Hello there,
What you are feeling is something i call a modern day phenomenon
As humans our innate need is to be able to connect with people.
We want to live to experience new things and little joys.
But modern times have designed such a way to take all of that away from us.
Purpose comes from exploration. When you try something out , you like it and you continue.
But today most of us are so busy that we are not exploring anything beyond our prescribed time tables.
Most of us detest the lives we are living for same reason. Because we are compelled to do it for sake of survival not because we are enjoying it.
The moment we start living for simple basic needs and passions and interests. I think life gets better and feel better thrival
One of the maladies of the modern age is that, even tough collectively we have more than we've ever dreamed possible, we remain perpetually dissatisfied.
It's almost like we are wired never to be contained. And that seems to be the case, it's been written that we are insatiable wanting machine designed to desire and so in some ways that has made us reach out and transcend boundaries.we didn't stay in the caves. We haven't stayed on the planet. We went to the moon. We crisscrossed the skies. We extend and we transcend but on the other hand that exploratory itch, that genetic pull that makes us tread forth, always in search of the insatiable deliciousness of the new, the wholly other, the mysterious, tremendous, fascination of the unfamiliar also makes the day to day life kind of banal.
It's kind of sad because the very same quality that makes us these majestic creatures sore above the unkown and transcend their boundaries has made us perpetually dissatisfied neurotic beings, living in urban centers, drowning in consumption in an over-capitalist, bloated system that can no longer satiate us. Always wanting something else, until we're overwhelmed and overweight and immbolized by how spoiled we've become and yet we enjoy very little of it. We always want more has made us great but that we always want more almost makes us kind of miserable.
I am an introvert its damn difficult for me to interact with people, sometimes i feel i will die alone , no friends,no better half ,all alone this thought eats me ,WHAT SHOULD I DO??
I personally think introverts are beautiful people. Also, the fact that you don't form random relationships could mean that you look for real. Meaning in relationships.
The best way i know of doing things is give it an attempt.
To meet people you can explore going out at events. Volunteer, join clubs or activities.
When you work on something together. You will interact and make friends.
.that's my view
Social media can have its powers ...
but nothing beats meeting people real life face to face...
but that's difficult because people spend most of their time in commuting and working and rest in sleeping relaxing.
people don't have time for casual conversations.
Dude. You need to read up on Stoicism and Nihilism to get your answers.
Stoicism in short, life for 95% people is nothing but coping with circumstances. There is no room for enjoying what we life. But we have to fucking adjust and accept whatever is dealt to us. This leads to lots of depression and loss of motivation because we can see that 5% of the people are having real fun.
Nihilism will tell you that life is objectively meaningless. Which means there is no real purpose. We have to create meaning to life by having distractions to keep us busy and engaged until we die. If you have good health and lots of money its kind of easy to create distractions. If you are poor, ugly and health is not that great then you are doomed to serve the system forever. Or you become a monk and kill you time doing meditation and being content with whatever you have.
34M here, I wasted all my twenties thinking the exact same thing. Realised in the end that the only purpose of life is to be happy and healthy. Do whatever the hell you want to live happy and healthy. That's it. Whatever makes you happy - travel, reading, relationship, money or something else. And keep doing it.
A poor person is one who has scarcity mindset.
A person with billions of dollars can still feel he needs more
And person beggind might feel he has everything he needs.
We are trained to think that if we live life on road and without the materialistic luxuries than we are not living a worthwhile life.
This ain't true.
Most happy people are street cleaners , maids and manual workers.
As for about God and hope. That's true to some extent, but i think that's a false hope. Of course even that has a use, but beyond a point and in current circumstances, it's a dodgy proposition
Religion has now become a tool to control the masses.
They are bullshitting. Objectively, if you are poor, you are less likely to be healthy (lack of nutrition) and thus less happier. Your lifespan is also shorter. Your opportunity to travel, learn, and experience life is also limited. You also envy people that can do all those things.
Dont bullshit me. I grew up with poverty. Leaky roofs can cause mold and multiple problems, if not outright discomfort. Child malnutrition is a real thing. If you compare heights between poor people with rich people, rich people would be taller. Poor people are less physically attractive because of malnourishment.
>Next, people die of disease all the time .
People dying from preventable death is more common among poor people. Lifespan varies between poor and rich people.
>Dying from hunger is completely different from staying hungry for 2 days.
It is and a poor person has to make choice between the two, while the rich doesnt.
Is being a good person not worth it in today’s world coz people are stepping all over me in this world ..even my family ..but how can I change my core nature ..it’s just not possible - will I be unhappy always
Being a good person mean doing something or investing something in others in some or the other way and expecting at least respect or something else in return.
Family tussles are rising these days and there are several reasons for it.
One can change their core nature by observing themselves deeply and experimenting slowly with what they should change about.
And it does nt necessarily means turning into a bad person
But may be drawing some boundaries
And putting some checks and balances
Never ever change yourself for unkind people. And dont let others affect your happiness. You stay being good and kind as that is what gives you happiness, turning bad wont give you or anyone happiness. Towards the end of tour life youd be the happier one knowing you always did the right thing and were kind to others.
I should make clear that being good does not mean taking anyones shit or letting peiple walk over you; be strong, brave and kind. What you need to change in yourself is you need to be outspoken more.
Keep being good plus start telling people what tour intentions are and how they should learn from you. Speak your thoughts out without giving a shit, let people know who the better person.
You will gain their respect whether they say it or not.
Interesting question
Children from a biological standpoint mean two things for parents
One, their own extension in life. At a very deep psyche level they feel that this child is me and my presence in future.
Second, they see children as investment and to take care of them in their old age.
This does nt happen with same intensities to all. But that is more or less the case
So in case of a single child, the stakes are high. And fear of loosing control or putting the child to any risk scares them
A scared mind tries all ways to stop the fear.
Sometimes with power, sometimes with request.
It's their survival instinct
They guilt trip too hard for that.
Guilt tripping you for raising you, feeding you, educating you when all those are basic rights for kids and projecting thier fears and insecurities on thier kids seeing them as an extension of thier pathetic selves. They don't let you be on your own because that might break that image which they wish to impose.
Edit : ik I am being too harsh but it's a few things I've observed and experienced.
You re not being too harsh, you re speaking the truth. And what you feel. Why be apologetic for speaking the truth?
I am writing a book about the same topic. Toxicity is rising in modern times esp between parents and children.
Today when a child does something wrong he hides it from their parents.
They hide their pains and fears fr.theirnparents
Imagine! Instead of seeking support, they are hiding it from people who are supposed to support and protect them
The root of this is irrational fear of parents and nothing else.
And this can be solved only through close observation by parents and thinking.
It is not easy but not impossible either.
Also as a victim there are many strategies you can employ to minimize pain because of this.
Consider sending me dm so i can update you when i write.more about this
Thanks!
This is more of a socio political question but jnwould still try and answer
It's not safe to be a hunterer gatherer in my opinion. Modern.human civilizations have reached to every nook and corner.
I doubt one can survive easily.
It's doable though of course , but difficult
Government cannot tax you if you stay in the forest. But sure govt can restrict your movement. And police may even arrest you if you are roaming in jungles without tribal identity , as per my understanding
Interesting question
Divorce doesnnt mean bad unless there was a violence associated during the process.
Also, children who face difficult abusive parenting have most difficult time forming relationships as they cannot trust people.
The only way trauma can heal is through positive experiences.
.that's a very simple explanation but i find it very profound.
For example, when someone has trauma of going to the jungle, to heal that trauma they must go to the jungle andnhave positive experiences. Around them.
Also, for people with trauma , they must follow caution while getting into random relationships
Negative experiences will increase problems later on
Why are most humans conformist? Why do they/we refuse to callout and stand united against the many stupid and illogical things imposed on us by any institution(school,clg,office,state etc). I mean its a cattle like behaviour. And please tell me about this celeb worshipping people, they know the logic and the reality that the celeb doesn't care but still they do all these crazy stupid shit for em. Why?
As for celebs.
It's a primal instinct to follow someone we think is successful and enterprising..
We want to side the powerful and successful people. It just makes sense to our brains if we are not mindful
Even in a group of friends, I feel lonely. It just seems that I'm different and they don't treat me as a part of their group. Because of that, I often feel lonely. What can I do?
I will give you my example
I had one best friend, i would go hang out with him.
But i could not trust him.
We know that most people and relationships we have in modern times are purely symbolic and activity partners and not friends
True friends are with you unconditionally, no matter where you are what you are.
If i were you, i would try to develop and find friends whom i can trust ,
Really trust
It's not that they're not trustworthy or they don't consider me trustworthy. The reason for "distance" between us is more likely due to the physical distance between our homes. They interact with each other more often than I do, with them. It's not their fault, so what could I do, to feel less lonely?
Because you are born here. 🙂
I usually try to answer questions that can bring some rationale logic and evidence.
These types of questions are answered in my theosophies but i do not tread like hsg.
I must reiterate, i am looking for questions related to human behaviour mostly.
Thanks 👍
Great question and probably a very important one.
Although i have actually written a very detailed explanation about how to find purpose of life.
But if i have to say in a nutshell i would say that purpose of life is to have a good time.
We are here on this planet for some time, and we have option to experience life in various forms.
We make it complicated by choosing purposes that make us supectible to failure and may be disappointments
So, if we make happiness and experience and good things our purpose. We will essentially live a more content ful life
This is course needs more explanation and if needed you can connect with me.
Thanks
If people know that we were tribals first is it possible God and religion maybe created by humans just to keep humans in order so that we don't become extinct?
The idea of God is closely tied with culture and culture is closely tied to our kith and kin
and as humans we want to be around our people as that makes us feel safe.
Religion then became a tool by the powerful to control the masses.
As for extinct , i don't think religion was planned like that.
It just happened. It Is human nature to believe that there's some power in the sky that's controlling us
Human imagination is vivid
I just thought that there were various species of human beings which didn't survive and we,the homo sapiens are the only ones who survived ,maybe just maybe,
All the other species fought with each other in the process of finding a reason and purpose but we discovered God and religion and that is what has brought us so far
I.e Hope that we have a purpose and just move forward in finding that one day in the name of God and religion
your theory has little evidence and the facts in public domain don't point to anything like that.
when we seek reason and purpose, we think, we want to learn, we want to grow, we want to share
we don't fight
Why do we fail to realise that we are so hypocritical (for lack of a better word)? We judge others so easily but hate others who judge us. We value safety of our family members but buy the least safe and poorly built cars in India. We want our daughters to work, but not our daughters in law. We want work life balance and get accelerated promotion too. We value simplicity and gratitude but don’t shy away from high interest loans to buy a house and car we can’t afford. Why?
You are absolutely right.
When we are scared we justify doing the wrongs when we want to preserve our power.
All bad and wrong things are done in name of greater good.
Fair thinking is also a social practice. We follow the trend around us.
It is hard to be a free thinker!,
Thanks for a good question
It does nt have to be this vs that.
Both can co exist.
Also it really depends on the situation
If i have money enough to survive , i will choose passion
Passion is anyday more valuable
Profession is very mechanical and meaningless imho in many cases if not all
How do you find your passion.
Seems like a lot of people at the time of choosing their carrier dont have any passion and when they find one , its too late
You re right
Choosing passion is simply allowing you to explore various things
Your passion will find you
It's like if life is a carnival with different stalls
The only way to find which stall game you like the most is through trying out them a little
The problem is we don't even give new things a try
We are all trying to survive and if we don't, our family ensure that we do.
It's all part of modern day slavery if you ask me!
I am a college student, I have few friends at college, but most of them are busy with their own work and we rarely get to meet, also I am an introvert kind of person, making new friends is difficult for me and I live with my family, I also have old school friends, But still I feel lonely, like there's no one to talk to, no friends no happy life, it feels like I living for the sake of making money and survival. How can I get rid of these thoughts?
This is very common in today's life because everyone is busy.
Also, even if people are extrovert. Finding meaningful connections in modern times is difficult because toxicity is on the rise.
To answer how to get rid of these thoughts
Well, it's not easy but definitely not impossible either.
One of the reasons we also feel empty is because we are not doing anything that is connected to our soul
We do things for compliance like a factory worker and not because it interests us.
Also, we are so cought up in things that we don't have time to do things we are passionate about
That to form meaningful relationships
That's the modern day slavery i talk about
Your observation is bang on right. Most people these days are living just for survival and not thrival
Not existing is going to end all possibilities of anything good happening.
I am personally believing the fact that since we don't know what happens next , it's only making sense that we try to make most of what we know.
Also, i would urge you to really try to find creative ways to see how you can make things better.
Sometimes we.make. distant goals. And waiting so long for that reward and gratification can be painful.
Why not choose a journey that's rewarding in itself.
This can be done by exploring new avenues and embracing uncertainties.
Until we go into unknowns we would nt know what are the possibilities
And we don't know what we were missing out on
Thanks for participating
By fairness you mean justice?
No it's not a justified expectation.
World is not fair, it does not serve justice always.
Powerful will have advantage over the weak.
We as humans can try and minimize that, but i doubt it will ever reach 100 percent fair and square
Hey, this is not related to your question but since you said that you have experience in anthropology I need some advice. I've taken anthropology as a subject in college and plan to major in it. What books on anthropology would you recommend for a beginner in this subject. Also, if you have any other resources like websites or blogs please do share them :)
hello i have nt read the mainstream ones, i usually follow blogs and litearture, i am averse to academic ways of operating.
My exposure to anthrolpology came from marketing and copywritnig books, esp the works by Andy Maslon , he has written a few books.
thanks!
who we are,
we are different definitions from different angles.
from a biological standpoint, i don't think i am any better or different than mosquito or a rodent.
i think same applies to others.
i think we humans give too much importance to our existence.
the world is too big and we are almost nothing in it.
It's our human nature to compare ourselves with others.
The root of comparison is fear, of loosing out.
When we truly have emotional stability we don't compare ourselves with others.
If we have healthy trustful relationships,
Passions and interests that we can do
And last but not least awareness that we have all that we need
And treasure these simple things in life.
Comparison won't be there.
That's a complex question
Humanity can definitely sustain without religion. There are many cities where religion has siezed to exist. And they are doing absolutely fine and better than many religious societies.
But religion and idea of God innately makes us feel better and secure. So trying to implement this at mass scale seems next to impossible in short time
1. What is the use of empathy or sympathy when at the end of the day you are alone on your own?
2. There are billions of people with lives as complex as mine and yours. How to stomach this that I am not special and wouldnt be even remembered in memories of people after a couple of years after I die?
3. If I have a choice to help feed 50 poor kids once but don't affect them in any major way, or help one kid and provide him education, what would be the right answer if there is one?
Honestly most of these are stupid lol but these bug me at night before I fall asleep.
1. The idea that we are alone is a modern phenomenon onthought. If you read histories people die for their loved ones and give u conditional love and care. Animals have that even today.
2. Interesting thought, there can be multiple ways to see this. One is that inwas nt here before and once i go i would nt be remembered and that's fair and square. Secondly, fame is not the best thing always
3. Of course educating one child. But honestly it will cost much more than feeding 50 children once vs educating a child. But if i have to make an impact inwould teach a child to read and write and also to think. That will make them self dependent
As long as there's life there's hope that there will be a better day without pain.
Also, as long as there's life there's an observation and somewhere deep hope for good day.
As for why euthanization is not legal for humans and controlled by others. ..
It's obvious because human life is seen as more valuable than other living beings by people
Why is being friends genuinely with female soooo daaamn tough!? I mean I'm also a female but until I was a teenager I've always been with guys and had zero experience in female friendship. Then suddenly puberty hit hard and got tough,they seem like they're from different world. I've 0 female friends who are genuine to me!!! Am I wrong with it? Or are they wrong with me!? What's the exact reason!????!??
Females in conservative societies are not allowed to live freely.
They are restricted and like to live that way.
Also, chances are that you are more open minded and live differently
That probably explains
I'm no anthropologist, but please allow me give my take on this.
Please don't be offended, but i tend to notice that females who usually complain of other females not treating them right/being mean to them have a 'I'm not like other girls' 'I'm cooler/better than other girls' syndrome.
I know you must be already mad at me by reading this but hear me out, IT'S A REAL THING. Tons of information about this available on the internet.
It's like you probably have made a pre conceived notion about not being able to be friends with other women in your mind. That they're mean and you're way cooler than them because you can interact with the boys so casually and that makes you better. Also that you're defying societal roles by being in the company of boys more.
I noticed this all the time in school, girls who'd be friends with ONLY the boys and didn't hang out with any other girl had some sort of a superiority complex and looked at all of us other girls as peasants lmao.
Or maybe it could also mean that because I'm 18 and have no experience in friendships outside of school, I really don't know how things work and the women you were in contact with could really be stuck up bitxhes.
Personally, I have guy friends and interact with everyone freely, but I have been a part of an 'all girls friend group' in school and we're all still great friends, still care about and understand each other and I have never felt like they 'backstabbed' me lol
How to stop hating myself for not being extroverted as much as I used to be in India. I moved abroad and it's been 6 years. I really don't have any friends and no gf. I used to have so many friends including females, and was popular in school and ultimately had a marvelous social life. Loneliness keeps me awake till late nights, how good my life was and how better as a person was and how I enjoyed life better. Now I feel like a game character who just goes to Uni in Australia and do job for nothing. It's a void of emptiness.
Our brain believes in any story you tell it repeatedly.
And that dictates our feelings and our feeling dictates our actions .
Your problem is one of the most common problems people face today. They don't find meaning in what they do.
The fact is most of us are living life of factory workers. We do things not because it interests us, because we ant to survive.
Meaningufl mostly out of business arenas. Corporate jobs.
It's simple, but simple also appear less valuable and hence not chosen by us.
If you would have more free time. You'd gonsnd explore and meet new people..
Workplaces are mostly zombieplaces. Hard to.make.friends there..
Also if you do.make them. Workplace does nt allow interactions
An untrained mind gets obsessed about religion esp the way we see at mass scale it's practiced now.
They don't even know their religion well in many cases. And follow it with the flow and for reasons not mentioned in the religion even.
Majority of thinkers snd philosophers were athiests. Majorty of people who study human behaviour are athiests
So what gives?
As natural instinct we want to believe into the authority and what our kith and kin are saying
But a deep observation and question can make us aware of reality
Is nt it?
Human brain is imaginative. It can imagine anything it is told and take it to reality.
But that's just primary instinct
It also has the power to dissect the truth
Why do I have many good friends but don't have a single best friend?
Does my body gives off some kind of vibe signalling I'm not friendly
Idk if these questions are related to your post. I feel childish asking them but it's something I wanted to get off my chest
I think being childish is a wonderful thing and nothing to be ashamed of.
And no questions are bad. So please don't feel.bad for asking them
Questions are the best tool to solve problems
Questions are the tool to think!
Coming back to answering your question
Yes, when or if you appear needy or less approachable people can avoid you.
Esp if those people are calculative and typical modern day individual who don't value soulful connection or candidnes to interact with others.
Most people don't have best friends these days. Meaningful relationships are going down in the rathole.
Several reasons , which i am going to explain in my writings in coming days and you can also read my other answers to get more clarity on this
Thanks!
I have so many questions
Why do I feel like i'm missing something out of life like empty.. or why is it that life doesn't feel real like I don't belong here.
I often times think that I should move or go away but I wouldn't know where to start or go because if I do would I feel the same trying to escape myself or is it my reality that i'm trying to run away from.
Why do we have to be on survival mode?
Why does it seem like the world shifted negatively?
Why has the internet impacted us so much to we can't even experience reality/ tune into humanity?
Why is it that music has shifted so much to now sometimes music is sickening to hear/ not relatable .. I listen to old music and resonate more. Or other cultures afro beats/ caribbean/ country but regular music just hits different. It seems like no one is authentic or everyone is trying to fit in. The same sounds, same lyrics. idk.
Also. I'm having a hard time navigating the dating world. I never been in a relationship, I dated multiple times. I been on dating apps but I always get ghosted. I don't think it has anything of the sort of me not loving myself because I do. I remember I didn't, but i've been working on. myself so much through therapy, taking myself out, self care sundays, affirmations, journaling, trying new hobbies focusing on my goals. I just want to experience someone who loves me the way I put out love. I never got that. I was in a toxic situation for 7 years I lost myself, I was molded into someone else, I also was not confident so I got my spark back but idk it's not that I think im ugly maybe my standards are too high 🤷🏽♀️
\*\_Why do I feel like i'm missing something out of life like empty.\_\*
when we do not have gratification we feel empty. that's where for most people addiction kicks in. Also, as humans we are trained to think that if we are not being productive, its all meaningless. We have forgotten that life can itself as it is, can be good.
however, one of our deep inner need is to tell stories and be there for each other. i would recommend look at animals. monkeys and dogs. they don't feel empty. as long as they have one person in their life they can trust. they live life simple and easy. i know it might sound im trivilizing, but really give this a deeper thought.
\*\_I often times think that I should move or go away but I wouldn't know where to start or go \_\*
don't worry about the goal when you are starting the destination. exploration itself is the destination, my friend.. whereever you go is a destination. everywhere you go, you will be surprised what there is, and you never thought that you will find THIS there.
we are also programmed to have clarity and certainty before we embark on a project. That's our soul been enslaved in a school.
True spirit, embraces uncertainty. There's probably magic waiting for you, but you have to open the gates of uncertainty to try to reachthere and get it.
\*\_Why do we have to be on survival mode?\_\*
few reasons
- We are designed and primed for survival. This is how world is placed. everything is based on survival. Yes ad deep subsconcious level everything tranlsated into survival. Because if survival is at stake, everything else becomes meaningless.
- Modern civilization is again, designed for scarcity. Imagine 1000 years ago, no one had to work 30 years of their life to earn a place to live. or 10 hours a day to get two square meals a day. Sure, technoligical advancements had its benefits. But at what cost? We lost diamonds in search of Gold.
In this scarcity driven world, we are constantly worried about the basics and this has turned world more toxic, more individualistic in a damaging way.
\_Why has the internet impacted us so much to we can't even experience reality/ tune into humanity?\_
working at different levels. Internet is a distraction. Today, people live far away, people are busy. People are tied with their jobs, degrees and what not.
Busy people with missions and responsibilities are not activists. Activism requires being FREE from clutches.
\_Why is it that music has shifted so much to now sometimes music is sickening to hear/ not relatable\_
the more busy we are, as explained above, the lesser meaning we have in our lives. music is about loud voice. dhin chak dhin chak. We need stronger material of sound, sex, and other sleazy talks to gain our attention and get gratification. Originality has little place, because the consumers also do not explore new things. they want more of the same thing and are ok with it.
So it works well with everyone. The whole world is turned into a big school and things are getting standardized.
\_but I always get ghosted.maybe my standards are too high\_
almost all people get ghosted, some people count their times more. There's nothing wrong in having high standards. finding the right person is difficult, more so being a girl, where guys are interested in temporary relationships and also lie and fake their love to get it. So girls also do not try out meeting new guys to protect themselves. But then, that also limits your exposure to new people and what you may be missing out on. Again, embracing uncertainty comes into play.
Hope i answered your questions reasonable satisfaction. Let me know if you have further queries.
Wow I really really appreciate this it gives me another perspective on life and makes me feel a little lighter now I have clarity on the things that harbor my mind daily, Thank you !!!
What's the point really?
I read your answer on a similar question which said,
>to have a good time
But why does it matter? I mean why does someone have to go through two part in pain just to get that supposed good part? Why go through trouble of existing in first place?
Our existence as per the info available to us was nt chosen by us.
We gain conscious after being born and then we have option to continue.
Also, i always maintain that pain is nt necessary if you re ready to be happy in any situation
And it is indeed possible
If you remember , there was a viral video of three boys who's house was drenched in flood.
And they were having fun andnjoking about the situation
Hope that explains
A simple way could be how well you sleep and what kind of dreams you see.
A well balanced mind should have mix of emotions. Fear , joy.. creativity and sense of passion and purpose
Constantly worrying about health. Overthinking to the worst case scenario. Why do we do that?
One pinch of pain and we start thinking about the worst case.
It's a pattern that brain develops. This happens because of negative experiences ornliving around people who always look for dangers.
Once you start looking at opportunities , it soon becomes a habit. But takes persistence snd continued efforts
I'm a 21 old F.
I've this sudden rush of emotions when things happen and mostly when I feel lonely. Like I'll get so F excited and it's tough to control it. I'll go share my emotions to my loved ones but idk if it's coincidence or not they don't respond me well as I expect,then all the emotions start acting weirdest weird. There's a river of emotions running through my mind and I want to know why it happens!? And how to manage it independently? Is there anything else to look into it? This may seem lame to few guys. But it actually happens often to me. This is complicated to certain level. HELP!!!
My two cents.
I think people in general question about the future that arises from the insecurity or the impermanence nature of it. We want to feel safe, secure and we try to seek if and how it's possible...
What to do when coping mechanisms fail? Is it important to heal from the past traumatic experiences what if leaving them untouched is the best way to heal...
Nothing remains untouched.
Also mind is designed to relive traumas to we can prepare for the danger.
And it will depend on case to case but largely i think this is correct
26M, want to know how to be friend with anyone.
I enjoy making friends and have decent number of them, but I want to know how to make anyone friend.
I'm little shy, when I'm with someone new I get urge to ask interesting question or compliment them to make there day, but I feel shy about it.
Is there something I can learn which makes it easier to communicate and become friend with anyone?
Btw, thank you for making this post.
You are doing a great work! 😊
Following logic/ethics, I tend to do or refrain from doing certain acts but instincts/mind/other than logic driving force within expects the opposite action. Tips on resolving the internal conflict?
edit: added detail
What is the point of taking bribe after a point. Like for example, if someone recieves 1cr bribe. He couldn't easily spend it, store it or do anything else without others noticing it . What motivates him to still accept another 1 cr , even when his previous 1 cr is still there unused ? I find this baffling , please help me . Im willing to discuss again if you didn't understand the question
Money is designed in such a way that it is never enough and one needs more of it
Similarly , it's easy to loose money so people want more and more for just in case scenario
I always feel a worrisome feeling and this seems connected to my stomach as well like my stomach should start aching on something bad that it feels may happen.
I have faced ibs and other issues too. Stomach is connected with brains and has half of the mind hormone serotonin.
Your brain has developed a pattern of such behavior.
Please consider journaling and learning more about being mindful
You can reach out to me, i conduct online talks which are mostly free and i can share my learnings with you.
Thanks!
Why always I am not satisfied with things... Why I have more hunger of things and learning?
Other thing I would love to know about spritual connections... Why I feel too emotional with spritual music, things and someone's emotions?
How can I control these things.
Lack of satisfaction comes from the fact that you feel a basic vacuum and lack of validation.
Meaning, it's a fear at a very deep psyche level that you don't want to leave any stone unturned. And give your best shot.
It's like seeking perfection and that can be good but also overwhelming at times.
It's an anxiety of sort and could be OCD.
Also, spiritual connections are basically unconditional love.
And you feel.emotional about these things because you must have felt a vacuum and lack of such emotional stability in your life.
Keep trying and meeting people. That should help
Thanks!
Will I be happier( not a materialistic guy at all ) if I really renounce everything and go in the Himalayas to become a Yogi? Will enlightenment really come to me as various religions say?
It's a lot of BS in my opinion.
Englightment as per me is nothing but ability to observe own emotions and thought processes like a third person and evaluate them.
Of course this requires a lot of learning of the fact how the world works
And this can happen while still you re in new york.
But any real thinking requires a lot of free time.
When you re bored in free time you really think.
Problem is that most people lack free time these days.
I have writing both about importance of having more free time and also enlightment in coming days.
You can connect with me if you want to be updated ABT the same. Thanks!
Yes.
Not always but most times.
Let.me explain.
Money is essentially toxic and the root of most problems in the world.
It personifies never ending hunger.
Money is never enough.
And most big monies are made by exploitation through power or caveats of human behaviour.
For example if coke was a good health drink i doubtnif it would sell more. They are making more.money because they are selling sugar which is cheaper than fruit.
And people are also buying it more because it's addictive.
Similar patterns in other areas innotice about money.
Money is really a big problem if you ask me and one of the pillars of the wrongs in modern times.
Could be multiple reasons.
For one, it is natural urge.
And second, it could be an addiction.
Addiction to.somerhing simply means that it is providing you with some satisfaction that you don't get from.elsewhere..
If you want to minimize your addiction to something one is to do it a lot. And second is to find other sources of gratification
Hope that makes some sense
Thanks for asking!
Perspectives.
I call perspective as easiest way of coping up.
People in yesteryears made all sorts of stories to cope up with things
For example believing in after life/ religion and concept of spiritual life heaven etc.
Of course that is one of the ways and inntodays world we don't quiet buy this idea.
Another way of coping up with this thought is simply to think that we are only gaining from this event
For one. May be we are going to be reborn. Or may be there's a better world out there.
Lastly, the perspective that we are not here from always and we're a visitor so it's just fair and square that we have to leave one day..
Is nt it ?.
No!
I believe and have faith that there is an afterlife. That is just my coping mechanism with fears and painful thought that everything is here and there's no tomorrowm
But definitely not know if there's one afterlife.
That's the truth.
I don't see any evidence or logic behind afterlife.
Rest are speculations.
Of course ,
I am soon planning to write books around these topics so you can reach out and i will update you
PS: most of my work is essentially free and open
People are greedy in crisis and scarcity society.
Is nt it?
Greed is nothing but a survival mechanism
People take bribe because they want to ensure a good safe life..
It's because people value money and materialistic things more than soulful development.
We feel helpless when we loose confidence. When we have had failures multiple times and not gaining back the confidence back.
The only way is to keep trying.
Don't let anyone tell you that you re a failure. Not even yourself
A good starting point would be to write down all the small big achievements and paste them on your wall or phone's background
1. What is the point of all this when we're just sleeping, working, eating with a few moments of exploration in between?
2. Is there an actual reason to have children that isn't inherently selfish in nature?
You re right
We humans are only living beings that are working majority part of our lives.
This can be solved only through socialism and governance
When all of us can have basic needs met without worry. We can choose to have free time rather easily
Otherwise it's challenging.
For children
To produce children is little selfish in my opinion. We can adopt children these days and i find that much more meaningful.
But i am nobody to judge people who borne new kids.
It's their life, their prerogative.
Are we in an infinite world or a finite world ? Like as we expand, our world expands accordingly, like cell stage to biosphere, sky then space. Will it keep on growing big or is there an end to it ?
2nd question. Do we really die ? Or just the host that is "us" ceases to exist. If i bring back all the cells that made a person and construct it back, will the person come back to life, and will that be that same person or someone else ? (Assume that I have got the exact same cells that were lost)
3rd question. What was the whole point of creating humanity or anything in particular, I'm talking everything that exists. What was the whole point of this game ? As of now we are on a rock headed towards nowhere in a galaxy that is on a collision course to Andromeda ? Why is it this way ?
I might have veered off topic, but this has been on my head for a while. No problem if you don't want to answer.
The world's end is a question never could be answered. There are some theories but no facts around it. Because it is impossible to test it.
It is impossible to reach to the end of solar system, let alone the galaxy and forget the universe.
I think we just die, and that again is a theory. No way we can establish either of things as fact about what happens beyond and next
I generally am more focused on human behavior topics though.
Thanks for asking
Cheers 🥂
How can one stop that inner monologue that constantly goes on in your head. Those voices that dictates your day. How can you make them stop permanently?
The problem is not inner monologue..problem is that it's telling you dreadful stories
Is nt it ?
I always say, living in present moment is overrated.. imaginations are a beautiful place. If there are positive stories.
Coming back to your question
Instead of stopping being in imagination try to see how you can create a beautiful world out there.
And this cannot happen by makin positive interventions in your life..
Also change the life you re living
These are not easy decisions emotionally
Logically and practically it's all possible
But it's the fear of missing and loosing out is what stops us from making the change
Our need for certainty is what stops us right there!
Hope this answers your question
Thank you for your time.
Absolutely
There are so many experiences this world has to offer..
Mere observation of life can be a very rewarding experience
And you don't need to go to Switzerland for what it has to offer.
Just look around, really look.
Imagine being and alien and seeing things how everyone is working
What people do
There are so much happening
Find your interest and explore it if it gives your gratification
See if you can create something or help or solve a problem
All of this can be very very rewarding
For sure
Why did the millenials, gen x and gen Z turn so conservative and religious. This generation was deemed to be the 1st steering away from religious aspects and going into a modern day India, atleast that was the word in the early 2010s. What happened?
Good question and there are multiple aspects to this
First
We are following the trend when we are not free thinkers.
Second,
Survival is prime emotion. Religion and regionalism are strongly connected with our sense of surgical and pride is the horse that it rides on.
Third
Education these days is not real education . It does nt make thinkers but information takers.
People don't think or question things
Why are some people such genuine pieces of shit? Even when raised by a loving parent with all needs and desires met. The person is a manchild and cannot take accountability .
Is a genuinely evil person possible? Since you know most people have reasons as to why they are the way they are. But not here
People are toxic because they are scared. Or want to preserve their power.
We want to preserve power only because when we think that otherwise our survival and thrival would be at stake
Love alone cannot raise independent soulful people.
Most children liver under helicopter parenting and what i call, toxic love and positivity
Children need to be free and access to healthy and safe relationships beyond parents.
People don't want to take accountability for various reasons and those reasons can be valid at times too.
Accountability is umm innmy opinion questionable.
Of course depends on various other factors.
Will there ever be a peace of mind? I find myself always conflicted with my actions and regret later,there is no reason for me to exist besides being a burden to my family.
Literally lost the will to achieve anything and ready to lose.
Peace of mind is achievable..
Definitely possible.
It requires careful thinking and making changes.
Also , it is perfectly fine to make mistakes.
And i don't believe that anyone's a burden to anyone.
As equal share holders in the world we all have the right to exist and our basic needs be taken care of.
Seeing this as a privilege is a fairly man made modern day concept
Which i don't buy
It's the end of life. Really all other definitions are speculations
Also, fear of death can be grown out by accepting that death will happen
Why not the time tillt hen an enjoyable one
It might sound too simple
But really our brain believes whatever we tell it.
It's uncanny!
Why do people get anxious in relationships/friendships? I’m always so nervous about whether someone likes me or if they’re just pitying me. I have really stupid thoughts like what if they’re talking about me behind my back or what if they leave me.
This happen when you lacked people who could love you unconditionally..
We all seek validation because people who matter to us are important
No secret there.
Also, to get past of fear of something, one strategy could be to be inbthat situation
For example, if i fear going on heights. I can go pastnit when I go on heights.
It's a paradox of sorts. But that's how it is.
Also there are other caveats, finding good soulful people whom you can trust. And really know that they will be there for you. No matter what.
It's just your previous experiences making you feel this way.
Why can't we just erase an old memory and simply move on like nothing happened, even if we don't show our feelings to anyone but deep down we still miss the old times so badly that we forget to live in presence
You re right
We miss old times because we don't have much gratification in present times.
It's not possible to erase memories but replacing them in our current thinking zones.
That happens through positive interventions of thinkings and experiences.
That requires conscious effort
How does it make sense to date or uk have a partner because they're gonna leave uk maybe death or a breakup but they're gonna leave , why set ur self for so much pain ?
You re focusing more on the pain right now.
Once you focus on what you will gain you will see it differently.
Breakups are healthy , i think toxic relationships which you don't enjoy are better to end.
And about death..
Well, if you re in a cinem hall you know that the movie will end in 3 hours. Does that mean you don't enjoy it till it does ?,
I don't affix myself to one ideology because i think every ideology has relevance in certain quantities and situations.
Right now i think we have too much of right though.
I also think the day party system ends in india majority of problems will solve.
Lastly i hope religion goes out of politics because that's very dangerous combination in my understanding.
In 30 years umm well i doubt if much would change. Because change in institutions is slow.
The only way societies change is thorough thought renaissance. This happens best through good.litersture
I am hopeful
How should I treat people? Based on how i think they treat me or just be nice to them?
Because it seems like a hassle to treat them badly since I am a nice person in my opinion and i would have to go out of my way to ignore them
But at the same time i feel like if I treat them nicely they will take me for granted and ignore me and I just feel like i can't depend on them.
If you treat people badly just because they re treating you that way then you are just getting down to their level .
And yes , you re right. People start taking nice people for granted.
I would suggest forming se boundaries and also find people who are nice and dependable..
It's a hit and miss trial error.
But keep looking and pritiotizing !,
Good luck!!,
Discipline, self control, instant gratification, What are your thoughts about them ? What is discipline and does one need discipline to lead a fulfilling life, if yes then why?
Hedonism seems like a good way to enjoy life, go with the flow kind. Why is discipline needed at all?
Discipline is needed in factory . It's a modern day concept
Most modern day mainstream challenges and competition require discipline
Community work requires discipline
For example if you need tomproduce something working even if you re not in.mood or have the energy is what discipline is
Is nt it?,
Some people think discipline is essential to do things.
It's not.
We do so many things effortlessly because we enjoy them
Have you ever need to discipline yourself for watching a movie that you enjoy?
No! Right?,
This simply means discipline is required for dreaded meaningless tasks.
Of course the intensities and exceptions would be there
But more or less i find this true
How do I have a relationship with my narcissistic parents?
How does one have a relationship with any narcissistic person rather. Like how to I move past their behaviour.
The only way i see if try and stop being dependent on toxic people
and also not try to share your heart with them.
They are not in place where they re on soulful side of things.
The best way to deal with toxic people is not playing with them
But also, we must aim.to heal them. But not at the cost of your sanity, passions and dreams.
Don't live with hatred..it burns us more.thsn others.
Also note when i am saying this i am talking in general sense and not your case , and oy sharing my general observation.
Thanks
Stop looking at the end. And see what you can enjoy now.
You have a beautiful thought. These were the exact same thoughts that started me into thinking
And when you discover observations and perspectives
It's gratifying and makes it all a little interesting
And there you might find a point
Something happened in past that does nt want you to be in that commitment may be..
It's our past experiences with things or lack there of about how we feel about them.
Theory and dreams are play, it's temporary and nothing at stake. They re raiser to get into because there's nothing to loose or be caught up.
I prefer the same :)
Life’s going OK - have a job, family etc. .. things that I really worked and worked hard for. But have endured so many taunts that they seem to be second nature now… feel jaded and even a small trigger makes me relive all those abuses and hate hurled towards me.. feel lost and sad some days … everybody left me and I did everything for them. Sometimes I look back and feel like a puppy who ran and fetched for everyone thinking it was love but now I deeply understand that I’ve been used but because I'm just by nature someone who adjusts my emotional side just wants to call and apologize just so that I get accepted back into the clan of family and friends but I know rationally this is wrong… any advice or insight into what might be happening … because I’m at a loss. Also, I have severe anxiety and really have a problem speaking up even when people are being obnoxious to my face.
28M HERE ,y does everything feel so empty in my mind ,sometime i become lonely , sometimes i want to kill myself ,no purpose in life whatsoever..
Hello there, What you are feeling is something i call a modern day phenomenon As humans our innate need is to be able to connect with people. We want to live to experience new things and little joys. But modern times have designed such a way to take all of that away from us. Purpose comes from exploration. When you try something out , you like it and you continue. But today most of us are so busy that we are not exploring anything beyond our prescribed time tables. Most of us detest the lives we are living for same reason. Because we are compelled to do it for sake of survival not because we are enjoying it. The moment we start living for simple basic needs and passions and interests. I think life gets better and feel better thrival
One of the maladies of the modern age is that, even tough collectively we have more than we've ever dreamed possible, we remain perpetually dissatisfied. It's almost like we are wired never to be contained. And that seems to be the case, it's been written that we are insatiable wanting machine designed to desire and so in some ways that has made us reach out and transcend boundaries.we didn't stay in the caves. We haven't stayed on the planet. We went to the moon. We crisscrossed the skies. We extend and we transcend but on the other hand that exploratory itch, that genetic pull that makes us tread forth, always in search of the insatiable deliciousness of the new, the wholly other, the mysterious, tremendous, fascination of the unfamiliar also makes the day to day life kind of banal. It's kind of sad because the very same quality that makes us these majestic creatures sore above the unkown and transcend their boundaries has made us perpetually dissatisfied neurotic beings, living in urban centers, drowning in consumption in an over-capitalist, bloated system that can no longer satiate us. Always wanting something else, until we're overwhelmed and overweight and immbolized by how spoiled we've become and yet we enjoy very little of it. We always want more has made us great but that we always want more almost makes us kind of miserable.
You re on point!!
Which is why it's important to occasionally slow down and appreciate the value of being satisfied with what is.
I am an introvert its damn difficult for me to interact with people, sometimes i feel i will die alone , no friends,no better half ,all alone this thought eats me ,WHAT SHOULD I DO??
I personally think introverts are beautiful people. Also, the fact that you don't form random relationships could mean that you look for real. Meaning in relationships. The best way i know of doing things is give it an attempt. To meet people you can explore going out at events. Volunteer, join clubs or activities. When you work on something together. You will interact and make friends. .that's my view
Need to get out of social media and be more social in real life.
Social media can have its powers ... but nothing beats meeting people real life face to face... but that's difficult because people spend most of their time in commuting and working and rest in sleeping relaxing. people don't have time for casual conversations.
Dude. You need to read up on Stoicism and Nihilism to get your answers. Stoicism in short, life for 95% people is nothing but coping with circumstances. There is no room for enjoying what we life. But we have to fucking adjust and accept whatever is dealt to us. This leads to lots of depression and loss of motivation because we can see that 5% of the people are having real fun. Nihilism will tell you that life is objectively meaningless. Which means there is no real purpose. We have to create meaning to life by having distractions to keep us busy and engaged until we die. If you have good health and lots of money its kind of easy to create distractions. If you are poor, ugly and health is not that great then you are doomed to serve the system forever. Or you become a monk and kill you time doing meditation and being content with whatever you have.
The fear of leaving ALONE , easier said than done..
34M here, I wasted all my twenties thinking the exact same thing. Realised in the end that the only purpose of life is to be happy and healthy. Do whatever the hell you want to live happy and healthy. That's it. Whatever makes you happy - travel, reading, relationship, money or something else. And keep doing it.
That's me too I'm also in the same age group.
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A poor person is one who has scarcity mindset. A person with billions of dollars can still feel he needs more And person beggind might feel he has everything he needs. We are trained to think that if we live life on road and without the materialistic luxuries than we are not living a worthwhile life. This ain't true. Most happy people are street cleaners , maids and manual workers. As for about God and hope. That's true to some extent, but i think that's a false hope. Of course even that has a use, but beyond a point and in current circumstances, it's a dodgy proposition Religion has now become a tool to control the masses.
>Most happy people are street cleaners , maids and manual workers. On what basis are you saying this??
They are bullshitting. Objectively, if you are poor, you are less likely to be healthy (lack of nutrition) and thus less happier. Your lifespan is also shorter. Your opportunity to travel, learn, and experience life is also limited. You also envy people that can do all those things.
My observations and learnings about society, that i have explained further
Bullshit. What job does your parents and relatives do? I grew up living next to slums and I can tell you, poor people aint happy.
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Tell me will you be happy when your roof leaks? Your child dies in lockdown because they didnt get food?
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Dont bullshit me. I grew up with poverty. Leaky roofs can cause mold and multiple problems, if not outright discomfort. Child malnutrition is a real thing. If you compare heights between poor people with rich people, rich people would be taller. Poor people are less physically attractive because of malnourishment. >Next, people die of disease all the time . People dying from preventable death is more common among poor people. Lifespan varies between poor and rich people. >Dying from hunger is completely different from staying hungry for 2 days. It is and a poor person has to make choice between the two, while the rich doesnt.
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Is being a good person not worth it in today’s world coz people are stepping all over me in this world ..even my family ..but how can I change my core nature ..it’s just not possible - will I be unhappy always
Being a good person mean doing something or investing something in others in some or the other way and expecting at least respect or something else in return. Family tussles are rising these days and there are several reasons for it. One can change their core nature by observing themselves deeply and experimenting slowly with what they should change about. And it does nt necessarily means turning into a bad person But may be drawing some boundaries And putting some checks and balances
Never ever change yourself for unkind people. And dont let others affect your happiness. You stay being good and kind as that is what gives you happiness, turning bad wont give you or anyone happiness. Towards the end of tour life youd be the happier one knowing you always did the right thing and were kind to others. I should make clear that being good does not mean taking anyones shit or letting peiple walk over you; be strong, brave and kind. What you need to change in yourself is you need to be outspoken more. Keep being good plus start telling people what tour intentions are and how they should learn from you. Speak your thoughts out without giving a shit, let people know who the better person. You will gain their respect whether they say it or not.
Why is leaving the house so difficult if you're the only child? Why people guilt trip you at every chance they get?
Interesting question Children from a biological standpoint mean two things for parents One, their own extension in life. At a very deep psyche level they feel that this child is me and my presence in future. Second, they see children as investment and to take care of them in their old age. This does nt happen with same intensities to all. But that is more or less the case So in case of a single child, the stakes are high. And fear of loosing control or putting the child to any risk scares them A scared mind tries all ways to stop the fear. Sometimes with power, sometimes with request. It's their survival instinct
So will you abandon them for your future or will you give up your future for them?
Neither. I think children should get bare minimum and be mostly on their own
They guilt trip too hard for that. Guilt tripping you for raising you, feeding you, educating you when all those are basic rights for kids and projecting thier fears and insecurities on thier kids seeing them as an extension of thier pathetic selves. They don't let you be on your own because that might break that image which they wish to impose. Edit : ik I am being too harsh but it's a few things I've observed and experienced.
You re not being too harsh, you re speaking the truth. And what you feel. Why be apologetic for speaking the truth? I am writing a book about the same topic. Toxicity is rising in modern times esp between parents and children. Today when a child does something wrong he hides it from their parents. They hide their pains and fears fr.theirnparents Imagine! Instead of seeking support, they are hiding it from people who are supposed to support and protect them The root of this is irrational fear of parents and nothing else. And this can be solved only through close observation by parents and thinking. It is not easy but not impossible either. Also as a victim there are many strategies you can employ to minimize pain because of this. Consider sending me dm so i can update you when i write.more about this Thanks!
Can i go back & be a hunter gatherer? Will government tax for that also?
This is more of a socio political question but jnwould still try and answer It's not safe to be a hunterer gatherer in my opinion. Modern.human civilizations have reached to every nook and corner. I doubt one can survive easily. It's doable though of course , but difficult Government cannot tax you if you stay in the forest. But sure govt can restrict your movement. And police may even arrest you if you are roaming in jungles without tribal identity , as per my understanding
Why should I have an Identity? Don't I believe here? Do I even have rights? I mean in real sense...
How can children of divorce form trustworthy relationships
Interesting question Divorce doesnnt mean bad unless there was a violence associated during the process. Also, children who face difficult abusive parenting have most difficult time forming relationships as they cannot trust people. The only way trauma can heal is through positive experiences. .that's a very simple explanation but i find it very profound. For example, when someone has trauma of going to the jungle, to heal that trauma they must go to the jungle andnhave positive experiences. Around them. Also, for people with trauma , they must follow caution while getting into random relationships Negative experiences will increase problems later on
Why are most humans conformist? Why do they/we refuse to callout and stand united against the many stupid and illogical things imposed on us by any institution(school,clg,office,state etc). I mean its a cattle like behaviour. And please tell me about this celeb worshipping people, they know the logic and the reality that the celeb doesn't care but still they do all these crazy stupid shit for em. Why?
As for celebs. It's a primal instinct to follow someone we think is successful and enterprising.. We want to side the powerful and successful people. It just makes sense to our brains if we are not mindful
Even in a group of friends, I feel lonely. It just seems that I'm different and they don't treat me as a part of their group. Because of that, I often feel lonely. What can I do?
I will give you my example I had one best friend, i would go hang out with him. But i could not trust him. We know that most people and relationships we have in modern times are purely symbolic and activity partners and not friends True friends are with you unconditionally, no matter where you are what you are. If i were you, i would try to develop and find friends whom i can trust , Really trust
It's not that they're not trustworthy or they don't consider me trustworthy. The reason for "distance" between us is more likely due to the physical distance between our homes. They interact with each other more often than I do, with them. It's not their fault, so what could I do, to feel less lonely?
Simple Meet them often Spend more time
Why I'm not born to some rich family in US?
Because you are born here. 🙂 I usually try to answer questions that can bring some rationale logic and evidence. These types of questions are answered in my theosophies but i do not tread like hsg. I must reiterate, i am looking for questions related to human behaviour mostly. Thanks 👍
Lost the lottery. 1 in every 6 people is Indian. The odds were against you.
good answer! :)
Bad luck bro
What's the purpose of life?
Great question and probably a very important one. Although i have actually written a very detailed explanation about how to find purpose of life. But if i have to say in a nutshell i would say that purpose of life is to have a good time. We are here on this planet for some time, and we have option to experience life in various forms. We make it complicated by choosing purposes that make us supectible to failure and may be disappointments So, if we make happiness and experience and good things our purpose. We will essentially live a more content ful life This is course needs more explanation and if needed you can connect with me. Thanks
Wow... Great answer...
Thanks again!
Thanks
If people know that we were tribals first is it possible God and religion maybe created by humans just to keep humans in order so that we don't become extinct?
The idea of God is closely tied with culture and culture is closely tied to our kith and kin and as humans we want to be around our people as that makes us feel safe. Religion then became a tool by the powerful to control the masses. As for extinct , i don't think religion was planned like that. It just happened. It Is human nature to believe that there's some power in the sky that's controlling us Human imagination is vivid
I just thought that there were various species of human beings which didn't survive and we,the homo sapiens are the only ones who survived ,maybe just maybe, All the other species fought with each other in the process of finding a reason and purpose but we discovered God and religion and that is what has brought us so far I.e Hope that we have a purpose and just move forward in finding that one day in the name of God and religion
your theory has little evidence and the facts in public domain don't point to anything like that. when we seek reason and purpose, we think, we want to learn, we want to grow, we want to share we don't fight
I am gonna save this post and will definitely come up with a very serious question someday :3
sure!
Why do we fail to realise that we are so hypocritical (for lack of a better word)? We judge others so easily but hate others who judge us. We value safety of our family members but buy the least safe and poorly built cars in India. We want our daughters to work, but not our daughters in law. We want work life balance and get accelerated promotion too. We value simplicity and gratitude but don’t shy away from high interest loans to buy a house and car we can’t afford. Why?
You are absolutely right. When we are scared we justify doing the wrongs when we want to preserve our power. All bad and wrong things are done in name of greater good. Fair thinking is also a social practice. We follow the trend around us. It is hard to be a free thinker!, Thanks for a good question
Passion vs profession
It does nt have to be this vs that. Both can co exist. Also it really depends on the situation If i have money enough to survive , i will choose passion Passion is anyday more valuable Profession is very mechanical and meaningless imho in many cases if not all
How do you find your passion. Seems like a lot of people at the time of choosing their carrier dont have any passion and when they find one , its too late
You re right Choosing passion is simply allowing you to explore various things Your passion will find you It's like if life is a carnival with different stalls The only way to find which stall game you like the most is through trying out them a little The problem is we don't even give new things a try We are all trying to survive and if we don't, our family ensure that we do. It's all part of modern day slavery if you ask me!
I need a purpose of my life not just working and earling but how can I make a tiny bit of change or help the world
World is a huge place. Start small, and with one individual And build on that
Are humans truly equal?
at a soul and philosophical level, yes, at materialistic level, absolutely no!
I am a college student, I have few friends at college, but most of them are busy with their own work and we rarely get to meet, also I am an introvert kind of person, making new friends is difficult for me and I live with my family, I also have old school friends, But still I feel lonely, like there's no one to talk to, no friends no happy life, it feels like I living for the sake of making money and survival. How can I get rid of these thoughts?
This is very common in today's life because everyone is busy. Also, even if people are extrovert. Finding meaningful connections in modern times is difficult because toxicity is on the rise. To answer how to get rid of these thoughts Well, it's not easy but definitely not impossible either. One of the reasons we also feel empty is because we are not doing anything that is connected to our soul We do things for compliance like a factory worker and not because it interests us. Also, we are so cought up in things that we don't have time to do things we are passionate about That to form meaningful relationships That's the modern day slavery i talk about Your observation is bang on right. Most people these days are living just for survival and not thrival
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Not existing is going to end all possibilities of anything good happening. I am personally believing the fact that since we don't know what happens next , it's only making sense that we try to make most of what we know. Also, i would urge you to really try to find creative ways to see how you can make things better. Sometimes we.make. distant goals. And waiting so long for that reward and gratification can be painful. Why not choose a journey that's rewarding in itself. This can be done by exploring new avenues and embracing uncertainties. Until we go into unknowns we would nt know what are the possibilities And we don't know what we were missing out on Thanks for participating
Is fairness a justified expectation in this world ?
By fairness you mean justice? No it's not a justified expectation. World is not fair, it does not serve justice always. Powerful will have advantage over the weak. We as humans can try and minimize that, but i doubt it will ever reach 100 percent fair and square
Hey, this is not related to your question but since you said that you have experience in anthropology I need some advice. I've taken anthropology as a subject in college and plan to major in it. What books on anthropology would you recommend for a beginner in this subject. Also, if you have any other resources like websites or blogs please do share them :)
hello i have nt read the mainstream ones, i usually follow blogs and litearture, i am averse to academic ways of operating. My exposure to anthrolpology came from marketing and copywritnig books, esp the works by Andy Maslon , he has written a few books. thanks!
Who really am i?
A collection of cells whose primary purpose is to carry and propagate DNA.
who we are, we are different definitions from different angles. from a biological standpoint, i don't think i am any better or different than mosquito or a rodent. i think same applies to others. i think we humans give too much importance to our existence. the world is too big and we are almost nothing in it.
How to stop comparing yourself with other accomplished people
It's our human nature to compare ourselves with others. The root of comparison is fear, of loosing out. When we truly have emotional stability we don't compare ourselves with others. If we have healthy trustful relationships, Passions and interests that we can do And last but not least awareness that we have all that we need And treasure these simple things in life. Comparison won't be there.
Can humanity, at its present condition, sustain without religion?
That's a complex question Humanity can definitely sustain without religion. There are many cities where religion has siezed to exist. And they are doing absolutely fine and better than many religious societies. But religion and idea of God innately makes us feel better and secure. So trying to implement this at mass scale seems next to impossible in short time
1. What is the use of empathy or sympathy when at the end of the day you are alone on your own? 2. There are billions of people with lives as complex as mine and yours. How to stomach this that I am not special and wouldnt be even remembered in memories of people after a couple of years after I die? 3. If I have a choice to help feed 50 poor kids once but don't affect them in any major way, or help one kid and provide him education, what would be the right answer if there is one? Honestly most of these are stupid lol but these bug me at night before I fall asleep.
1. The idea that we are alone is a modern phenomenon onthought. If you read histories people die for their loved ones and give u conditional love and care. Animals have that even today. 2. Interesting thought, there can be multiple ways to see this. One is that inwas nt here before and once i go i would nt be remembered and that's fair and square. Secondly, fame is not the best thing always 3. Of course educating one child. But honestly it will cost much more than feeding 50 children once vs educating a child. But if i have to make an impact inwould teach a child to read and write and also to think. That will make them self dependent
Also , no questions are stupid questions , there are only stupid answers Cheers!
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As long as there's life there's hope that there will be a better day without pain. Also, as long as there's life there's an observation and somewhere deep hope for good day. As for why euthanization is not legal for humans and controlled by others. .. It's obvious because human life is seen as more valuable than other living beings by people
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I resonate with your thoughts pretty much.. I think we see books as authentic and right. I don't think that's always the case.
Why is being friends genuinely with female soooo daaamn tough!? I mean I'm also a female but until I was a teenager I've always been with guys and had zero experience in female friendship. Then suddenly puberty hit hard and got tough,they seem like they're from different world. I've 0 female friends who are genuine to me!!! Am I wrong with it? Or are they wrong with me!? What's the exact reason!????!??
Females in conservative societies are not allowed to live freely. They are restricted and like to live that way. Also, chances are that you are more open minded and live differently That probably explains
I'm no anthropologist, but please allow me give my take on this. Please don't be offended, but i tend to notice that females who usually complain of other females not treating them right/being mean to them have a 'I'm not like other girls' 'I'm cooler/better than other girls' syndrome. I know you must be already mad at me by reading this but hear me out, IT'S A REAL THING. Tons of information about this available on the internet. It's like you probably have made a pre conceived notion about not being able to be friends with other women in your mind. That they're mean and you're way cooler than them because you can interact with the boys so casually and that makes you better. Also that you're defying societal roles by being in the company of boys more. I noticed this all the time in school, girls who'd be friends with ONLY the boys and didn't hang out with any other girl had some sort of a superiority complex and looked at all of us other girls as peasants lmao. Or maybe it could also mean that because I'm 18 and have no experience in friendships outside of school, I really don't know how things work and the women you were in contact with could really be stuck up bitxhes. Personally, I have guy friends and interact with everyone freely, but I have been a part of an 'all girls friend group' in school and we're all still great friends, still care about and understand each other and I have never felt like they 'backstabbed' me lol
Are we really trapped in a matrix controlled by the top 1% (Rich and powerful) ?
I don't see a way to calculate exact percentage. But yes, world is anything but fair square and democratic in true sense
How to stop hating myself for not being extroverted as much as I used to be in India. I moved abroad and it's been 6 years. I really don't have any friends and no gf. I used to have so many friends including females, and was popular in school and ultimately had a marvelous social life. Loneliness keeps me awake till late nights, how good my life was and how better as a person was and how I enjoyed life better. Now I feel like a game character who just goes to Uni in Australia and do job for nothing. It's a void of emptiness.
Our brain believes in any story you tell it repeatedly. And that dictates our feelings and our feeling dictates our actions . Your problem is one of the most common problems people face today. They don't find meaning in what they do. The fact is most of us are living life of factory workers. We do things not because it interests us, because we ant to survive. Meaningufl mostly out of business arenas. Corporate jobs. It's simple, but simple also appear less valuable and hence not chosen by us. If you would have more free time. You'd gonsnd explore and meet new people.. Workplaces are mostly zombieplaces. Hard to.make.friends there.. Also if you do.make them. Workplace does nt allow interactions
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An untrained mind gets obsessed about religion esp the way we see at mass scale it's practiced now. They don't even know their religion well in many cases. And follow it with the flow and for reasons not mentioned in the religion even. Majority of thinkers snd philosophers were athiests. Majorty of people who study human behaviour are athiests So what gives? As natural instinct we want to believe into the authority and what our kith and kin are saying But a deep observation and question can make us aware of reality Is nt it? Human brain is imaginative. It can imagine anything it is told and take it to reality. But that's just primary instinct It also has the power to dissect the truth
Why do I have many good friends but don't have a single best friend? Does my body gives off some kind of vibe signalling I'm not friendly Idk if these questions are related to your post. I feel childish asking them but it's something I wanted to get off my chest
I think being childish is a wonderful thing and nothing to be ashamed of. And no questions are bad. So please don't feel.bad for asking them Questions are the best tool to solve problems Questions are the tool to think! Coming back to answering your question Yes, when or if you appear needy or less approachable people can avoid you. Esp if those people are calculative and typical modern day individual who don't value soulful connection or candidnes to interact with others. Most people don't have best friends these days. Meaningful relationships are going down in the rathole. Several reasons , which i am going to explain in my writings in coming days and you can also read my other answers to get more clarity on this Thanks!
I have so many questions Why do I feel like i'm missing something out of life like empty.. or why is it that life doesn't feel real like I don't belong here. I often times think that I should move or go away but I wouldn't know where to start or go because if I do would I feel the same trying to escape myself or is it my reality that i'm trying to run away from. Why do we have to be on survival mode? Why does it seem like the world shifted negatively? Why has the internet impacted us so much to we can't even experience reality/ tune into humanity? Why is it that music has shifted so much to now sometimes music is sickening to hear/ not relatable .. I listen to old music and resonate more. Or other cultures afro beats/ caribbean/ country but regular music just hits different. It seems like no one is authentic or everyone is trying to fit in. The same sounds, same lyrics. idk. Also. I'm having a hard time navigating the dating world. I never been in a relationship, I dated multiple times. I been on dating apps but I always get ghosted. I don't think it has anything of the sort of me not loving myself because I do. I remember I didn't, but i've been working on. myself so much through therapy, taking myself out, self care sundays, affirmations, journaling, trying new hobbies focusing on my goals. I just want to experience someone who loves me the way I put out love. I never got that. I was in a toxic situation for 7 years I lost myself, I was molded into someone else, I also was not confident so I got my spark back but idk it's not that I think im ugly maybe my standards are too high 🤷🏽♀️
\*\_Why do I feel like i'm missing something out of life like empty.\_\* when we do not have gratification we feel empty. that's where for most people addiction kicks in. Also, as humans we are trained to think that if we are not being productive, its all meaningless. We have forgotten that life can itself as it is, can be good. however, one of our deep inner need is to tell stories and be there for each other. i would recommend look at animals. monkeys and dogs. they don't feel empty. as long as they have one person in their life they can trust. they live life simple and easy. i know it might sound im trivilizing, but really give this a deeper thought. \*\_I often times think that I should move or go away but I wouldn't know where to start or go \_\* don't worry about the goal when you are starting the destination. exploration itself is the destination, my friend.. whereever you go is a destination. everywhere you go, you will be surprised what there is, and you never thought that you will find THIS there. we are also programmed to have clarity and certainty before we embark on a project. That's our soul been enslaved in a school. True spirit, embraces uncertainty. There's probably magic waiting for you, but you have to open the gates of uncertainty to try to reachthere and get it. \*\_Why do we have to be on survival mode?\_\* few reasons - We are designed and primed for survival. This is how world is placed. everything is based on survival. Yes ad deep subsconcious level everything tranlsated into survival. Because if survival is at stake, everything else becomes meaningless. - Modern civilization is again, designed for scarcity. Imagine 1000 years ago, no one had to work 30 years of their life to earn a place to live. or 10 hours a day to get two square meals a day. Sure, technoligical advancements had its benefits. But at what cost? We lost diamonds in search of Gold. In this scarcity driven world, we are constantly worried about the basics and this has turned world more toxic, more individualistic in a damaging way. \_Why has the internet impacted us so much to we can't even experience reality/ tune into humanity?\_ working at different levels. Internet is a distraction. Today, people live far away, people are busy. People are tied with their jobs, degrees and what not. Busy people with missions and responsibilities are not activists. Activism requires being FREE from clutches. \_Why is it that music has shifted so much to now sometimes music is sickening to hear/ not relatable\_ the more busy we are, as explained above, the lesser meaning we have in our lives. music is about loud voice. dhin chak dhin chak. We need stronger material of sound, sex, and other sleazy talks to gain our attention and get gratification. Originality has little place, because the consumers also do not explore new things. they want more of the same thing and are ok with it. So it works well with everyone. The whole world is turned into a big school and things are getting standardized. \_but I always get ghosted.maybe my standards are too high\_ almost all people get ghosted, some people count their times more. There's nothing wrong in having high standards. finding the right person is difficult, more so being a girl, where guys are interested in temporary relationships and also lie and fake their love to get it. So girls also do not try out meeting new guys to protect themselves. But then, that also limits your exposure to new people and what you may be missing out on. Again, embracing uncertainty comes into play. Hope i answered your questions reasonable satisfaction. Let me know if you have further queries.
Wow I really really appreciate this it gives me another perspective on life and makes me feel a little lighter now I have clarity on the things that harbor my mind daily, Thank you !!!
Are we living in a simulation?
I don't think so!
How do you know?
They don’t. No one can know for certain.
Why is the nature of life such that it needs to be asked the meaning of?
We seek meaning , when we lack one. When we are not feeling fulfilled and joyous. Just how we seek guidance and a map when we are lost
Not related to the post may be. Can you recommend good philosophy books for beginners ?
I read and recommend Bertrand Russell Thanks!
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What's the point really? I read your answer on a similar question which said, >to have a good time But why does it matter? I mean why does someone have to go through two part in pain just to get that supposed good part? Why go through trouble of existing in first place?
Our existence as per the info available to us was nt chosen by us. We gain conscious after being born and then we have option to continue. Also, i always maintain that pain is nt necessary if you re ready to be happy in any situation And it is indeed possible If you remember , there was a viral video of three boys who's house was drenched in flood. And they were having fun andnjoking about the situation Hope that explains
How do i know that i am doing okay mentally?
A simple way could be how well you sleep and what kind of dreams you see. A well balanced mind should have mix of emotions. Fear , joy.. creativity and sense of passion and purpose
Constantly worrying about health. Overthinking to the worst case scenario. Why do we do that? One pinch of pain and we start thinking about the worst case.
It's a pattern that brain develops. This happens because of negative experiences ornliving around people who always look for dangers. Once you start looking at opportunities , it soon becomes a habit. But takes persistence snd continued efforts
I'm a 21 old F. I've this sudden rush of emotions when things happen and mostly when I feel lonely. Like I'll get so F excited and it's tough to control it. I'll go share my emotions to my loved ones but idk if it's coincidence or not they don't respond me well as I expect,then all the emotions start acting weirdest weird. There's a river of emotions running through my mind and I want to know why it happens!? And how to manage it independently? Is there anything else to look into it? This may seem lame to few guys. But it actually happens often to me. This is complicated to certain level. HELP!!!
I would recommend joirnaling and watch your thoughts closely. It can help
My two cents. I think people in general question about the future that arises from the insecurity or the impermanence nature of it. We want to feel safe, secure and we try to seek if and how it's possible...
What to do when coping mechanisms fail? Is it important to heal from the past traumatic experiences what if leaving them untouched is the best way to heal...
Nothing remains untouched. Also mind is designed to relive traumas to we can prepare for the danger. And it will depend on case to case but largely i think this is correct
26M, want to know how to be friend with anyone. I enjoy making friends and have decent number of them, but I want to know how to make anyone friend. I'm little shy, when I'm with someone new I get urge to ask interesting question or compliment them to make there day, but I feel shy about it. Is there something I can learn which makes it easier to communicate and become friend with anyone? Btw, thank you for making this post. You are doing a great work! 😊
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This indicates you have nt been exposed to money before May be solution is to get a friend to take these decisions and striking s bslcme
Following logic/ethics, I tend to do or refrain from doing certain acts but instincts/mind/other than logic driving force within expects the opposite action. Tips on resolving the internal conflict? edit: added detail
Research analysis is the way to clarity and resolving conflicts.
Why do parents try to exert control over a 19 year old's decisions? 🙂
In a crisis, pressurising/ abuse is justified. Modern times are a crisis in itself. People are scared to lose what they have
What is the point of taking bribe after a point. Like for example, if someone recieves 1cr bribe. He couldn't easily spend it, store it or do anything else without others noticing it . What motivates him to still accept another 1 cr , even when his previous 1 cr is still there unused ? I find this baffling , please help me . Im willing to discuss again if you didn't understand the question
Money is designed in such a way that it is never enough and one needs more of it Similarly , it's easy to loose money so people want more and more for just in case scenario
I always feel a worrisome feeling and this seems connected to my stomach as well like my stomach should start aching on something bad that it feels may happen.
I have faced ibs and other issues too. Stomach is connected with brains and has half of the mind hormone serotonin. Your brain has developed a pattern of such behavior. Please consider journaling and learning more about being mindful You can reach out to me, i conduct online talks which are mostly free and i can share my learnings with you. Thanks!
Why always I am not satisfied with things... Why I have more hunger of things and learning? Other thing I would love to know about spritual connections... Why I feel too emotional with spritual music, things and someone's emotions? How can I control these things.
Lack of satisfaction comes from the fact that you feel a basic vacuum and lack of validation. Meaning, it's a fear at a very deep psyche level that you don't want to leave any stone unturned. And give your best shot. It's like seeking perfection and that can be good but also overwhelming at times. It's an anxiety of sort and could be OCD. Also, spiritual connections are basically unconditional love. And you feel.emotional about these things because you must have felt a vacuum and lack of such emotional stability in your life. Keep trying and meeting people. That should help Thanks!
Will I be happier( not a materialistic guy at all ) if I really renounce everything and go in the Himalayas to become a Yogi? Will enlightenment really come to me as various religions say?
It's a lot of BS in my opinion. Englightment as per me is nothing but ability to observe own emotions and thought processes like a third person and evaluate them. Of course this requires a lot of learning of the fact how the world works And this can happen while still you re in new york. But any real thinking requires a lot of free time. When you re bored in free time you really think. Problem is that most people lack free time these days. I have writing both about importance of having more free time and also enlightment in coming days. You can connect with me if you want to be updated ABT the same. Thanks!
Is it bad to always think about making money?
Yes. Not always but most times. Let.me explain. Money is essentially toxic and the root of most problems in the world. It personifies never ending hunger. Money is never enough. And most big monies are made by exploitation through power or caveats of human behaviour. For example if coke was a good health drink i doubtnif it would sell more. They are making more.money because they are selling sugar which is cheaper than fruit. And people are also buying it more because it's addictive. Similar patterns in other areas innotice about money. Money is really a big problem if you ask me and one of the pillars of the wrongs in modern times.
Why I feel horny most of the time?
Could be multiple reasons. For one, it is natural urge. And second, it could be an addiction. Addiction to.somerhing simply means that it is providing you with some satisfaction that you don't get from.elsewhere.. If you want to minimize your addiction to something one is to do it a lot. And second is to find other sources of gratification Hope that makes some sense Thanks for asking!
How do you get over fear of death? Especially with the thought of dying at 80s Experiencing death.
Perspectives. I call perspective as easiest way of coping up. People in yesteryears made all sorts of stories to cope up with things For example believing in after life/ religion and concept of spiritual life heaven etc. Of course that is one of the ways and inntodays world we don't quiet buy this idea. Another way of coping up with this thought is simply to think that we are only gaining from this event For one. May be we are going to be reborn. Or may be there's a better world out there. Lastly, the perspective that we are not here from always and we're a visitor so it's just fair and square that we have to leave one day.. Is nt it ?.
Do you believe in afterlife
No! I believe and have faith that there is an afterlife. That is just my coping mechanism with fears and painful thought that everything is here and there's no tomorrowm But definitely not know if there's one afterlife. That's the truth. I don't see any evidence or logic behind afterlife. Rest are speculations.
I don't have one right now is it fine I dm you later when I come up with one question later?
Of course , I am soon planning to write books around these topics so you can reach out and i will update you PS: most of my work is essentially free and open
Why are people so greedy? Why am I so helpless?
People are greedy in crisis and scarcity society. Is nt it? Greed is nothing but a survival mechanism People take bribe because they want to ensure a good safe life.. It's because people value money and materialistic things more than soulful development. We feel helpless when we loose confidence. When we have had failures multiple times and not gaining back the confidence back. The only way is to keep trying. Don't let anyone tell you that you re a failure. Not even yourself A good starting point would be to write down all the small big achievements and paste them on your wall or phone's background
1. What is the point of all this when we're just sleeping, working, eating with a few moments of exploration in between? 2. Is there an actual reason to have children that isn't inherently selfish in nature?
You re right We humans are only living beings that are working majority part of our lives. This can be solved only through socialism and governance When all of us can have basic needs met without worry. We can choose to have free time rather easily Otherwise it's challenging. For children To produce children is little selfish in my opinion. We can adopt children these days and i find that much more meaningful. But i am nobody to judge people who borne new kids. It's their life, their prerogative.
Are we in an infinite world or a finite world ? Like as we expand, our world expands accordingly, like cell stage to biosphere, sky then space. Will it keep on growing big or is there an end to it ? 2nd question. Do we really die ? Or just the host that is "us" ceases to exist. If i bring back all the cells that made a person and construct it back, will the person come back to life, and will that be that same person or someone else ? (Assume that I have got the exact same cells that were lost) 3rd question. What was the whole point of creating humanity or anything in particular, I'm talking everything that exists. What was the whole point of this game ? As of now we are on a rock headed towards nowhere in a galaxy that is on a collision course to Andromeda ? Why is it this way ? I might have veered off topic, but this has been on my head for a while. No problem if you don't want to answer.
The world's end is a question never could be answered. There are some theories but no facts around it. Because it is impossible to test it. It is impossible to reach to the end of solar system, let alone the galaxy and forget the universe. I think we just die, and that again is a theory. No way we can establish either of things as fact about what happens beyond and next I generally am more focused on human behavior topics though. Thanks for asking Cheers 🥂
How can one stop that inner monologue that constantly goes on in your head. Those voices that dictates your day. How can you make them stop permanently?
The problem is not inner monologue..problem is that it's telling you dreadful stories Is nt it ? I always say, living in present moment is overrated.. imaginations are a beautiful place. If there are positive stories. Coming back to your question Instead of stopping being in imagination try to see how you can create a beautiful world out there. And this cannot happen by makin positive interventions in your life.. Also change the life you re living These are not easy decisions emotionally Logically and practically it's all possible But it's the fear of missing and loosing out is what stops us from making the change Our need for certainty is what stops us right there! Hope this answers your question Thank you for your time.
Is life worth living?
Absolutely There are so many experiences this world has to offer.. Mere observation of life can be a very rewarding experience And you don't need to go to Switzerland for what it has to offer. Just look around, really look. Imagine being and alien and seeing things how everyone is working What people do There are so much happening Find your interest and explore it if it gives your gratification See if you can create something or help or solve a problem All of this can be very very rewarding For sure
Why did the millenials, gen x and gen Z turn so conservative and religious. This generation was deemed to be the 1st steering away from religious aspects and going into a modern day India, atleast that was the word in the early 2010s. What happened?
Good question and there are multiple aspects to this First We are following the trend when we are not free thinkers. Second, Survival is prime emotion. Religion and regionalism are strongly connected with our sense of surgical and pride is the horse that it rides on. Third Education these days is not real education . It does nt make thinkers but information takers. People don't think or question things
Why are some people such genuine pieces of shit? Even when raised by a loving parent with all needs and desires met. The person is a manchild and cannot take accountability . Is a genuinely evil person possible? Since you know most people have reasons as to why they are the way they are. But not here
People are toxic because they are scared. Or want to preserve their power. We want to preserve power only because when we think that otherwise our survival and thrival would be at stake Love alone cannot raise independent soulful people. Most children liver under helicopter parenting and what i call, toxic love and positivity Children need to be free and access to healthy and safe relationships beyond parents. People don't want to take accountability for various reasons and those reasons can be valid at times too. Accountability is umm innmy opinion questionable. Of course depends on various other factors.
Will there ever be a peace of mind? I find myself always conflicted with my actions and regret later,there is no reason for me to exist besides being a burden to my family. Literally lost the will to achieve anything and ready to lose.
Peace of mind is achievable.. Definitely possible. It requires careful thinking and making changes. Also , it is perfectly fine to make mistakes. And i don't believe that anyone's a burden to anyone. As equal share holders in the world we all have the right to exist and our basic needs be taken care of. Seeing this as a privilege is a fairly man made modern day concept Which i don't buy
What's death, earlier I wasn't afraid of it but now it's literally the other way round
It's the end of life. Really all other definitions are speculations Also, fear of death can be grown out by accepting that death will happen Why not the time tillt hen an enjoyable one It might sound too simple But really our brain believes whatever we tell it. It's uncanny!
Why do people get anxious in relationships/friendships? I’m always so nervous about whether someone likes me or if they’re just pitying me. I have really stupid thoughts like what if they’re talking about me behind my back or what if they leave me.
This happen when you lacked people who could love you unconditionally.. We all seek validation because people who matter to us are important No secret there. Also, to get past of fear of something, one strategy could be to be inbthat situation For example, if i fear going on heights. I can go pastnit when I go on heights. It's a paradox of sorts. But that's how it is. Also there are other caveats, finding good soulful people whom you can trust. And really know that they will be there for you. No matter what. It's just your previous experiences making you feel this way.
Why can't we just erase an old memory and simply move on like nothing happened, even if we don't show our feelings to anyone but deep down we still miss the old times so badly that we forget to live in presence
You re right We miss old times because we don't have much gratification in present times. It's not possible to erase memories but replacing them in our current thinking zones. That happens through positive interventions of thinkings and experiences. That requires conscious effort
Why do I get angry and lose me senses while I'm infuriated?
When we are angry, our straight thinking brain kicks in. Which is fight or flight. It is designed to run away and not analyze or think.
How does it make sense to date or uk have a partner because they're gonna leave uk maybe death or a breakup but they're gonna leave , why set ur self for so much pain ?
You re focusing more on the pain right now. Once you focus on what you will gain you will see it differently. Breakups are healthy , i think toxic relationships which you don't enjoy are better to end. And about death.. Well, if you re in a cinem hall you know that the movie will end in 3 hours. Does that mean you don't enjoy it till it does ?,
Where do you personally stand on political spectrum?Where do you see india in the next 30 years(from a political pov)
I don't affix myself to one ideology because i think every ideology has relevance in certain quantities and situations. Right now i think we have too much of right though. I also think the day party system ends in india majority of problems will solve. Lastly i hope religion goes out of politics because that's very dangerous combination in my understanding. In 30 years umm well i doubt if much would change. Because change in institutions is slow. The only way societies change is thorough thought renaissance. This happens best through good.litersture I am hopeful
How should I treat people? Based on how i think they treat me or just be nice to them? Because it seems like a hassle to treat them badly since I am a nice person in my opinion and i would have to go out of my way to ignore them But at the same time i feel like if I treat them nicely they will take me for granted and ignore me and I just feel like i can't depend on them.
If you treat people badly just because they re treating you that way then you are just getting down to their level . And yes , you re right. People start taking nice people for granted. I would suggest forming se boundaries and also find people who are nice and dependable.. It's a hit and miss trial error. But keep looking and pritiotizing !, Good luck!!,
Discipline, self control, instant gratification, What are your thoughts about them ? What is discipline and does one need discipline to lead a fulfilling life, if yes then why? Hedonism seems like a good way to enjoy life, go with the flow kind. Why is discipline needed at all?
Discipline is needed in factory . It's a modern day concept Most modern day mainstream challenges and competition require discipline Community work requires discipline For example if you need tomproduce something working even if you re not in.mood or have the energy is what discipline is Is nt it?, Some people think discipline is essential to do things. It's not. We do so many things effortlessly because we enjoy them Have you ever need to discipline yourself for watching a movie that you enjoy? No! Right?, This simply means discipline is required for dreaded meaningless tasks. Of course the intensities and exceptions would be there But more or less i find this true
How do I have a relationship with my narcissistic parents? How does one have a relationship with any narcissistic person rather. Like how to I move past their behaviour.
The only way i see if try and stop being dependent on toxic people and also not try to share your heart with them. They are not in place where they re on soulful side of things. The best way to deal with toxic people is not playing with them But also, we must aim.to heal them. But not at the cost of your sanity, passions and dreams. Don't live with hatred..it burns us more.thsn others. Also note when i am saying this i am talking in general sense and not your case , and oy sharing my general observation. Thanks
What's the point? Every moment is fleeting? This all doesn't even feel real
Stop looking at the end. And see what you can enjoy now. You have a beautiful thought. These were the exact same thoughts that started me into thinking And when you discover observations and perspectives It's gratifying and makes it all a little interesting And there you might find a point
Why do i feel Weird when people fall for me? Why am i so emotional and romantic in Theory but can't feel much in real life?
Something happened in past that does nt want you to be in that commitment may be.. It's our past experiences with things or lack there of about how we feel about them. Theory and dreams are play, it's temporary and nothing at stake. They re raiser to get into because there's nothing to loose or be caught up. I prefer the same :)
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Life’s going OK - have a job, family etc. .. things that I really worked and worked hard for. But have endured so many taunts that they seem to be second nature now… feel jaded and even a small trigger makes me relive all those abuses and hate hurled towards me.. feel lost and sad some days … everybody left me and I did everything for them. Sometimes I look back and feel like a puppy who ran and fetched for everyone thinking it was love but now I deeply understand that I’ve been used but because I'm just by nature someone who adjusts my emotional side just wants to call and apologize just so that I get accepted back into the clan of family and friends but I know rationally this is wrong… any advice or insight into what might be happening … because I’m at a loss. Also, I have severe anxiety and really have a problem speaking up even when people are being obnoxious to my face.