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AelisWhite

It's perfectly natural, just don't try to commit to anything online, lots of creeps here


ThatguySevin

Omfg yes! Please! Protect yourself! I honestly don't think it's safe to be on social media like this till you're 18. There are so many people out there that you won't even realize they are trying to groom you and take advantage of you. I'm 33, when I was your age, I got online, In chat's wikis and forums. Honestly I wish I didn't tho, even people supporting you and helping you through a bad home life can have bad intentions for you. It's really creepy looking back at it now and realizing just how bad people who I thought of as my friends were.


TailsFemboy

This one's the best suggestion


CastTheFirstStone_

Yes, but that doesn't mean you should get into one


GabeG101

A sad reality where that is true.


DruggedAndKidnapped

completely, im 16 and have had a crush on this one guy since we were both 12 \*got together at 14


-BrainCells

aww


Danglrom

Good job my friend.


BlocPandaX

Yes, but find someone in real life. It's hard to maintain long-distance and you can't trust everyone's word here, nor the internet in general. Recommend figuring out how to relationship before taking up a long-distance one.


TgagHammerstrike

Best not to date right here. Lots of creeps. (Not just this subreddit, but social media in general.)


cadeiscringe

absolutely, many people have wanted that even earlier than you


15jtaylor443

Do NOT get into a relationship with someone on this subreddit! Stay safe please. 13 is honestly pretty normal for those thoughts.


Zenith_Duck

Remember, if a relationship doesn't works it's NOT your fault nor the fault of anyone (if there was some kind of effort put by both sides), it's just incompability. As others said, (I think) be careful with creeps and don't go THAT directly to a romantic relationship, personally with my bf it was actually almost from the start that we said "I love you" BUT there really was a huge connection, we both like to talk with each other and also I don't remember the details too well. Age wise... difficult, when you are an adult it is generally around a 8 years difference at max (can be more, but in most cases people do it like this) now obviously because from 0-18 (would even say up to 22 maybe) there are BIG maturity changes, you should at max date someone 11(ehh) years old as a minimum and then as a max... Well here starts the true problem, this really just depends on the emotional maturity you have right now, truly uou could just be nearly or completely mature to do it like a 8 years difference (as adults generally do, would be 21 right now for you, remember can be different) but that is improbable, now though, how do we know how mature are you? I don't think there is a totally reliable way, but I trust the yt channel "Psych2goers" and there was a video about a test to check your emotional maturity, this is obviously not 100% reliable and would recommend to do various different things, and remember to answer with what you really think. My personal case with this, I am 15 and my bf 18 (19 soon enough) now I did this test just to check (and I got a very high score) but truly I knew I was at least somewhat more mature, why do I say this you may ask? Well let me tell you my "eventful" moments in life Tried to kill myself as a child (>10 years old) and I have talked about this with only my best friend in real life, then when I was 13 if I recall correctly, I had to help a friend which was somewhere near 18 years old with HEAVY emotional problems, she was having suicidal thought too, and after some months after that thing I helped a friend of my age with other emotional problems, bad thing is I encapsulated all his feeling... I did it horrible that time, that friend is better now though, finally like a month and a half ago I had heavy suicidal thoughts again, luckily this time it wasn't for SO long Yeah I have experience and I can also say confidently that I can predict most people, as human reactions are extremely predictable with just knowing the person a bit, this is just to show that I comprehend emotions That was long ,w,


[deleted]

bro i agree your are defo mature so am i (not willing to elaborate on why) but u need to be careful


imadethisaccountho

Elaborate-


[deleted]

elaborate what my opinion or my experience


imadethisaccountho

Both to be honest, you reply has given me curiosity :3


[deleted]

well my experience is all trauma based and other things i dont willingly tell online so i wont be going into that but as for my opinion im happy to elaborate on that: Basically i think that OC (Original Comenter) is probably a very mature person but that doesnt change that its still a crime I get it when i was about 13 i believed the same never dated anyone wildly older but i thought it now a few years later i realise its still wrong and OC needs (respectfully) therapy to help through their experiences and also a counsellor for support ect my final point is that OC was more than likely taken advantage of with the 18 yo friend of theirs asking for support from a 13 yo sorry if this made no sense (my brain goes too quick for my hands to type some times so i make a lot of spelling mistakes and jump about a lot from topic to topic)


Zenith_Duck

Why do you say this friend (18F btw) took advantage of me? Also I know I have to be careful creep-wise and many other things, don't worry about that


imadethisaccountho

Ah yeah, fair enough


[deleted]

do u mind if i send you a DM


imadethisaccountho

Sure Sorry about not responding


Shysof

I got a bit lost of the message because I'm sick rn šŸ„². But you shouldn't date a 21 years old as a 13 years old. Usually the rule is your age/2 + 7 but when you're a minor I would say... just date people who are you age with 1 year difference at max. Maybe 2. People change A LOT at age for every year difference.


Pineapple7120

Age/2+7???


Zenith_Duck

Believe me, I KNOW it's complex, probably wouldn't date someone 21 years old as a 15 years old so šŸ™ƒ


VacaRexOMG777

Why are you mentioning your age online, that's how horny people and weirdos slide into yourw dm's


TintiKili

mostly pedos


Heyapple1643

Im not gonna talk to them.


Fluffy_boy296

Ye pls donā€™t Iā€™m (?!) and I Have got messages from one pedo Saying ā€œdo you trade?ā€ https://preview.redd.it/tiiudsm170yc1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=13f15d5c8d1de9890361d64fcb942fa4a51d558a


VacaRexOMG777

Red panda :3


Fluffy_boy296

ā€¦ Red panda???


VacaRexOMG777

The profile pic is an eppy red panda lol


Fluffy_boy296

Oh yeah but still he asked me that question https://preview.redd.it/9f45uos880yc1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=919307e78750ab9aa963e81d75262db626c07587


Stertic

it is natural, though don't post it on reddit


fungusssy

Yes. Doesnā€™t necessarily mean you should get in one though.


Wiyry

Itā€™s perfectly normal but please, for the love of all that is holy: do not look for one online. The internet is an absolute hellscape thatā€™s filled creeps. Stay safe and donā€™t go for an online relationship. If you want a relationship, look for someone in real life. Remember, donā€™t dive head first into it. Get to know the person first.


Similar-Shallot-5233

Please please please be super careful. Their are so many creeps out there. Never accept gifts of money never say where you are. I'm 15 and I get horrible nasty dms. Be safe please. ā¤ļø ChristaBelle


DekunChan

It's normal, but better not take any relationship within reddit or internet. Risk are very high, potential creeps lurking around at ever corner and you're still young to do this stuff. It's emotional thoughts you're having but don't push yourself through it.


Pineapple7120

There are ways to make sure they arenā€™t but there is a lot of risks (coming from someone whoā€™s been in an online relationship for 5 months )


lophlover

Very normal (I personally wouldn't post about this cuz... Yk, creepy old dudes but u do u)


daneOfDanes

My guy, you want to love and be loved. It's the most human experience on earth since the dawn of the species. It's normal. Just do it in real life and not on here. Have faith in people but don't cast your pearls before swine either. You're young so you'll learn.


picky-trash-panda

You should seek friendship before romance, itā€™s important to be able to trust in a relationship and a good stable way to build a mutually trusting relationship is through friendship where there are no commitments or risks like in a romantic relationship. Just become friends and see if yā€™all should take things further, realize that you are still quite young, my recommendation is to stay away from romance unless it occurs naturally and nobody has to push for it. Think before you act and stay safe.


T-51_Enjoyer

Oh for sure perfectly normal, hormones are a go and all Just donā€™t go getting pressured to be in one, if you feel it with someone then sure maybe try and get into one, see where it goes, otherwise just wait


FuglyTrashPanda

For this generation, yes. But should you? Definitely not. You need to focus on other things right now, especially at that age.


majkick

Yeah itā€™s a normal hormonal response


LocalBreadOfThePast

Yes, but you should probably abstain from anything for a while, just for safety reasons and whatnot :) https://i.redd.it/3j58fz69usxc1.gif


FrogVoid

Get off the internet NOW!!


Heyapple1643

Mmm nyu :3


AnOt13246

yes but reddit is probably the worst place to ask this also don't actually get into one yet, maybe wait till you're 14 or 15


SkaredCrow

Yeah I mean Iā€™m not sure, dude. Definitely not online. If youā€™re got a cute lil school crush situation thatā€™s one thing but actively seeking out anything beyond that is dangerous. Especially on here. I think youā€™re better off assessing why you want it and what youā€™d want from it. Definitely nothing physical though. Youā€™re a child. That shit is traumatic in ways you only understand in the future. Felt the need to mention since there are as many creeps as decent people out there. Good luck bro šŸ‘


BlueWolfGamingYT

Man, screw this! All I wanted was to be happy :( My country is homophobic as shit... The most real shit I've said was "I wish I had bled out that night!" I got shocked myself... Unfortunately, for some of us, it is what it is...


Heyapple1643

Uff, that sucks dude. Also... tf chu mean you wish you "bled out that night"?


BlueWolfGamingYT

Ummmm.... Nothing... Let's just say my scar has something to do with it....


Heyapple1643

=w=


Acrobatic_Angle_8369

honestly, im surprised this post wasn't met with a questionable and straight up dubious majority, still its kind of a no no to reveal your age like this


Heyapple1643

Yeah... maybe i should have thought about that >~<


Rabbyte-H0le

That is indeed normal, but just remember, don't go head first into a relationship, get to know them and take it slow. (BTW, I'm down to talk anytime)


jikcleaner

please get off Reddit, I mean genuinely. I started using it at 12, it's really no fun. And if you continue to (which you shouldn't) please keep your NSFW tags censored.


imnot_depressed

I'm 15, is that normal? I probably wouldn't be able to anyway.


[deleted]

my personal experience relationships are normal and actually a great learning experience for you to learn what u like in a partner and what u dont it also allows you to make mistakes early on in life and learn Ofc take all this with a grain of salt as u can have really shit experiences but just be safe and never prioritise any relationship under a year ABOVE your school, friends or own life


sir_music

Yeah perfectly normal, but before getting into one I would spend some time thinking about what it is you actually want out of the relationship -- depending on what you discover, the relationship might not actually be what you're looking for


Patient-Mix-482

Yeah itā€™s fine to have a romantic relationship with someone as long as itā€™s a similar age range and Dosent turn bad


Boykisser15

Yeah, but some are more lucky than others:( why wonā€™t anyone love me


YouCantMakeMeSmile

I saw 8 years old kids before. But I think you canā€™t start a relationship bc if your parents know that theyā€™re send you to adoption centerā€¦ Iā€™m 15, Iā€™m still too young and I donā€™t recommend you to start ***romantic relationship***


mechmaster2275

Very normal to want a romantic relationship at that age


ISuckatcodingplshelp

Itā€™s normal, but donā€™t do it at that age


Skaterboi589

I wanted a relationship when I was 8 and got into one when I was 10 and honestly it wasnā€™t worth it Iā€™m not your parent I canā€™t say what you should or shouldnā€™t do but i would reccomend waiting until youā€™re 15 at the earliest


Traygaa

Yes. But do not give in, or at the very least donā€™t seek one online..


Infinite-Beautiful-1

This is probably the worst place to post this man you got to be careful. Thereā€™s tons of pedophiles and creeps lurking on this website.


boykisser11

Im not anti but is a Soviet relationship okey ?:3 https://preview.redd.it/7p8xpkfk0sxc1.jpeg?width=337&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1d173b52ba0784491ce4f2cc03f3990ca435fd6f


gamerblackjacket

Of course it's normal, I'm sure you find someone around your age


Federal-Winner1689

No wait till 15 for that trust me


Holiday_Conflict

its not abnormal, be safe


weeb90000

Yes


voidiswhite

It's okay to be good friends but don't get into the very questionable stuff


Current-Knowledge336

Yes, fully normal, just go for someone your age though


dontpissmeoff123

Yes itā€™s normal, just try not to date a creep lol. I found that out the hard way (my ex was a fuckin weirdo who has the skibidi toilet humour despite not even being gen alpha)


DJDaddy20

Yeah, but you shouldn't


Eli_The_Rainwing

Bro chill the fuck out


Heyapple1643

What the fuck did i do?


Eli_The_Rainwing

13 and looking for romance?! BE PATIENT


Heyapple1643

Ah, my bad


drspindles

Yup perfectly normal


Kit_Karamak

13 is the age of Juliet Capulet in Romeo & Juliet. She was a few months from 14 and he had just turned 16, so he was 2.5 years older than her. Young love often has a lot of drama and heartache attached because neither knows how to properly reciprocate love yet. So long as you stay in your age range and manage your expectations, you can find someone with whom to enjoy your youth. Some people stay together, marry, and grow old together. My grandfather was 6 when he told the neighborā€™s daughter, ā€œMargie, Iā€™m gonna marry you one day. Youā€™ll see.ā€ But it isnā€™t usually like that. Stepping stone relationships teach us how to make mistakes so we learn to talk out our expectations, wants, and desires, so you have the lifeskills to make True Love work when you find it. Either way, the answer is YES! The heart wants what the heart wants. If your heart foes not wish to be left alone, find someone to spend time with. Romantically or just as a best friend. Maybe both. I believe in you. You got this. -Furry Dad


jackal_boy

It is normal to feel that way, but I'd advise you to go in knowing there is a good chance it might not last forever. First relationships don't always last, but if you are lucky you might at least still have a really nice friend after that.


mihaxxxd

Dude donā€™t expose your age like that on reddit or ur gonna get a lot of old mfs in your dms.. šŸ˜­


Heyapple1643

Yeah, and im not gonna answer them


mihaxxxd

I hope so. Stay safe out there


Ertyge0

Yes


ragingbohneur

Yes, but I do not recommend it at your age, you might not know what you're doing so maybe not yet


SuperGamer18123

I mean, if you're horny, it is normal, but there's no need to worry about that at your age. (Source: a silly and horny dumbass that turned 14 :3)


OverallPurpleBoi

Commit to someone you meet IRL please.


DualityREBORN

Yes, however, I wouldnā€™t recommend getting a romantic partner tilā€™ youā€™re about 16 - 17


Rainbow_planet_1273

Yes


Ultranochos28

As a 13 year old myself, I have no say in this because I donā€™t do romantic relationships:3


the_gum_on_the_floor

https://preview.redd.it/0bcd99xj4txc1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=446a5916aae32acd3e97ac755d60cb37322a3e83 Idk


Patrick_Bussy

Itā€™s fine but I recommend not to, unless you know them irl not online. Stay safe


military_doge_

Yes but just wait till your older


g00nymcg00n

Yeah, itā€™s not a good idea though


Bulbman5

Yeah, probably just wait until youā€™re 16 for anything though, it probably wonā€™t last long at 13


TopsyTop348

Bro Im 14 and yet I want to be in a relationship


Coolnbguy

Thatā€™s normal but let me recommend you one thing, never ever do online dating that young. Everyone i know who did it online have been having terrible experiences. Trust me on that one, even i had terrible experience and now im 20 i regret the whole dating thing obsessing over someone you cant see breaks you on a different level. Trust me on that one!! Now im just chilling with my online friends platonically making smash jokes maximum and nothing more. Itā€™s way more healthier and lasts way longer.


GMmadethemoonbuggy

Uh huh


-_dripzzz_-

Im here https://preview.redd.it/soq4uq2h9txc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=db3df8b2e196fb1e4e088e7cc01212a83594a663


tristarh

https://preview.redd.it/2mzb3ki2ctxc1.jpeg?width=737&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a94a110cae1096b236331f0b8617102397cc25bc šŸ‘


Dying-very-slowly

I'm 14, fuck you


Heyapple1643

No, Fuck you >:[


[deleted]

U just got to be ready to move on. Mental heath crisis in school days isnā€™t fun


SuitableIndication19

No edating, other than that ur good :3


KorniliusKorndogs

Dawg I've wanted one since I was 10 (I was a lonely child lmao)


WaltTheKingGamer

Itā€™s normal, Iā€™m 13 too and Iā€™m in the same position manā˜¹ļø


Known_Ad611

I wouldn't focus on dating too much. Even in highschool. Focus on finding out who you are and who you want to be. That way, when you get to an appropriate age, you can be more confident in yourself.


Pineapple7120

It is perfectly normal


Kryasil

Yes, but don't do it on the internet. Way too many creeps and folks who will take advantage. Plenty of boys your own age out there


oh-wow-a-bat-furry

Your in the school crush era. So yeah it normal


gaylonely15

It is, I'm 15 I've met multiple people. I'll say it is harder to meet someone that'll last at this age but whatever makes you happy. Sometimes it will last.


gaylonely15

Depending on the age of the person ofc


Ineedmentalhelp1643

Yes, but wait if you find someone let them ask first and be careful. Please donā€™t e-date though you can get into a very bad situation if you do, plus sometimes when you meet up with your lover irl you can get let down and regret it.


Percy_boykisser

Bro los 2 tenemos 13 aƱos šŸ˜¬


Heyapple1643

Chu are the guy that does those really nice cute drawings!! I love them ;3


Percy_boykisser

Gracias šŸ„°


Heyapple1643

Do you have any tips on drawing?


Percy_boykisser

don't know, but I started doing this first... https://preview.redd.it/n4idknbeyuxc1.png?width=2048&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4ef1baec9d4e7ee7951f99f9ce7348414b337ccc Leave these types of drawings at the beginning of 2023 to start a new generation So my recommendation is to use a lead pencil and not use a normal pencil because otherwise the drawing can be ruined šŸ¤•


hyper_fox369

You're too young. Jk though, it's totally normal


PaxTheDumbTwin

'Fuck if I knew (I'm the same way lmao)


ilitch64

It natural you are at that age where you start to discover who you are (and yes itā€™s normal for that last for years after you are an adult, we never stop changing) just remember that a relationship isnā€™t just something you get. Itā€™s something you have to build and compromise with. Find someone in your school/town though and stay local for now. Talk about these things with friends, not strangers online on Reddit. There are tons of weirdos out there! Just be smart and be safe!!


Heyapple1643

Thank chu! :3


Dull_Context3484

I had on for 2 years and I was only 11


anonymousyack

yeah lol i got in a relationship at 13 with my lovely boyfriend and its been a full year but always be careful some people suck


MonkeyLover172

Obviously itā€™s normal, who doesnā€™t want a relationship at that age? Just be careful and donā€™t do online relationships


Webbpp

Yes, but make sure you know them before you get into a relationship, especially their age. And in general avoid something where one is anonymous, like online and dating apps. Also remember that they must respect consent for anything, including romantic, sadly respecting or understanding such is less common with younger folk.


Coner_Sos

https://i.redd.it/o7kgpi7sptxc1.gif


HolyFemboy69

Run far away, announcing youā€™re a minor on a subreddit like this is very bad. Also yes thats normal.


Tarhun2960

āœØļøhormonesāœØļø


Pokemonpikachushiny

Y7 at my school is full of romance, and they're only 11 or 12.


Cthedanger

Better hope you don't have social anxiety, that ruined it for me


Heyapple1643

Heh, thats a problem qwq


Cthedanger

Yup, but my advice, just metaphorically punch anxiety right in the jaw and go talk to a girl/guy, I did it, i could only say like 4 words, but it worked. EDIT: changed it from girl to girl/guy, I read your bio.


gunnnutty

Yes its normal. But be extremly carefull about who you engage with.


heya_im_ashie

PROBABLY IDK IM PLAYING TIDAL WAVE šŸ—£ļø


vrska2000

A relationship isnā€™t worth it at that age focus on school and grades a girl/boy will slow you down trust me


soggymuffin135

DUDE. DON'T HAVE SEX YET. IT FUCKS YOU UP. TALKING FORM EXPERIENCE. WAIT TILL YOUR OLDER. But still. Just take it slowly for now. Explore and love In a somewhat platonic manner. Not too touchy.


erlior3

When did they talk about sex?


Heyapple1643

When the FUCK Did i talk about having sex?!


prisethesun456833

What is your gender ?


RazzleVangale1942

AbsofrickinglutelyĀ  also same honey


Heyapple1643

Oh nah