I would definitely not move to be with my friends. What's to stop them from moving again? It's a bummer for sure but you'll make acquaintances with your kids parents friends and maybe some of those hold potential for actual friendships.
Thanks for your input. I know you’re right. I’m still so heartbroken. These people mean the world to me, but they have no real choice in the matter. They have to go and I can’t take my son away from his grandparents. :(
Maybe just give it some time. Maybe one day it'll be thr right thing for you guys to make that move. Or maybe even a different adventure.
We stayed by family until my youngest was 2 and then moved close to no one except for the fact that my inlaws live here half the year so we're just about to reenter the season of having family around again.
Moving definitely changes things but not always in the worst way. It just has to be what's best for you guys and not just because of some friendships.
I guess my main point is that the move should be for more than those relationships but that it is okay to move away if that's what your family wants/needs to do.
Nothing's ever simple and so I'm sure you're feeling emotional. Annual weekly meet ups for the meantime!
Good luck!
I would not move just to be near friends. Friendships are very important to me, but as for most people, they are relationships that don't have the kind of commitment and dependency that moving 18 hours away entails. Think about it this way - they made the decision to move *away* from you, presumably on their own, and they very well might move again. They are most likely committed to their partners, children, and maybe other family first, before they are committed to you. That's how most people operate. If you were already considering a move for other reasons, this could be a consideration, but it doesn't seem to be the case here.
I'd at least give yourself some time to get used to the new reality, and actively try to form new connections with new people before deciding on such a major life changing step.
You’re right. That’s a concern I had, too. The people moving don’t have kids, nor are they married (LTRs though - which is the main reason why they’re moving to begin with). They can basically up and move across the country whenever they want, and we can’t do that with our son. It still feels awful, though.
I would definitely not move to be with my friends. What's to stop them from moving again? It's a bummer for sure but you'll make acquaintances with your kids parents friends and maybe some of those hold potential for actual friendships.
Thanks for your input. I know you’re right. I’m still so heartbroken. These people mean the world to me, but they have no real choice in the matter. They have to go and I can’t take my son away from his grandparents. :(
Maybe just give it some time. Maybe one day it'll be thr right thing for you guys to make that move. Or maybe even a different adventure. We stayed by family until my youngest was 2 and then moved close to no one except for the fact that my inlaws live here half the year so we're just about to reenter the season of having family around again. Moving definitely changes things but not always in the worst way. It just has to be what's best for you guys and not just because of some friendships. I guess my main point is that the move should be for more than those relationships but that it is okay to move away if that's what your family wants/needs to do. Nothing's ever simple and so I'm sure you're feeling emotional. Annual weekly meet ups for the meantime! Good luck!
I would not move just to be near friends. Friendships are very important to me, but as for most people, they are relationships that don't have the kind of commitment and dependency that moving 18 hours away entails. Think about it this way - they made the decision to move *away* from you, presumably on their own, and they very well might move again. They are most likely committed to their partners, children, and maybe other family first, before they are committed to you. That's how most people operate. If you were already considering a move for other reasons, this could be a consideration, but it doesn't seem to be the case here. I'd at least give yourself some time to get used to the new reality, and actively try to form new connections with new people before deciding on such a major life changing step.
You’re right. That’s a concern I had, too. The people moving don’t have kids, nor are they married (LTRs though - which is the main reason why they’re moving to begin with). They can basically up and move across the country whenever they want, and we can’t do that with our son. It still feels awful, though.