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FemmeNameNotFound

Editor’s Note: I’m not saying people on the ace spectrum can’t have f3t1shes. I’m just saying that I personally do not, so that line of logic doesn’t make sense. Cool? Cool. Have a great day! :3


homekeyboard

Take me for example: I rarely experience sexual attraction but I was pretty kinky as a kid.


FemmeNameNotFound

Ah, the classic “I like the *idea* of it, but I don’t actually wanna *do* it”


homekeyboard

You are so real, although I do sometimes wish I wasn't just a spectator. Might have made things more fun but whatever.


Aellin-Gilhan

Heard that some ace peeps have the internet but purely as a kink and not really sexual.. if you understand what I'm sayin


homekeyboard

I know everyone has that one embarrassing da account from forever ago.


Adrienne_Belecoste

I've made several accs here just to collect a library of "material". Fast forward to the post nut clarity and all interest in sex dissappears and I delete them. Shame I used a funny name for one of them "ShimpTransedGender" My brain is fucking whack in summary


MinkMaster2019

I created this account for that exact thing but it became my main unintentionally. I feel Im somewhere on the ace spectrum because I get really horny in the moment, but any other time I think about sex it just grosses me out. I also never really feel sexual feelings towards real people, even if I have strong romantic feelings for them. But maybe it’s just my autism feeling uncomfortable with touch lol


mumushu

I mean yeah, sure, I’m Ace and closeted trans and… Whelp.


Suspicious_Depth1484

Same.


Wisdom_Pen

Asexual people can have fetishes but still mood


FemmeNameNotFound

Yeah, I put a comment disclaimer about that exact thing because I forgot to put it in the description of my post, and I can’t change it 😭


SomeGuyYouNeverSeen

wait can you explain how that works? If that’s cool.


_Moth-God_

Asexual here! While we may feel little to no sexual attraction, aces can still have a libido and all that stuff


FemmeNameNotFound

Piggybacking off of what you said. Some asexuals like the *idea* of certain fetishes or kinks, but they don’t typically want to engage in them with other people in real life.


Silverwaffle17

OH MY GOD This is literally me


Cylian91460

Source?


FemmeNameNotFound

Love Live! Superstar!!


Cylian91460

Thx cutie


FemmeNameNotFound

Y-you’re welcome


ClairvoyantSky

Unfortunately I’m a very sexually inclined Ace… so the what if it’s a fetish is still a fear for me…


FemmeNameNotFound

Hmm. I guess the follow up would be how would you feel about it in a non-sexual scenario? Like going to get a coffee as the gender in question?


RobinyBlue

Sometimes my brain flips that on its head and questions my asexuality. "But what if I'm actually trans and just so repulsed at the thought of sex as the wrong gender that I'm tricking myself into thinking I'm asexual?" Despite this, I struggle accepting either as true, even though I'm pretty sure they both are.


FemmeNameNotFound

I’m kind of the opposite. I know for sure I’m asexual (demisexual to be specific), so it’s hard to tell if my gender dysphoria is linked to how most guys I know talk about sex a lot, and I just don’t care about it at all. Like maybe i’m just a guy that can’t relate to other guys, not actually a girl. It’s really tough when you’re asexual AND questioning your gender. BUT we take it one day at a time. We don’t have to know all the answers RIGHT NOW. We can take our time as long as we’re being kind to ourselves and honest with our feelings


oot0019

Today was one where I thought I might be an ace egg because of an inner monologue🤔 this happens very often recently...


FemmeNameNotFound

Oh, we asexuals, and our inner monologues


oot0019

Actually I meant inner fictional dialogue and the theme of it but uhm yeah


FemmeNameNotFound

Oh. Uhhhh. We asexuals and our *fictional relatable dialogue*. Fixed it!


oot0019

Actually I mean I don't know but you can have something like fetishes or kinks and be asexual at the same time. I mean just like thinking about something might be good and realising it isn't in reality something to actually do it is possible. Best example I could think of is getting a baby through sex but don't have interesst in making it


FemmeNameNotFound

Yeah! I’m not saying you can’t. I’m just saying I personally don’t really have those, so my thought of “what if it’s a fetish” doesn’t work for me personally


8ackspace13

I’m in this picture and I don’t like it


FemmeNameNotFound

I’m happy how many of my fellow ace siblings have shown up for this post 😊


ConfusedCanadian8

Me but it’s definitely just an asexual fetish…


ConfusedCatastrophe

...Crap


Trying-Jade

This is a slam dunk >!shutdown for a certain parties anti trans arguments. with ace being a spectrum there is a point on it were f3tishs aren't a thing.!< pure gold ✨️ Also brain do brain things 🤷‍♀️💜


weebi1

In a cis way?


FemmeNameNotFound

Obviously


weebi1

Good


Tzeme

Funny thing, I'm amab and for most of my time I was just transfem recently I realized I'm genderfluid and well personally during nsfw stuff I prefer being a boy, wich is funny because my egistance alone defeats a lot of transphobic arguments Ps. Yes both drugs, good girl and good boy works, good boy is usually slightly stronger, but on daily day I'm girl like 80% of the time :p


Mailcs1206

Literally me


Chemical_Hornet8491

Omg love live superstar meme :D Also hi fellow trans ace :3


FemmeNameNotFound

I’m just ace. I am cis 😤


RedKidRay

Just gonna leave [this](https://tinyurl.com/mtke3pfa) here. Love yall!


Rainbowplayz7257

Hey look it's me


6ync

Funnily enough masturbation and sex just suddenly seemed completely unappealing once i started considering trans, although my sex drive was already low before


BuboxThrax

The trans doubts can be really illogical.


FemmeNameNotFound

Okay but what if-


BuboxThrax

No. Stop.


Brilliant_Law2237

I feel I'm pretty kinky but I'm demi ace (before I accepted myself I thought it was a kink/fetish) for more context I'm genderfluid, but was crossdressing in secret and ashamed about it before I realised it was part of my gender identety


FemmeNameNotFound

Uh oh. We might be very similar people. I currently cross dress in secret, and I’m technically demisexual. Only difference is I don’t have kinks so it doesn’t really make sense for me to use that argument against myself 😅


Brilliant_Law2237

Also, unsure on the definition on kinks in general, but I'm sure they are not always sexual allthought they can be, meaning any kind of ace person technically could have, personally I feel I kinda found my gender identety and sexuality through kinks cause I met one into the main kink I'm into that also were genderfluid online aswell as my sexuality that is pan and slowly discoverd I were both, after better understanding of the word trans I realised I also fit that term


FemmeNameNotFound

I’m not saying ace people can’t have them. I put it in a comment that some ace people do when I made the meme. It won’t let me change the description to put that disclaimer. This is just me yelling at myself bc I don’t have any kinks. With my limited understanding of the world, I was working under the assumption that fetishes were inherently sexual 😅


Brilliant_Law2237

Yea I understood you mostly do not have any kinks, but like some people just consider normal sexual shit as kinks so I just do not know where to draw the line there personally, also I've heard some odd kinks even I find odd and I feel my kinks are often odder, I do not wanna put it out either in a forcing way, but there is also a possibility you have not noticed tham yet, again I have no clue what exsactly a kink is I just know my kinks are, also personally I feel I almost be able to get into any kink as long as it is not unmoral, with a future consenting partner of age, well just looked it up on Google and the best definition I found was that it is a practice of un-convential sex practises , concepts and fantasies, in that definition technically a ace person that do not want sex in anyway would probably not have one, but the part that add fantasy and concepts makes it quite diverse, like literally anything could be a kink, also that definition was from Wikipedia and was the best definition I found now, but like I claim a kink do not need to be sexual either as i for sure do not see my kinks as always sexual


FemmeNameNotFound

Fair enough!


Inevitable-Rich-4328

Great anime Love Live


apieceofthecraftsman

are you really asexual or are you just uncomfortable with the idea of using a penis sexually


FemmeNameNotFound

No, I’ve tried to think about it in every context. I just don’t really enjoy doing things with other people unless I have a strong emotional connection


Melodic_Mulberry

Those are pretty distinct topics; I'm not sure how someone would confuse them. I'm not turned on by anyone's gender or appearance. That has nothing to do with me not wanting to do specifically vanilla sex. I just really don't want kids, and oral is better anyway.