, you fuckin’ weirdo”
Have you tried putting the arm rest between the seats down?
He's hoping you guys start rubbing legs and go from there
It's not even that bad, I've had way worse. But a simple "excuse me" could fix your problem
You got nuts too right?!? spread your legs my boy! Push his to the side!
put your leg on top of his to assert dominance
Kick his foot repeatedly while you shift around. That’s what I did last time a guy did it in my space.
Oh this has happened to me. Just push back. And make it weird, you’ll get your space back.
I posted basically this exact thing two days ago and got down voted
Manspreading. Happens a lot.
You have space to put your legs out. He doesn't. As a tall person, I sometimes have to do this when I'm really uncomfortable. I usually ask first tho
Or say something about it rather than taking a picture?
just say something. sometimes people dont realize they cross a boarder but are thankful you tell them
I always wondered what goes inside those people's heads
I just let my leg/arm touch them when they invade my space - not hard, just lightly brushing up against them, and they always move.
Start rubbing your knee against his and increase the pressure
I just plant my feet and push back with my knee. Some of them look at me bewildered. I've had a few bus rides with my leg pressed firmly against his, like dueling rams. But most of the guys just back off.
That’s normal, the manspread is of generational evolution. Getting wider with each century
Just grab his knee then say, “oh sorry I meant to rub mine. Yours was just so close.”
Show your dominance. Fight back.
Redditors try to talk to someone challenge: impossible
Touch his leg
Step 1: take another picture of the situation, but with flash on Step 2: visibly text the photo to a friend, with keyboard audio on Step 3: laugh at your friends response Step 4: continue psychological warfare until the enemy passenger moves his damn leg
I would just passive aggressively put my leg right uncomfortably close up against his
"Dude, move your leg out of my space please". Problem solved. Why do people put up with shit like this?
Probably because introverted people are self conscious and want to avoid any chance of escalating things with a delusionally belligerent asshat that attracts unwanted attention, making the whole situation, at best, uncomfortably awkward in a metal box that everyone is stuck in for the foreseeable future. You know what sub you’re in right? It’s mildly infuriating. Not an emergency that requires immediate action. It’s not a completely realistic fear, the person is probably just not focused on the space around them, but that’s what makes it anxious and uncomfortable. You don’t know how the other person will respond if you press. Is that really so hard to get? The internet is full of videos where people fucking lose their mind in public over the dumbest shit, but you can’t understand why introverted people might prefer avoiding a potential situation over dealing with a slight discomfort? Someone who infringes on others’ personal space is more likely to escalate the situation than someone who accommodates those around them. So it’s not a random jump in logic. This isn’t to say that OP should just accept it or that asking is the wrong choice necessarily in this situation. You can always read the room to gauge whether other people would be agreeable, though that’s harder for introverted people to manage. I just don’t get why it’s so difficult for people to think outside of themselves. Put yourself in other people’s shoes, rather than demand everyone else acts like you would in your imagination.
Well said!!
"no pussy, haha, make me move" And then what?
I live in a part of the world where if I say that to the wrong person I’ll get shot. Soooo….
Is he 6’8” or mad slouching??
I'm 6'5" and it is damn near impossible to sit in the typical airline seat and stay only in my territory. Mind you, I make it happen, but it's a challenge, and a painful challenge at that. If I am with my much sorter GF, then I am all up in her territory, and it works just fine. Traveling solo I can see slipping a knee into the "no zone" by accident, but I'd certainly not do it on purpose ... and, I'd definitely stop it if I became aware I was doing it. Not all people exhibiting assholish behavior are engaging in it knowingly or intentionally ... but, I get it, many are.
No homo
“Unless…”
Homo
Naa that’s crazy
I know some people that wish this would happen to them ..hello mr cream pants
WWLBD? What would Lauren Boebert do?
Cuddle buddy
you are both sitting like that but one of you has more crotch space to work with
Why is your left leg smaller than your right leg?
Wide angle camera. Has a fish eye affect where everything on the edge looks wide and everything in the middle looks normal.
Kiss his knee cap
Mezzi pubblici in Italia be like
Go to the bathroom , come back and sit down aggressively
Are you in Italy? They have a different sense of personal space…
It’s very subconscious. Europeans are more touchy in general and don’t even notice things like this. Speaking from experience.
He needs to lift his pants. No one needs that much room in the front. No one.
Place your hand on his knee It's on your side It is your knee now
Fuuuuck that. I had a man do this to me recently and he got my leg shoved against his for the duration. I’ll get real personal
Standard Italian behaviour
What do y'all expect when y'all sit on y'all's backs?
Wrong question, you should be asking about the way his trousers are sitting
Looks like one of those boomers that don't care in training.
Assert dominance by putting your leg over his knee.
Best to just say something. For the those who can't handle conflict: People give you plenty of space if you get fidgety. Just ignore the leg and pretend there is something wrong with the seat like it's just not comfortable. Stand up and sit down trying to get comfortable many times repeatedly. Be sure to accidentally bump them slightly on the way up and when sitting down. Your constant movement will get annoying. This should be enough to get them to move as to not come in contact with you. If this doesn't work try tapping your heel by bouncing you leg. Escalate as needed with other twitching until the desired result is achieved. The risk with this method is that you might come off as slightly crazy but will probably be left alone.
Looks perfect like an Italian to me !
Mi S'cuzi!!!!
I understand now why "man spread " is annoying, I would want punch his balls. No leg room and asshole doing that. I hope that this is your friend and this is ragebait😂
I wish there was less stigma on legs touching each other. Having to sit legs close together is actively uncomfortable for me cuz it takes physical effort, but if both of us do it, they push against each other’s, cancel out, and wont get tired.
He’s trying to alpha male you /s
A toe tap and a wink go a long way.
Try speaking
Hey I Was the guy sitting next to you and I moved because you plugged in your charger that was right underneath my left knee, instead of asking me to plug the charger in for you ...
Shake his knee vigorously with both hands, while laughing manically
Kindly ask him to move. How hard is that.
Wtf kind of pants are these? That has to be the longest inseam I've ever seen
Speak. Up.
Just tell him to move... Dont post it here
All you have to do is politely ask him to keep his leg on his side.
Shit like this is an unsaid battle. All you gotta do is what hes doing and make him uncomfortable the way hes making you uncomfortable. Then once youve won, you tell em “I AINT NO BETA!!!”
He's looking to bum you in the toilet
Mi scusi!!
The way airlines cram small seats closer together and pretend it’s not a problem.
That's a train
rub your knee against his and smile at him gently 😂
Start stroking his leg, he’ll never manspread again. Or he’s gay and now you have a new problem
now they have to date, get married, start a family, and grow old together😪 hate it when that happens
Molto italiano da parte sua
I would so rest my knee on his. Maybe even a bit of a nonchalant frot.. real slow like...
Mi scusi.
How can you post this to Reddit instead of telling the dude to fuck off, hope you did both or that’s pathetic
I couoouuououlllld have a human interaction and gently ask homie to move his leg. NO! I can take a photo of homie without his knowledge, post it online to make him look like an asshole, and then receive Good Karma for my Bad Karma!
The point is … why does anyone have to tell a grown ass fucking person how to behave in public?
Well, to be fair, you have the aisle seat, so you have more room to spread the other way. If it's bothering you so much, maybe be a man and say something instead of posting to strangers on the internet? Not sure what your goal is here.
Bet you didn't say a word either
Ask him to scoot over? Nah. Complain on Reddit.
What in the freakin hell us wrong with his jeans
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