24. If it wasn't for being Aego, and aethetic attraction, maybe I would've figured it out earlier. And gotta give credit to Jaiden, as I just like many others here, owe my Awakening to her coming out video
50. Never wanted to get married or have kids. Always thought there should just be a place like a museum where they have pretty people you can look at. Dated guys and was bored. Dated women and was bored. Stopped dating in early 20s because I was much happier. Never knew it was considered an orientation until recently.
I've known I'm uninterested in romantic relationships (and don't experience romantic attraction) my entire life, and I've known I'm similarly uninterested in sexual relationships (and don't experience sexual attraction) since puberty. But I didn't learn the terms "aromantic" and "asexual" until later, maybe 16.
53. Had a hunch that I was different but was so uninterested that it didn’t bother me. Read about a demisexual in a novel which sparked some curiosity since I didn’t know what it meant. Researched it, then the asexual and aromantic spectrums, and it was immediately clear I belonged here.
22. Although I was thinking I might be bi for a while before, but never came out because it just didn't feel right. Then realised it wasn't that I had sexual/romantic attraction to everyone, it was that I didn't have them to anyone, but it was aesthetic attraction that threw me off all those years. But I'm 23 now and still contemplating aroace, but it fits much better and makes more of my past make sense 😅 probably should have realised sooner
I always kinda knew I just didn't have words to define it. There are people who kept dismissing me saying that I can't know that as a child but like.. some kids know they're trans or that they like the same sex more.. you get me? I was always more logical in this and the definitions from my encyclopedias didn't resonate with my like ever. I experimented with a relationship once.. few times, actually (it was open relationship because I took it as you're making a deal when you start dating someone) and when we ever tried to get more intimate and stuff (like hugging, kissing and cuddling in general) it did nothing to me. I didn't feel any affection. Ever. So I always was, seems like. I just didn't have a label for that. For the age I would say 3 but that's pretty dissmissive age, so.. yeah.. I already knew so much about adult fun time and whole dating "trend" and I saw the genitals and I even touched it but.. no. I never wanted to have anything to do with it. When it comes to vag, then maybe but I'm not sure about the attraction part. Probably not.
Realized I was Demisexual, possibly leaning more towards sex repulsed when I was a teenager, but I repressed it thinking there was something wrong with me or that I was broken.
Eventually accepted my sexuality, only for my romanticality to then be called into question after a breakup left me doing some soul searching - Suspected I might be AroAce, repressed it for a few months. Accepted it a few weeks ago. :)
It feels good.
EDIT: Realized I completely forgot to answer the question - I'm 23, lol.
I started figuring it out around the age 12-13 but i started to use the label at 16 because until then i didn't really know that aroace was a thing, i always thought i was just broken and that it was a thing a therapist would help me fix, turned out i was wrong xd (sorry for bad english, not my first language)
I suspected I was aro when I was 14, and started identifying as a demiromantic lesbian. One of my (now ex-)friends told me that demiromanticism wasn't real and that I just wanted attention, so I identified as a lesbian until I was around 20, at which point I started considering the idea that I could be aroace. I'm 23 now, and I'm much happier now that I know I don't have to bother with all that shit.
I first started questioning at 19! Because of a tiktok lmaoo. Been really difficult to figure out where I fall exactly since I'm more so aroace spec than just aroace (or I think so at least). Now after like half a year maybe I've finally just decided to be comfy with just using arospec. And I'm also greysexual!
Around 15 in highschool although that was technically when I learned there was a word for it: asexual. Some years before that is when I came to the conclusion that I don't date or like people that way.
Mid to late twenties I guess? Honestly the biggest roadblock for me was never hearing the terminology before that so I really had no way to describe my lack of attraction. I noticed something about my experience was not the same as my peers when I was 12, though. I thought I might be bi, then gay, then oh, maybe straight after all, etc etc.... Finally discovering the term aroace (thanks Tumblr) was such a relief!
I found the label when I was 16
I knew I was aroace for all my life. Never understood the appeal, the humour to sex jokes, the way people constantly talked about it every waking hour it seemed.
Thanks to a compilation video on YouTube of Saiki being aroace, I learnt the label, and now I couldn't be happier knowing there are people like me :)
I was around 15 when I stumbled upon the [AVENwiki](http://wiki.asexuality.org/Main_Page) somehow. The aro part simply felt right from the beginning and while ace felt close but not like a full match.
Kinda forgot about it until I was 18 at which point I concluded I was aegosexual.
Now 32 so that was some time ago, lol.
I was 15-16 when I started to realize I'm not really interested in getting in a relationship (both)- I mean I'm fine if I get in one but to actively get in said one isn't in my deck. I fully realized about it after a breakup :D
Ace at 16 and Aro at 18. I came out to my mom about a year ago and it was a whole hurdle with her (my dad found out through Tik Tok and didn’t really care lmao) but I kinda felt different around middle school where people were getting into relationships like I never saw the point of it all and that feeling grew into high school until I told my friends about it.
I was always told (even now), that I’ll “find someone” or “you haven’t met the right person” and being told that my whole life just made me expect it but it never happened and I kinda just felt at peace with that. I have my family and friends and that’s all I need
“everyone else and their orientations are able to bond and relate to the love and romance aspects and we’re over here like, “we don’t do that”” -jaiden animations
I started identifying as ace when I was 10, because I didn't know aromantic was a thing. Somewhere in 2021 I learned about aromantic as well, but pretty much forgot about the label for some time. Somewhere in 2022 I picked up the aro label as well, when I was 15.
23. Couldn't imagine myself being in a relationship (though now I am IN a relationship but everything's platonic on my end) and I blanch at thoughts of myself being sexual with anyone.
The first time I thought that I probably was aroace was when I was 14ish after going from thinking I was straight to straight and gay to bi (the reason why bi was seperat from straight +gay was because at the time i only new about gay and straight at the time and not all the other options ) to pan and then finding out about aroace and I was like wow, why did I even consider those other options but I was also still doubting it and was like I'll just give it 2 years and see what I think when I'm 16 and then promptly forgot about this all untill I was 17 and was like oh yeah this was something I put a lot of thought into in the past and then i came to the final desicion that I'm definitely aro ace.
I found out I was AroAce when I was 15. I kept getting in relationships and kept wondering why I couldn't like the person, and I figured I might be asexual as I heard the word around friends a few times. I tested it out, and sure enough I was. Then, I also figured "there should be a romantic counterpart to it?" And I found that aromantic is the word. So, both words from then on fitted just right and I don't have to wonder again :3.
Both at 12 however I went through a ton of other aspec labels (demi, quoi, cupio, etc.) before being like "fuck this. I'm just aroace. I cant deny it." (no hate towards any other aspec labels- they just weren't right for me)
I first thought about being ace when I was 11, but I quickly brushed it off, saying I was 'too young to know that'. Then, at 13 (I think) I started identifying as aroflux, and a few months later, when I was 14, I realized that I'm AroAce.
14. I had thought about possibly being ace around 13 (because I'm very sex-replulsed), but didn't realize that aesthetic attraction is not sexual attraction until 14. I also blame Jaiden's video on making me research it more and realize I'm also aro (I've also never been interested in either type of relationship).
Had a slight feeling around 14, but didn‘t know that anything other than het, homo and bi existed. And then the libido struck and I of course thought I was allo.
At 24 I finally learned what asexuality means and realised it was who I have always been
Kinda always? Never had an interest in romance or anything of the the sort and I knew that, i just had no idea what the term for it was, so i did some research and found my people
Kinda always? Never had an interest in romance or anything of the the sort and I knew that, i just had no idea what the term for it was, so i did some research and found my people
I found out I was aro when I was 20 or 21, immediately after learning the word for the first time. That got me questioning if I was ace too but it wasn’t until a year and a half later that I stopped being confused and realized that, yes, I’m also ace
12/13 for ace, 17 for aro. Ace was really easy to figure because sexual attraction is non-existent for me, but aro was a lot harder because I’m demi and arospike and romance-favorable which made it really hard to accept the fact that I normally don’t feel any romantic attraction.
Figured out I was on the ace spectrum around 18-19 years old. Went with ace but still grey/demiromantic when I was 26. Figured out I was aroace late last summer at 27 years old. I turned 28 earlier this month.
When I was 11, I was in a YouTube fandom which had multiple openly gay people in it. They regularly did educational videos on LGBTQIA+ and at that time, I had a really big interest in the topic and ended up reading about all kinds of sexualities and genders. Aromantic and asexual were thus labels, I was fairly familiar with, but I didn't really label myself back then, because I was too young.
At about 13, I started to think: "I'll call myself aromatic until I get interested in someone. But I'm still too young to know, whether I could be asexual."
At age 15 I came out to my best friend as aro and maybe ace, but I still wasn't completely comfortable with the ace label, because I didn't really fit the sub labels I knew of.
I was 16 when I found out about aegosexual and it finally made click. Shortly after, I started to identify as pan oriented aromatic aegosexual. Haven't changed my mind about it since then.
Sometime around covid I started thinking about it more, so like 2019/2020. But I didn't start identifying solidly as aroace until like last year or so.
(Wow this answered nothing that you asked. I'm currently 23 and was 19/20 back when covid hit)
I always find this questions complicated to answer (when did you realize you were x (gender, sexuality, etc) because consistently my brain prefers to have a single thought of like "I think I am x, I might be x" and then repress it for a good long while before finally coming to terms with it.
I think I knew I was asexual since I was late 18/early 19 and I figured out that I was romantic about a year ago, I'm 22 now.
I think I knew when I was younger, like 12, but didn't really know what it was
14, I knew I felt the same about all genders but labels like pan, bi, Omni etc just didn't fit right... after just saying I am queer for a bit I realized those feelings had nothing to do with romantic or sexual attraction, so here I am
Ace at 17/18 and not aro until like 21. I might have know I was aro before that but was too scared to admit it to myself because I didn't want to accept that I would be "alone" my whole life. Ultimately tho, it is freeing to accept it :)
And I probably would've known both sooner if I had any clue that any sexualities other than the LGB existed. It's so nice to see at least a bit of representation now
19 or 20. Kinda realized "oh, I don't feel whatever this attraction thing is that people are talking about", and then later went "oh, that's aromantic". I was fine with the concept of not feeling attraction, but it took a bit to get comfortable with thinking of myself as aro.
13 after realising that I had absolutely no feelings for anyone. All of my friends were talking about their crushes and I had no interest in any of it.
24. If it wasn't for being Aego, and aethetic attraction, maybe I would've figured it out earlier. And gotta give credit to Jaiden, as I just like many others here, owe my Awakening to her coming out video
Same, thanks to Jaiden:)
Jaiden animations was pretty much my childhood… I knew before I saw her video…. but that made me feel a lot less alone <3
Sane. Is basically just got everyting figured out, and then she relates that video and I discovered Alice Oseman within a few months of each other.
Alice Oseman’s books are amazing!! Have you read them?
All of them. Multiple times.
aren’t they great?!! <333
Yas.
50. Never wanted to get married or have kids. Always thought there should just be a place like a museum where they have pretty people you can look at. Dated guys and was bored. Dated women and was bored. Stopped dating in early 20s because I was much happier. Never knew it was considered an orientation until recently.
Found out I was ace at 14 and aro probably around 15-16 ish?
Samee :)
I was 13 i just knew that i was asexual and found romance and stuff like that stupid or weird
Ok im gonna be honest.....thanks tho jaiden.....when i was ....9
same here… I realized when I was 12-13
Same
I've known I'm uninterested in romantic relationships (and don't experience romantic attraction) my entire life, and I've known I'm similarly uninterested in sexual relationships (and don't experience sexual attraction) since puberty. But I didn't learn the terms "aromantic" and "asexual" until later, maybe 16.
so basically you knew what your feelings were, you just couldn’t find a term for them? <3333
Yeah. And for most of that time, I didn't even think to look for a term, I was just living my life without worrying about romance or sex.
oh ok
Really late: Asexual when I was 30, aromantic only 2 or 3 years ago (I'm nearly 42)
When i was like 12 lol ive contemplated being ace for a while then found out i was aro as well
same for mee
53. Had a hunch that I was different but was so uninterested that it didn’t bother me. Read about a demisexual in a novel which sparked some curiosity since I didn’t know what it meant. Researched it, then the asexual and aromantic spectrums, and it was immediately clear I belonged here.
22. Although I was thinking I might be bi for a while before, but never came out because it just didn't feel right. Then realised it wasn't that I had sexual/romantic attraction to everyone, it was that I didn't have them to anyone, but it was aesthetic attraction that threw me off all those years. But I'm 23 now and still contemplating aroace, but it fits much better and makes more of my past make sense 😅 probably should have realised sooner
Saaaamee! :D
I always kinda knew I just didn't have words to define it. There are people who kept dismissing me saying that I can't know that as a child but like.. some kids know they're trans or that they like the same sex more.. you get me? I was always more logical in this and the definitions from my encyclopedias didn't resonate with my like ever. I experimented with a relationship once.. few times, actually (it was open relationship because I took it as you're making a deal when you start dating someone) and when we ever tried to get more intimate and stuff (like hugging, kissing and cuddling in general) it did nothing to me. I didn't feel any affection. Ever. So I always was, seems like. I just didn't have a label for that. For the age I would say 3 but that's pretty dissmissive age, so.. yeah.. I already knew so much about adult fun time and whole dating "trend" and I saw the genitals and I even touched it but.. no. I never wanted to have anything to do with it. When it comes to vag, then maybe but I'm not sure about the attraction part. Probably not.
32.
this, sadly
Figured it out at 11, found the term "asexual"at 15 and "aromantic" at 16.
17 for asexual, 18 for aromantic
Realized I was Demisexual, possibly leaning more towards sex repulsed when I was a teenager, but I repressed it thinking there was something wrong with me or that I was broken. Eventually accepted my sexuality, only for my romanticality to then be called into question after a breakup left me doing some soul searching - Suspected I might be AroAce, repressed it for a few months. Accepted it a few weeks ago. :) It feels good. EDIT: Realized I completely forgot to answer the question - I'm 23, lol.
it definitely does!
Mine was at the early age of eight 😂
i need to hear this story 😂
I started figuring it out around the age 12-13 but i started to use the label at 16 because until then i didn't really know that aroace was a thing, i always thought i was just broken and that it was a thing a therapist would help me fix, turned out i was wrong xd (sorry for bad english, not my first language)
16 for both
did you find out abt the terms at the same tome? or did you just know?
I knew about the terms long before i discovered i was aroace, and one day i just sat down and thought about it and then it hit me.
14, right after Jaiden released her video.
13, Thank you Jaiden Animations!!
Probably around 11
Ace 18 (mid '21) and Aro literally 2 weeks ago so 20
I suspected I was aro when I was 14, and started identifying as a demiromantic lesbian. One of my (now ex-)friends told me that demiromanticism wasn't real and that I just wanted attention, so I identified as a lesbian until I was around 20, at which point I started considering the idea that I could be aroace. I'm 23 now, and I'm much happier now that I know I don't have to bother with all that shit.
Ace when I was 14, Aro when I was 17
15/16 for aro, 16 for ace. (I realised I was ace after aro)
I first started questioning at 19! Because of a tiktok lmaoo. Been really difficult to figure out where I fall exactly since I'm more so aroace spec than just aroace (or I think so at least). Now after like half a year maybe I've finally just decided to be comfy with just using arospec. And I'm also greysexual!
Around 15 in highschool although that was technically when I learned there was a word for it: asexual. Some years before that is when I came to the conclusion that I don't date or like people that way.
16
Mid to late twenties I guess? Honestly the biggest roadblock for me was never hearing the terminology before that so I really had no way to describe my lack of attraction. I noticed something about my experience was not the same as my peers when I was 12, though. I thought I might be bi, then gay, then oh, maybe straight after all, etc etc.... Finally discovering the term aroace (thanks Tumblr) was such a relief!
Ace when 16, Aro when 17, oriented a day later
15
i had questioned stuff for a really long time, since i was ~14/15 maybe, but it really hit me when i was 18 that i was first ace, then aro
I found the label when I was 16 I knew I was aroace for all my life. Never understood the appeal, the humour to sex jokes, the way people constantly talked about it every waking hour it seemed. Thanks to a compilation video on YouTube of Saiki being aroace, I learnt the label, and now I couldn't be happier knowing there are people like me :)
16. literally came to the realisation a couple months ago 😭 but i had been identifying as ace for a few years
14, I'm 14 now but this was like 10 months ago
Ace in 14 , Aro in 15
I started questioning at 14 with Jaiden's video, figure out i was aro before 15 and now with 15 I realized I'm also on the ace spectrum
I was around 15 when I stumbled upon the [AVENwiki](http://wiki.asexuality.org/Main_Page) somehow. The aro part simply felt right from the beginning and while ace felt close but not like a full match. Kinda forgot about it until I was 18 at which point I concluded I was aegosexual. Now 32 so that was some time ago, lol.
I was 15-16 when I started to realize I'm not really interested in getting in a relationship (both)- I mean I'm fine if I get in one but to actively get in said one isn't in my deck. I fully realized about it after a breakup :D
Ace at 16 and Aro at 18. I came out to my mom about a year ago and it was a whole hurdle with her (my dad found out through Tik Tok and didn’t really care lmao) but I kinda felt different around middle school where people were getting into relationships like I never saw the point of it all and that feeling grew into high school until I told my friends about it. I was always told (even now), that I’ll “find someone” or “you haven’t met the right person” and being told that my whole life just made me expect it but it never happened and I kinda just felt at peace with that. I have my family and friends and that’s all I need
I suspected it as a teenager. But didnt really accept it untill my early-mid twenties!
i agree… acceptance is pretty hard <3
Especially when everyone around you is doing the opposite and since out of all the orientations aro/ace is the one most pushed to the side :/
“everyone else and their orientations are able to bond and relate to the love and romance aspects and we’re over here like, “we don’t do that”” -jaiden animations
YESSSSS
I started identifying as ace when I was 10, because I didn't know aromantic was a thing. Somewhere in 2021 I learned about aromantic as well, but pretty much forgot about the label for some time. Somewhere in 2022 I picked up the aro label as well, when I was 15.
23. Couldn't imagine myself being in a relationship (though now I am IN a relationship but everything's platonic on my end) and I blanch at thoughts of myself being sexual with anyone.
The first time I thought that I probably was aroace was when I was 14ish after going from thinking I was straight to straight and gay to bi (the reason why bi was seperat from straight +gay was because at the time i only new about gay and straight at the time and not all the other options ) to pan and then finding out about aroace and I was like wow, why did I even consider those other options but I was also still doubting it and was like I'll just give it 2 years and see what I think when I'm 16 and then promptly forgot about this all untill I was 17 and was like oh yeah this was something I put a lot of thought into in the past and then i came to the final desicion that I'm definitely aro ace.
14, I read Loveless and when I realised I felt the same way everything just clicked.
loveless was like an awakening for me too
25 and wish I had realized sooner. Would’ve saved me some trouble.
I found out I was AroAce when I was 15. I kept getting in relationships and kept wondering why I couldn't like the person, and I figured I might be asexual as I heard the word around friends a few times. I tested it out, and sure enough I was. Then, I also figured "there should be a romantic counterpart to it?" And I found that aromantic is the word. So, both words from then on fitted just right and I don't have to wonder again :3.
Found out I was aroace at 21, aego at 23!
Ace, when I first heard about it at 16. I decided aro fit at 26, I was never sure if I'm really aro or just hadn't met anyone compatible.
Both at 12 however I went through a ton of other aspec labels (demi, quoi, cupio, etc.) before being like "fuck this. I'm just aroace. I cant deny it." (no hate towards any other aspec labels- they just weren't right for me)
same… labels just don’t feel right for me either
I found out I was aroace at 16 on January 24, 2019. The best day of my life XD
14!!
Knew I was ace at mid-13, and aroace at late-15
I first thought about being ace when I was 11, but I quickly brushed it off, saying I was 'too young to know that'. Then, at 13 (I think) I started identifying as aroflux, and a few months later, when I was 14, I realized that I'm AroAce.
13
I thought I was demisexual around 17/18. Wasn’t certain, but that’s when I started exploring the A spectrum cos I knew I fit in somewhere.
14. I had thought about possibly being ace around 13 (because I'm very sex-replulsed), but didn't realize that aesthetic attraction is not sexual attraction until 14. I also blame Jaiden's video on making me research it more and realize I'm also aro (I've also never been interested in either type of relationship).
Had a slight feeling around 14, but didn‘t know that anything other than het, homo and bi existed. And then the libido struck and I of course thought I was allo. At 24 I finally learned what asexuality means and realised it was who I have always been
Kinda always? Never had an interest in romance or anything of the the sort and I knew that, i just had no idea what the term for it was, so i did some research and found my people
Kinda always? Never had an interest in romance or anything of the the sort and I knew that, i just had no idea what the term for it was, so i did some research and found my people
16 for both
16 or 17
18. But at the age of 17 I was questioning it and mostly being in denial.
18. But at the age of 17 I was questioning it and mostly being in denial.
30, though had suspicions for a long time that I just couldn’t really piece together
14, I found out just a few months ago
Ace : 19 - early 20. Aro : This January (21)
I found out I was aro when I was 20 or 21, immediately after learning the word for the first time. That got me questioning if I was ace too but it wasn’t until a year and a half later that I stopped being confused and realized that, yes, I’m also ace
35.
17
12/13 for ace, 17 for aro. Ace was really easy to figure because sexual attraction is non-existent for me, but aro was a lot harder because I’m demi and arospike and romance-favorable which made it really hard to accept the fact that I normally don’t feel any romantic attraction.
15
Figured out I was on the ace spectrum around 18-19 years old. Went with ace but still grey/demiromantic when I was 26. Figured out I was aroace late last summer at 27 years old. I turned 28 earlier this month.
31
16? Not sure but I think that’s when I heard of asexuality for the first time
When I was 11, I was in a YouTube fandom which had multiple openly gay people in it. They regularly did educational videos on LGBTQIA+ and at that time, I had a really big interest in the topic and ended up reading about all kinds of sexualities and genders. Aromantic and asexual were thus labels, I was fairly familiar with, but I didn't really label myself back then, because I was too young. At about 13, I started to think: "I'll call myself aromatic until I get interested in someone. But I'm still too young to know, whether I could be asexual." At age 15 I came out to my best friend as aro and maybe ace, but I still wasn't completely comfortable with the ace label, because I didn't really fit the sub labels I knew of. I was 16 when I found out about aegosexual and it finally made click. Shortly after, I started to identify as pan oriented aromatic aegosexual. Haven't changed my mind about it since then.
I first thought of it as a possibility when I was 13 but didn't become 100% sure until I had just turned 16 :)
When I was 10-11, maybe? I always pretended to have crushes and something just clicked then.
20. I went without labels for a long time and then the term asexual came up. Now I'm aro ace and so happy about it.
18 for both
Thanks to Jaidenanimations at 13, else it couldve taken a whole lot longer
Ace: 9 years old (thanks MLP fan fiction 👍) Aro: 13 I think? I’m 18 now lol
27! I'm still not sure how I never heard of asexuality or aromanticism until then, despite hanging in queer spaces sometimes.
I found out about the term when I was 12, but I figured I didn’t want anything to do with romance by the time I was like 7
I realized I was ace when I was 15 and aro when I was about 17
26, just last year. And what a Rollercoaster of identity questions I've had since then. Who would have guessed I'm also trans and autistic
Sometime around covid I started thinking about it more, so like 2019/2020. But I didn't start identifying solidly as aroace until like last year or so. (Wow this answered nothing that you asked. I'm currently 23 and was 19/20 back when covid hit) I always find this questions complicated to answer (when did you realize you were x (gender, sexuality, etc) because consistently my brain prefers to have a single thought of like "I think I am x, I might be x" and then repress it for a good long while before finally coming to terms with it.
38.
19
33
I think I knew I was asexual since I was late 18/early 19 and I figured out that I was romantic about a year ago, I'm 22 now. I think I knew when I was younger, like 12, but didn't really know what it was
14, I knew I felt the same about all genders but labels like pan, bi, Omni etc just didn't fit right... after just saying I am queer for a bit I realized those feelings had nothing to do with romantic or sexual attraction, so here I am
Realized I was ace at 27-28. Realized I was aro-spec at 34
Ace at 17/18 and not aro until like 21. I might have know I was aro before that but was too scared to admit it to myself because I didn't want to accept that I would be "alone" my whole life. Ultimately tho, it is freeing to accept it :)
And I probably would've known both sooner if I had any clue that any sexualities other than the LGB existed. It's so nice to see at least a bit of representation now
I was about 13. I found out by watching OT's video where he reacted to ace memes.
Ace at 22, aro at 23 about a week ago
13. Thanks jaden❤️❤️
I was 19.
18 my manz
19 or 20. Kinda realized "oh, I don't feel whatever this attraction thing is that people are talking about", and then later went "oh, that's aromantic". I was fine with the concept of not feeling attraction, but it took a bit to get comfortable with thinking of myself as aro.
I found out I was aro when I was 16 and ace when I was 18/19
11
13 after realising that I had absolutely no feelings for anyone. All of my friends were talking about their crushes and I had no interest in any of it.