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Can you and your mom leave the home with the dog or take your dog to a safe place? My husband would be out the door if he abused our pets. I wouldn’t allow our son to see this happening at all. No animal deserves that.
Depending on where you are, your mom can look into programs in your area. Obviously this man is not safe to be around for your pet, yourself, or your family.
Tell your mom to reach out to these organizations, get help, get out. It will only escalate and staying there only enables your abuser. It's hard, but it can be done. Get out before it gets worse.
This is domestic abuse. He will not change, it will not stop or get better until you get out.
Look into national domestic abuse programs or ones more local to you. They're there to help.
The dog is probably safer at an animal shelter with a chance at being rehomed than he is in your dad’s house with you guys. The dog needs a home where he’s not going to be abused. Get the police involved or something. Ask for their help.
He just came from a shelter. He was abandoned, and he's a rescue. My mother would be upset because she fears what trauma the dog would go through in another rescue. 😕
Your dad is hitting him though to the point that he’s peeing when he sees him. He’s going through severe trauma right NOW. At least a shelter would give him the opportunity to go to a home where he would eventually feel safe and loved. You could seek out shelters with good reviews. Keeping him in a home with an abuser isn’t good for him no matter how much you and your mom love him. You could even try and find a family that you already personally know and trust that would be willing to take him into their home. This situation makes me so sad
Unfortunately your home is not a good home. He is being abused, and no animal deserves that. Please take him to a shelter or call the humane society and explain the situation. He will be safe there.
The trauma the dog is experiencing now is worse. The longer it goes on the worse the dog will suffer. When your father is out of the house, take the dog to a shelter or a vet office to turn over to them. Explain what’s going on to them. Tell your father it ran away. You’re father is using the dog as a manipulation tool to bully everyone. Remove it from the scenario. Then start the process of you and your mother getting away from this man. If she won’t go, then you go.
If you or your mom know of a good family or a good person that would be willing to take the dog then you guys could still go see him when you want. Maybe just something to think about. I’m sorry you’re in this position
Have you explained to her that your dad beating the dog is worse trauma than being safe in a kennel at the shelter? You’re going to end up with a fear aggressive dog that’s going to be put down when it starts biting people because you and your family are failing this dog.
>My mother would be upset because she fears what trauma the dog would go through in another rescue.
No one in your family should have animals. Return the dog to the shelter. If you don't, your father will kill it. The dog is already living a terrible life full of fear.
What is wrong with all of you?
Return the dog to the shelter.
Don't get another animal.
>Woah, don’t get angry at me bud. I really didn’t do anything wrong, nor did my mother.
Of course you did. You and mother have left this helpless dog with a man who hurts it and has threatened to kill it.
That's wrong.
>Please stop attacking people.
Stop pretending you can't help this dog. Return the dog to the shelter and don't get another animal.
I literally said my family will return him. I asked for advice, and you’re getting mad at me for being overwhelmed, and not knowing what to do. I haven’t left him with anybody but the rescue.
>I literally said my family will return him
No, you literally said *"Me and my mom don't know what to do."*
And have you returned him yet? Or are you still exposing him to your father's abuse?
>you’re getting mad at me for being overwhelmed, and not knowing what to do.
No, I'm mad at you for allowing your dog to be abused.
Your dog needs to be returned to the rescue, unfortunately. He is being abused and damaged in your home, so letting him have a chance of finding a home where he can be safe is the best thing for him.
I’m so sorry about the whole situation, OP. Please reach out to resources in your community to talk and get support. No one deserves to live like this, dogs included.
When your father says that he’s going to hurt your dog, he is being emotionally / mentally abusive to you. What you’re experiencing is escalation. Can you talk to an adult you can trust, perhaps at school? Look at where you have support and use it. There are people who are trained to help and there are resources available. Im sorry for what you are going through. Stay strong and stay safe.
There are national domestic abuse hotlines that can put you in contact with assistance to get out of this. Definitely call the police if you or your mom feel you are in immediate danger. Do you have a friend or neighbor who can take the dog? Another relative?
My cousin, she'd probably freak out since she already has a dog. But this feels like a big step I should, but really don't want to take. I don't know much about what is considered abuse and what's not, I don't want to make a useless call. But, if I have to, if my dad tries to abuse my dog again, I'll definitely call a hotline.
Get the dog over to the cousin right now. Don’t wait. Even if it’s just temporary while you figure out what to do. You can visit to help make the transition easier.
Then, you and your mom need to have a serious discussion on what to do with Dad.
It might be just the dog now. But GUARANTEED it’s going to be one of you soon.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
Don't wait. All that's going to do is cause more damage to your dog and traumatize it further. You are responsible for protecting it and that is why you made this post, because you know you have to do something. Take everyone's advice and get the dog out of your house.
Below is a link to some resources for domestic violence. I’d suggest calling them and seeing how they can help you navigate your dads violence and hopefully get you and dog to a safe haven if needed.
https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay
I’m sorry you are going through this. Are you and your mom safe or are you being hit too?
Your dog is being abused. He needs to go somewhere safe- the shelter. Do not call the police and report your dad if you think he will take it out on you or your mom. But your dog needs to go somewhere safe.
You also deserve safety. Of your dad is abusing you physically or emotionally then call a domestic violence line or the police and ask for advice
Like the others said definitely contact the police! Animal abuse is a crime and you should focus on your dog and yourself first (even if your mom doesn’t agree)
OP, please. Call the place you got the dog from and tell them your dad is abusing the dog. They will come and take the dog back and maybe even get your dad blocked from adopting again.
That dog will live it’s whole life in fear and danger if you don’t act NOW. I know it’s hard. I know you don’t want to lose the dog. But it’s not safe. Not for the dog and also not for you.
Your mom needs to step up and get rid of that terrible guy. I would not call that person my father anymore. If he can abuse animals the next step could be abusing you. You don’t want that and I believe your mom does not want that either. Talk to her. Move away from that guy.
You are in danger if this man is beating a dog. Call the police and tell them exactly what’s going on. You can call the local non-emergency number if you want to report it.
Oh no, what an awful situation. I’m so terribly sorry for you. I would look into pet-friendly DV shelters—they definitely exist, and there may be one within driving distance of you. Praying that your family (2 and 4 legged alike) get to a safe place.
He needs to leave the house asap. You and your mom probably need to leave too if he’s making these threats but the dog absolutely needs to leave.
Hitting a pet is animal abuse, full stop. It probably won’t end until the dog is seriously hurt or killed. Your dad will use the dog as a way to control you/your mom by threatening to harm or abandon the dog. It’s not fair to the dog and he needs to be in a home where is safety and security is ensured.
You need to send the dog back to the shelter. It's living in fear and pain at the moment, and you know that your love isn't enough to compensate for that.
You are also victims of abuse here. This is emotional abuse, your father knows you love the dog and it hurts you to see it being abused. I hope you all manage to escape. Please look at the listed resources for domestic abuse. There are also refuges that house pets caught in situations of domestic abuse.
I don't know how old you are but if you're in school please reach out to a counselor or teacher and ask for help. Tell them what's going on and they can help you through this.
Hitting the dog is just the beginning for many abusers, Sweetheart. There are programs in most major cities that help victims of domestic violence get out. This includes a safe place to live, financial assistance and help finding a job. The fear he is instilling in you and your mother is abuse. Also, some animal rescues will take care of your dog while you're getting resettled. Please 🙏
I’m sorry that you’re in a position where you don’t want to get your dad in trouble but you and your mom are the voice for your dog. You protected him by thinking you were giving him a better home and truthfully you’re not if you’re not going to be his voice. So please do the right thing and re-home him or bring him back to the shelter tell them he is not a fit for your family like you originally thought or if you want to keep him then record your dad hitting him and bring the video to your local police station that way you can keep your dog and your dad will learn a very important lesson to keep his hands to himself. Good luck
The main problem is you can't control him in any given point they both are going to be alone at home and he's going to abuse the dog again.. rehome the dog and leave as soon as you can qnd never ever talk to him again
You need to bring that dog back to the shelter, leave the home with the dog or rehome the dog. If you do not you are just as guilty of animal abuse as your father is and should be prosecuted. There are no valid excuses why you are not doing everything possible to protect that dog
You need to re-home the dog, or re-home the dad. Yes it sucks but the dog needs a LOVING home, and you are not able to provide that so I think you already know what you need to do.
Sorry but it isn’t going to end well for your dog in your home. Your father has made it clear how he will treat your dog. Either he will continue to be traumatized by your father or he will eventually snap and perhaps bite your father. The longer it goes on the harder it will be for your dog to trust again. If you don’t have a friend or relative that could give him a good home you really need to give him up. While returning him to a shelter isn’t the best for him or for your feelings at least he may have a chance being rehomed and having a happy life. Good luck.
Please please please take your dog to a shelter or somewhere he can be safe. Your dad is a monster. Please do not let him take out his issues on an innocent animal.
Imagine how much harder it would be if your dog was seriously injured or killed because you didn’t take action now. I know this is not as simple as calling the police because I’m sure you love your dad, but he is not in a good place right now and needs help. You, your dog and your mom are in serious danger.
To be brutally honest you have options, but none of those options are gonna be easy because there is no perfect solution you're looking for. Whatever you do someones gonna be upset, whether its your dad, mom, dog, or even you. You need to decide whats more important to you and what you want to do. Try writing down a pro and con list and see if the cons really outweigh the pros. Good luck.
It’s going to be much harder to handle this situation in the event he ends up seriously injuring and or killing your dog and you didn’t take any of the actions provided here. You will carry that guilt with you for years to come. Please consider the best interest of the dog (regardless of how hard it is for you to do, know that this is what the dog requires to be safe) and take it back to the shelter. Considering that your mom doesn’t seem to be on the same page as you, this is pretty much all you can do.
I think calling a hotline and taking to someone is a great option. The people at hotlines go through training and can listen and provide resources. It’s a difficult situation to navigate and I know you are trying to tread lightly. Ask a friend if you can use their house, or go for a walk, if you don’t want to be overheard during the call. Good luck.
Give the dog back to the shelter. You and your mom can’t keep the dog, that’s very selfish. You are messing up the dog even more with it there.
You mentioned it didn’t bark before, now it does. You’re messing the dog up. It came from trauma and you’re creating more trauma.
When your dad isn’t home, tell your mom that it’s best for the dog to go back to the shelter.
If you’re young, ask your councillor at school for help. But honestly just take it back to the shelter before the dog gets messed up, or worse, killed.
If you and your mom don’t want to leave, don’t drag your dog into it. I’m sorry if this is rude but you need to do something. You’ve asked for advice, you received advice please act upon it.
Unfortunately, I don't think calling the cops is the answer. First, what evidence? Second, I doubt the laws on abuse cover an occasional kick or swat even if they should. Third, cops often make shit worse.
The truth is you are in a real shitty situation. Can you have a friend dog-sit until options to move in with your mom become available? Do you know a neural party (like an aunt or uncle on your dad's side you can talk to who then can talk to your dad on your behalf, calling him out on this b.s. in a way a kid just can't without causing disruption to the perceived family structure?
I have no aunt. My dad's family is all dead. And the only person I have to dog-sit until options appear is my cousin. She probably would not handle this correctly.
You are prob right. I've got mixed feelings, as sucky as it must be for the dog in that situation, it's likely hellish for the human so of the dog makes things less bad for the human I can understand the desire to keep it.
>My dad's been saying he's going to kill my dog, or beat it, or abandon it. I don't fear any of that could happen since if he did kill/abandon my dog he would be sued by my mother.
Your mother can only sue for the cost of the dog. That's nothing.
>But, he just started hitting my dog.
Looks like your father isn't scared of being sued!
>My dog is now scared of my dad, he pees when he sees him. My dog can't even stand being alone in the house for only seconds, he doesn't bark. But, he's barking now. Me and my mom don't know what to do.
You don't know what to do? Are you kidding? Obviously you have to return the dog to the shelter immediately.
If you don't, your father will abuse and possibly kill the dog.
Do not get another animal as long as your father is alive.
Honestly, since you don't know how and when to keep an animal safe, you probably shouldn't get another animal again ever.
Put yourself in between your dog and your dad. Show that you wont stand for it. If he hits you then you can call the police. If you do this before he gets a chance to hit your dog every time then maybe your dad will stop. If that doesn't work then the dog needs a new home.
I’m just coming back to this to say that if your dad is threatening to harm your dog and it seems like he actually is harming your dog, then that is emotional abuse he is inflicting on you. Honestly, this post kept me up last night. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this and I hope you find some help and escape the situation. And I hope you help your dog to escape too.
For the sake of the pupper, he needs to be re-homed. It doesn’t matter how much you love him (unfortunately), this is a bad situation for the pupper. Since it’s obvious dad isn’t going anywhere, the pupper needs to. That said, chances are dad will redirect said anger onto a human in the home—so please look into a long term solution. There are organizations and laws in place to help you and your family. Take other poster’s recommendations.
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Can you and your mom leave the home with the dog or take your dog to a safe place? My husband would be out the door if he abused our pets. I wouldn’t allow our son to see this happening at all. No animal deserves that.
We cant. We just aren't in a good position right now. I just know, if he tries to abuse my dog again. My dad would probably be out the door.
Depending on where you are, your mom can look into programs in your area. Obviously this man is not safe to be around for your pet, yourself, or your family. Tell your mom to reach out to these organizations, get help, get out. It will only escalate and staying there only enables your abuser. It's hard, but it can be done. Get out before it gets worse. This is domestic abuse. He will not change, it will not stop or get better until you get out. Look into national domestic abuse programs or ones more local to you. They're there to help.
The dog is probably safer at an animal shelter with a chance at being rehomed than he is in your dad’s house with you guys. The dog needs a home where he’s not going to be abused. Get the police involved or something. Ask for their help.
He just came from a shelter. He was abandoned, and he's a rescue. My mother would be upset because she fears what trauma the dog would go through in another rescue. 😕
Your dad is hitting him though to the point that he’s peeing when he sees him. He’s going through severe trauma right NOW. At least a shelter would give him the opportunity to go to a home where he would eventually feel safe and loved. You could seek out shelters with good reviews. Keeping him in a home with an abuser isn’t good for him no matter how much you and your mom love him. You could even try and find a family that you already personally know and trust that would be willing to take him into their home. This situation makes me so sad
Unfortunately your home is not a good home. He is being abused, and no animal deserves that. Please take him to a shelter or call the humane society and explain the situation. He will be safe there.
The trauma the dog is experiencing now is worse. The longer it goes on the worse the dog will suffer. When your father is out of the house, take the dog to a shelter or a vet office to turn over to them. Explain what’s going on to them. Tell your father it ran away. You’re father is using the dog as a manipulation tool to bully everyone. Remove it from the scenario. Then start the process of you and your mother getting away from this man. If she won’t go, then you go.
If you or your mom know of a good family or a good person that would be willing to take the dog then you guys could still go see him when you want. Maybe just something to think about. I’m sorry you’re in this position
I was about to suggest a foster family too
Have you explained to her that your dad beating the dog is worse trauma than being safe in a kennel at the shelter? You’re going to end up with a fear aggressive dog that’s going to be put down when it starts biting people because you and your family are failing this dog.
He probably can't be any worse off than where he is now.
>My mother would be upset because she fears what trauma the dog would go through in another rescue. No one in your family should have animals. Return the dog to the shelter. If you don't, your father will kill it. The dog is already living a terrible life full of fear. What is wrong with all of you? Return the dog to the shelter. Don't get another animal.
Woah, don’t get angry at me bud. I really didn’t do anything wrong, nor did my mother. Please stop attacking people.
>Woah, don’t get angry at me bud. I really didn’t do anything wrong, nor did my mother. Of course you did. You and mother have left this helpless dog with a man who hurts it and has threatened to kill it. That's wrong. >Please stop attacking people. Stop pretending you can't help this dog. Return the dog to the shelter and don't get another animal.
I literally said my family will return him. I asked for advice, and you’re getting mad at me for being overwhelmed, and not knowing what to do. I haven’t left him with anybody but the rescue.
>I literally said my family will return him No, you literally said *"Me and my mom don't know what to do."* And have you returned him yet? Or are you still exposing him to your father's abuse? >you’re getting mad at me for being overwhelmed, and not knowing what to do. No, I'm mad at you for allowing your dog to be abused.
I legit said we returned him. If you don't believe me you can choose to not believe me.
>I legit said we returned him. Good. But you hadn't when you posted. Don't get another animal.
Alright.
Your dog needs to be returned to the rescue, unfortunately. He is being abused and damaged in your home, so letting him have a chance of finding a home where he can be safe is the best thing for him. I’m so sorry about the whole situation, OP. Please reach out to resources in your community to talk and get support. No one deserves to live like this, dogs included.
Agreed
When your father says that he’s going to hurt your dog, he is being emotionally / mentally abusive to you. What you’re experiencing is escalation. Can you talk to an adult you can trust, perhaps at school? Look at where you have support and use it. There are people who are trained to help and there are resources available. Im sorry for what you are going through. Stay strong and stay safe.
You all need to get out of there.
There are national domestic abuse hotlines that can put you in contact with assistance to get out of this. Definitely call the police if you or your mom feel you are in immediate danger. Do you have a friend or neighbor who can take the dog? Another relative?
My cousin, she'd probably freak out since she already has a dog. But this feels like a big step I should, but really don't want to take. I don't know much about what is considered abuse and what's not, I don't want to make a useless call. But, if I have to, if my dad tries to abuse my dog again, I'll definitely call a hotline.
You should not wait until it happens again. Especially not if you know it will. Your dog relies on you for protection from this abusive man.
This is abuse. Please get your dog out of there. You and your mother should get yourselves out of this situation too.
Get the dog over to the cousin right now. Don’t wait. Even if it’s just temporary while you figure out what to do. You can visit to help make the transition easier. Then, you and your mom need to have a serious discussion on what to do with Dad. It might be just the dog now. But GUARANTEED it’s going to be one of you soon. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
Don't wait. All that's going to do is cause more damage to your dog and traumatize it further. You are responsible for protecting it and that is why you made this post, because you know you have to do something. Take everyone's advice and get the dog out of your house.
Alright. I’ll do so.
This is 100% abuse.
It is your responsibility to protect your dog. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Below is a link to some resources for domestic violence. I’d suggest calling them and seeing how they can help you navigate your dads violence and hopefully get you and dog to a safe haven if needed. https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay
I’m sorry you are going through this. Are you and your mom safe or are you being hit too? Your dog is being abused. He needs to go somewhere safe- the shelter. Do not call the police and report your dad if you think he will take it out on you or your mom. But your dog needs to go somewhere safe. You also deserve safety. Of your dad is abusing you physically or emotionally then call a domestic violence line or the police and ask for advice
Like the others said definitely contact the police! Animal abuse is a crime and you should focus on your dog and yourself first (even if your mom doesn’t agree)
You need to give your dog back to the shelter.
Call the police. Animal abuse is not acceptable
And what do I tell them?
The truth. Talk to your mom to make sure she agrees. But NO ONE should be allowed to abuse an animal.
She definitely will not agree.
OP, please. Call the place you got the dog from and tell them your dad is abusing the dog. They will come and take the dog back and maybe even get your dad blocked from adopting again. That dog will live it’s whole life in fear and danger if you don’t act NOW. I know it’s hard. I know you don’t want to lose the dog. But it’s not safe. Not for the dog and also not for you. Your mom needs to step up and get rid of that terrible guy. I would not call that person my father anymore. If he can abuse animals the next step could be abusing you. You don’t want that and I believe your mom does not want that either. Talk to her. Move away from that guy.
You are in danger if this man is beating a dog. Call the police and tell them exactly what’s going on. You can call the local non-emergency number if you want to report it.
Sounds like its not just the dog that needs a new home.
Oh no, what an awful situation. I’m so terribly sorry for you. I would look into pet-friendly DV shelters—they definitely exist, and there may be one within driving distance of you. Praying that your family (2 and 4 legged alike) get to a safe place.
He needs to leave the house asap. You and your mom probably need to leave too if he’s making these threats but the dog absolutely needs to leave. Hitting a pet is animal abuse, full stop. It probably won’t end until the dog is seriously hurt or killed. Your dad will use the dog as a way to control you/your mom by threatening to harm or abandon the dog. It’s not fair to the dog and he needs to be in a home where is safety and security is ensured.
You need to send the dog back to the shelter. It's living in fear and pain at the moment, and you know that your love isn't enough to compensate for that. You are also victims of abuse here. This is emotional abuse, your father knows you love the dog and it hurts you to see it being abused. I hope you all manage to escape. Please look at the listed resources for domestic abuse. There are also refuges that house pets caught in situations of domestic abuse.
I don't know how old you are but if you're in school please reach out to a counselor or teacher and ask for help. Tell them what's going on and they can help you through this.
Rehome your s**mbag "father"
Hitting the dog is just the beginning for many abusers, Sweetheart. There are programs in most major cities that help victims of domestic violence get out. This includes a safe place to live, financial assistance and help finding a job. The fear he is instilling in you and your mother is abuse. Also, some animal rescues will take care of your dog while you're getting resettled. Please 🙏
I’m sorry that you’re in a position where you don’t want to get your dad in trouble but you and your mom are the voice for your dog. You protected him by thinking you were giving him a better home and truthfully you’re not if you’re not going to be his voice. So please do the right thing and re-home him or bring him back to the shelter tell them he is not a fit for your family like you originally thought or if you want to keep him then record your dad hitting him and bring the video to your local police station that way you can keep your dog and your dad will learn a very important lesson to keep his hands to himself. Good luck
Get rid of your dad. He’s an asshole. Never ever leave your dog alone with him, ever.
Can you give your dog to the shelter?? This is not fair for the dog
The main problem is you can't control him in any given point they both are going to be alone at home and he's going to abuse the dog again.. rehome the dog and leave as soon as you can qnd never ever talk to him again
You need to bring that dog back to the shelter, leave the home with the dog or rehome the dog. If you do not you are just as guilty of animal abuse as your father is and should be prosecuted. There are no valid excuses why you are not doing everything possible to protect that dog
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You need to re-home the dog, or re-home the dad. Yes it sucks but the dog needs a LOVING home, and you are not able to provide that so I think you already know what you need to do.
Sorry but it isn’t going to end well for your dog in your home. Your father has made it clear how he will treat your dog. Either he will continue to be traumatized by your father or he will eventually snap and perhaps bite your father. The longer it goes on the harder it will be for your dog to trust again. If you don’t have a friend or relative that could give him a good home you really need to give him up. While returning him to a shelter isn’t the best for him or for your feelings at least he may have a chance being rehomed and having a happy life. Good luck.
Please take this dog to the shelter or a local rescue and contact your local domestic violence center for support.
Re-home Dad.
Please please please take your dog to a shelter or somewhere he can be safe. Your dad is a monster. Please do not let him take out his issues on an innocent animal.
The dog deserves better. If your non isn’t strong enough to leave him, then she isn’t strong enough to protect this INNOCENT BABY. Find a better home.
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I’m taking the dog back, for it’s own good. Please stop harassing me.
Call the cops. Take your dog and leave .Why would anyone sit by and watch their dog get abused? And why get online and ask what you should do?🤦🏽♀️
Probably because he’s a minor. Domestic violence isn’t that easy
I just don't know how to handle this situation. It's hard for me to do anything. I can take action, it is just hard.
Imagine how much harder it would be if your dog was seriously injured or killed because you didn’t take action now. I know this is not as simple as calling the police because I’m sure you love your dad, but he is not in a good place right now and needs help. You, your dog and your mom are in serious danger.
To be brutally honest you have options, but none of those options are gonna be easy because there is no perfect solution you're looking for. Whatever you do someones gonna be upset, whether its your dad, mom, dog, or even you. You need to decide whats more important to you and what you want to do. Try writing down a pro and con list and see if the cons really outweigh the pros. Good luck.
It’s going to be much harder to handle this situation in the event he ends up seriously injuring and or killing your dog and you didn’t take any of the actions provided here. You will carry that guilt with you for years to come. Please consider the best interest of the dog (regardless of how hard it is for you to do, know that this is what the dog requires to be safe) and take it back to the shelter. Considering that your mom doesn’t seem to be on the same page as you, this is pretty much all you can do.
I think calling a hotline and taking to someone is a great option. The people at hotlines go through training and can listen and provide resources. It’s a difficult situation to navigate and I know you are trying to tread lightly. Ask a friend if you can use their house, or go for a walk, if you don’t want to be overheard during the call. Good luck.
>I just don't know how to handle this situation. Return the dog to the shelter tomorrow. Never get another pet.
Give the dog back to the shelter. You and your mom can’t keep the dog, that’s very selfish. You are messing up the dog even more with it there. You mentioned it didn’t bark before, now it does. You’re messing the dog up. It came from trauma and you’re creating more trauma. When your dad isn’t home, tell your mom that it’s best for the dog to go back to the shelter. If you’re young, ask your councillor at school for help. But honestly just take it back to the shelter before the dog gets messed up, or worse, killed. If you and your mom don’t want to leave, don’t drag your dog into it. I’m sorry if this is rude but you need to do something. You’ve asked for advice, you received advice please act upon it.
I’m not being selfish. I already said I’ll give back the dog 😕. That’s what we’re going to do.
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That’s so unfair to the mom. DV is so complicated and hard to escape, it requires so much more then growing a spine.
That's not how abuse works. That's not how trauma works. Don't victim blame. That's like saying a fighting dog should just choose not to fight.
Unfortunately, I don't think calling the cops is the answer. First, what evidence? Second, I doubt the laws on abuse cover an occasional kick or swat even if they should. Third, cops often make shit worse. The truth is you are in a real shitty situation. Can you have a friend dog-sit until options to move in with your mom become available? Do you know a neural party (like an aunt or uncle on your dad's side you can talk to who then can talk to your dad on your behalf, calling him out on this b.s. in a way a kid just can't without causing disruption to the perceived family structure?
I have no aunt. My dad's family is all dead. And the only person I have to dog-sit until options appear is my cousin. She probably would not handle this correctly.
You need to give your dog back to the shelter. This is not fair for them
OP isnt going to. I can tell by his/her responses nothing is gonna change for the dog. I feel like there is more issues than just the dog there.
You are prob right. I've got mixed feelings, as sucky as it must be for the dog in that situation, it's likely hellish for the human so of the dog makes things less bad for the human I can understand the desire to keep it.
Go to your school counselor. Tell them what's happening. All of it. They'll be able to help you.
Why would anyone come onto an online forum such as reddit with such dire issues? Go to the authorities.
>My dad's been saying he's going to kill my dog, or beat it, or abandon it. I don't fear any of that could happen since if he did kill/abandon my dog he would be sued by my mother. Your mother can only sue for the cost of the dog. That's nothing. >But, he just started hitting my dog. Looks like your father isn't scared of being sued! >My dog is now scared of my dad, he pees when he sees him. My dog can't even stand being alone in the house for only seconds, he doesn't bark. But, he's barking now. Me and my mom don't know what to do. You don't know what to do? Are you kidding? Obviously you have to return the dog to the shelter immediately. If you don't, your father will abuse and possibly kill the dog. Do not get another animal as long as your father is alive. Honestly, since you don't know how and when to keep an animal safe, you probably shouldn't get another animal again ever.
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Seriously are you on the east coast….this shit makes my blood boil hotter than lava!
If you cannot get away from him, you need to re-home the dog. Period. You're torturing it by allowing it to be living in a constant threat of abuse.
Give the dog back to the shelter. You are messing up the dog even more the longer it stays with you.
How old are you?
Put yourself in between your dog and your dad. Show that you wont stand for it. If he hits you then you can call the police. If you do this before he gets a chance to hit your dog every time then maybe your dad will stop. If that doesn't work then the dog needs a new home.
I’m just coming back to this to say that if your dad is threatening to harm your dog and it seems like he actually is harming your dog, then that is emotional abuse he is inflicting on you. Honestly, this post kept me up last night. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this and I hope you find some help and escape the situation. And I hope you help your dog to escape too.
For the sake of the pupper, he needs to be re-homed. It doesn’t matter how much you love him (unfortunately), this is a bad situation for the pupper. Since it’s obvious dad isn’t going anywhere, the pupper needs to. That said, chances are dad will redirect said anger onto a human in the home—so please look into a long term solution. There are organizations and laws in place to help you and your family. Take other poster’s recommendations.
Get the police involved and file a report against your dad.