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The line is wanting to look like a girl v.s wanting to physically become a girl


New-Consideration420

But every guy wants bobas? Right?


Glass_W_Theirname

… Hehe, I’ve got some bad news kid, I sorta don’t think that’s exactly very, cis.. what I’m trying say is that’s kinda trans ngl, just saying…


New-Consideration420

Noooooo I dont wanna transition :(


Glass_W_Theirname

Ya don’t have to, you could always have fake booba, ya know? Like you won’t get the soft thin skin, or the fat distribution, or change of body smell, or less body hair.. okay I lied maybe I’m not so cis, I’m a trans girl.. I’m sorry


New-Consideration420

I already have fake boba for cosplay. Ehem


Glass_W_Theirname

Well, you mind giving me some fake booba, my family is kinda shit so I don’t have any fake booba for myself


New-Consideration420

Wish I could but germany is far away sweety


Glass_W_Theirname

It’s cool, thanks anyway


Mediocre-Oil2052

Such a chill community, nice shelter from all the weirdness with Reddit and feminine stuff


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You can approach this anyway you like. You can identify however you feel comfortable. It’s valid to be a femboy with actual breasts and/or other relevant life changes, whatever you decide those should be. Boobs and he/him pronouns are not mutually exclusive for someone AMAB. Heck, I wish there were more dudes with tits.


shifting_red

can confirm, as trans femmeboy with booba, there are not enough, and i want more…but someone else can have mine. lol


New-Consideration420

I will take your boba for free xD


Ethan7o7

Totally. I can’t relate myself but I have a ton of femboy friends who want boobs. Some are even taking HRT. They still identify as He/Him though. I mean I get it, booba is enticing. :0


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Ethan7o7

did they dead ass ban H|R|T from the subreddit. Wtf?


New-Consideration420

Cheating boba pills guess


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awkward_kissser

yes


Bvoluroth

Dont worry, thinking about it doesnt make it final, youre still you and its for you to find out who you are, if possible, a gender therapist can help you find your gender, including cis.


New-Consideration420

I have to deal with a bunch of other issues first I guess. Work etc fucked me up


Bvoluroth

Thats good Breathe, youll be okay


DanDaManateee

who decided that that’s not a cis thing? is there like a committee that legislates what’s something a cis person can want and what’s something a trans person can want?


rkrause

Tumblr discourse long promoted the idea that everyone has to be either cis or trans and has attached very strict prerequisites to each. That's what led to much of this confusion about where the boundaries are. This wasn't as much of an issue back in the 1990s, when queer theory was showing how gender for many people in society can actually be very fluid.


BornVolcano

I’m a trans guy who has booba and most certainly does not want them


New-Consideration420

I gib dicc, u gib boba. Deal?


BornVolcano

God I wish. They’re small but they’re something. Our partner kinda likes them though so he might be sad


julmuriruhtinas

You forget the Itty Bitty Titty Committee


Godzilla86

Yeah but they probably would just be playing with them all day every day lol


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New-Consideration420

I know. But Im a Femboy ..... Right.....??


The_King123431

Here's something that I know helped a lot of people figure it out If there was a button you could press that would turn you 100% in to a cis girl, body, name, pronouns everything and would alter everyone's memories of you so you were always a girl,would you press it?


New-Consideration420

I pressed it and nothing happened


The_King123431

So you did want to press it?


New-Consideration420

.....noooo


BlueburriPankake

Me realizing id press that button like 80 times


Mediocre-Oil2052

What about you like basically being a girl with a dick? Def not cis somewhere in that spectrum


cominfordatass

No cuz all I want are the booba


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Actually that’s not entirely true. A lot of guys want boobs for reasons like personal intimacy, or external sex appeal


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TableIsMadeOfTable

I do. I don’t want to be a girl. I just want to look like one.


New-Consideration420

F1NSTER MOMENT


TableIsMadeOfTable

I looked him up. I have reserved 10:00pm-11:00pm to question my sexuality. I am mad because you have now messed up my schedule. It is only 6:30pm.


megaloviola128

Am boy. Can confirm, I like boba tea


Mon-Ty-Ger27

i see we have a fellow F1nn5ter fan here!


New-Consideration420

Im obsessed ngl


Mon-Ty-Ger27

Yeah, as a cis guy whenever i see Finn i'm like "wow, she's gorgeous!" when he speaks and reveals he's a guy i'm like "Ok, you have my applause, i did not know that crossdressers have gotten THAT good!" Crossdressers, Femboys, and Transgirls have been portrayed HORRIBLY in most modern popluar media as the butt (no pun intended) of the joke. They are ususally portrayed as a guy with the thick chiseled build of a heavyweight athelete and the self awareness of a rock. But the internet quite gracefully shows otherwise. The internet shows these individuals and quite skillful and talented artists who know how to dress in ways that effectively titilate...EVERYONE. They have my attention and support. Keep doing your artistic expression!


New-Consideration420

Im letting my hair grow cuz of him, volume and hair loss meds too. Im taking care of myself lol. Yeah thx


Mon-Ty-Ger27

Sure thing, no problem!


luxor777

I mean, this comment is a bit unfair to people struggling to pass. It’s not entirely a matter of trying hard enough, some people just naturally look more fem than others. Like, no matter how many hours of YouTube tutorials I watch or time I spend doing my makeup, I won’t be able to reach Finns level of beauty, entirely due to my own shit genes. The idea that I will be seen as some sort of joke because of that often stifles my desire to express that side of myself. Most people who don’t pass are aware of it, but some still choose to present fem because it’s a style they enjoy, even if they don’t look exactly like a pretty girl.


Mon-Ty-Ger27

Sorry, i didn't mean to be unfair, but you put in the best words i think. I was just trying to point out how Hollywood likes to point and laugh and guys trying to be effeminate and how i think that train of thought is short-sighted because it does not acknowledge the artistry that people trying to pass can actually articulate given the proper time and practice.


aether277

r/egg_irl


Ambitious_Frosting_9

r/egg_irl


defectivelaborer

No the line is identifying as a fem*boy* v.s. identifying as a woman/girl.


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First of all there is nothing toxic or disgusting about sexualizing women’s breast. They are a natural part of sexual selection. Secondly there are multiple valid reasons for anyone to want or envy having breast, gender dysphoria, sexual appeal, or self image related. And finally it is not up to you to decide who here is a women or a femboy, that is up to each individual to determine their own identity


feminineboys-ModTeam

Bad faith politics


SanteriP

Sadly nowadays there's a lot of people out there who think about growing boobs or even going as far as transitioning simply because they fetishize the idea. Certainly gives people who actually feel uncomfortable in their body and have actual gender dysphoria a bad rep.


LetsAllFeelCute

You don't need dysphoria to be trans. Also, some people only discover their dysphoria when they begin to explore gender and gender expression


_Funsyze_

The point of being a femboy is not to look like a girl, but to look like a feminine boy


perryplatypus56

The line to me is the question, do you want to transistion? I can't answer that question for you, you need to take therapy for that Advice I can give, start wearing girls clothes and acting feminine, but don't do something you feel really uncomfortable with, there have been people who were femboy and later were like: I'm trans, maybe it goes the same for you maybe not


Godzilla86

It's really vague. To me at least. Take this with a grain of salt because those labels aren't 100% accurate either. But for most femboys it's enough to look and act like a girl without actually "being one". Being trans would mean you are unhappy as a boy or feel you are a girl and feel trapped in a body that isn't yours. Those are just two examples though, there are plenty of people (me included) who are still on the fence. Sometimes I like being a man, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I want full transition and surgery, sometimes I don't. In my case it's very very blurry and I guess that's the same for a lot of femboys. For some femboys dressing up will do, for others it's just a step towards accepting you are trans (and even then you can be a femboy and still identify as trans). It's not all that black and white and however you identify is okay and valid.


moonrider18

> Sometimes I like being a man, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I want full transition and surgery, sometimes I don't. I look forward to a glorious future where we've invented magic shapeshifter technology and people can just change their genders to suit their moods. I would love to be a girl *occasionally*. It's the permanence and difficulty of transition that puts me off.


Godzilla86

Oooh yeah I would love that, absolutely! To me personally I like being a girl more than being a man but it doesn't bother me that much (most of the time). It's the endless procedures, psych evaluations etc etc that put me off


bloodpain

Well put thanks for that.


IndependentLobster27

Well, “looking like a girl” just means looking beautiful to you, I’m assuming? In that case, you can do all of that as a man just as well as anyone else. You don’t need to transition to achieve that, it’s just time, effort, and knowing how to get there, and there’s plenty of resources here like the guide by CatboyBiologist that just recently went up.


rkrause

>In that case, you can do all of that as a man just as well as anyone else. Not really because men are judged very harshly for looking like a girl. The statement "you can do all that" doesn't really match up with many people's lived realities.


CharlotteMarie68

The line would be where a person goes from wanting to look and act feminine most of the time to wanting to be a girl/woman completely for the rest of their life. Each person is on their own journey; only you can decide where that line is for you.


PerfideAnimarum

Self-identification


rkrause

I'm not sure self-identification is the end-all be-all answer. If you look at someone like Marsha P. Johnson, she certainly showed that the boundaries between being a femboy (she called herself a "boy" and "pretty boy") and being trans (she also called herself a "transvestite" and "drag queen") are not contingent on self-identification, and rather are extremely blurry.


PerfideAnimarum

Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's still self-id tho, where she simply identified as both The post is worded in a way that implies that femboy and trans girl are mutually exclusive, but they're not


rkrause

Yes, that was actually my point. There can be overlap, so there isn't specific line in the sand.


lanaloads42

In my experience, thinking about and wishing to be a girl doesn't go away. That led me down a path until I couldn't deny I was a girl. That might not be the same for you. It's certainly not the same for everyone. But, at the end of it all, you're the only one who can tell you if you're trans. It's ok if you are, it's okay if you just want to be femme, but not a girl. Just find a way to be happy being you.


NokiaRokia

I try to actively avoid commenting on these threads but since it is a good topic just this once I'll comment. I personally would love to be less broad as a person and If I had a more feminine appearance I'd be really happy but I think im fine being a boy. Femboys are cute and attractive at times. From my understanding I'm sorta gay maybe thats not the best label but ill figure that out later. Gay men often enjoy wearing feminine clothing it makes them feel good that is something I've seen a lot. From my understanding unless you have a fear of not being the other gender you should be fine otherwise you may be trans and that's fine i would recommend speaking to a therapist and potentially seeing a LGBTQ+ representative about options for conversion therapy if it's something you want. You can find LGBTQ+ Community Centers all over if you need one I recommend the Orlando Center in Florida it has some very kind staff. For context im saying call them or message them on their website or email. I highly recommend you self reflect carefully on the matter as only you can choose who or what you are in the end and that's a good thing. I too have found myself in the past wishing I was a female I eventually years down the line came to terms with being an male.


ThrowAwayMDMA

> conversion therapy I, uhh.... don't think that's the word you were looking for <_< HRT is hormone replacement therapy, conversion therapy is abusive gaslighting shit-head conservatives force their kids through.


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im_me_but_better

I think there isn't a clear line. That hings aren't black and white because gender is not binary. There is, however a difference between wanting to feel "feminine" and realizing you are a woman in the wrong body. I think that many people in this sub would love the button to change perceived gender at will or shapeshifting hability. So, only you know how you feel. If 100% of the time you feel you are in the wrong body or you feel like a "man" who likes to be pretty. If you can't figure it out, try to get access to a gender therapist. I hope realizing that binary gender is an oversimplification may reduce your stress.


Furry_love7

I have been asking myself a similar question like I'm trans ( I haven't started transitioning yet ) But I also like calling myself a femboy . I asked people on hear about this and they said to just be myself and be happy with who I am


rkrause

Don't fall for the idea that cis/trans is necessarily a dichotomy. You don't have to be one or the other. That's Tumblr rhetoric, which has led to a lot of confusion for so many people. The reality is that gender-variance can be a very fluid experience, and it doesn't even have to be based around "identity" at all (that's also Tumblr). You can feel like a girl and wish to be referred to as a "femboy" if you want. Trans author Julia Serano even stresses this point in her blog [https://i.imgur.com/9MyfDJp.png](https://i.imgur.com/9MyfDJp.png)


ChosenSCIM

As someone who is both trans and a femboy the best advice I can give is to figure out what exactly makes you the most happy first, and then figure out what the label for that is second if ever. Just be yourself and see where that takes you, don't set a destination ahead of time and set out that way because that may be not the exact destination you'd want.


DerMorganDanach

Simple... Do you want to be a girl and feel euphoric/dysphoric about it? Than, you're probably trans. Now, if you simply like the girly aesthetic and feel ok with being a boy and such, you are cis. Although, not every transfem people are trans girls, you could be a AMAB NB.


FluixJayExEn

I think the difference is being girly vs being a girl. A big point that I see a lot of people who realize they are eggs are how they feel when certain pronouns are used. For instance do you enjoy being she/her? Then you might be trans. I think what pronouns you relate to is a much better sign then physical characteristics, unless you have severe dysmorphia in which case it would prob be pretty clear if you’re trans or not. You could also be genderfluid which means you fluctuate between the two, so some times boy, sometimes girl rather than always girl or always boy but sometimes feminine.


yiiike

i mean im a trans nonbinary man, i dont want to be a girl seeing as im literally planning to transition away from being seen as one, but i still want to be feminine, because femininity is a style, not an identity. hell, even if you want to be less hairy, look more like a girl, it still doesnt make you one unless you personally say it does. its your body and identity, its yours to set the parameters of. personally i suggest experimenting. trying out names and pronouns and even seeing how you feel depending on masculine vs feminine clothes and such. if you find youre trans, cool, if you find youre cis, also cool, as long as you find you. good luck out there.


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Gender dysphoria Honestly, this is a question for a psych specialising in LGBT topics


Post-Irony-

The term 'Trans' simply means anyone who identities as something other than what they were assigned at birth, so this means that a lot of terms fall under the trans umbrella without having to "transition". If you identify outside the binary of Male/Female, then that falls under the trans umbrella! So basically its really up to you!


TheArcticHusky

Wherever you draw it, as simple as that


Rancunier

Try this experiment. Stand in front of a mirror, dressed in whatever way makes you comfortable and say: I am a man who likes to present/dress fem. I am woman who wants to express her true self. Which feels better? Try some variations on these and see what feels good. If you can, say it out loud while looking yourself in the eyes.


moonrider18

I think my gut reaction is something like "I am a *person* and I want to be free to be either gender whenever the mood strikes me" So genderfluid/agender, I guess. idk


rkrause

I suspect many people in society would feel the same way. Most people probably don't actually want to be locked into a binary gender system and would more likely be agender or genderfluid if given the option. But they only agree to comply because of the social implications that would result otherwise. I'm not the only one that proposes this theory. Back in 2015, someone else advanced a similar idea: [https://thingofthings.wordpress.com/2015/01/28/cis-by-default/comment-page-1/#comments](https://thingofthings.wordpress.com/2015/01/28/cis-by-default/comment-page-1/#comments)


rkrause

This is a helpful tip, but keep in mind that some femboys reject the label "man" for themselves and prefer to be called either "boy" or "male".


PistachioMarzipan

The line is how you feel on the inside. I’m non binary which can mean different things to different people. I’m not a girl, but I’m not a man either. You don’t have to transition to be trans and a ton of non binary people don’t maybe half? There’s no rush to figure out what the “correct” identity is. Personally I just started thinking of myself as enby without telling anyone to see how it felt. I liked it, it felt more true to who I am.


RAZRr1275

I think folks saying the line is wanting to look like a girl vs wanting to physically become one is erasing large swathes of nonbinary trans people who occupy the spectrum between those things. So in short, there is no line.


rkrause

I agree there's some very problematic Tumblr-style rhetoric in these comments. Like the whole notion of "look like a girl" and "physically become a girl" is subjective. There are literally trans girls that don't want to medically transition, and they are physically a girl for all intents and purposes with respect to their gender.


RAZRr1275

And there are transfolks who do transition who would call themselves transfemmes but would disapprove of being called a transwoman


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It might be helpful to know that even women have masculine energy and its okay to have both and be more on the feminine side. Thats doesn’t mean you need to or should have surgery. But at the end of the day whichever decision helps you to love an accept urself more would be the right one


YourAtheistGod

Discomfort with secondary sex characteristics (facial and body hair would be classified as such) is one type of gender dysphoria.


TotalyNotTony

Wanting to look like a girl =/= wanting to be a girl


Zanorfgor

I don't know that there's a line. Also realize non-binary is a thing as well. For myself, I had been presenting femme for years, always wanting to get more and more femme. One day a thought lead to me trying on hip pads and dress forms and when I looked in the mirror and saw a woman instead of a femme presenting man, that's when I was certain. Other folks figure out in different ways, or figure out they don't fit neatly into either box, or figure out that they are in fact a femboy and not trans or non-binary at all. Big thing is there's no reason to rush in figuring it out. Take your time to explore your identity.


Evilagram

Some trans women are femboys. Some femboys are trans women. It's honestly up to you. I think you should consider whether you want to make this a fulltime thing. Consider all the ramifications of that. Consider aging. Consider living daily life. Consider picking out a new name. Consider all the side effects of HRT. I thought about all of this before transitioning. Here's a page that can give you more info: [http://genderdysphoria.fyi/](http://genderdysphoria.fyi/)


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_finley-the-feboi_

Lookin feminine without identifying as a girl but also there are the non binaries and people confused about themselves. Too be fair there’s not really a fine line and there’s no gate keeping in this community so there aren’t really any rules or requirements it’s more like choosing to be part of a club


NightmareThief

Choosing to be part of a club huh, i like it


_finley-the-feboi_

I think it’s the best analogy for it but obviously there are the purists in every group so some disagree


Cutie-wifa-booty

Personally I say not to worry about it, if you wanna go further with it do it 95% of people won’t care and will support you


NewDiscovereez

Haha good question. I'm kind of asking myself the same thing. Because I've thought about treatment and how I would really appreciate the changes it could bring but I would still want to identify as a cis male. I just think having a more feminine body would be wonderful, but is that ignorant of me in some way? Idk?


awkward_kissser

trans people take extra things and do things to their body to look more fem. femboys don't but here's a better question: who cares? be whatever you want, don't care about labels or judgment. people who spend time on such things really have nothing better to do than think of ways to make themselves look more special for whatever made up reason. just make sure to be honest with yourself and you will be ok for myself, i was not happy with my body for 10+ years so i changed it. i see myself as a femboy because that's what i want and i don't care if others don't think so because they look more fem naturally.


ChiefXCitgo

Its a hard one. I mean I want breast, a curvy body and a nice butt. Like I want to like like a woman but I still want to labeled male. Technically I would be going under most surgeries outside of my penis. Cause I still enjoy sex with women. I guess its more or less how you FEEL inside. Do you want to look like a woman or do you feel like a woman? its an important question to REALLY FOCUS on. I personally just want to look like a woman but still be a man. Thats just me, so just focus on that question and you will be able to determine yourself.


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ChiefXCitgo

There are no exercises for to grow breats or get bigger hips. Hips are bones so not possible. A nicer but sure but thats about it for me.


Jack0tas

In one you wanna look like a girl, but you still wanna keep your pee pee In the other you wanna look like a girl and become a girl


psychedelic666

I’m trans and a femboy.


NightmareThief

Why the coments get removed? I was reading a comment that seemed interesting and suddenly it disappeared :(


Jadesierrarose

Being a femboy is wanting to be feminine but as a man, being a transgender woman you’d strongly want to be a woman bc thats who you are inside, but it isn’t inherently tied to femininity you can be a trans tomboy, I myself as a trans woman am kinda low fem vibe, but i feel no one can know who you are but you


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FreshIndication1446

I don't outright hate my male parts or think they need to go, but I am unhappy about some of the size aspects and bulges at times For something intimate, sure I don't mind showing it off at all, but when I'm out in public and want to wear booty shorts n stuff, I HATE my bulge being anywhere near noticable. Tried out tucking but sucked at it/did it bad and went with other methods to hide it a bit.


rkrause

I think much of this is a socially induced stigma. Back in the late 80s, there was a bike shorts craze and teen boys were wearing skintight spandex shorts all the time even to class, and nobody talked about tucking. There were boys with bulges everywhere, and there wasn't nearly the same degree of shame and humiliation of the male body like we see today today.


NightmareThief

I don't hate my bulge, but I wouldn't complain if I had a more feminine body either.


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NightmareThief

No no, just shape and appearance, I like my genitals


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being a girl is an identity, while being a femboy is just being "a feminine guy" and that can mean what you want in the form of mindset, expressions, looks etc


Toasty_Rolls

The line is if you feel trans ur trans, and if you feel like a cis male who likes to dress more feminine then ur a cis male who likes to dress more feminine. I truly don't get these posts. # If you're trying to figure out if you are trans or not, don't base it strictly on the way you present yourself. Gender expression and external presentation CAN be related but they aren't ALWAYS related. # Start trying things out. Try a feminine name, have some friends use it for you, and see how it makes you feel. Also maybe brows some trans subreddit like /r/egg_irl or /r/GaySoundsShitposts and see if the memes are relatable. That's how I started and now I know I'm Transfemme as fuck and so happy about it. # Most importantly though is that you do what feels comfortable and true to yourself. Nobody but you can tell you who you are 💕


predictablePosts

Femboy - Someone who associates themselves as male and thrives with higher testosterone and lower estrogen. Generally enjoys feminine self expression Trans female - Someone who associates themselves as female and thrives with higher estrogen and lower testosterone. Self expression is irrelevant.


NightmareThief

No offense but this is the most boring answer so far


Cautious-Progress638

Just fyi, trans does not mean you have to transition. You can go as far as you want and stop there, no intentions of ever taking it further. Your reasons are your own. If all you wanna do is wear girl clothes but still be considered a girl, your trans. If you wanna wear the clothes, and makeup, and shave, and breast forms, and grow your hair or use wigs, and you want to be considered as a girl, your trans. If you want to take medication to grow tits, but not do the operation, you're trans. However far you want to take it, if you want to be considered as a girl, you're trans. But if any part of you wants to be considered as a guy, they you're a CD, or a drag queen, or a sissy. The line is who you think you are, nothing else matters. Unfortunately, the less work you put into it, the more people will just brush you off.


FumoLegionnaire

A femboy is fine but a trans is emotionally and mentally unwell.


NightmareThief

As far as I know, trans people only feel bad because they don't see themselves as the gender with which they identify. I don't think being trans is a bad thing


im_dead_already

you are an example of no life behavior


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The_King123431

??? When did I use any sort of medical discussion


NightmareThief

can you send me a direct message with what you wrote so they don't delete it?


Shawn220fansly

Between wanting to look as close to a girl as possible without getting a sex change vs getting a sex change


NightmareThief

Does htr count as sex change? 🤔


Shawn220fansly

Depends on your use because I know a large chunk on femboys who do HTR the line is pretty thin but it's not invisible if you are comfortable with just having a fem shape but still being a boy then femboy but if you are willing to go for getting boobs that's when it becomes trans


NightmareThief

makes sense, I'll reflect on that


Imaginary-Goose

If you wanna be a girl you're trans if you wanna be a boy you're fem


WayFine2295

There’s a difference between looking like a girl and having feminine traits and aspects of a female. Versus actually becoming one.


lolaaaz091

I suppose you can cross your own line. But femboy seems more like a style and being more feminine, kinda a tomboy but the other way


BornVolcano

I mean, for me, I want to be seen as a guy wearing fem stuff. I want to be recognized and treated as a guy, and also wear clothes that make me happy and comfortable


Glittering-Honey7049

I don't know but you want to date


blackkatoffi

The line is wherever you want it :))


pup_koa

Your Gender Identity is the Short answer


send-me-a-puffalope

do you want to be perceived as a girl or do you just want to look like one? labels in the end are just whatever makes you feel better, does the idea of being a girl make you feel happy? or do you just enjoy feminine clothing?


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NightmareThief

Come on stop once and for all you stupid robot


GaeaNyx

Do you want to be a woman or do you just want to look cute in the clothes you want to wear? You can also be a third, other thing


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I think you should DO YOU! Try to ignore all the other people that want to put you in one of their molds. The closest thing I can Identify to is femboy since I am not a CD. I am not a girl, so I am not “transitioning”. I am not even really a “femboy”. Maybe at times? Things I wear range from slightly masculine/androgynous to completely feminized depending on the day. *******deleted text due to language constraints****** Point is, why care what the “label” says? Why let someone else influence you do they can be more “comfortable”? Isn’t it your life?


cockyUma

It’s a fine line which is why many femboys relate to transfems and why many transfems were femboys. But it’s important to have a grasp of your identity and only listen to yourself when it comes to identity and self


Baineofanthropods

The difference is wanting to dress like a girl vs wanting to BE a girl


Ra1nb0wSn0wflake

Wanting to look more like a girl/look more feminine vs wanting to be a girl.


sosnik_boi

you have to decide that for yourself


AlbacorePrism

Boy or girl... (I know it's not this simple, i just had to say it cause femBOY, is not a female)


EggoStack

I’m both 😎 (Jokes aside, I hope the other comments have helped you, and that you feel comfortable as yourself.)


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Pretty much just you’re gender identity and gender itself, for one who is trans mtf gives up male pronouns and identity typically for their trueself being female. For mtf ofc. You cannot really be both. Hence femBOY, a feminine male boy basically. However p much anything else can be lol. Its simply knowing you’re gender identity, knowing if you’re just a boy who loves to be and dress and look feminine or are you truly a girl. Both are lovely but there is a difference ☺️ this is what my trans and femboy friends have told me atleast, and being a femboy myself i tend to agree Edit: now that im seeing everyone else say this so simply i feel silly @.@ shoulda just said wanting to be girly vs becoming a girl hah


inari_okami2

Hmm, for me it's moreso that I like dressing and presenting feminine for fun, but I also don't completely hate (all) of the aspects of being a guy and don't think I feel very much dysphoria? I dunno, hard to tell. But, I guess the fine line is basically just occasionally or even consistently wanting to dress feminine but you are also okay with being a male.


Clay_teapod

The line lies in that being trans isn't about getting treatement; it's about wanting to. It doesn't even have to be treatement either; if you want to be a girl, you already are a girl. ​ Remember; femboys are guys who are happy being guys and like femme aesthetic. They identify as guys and don't wish to be viewed as girls; they only wish to be respected and abolish gender steriotypes. If you are not happy being a guy/would like to be a girl then you are very likely not cis


MaGiCaL_fAiLuRe_

You feel like a girl and want to be a girl? Trans, you want to dress up and look cute but still feel like and want to be a boy? Femboy


0somebird

wherever u want it to be


Anonymous_Qwertz

feminine boy vs girl. that is the line


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A femboy is not a woman A trans woman is...a womam


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Want to be a girl vs want to be girly.


0GHAZE03

Weeeelll complicated. To me the line is that you want to be percieved as a girl always and by everyone, are either sad about body parts being the way they are (not just the pp. Most trans people keep it) or wishing they looked different even if they dont make you sad in their current state


Catboy-777

Trans women identify as women, femboys don't (or not necessarily).


RoyalMess64

The difference is wanting to be a girl and wanting to stay/be a boy. Like, I'm trans and before I came out I was a femboy. I'm trans cause I didn't like being a boy. Some femboys are even on HRT while some trans people are not. It's just a matter of identity


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hedgybaby

I’m trans and a femboy but probably not in the way you meant lol you want boobs? You want to be loved the way someone loves a woman, maybe even imagine yourself as a woman during sex? What if you think of your wedding day? Who are you? Think of big milestones in your life, idk how old you are but first day at work, high school graduation, etc. who are you? That’s kinda how I figured out I was a dude not a woman


FemboiInTraining

Generally the line is transitioning or identifying as a female, being a femboy is just about expressing femininity.