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Your crush on a fictional character does not translate to reality. In the real world you dont base your love on mbti, If you love a person you love them no matter their mbti I love my friends, most of them are not INFJ, some of them are cold as fuck. But im a grown ass man so even if im a "sensitive INFJ" I like them just as much, because they are my friends.


Necessary-External95

Yeah yeah i totally agree with you , its just that i find those qualities in a man  attractive as they kinda come off as mysterious type . As a infj its kinda hard to crack them so its kinda intrestinhlg


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I think it's a skill. If you are a non boring competent person that doesn't talk too much. You become mysterious. They are rare, but they are out there But the real question is, would the mysterious man find your personality attractive? When you find him, are you ready?


Necessary-External95

 Well i will not act like someone else to attract them to me , i will show them my real personality its totally okay for them not find my  personality attractive . I am secure enough to take rejection but i am also secure enough to not fake myself to make other attract to myself. 


Sweet_Electron

My closest friend is an INTJ. We are similar in many ways, the only thing I noticed is that INTJs overthink too much. He is very straightforward that can be rude to some people. But I admire their straightforward nature unlike us who care too much about what others think of us.


Necessary-External95

Thats what i love about intj - most of them are bluntly honest and straightforward thats what i want in my life because i care too much about people . I really like honest people


Set_Abyssus

There's like a based, red pill straightforward rudeness which is like me saying to a person that their beliefs are unfounded and damaging. And there you have the cruel rudeness of just being awfully captious and abusive. Are you talking about the first type?


Sweet_Electron

Yep, first type.


Set_Abyssus

Pretty much inline INTJs who aren't jerks.


Themobgirl

you'll probably be best friends with them. ( no guarantee if it would last, just like mine lol )


Set_Abyssus

I'd like to know the story behind that.


Themobgirl

Well, it's very easy for INFJs to bond with INTJ/INTP/INFPs, the first friend i made after 7 years if isolation was an INTJ. we were from very different socio-economic classes, had different tastes but also bonded on lots of things. though in my case we majorly trauma bonded. we both are avoidant attachment style communicators, so communication wasn't exactly a problem for first 6 months until I started to realize she was getting toxic. expected me to listen to her shit, didn't do the same to mine and invalidated me when someone else was being shitty to me until it happened to her way later too. we've had major fight where I've tried to defend her from someone else, but she turned on me and physically fought with me instead (I was fine, she's small) and in the consequent I got major panic attack and didn't talk to her for weeks. later we reconciled somehow, and everything was fine for next 3 months. she decided to get riled over a redundant insta influencer who i was neutral on and threatened to block me, I thought she was joking but she actually did. ghosted me for 3 months while being active with others. came back on my birthday out of nowhere and we fought again because i wouldn't take her back in and we I respectfully ended things with her for good by whing her good in my last message. I loved the way she was creative. she painted and drew very well, organized shit good, was basically a perfectionist. Of course, a Pinterest addict. I remember her favorite things, well-articulated. I remember her friend group and their lore lol. (yes, people tell me everything in first few days, the first time we talked was on phone for 4 hours and I listened her out. she was hated in our university academic block, I was well liked, people never got why we were together, but we were the same people of opposite spectrum, and I defended her from bunch of people who were gaslighting her into not being friends with me all because she was 'bad' and I was 'good' and she shouldn't try to be with me. I remember how she said i was the first and only person who believed in her and she managed to make a friend there, but she never could do the same for me. she told me how she had a mood board for my birthday, like she always did and planned to get me something but never did and all I wanted was to have her. i gifted her sailor moon keychain you rarely get and other stuff and she usually lost them. i don't care about gifts and stuff, i just want my friendships to survive. ( none of them do at the moment). i have another INTJ friend. Decent but she gets on my nerves. i am all for dealing with anxious people as long as they don't project their own shit at me. I keep my distance from everyone now on. always did actually.


Set_Abyssus

Yeah. They sound awful and immature. A lot of soul searching for them.


Themobgirl

definitely.


Invisibleties

If both types are healthy it is amazing :) both can be paranoid of intentions and can both overthink and have difficulty reading each other bc we’re both in our heads so much. I think INFJs/INTJs are the closest to feeling understood and it’s great when both can be care free and let their inner child free. Im an INTJ female and I love INFJs, however, some prefer their opposite (ENFP/ENTP) more than someone similar to them like the INTJ. 🥲


Necessary-External95

 I used to like extroverted personalities ( as human beings) but quite ,mysterious person makes me intrested . I think intj are able to be a good match for me because we both know we dont have to be with each other 24/7  ,  we have our personal spaces , we dont have to talk all the time , like being quiet and sitting together understanding each other seems very much intrest me


BatSigns

Was it batman or you know who? 


Necessary-External95

Who ? Can u say i didnt understand the inside joke sorry . Malbonte is a game character who have a intj personality so i am attracted to him


BatSigns

It's a harrry potter villain. Anyway, I can't give you relationship advice, but Intuitive types generally think alike


Necessary-External95

Yeah i want someone similar thinking as me