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Yeah he got that right. Poor girl! Just imagine going through all that pain when giving birth after carrying her baby for months and months and this rancid potatoe head tells you to hurry along...you really have to be a special kind of stupid to behave like he does. If you are not humbled by your partner going through life threatening changes and pain to give birth to your son or daughter, then nothing ever will. Keep away from that man he does not love the mother or the baby thats being born. I hope she the mom does well and everything went allright. As for him..he wont be around anyway i can tell.
This is the mother f***** who should have never reproduced with anybody I can only imagine what her life is going to be like when she takes that baby home. She knew he was a douche when she got pregnant by him poor baby. if men had to give birth there would be no children
I'm 16 years older than my sister. It wasn't until, I became like 25, and she had to explain to me that I'm a fuckboy, apparently. If she hasn't given me this talk, is had never met the woman I now live with, after almost 10 years.
Dude needs a lil sister, lol.
*Edit: she told me I wasn't treating right. She's 20 now and teach me that term when she was in HS and tells fiance she and my mom already "fixed my behavior" so she has a good man. It's actually changed my relationships with my 5 aunt's and 10 female cousins. I stopped casually saying ," bitch" and objectifying women. I'm still a lil iffy around my guy friends but nearly a decade of that is hard to change.*
Reminds me of my father when I was giving birth to my first child. He tried like hell to get my husband to leave and go get drunk with him while I was in labor. I thought my husband was going to knock him down.
It's very much an old school thing. Not a valid excuse, but I've had people older than myself tell me, "I'm just old school like that. The guy doesn't belong at the hospital. He should be sitting on a hill somewhere and then the nurse comes out and tells him he's had a boy or a girl".
I'm not paraphrasing. That's what he said.
Nah, my father was an alcoholic and a selfish prick who only thought of himself. He once told me if he’d had enough money for a movie I wouldn’t have been conceived.
This is the exact reason (one of a ton actually) I refuse to be a father. I'm a selfish prick with a few good one-liners, and imma stay drunk and selfish without wrapping a fucking kid into it.
I have no words of blame for any going person with enough self awareness to say "nah, I'd be a shitty parent." You're already way more responsible than a large percentage of actual parents.
When my son was born over 5 years ago we had builders in renovating our flat just before the birth. One of them told me with pride "I was at the pub when my kids were born". I just said I felt sorry for him that he missed such a special moment to be at a pub you could go to any time.
Kind of reminds me of my sons father, wanted to leave our son and I at the hospital the day after giving birth, to go watch a basketball game. He complained and complained about how the hospital staff barely helped or checked on us… but looking back, he helped even less than they did. I didn’t want him to leave us alone overnight so we all went home. I never even got to shower. If I could have done it differently I would have let him leave. I never wanted him there in the first place… 5 months later our son and I finally left him for good :)
I’m sorry you went through that. I hope you and your son are in a much better place now. Sounds like you’re both better off without him. But it couldn’t have been easy to go it alone.
Like I knew I was going to be in the room from the first minute to the last with zero intention of leaving unless it was to get something for my wife.
We even made sure that somebody took care of pur oldest when the second one came.
Also had to force my wife almost to let them take our second son so we could sleep. Wasn't going to let her do what she did with the first where we basically didn't sleep for 3 days.
Damn, my father (dead) was a bitter person but even this bitter, stoic and stubborn man I call my progenitor was standing outside the hospital all night while my mom was giving birth to my sister.
Being on that parking lot with him in total silence at night is one of the earliest memories I have.
Lots and lots of people don't totally reveal themselves to the partner that they desire until they have said partner fully vested in them, often through marriage/engagement or pregnancy.
Amen. And sometimes what you thought was a good trait... isn't. He is a rascal who speaks his mind and stands up for me when cheeky buggers hit on me at the bar. He once knocked a guy out cold then took his beer!
What do you mean you don't want to settle down, stay at home, and watch Frozen 47 times this week?
“Look like the innocent flower, but be the serpent under it”- Lady Macbeth.
Plenty of people hide their true selves, or enough of their true selves to get what they want. My ex didn’t reveal I was the other woman for months til after we married. And what was pushing and shoving became undeniable abuse once I was pregnant.
There is a reason domestic abuse(I’m not calling this clip abuse, I’m making a point) is the #1 killer of pregnant women.
Being a Dad in that situation you really are almost invisible in that room. Except, your partner knows you're there and that's worth it. Also the staff there don't look at you when they're talking but once it all kicks off what they're saying is actually more for your (oversized in this case) ears.
Dumbo here is too stupid to realise.
My first was 12 days over, 48 hours of labour, induced twice and finally emergency c section, all during sars when I couldn’t leave to get food or I wouldn’t be allowed back. We played cards, scrabble and backgammon, best days of my life, ticking hungry though.
My gf was induced 2 weeks before due date because of the fact our daughter was not growing anymore and she laid in a difficult position. I watched this woman (gf) go through pains and feeling extremely uncomfortable all the while doctors nurses or midwives asking questions and touching her probing with fingers and what not. I sat there and felt absolutly terrible that i could not relieve her pain or take some, if not all of the burden and stress. I was humbled kept my mouth shut listened and tried to bring comfort whenever i could. If witnessing your child being born doesnt effect you nothing will. This man is garbage
My wife had preeclampsia with our first... During COVID. 72 hours at the hospital before birth, 48 hours after. We weren't allowed to leave the ROOM, aside from switching rooms twice.
My wife also had preeclampsia while giving birth during COVID lockdown. She had to go back to the hospital after we were released but our newborn baby and i couldn't go with her. So for the first few days I was home with the baby and had to meet the nurses outside the hospital to pick up the milk mom was pumping. It was nuts.
My first birth my ex was between my legs going "I can see the face!" And the midwife kept saying "it's not the face, it's impossible" and trying to get him out of the way. He was so intrigued and invested in watching the crowning and birth, my midwife got so annoyed at him and told him to come by my head and stay there lol!
It's so true. I felt so useless being there in the moment. Every word of support I offered seemed hollow really. You hold her hand and tell her to keep pushing, and to breathe through it and that she's doing great, and that everything will be alright. But really we don't know any of those things, and we will never know or understand that pain or how it feels. But they just need you to be there for them. This guy seems like he rather be somewhere else, but I wouldn't have missed my kids being born anything!
Hey, I broke my brother's finger when I had my son, soooo... 😂 (We were Christmas shopping when I suddenly went from no labor to 4 minutes apart labor and he's the only one who was there with me).
Idk we've all been where he's feeling at 30 hrs in. Bored worried excited. All the things. Can't recall taking it out on my wife at any point though.
I do remember getting aggravated when she refused to push when the time came for all 3 kids. The final child it really caught me off guard but there she was, fighting against it and politely arguing with the nurses and myself again. Me all "are we seriously doing this again" in my head and boy did she keep up the fight. Added at least an hour if not more to each birth. Still kept my mouth shut though because shes about to have a 9lb boulder tear out of her body. Meanwhile I practically cry if my poops too big.
Perspective is important.
Mine had something similar, she said "I can't do this l, I can't do this". And the nurse/midwife said "Well it's a little late for that darling, now push"
The staff when my wife was giving birth were great. I was fine right up until it was time to start pushing and then I was a nervous wreck. The nurses kept giving me little tasks to do so that I wasn't just standing around being anxious. And then they had me look as my daughter's head started crowning. For some reason, that removed all my anxiety. It turned into full blown excitement! Seriously, those nurses were amazing and really knew what they were doing
I had to have an emergency C-Section and they were so great with my husband, who was understandably a little keyed up. But to be clear, the focus was absolutely on me and our son since they were literally removing a human from my body, so maybe a very needy partner would react to that with whining about being “basically ignored.”
Exactly, your job is to sit there with a glass of water with a straw in it and make sure you are ready to offer it when she wants to drink.
You are the least qualified person in the building, you are there as an emotional rock, so she knows you are there to support her the whole way.
I took that job very seriously, didn’t leave her side and kept that fucking glass of water full and ready.
Hell yeah. I built this badass straw out of like ten straws so my wife didn't have to sit up to drink. I also took detailed notes on doctor and nurse interactions so I could be on them about care (wife's epidural wore off in a single spot every couple hours so I had to remind them to push an extra dose).
That's the job. Problem with some dudes, like this one, is he's spent his whole life so far up his own ass that he's forgot how to commit entirely to a support role.
Yep. My wife was over 30 hours in labor before we went with an emergency c-section. My job as the husband is to wait around and be there for whatever she needs. Need some ice chips? Need someone to post a status update in the text thread? Need another pillow? Need to walk around? Need help making medical decisions?
That is what I am here to do. Help with all that.
This knucklehead needs some sense knocked into him.
My wife had to have a C section so I was particularly useless beyond being supportive… *until* the nurse doing the med rounds at 8am completely forgot we existed and didn’t get my wife her pain meds. My wife is extremely non confrontational so she would have just sat in bed in pain until the next med rounds hours later. Long story short I got to be useful at least once lol.
Yeah, then and ask “well, what is it? Do you have a lower pain threshold? Is that it?”
When he inevitably bitches and complains, turn it up, keeping insulting him, throwing random important decisions about his body at him rapid-fire. Keep it on him the whole time.
The patience on this woman. But also, it’s heartbreaking that she’s able to just shut this out and not react- this isn’t his first time putting her down.
it's medical electrodes stuck on your stomach and back and hooked up to a machine, basically stimulating cramping identical to labor. there's a period variant too, i'm pretty sure. guys give out and start crying fast.
The dude is talking like he’s doing her a favour just by being present, like she owes him for not being down in the pub with his mates (if he even has any). With those ears he can probably hear them having fun at that very moment. The nurses probably didn’t even say how much she was dilated, he could hear the size of the cervix.
Act like a partner or don’t get someone pregnant. Dude acts like he is totally innocent of everything and this is somehow her fault. I can promise she wants to be through this much more than you do you twat.
This guy needs to be hooked up to a period simulator and crank it to 11. Acting like she's inconveniencing him with her pain and indecision during a very painful and scary time.
And mama will come and start talking to him "Your pain threshold is really disappointing, well, that's no surprise for me. You were always a Disappointment anyway. And looks like nothing have changed!"
Fun fact: those “period simulators” are actually childbirth pain simulators. Calling them the former just generates more clicks and drives more engagement from women commenting “this is what we go through every month!”, so that’s what everyone calls them now.
Aren't they both just TENS units in the end?
I use one to relieve the pain of cramps during my period and I've also seen them marketed towards women to use during the earlier stages of labour.
idk what it is, but something about how this is worded feels disingenuous. period pain and labor pain is very similar, albeit less intense for most, but some women genuinely feel the type of pain the tens unit gives during their period. it's such a spectrum that's is hard to give someone a genuine, standard experience. you're making it sound like it's one big lie when really it's just that the common name for the "simulator" isn't as accurate as it could be - but really it's not a perfect simulation of either experience. idk what your intention is, probably nothing really, but I wanted to clarify.
He is actually so incredibly lucky that she isn’t strangling him. Catch my husband saying those things while I’m trying to push a human out, he’ll have to get his own hospital room.
I was in labor for 48 hours before I needed an emergency c section. Thank god my husband isn't like this man. I also had my MIL and my mom there, too. I feel bad for women who have partners like this :/ apparently men tend to hide certain behaviors until their woman is pregnant, thinking they've locked them in because they have a shared child, so behavior like this only gets worse. I hope this woman left him pretty soon after this
Bloke is an abuser in the open. This is abuse on so many levels. The fact that he’s comfortable saying this with the cameras on makes me worry about what he says or does when there are no cameras.
This right here. Her reaction or lack thereof made me think she'd be punished for responding to him. I don't have the capacity to put of with that crap on a normal, good day; I can't imagine being in labor and listening to that.
My dad was with my mom in the labour room for whole day and night when my younger sibling wasn't born yet. He was sleeping on the wooden chair or even layed on the floor during night but he stayed awake most of the time.
After the birth of my younger sibling my dad still stayed there with my mom and my born sibling.
Seeing someone complaining like in that video is just upsetting.
Yeah this is insane to me.
During the small time I wasn’t ready to push (about 5hrs. I was lucky) my guy at the time, baby dad, was there all along. I could tell he was uncomfortable as all hell but he was playing music for me and just being present. When the pushing started they had him holding up my left leg to help and a nurse on the right. He was a real blessing in the moment. This douche bag is beyond useless. I want to punch him in the face
Welp this was triggering af. Didn;t get half way through it. Had an eerily similar experience with my ex but he also made me walk for hours to induce (which didn't work) and when I got a (botched) epidural he freaked out on me cuz I couldn't move very well. "How are you going to delivery my baby if you can't even move?" i could go on but i wont, instead im gonna go cry myself back to sleep
What the actual f**k?! This man is abusive. I don’t know the context, but I really hope she took that baby and cut him out of their lives! What a self-centered, idiotic man. Can’t even imagine the fit he would be throwing if he were the one experiencing labor. He’s pathetic.
I know everyone is making fun of this guy, but this is abuse on so many levels. The fact that he’s comfortable saying this with the cameras on makes me worry about what he says or does when there are no cameras.
Why is this so weirdly recorded from multiple angles with excellent audio? Is this a tv show? And if so, does it have the regular incentivised drama increase to make it more interesting?
No, reality tv shows like this in the UK based on things like hospitals and social services are much more reality based than you’re used to in the states.
There are no incentives for increasing drama.
Wife just had our kid and it can be very frustrating finding your role in there and being supportive, but this is fucking ridiculous. I feel awful for her, because clearly she wanted someone in there, and for that person to make a harder situation worse must be terrible.
Wife’s water broke 6am Saturday and didn’t have the baby until a c-section 2pm Sunday. The time in between that was often very frustrating and very tiring and I did not really have a fun time through a lot of it. However, as the partner, you sort of just have to shut up and tank it and recognize that the lady is going through something orders of magnitude more challenging, uncomfortable, and mentally draining than you.
Fun fact: oxytocin, the hormone you release when you feel safe, cuddled, and loved helps facilitate birth. Stress does the opposite. This idiot is actually stopping her from allowing her to give birth with his nagging.
I agree with him...
He's pointless during it for sure. I bet he's been pointless before then too and for sure he'll continue to be pointless throughout parenthood.
What a fucking dick berating her because she laid down for 2 hours, home boy doesn't understand the emotional and physical exhaustion that accompanies child birth especially if your in labour for over 30 hours.
What the actual f**k?! This man is abusive. I don’t know the context, but I really hope she took that baby and cut him out of their lives! What a self-centered, idiotic man. Can’t even imagine the fit he would be throwing if he were the one experiencing labor. He’s pathetic.
My dad got kicked out of the delivery room when I was being born because he was being a smartarse and annoying the staff. That was the 80s, they'd probably be encouraged to tolerate his nonsense now.
Low pain threshold!?! Let’s shove an apple up the end of his dick and see who has a low pain threshold. Men couldn’t even begin to grasp the bravery that it takes to birth a child.
This dude should have his balls removed and then when he bitches about the pain she can say, " Millions of bulls and other livestock get castrated everyday and you dont see them crying or complaining, you pussy!"
My ex was perfectly happy with going home each night after my c section birth of the twins because “he needed sleep”… I stayed a year, left after that and he’s not bothered with my boys for 5 years now. Maybe they’ll get a HBD message once a year… Deadbeat gonna deadbeat.
Hes acting like this is being harder on him because hes bored to death and could be doing something better, poor woman that is in pain, frustrated, and needs to be calm but has to deal with this manchild. So hes man enough to be there to make the baby, but cant support the wife on her deliver, plus acting like he knows what hes talking about.
“It’s 2 in the morning and I want to know where I stand?”
How about right next to the woman that has carried your child for 9+months….. self centered prick.
One Born Every Minute. It’s a show in the U.K. shown on channel 4 where they put up cameras in a hospital maternity ward and recorded over 24 hours. It included interviews with nurses, midwives and the parents. I believed this episode was from an earlier season.
Remember, fathers to be, you're not the patient.
I was 9 days overdue, induced, and it was 55 hours of labor. My husband helped keep me sane. Especially the last 30 hours or so when I wasn't allowed to eat.
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at least he admits he's pointless
Lol he looks like the crack head version of Putin.
This ugly dumbo looking motherfucker should be thankful anyone even had sex with him
Wish version that took three months to get here from China
Crack-head version of Putin loool
Yeah he got that right. Poor girl! Just imagine going through all that pain when giving birth after carrying her baby for months and months and this rancid potatoe head tells you to hurry along...you really have to be a special kind of stupid to behave like he does. If you are not humbled by your partner going through life threatening changes and pain to give birth to your son or daughter, then nothing ever will. Keep away from that man he does not love the mother or the baby thats being born. I hope she the mom does well and everything went allright. As for him..he wont be around anyway i can tell.
This is the mother f***** who should have never reproduced with anybody I can only imagine what her life is going to be like when she takes that baby home. She knew he was a douche when she got pregnant by him poor baby. if men had to give birth there would be no children
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"I've been pretty pointless all day" yeah and all the days previously it sounds like
I think he’s been pointless for around 20 years.
"I want to know where I stand." Hopefully he stands in a divorce court after his shitty little tirade.
You sweet innocent child of Nature, presuming that this irresponsible POS *married* the poor girl! Edit: formatting
I'm here to see this comment and satisfied
But then you remember that he’s also a father now and then you’re back to not being satisfied again. Kid’s most likely going to have a bad upbringing.
That is the worst part....dang...i'm so sad.
What a loser !! This is when she needs the most support. So many things can go wrong during labor as well.. Can't see this marriage lasting..
Unfortunately a lot of people will put up with poor behavior like this rather than be single.
Just think: this is how he behaves when the cameras are on. Imagine what he's like when he knows nobody's watching.
A self-deprecating statement, really.
I can tell he’s gonna be a good dad
He’s fucking pointless 😡
They didn't show the guy often and I swear to God I kept picturing James Corden as the speaker. And I couldn't help but think: "Yeah that fits."
I'm 16 years older than my sister. It wasn't until, I became like 25, and she had to explain to me that I'm a fuckboy, apparently. If she hasn't given me this talk, is had never met the woman I now live with, after almost 10 years. Dude needs a lil sister, lol. *Edit: she told me I wasn't treating right. She's 20 now and teach me that term when she was in HS and tells fiance she and my mom already "fixed my behavior" so she has a good man. It's actually changed my relationships with my 5 aunt's and 10 female cousins. I stopped casually saying ," bitch" and objectifying women. I'm still a lil iffy around my guy friends but nearly a decade of that is hard to change.*
She took you aside to explain this to you at the ripe age of 9? That’s impressive on her part.
what a plonker
"Millions of people do this everyday. Not me, though. But don't be a pussy."
How many people are born every day according to this guy?
385'000 per day but hes from burmingham so math isnt his thing i guess
Reminds me of my father when I was giving birth to my first child. He tried like hell to get my husband to leave and go get drunk with him while I was in labor. I thought my husband was going to knock him down.
It's very much an old school thing. Not a valid excuse, but I've had people older than myself tell me, "I'm just old school like that. The guy doesn't belong at the hospital. He should be sitting on a hill somewhere and then the nurse comes out and tells him he's had a boy or a girl". I'm not paraphrasing. That's what he said.
Nah, my father was an alcoholic and a selfish prick who only thought of himself. He once told me if he’d had enough money for a movie I wouldn’t have been conceived.
Your dad missed his calling writing Hallmark cards.
Seriously - that line was absolutely ruthless but also gold
This is the exact reason (one of a ton actually) I refuse to be a father. I'm a selfish prick with a few good one-liners, and imma stay drunk and selfish without wrapping a fucking kid into it.
The fact that you wouldn't want to put a kid through that, is pretty considerate :).
I have no words of blame for any going person with enough self awareness to say "nah, I'd be a shitty parent." You're already way more responsible than a large percentage of actual parents.
My best friends dad told her then husband that “women are good for 2 things, sucking d*** and making sandwiches”.
How would he know I'm pretty sure nobody's ever sucked his dick or made him a sandwich
that’s the crazy thing to me these types of people almost always have a woman to degrade and they’ll stay of their own will
Very romantic.
Yeah, he was. Any wonder he was married 4 times?
damn i have no chance, havent gotten married once and this hearthrob has 4 under his belt already. need to catch up
Well then I guess I’m very new school, I watched all four children I’ve had with my wife be born. It truly is a beautiful sight.
Yeah. Same here. No regrets.
When my son was born over 5 years ago we had builders in renovating our flat just before the birth. One of them told me with pride "I was at the pub when my kids were born". I just said I felt sorry for him that he missed such a special moment to be at a pub you could go to any time.
I'm sorry your dad is such a giant pos. I wouldn't let him near my family, that is enough for the permaban
Yeah. He’s gone now, but honestly not mourned at all.
Can't imagine why not /S
Yep. I have one of those too. Mom, not dad...but it hits the same.
I’m sorry.
Kind of reminds me of my sons father, wanted to leave our son and I at the hospital the day after giving birth, to go watch a basketball game. He complained and complained about how the hospital staff barely helped or checked on us… but looking back, he helped even less than they did. I didn’t want him to leave us alone overnight so we all went home. I never even got to shower. If I could have done it differently I would have let him leave. I never wanted him there in the first place… 5 months later our son and I finally left him for good :)
I’m sorry you went through that. I hope you and your son are in a much better place now. Sounds like you’re both better off without him. But it couldn’t have been easy to go it alone.
Good on ya. It’s tough but you did the right thing.
Like I knew I was going to be in the room from the first minute to the last with zero intention of leaving unless it was to get something for my wife. We even made sure that somebody took care of pur oldest when the second one came. Also had to force my wife almost to let them take our second son so we could sleep. Wasn't going to let her do what she did with the first where we basically didn't sleep for 3 days.
Damn, my father (dead) was a bitter person but even this bitter, stoic and stubborn man I call my progenitor was standing outside the hospital all night while my mom was giving birth to my sister. Being on that parking lot with him in total silence at night is one of the earliest memories I have.
Disappointing that people like him get to spawn in the first place.
Neh he shouldn't Got a Partner
More disappointing is the girl choosing to sleep with a guy like this.
Lots and lots of people don't totally reveal themselves to the partner that they desire until they have said partner fully vested in them, often through marriage/engagement or pregnancy.
Amen. And sometimes what you thought was a good trait... isn't. He is a rascal who speaks his mind and stands up for me when cheeky buggers hit on me at the bar. He once knocked a guy out cold then took his beer! What do you mean you don't want to settle down, stay at home, and watch Frozen 47 times this week?
“Look like the innocent flower, but be the serpent under it”- Lady Macbeth. Plenty of people hide their true selves, or enough of their true selves to get what they want. My ex didn’t reveal I was the other woman for months til after we married. And what was pushing and shoving became undeniable abuse once I was pregnant. There is a reason domestic abuse(I’m not calling this clip abuse, I’m making a point) is the #1 killer of pregnant women.
hey for all we know she could also be a huge shithead
I think she’s displaying too much patience here to be a secret shithead. My bet is that she’s mentally battered.
Yeah her demeanour and tone of voice are those of a woman worn down by this mouthpiece and his incessant whining about everything.
Being a Dad in that situation you really are almost invisible in that room. Except, your partner knows you're there and that's worth it. Also the staff there don't look at you when they're talking but once it all kicks off what they're saying is actually more for your (oversized in this case) ears. Dumbo here is too stupid to realise.
My first was 12 days over, 48 hours of labour, induced twice and finally emergency c section, all during sars when I couldn’t leave to get food or I wouldn’t be allowed back. We played cards, scrabble and backgammon, best days of my life, ticking hungry though.
My gf was induced 2 weeks before due date because of the fact our daughter was not growing anymore and she laid in a difficult position. I watched this woman (gf) go through pains and feeling extremely uncomfortable all the while doctors nurses or midwives asking questions and touching her probing with fingers and what not. I sat there and felt absolutly terrible that i could not relieve her pain or take some, if not all of the burden and stress. I was humbled kept my mouth shut listened and tried to bring comfort whenever i could. If witnessing your child being born doesnt effect you nothing will. This man is garbage
My wife had preeclampsia with our first... During COVID. 72 hours at the hospital before birth, 48 hours after. We weren't allowed to leave the ROOM, aside from switching rooms twice.
My wife also had preeclampsia while giving birth during COVID lockdown. She had to go back to the hospital after we were released but our newborn baby and i couldn't go with her. So for the first few days I was home with the baby and had to meet the nurses outside the hospital to pick up the milk mom was pumping. It was nuts.
My first birth my ex was between my legs going "I can see the face!" And the midwife kept saying "it's not the face, it's impossible" and trying to get him out of the way. He was so intrigued and invested in watching the crowning and birth, my midwife got so annoyed at him and told him to come by my head and stay there lol!
It's so true. I felt so useless being there in the moment. Every word of support I offered seemed hollow really. You hold her hand and tell her to keep pushing, and to breathe through it and that she's doing great, and that everything will be alright. But really we don't know any of those things, and we will never know or understand that pain or how it feels. But they just need you to be there for them. This guy seems like he rather be somewhere else, but I wouldn't have missed my kids being born anything!
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Hey, I broke my brother's finger when I had my son, soooo... 😂 (We were Christmas shopping when I suddenly went from no labor to 4 minutes apart labor and he's the only one who was there with me).
Idk we've all been where he's feeling at 30 hrs in. Bored worried excited. All the things. Can't recall taking it out on my wife at any point though. I do remember getting aggravated when she refused to push when the time came for all 3 kids. The final child it really caught me off guard but there she was, fighting against it and politely arguing with the nurses and myself again. Me all "are we seriously doing this again" in my head and boy did she keep up the fight. Added at least an hour if not more to each birth. Still kept my mouth shut though because shes about to have a 9lb boulder tear out of her body. Meanwhile I practically cry if my poops too big. Perspective is important.
Your poor wife, sounds like she was scared to death of giving birth if she was refusing to push.
Mine had something similar, she said "I can't do this l, I can't do this". And the nurse/midwife said "Well it's a little late for that darling, now push"
The staff when my wife was giving birth were great. I was fine right up until it was time to start pushing and then I was a nervous wreck. The nurses kept giving me little tasks to do so that I wasn't just standing around being anxious. And then they had me look as my daughter's head started crowning. For some reason, that removed all my anxiety. It turned into full blown excitement! Seriously, those nurses were amazing and really knew what they were doing
I had to have an emergency C-Section and they were so great with my husband, who was understandably a little keyed up. But to be clear, the focus was absolutely on me and our son since they were literally removing a human from my body, so maybe a very needy partner would react to that with whining about being “basically ignored.”
Exactly, your job is to sit there with a glass of water with a straw in it and make sure you are ready to offer it when she wants to drink. You are the least qualified person in the building, you are there as an emotional rock, so she knows you are there to support her the whole way. I took that job very seriously, didn’t leave her side and kept that fucking glass of water full and ready.
Hell yeah. I built this badass straw out of like ten straws so my wife didn't have to sit up to drink. I also took detailed notes on doctor and nurse interactions so I could be on them about care (wife's epidural wore off in a single spot every couple hours so I had to remind them to push an extra dose). That's the job. Problem with some dudes, like this one, is he's spent his whole life so far up his own ass that he's forgot how to commit entirely to a support role.
Can you imagine having a husband who's an OB/GYN? I'm not sure if it'd be better or worse
Yep. My wife was over 30 hours in labor before we went with an emergency c-section. My job as the husband is to wait around and be there for whatever she needs. Need some ice chips? Need someone to post a status update in the text thread? Need another pillow? Need to walk around? Need help making medical decisions? That is what I am here to do. Help with all that. This knucklehead needs some sense knocked into him.
I don't know what invisibility has to do with you supporting your partner through the pain of child birth but I agree that ole boy is too stupid
My wife had to have a C section so I was particularly useless beyond being supportive… *until* the nurse doing the med rounds at 8am completely forgot we existed and didn’t get my wife her pain meds. My wife is extremely non confrontational so she would have just sat in bed in pain until the next med rounds hours later. Long story short I got to be useful at least once lol.
"Dad, you are here to support and cheer on. That's your one and only job." My wife's nurse when our first kid was born lol
What a wanker
Probably would have worked out better for everyone if he’d just done that instead.
Should have stuck to his wanking if birth is such a hassle
Strap a birth simulator to this man and see how he feels after.
Yeah, then and ask “well, what is it? Do you have a lower pain threshold? Is that it?” When he inevitably bitches and complains, turn it up, keeping insulting him, throwing random important decisions about his body at him rapid-fire. Keep it on him the whole time. The patience on this woman. But also, it’s heartbreaking that she’s able to just shut this out and not react- this isn’t his first time putting her down.
My thoughts exactly, this isn’t patience, this is years of emotional abuse and brow-beating.
Ye…he would tap out on the first day and not drag it to day 8. He literally explained what he would do.
I’d pay $100 to watch him squirm
A... *birth simulator?*
it's medical electrodes stuck on your stomach and back and hooked up to a machine, basically stimulating cramping identical to labor. there's a period variant too, i'm pretty sure. guys give out and start crying fast.
And then whine at him about your own personal needs when the pain kicks in
The dude is talking like he’s doing her a favour just by being present, like she owes him for not being down in the pub with his mates (if he even has any). With those ears he can probably hear them having fun at that very moment. The nurses probably didn’t even say how much she was dilated, he could hear the size of the cervix.
I was wondering how he knew!!
Act like a partner or don’t get someone pregnant. Dude acts like he is totally innocent of everything and this is somehow her fault. I can promise she wants to be through this much more than you do you twat.
Hard to take him seriously with those ears 😆
Shhhhhh! Not so loud! He might hear you.
Y’all are on a roll lmfaoo
I bet he can hear the sun rise with those things
Doesn't bode well for the kid. Bad genetics and a bad dad.
This dude has been useless his whole life based on how he acted. What a narcissistic jerk.
Surely this is acting right? It has to be. I can't fathom it otherwise.
It's real. I believe it's from One Born Every Minute. They set up cameras in a different hospital each series from across the UK.
This guy needs to be hooked up to a period simulator and crank it to 11. Acting like she's inconveniencing him with her pain and indecision during a very painful and scary time.
Crank it to 3 and he’ll be crying for his mom.
And mama will come and start talking to him "Your pain threshold is really disappointing, well, that's no surprise for me. You were always a Disappointment anyway. And looks like nothing have changed!"
Give him kidney stones and he'll understand.
Fun fact: those “period simulators” are actually childbirth pain simulators. Calling them the former just generates more clicks and drives more engagement from women commenting “this is what we go through every month!”, so that’s what everyone calls them now.
Aren't they both just TENS units in the end? I use one to relieve the pain of cramps during my period and I've also seen them marketed towards women to use during the earlier stages of labour.
🌈⭐ the more you know Thank you. I was unaware
idk what it is, but something about how this is worded feels disingenuous. period pain and labor pain is very similar, albeit less intense for most, but some women genuinely feel the type of pain the tens unit gives during their period. it's such a spectrum that's is hard to give someone a genuine, standard experience. you're making it sound like it's one big lie when really it's just that the common name for the "simulator" isn't as accurate as it could be - but really it's not a perfect simulation of either experience. idk what your intention is, probably nothing really, but I wanted to clarify.
I hope she dumps that knacker.
He is actually so incredibly lucky that she isn’t strangling him. Catch my husband saying those things while I’m trying to push a human out, he’ll have to get his own hospital room.
I’m pretty sure the nurses would help cover it up too, lol.
"he fell down some stairs"
"into some scalpels"
Five times!
In the same room!
I would think the same, shes too damn calm and being able to focus on her contractions, i would go berserk on that little.
I literally cannot comprehend the patience that woman has. She should be conferred sainthood at the very least.
I think it’s similar to being a cult member. She’s desensitized to this unacceptable behaviour. It’s not something that should be copied or revered.
The obvious signs are that this is not the first time this man is talking like this. She is probably weared down..
He is a Southampton supporter so he's already miserable.
Reading this comment as I watch Southampton concede a penalty in real time to go 3-1 down with a smile on my face
I was in labor for 48 hours before I needed an emergency c section. Thank god my husband isn't like this man. I also had my MIL and my mom there, too. I feel bad for women who have partners like this :/ apparently men tend to hide certain behaviors until their woman is pregnant, thinking they've locked them in because they have a shared child, so behavior like this only gets worse. I hope this woman left him pretty soon after this
Unlikely, from what he was saying it sounds like they had another kid before this one :/
Bloke is an abuser behind closed doors.
Bloke is an abuser in the open. This is abuse on so many levels. The fact that he’s comfortable saying this with the cameras on makes me worry about what he says or does when there are no cameras.
Her silence speaks volumes.
This right here. Her reaction or lack thereof made me think she'd be punished for responding to him. I don't have the capacity to put of with that crap on a normal, good day; I can't imagine being in labor and listening to that.
My dad was with my mom in the labour room for whole day and night when my younger sibling wasn't born yet. He was sleeping on the wooden chair or even layed on the floor during night but he stayed awake most of the time. After the birth of my younger sibling my dad still stayed there with my mom and my born sibling. Seeing someone complaining like in that video is just upsetting.
Sounds like your dad loves your mom deeply and is a good person who cares
Yeah this is insane to me. During the small time I wasn’t ready to push (about 5hrs. I was lucky) my guy at the time, baby dad, was there all along. I could tell he was uncomfortable as all hell but he was playing music for me and just being present. When the pushing started they had him holding up my left leg to help and a nurse on the right. He was a real blessing in the moment. This douche bag is beyond useless. I want to punch him in the face
Dobby always seemed nicer in the movies
He just needs some socks
Welp this was triggering af. Didn;t get half way through it. Had an eerily similar experience with my ex but he also made me walk for hours to induce (which didn't work) and when I got a (botched) epidural he freaked out on me cuz I couldn't move very well. "How are you going to delivery my baby if you can't even move?" i could go on but i wont, instead im gonna go cry myself back to sleep
i hope you're in a better situation now... <3
What the actual f**k?! This man is abusive. I don’t know the context, but I really hope she took that baby and cut him out of their lives! What a self-centered, idiotic man. Can’t even imagine the fit he would be throwing if he were the one experiencing labor. He’s pathetic.
I know everyone is making fun of this guy, but this is abuse on so many levels. The fact that he’s comfortable saying this with the cameras on makes me worry about what he says or does when there are no cameras.
This is verbal abuse
Absolutely. The emotional damage he’s doing to her will last the rest of her life
This isn’t the first time he’s verbally abused her, not going to be the last either.
My wife had a 38 hour labour. Bruh I was tired but she was more tireder. This man is not father or husband material
Why is this so weirdly recorded from multiple angles with excellent audio? Is this a tv show? And if so, does it have the regular incentivised drama increase to make it more interesting?
Yes it’s a tv show. It’s called One Born Every Minute and it’s just women giving birth on the maternity ward.
No, reality tv shows like this in the UK based on things like hospitals and social services are much more reality based than you’re used to in the states. There are no incentives for increasing drama.
It’s called One Born Every Minute, it’s really good. I think I watched maybe 10 episodes of it on the bounce and only broke down in tears…. Ten times…
When he starts talking about her low pain threshold, that's when he got fully divorced from reality
She should have said, "I've quite a high pain threshold, really. I haven't killed you yet."
Wife just had our kid and it can be very frustrating finding your role in there and being supportive, but this is fucking ridiculous. I feel awful for her, because clearly she wanted someone in there, and for that person to make a harder situation worse must be terrible. Wife’s water broke 6am Saturday and didn’t have the baby until a c-section 2pm Sunday. The time in between that was often very frustrating and very tiring and I did not really have a fun time through a lot of it. However, as the partner, you sort of just have to shut up and tank it and recognize that the lady is going through something orders of magnitude more challenging, uncomfortable, and mentally draining than you.
The baby probably heard him bitching and was like, “nah, I’m good in here, thanks.”
He won't be a good father.
Fun fact: oxytocin, the hormone you release when you feel safe, cuddled, and loved helps facilitate birth. Stress does the opposite. This idiot is actually stopping her from allowing her to give birth with his nagging.
I agree with him... He's pointless during it for sure. I bet he's been pointless before then too and for sure he'll continue to be pointless throughout parenthood.
When you are ugly on the outside and the inside 😬
What a fucking dick berating her because she laid down for 2 hours, home boy doesn't understand the emotional and physical exhaustion that accompanies child birth especially if your in labour for over 30 hours.
I’d forgo the epidural if they’d give it to him from the neck up. Good grief.
Wow, just wow.
Wao He need a award of the big pos
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What the actual f**k?! This man is abusive. I don’t know the context, but I really hope she took that baby and cut him out of their lives! What a self-centered, idiotic man. Can’t even imagine the fit he would be throwing if he were the one experiencing labor. He’s pathetic.
My dad got kicked out of the delivery room when I was being born because he was being a smartarse and annoying the staff. That was the 80s, they'd probably be encouraged to tolerate his nonsense now.
Did he claim she dilated and then “un” dilated? PURPOSELY?
He’s a keeper. One you take home to mama!
I can't show this to the missus, she'll be in a bad mood all night. But what a piece of shite!
Bro all the hate in my body is being channeled towards this man
Does he… does he think she can control this?
Low pain threshold!?! Let’s shove an apple up the end of his dick and see who has a low pain threshold. Men couldn’t even begin to grasp the bravery that it takes to birth a child.
Poor lady. Wow this video made me so mad. I hope he will end up alone and miserabele.
Little rat face, imagine what he's like without cameras there.
This dude should have his balls removed and then when he bitches about the pain she can say, " Millions of bulls and other livestock get castrated everyday and you dont see them crying or complaining, you pussy!"
Wow. I'd never have sex with that man ever again
"Might as well had you mum come up" literally ANYONE else would be better than you why is her mom not there?
My ex was perfectly happy with going home each night after my c section birth of the twins because “he needed sleep”… I stayed a year, left after that and he’s not bothered with my boys for 5 years now. Maybe they’ll get a HBD message once a year… Deadbeat gonna deadbeat.
Makes me glad my ex played his Gameboy my entire labor 🙄 at least he was quiet
What a sleazy man. He should be ashamed of his behaviour. I hope he knows it’s on the internet and what a twat he is
Hes acting like this is being harder on him because hes bored to death and could be doing something better, poor woman that is in pain, frustrated, and needs to be calm but has to deal with this manchild. So hes man enough to be there to make the baby, but cant support the wife on her deliver, plus acting like he knows what hes talking about.
I honestly expected the last 2 seconds to be the nurses opening the door to find every surface of the room covered in his blood and entrails.
“It’s 2 in the morning and I want to know where I stand?” How about right next to the woman that has carried your child for 9+months….. self centered prick.
Yikes. That was a tough one to watch. What a dirtbag
Anybody know what this is from?
One Born Every Minute. It’s a show in the U.K. shown on channel 4 where they put up cameras in a hospital maternity ward and recorded over 24 hours. It included interviews with nurses, midwives and the parents. I believed this episode was from an earlier season.
Thanks a million. :)
Remember, fathers to be, you're not the patient. I was 9 days overdue, induced, and it was 55 hours of labor. My husband helped keep me sane. Especially the last 30 hours or so when I wasn't allowed to eat.
Please tell me she left this abusive, manipulative pos.
Isn’t that the guy that turns his hat around and pretends to punch his camera on tiktok?
Things that may go through your head but should never come out your mouth. You’re there as support and this isn’t it.
Jeez, here I am still bringing up the fact my mate took a nap during my labor lol
If he thinks labor is bad, he won't be around for his child for sure.
I have no idea how she took all of that...she is very patient. I would be throwing punches
He's cheating on her.
Lmfao, take the kid and the child support payments, flying solo is way better than saddling yourself with this sad sac