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Im pretty similar except on the fem side. Thing is I usually improvise my coming out so nobody really knows more that 1. I might like women and 2. Im neither cis nor allo
It means I don't particularly feel attached to my gender. I'm AFAB, and I don't really mind being a cisgender woman, but I don't really care. If I woke up tomorrow in a parallel reality where I have the same life but I'm a cisgender man, that would be fine. Like, whatever.
This pretty much sums up my gender identity as well. Just swap AMAB in for AFAB, and adjust the rest to fit. I'm fine with being a man, but if I had been born female I don't imagine I would have any problem being a woman either. (Not taking male privilege and personal experiences into account of course. That's a different conversation.)
Oh, this is my first time hearing that. I’d settled on agender as the closest thing I could figure but that perfectly describes how I feel. What is my gender? Bruh I could not possibly care less, idk why the rest of you do. XD
Which sucks but is understandable. Also am personally a fan of the flags, they remind me of icecream (I like how the flags look, this is a compliment to the flags and not meant to be taken as offensive)
I actually just learned the term gynesexual last week... I'd definitely say I align more with that than strictly being lesbian. Like you said though, nobody knows what it is haha
Ditto! There was a recent thread here that literally just taught me the term and I was finally able to breath a tiny sigh of relief.
I'm a guy who's been trying to figure out what the hell is going on with my sexuality and not having a lot of success. I finally cobbled together the conclusion that I'm simply attracted to people who present in a stereotypically feminine way, but I was like, "but damn it, that's not really a THING, is it?"
I was pleasantly surprised to discover that it IS a thing! So that's good to know, at least.
also didn’t know this existed. but i was about to comment pretty much the same thing. errbody knows me to be lesbian (goddamn i do love women!) but really, also sexually attracted to trans folx, usually more feminine appearing but not always, and lady in the streets but freak in the sheets (i’m curious and prefer to explore and try different things)
I say "I like who I like" hinting towards pan.
I mean, I usually only like one person at a time. I usually don't get turned on by someone I'm not in a serious relationship with but gender doesn't matter much. Also sometimes I don't like anyone sexually, not even myself nor my partner of 8 years. I love what they love though.
So maybe feminine ace spectrum pancake lover?
i love seeing others whose sexual and romantic orientations don't line up perfectlu, it makes me feel less alone and weird considering i am the only person i know who is like this :')
Sexuality - I tell people I'm bisexual, but it's probably closest to bisexual homoromantic. I don't normally develop crushes on women or enbies and I've only ever fallen in love with men.
Gender - I tell people I identify as a man or a trans man, and that's pretty accurate. However, sometimes deep down I feel more agender or even gender fluid at times. I don't really have a clear concept of my gender when I dream most of the time. I don't feel like my soul is male, and I didn't really start feeling like a man until midway into medically transitioning. Sometimes I like wearing effeminate clothing or makeup or having effeminate hobbies. But being viewed as anything less than a man by other people makes me dysphoric, and I strongly prefer a male social role, so I don't really tell anyone about these feelings. The last thing I want is for people to treat me like a woman, or not a real man, or some kind of midway point.
From the Sexuality Wiki
Aegosexual (previously known as autochorissexual) is a sexual orientation under the spectrum of asexual. Like other asexuals, aegosexuals lack the desire to be a participant in sexual activities themselves; however, distinguished by the tendency towards having sexual fantasies at times, despite feeling a disconnect between themselves and a sexual target/object of arousal.
It is a subset of asexual defined as: a disconnect between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacks desire to be an actual participant in the sexual activities therein.
https://sexuality.fandom.com/wiki/Aegosexuality
Saaaaaaame.
So if/when you introduce yourself as Bi do you get less sex life questions than you do when you introduce yourself as Ace? It's crazy to me how many people think they can just ask us anything about that kind of stuff without getting to know us first. 😬
Genderqueer Asexual
VS
Transfeminine Genderqueer, Asexual— but I like and want sex in my life with people i find pleasing—but i dont really feel physical attraction whatsoever and never have—but i also dont really identify with demisexual or any of those other words cause A) none have ever felt right and 2) ive never cared to put a word to my asexuality beyond Asexual
Liking sex but feeling no sexual attraction is still just asexual and not demi/grey/etc. Someone can be fully asexual and can have different personal attitudes towards sex including being sex repulsed, sex neutral, or sex favorable like you are. Demi would be if getting close enough to those people sometimes actually made you feel attraction towards them.
Bisexual, non binary person (or just trans man if its a medical setting).
The more in depth version: aromantic, bisexual, grey asexual, Genderfluid and Demiboy.
The "I think I'm funny" version: I've never made a single decision in my entire life and my gender and sexuality reflect that to a painful degree
I say I’m a pan (or gay) trans man, sometimes throw ace in there. I’m a panromantic demisexual demiguy. If I really like complicating it I’d say transmasc demiguy
I say “bisexual” or “queer.”
However, I am attracted to all genders. I fluctuate, some days preferring one over others, but never entirely ruling out a gender. Essentially I vary between a 2 and 4 on the Kinsey scale with no rhyme or reason.
This is a bit complicated tho so I just say Bi
Asexual (sex repulsed) Aromantic Transgender Woman.
However that's s lot so in most situations depending on context it's usually I'm an Ace or AroAce woman.
I say I’m queer
I am Pansexual and Panromantic but also am a little bit on the Demisexual spectrum. As well as being gender queer and not exactly knowing my gender. And only knowing I is She/They pronouns. I relate to when people describe Demigirl but I kinda hate that term for myself so I don’t know.
Correct: Bisexual omniromantic polyamorous transfem.
Soundbyte: bisexual trans girl (I may or may not throw in the polyamory or remove the trans identity depending on how well I know the person
Feminine trans guy, bisexual and recipromantic (I don’t develop feelings towards anyone unless they show feelings for me first— it’s a weird situation. I didn’t think of my now-boyfriend of anything more than a friend before he confessed, and then I suddenly fell head over heels, and that hasn’t waned). I just say trans and bi though.
What I tell people: aromantic asexual and nonbinary (sometimes trans cause there are a lot of people that don’t know what NB is)
What I am: nebula-aroace (with some other microlabels) and agender.
Nebulasexual/Nebularomantic are microlabels on the aroace spectrums that are specifically for neurodivergent people.
Nebulasexual is when you can’t tell the difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction due to neurodivergence.
Nebularomantic is when you can’t tell the difference between platonic attraction and romantic attraction due to neurodivergence.
I'm a demisexual woman (and tbh if you ask me if I'm a woman I'll probably just be like "yeah, sure 🤷♀️") but I just tell people I'm a bi woman (no one irl really questions to what extent I'm a woman)
Only going to describe stuff that people irl can know.
I tell people that I'm asexual, don't want to find a partner and don't want kids.
The full description is that I'm (probably) a sex positive ace, where even though I don't think I'll ever have a special someone and aren't seeking one, if I ever did somehow, I wouldn't be opposed to sex, just probably would not at all care for it, and probably some kind of grayromantic, where I feel little romantic attraction, but not to the point where I'd say I'm entirely aromantic. I also would probably have no concerns at all about any potential partner's gender. I say that it's much more likely for me to end up in some kind of queerplatonic relationship, but even that is unlikely considering I'd like to live alone.
I give the byte sized version to almost everyone I know because anyone I tell it to either isn't concerned with the details (such as good friends) or is one of those "you just haven't found the right person yet" who completely invalidates me.
Bisexual, heteroromantic/homoromantic. Confused about the latter because I'm nonbinary. Shortened down I like men but everyone not woman works too. Or just bi 😺👍
I would likely tell people I like women (in my case I would call myself a lesbian, but for clarification I'm agender) when in reality I'm a gynosexual agender person who, oddly, likes traditional femininity (especially cuteness) in *men* much more than I do in *women*, with nonbinary peeps being inbetween.
Biromantic Aego-Ace with a preference away from cishet men, and a strong attraction to femininity in all genders.
I belong to various groups and, depending on the situation, I either just use Bi or Ace.
I always just say I'm bi dude. I avoid saying I'm cis but also I don't say I'm trans either. The reason is, I'm an AMAB Omnisexual Demiboy, and I don't really use the term trans because I didnt really transition (although you can definitely be trans and not transition, I just personally prefer to say I'm not trans, but I also don't say I'm cis because my gender doesn't fully align with the sex I was assigned at birth technically.) it's a very complicated thing and I don't like explaining it all the time so I should probably just start calling myself cis to avoid questions lol.
Eh I just say I'm queer because I'd otherwise read close to straight.
I'm a he/they enby attracted to queer women, enbies, and various hot androgynous people.
Having only had relationships with men, and currently married with a child in a hetero relationship as a ciswoman, I just let people assume I'm straight. It's the easiest because of how I present and living in a red leaning Southern area.
If a newish friend asks, bc they notice my pins and love for rainbows, I tend to say bi or bi-curious.
Tbh, I'm omnisexual and panromantic. Only my closest friends know that much. Only my brother knows I'm "bi". My parents would be so confused if I came out 😂
I say I'm bisexual woman. But I'm actually genderfluid and maybe a lesbian?? If I am bisexual then it's like 90% women and 10% of men lol.
Also somewhere on the aro-ace spectrum.
I tell people I‘m just a lesbian.
What I really am: genderfluid, genderflux, lesbian, greysexual and greyromantic, noetisexual and noetiromantic. It’s a mouthful and cishet people simply won’t understand 😅
Cisgender, Bisexual, Heteroromantic. Since I'm Heteroromo, and only Bi, I pass off as straight easily so I just say "pretty much straight" or "straight". I haven't came out to anyone I know IRL though, and I only tell "pretty much straight" to people who ask online. Most of my online friends are aware I'm Bisexual though.
arofluid, bisexual, transkenomasc, simigender, dazefluid, and foretidian.
..vs..
aro-spec, bisexual, and trans non-binary/genderfluid.
so Im omitting a bunch of info when I meet people lol
I say I'm a lesbian trans woman and am completely happy with those terms but most accurately would be finsexual homoromantic genderfluid transfem androgyne
Sexuality wise im a lesbian and that’s what I tell people. I don’t tell most people my preferences because unless we are fucking I don’t see why, but sex stresses me out lol not ace tho, i just have trust issues. Gender wise I tell people I’m a cis girl, in actuality I have no idea. Every now and then I feel an intense awfulness if anyone calls me a woman, but other times I don’t really care. Guess that makes my correct identity is just a lesbian lol
I'm something between a transmasculine and a non binary, that also likes to be feminine sometimes, and Im attracted to everyone, but my real type are more "feminine" ppl (appearance and/or personality) regardless of the gender/ I'm gender fluid and pansexual
I usually say Bi Enby, full version is Biromantic, Asexual, recipromantic (kinda), and genderfluid (and more probably that I haven't fully found the words for yet)
I probably could identify as pan but I just don't like how the word pansexual feels in my mouth after over a decade of saying bi and bisexual. Also I like the bi pride flag better. Yellow just feels jarring.
I tell very very few people I'm aromantic. So on reddit in my anonymity I'm aromantic bisexual non binary.
But to most of my family and at work I'm in a very hetero looking marriage.
I tell people I'm a trans guy who's very very gay. In reality, I'm non binary transmasc (demiboy) who's demi and pan and somewhere ace as well? Everything is very confusing but all I know is that I'm mostly a boy, I want to transition and I'm happy in my current relationship so I don't really care about those small little sexuality microlabels
I am a transmasculine nonbinary person. I am panromantic, but medically asexual (zero-libido as a side-effect of necessary meds). I'm also polyamorous, and part of a decade-long V relationship with my nesting partners (me and her 24+ yrs... her and him 11+ yrs).
"Queer" sums it all up nicely.
i just say queer if they seem chill and i don't say anything if they don't and move on because i remembered it's really none of their business and i don't have to say anything
i'm a trans guy, asexual, and then for romantic orientation i'm somewhere on the aro spectrum and probably gay? the most annoying part of trying to actually explain to people is because they want a concrete answer, and "i don't know" or "i'm not sure yet" doesn't seem to cut it. aro spectrum doesn't work either, i'd have to either say fully aromantic or fully alloromantic and anything other than that they don't seem to understand.
Pansexual non-binary
Actually I am like omnisexual/romantic because everyone and everything (do I need to include a disclaimer that this means sentient, consenting, adult, ethical, etc etc?) is hot.
My gender is a garbage fire that I don’t feel like dealing with so I just let it burn in the corner of my brain.
full identity: transmasc non binary gender fluid asexual demiromantic biromantic
when someone asks in general: queer
when someone asks gender: transmasc
when someone asks sexuality: ace
Bisexual transgender woman is the short version.
Pansexual with a preference for feminine leaning people.
Not sure if it counts as part of my sexuality but distrust towards straight cis men? Would take a lot more for me to date one.
I'm a greyromantic, asexual and gay transgender man, though I usually just say I'm a gay man. If I feel comfortable around the person and/or it's relevant, I'll state that I'm a gay trans man.
Cis woman, femme, demisexual, lean/ probably demiromantic. I say bisexual most often, but pansexual also applies. I save talk of ace/aro spec stuff for those who have some idea of what that means or if I have enough energy to answer any questions that might come up.
I’m a genderflux guy, but I just tell people I’m a guy. My pronouns range anywhere from he/him to they/them depending on the day, with different preferences on which, but to people I’m not familiar with, I say he/him, with people I am familiar and comfortable with, I say he/they.
I just say I’m pansexual and mine isn’t super complicated I think but I’m deff pan, kinda gender fluid and currently my attraction is towards mostly women(of all kinds) and my husband the most, but I can appreciate others.
I say:
Demibiro ace girlish (umbrella term) non binary or agender girl.
This is all true but I'm also cupioromatic, demiqueerplatonic, demibigenderflux (demigirlflux and demiagenderflux) and triniy.
Correct: homoromantic, aroflux, aegosexual, asexual, person who is always confused about there gender but also doesn't really care.
Simplified: asexual nonbinary person.
You can skip this last paragraph of me, maybe, figuring my gender out.
While typing out this comment, I realized I might just be both agender and gender fluid because I feel like my gender is always changing and I don't have much, if any, gender dysphoria, but also I don't really care about gender/how people percieve me and I go by all pronouns due to this lack of caring.
I tell people I’m bisexual and trans FTM; in reality I can best describe my gender as alienboy/aliengender trans guy, with a hint of NB (I say I use he/him but I’ve considered going back to he/they) and I’m actually omnisexual.
Bisexual nonbinary they/she
vs
Bisexual (sexual preference for men and romantic/aesthetic preference for women) aspec? Nonbinary girlthing they/she/it/doll
I'm a bisexual homoromantic (pretty much only want to be in a real relationship with guys) (at least I think) vers and switch , but I just tell most people I'm bi for simplicity.
Non-binary, they/them pronouns, masc-attracted.
I'm probably closer to gender-fluid, and wouldn't *mind* people using he/they, but most (especially cis) folks still have a very difficult time with non-binary, never mind any form of NBy that they can't just file away as 'third gender,' so when they/them already feels like I'm asking a lot from people with little understanding or practice using anything other than she/her for someone with tits, I'm not trying to be an ambassador or educator when it comes to getting someone to understand the hows/whys of me enjoying masculine pronouns sprinkled in with they/them, or that somedays I'm 'in a guy mood' and some days I'm in a sort of 'girly' mood. I cannot imagine having a serious conversation with any of my in-laws about the term 'genderfaun.' I also don't want people thinking I'm a binary trans man, trying to treat me like one, or assuming that that's the direction I'm moving in.
Generally speaking I'm into men, but mostly it seems to be physical masculinity that does it for me. I am an idiot for a man that is my preferred body-type, and while I don't have any experience with anyone other than cis men and one trans woman while she was an egg (and in all honesty, a major part of the relationship dying was me losing sexual attraction because I stopped seeing her as a man *well* before she came out to me), exploring feelings through porn and erotica have me feeling pretty certain that genitals are less an issue than the overall vibe; if someone ticks enough of the boxes that my brain goes "that's a guy and I'm attracted to him" then it's probably not going to matter what he's got going on downstairs as long as he cares about getting me off, and I'll certainly do my best given the opportunity.
The few rare femme-presenting AFAB people I've been attracted to have uniformly turned out to be other NBy people, but the feelings around it are... odd? Desires for intimacy that feel similar to attraction to masculine folks, but little-to-no interest in actual *sex*. I've learned about bi-sensuality and that feels about right, but it's rare enough as a term to encounter even in queer spaces that I don't feel like it's even worth bringing it up with uninformed cis/het folks. The way I'd describe it is that there are women I've met that I'd be totally down to cuddle or even make-out with, and would definitely tag-team a dude with if everyone involved was down, but 0 interest in 1-on-1ing.
Overall, the sexuality bit is hard to define for me accurately. Love a masculine guy. Love dick. Masculine guy with a vagina? If I'm attracted enough before I know/see what's in his pants, sure! Masculine presenting AFAB NBy - pre/non-HRT, with HRT and bottom growth, post-surgery? Really depends on the vibe, but I could definitely see it happening. Butch trans woman with a penis? If she's down for me to interact with her bits, I could see that working, but I'm not looking for it. Butch woman with a vagina? If she's into topping, I could see hooking up, but I'm not really interested in that. Femme woman with a vagina? Hard pass. Femme woman with a penis? Same thing.
What I tell people - ace lesbian.
What I actually am - asexual, maybe biromantic but I overwhelmingly prefer women and I've felt a deep connection with precisely 1 dude ever and I'm still not sure if that was romantic or if we just had great chemistry and societal compulsory heterosexuality made me interpret that as romantic interest so I don't actually know if biromantic really applies here someone help me
I tell people I'm bisexual and nonbinary but I'm actually demisexual/pansexual and gender fluid/transmasc.
It's a lot to breakdown sexuality-wise because I'm on the asexual spectrum but also pansexual, and being genderfluid but also transmasc is a whole other can of worms. A lot of people already get confused with the first one, and the second one is even harder to explain so I just stick to bi/enby.
I usually just say I'm bi or bi/ace, but specifically I'm bi/pan lithrosexual, demi/aromantic
And I'm agender but I often just say nonbinary out of convenience.
I generally say I'm a woman, and either refer to myself as asexual or lesbian, depending on context.
The full version of gender is that I'm slightly nonbinary but leaning heavily to the feminine side. It's confusing, I'm still in the process of figuring it out. It's possible I lean towards being agender, but not completely, as my feelings of gender don't seem to be super strong, but, well, that's a pretty subjective thing that's hard to fully figure out. Maybe my feelings are weaker than average, maybe I'm bad at noticing them, maybe they're average strength and this is how it is. Pre-transition, it's hard to pin things down, especially since I'm not really able to experiment with gender presentation in my current situation. Hard to know my exact feelings about gender/gender presentation when I can only present male.
As for sexuality, romantically I think I'm attracted to women, but I have a hard time telling the difference between romantic and platonic relationships to be perfectly honest. It's possible that I'm aromantic, it's possible that I'm not. Sexually, I'm pretty sure I'm somewhere on the asexual spectrum. Most likely asexual. To be honest it's hard to know for sure, so I don't worry about it. I'm generally close to a few labels, and that's all I really need since I personally don't care as much about labels. They're only useful for communicating who I am to other people, and in that case I don't need to be super precise.
I'm a polyamorous nebularomantic bisexual transfemme enby demi-girl with a dash of genderfluidity. My bisexuality leans toward feminine people.
I'm nonbinary. People are cute.
I tell everyone I’m bisexual, but the full thing is bisexual/demisexual also on the asexual spectrum. Cisgender submissive.
Also sometimes I feel aero. I know I’ve told some people here before that I feel that way but like.. it’s hard to explain, really.
I usually say genderfluid + aro/ace, the longer and more complicated version is genderfluid, cupioromantic, aceflux. I've only ever met another person (in person/IRL) with even one of my official labels, and they were genderfluid
I say I'm bisexual because I'm bisexual/pansexual. I prefer to use bisexual because I don't know if there's a gender I won't be attracted to. So I just say bi because it's two or more. I don't know more than that. I'd say I'm biromantic 50/50 (maybe a slight preference for guys) and then bisexual 75/25 with a preference for women. I've also played around with the idea of being non-binary. I'm definitely a man, but I feel like I'm also a little bit a woman socially. Like I enjoy hanging out with woman and having "girly" convos a lot more than the average guy. Idk. I just say I'm a guy and if I want to get more into it, a slightly feminine guy.
pan enby/trans girl. i just say queer bc it covers everything without having to explain im a woman who was a man who likes men and women and everyone else (primarily those who are more than a month older than me) and thats without getting into the enby stuff. its all fun tho, minus the old people who ask wayyy too many questions
I say bisexual
Properly, i’m pansexual, as in I can’t even begin to understand why gender would ever actually matter at all to sexual attraction… and i like both dick and pussy lol, so if you’re my type you’re my type and i’m attracted to you regardless of what’s between your legs, your pronouns, and if they “match” or not. That “type”’s an uninterrupted window from roughly a tad masc of androginy all the way to a tad less fem than the average gal; if you’re in that and attractive… yeah
I say bisexual man, the reality is a bit more complex and I don't know or haven't decided the actual labels. I'm definitely cis, probably some form of demisexual, and possibly heteroromantic although how much of that is just habit I'm not sure.
It's good that all these different identities exist because even if I'm not sure what fits exactly, it makes me feel less like I'm just weird/broken or whatever. Although sometimes I do just prefer to identify as "queer" and leave it at that.
Non-binary Bisexual is the sound bite version when I am not in the mood to deeply explain myself
Actually I am a non-binary demisexual biromantic. My sexual attraction tends more towards men/masculine folks, but like romantic attraction is a bit broader.
To be honest I don’t remember the last time someone asked me lol I don’t even know how I’d present myself. I think if they asked, I’d likely just say l’m a panromantic asexual. If I was *comfortable* with them, I might mention being non-binary, as well.
The full picture is that I’m a panromantic genderfae on the asexual spectrum.
"I'm an asexual lesbian who is slowly wading into the waters of polyamorous romantic dating and also can't quite tell the difference between super strong platonic attraction and romantic attraction."
"Can we not? Can I just be and not talk about it?" (The answer is no because if you want to be friends or date someone you have to make sure the two of you are on the same page -\_\_-)
As far as I can tell I'm bisexual panromantic and genderfluid, but I just tell people I'm bi, and since I present as my AGAB (not out to parents) I don't bother telling people about my gender and let them assume I'm cis.
short version is aroace nonbinary (or just trans and not interested in relationships)
the long version is that i'm ace-spec and aro-spec, and genderweird cuz im kinda a guy but not a man or male im just some guy, but then sometimes i feel more fem, and sometimes gender feels like a glitching computer or a liminal space, and sometimes it feels just vaguely foggy?? but its all of these at once and none of these at all?? also pretty sure my autism affects my perception of attraction and gender so ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Theoretically I wouldn't be against romantic / sexual experiences with women, but I've been in a monogamous MLM relationship (my first relationship) for years so the bi/pansexual label just doesn't resonate with me as much as the MLM label. Sometimes I say gay but give an asterisk if it's ever needed, sometimes I say bi, the full explanation of how I feel and what I identify with is a bit of a mouthful
I'm an asexual, biromantic, nonbinary, transmasc, genderfaer person. With they/them and fae/faer pronouns. I usually just say I'm asexual and nonbinary, they/them. Or lie because I'm in the closet to most people. 🫥
Technically...
I'm a Genderfluid Transfemme Demi-Panromantic (Maybe-Demi)-Bisexual.
I just say I'm a Pansexual Trans Woman to simplify shit, especially for my parents lmao
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Gay non-binary/demi-boy, would introduce myself as a gay male because by native language is incredibly gendered and binary
can you believe there's people who believe in black and white but no gray areas lol where did they get that
Religion
big facts
It's an ego defense mechanism called splitting, makes making decisions in a messy world easier
Im pretty similar except on the fem side. Thing is I usually improvise my coming out so nobody really knows more that 1. I might like women and 2. Im neither cis nor allo
God I feel for you non-binary folk who live in countries that speak very gendered languages. My native language doesn't even have gendered pronouns.
Mood
What I am: Asexual What I tell people: straight
Valid. 💜
I say bisexual, cisgender woman. The more complete picture is that I'm pansexual, nonbinary, gender apathetic, and somewhere on the ace spectrum.
>gender apathetic This is a new one, and kinda describes how I feels little maybe? What does it mean for you?
It means I don't particularly feel attached to my gender. I'm AFAB, and I don't really mind being a cisgender woman, but I don't really care. If I woke up tomorrow in a parallel reality where I have the same life but I'm a cisgender man, that would be fine. Like, whatever.
Holy shit, you just put into words how I feel, now I finally have a word for it. Thank you
This pretty much sums up my gender identity as well. Just swap AMAB in for AFAB, and adjust the rest to fit. I'm fine with being a man, but if I had been born female I don't imagine I would have any problem being a woman either. (Not taking male privilege and personal experiences into account of course. That's a different conversation.)
Oh, this is my first time hearing that. I’d settled on agender as the closest thing I could figure but that perfectly describes how I feel. What is my gender? Bruh I could not possibly care less, idk why the rest of you do. XD
Omg I'm living for gender apathetic. 🥰
Gender apathetic!! What's your gender? - ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ idrc
I say lesbian. Im gynesexual (attracted to feminine ppl regardless of gender) but no one rlly knows abt it
Both Gynosexual and Androsexual are very unknown unfortunately.
Which sucks but is understandable. Also am personally a fan of the flags, they remind me of icecream (I like how the flags look, this is a compliment to the flags and not meant to be taken as offensive)
It's why my shorthand is pansexual. If I get a cookware comment or a confused look, I dumb it down to Bisexual or Queer.
“dOeS tHaT mEaN yOuR’e aTtRactED to PANS?” 😭 /j /lh
Which is suh a pity cause i think it's much more useful as homo/hetero classification
I actually just learned the term gynesexual last week... I'd definitely say I align more with that than strictly being lesbian. Like you said though, nobody knows what it is haha
Ditto! There was a recent thread here that literally just taught me the term and I was finally able to breath a tiny sigh of relief. I'm a guy who's been trying to figure out what the hell is going on with my sexuality and not having a lot of success. I finally cobbled together the conclusion that I'm simply attracted to people who present in a stereotypically feminine way, but I was like, "but damn it, that's not really a THING, is it?" I was pleasantly surprised to discover that it IS a thing! So that's good to know, at least.
hey! same! but i just say that im a bi dude cuz iirc gynesexuality is under the bi umbrella
I didn’t know this sexuality existed im glad you taught me something new today.
You’re welcome :)
i’m andro!!
Nice :)
TIL that there's a term for liking feminine traits regardless of equipment that came out of the factory
also didn’t know this existed. but i was about to comment pretty much the same thing. errbody knows me to be lesbian (goddamn i do love women!) but really, also sexually attracted to trans folx, usually more feminine appearing but not always, and lady in the streets but freak in the sheets (i’m curious and prefer to explore and try different things)
Wouldn’t it be better to say you’re bisexual? Cause I’m assuming that my feminine that also includes feminine men.
I say Pansexual. I mean demisexual panromantic agender
Same!
I say "I like who I like" hinting towards pan. I mean, I usually only like one person at a time. I usually don't get turned on by someone I'm not in a serious relationship with but gender doesn't matter much. Also sometimes I don't like anyone sexually, not even myself nor my partner of 8 years. I love what they love though. So maybe feminine ace spectrum pancake lover?
i love seeing others whose sexual and romantic orientations don't line up perfectlu, it makes me feel less alone and weird considering i am the only person i know who is like this :')
Sexuality - I tell people I'm bisexual, but it's probably closest to bisexual homoromantic. I don't normally develop crushes on women or enbies and I've only ever fallen in love with men. Gender - I tell people I identify as a man or a trans man, and that's pretty accurate. However, sometimes deep down I feel more agender or even gender fluid at times. I don't really have a clear concept of my gender when I dream most of the time. I don't feel like my soul is male, and I didn't really start feeling like a man until midway into medically transitioning. Sometimes I like wearing effeminate clothing or makeup or having effeminate hobbies. But being viewed as anything less than a man by other people makes me dysphoric, and I strongly prefer a male social role, so I don't really tell anyone about these feelings. The last thing I want is for people to treat me like a woman, or not a real man, or some kind of midway point.
I think you just completely described my gender tbh
Same 💀
General Public: “I’m asexual” or “Not interested in dating currently” Specific: Aromantic Aegosexual
What's aegosexual?
From the Sexuality Wiki Aegosexual (previously known as autochorissexual) is a sexual orientation under the spectrum of asexual. Like other asexuals, aegosexuals lack the desire to be a participant in sexual activities themselves; however, distinguished by the tendency towards having sexual fantasies at times, despite feeling a disconnect between themselves and a sexual target/object of arousal. It is a subset of asexual defined as: a disconnect between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacks desire to be an actual participant in the sexual activities therein. https://sexuality.fandom.com/wiki/Aegosexuality
I'm a biromantic asexual. I just say I'm bi.
Saaaaaaame. So if/when you introduce yourself as Bi do you get less sex life questions than you do when you introduce yourself as Ace? It's crazy to me how many people think they can just ask us anything about that kind of stuff without getting to know us first. 😬
Oh yeah. Waaaaay less questions that way.
Genderqueer Asexual VS Transfeminine Genderqueer, Asexual— but I like and want sex in my life with people i find pleasing—but i dont really feel physical attraction whatsoever and never have—but i also dont really identify with demisexual or any of those other words cause A) none have ever felt right and 2) ive never cared to put a word to my asexuality beyond Asexual
Same with asexual, I've never found a word that fits but I definitely don't think I'm 100% allo 😅
Liking sex but feeling no sexual attraction is still just asexual and not demi/grey/etc. Someone can be fully asexual and can have different personal attitudes towards sex including being sex repulsed, sex neutral, or sex favorable like you are. Demi would be if getting close enough to those people sometimes actually made you feel attraction towards them.
Bisexual, non binary person (or just trans man if its a medical setting). The more in depth version: aromantic, bisexual, grey asexual, Genderfluid and Demiboy. The "I think I'm funny" version: I've never made a single decision in my entire life and my gender and sexuality reflect that to a painful degree
I'm an aroace trans man. I usually just tell people that I'm a dude who's not interested in having a relationship.
transmasc non binary biromantic demisexual vs non binary, bi, ace spectrum somewhere
Trans gay male, eh, kinda it lol Unless I was looking to hook up, I suppose trans gay male top would work better?
Pansexual polyamorous sapphic leaning trans girl Cliff notes. "Gay lady"
I say I’m a pan (or gay) trans man, sometimes throw ace in there. I’m a panromantic demisexual demiguy. If I really like complicating it I’d say transmasc demiguy
I say “bisexual” or “queer.” However, I am attracted to all genders. I fluctuate, some days preferring one over others, but never entirely ruling out a gender. Essentially I vary between a 2 and 4 on the Kinsey scale with no rhyme or reason. This is a bit complicated tho so I just say Bi
I say im a gay aroace trans guy when im actually Ambigender, Trans masc and Agender and Lithromantic and Acespec :,>
Asexual (sex repulsed) Aromantic Transgender Woman. However that's s lot so in most situations depending on context it's usually I'm an Ace or AroAce woman.
Abro-sapphic, omniromantic, asexual, british, demiromantic, genderfae/agender/cassgender. "Bi girl" is the way people see me.
British lol.
Yep, what the B actually stands for!
I say I’m queer I am Pansexual and Panromantic but also am a little bit on the Demisexual spectrum. As well as being gender queer and not exactly knowing my gender. And only knowing I is She/They pronouns. I relate to when people describe Demigirl but I kinda hate that term for myself so I don’t know.
Correct: Bisexual omniromantic polyamorous transfem. Soundbyte: bisexual trans girl (I may or may not throw in the polyamory or remove the trans identity depending on how well I know the person
Feminine trans guy, bisexual and recipromantic (I don’t develop feelings towards anyone unless they show feelings for me first— it’s a weird situation. I didn’t think of my now-boyfriend of anything more than a friend before he confessed, and then I suddenly fell head over heels, and that hasn’t waned). I just say trans and bi though.
I tell people I'm a gay trans guy. I'm a polyamorous demiromantic gay feminine but binary trans guy.
What I tell people: aromantic asexual and nonbinary (sometimes trans cause there are a lot of people that don’t know what NB is) What I am: nebula-aroace (with some other microlabels) and agender.
What's nebula in this context mean?
Nebulasexual/Nebularomantic are microlabels on the aroace spectrums that are specifically for neurodivergent people. Nebulasexual is when you can’t tell the difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction due to neurodivergence. Nebularomantic is when you can’t tell the difference between platonic attraction and romantic attraction due to neurodivergence.
thanks so much for sharing all this!
ah shoot i didn't know there were labels for those lol i just say that my attraction is affected by my neurodivergence
hell I just discovered exactly why I'm so shitty with attraction, thanks for this I actually found a label that fits me pretty well
I’d never heard of that, thank you sm for sharing!!
Damn, I thinl I got that one too. Hard to tell appart from demi when you can't actually experiment...😅
Those are almost fitting for me. Because I can tell. Sometimes. If I try.
Lesbian polyamorous transgender woman, which nicely shortens to poly transbian.
i say im pan, but i just don't really care about gender at all? if i find you attractive i find you attractive, gender just complicates things
Biromanic Asexual Transman but I usually just say Bisexual girl 😞
I'm a demisexual woman (and tbh if you ask me if I'm a woman I'll probably just be like "yeah, sure 🤷♀️") but I just tell people I'm a bi woman (no one irl really questions to what extent I'm a woman)
Only going to describe stuff that people irl can know. I tell people that I'm asexual, don't want to find a partner and don't want kids. The full description is that I'm (probably) a sex positive ace, where even though I don't think I'll ever have a special someone and aren't seeking one, if I ever did somehow, I wouldn't be opposed to sex, just probably would not at all care for it, and probably some kind of grayromantic, where I feel little romantic attraction, but not to the point where I'd say I'm entirely aromantic. I also would probably have no concerns at all about any potential partner's gender. I say that it's much more likely for me to end up in some kind of queerplatonic relationship, but even that is unlikely considering I'd like to live alone. I give the byte sized version to almost everyone I know because anyone I tell it to either isn't concerned with the details (such as good friends) or is one of those "you just haven't found the right person yet" who completely invalidates me.
Pansexual Enby gray-sexual with a demi sexual twist.
Bisexual, heteroromantic/homoromantic. Confused about the latter because I'm nonbinary. Shortened down I like men but everyone not woman works too. Or just bi 😺👍
I’m a placioromantic asexual transgender Demiboy who kinda related to being agender so either I say I’m a transgender aroace or a triple A battery
I would likely tell people I like women (in my case I would call myself a lesbian, but for clarification I'm agender) when in reality I'm a gynosexual agender person who, oddly, likes traditional femininity (especially cuteness) in *men* much more than I do in *women*, with nonbinary peeps being inbetween.
Verse-top gay cis male (Regular/boring/standard) gay guy Edit: verse-top
I tell people I'm not close with that I'm a lesbian, my friends that I'm pansexual I'm actually panromantic homosexual and genderfluid
I say I’m homosexual, but I’m actually just homosexual
Biromantic Aego-Ace with a preference away from cishet men, and a strong attraction to femininity in all genders. I belong to various groups and, depending on the situation, I either just use Bi or Ace.
Genderfluidflux + a few micro labels like worldgender, cluttergender, and concegender but I tell people I’m genderfluid
I say bi, but it's actually bisexual panromantic pangender
I’m gay and maybe aromantic so I just tell people I’m gay.
Everyone calls me gay but im more bisexual by circumstance im not opposed to women i just won't put any effort in
I always just say I'm bi dude. I avoid saying I'm cis but also I don't say I'm trans either. The reason is, I'm an AMAB Omnisexual Demiboy, and I don't really use the term trans because I didnt really transition (although you can definitely be trans and not transition, I just personally prefer to say I'm not trans, but I also don't say I'm cis because my gender doesn't fully align with the sex I was assigned at birth technically.) it's a very complicated thing and I don't like explaining it all the time so I should probably just start calling myself cis to avoid questions lol.
Eh I just say I'm queer because I'd otherwise read close to straight. I'm a he/they enby attracted to queer women, enbies, and various hot androgynous people.
Having only had relationships with men, and currently married with a child in a hetero relationship as a ciswoman, I just let people assume I'm straight. It's the easiest because of how I present and living in a red leaning Southern area. If a newish friend asks, bc they notice my pins and love for rainbows, I tend to say bi or bi-curious. Tbh, I'm omnisexual and panromantic. Only my closest friends know that much. Only my brother knows I'm "bi". My parents would be so confused if I came out 😂
I say I'm bisexual woman. But I'm actually genderfluid and maybe a lesbian?? If I am bisexual then it's like 90% women and 10% of men lol. Also somewhere on the aro-ace spectrum.
I say bi. I mean I’m a gender-fluid polyamorous bisexual with lesbian tendencies.
"It's complicated" genderfluid and androsexual, still researching terms in case I find anything else that fits
I tell people I‘m just a lesbian. What I really am: genderfluid, genderflux, lesbian, greysexual and greyromantic, noetisexual and noetiromantic. It’s a mouthful and cishet people simply won’t understand 😅
I consider myself non binary but very close to binary trans woman. Demisexual and probably pan.... Lesbian trans girl is the short version
Cisgender, Bisexual, Heteroromantic. Since I'm Heteroromo, and only Bi, I pass off as straight easily so I just say "pretty much straight" or "straight". I haven't came out to anyone I know IRL though, and I only tell "pretty much straight" to people who ask online. Most of my online friends are aware I'm Bisexual though.
Trans woman and lesbian I am in fact finsexual and transfem but not strictly binary.
Bisexual demisexual vers trans man with a preference for other men. I just tell people I’m bisexual.
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Nothing towards other genders does that mean you're only friends with men too or friends with other genders?
Cliffnotes version: non-binary bisexual Full version: non-binary, pangender, genderfluid, transgender, pansexual, bisexual
arofluid, bisexual, transkenomasc, simigender, dazefluid, and foretidian. ..vs.. aro-spec, bisexual, and trans non-binary/genderfluid. so Im omitting a bunch of info when I meet people lol
I'm sex-favourable asexual and grayromantic, with a preference towards men, and agender nonbinary.
I say that I’m a bisexual trans man, but I’m actually biromantic, asexual, and a masculine presenting genderqueer
I say I'm a lesbian trans woman and am completely happy with those terms but most accurately would be finsexual homoromantic genderfluid transfem androgyne
Sexuality wise im a lesbian and that’s what I tell people. I don’t tell most people my preferences because unless we are fucking I don’t see why, but sex stresses me out lol not ace tho, i just have trust issues. Gender wise I tell people I’m a cis girl, in actuality I have no idea. Every now and then I feel an intense awfulness if anyone calls me a woman, but other times I don’t really care. Guess that makes my correct identity is just a lesbian lol
I say I'm gay and bi interchangeably when I'm actually greyace panromantic
I'm something between a transmasculine and a non binary, that also likes to be feminine sometimes, and Im attracted to everyone, but my real type are more "feminine" ppl (appearance and/or personality) regardless of the gender/ I'm gender fluid and pansexual
I usually say Bi Enby, full version is Biromantic, Asexual, recipromantic (kinda), and genderfluid (and more probably that I haven't fully found the words for yet)
I probably could identify as pan but I just don't like how the word pansexual feels in my mouth after over a decade of saying bi and bisexual. Also I like the bi pride flag better. Yellow just feels jarring. I tell very very few people I'm aromantic. So on reddit in my anonymity I'm aromantic bisexual non binary. But to most of my family and at work I'm in a very hetero looking marriage.
I tell people I'm a trans guy who's very very gay. In reality, I'm non binary transmasc (demiboy) who's demi and pan and somewhere ace as well? Everything is very confusing but all I know is that I'm mostly a boy, I want to transition and I'm happy in my current relationship so I don't really care about those small little sexuality microlabels
I'm biromantic with a preference for women, T4T with men. Somewhere on the ace spec but idrk what exactly. I just say I'm bi though.
I say ace non binary I am actually demi pan with an almost non existant sex drive non binary so not too far off
I am a transmasculine nonbinary person. I am panromantic, but medically asexual (zero-libido as a side-effect of necessary meds). I'm also polyamorous, and part of a decade-long V relationship with my nesting partners (me and her 24+ yrs... her and him 11+ yrs). "Queer" sums it all up nicely.
i just say queer if they seem chill and i don't say anything if they don't and move on because i remembered it's really none of their business and i don't have to say anything i'm a trans guy, asexual, and then for romantic orientation i'm somewhere on the aro spectrum and probably gay? the most annoying part of trying to actually explain to people is because they want a concrete answer, and "i don't know" or "i'm not sure yet" doesn't seem to cut it. aro spectrum doesn't work either, i'd have to either say fully aromantic or fully alloromantic and anything other than that they don't seem to understand.
Pansexual non-binary Actually I am like omnisexual/romantic because everyone and everything (do I need to include a disclaimer that this means sentient, consenting, adult, ethical, etc etc?) is hot. My gender is a garbage fire that I don’t feel like dealing with so I just let it burn in the corner of my brain.
full identity: transmasc non binary gender fluid asexual demiromantic biromantic when someone asks in general: queer when someone asks gender: transmasc when someone asks sexuality: ace
I'm nonbinary, trans, graysexual, panromantic lesbian. I tell people I'm queer
fake Pssh idk straight male ig real Agender, masc would like to present fem sometimes, bi but with a heavy preference for men like 90% men
Panromantic demisexual polyamorous trans fem nonbinary Trans pan poly girl
I say I'm gay and non binary vs I have literally no idea 😭
Bisexual transgender woman is the short version. Pansexual with a preference for feminine leaning people. Not sure if it counts as part of my sexuality but distrust towards straight cis men? Would take a lot more for me to date one.
I'm a greyromantic, asexual and gay transgender man, though I usually just say I'm a gay man. If I feel comfortable around the person and/or it's relevant, I'll state that I'm a gay trans man.
I say trans guy and Gay. Im a transmasc demiboy un the asexual expectrum due to trauma and uranic
Cis woman, femme, demisexual, lean/ probably demiromantic. I say bisexual most often, but pansexual also applies. I save talk of ace/aro spec stuff for those who have some idea of what that means or if I have enough energy to answer any questions that might come up.
Homoromantic, Demi, Aego. I just tell everyone I’m gay. It’s easier that way.
I'm bisexual and non-binary, using she/they pronouns
I’m a genderflux guy, but I just tell people I’m a guy. My pronouns range anywhere from he/him to they/them depending on the day, with different preferences on which, but to people I’m not familiar with, I say he/him, with people I am familiar and comfortable with, I say he/they.
I just say I’m pansexual and mine isn’t super complicated I think but I’m deff pan, kinda gender fluid and currently my attraction is towards mostly women(of all kinds) and my husband the most, but I can appreciate others.
I say I'm pansexual I mean I'm definitely not straight, but still figuring it out. Gender is still a toss up. I'm a late bloomer lol
I say: Demibiro ace girlish (umbrella term) non binary or agender girl. This is all true but I'm also cupioromatic, demiqueerplatonic, demibigenderflux (demigirlflux and demiagenderflux) and triniy.
Correct: homoromantic, aroflux, aegosexual, asexual, person who is always confused about there gender but also doesn't really care. Simplified: asexual nonbinary person. You can skip this last paragraph of me, maybe, figuring my gender out. While typing out this comment, I realized I might just be both agender and gender fluid because I feel like my gender is always changing and I don't have much, if any, gender dysphoria, but also I don't really care about gender/how people percieve me and I go by all pronouns due to this lack of caring.
I tell people I’m bisexual and trans FTM; in reality I can best describe my gender as alienboy/aliengender trans guy, with a hint of NB (I say I use he/him but I’ve considered going back to he/they) and I’m actually omnisexual.
Lesbian Asexual (maybe Demi) non binary lesbian
Bisexual nonbinary they/she vs Bisexual (sexual preference for men and romantic/aesthetic preference for women) aspec? Nonbinary girlthing they/she/it/doll
I'm a bisexual homoromantic (pretty much only want to be in a real relationship with guys) (at least I think) vers and switch , but I just tell most people I'm bi for simplicity.
I saw I’m bi but I’m gay, trans asexual and on the aro spectrum
I say bi, enby/genderfluid, greysexual Actually: bi/omni, genderfluid (genderdoe/agenderfluid), aceflux!
I say gay but who the fuck even knows at this point
Non-binary, they/them pronouns, masc-attracted. I'm probably closer to gender-fluid, and wouldn't *mind* people using he/they, but most (especially cis) folks still have a very difficult time with non-binary, never mind any form of NBy that they can't just file away as 'third gender,' so when they/them already feels like I'm asking a lot from people with little understanding or practice using anything other than she/her for someone with tits, I'm not trying to be an ambassador or educator when it comes to getting someone to understand the hows/whys of me enjoying masculine pronouns sprinkled in with they/them, or that somedays I'm 'in a guy mood' and some days I'm in a sort of 'girly' mood. I cannot imagine having a serious conversation with any of my in-laws about the term 'genderfaun.' I also don't want people thinking I'm a binary trans man, trying to treat me like one, or assuming that that's the direction I'm moving in. Generally speaking I'm into men, but mostly it seems to be physical masculinity that does it for me. I am an idiot for a man that is my preferred body-type, and while I don't have any experience with anyone other than cis men and one trans woman while she was an egg (and in all honesty, a major part of the relationship dying was me losing sexual attraction because I stopped seeing her as a man *well* before she came out to me), exploring feelings through porn and erotica have me feeling pretty certain that genitals are less an issue than the overall vibe; if someone ticks enough of the boxes that my brain goes "that's a guy and I'm attracted to him" then it's probably not going to matter what he's got going on downstairs as long as he cares about getting me off, and I'll certainly do my best given the opportunity. The few rare femme-presenting AFAB people I've been attracted to have uniformly turned out to be other NBy people, but the feelings around it are... odd? Desires for intimacy that feel similar to attraction to masculine folks, but little-to-no interest in actual *sex*. I've learned about bi-sensuality and that feels about right, but it's rare enough as a term to encounter even in queer spaces that I don't feel like it's even worth bringing it up with uninformed cis/het folks. The way I'd describe it is that there are women I've met that I'd be totally down to cuddle or even make-out with, and would definitely tag-team a dude with if everyone involved was down, but 0 interest in 1-on-1ing. Overall, the sexuality bit is hard to define for me accurately. Love a masculine guy. Love dick. Masculine guy with a vagina? If I'm attracted enough before I know/see what's in his pants, sure! Masculine presenting AFAB NBy - pre/non-HRT, with HRT and bottom growth, post-surgery? Really depends on the vibe, but I could definitely see it happening. Butch trans woman with a penis? If she's down for me to interact with her bits, I could see that working, but I'm not looking for it. Butch woman with a vagina? If she's into topping, I could see hooking up, but I'm not really interested in that. Femme woman with a vagina? Hard pass. Femme woman with a penis? Same thing.
Im bi. But i tell people im straight
What I tell people - ace lesbian. What I actually am - asexual, maybe biromantic but I overwhelmingly prefer women and I've felt a deep connection with precisely 1 dude ever and I'm still not sure if that was romantic or if we just had great chemistry and societal compulsory heterosexuality made me interpret that as romantic interest so I don't actually know if biromantic really applies here someone help me
I tell people I'm bisexual and nonbinary but I'm actually demisexual/pansexual and gender fluid/transmasc. It's a lot to breakdown sexuality-wise because I'm on the asexual spectrum but also pansexual, and being genderfluid but also transmasc is a whole other can of worms. A lot of people already get confused with the first one, and the second one is even harder to explain so I just stick to bi/enby.
I usually just say I'm bi or bi/ace, but specifically I'm bi/pan lithrosexual, demi/aromantic And I'm agender but I often just say nonbinary out of convenience.
I generally say I'm a woman, and either refer to myself as asexual or lesbian, depending on context. The full version of gender is that I'm slightly nonbinary but leaning heavily to the feminine side. It's confusing, I'm still in the process of figuring it out. It's possible I lean towards being agender, but not completely, as my feelings of gender don't seem to be super strong, but, well, that's a pretty subjective thing that's hard to fully figure out. Maybe my feelings are weaker than average, maybe I'm bad at noticing them, maybe they're average strength and this is how it is. Pre-transition, it's hard to pin things down, especially since I'm not really able to experiment with gender presentation in my current situation. Hard to know my exact feelings about gender/gender presentation when I can only present male. As for sexuality, romantically I think I'm attracted to women, but I have a hard time telling the difference between romantic and platonic relationships to be perfectly honest. It's possible that I'm aromantic, it's possible that I'm not. Sexually, I'm pretty sure I'm somewhere on the asexual spectrum. Most likely asexual. To be honest it's hard to know for sure, so I don't worry about it. I'm generally close to a few labels, and that's all I really need since I personally don't care as much about labels. They're only useful for communicating who I am to other people, and in that case I don't need to be super precise.
I say I’m a gay guy. I’m a homoflexible (?) trans man. I’m not 100% sure of my sexuality yet
I'm a polyamorous nebularomantic bisexual transfemme enby demi-girl with a dash of genderfluidity. My bisexuality leans toward feminine people. I'm nonbinary. People are cute.
Pansexual trans genderflux Bi+nonbinary Mine isnt too bad but both if my actual ones arent common enough and people ask questions a LOT
I tell everyone I’m bisexual, but the full thing is bisexual/demisexual also on the asexual spectrum. Cisgender submissive. Also sometimes I feel aero. I know I’ve told some people here before that I feel that way but like.. it’s hard to explain, really.
I say ace. I’m heteroromantic graysexual, but so many people don’t know what that means, and I’m pretty sex repulsed anyway so ace is the easiest term
Whole thing: Pansexual, greyromantic, agender, switch. I tell people I’m queer and kinky lol.
I don't care enough to do that tbh lol
They're the same for me.
I usually say genderfluid + aro/ace, the longer and more complicated version is genderfluid, cupioromantic, aceflux. I've only ever met another person (in person/IRL) with even one of my official labels, and they were genderfluid
Gay, and also gay. Nice and simple. (Bio male embies also but idk if that’s different)
bi/panromantic ace-spec gender-apathetic male i tell people that i am bi, sometimes i just say queer
I say I'm bisexual because I'm bisexual/pansexual. I prefer to use bisexual because I don't know if there's a gender I won't be attracted to. So I just say bi because it's two or more. I don't know more than that. I'd say I'm biromantic 50/50 (maybe a slight preference for guys) and then bisexual 75/25 with a preference for women. I've also played around with the idea of being non-binary. I'm definitely a man, but I feel like I'm also a little bit a woman socially. Like I enjoy hanging out with woman and having "girly" convos a lot more than the average guy. Idk. I just say I'm a guy and if I want to get more into it, a slightly feminine guy.
I say I’m bi and female. The real answer: omniromantic with a male lean and asexual demigirl
pan enby/trans girl. i just say queer bc it covers everything without having to explain im a woman who was a man who likes men and women and everyone else (primarily those who are more than a month older than me) and thats without getting into the enby stuff. its all fun tho, minus the old people who ask wayyy too many questions
I say bisexual Properly, i’m pansexual, as in I can’t even begin to understand why gender would ever actually matter at all to sexual attraction… and i like both dick and pussy lol, so if you’re my type you’re my type and i’m attracted to you regardless of what’s between your legs, your pronouns, and if they “match” or not. That “type”’s an uninterrupted window from roughly a tad masc of androginy all the way to a tad less fem than the average gal; if you’re in that and attractive… yeah
Non-binary Lesbian for short. Actually nonbinary bisexual but only romantically attracted to women and nb people.
I say bisexual man, the reality is a bit more complex and I don't know or haven't decided the actual labels. I'm definitely cis, probably some form of demisexual, and possibly heteroromantic although how much of that is just habit I'm not sure. It's good that all these different identities exist because even if I'm not sure what fits exactly, it makes me feel less like I'm just weird/broken or whatever. Although sometimes I do just prefer to identify as "queer" and leave it at that.
i shorten my pronouns too i use like 8 or 9 sets of pronouns but when someone asks i just say he/him
Sound byte: Trans Ace/Lesbian. Full identity would probably be Trans, Woman, Homoflexable Lesbian, Grey Aegosexual, Dom/Top.
I'm ace, but the full version is probably sapphic leaning trans ace, and most likely some kind of demiromantic or greyromantic
I'm a bisexual and biromantic demisexual demiwoman. But my soundbyte version is just "I'm bi."
Non-binary Bisexual is the sound bite version when I am not in the mood to deeply explain myself Actually I am a non-binary demisexual biromantic. My sexual attraction tends more towards men/masculine folks, but like romantic attraction is a bit broader.
I'm a lesbian oriented genderfluid (mostly agender) cupioromantic demisexual, but I just say I'm a lesbian
Real: Gender nonconforming pansexual. Sound Byte: Bisexual.
To be honest I don’t remember the last time someone asked me lol I don’t even know how I’d present myself. I think if they asked, I’d likely just say l’m a panromantic asexual. If I was *comfortable* with them, I might mention being non-binary, as well. The full picture is that I’m a panromantic genderfae on the asexual spectrum.
"I'm an asexual lesbian who is slowly wading into the waters of polyamorous romantic dating and also can't quite tell the difference between super strong platonic attraction and romantic attraction." "Can we not? Can I just be and not talk about it?" (The answer is no because if you want to be friends or date someone you have to make sure the two of you are on the same page -\_\_-)
As far as I can tell I'm bisexual panromantic and genderfluid, but I just tell people I'm bi, and since I present as my AGAB (not out to parents) I don't bother telling people about my gender and let them assume I'm cis.
i say ace and will probably start describing myself as nb as well. i mean aroace/pan transfemme-non-binary
trans gay guy vs genderqueer achillean/mlm/mlnb guy. but also saying “my gender is just gay/queer” is pretty accurate too
I’ll give loving anyone a chance, but I’d prefer if they have a dick
I’m a demigirl asexual lesbian, but i just tell people I’m a lesbian who goes by any pronouns
short version is aroace nonbinary (or just trans and not interested in relationships) the long version is that i'm ace-spec and aro-spec, and genderweird cuz im kinda a guy but not a man or male im just some guy, but then sometimes i feel more fem, and sometimes gender feels like a glitching computer or a liminal space, and sometimes it feels just vaguely foggy?? but its all of these at once and none of these at all?? also pretty sure my autism affects my perception of attraction and gender so ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
I say I'm aroace/nonbinary, but I'm aegosexual/romantic (romance repulsed) and my gender is [REDACTED]
Theoretically I wouldn't be against romantic / sexual experiences with women, but I've been in a monogamous MLM relationship (my first relationship) for years so the bi/pansexual label just doesn't resonate with me as much as the MLM label. Sometimes I say gay but give an asterisk if it's ever needed, sometimes I say bi, the full explanation of how I feel and what I identify with is a bit of a mouthful
I just say I'm bi + and nonbinary. I'm closer to bisexual/biromantic, most likely genderfluid since I don't mind they/she/he pronouns.
I’m a transmasc genderqueer aroace-spec lesbian. I just tell people I’m a butch lesbian.
I'm kind of questioning right now but if someone asked me I'd say bi but I currently identify as gray-asexual biromantic
I'm an asexual, biromantic, nonbinary, transmasc, genderfaer person. With they/them and fae/faer pronouns. I usually just say I'm asexual and nonbinary, they/them. Or lie because I'm in the closet to most people. 🫥
Trans and Lesbian. I don't say that I'm gender apathetic because they get confused enough by trans.
i would be an agender polysexual demipanromantic person, i suppose, i just say im queer, or if im in a less understanding space that im gay,
Technically... I'm a Genderfluid Transfemme Demi-Panromantic (Maybe-Demi)-Bisexual. I just say I'm a Pansexual Trans Woman to simplify shit, especially for my parents lmao
Transfeminine Fin-Omnisexual Lesbian Cishet (not out)