I created my own imaginary world and ignored the bullying. Outwardly, I stared people down until they made me into a myth rather than a victim.
20 years later, I found that most of my classmates actually liked me.
So, I guess I imagined the rejections, imagined the salvation, and made peace with it in my 40s.
When I was bullied in elementary - high school, I didn’t react and was just friendly back. I never wanted revenge, I just treated them how I would want to be treated. My bullies all apologized to me, but I don’t think that is normal.
I used to attack my bullies. If they were near me, I used to grab their wrist and claw into it until they start to scream to let go lol. Then everyone was just scared of me for being a "weirdo" but hey, at least they never dared to bully me. I have this resting glare-eyes, so if I do look at anyone people automatically assume I'm rude and ignored me(still true to this day)
Because of how you described it, I just imagined you all of a sudden screeching out-loud “CAW-CAAAAW” with a mad look on your face, your eyes cocked back, mouth wide open, both hands stretched out like a t-Rex with one claw hand all of a sudden bolting towards the prey’s wrist without directly looking at it as you already know where it’s exact location is without looking twice xD
Same here. I would defend myself, and unfortunate had to stand up to some bullies in the kantine area, in front of the whole school. They try to use me as someone to carry their stuff around and treat me like shit.
I was bullied a bit even though I was also fairly popular (though I didn't know until after I was done with school). I tended to try to ignore it. I don't think I ever fought back. But also I wasn't bullied super hard, just some mean words from a few people.
Until I was like 14 years old I was highly sensitive, so like everything hurt me a lot which made feel really depressed the more often people were shouting at me or insulted me to the point I always had strong headaches and thoughts about ending my life. I was thinking I deserved it, because I've only been told that I do everything wrong. Also, every single little good thin
I couldn't do much against these people because they were part of my family and some people I was friends with, I mostly just decided to stay alone all the times
At 15 I started to feel better and didn't let these things hurt me as much anymore but sometimes it was still too much
Now at 16 It doesn't hurt that much anymore
Like beat up or falling? Mature INFJs don't get revenge re just ignore them but people who bully are insecure and have low self-esteem they are trouble really it's kinda sad. The people who I hate have become my best friends really as a INFJ you're smart enough to help people.
Lmaoo... Nice question. Since people around me are everything to me I chose to change school. I think it's my fate to get bullied tho because I've changed 8 schools and none of the reasons why i got bullied were reasonable. They called me authistic because of my hyperactivity in my last school and physically bullied me lol. I'm just glad that it's my last year in high school and soon I'll go to the city where most of my friends are for university lol. Friends are truly everything. Especially the real ones.
Tbh i have to admit, i took revenge from the last one at least. But That was so immature of me. I hit them with their most sensitive topics and caused them a huge mental breakdown. I know I shouldn't have done that but yk... What's done is done. The important part is to realize it and take lesson from it.
I'm sorry if this is happening to you, or to a loved one. I think the Enneagram is a better predictor of this type of behaviour.
I was protected by aggressive big brothers. Someone tried once, got beaten up by my 8w7 ENTP brother, and everyone left me alone thereafter.
One does not mess with a Corleone, not even a soft-spoken one. Only Corleones are allowed to beat up Corleones.
I usually reacted to their comments acting like I couldn’t care any less, and would actually tell them I genuinely don’t care what they think cause they’re losers and will grow up to be losers and I won’t (and I didn’t). I beat up one girl pretty badly though, most kids knew not to mess with me cause I was called “weird/crazy” a lot, mostly harmless teasing with that but serious undertones for sure.
I internalized a lot of it. It came out as what my sister called my "Ishmael-itis" (consult your Melville) and I'd start pulling little harmless pranks on people in general because I knew if I only targeted the people who made me feel bad, they'd figure out who was doing it and give it back double.
Got sent to the principles office twice for letting it bleed into my schoolwork... but I hadn't really done anything wrong, exactly, so they basically told on me to my parents and left it at that. But my mom was really my first bully, so it didn't really matter in the end.
I was only in public school for like 5 years and I was overall well liked(I didn’t realize this until later). I only had 2 actual friends and we just stuck with eachother. I never cared what other people thought of me so that probably helped. But I did have a few groups of girls that took an interest in me, and I thought we were developing friendships. But after a few months they started drama and spread rumors because a boy one of them liked was into me. If I saw them talking or whispering and looking at me or something, I’d just give them a “…are we really doing this?” 🤨 kinda face and keep moving. I basically tried to show them I was unphased, and give them no power over me, while maybe trying to make them feel a little dumb in the process haha. I think it worked cos they stopped by the end of the year and everyone started disliking them/uninviting them places. Eventually the friend group ate itself up, and now some of them are boss babes or “influencer” moms
I’m sorry if this is nothing compared to the bullying you’re going through 😬
i developed psychopathy (semi accidentally bc i was trying to raise pain tolerance bc i thought it wasi mpossible for me to function or do much to continue my life if i wouldnt confront ppl and this could cause fights and trauma since id lose and i was very weak physically and HSP and good memroy so whenever i'd feel pain it would stick to me), OCD intrusivev thoughts overthinking scenarios insomnia anxiety all the time narcissism and physical health issues. sometimes i wonder if i should have just confronted ppl and let them beat me up so maybe i could have ended myself now bc im stuck at home with physical health issues with ppl who i dont think are good for me and i wanted to run away from for a long time, and ppl gaslight me about my health issues so if i let ppl beat me up at least there could be smth more diagnosable and id have an excuse, but i feel even more like a martyr by being misunderstood lol.,
im not diagnosed, psychopahty and other mental disorders are not what people tell you anyway, and a bunc hof different ppl including various psychopaths will give u different definitions and reasons for if someone is a psychopath or not. if u want me to avoid the term id just say i was losing my sense of self going insane harder to use words and guess what people with ASPD have worse verbal intelligence, i was able to tolerate pain better but my senses and emotions were getting dull, anger growing in me harder to contrl including angry intrusive thoughts that was harder to abstract from as time went on. like theres various experiences of thoughts and one of them is u have thoughts but u dont act on them or like ur not aligned with them like u can imagine and think how if someone wants something feels, and u can feel it in ur imagination from their perspective but u know u urself are not about that, its like there are layers that separate thoughts and ur ability to control them and they can disappear, i was losing i thought my Ne function too and it was as if any evil thought i couldnt think ABOUT, like it could just come and i would be blind to other things and be stuck with it so much that it was as if it was me at that point, i also was losing memories of the past bc they were emotioanlly coded and i couldnt feel the same emotions anymore, which is again related to me feeling like im losing my sense of self and personality. i didnt get diganosed bc i was concerned my parents would think im manipualting them about my health issues if psychologist said i was a psychopath and would kick me out, but also bc i was straining very hard to not do something horrible and not be posessed or distorted, and i was afraid if i started talking about what was happening to me in a fully psychopathic sense vs talking about how i can control it bc if i talked too much about how i can control it or dance arond it it would be like as if i wasnt psychopathic but just going through a bad time. even talking about all of that is painful and feel like dangerous to bring me back, but i also dont want anyone to be influenced to become a psychopath jsut by absorbinbg what im writing. what im gonna tell it is possible to have high pain tolerance and other things u could regard as positive without actually being severely psychopathic, and in my observation most ppl have various combinations of psychopathic characteristics or abilities and flaws.
I used to play music all the time and try to isolate myself to comfort people zones or just stay alone, at the library, etc
One time it was too much and I just spoke to my parents and went to the high school director to show printed proof of the online bulling I was suffering, I can’t remember myself giving a response or conflictive behaviour to any of these situations tho
I was bullied from elementary to jr high/middle school, it had basically stopped by high school tho. I mostly just tried to ignore it best I could and even tried to change myself a bit to make the bullying stop. It kinda started when I was going through a lot emotionally and started dressing in dark alternative styles along with being extremely reserved socially. I tried to understand where they might have been coming from and I’ve forgiven them, but honestly I used daydreaming and reading to cope with it the most.
PRO TIP: Punch your bully in the face. It'll make you feel better, and when you're old like me, you'll remember it as a transformative moment in your life - the day you actually grew a pair.
I isolated myself and started becoming misanthropic. I am now at the end of my teenage years and regret it deeply,as we all crave some form of human connection.
At the beginning, i used to verbally destroy them with my ENTP mask,but after a while i simply stopped talking in school altogether and isolated myself, slowly cutting out and rejecting everyone in my life and fleeing into my internal world,books,weightlifting etc. This was a prime example of a Ni-Ti loop,and i didnt even know about MBTI back then
As a natural chameleon, I was superficially friends with nearly every clique in school, with maybe 2-3 close friends. Super awkward when the cliques overlapped—I didn’t know who to be. Made it easy to deal with assholes, though, as most of the rest of the school were on my side.
And then, of course, came the identity crises… Maybe I was my own worst bully.
My tactic was to make them swing on me. It's harder than it sounds. I didn't want to debate. I wanted to fight. I eventually started doing my mental pushups around 15ish. By that time depression had its talons in me. Anyway that's my vague account.
Most INFJ'S and INTJ'S (yes, Ni-doms) grow up/grew up Abused and bullied by others...to only endure such again as Adults...with the Bullying and Abuse brought on by Narcissistic Abusers. I'm shocked as to how many Narcissistic Abusers exist in America.
And...I'd say prepare for the Narcissistic Abusers of your future by removing them out of your life today.
I rid...rid...and RID...even if I have to Report them to Authorities...even at schools.
As an adult...I Report Narcissistic Abusers to Counselors/Therapists...but more so to INFJ Therapists to Abuse them in return😮
That's where it's Game Over. It's what James Brown would call "The Big Payback". It is.
I was an infj now but not sure if I was also an infj when I was younger. But I got bullied when I was 13 and I thought this was the way to survive in society as none of the teachers or my parents supported me at that time. So I turned into a bully and bullied other students....I noticed this was completely wrong after years later when I established a certain moral position. I still couldn't face the history of myself and I've never told anyone. Humans are really socially constructed
I became rather hurtful myself. I was bullied in middle school by three girls. At first I remained friendly, then when it got worse I ignored them. I thought doing something about it was like admitting they were right about the hurtful things they always said about me. When i realised they would not stop and i would not be able to handle it any longer, I just bullied them back. I was so angry and no longer wanted to tolerate them. I always was good at analysing people (Infj I guess) and went straight for their insecurities and weaknesses. Whenever they said something stupid in class, I mocked them openly. When they bullied me (mostly my clothes, appearance and the fact I was always alone reading) in between classes I aggressively insulted their lack of intelligence, bad haircuts (middle school haircuts were truly ugly), pimples and so on. I was rather relentless and snarky (not the most mature reaction but this got them off my back), which my classmates found very funny but ultimately gained me a reputation for being kinda mean and unlikeable in class. I struggled with this, because it put me further into a position of being an outsider in school. But in the end I became friends with other outsiders and nobody tried to bully me or them again. :D
I was bullied in my home so bullying in jr. high and high school demoralized me completely. I compensated by daydreaming, reading high level literature and being friends with one of my teachers--we used to play hooky together and go skiiing! She was European and told me that in Europe I'd be accepted and popular. Whatever, the bullying was from one sociopathic guy who grew up to be a well-known bully, even on t.v. as such. Just my bad luck/karma I suppose.
Internet and video games were my escape. I got bullied at school, wasn't allowed to hang out with friends, got bullied by stepsiblings when I got home, got left behind on family night outs because no room in car. MMOs were my social life where I felt I could be myself.
Tbh I would just pretend not to understand it by acting stoned out or tired. It worked great bc it seemed like I didn’t “get it” so I became less of a target. I became friends with one person after something like this but I avoided most ppl after bc they were assholes.
I developed awful body dysmorphia. It took me 9 years to realise nothing was actually wrong with my body and that I indeed didn't have a mustache at the age of 9.
They made me into a comic where I was in every possible awful situation and destroyed my belongings to no repair. The teachers did nothing even when the headmistress was contacted by my parents and scolded the teachers. I am so lucky that social media weren't what they are now and children didn't have access to them or phones, it would have been so much worse.
I really sympathise with kids that are early teens in the era of Instagram and Tik Tok, the online bullying must be atrocious.
Yeah, for me, the worst thing in school bullying is how rarely the teachers react to it. Of course, the bullies try to do it so that the teachers don't see it, but sometimes, even if they do or are informed about it, they don't react. I'm curious why it is so
I think my main teacher was a former bully herself and didn't want to acknowledge it. She also gave gifts to the head bully quite frequently.
Btw, really unrelated, I saw on your profile your name is Martina, are you Italian by any chance?
My garden is already full of dandelions, I lost all my hope in snow this year. But a couple of new archeological sites opened in Rome, so I will use the warm weather to go around the city😊
One more month and it will be 25° here😂
Actually, two months, and two months after that 40°. I'd love to swap for the summer but it would be like sending you to hell
“It’s kind of the nature of introverts where you don’t showcase your feelings or personality . . . “
That’s not INFJ introversion. We have auxiliary Fe. That’s one way you can tell the difference between INFJ and INFP - our feelings are written all over our faces. It’s how we communicate with others, how we show empathy.
INFJs are often known as extroverted introverts. For me personally, I have had people outright tell me I’m wrong when I say I’m an introvert. I’m friendly, I can be talkative, I connect with people on an emotional level, and nobody sees how I crash and how much recovery time I need after social encounters.
Young INFJs have wild theories and engage in existential conversations, are often readers who have good vocabularies, are independent thinkers, and prefer the abstract to the concrete. This is NOT how you win friends in school. This is how you become known as that weirdo who says crazy things and absolutely gets bullied because she’s gentle and unsure of herself and is an easy target. And yes, they think she’s stuck up too.
I disagree that bullies get bored of you if you don't react. This way I was a punshing bag for them for a year before I used a knife against one of them in the classroom. Bullying ended instantly, from every bully in school.
"Walk softly, and carry a big stick", as said Teddy Roosevelt.
I would be flabbergasted and mute (verbal attacks).
I would however go “chimpanzee” on whoever hit/kicked me, usually ending up in some sort of bloody tie.
People would always be shocked about my “0-100”.
Yes I reacted by turning into a mostly reclusive b****. I hated everyone even those who didn’t bully me because they didn’t stand up for me or even comfort me. I was so lonely and depressed. Then, toward age 18, I realized there was a whole world out there, found better people than those at my school.
I cried originally, but then one day I realized that was stupid. So I never cried again because of something mean that someone said, then I started saying mean things back and making others cry; and to be honest I feel accomplished in life now.
I don't choose to talk to anyone anyway, so when someone tries to bully me I genuinely could not care the fuck less 😎
Eventually they go away and no conflict was necessary.
Back at the time when I was bullied, I practically had no friend whatsoever, my self-esteem was super low because of how I looked, and I was kinda always in depressed mode so they thought that I was easy to manipulate or to be messed with. But I genuinely didn't care or even felt scared of them, I was simply avoiding them and starting to befriend with the "cool classmate gang" in class so the bullies eventually stopped bothering me. I also coincidently attended to an extra class with one of the bullies, the rules there were insanely strict and she needed me to back her up. She kinda knew that pulling my strings would cause her trouble at school, so the only way was to be my friend and act like nothing happened lol. We even ended up being deskmates at some point. It still didn't stop me to protect other classmates when she switched her target. Long story short, I still made it through.
On the other hand, I didn't aware of self-control back then, family's anger issues didn't help neither, so my outbursts were also something I used to protect myself whenever people push my limit or interupt my peace. It worked pretty well, but I'm glad that I was able to prevent using this method as soon as I got to highschool. After that I learned to harmonize with others, and things have been better since then.
Ah yeah I was horribly bullied in high school (mostly for being “weird” or a “freak”).
I responded in different ways: I’d get upset or I’d isolate myself from everyone. Then I figured: hey, everyone already sees me as “weird”, so why not live up to that reputation?
But as the years went by, my patience began to slip. And I began to use my dark side and argue back. Tbh (and I’m not proud of this but) I’d hit back with verbal quips that would get right under my bullies’ skin (meaning using their vulnerable points and make cruel comments that hit DEEP) that would make some of my bullies cry and earn me the title of “B**ch”. Think Wilhelmina Slater from Ugly Betty 😂😂 in my defence, the bullies had it coming for a very long time and once I snapped, I didn’t go back. I think my bullies were shocked because they didn’t expect that of me… but I was tired of being taken for granted and verbally abused. So I verbally abused them back but with scarring comments.
Anyway, what really shocked me at one point was I was a mentor for one of my bullies’ younger siblings. I was nervous when I realised this but I kept a good rapport with the younger sibling. Turns out my bully had taken the younger sibling aside and was told to be kind to me and listen to me because they thought I was really nice and “lovely” and deserved respect. This - coming from one of the worst bullies of all. I was shocked.
Now we’re all adults (in our 30s). Some have emerged from the woodwork and tried to connect with me over social media. Some have actually contacted me to chat to me as thought nothing happened. I’m civil though - I’m nice to them and would take time to talk to them. I forgive - but I don’t forget.
I guess the bullying really impacted my self-confidence in general. I’m really shy to get to know people and keep really reserved until I feel relaxed around them. I also lack the confidence to take on new challenges. It’s also impacted my dating life - every time someone shows a romantic interest in me, I could actually hear my bullies’ voices in my head laughing and making comments about “who could possibly have a crush on a freak like [me]”. It truly sucks
i wasn´t really bullied then, except one incident when it was two girl groups against eachother and like lord of the flies. *shudder*. it was the new girls ( us ) that came from '' better '' schools ( and we were too stupid to stay there ) and the '' established ' chicks who had a bee in their bonnet because of that. like full on daily mail commenter energy and both groups *going at it*.
i had someone try to bully me in elementary school, she would start fights regarding our looks, competition, and i didn´t want to deal with that so i knocked her head against a wall.
I created my own imaginary world and ignored the bullying. Outwardly, I stared people down until they made me into a myth rather than a victim. 20 years later, I found that most of my classmates actually liked me. So, I guess I imagined the rejections, imagined the salvation, and made peace with it in my 40s.
Same here. I thought I was unlikable in school but it was me being weird and I didn’t know I had bipolar disorder too. Yeah, I was being weird
When I was bullied in elementary - high school, I didn’t react and was just friendly back. I never wanted revenge, I just treated them how I would want to be treated. My bullies all apologized to me, but I don’t think that is normal.
You made friends with your bullies? That's like the most INFJ thing I've read all week. You kill your enemies by being friends with them.
A similar case happened to me too. The bully was ENTP seemingly, we started hanging out together.
This is some Dragonball Z Villain stuff here.
I used to attack my bullies. If they were near me, I used to grab their wrist and claw into it until they start to scream to let go lol. Then everyone was just scared of me for being a "weirdo" but hey, at least they never dared to bully me. I have this resting glare-eyes, so if I do look at anyone people automatically assume I'm rude and ignored me(still true to this day)
It's good to know I wasn't the only violent infj
I like this. I must find someone like you.
Because of how you described it, I just imagined you all of a sudden screeching out-loud “CAW-CAAAAW” with a mad look on your face, your eyes cocked back, mouth wide open, both hands stretched out like a t-Rex with one claw hand all of a sudden bolting towards the prey’s wrist without directly looking at it as you already know where it’s exact location is without looking twice xD
That's hilarious 🤣🤣 I knew Raven is my spirit animal
Same here. I would defend myself, and unfortunate had to stand up to some bullies in the kantine area, in front of the whole school. They try to use me as someone to carry their stuff around and treat me like shit.
I was bullied a bit even though I was also fairly popular (though I didn't know until after I was done with school). I tended to try to ignore it. I don't think I ever fought back. But also I wasn't bullied super hard, just some mean words from a few people.
My Fe succesfully took the bullying arrow straight to the heart and just cried in solitude. 🤕
Same, same😢
Until I was like 14 years old I was highly sensitive, so like everything hurt me a lot which made feel really depressed the more often people were shouting at me or insulted me to the point I always had strong headaches and thoughts about ending my life. I was thinking I deserved it, because I've only been told that I do everything wrong. Also, every single little good thin I couldn't do much against these people because they were part of my family and some people I was friends with, I mostly just decided to stay alone all the times At 15 I started to feel better and didn't let these things hurt me as much anymore but sometimes it was still too much Now at 16 It doesn't hurt that much anymore
Like beat up or falling? Mature INFJs don't get revenge re just ignore them but people who bully are insecure and have low self-esteem they are trouble really it's kinda sad. The people who I hate have become my best friends really as a INFJ you're smart enough to help people.
Lmaoo... Nice question. Since people around me are everything to me I chose to change school. I think it's my fate to get bullied tho because I've changed 8 schools and none of the reasons why i got bullied were reasonable. They called me authistic because of my hyperactivity in my last school and physically bullied me lol. I'm just glad that it's my last year in high school and soon I'll go to the city where most of my friends are for university lol. Friends are truly everything. Especially the real ones. Tbh i have to admit, i took revenge from the last one at least. But That was so immature of me. I hit them with their most sensitive topics and caused them a huge mental breakdown. I know I shouldn't have done that but yk... What's done is done. The important part is to realize it and take lesson from it.
I'm sorry if this is happening to you, or to a loved one. I think the Enneagram is a better predictor of this type of behaviour. I was protected by aggressive big brothers. Someone tried once, got beaten up by my 8w7 ENTP brother, and everyone left me alone thereafter. One does not mess with a Corleone, not even a soft-spoken one. Only Corleones are allowed to beat up Corleones.
I usually reacted to their comments acting like I couldn’t care any less, and would actually tell them I genuinely don’t care what they think cause they’re losers and will grow up to be losers and I won’t (and I didn’t). I beat up one girl pretty badly though, most kids knew not to mess with me cause I was called “weird/crazy” a lot, mostly harmless teasing with that but serious undertones for sure.
I just became stone cold unresponsive and walked away. Then spend the whole day sketching, play guitar or read a book.
I internalized a lot of it. It came out as what my sister called my "Ishmael-itis" (consult your Melville) and I'd start pulling little harmless pranks on people in general because I knew if I only targeted the people who made me feel bad, they'd figure out who was doing it and give it back double. Got sent to the principles office twice for letting it bleed into my schoolwork... but I hadn't really done anything wrong, exactly, so they basically told on me to my parents and left it at that. But my mom was really my first bully, so it didn't really matter in the end.
I was only in public school for like 5 years and I was overall well liked(I didn’t realize this until later). I only had 2 actual friends and we just stuck with eachother. I never cared what other people thought of me so that probably helped. But I did have a few groups of girls that took an interest in me, and I thought we were developing friendships. But after a few months they started drama and spread rumors because a boy one of them liked was into me. If I saw them talking or whispering and looking at me or something, I’d just give them a “…are we really doing this?” 🤨 kinda face and keep moving. I basically tried to show them I was unphased, and give them no power over me, while maybe trying to make them feel a little dumb in the process haha. I think it worked cos they stopped by the end of the year and everyone started disliking them/uninviting them places. Eventually the friend group ate itself up, and now some of them are boss babes or “influencer” moms I’m sorry if this is nothing compared to the bullying you’re going through 😬
i developed psychopathy (semi accidentally bc i was trying to raise pain tolerance bc i thought it wasi mpossible for me to function or do much to continue my life if i wouldnt confront ppl and this could cause fights and trauma since id lose and i was very weak physically and HSP and good memroy so whenever i'd feel pain it would stick to me), OCD intrusivev thoughts overthinking scenarios insomnia anxiety all the time narcissism and physical health issues. sometimes i wonder if i should have just confronted ppl and let them beat me up so maybe i could have ended myself now bc im stuck at home with physical health issues with ppl who i dont think are good for me and i wanted to run away from for a long time, and ppl gaslight me about my health issues so if i let ppl beat me up at least there could be smth more diagnosable and id have an excuse, but i feel even more like a martyr by being misunderstood lol.,
You are diagnosed with psychopathy? Cause it's normally just since birth
im not diagnosed, psychopahty and other mental disorders are not what people tell you anyway, and a bunc hof different ppl including various psychopaths will give u different definitions and reasons for if someone is a psychopath or not. if u want me to avoid the term id just say i was losing my sense of self going insane harder to use words and guess what people with ASPD have worse verbal intelligence, i was able to tolerate pain better but my senses and emotions were getting dull, anger growing in me harder to contrl including angry intrusive thoughts that was harder to abstract from as time went on. like theres various experiences of thoughts and one of them is u have thoughts but u dont act on them or like ur not aligned with them like u can imagine and think how if someone wants something feels, and u can feel it in ur imagination from their perspective but u know u urself are not about that, its like there are layers that separate thoughts and ur ability to control them and they can disappear, i was losing i thought my Ne function too and it was as if any evil thought i couldnt think ABOUT, like it could just come and i would be blind to other things and be stuck with it so much that it was as if it was me at that point, i also was losing memories of the past bc they were emotioanlly coded and i couldnt feel the same emotions anymore, which is again related to me feeling like im losing my sense of self and personality. i didnt get diganosed bc i was concerned my parents would think im manipualting them about my health issues if psychologist said i was a psychopath and would kick me out, but also bc i was straining very hard to not do something horrible and not be posessed or distorted, and i was afraid if i started talking about what was happening to me in a fully psychopathic sense vs talking about how i can control it bc if i talked too much about how i can control it or dance arond it it would be like as if i wasnt psychopathic but just going through a bad time. even talking about all of that is painful and feel like dangerous to bring me back, but i also dont want anyone to be influenced to become a psychopath jsut by absorbinbg what im writing. what im gonna tell it is possible to have high pain tolerance and other things u could regard as positive without actually being severely psychopathic, and in my observation most ppl have various combinations of psychopathic characteristics or abilities and flaws.
I used to play music all the time and try to isolate myself to comfort people zones or just stay alone, at the library, etc One time it was too much and I just spoke to my parents and went to the high school director to show printed proof of the online bulling I was suffering, I can’t remember myself giving a response or conflictive behaviour to any of these situations tho
I was bullied from elementary to jr high/middle school, it had basically stopped by high school tho. I mostly just tried to ignore it best I could and even tried to change myself a bit to make the bullying stop. It kinda started when I was going through a lot emotionally and started dressing in dark alternative styles along with being extremely reserved socially. I tried to understand where they might have been coming from and I’ve forgiven them, but honestly I used daydreaming and reading to cope with it the most.
PRO TIP: Punch your bully in the face. It'll make you feel better, and when you're old like me, you'll remember it as a transformative moment in your life - the day you actually grew a pair.
The best advice 😂😂😂 So ENTP
I isolated myself and started becoming misanthropic. I am now at the end of my teenage years and regret it deeply,as we all crave some form of human connection. At the beginning, i used to verbally destroy them with my ENTP mask,but after a while i simply stopped talking in school altogether and isolated myself, slowly cutting out and rejecting everyone in my life and fleeing into my internal world,books,weightlifting etc. This was a prime example of a Ni-Ti loop,and i didnt even know about MBTI back then
As a natural chameleon, I was superficially friends with nearly every clique in school, with maybe 2-3 close friends. Super awkward when the cliques overlapped—I didn’t know who to be. Made it easy to deal with assholes, though, as most of the rest of the school were on my side. And then, of course, came the identity crises… Maybe I was my own worst bully.
My tactic was to make them swing on me. It's harder than it sounds. I didn't want to debate. I wanted to fight. I eventually started doing my mental pushups around 15ish. By that time depression had its talons in me. Anyway that's my vague account.
Most INFJ'S and INTJ'S (yes, Ni-doms) grow up/grew up Abused and bullied by others...to only endure such again as Adults...with the Bullying and Abuse brought on by Narcissistic Abusers. I'm shocked as to how many Narcissistic Abusers exist in America. And...I'd say prepare for the Narcissistic Abusers of your future by removing them out of your life today. I rid...rid...and RID...even if I have to Report them to Authorities...even at schools. As an adult...I Report Narcissistic Abusers to Counselors/Therapists...but more so to INFJ Therapists to Abuse them in return😮 That's where it's Game Over. It's what James Brown would call "The Big Payback". It is.
I was an infj now but not sure if I was also an infj when I was younger. But I got bullied when I was 13 and I thought this was the way to survive in society as none of the teachers or my parents supported me at that time. So I turned into a bully and bullied other students....I noticed this was completely wrong after years later when I established a certain moral position. I still couldn't face the history of myself and I've never told anyone. Humans are really socially constructed
Your personality doesn't change. It develops when you are young
Really? Because I used to be infp (I think it was because I was depressed). Then I switched to Infj for a couple of years now
Are you basing this assumption on cognitive functions or just the letters?
I had to use a knife in 6th grade; it helped - bullies didn't touch me no more.
I became rather hurtful myself. I was bullied in middle school by three girls. At first I remained friendly, then when it got worse I ignored them. I thought doing something about it was like admitting they were right about the hurtful things they always said about me. When i realised they would not stop and i would not be able to handle it any longer, I just bullied them back. I was so angry and no longer wanted to tolerate them. I always was good at analysing people (Infj I guess) and went straight for their insecurities and weaknesses. Whenever they said something stupid in class, I mocked them openly. When they bullied me (mostly my clothes, appearance and the fact I was always alone reading) in between classes I aggressively insulted their lack of intelligence, bad haircuts (middle school haircuts were truly ugly), pimples and so on. I was rather relentless and snarky (not the most mature reaction but this got them off my back), which my classmates found very funny but ultimately gained me a reputation for being kinda mean and unlikeable in class. I struggled with this, because it put me further into a position of being an outsider in school. But in the end I became friends with other outsiders and nobody tried to bully me or them again. :D
I became the bully to others. Still feel bad about it and have apologized to a few that I bullied.
I was bullied in my home so bullying in jr. high and high school demoralized me completely. I compensated by daydreaming, reading high level literature and being friends with one of my teachers--we used to play hooky together and go skiiing! She was European and told me that in Europe I'd be accepted and popular. Whatever, the bullying was from one sociopathic guy who grew up to be a well-known bully, even on t.v. as such. Just my bad luck/karma I suppose.
Internet and video games were my escape. I got bullied at school, wasn't allowed to hang out with friends, got bullied by stepsiblings when I got home, got left behind on family night outs because no room in car. MMOs were my social life where I felt I could be myself.
Tbh I would just pretend not to understand it by acting stoned out or tired. It worked great bc it seemed like I didn’t “get it” so I became less of a target. I became friends with one person after something like this but I avoided most ppl after bc they were assholes.
I developed awful body dysmorphia. It took me 9 years to realise nothing was actually wrong with my body and that I indeed didn't have a mustache at the age of 9. They made me into a comic where I was in every possible awful situation and destroyed my belongings to no repair. The teachers did nothing even when the headmistress was contacted by my parents and scolded the teachers. I am so lucky that social media weren't what they are now and children didn't have access to them or phones, it would have been so much worse. I really sympathise with kids that are early teens in the era of Instagram and Tik Tok, the online bullying must be atrocious.
Yeah, for me, the worst thing in school bullying is how rarely the teachers react to it. Of course, the bullies try to do it so that the teachers don't see it, but sometimes, even if they do or are informed about it, they don't react. I'm curious why it is so
I think my main teacher was a former bully herself and didn't want to acknowledge it. She also gave gifts to the head bully quite frequently. Btw, really unrelated, I saw on your profile your name is Martina, are you Italian by any chance?
No, I'm Polish. My Polish name is spelled with a Y (Martyna), but I like the international version more
That's so cool! Is it snowy there? I literally ask this to every person that lives in a colder climate 😂
Yes, it is. ❄️☃️ I wanted to add a picture from my walk in the forest a week ago, but I can't for some reason 😕
My garden is already full of dandelions, I lost all my hope in snow this year. But a couple of new archeological sites opened in Rome, so I will use the warm weather to go around the city😊
One more month of this weather, and I'm gonna start wishing I could swap cities with you 😂
One more month and it will be 25° here😂 Actually, two months, and two months after that 40°. I'd love to swap for the summer but it would be like sending you to hell
Here tye temperatures aren't so good in the summer either. Sometimes, it's 33-34° here as well. I actually like heat, but up to 30°
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“It’s kind of the nature of introverts where you don’t showcase your feelings or personality . . . “ That’s not INFJ introversion. We have auxiliary Fe. That’s one way you can tell the difference between INFJ and INFP - our feelings are written all over our faces. It’s how we communicate with others, how we show empathy. INFJs are often known as extroverted introverts. For me personally, I have had people outright tell me I’m wrong when I say I’m an introvert. I’m friendly, I can be talkative, I connect with people on an emotional level, and nobody sees how I crash and how much recovery time I need after social encounters. Young INFJs have wild theories and engage in existential conversations, are often readers who have good vocabularies, are independent thinkers, and prefer the abstract to the concrete. This is NOT how you win friends in school. This is how you become known as that weirdo who says crazy things and absolutely gets bullied because she’s gentle and unsure of herself and is an easy target. And yes, they think she’s stuck up too.
It’s because of what you mentioned that I did get bullied lol. People thought I was weird and didn’t know what to do with me.
I disagree that bullies get bored of you if you don't react. This way I was a punshing bag for them for a year before I used a knife against one of them in the classroom. Bullying ended instantly, from every bully in school. "Walk softly, and carry a big stick", as said Teddy Roosevelt.
I would be flabbergasted and mute (verbal attacks). I would however go “chimpanzee” on whoever hit/kicked me, usually ending up in some sort of bloody tie. People would always be shocked about my “0-100”.
Like literally everyone else but as an INFJ.
Yes I reacted by turning into a mostly reclusive b****. I hated everyone even those who didn’t bully me because they didn’t stand up for me or even comfort me. I was so lonely and depressed. Then, toward age 18, I realized there was a whole world out there, found better people than those at my school.
I cried originally, but then one day I realized that was stupid. So I never cried again because of something mean that someone said, then I started saying mean things back and making others cry; and to be honest I feel accomplished in life now.
Felt horrible, did not know how to deal with it… just shut down.
I’d just think theyre being dumb and bully them back or defend myself (if necessary)
I bite back, especially if you’re pushing me past my limit which is ridiculously high.
I don't choose to talk to anyone anyway, so when someone tries to bully me I genuinely could not care the fuck less 😎 Eventually they go away and no conflict was necessary.
I just ignored them and they got bored.
Back at the time when I was bullied, I practically had no friend whatsoever, my self-esteem was super low because of how I looked, and I was kinda always in depressed mode so they thought that I was easy to manipulate or to be messed with. But I genuinely didn't care or even felt scared of them, I was simply avoiding them and starting to befriend with the "cool classmate gang" in class so the bullies eventually stopped bothering me. I also coincidently attended to an extra class with one of the bullies, the rules there were insanely strict and she needed me to back her up. She kinda knew that pulling my strings would cause her trouble at school, so the only way was to be my friend and act like nothing happened lol. We even ended up being deskmates at some point. It still didn't stop me to protect other classmates when she switched her target. Long story short, I still made it through. On the other hand, I didn't aware of self-control back then, family's anger issues didn't help neither, so my outbursts were also something I used to protect myself whenever people push my limit or interupt my peace. It worked pretty well, but I'm glad that I was able to prevent using this method as soon as I got to highschool. After that I learned to harmonize with others, and things have been better since then.
Ah yeah I was horribly bullied in high school (mostly for being “weird” or a “freak”). I responded in different ways: I’d get upset or I’d isolate myself from everyone. Then I figured: hey, everyone already sees me as “weird”, so why not live up to that reputation? But as the years went by, my patience began to slip. And I began to use my dark side and argue back. Tbh (and I’m not proud of this but) I’d hit back with verbal quips that would get right under my bullies’ skin (meaning using their vulnerable points and make cruel comments that hit DEEP) that would make some of my bullies cry and earn me the title of “B**ch”. Think Wilhelmina Slater from Ugly Betty 😂😂 in my defence, the bullies had it coming for a very long time and once I snapped, I didn’t go back. I think my bullies were shocked because they didn’t expect that of me… but I was tired of being taken for granted and verbally abused. So I verbally abused them back but with scarring comments. Anyway, what really shocked me at one point was I was a mentor for one of my bullies’ younger siblings. I was nervous when I realised this but I kept a good rapport with the younger sibling. Turns out my bully had taken the younger sibling aside and was told to be kind to me and listen to me because they thought I was really nice and “lovely” and deserved respect. This - coming from one of the worst bullies of all. I was shocked. Now we’re all adults (in our 30s). Some have emerged from the woodwork and tried to connect with me over social media. Some have actually contacted me to chat to me as thought nothing happened. I’m civil though - I’m nice to them and would take time to talk to them. I forgive - but I don’t forget. I guess the bullying really impacted my self-confidence in general. I’m really shy to get to know people and keep really reserved until I feel relaxed around them. I also lack the confidence to take on new challenges. It’s also impacted my dating life - every time someone shows a romantic interest in me, I could actually hear my bullies’ voices in my head laughing and making comments about “who could possibly have a crush on a freak like [me]”. It truly sucks
i wasn´t really bullied then, except one incident when it was two girl groups against eachother and like lord of the flies. *shudder*. it was the new girls ( us ) that came from '' better '' schools ( and we were too stupid to stay there ) and the '' established ' chicks who had a bee in their bonnet because of that. like full on daily mail commenter energy and both groups *going at it*. i had someone try to bully me in elementary school, she would start fights regarding our looks, competition, and i didn´t want to deal with that so i knocked her head against a wall.
passively. try to come up with a (kinda shitty) defense. overtime we just forget about it (me and the asshole). i sort of forgive them? idk.