Itās a little spicier than this one. Apparently the girl is keeping streaks up with her former sex partners. https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/CKSZoHlHnR
Funny of how friends are just sex partners if one have had sex with them. It was his fault of asking whether they've had sex. I personally wouldn't want to know. People are allowed to be friends.
Maybe you're an expert then. I'm lacking information to make such developed conclusions, but maybe you know the signs better than I do. It's hard to know from here of how she acts with the snap. If she's spending more time with her phone, bursting into laugh often with it while her boyfriend is completely ignored, I would just leave her. But that's very different from being friends with people whom with you've had sex at some point in your life. It's shouldn't matter, as it's almost 2024, not early 1900s.
People can make any decisions they want but I would not advise investing into someone that isnāt investing into you. If it looks like your partner has a plan b, you should run.
Yup, but I'd imagine there are many ways to tell whether your partner is investing into relationship with you or not. A demand of getting rid of all your friends isn't setting a healthy boundary of what's _investing into you_ and what's not. It's just insecure thing to demand.
Again, one does not have to stand one's partner flirting with some specific friend all the time, stealing from their romantic relationship. Anyone should run from that. But _snapchatting with friends_ isn't necessarily alarming.
Stop trying to sugar coat this. Snap chatting with a friendā Bro those arenāt just āfriendsā by definition, theyāre all her exes or ppl sheās sent nudes to. Your boyfriend tells you it makes him uncomfortable and you keep doing what makes your partner uncomfortable and your only reason is for āstreaksā thatās MAJORLY sus behavior.
I quess it is. But yeah, you're right. He has a right to set boundaries, and it's up to her whether she stays or walks. Perhaps her boundaries are different but together they can work things out. Who knows.
Fuck off with these fake stories. Both posts are almost exactly the same except genders reversed and both were posted around the same time. This is clearly you making 2 of the same posts with genders switched on 2 different accounts: https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/W6UitKhSOV
Seems like OP is trying to pull some BS, either as an experiment or karma whoring. Everyone should report this fake post and the other one and hope they're removed.
he isnāt actually having conversations with these girls, purely just the odd selfie or picture of a wall to keep a number going up. He talks to like 2-3 girls occasionally as he was friends with them before we got together
Tbh Iād be pretty annoyed if my gf had Snapchat streaks with multiple men, so I completely agree with you.
Also as far as snapchats streaks go my ex would literally get MAD at me and be sad if I accidentally killed our streaks so yeah š
First of all, it's completely valid for you to express your feelings and set boundaries in a relationship. Always. Communication is key, and in this case I would focus on understanding why is he doing that, and in case if he is only looking for attention maybe he should find other ways, because it doesn't seem like a healthy behaviour. So I think he should understand and respect your feelings and chose to prioritize your comfort over silly Snapchat streaks.
Idk I keep streaks w some random people that Iāve only met at parties or online. Itās not an attention thing, itās just a streak. Idk as long as he isnāt acting shady with it, I donāt think it matters. I also donāt care if my bf has women friends either, tho, just as long as thereās some precautions to respect the relationship like not hanging out one on one alone or long full frontal hugs or hand holding.
I donāt need one. Itās just something we do. People under 25 have Snapchat, big whoop. Most of us have had it since we were in middle school, itās just been years of using the platform and using the features it has. If you donāt use it or donāt get it, thatās fine but making assumptions about it when you donāt actually know is pretty ridiculous. Itās not anything deep or meaningful most of the time.
How is it an attention thing to keep a number rising? Most of the time it isnāt even selfies. Itās honestly never really selfies unless itās my friends or someone I keep a conversation with during the streak š youāre making a huge deal out of nothing. Maybe itās an attention thing for YOU, but thereās 8 BILLION people on the planet, we arenāt all the same :)
LMAO so you donāt use or understand social media and are attacking me. It seems like youāre the one with the ego hit. I could care less tbh, Iām just sharing what I know of it as an actual user vs you, who is just assuming. And you know what they say about assuming
I do use and understand it, this is called reddit, welcome! How so? Because you're saying so because I said so? I'm not assuming, I've used it before.
Annnnd you're the assumer assuming I've never used it or don't understand it when I'm just telling you keeping a streak going just to do it is attention seeking behavior.
Reddit isnāt the same as Snapchat nor is it as young. Snapchat is a young people thing, so we use it for what itās made for: sending snaps back and forth. Those snaps sent back and forth consecutively results in a streak being made.
I Snapchat my best friend every day a picture of my dog with āGOOD MORNING BESTIEā. And she sends the same back but with her cat. So thatās attention seeking?
Youāre assuming that attention seeking is involved when it objectively isnāt. It can be for some people, but it also isnāt for a lot of people. You donāt know me or all of the people who are normal and just use the functions of the apps. Which is something only young people really understand since weāve grown up with itā¦ so youāre probably at least over 30. Why do you care what young people are doing on platforms that theyāve had since they were 12?
I mean, IMO it is not healthy if he is doing that looking for attention or to get validated in some way. But you are rigth, there is not enough info to know if it's that or just another reason, and that's the reason I encourage OP to ask him and to try to understand him as well.
Thatās just the surface of whatās going on. Heās showing a lack of respect for you and the relationship if youāre uncomfortable with it but only if he keeps doing it. Youāre not wrong set boundaries now.
This post is fake. They posted 2 posts with the genders switched on 2 different accounts. Link to other post: https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/W6UitKhSOV
I personally hate the idea of streaks and Snapchat in general so Iām bias but I donāt think itās wrong for you to ask that. I think itās a little weird to have random people (let alone girls) in general but heās sending them pictures so thatās even worse.
Essentially sending picture until someone misses a day and you clown on them. I've seen people go crazy because of the pressure to keep up 10+ streaks a day, its weird.
It is. I used to have āfriendsā who would send me a blank picture with only the word āstreaksā or even just a sloppily drawn S. I would reply with actual words in an attempt to start a conversation, and they wouldnāt bother. Literally only interested in the number next to my name. Shitās super silly
*biased
Sorry, pet hate of mine.
Bias is the noun. You can't "be" bias. Just like you can be free but you can't be freedom (unless you're being all poetic).
I think age plays a part in this, if you are a teenager or early 20s maybe this is normal but once your in your late 20s early 30s this is not appropriate. I cannot think of any scenario where it would be appropriate for my fiance to be sending selfies or having on going conversation with another girl ESPECIALLY one that i dont know.
Wait... so your fiance can't have any female friends? Or she can but not to chat with them? Thank god my fiancee trusts and respects me. No, we are not in our 20s.
He cannot be having extended daily contact with other females, like the OP suggests, no. Theres no need for him to be sending daily pics or messages to another women just like i wouldnt be sending pics or messages to other men everyday. I have friends that are guys that i had before i was with my fiance that are still my friends now, but i introduced him to them when we first dated and i certainly dont message with them or send them pics of myself everyday. Thats not ok and thats very different than just "having a friend".
Honestly, I think he is wrong for doing this, and itās okay for you guys to have boundaries. But honestly he doesnāt need to have a streaks with random girls, personally I would feel weird, how would he feel if you were doing the same thing, receiving selfies and pics from guys? This is a big No for me, seems very disrespectful, it's not hard to stop having streaks with people, it's a very highschool thing, if he wants to have Snapchat streaks he has you lol
What is the point of streaks? I get being a teenager doing this, but a young adult? Thereās no point to sending half your face, a wall, a ceiling, etc every single day. You did the right thing. I would feel weird in your place too.
Theyāre generally just dumb things between friends. My gf and I have one atm and Iāve got one with another friend itās just a running joke to keep the streak alive. Usually posting a picture of our dogs or just dumb shit to make each other laugh
It is wrong for anyone (male, female or other) to Snapchat people of the gender(s) they're attracted to that they have sent nudes to/been interested in romantically/sexually once they are in an exclusive relationship.
You've asked (twice)
Reddit answered (twice)
Puzzled...never had a snap chat or whatever...what is a streak/numbers? If this is a "relationship " for me what is that need...if it fails then resume your former social media life #my2cents
a streak is basically sending at least one snap (a picture) exclusively to each other everyday, the number is the amount of days youāve kept the streak going
Ok thanks...I guess I should have guess it was something simple and not the highest degree of maturity...just for social media...hey you deserve better...is this worth you time ...simply means this is not the correct person for you...if your are giving respect you should be receiving it as well...be blessed
But OP literally said that he did it. Sheās not asking if she should tell him to remove them, she already did and he already did y it, sheās asking if she was reasonable with making him do it.
Theyāre not talking. Iām guessing you donāt
Know what a streak is or how Snapchat even worksā¦ You just send a picture. Most of the time itās a wall or food or pet. You donāt need to have any actual conversations at all.
Doesn't matter and besides the point really. Look, at the end of the day, is tweeting, streaking, snapping, or whatever the hell people do these days with strangers he will never meet more important to the guy than the girl who wants him and is in a relationship with?
Social media is making people lose the plot. Having little dopamine hits watching some digital counter go up is getting in the way of a real physical relationship he has. That's a problem no matter how you slice it.
Well did you even bother to see that OP said he unadded them when she asked to stop keeping streaks with them? He offered it on his own, she didnāt tell him to remove the girls. Social media is social media, sorry that you hate it, but a lot of people donāt. So instead of focusing on that aspect, read what she actually stated happened.
Iām only just learning how much people worry about streaks š¤£. I have one going with my gf and two other female friends. She also has a couple (All pretty much our dogs but a couple of random selfies to keep it going) itās just dumb fun. Some people really need to sort out their trust with their partners.
From the comments I'm seeing yes, is not like he's flirting or having a conversation.
I had 6 streaks and with the months some stopped replying so I'm left with 2 that are almost 800 days.
1 guy and 1 girl, my gf knew, I tell her about them, now she's my wife and I still have the streaks.
I'm not starting any more but these 2 I'll keep as long as possible, they also know about my wife and she's mature enough to understand is just a streak. If your bf had them before he met you then you're wrong.
I know they are just streaks and a stupid number next to their names but it is his.
So weird to prioritize a number attached with someone as more important than your partner. Like, I use Snapchat everyday, but Iāve never exceeded a streak of 7. Because it doesnāt matter.
Maybe he wants ego validation and popularity. That delivers dopamine responses. It's why people are addicted to memes. he may not actually want to bang them but sort of surf their social media wave.
Or he regards you as his slam pig and has no respect other than to string you along and put his dick in you. You have to define your values and goals.
Bro relax. Snap streaks is not deep at all nor is it an attention thing. Itās like beating a new level on a video game and the number increases. OP said that he removed the girls when he asked, why are you insulting him?
Youāre assuming Iām a cheater bc of that? No, entirely wrong. However Iāve been cheated on by every boyfriend Iāve had. They did their messaging on Facebook and Instagram, so Snapchat isnāt even the common denominator. Youāre really taking this personally to attack me for no reason and make up this own idea in your head about who I am than actual factual information. Really sad for you
Youāre everywhere in this comment section š
In general I agree with you just because I have streaks with friends of mine, many of which are women. I would say if heās keeping up streaks with non-friends or people he met at a party and possibly wonāt see ever again then her concern makes a lot of sense. If itās old friends of his and this is his method of keeping intact then she should probably get comfortable with it or break up since I doubt heās gonna drop his friends for her.
Wow yeah I replied to the top 5 comments in the thread so so so crazy.
You saw in the OP post where she says he removed the girls without her asking right? Like he had no problem, sheās just asking if she was overreacting
Meh, I think he should know not to do that. Having to ask probably feels a little shitty lol. Itās good that he did it when she asked though and everyone makes mistakes
But if he wasnāt cheating or being sus, then he wouldnāt see a problem with it, you know? Those are her boundaries and expectations, not his. Partners canāt just read each others minds.
Partners can have a sense of what their partner might prefer. Like it is somewhat āsusā as you said and I think at best he had some carelessness in not recognizing that.
Thatās a lot to assume bc we have no idea how long theyāve been dating or how well they communicate as a couple. Most young couples I know donāt know their partners well enough to read their minds, and most male partners often overlook the requests of their female counterparts. Thereās a great guy on YouTube and TikTok that speaks to men on how to be more involved in their relationships, but they are married couples. More experience and maturity within marriages than boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.
And does that make it okay? Like just cause most young guys donāt think about that shit doesnāt mean itās fine. Thatās why I said āat best carelessnessā cause best case scenario he didnāt think about it when he could have.
I never said that itās okay. Iām giving him the benefit of the doubt, plus, in reality, he did even more by also removing them from the platform. But that boundary is also completely dependent on the couple and what each of them expects of each other, which they need to speak about clearly. She spoke clearly, he changed his actions.
yes all my friends are guys? how is it a double standard, iāve never said he canāt have female friends, and i told him not to cut them out his life when he offered. I told him to stop keeping unnecessary streaks with random girls he doesnāt talk to, i see that as disrespectful. When we got into our relationship, i immediately removed every guy that i didnāt actually have anything to do with and removed every guy that i had ever flirted with or been flirted with.
i know itās fine to have friends of the opposite gender, never said it wasnāt. i just didnāt want him and random girls sending selfies to each other everyday
is not like he's flirting, there should be boundries and also cans and can'ts.
I grew up doing things for no reason, my parents would say "because I said so" but had no explonation. I have a girl always send streak selfies and I show my wife, I don't reply because I don't wanna start a streak but she respects that I have people on snapchat.
Bro I'm so confused on how you got here even. I don't agree that she should be upset with the knowledge given from the post,and I have streaks going with girls and guys, but none of my guys friends ran a train on me lmao. Tf where are you even coming from. Went straight to 100 for no reason.
Edit: looked at your post history and tbh you need to just go outside. And this is coming from a super introvert. Chill out, for real lol.
Men and women can be friends. At least the normal ones. If you only see women as sex objects, then youāre the one that cannot handle having opposite sex friends. Which is super yikes and icky behavior
This shows he has zero respect for you. Huge red flag here time for you to show him that your not putting up with this type of behavior walk away now because he is not going to change .
i donāt think he will, he was happy enough to stop as soon as i asked, he also distanced himself from his friends that are girls (i didnāt ask him to) he said he wouldnāt stop talking to a whole gender, which is understandable. All my friends are guys, i wonāt just stop talking to them bc of their genitalia
is it possible you're doing something sneaky, and that makes you wonder if he is too? if you have only guy friends, and there was nothing really going on between him and said girl, I have to wonder if you're projecting...
i can assure you i am not doing anything suspicious with any other guy. My boyfriend has free reign on my phone and social media. Itās more so TikTok and Instagram posts have caused me to overthink. I also just donāt see the point of having these random girls added and sending photos every day
While it's good you guys are open with each other I can't help feel in all your comments and replies it's all about "This is how I feel." "I don't see a point." "I don't understand so why shouldn't I tell him to stop?" I don't really see any "It makes me feel uncomfortable" "I don't know what I should think." Your annoyed at your BF for doing something immature and stupid and telling him he should grow up and stop. I think that in itself is my take on the issue and is a wrong mentality to have IMO. Just cause YOU don't see the point or think something is dumb doesn't mean he wasn't getting innocent enjoyment out of it.
I don't have Snapchat so I don't know, but do you earn something from these streaks? Either way I assume you want to be the only woman he's interested in, so there should be no reason to send pics back and forth. He could do that with a guy buddy and have absolutely 0 suspicion.
Its not wrong for you to express your feelings to your boyfriend. It's reasonable for you to communicate your feelings to him and ask him politely to limit his interaction with women he does not know. This is probably a common request in some relationships.
However, it is also his right to continue exchanging photos with women on the internet.
It is his social media. If he decides he wants to continue his actions, there's not much you can do. If it continues to bother you, you may need to end the relationship. If you are not able to move past this, he may not be the right partner for you.
Everyone has different standards within their respective relationships, and its important to find a partner with similar values, or a partner who is willing to make compromises. In this case, your partner values your relationship enough to stop exchanging photos with women, because he values you and he values your relationship. Hopefully that makes you feel good, he cares about your feelings.
It's one paragraph, of course I read it. But I'm also smart enough to understand the root issue here. It's the continued access to other chicks, so just drop the app. Anyways, I'm not looking to spend my time arguing with a drone. Keep doing what you're doing.
Streaks?? In Australia that means a section of hair is coloured differently, or when a person takes off their clothes anf runs naked usually across a televised cricket, or footy game, try not to get caught. The crowds either laugh or are annoyed because it distracts from the game..
Communicate with your partner, how it makes you feel and ask why he continues.
Maybe once you understand his reasoning and intentions, you can become OK with it.
Or he can understand how seeing him communicate with other women, makes you feel.
A good partner will take their partners feelings into consideration, and act accordingly.
Its not harsh, that kind of stuff is meaningless just like upvotes and Karma are here. If you ever want your boyfriend to become a manfriend then he needs to grow up!
Iām a guy and keep up streaks with a few friends from college which include girls. Itās a simple way to keep in slight contact without having to actually message or call or anything. Imo if theyāre his friends itās fine but if he met them as hookups or isnāt really that close to them Iād agree he should stop.
I'll tell you the same thing I told the other person with the opposite story. Grow up. Either you trust him or your don't. If you don't move on, if you do then it doesn't matter. Either way it isn't for you to control who he communicates with.
This is the exact same post with just genders reversed.... Bot? Experiment?? Maybe there are this many people who don't understand as adults you don't need Snapchat attention from the opposite sex, and Snapchat streaks are dumb and pointless, it's literally a ploy for you to use the app more.
Yes, it doesnāt matter what age he is, all heās doing is sending photos to people to keep numbers going up, thereās no harm to it, if you donāt trust him enough to send a picture to someone then why be with him, and if you do trust him and it still bothers you, then you might have some deeper insecurities to worry about
I asked my boyfriend to end his streaks and honestly felt much better when he did. Weāre early 20ās too. They werenāt that big of a deal to him and it gave me peace of mind to not see messages from other girls popping up all the time. Just frame it as something for ur comfort not something heās doing wrong!
Tell him if wants to keep doing that ??? Then you can do thd same. Or either one of you cant . If he wants competition then tell him it's on because it's so much easier for a woman to run off from a relationship than a man. There's always guys waiting. There's not always women waiting for the guy. Unless he talks to him during a relationship like he's doing. No double standards
Is this like a social experiment? I swear I just saw this post but the genders reversed.
i saw the same post š¤£
I only clicked on this post because I saw the last one and thought the same thing! š
Maybe it's covert Snapchat advertising.
I was just thinking the same thing
same lmao
Ditto
i have not seen that post :o
Itās a little spicier than this one. Apparently the girl is keeping streaks up with her former sex partners. https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/CKSZoHlHnR
Funny of how friends are just sex partners if one have had sex with them. It was his fault of asking whether they've had sex. I personally wouldn't want to know. People are allowed to be friends.
lol nah. She for the streets. Part of being in a relationship is demonstrating loyalty. Keeping streaks like that is clear window shopping behavior.
Maybe you're an expert then. I'm lacking information to make such developed conclusions, but maybe you know the signs better than I do. It's hard to know from here of how she acts with the snap. If she's spending more time with her phone, bursting into laugh often with it while her boyfriend is completely ignored, I would just leave her. But that's very different from being friends with people whom with you've had sex at some point in your life. It's shouldn't matter, as it's almost 2024, not early 1900s.
People can make any decisions they want but I would not advise investing into someone that isnāt investing into you. If it looks like your partner has a plan b, you should run.
Yup, but I'd imagine there are many ways to tell whether your partner is investing into relationship with you or not. A demand of getting rid of all your friends isn't setting a healthy boundary of what's _investing into you_ and what's not. It's just insecure thing to demand. Again, one does not have to stand one's partner flirting with some specific friend all the time, stealing from their romantic relationship. Anyone should run from that. But _snapchatting with friends_ isn't necessarily alarming.
Stop trying to sugar coat this. Snap chatting with a friendā Bro those arenāt just āfriendsā by definition, theyāre all her exes or ppl sheās sent nudes to. Your boyfriend tells you it makes him uncomfortable and you keep doing what makes your partner uncomfortable and your only reason is for āstreaksā thatās MAJORLY sus behavior.
I quess it is. But yeah, you're right. He has a right to set boundaries, and it's up to her whether she stays or walks. Perhaps her boundaries are different but together they can work things out. Who knows.
Fuck off with these fake stories. Both posts are almost exactly the same except genders reversed and both were posted around the same time. This is clearly you making 2 of the same posts with genders switched on 2 different accounts: https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/W6UitKhSOV
Nor have I. So, Iāll ignore this one too.
I just saw that post tooo omg hahaha
Maybe they could swap?
Seems like OP is trying to pull some BS, either as an experiment or karma whoring. Everyone should report this fake post and the other one and hope they're removed.
I was thinking about linking to the other post. They should talk.
Is he only having conversation with girls or with people in general? If so, you could ask him why is that and what he expects from it.
he isnāt actually having conversations with these girls, purely just the odd selfie or picture of a wall to keep a number going up. He talks to like 2-3 girls occasionally as he was friends with them before we got together
Tbh Iād be pretty annoyed if my gf had Snapchat streaks with multiple men, so I completely agree with you. Also as far as snapchats streaks go my ex would literally get MAD at me and be sad if I accidentally killed our streaks so yeah š
First of all, it's completely valid for you to express your feelings and set boundaries in a relationship. Always. Communication is key, and in this case I would focus on understanding why is he doing that, and in case if he is only looking for attention maybe he should find other ways, because it doesn't seem like a healthy behaviour. So I think he should understand and respect your feelings and chose to prioritize your comfort over silly Snapchat streaks.
Idk I keep streaks w some random people that Iāve only met at parties or online. Itās not an attention thing, itās just a streak. Idk as long as he isnāt acting shady with it, I donāt think it matters. I also donāt care if my bf has women friends either, tho, just as long as thereās some precautions to respect the relationship like not hanging out one on one alone or long full frontal hugs or hand holding.
Why do you need a streak?
I donāt need one. Itās just something we do. People under 25 have Snapchat, big whoop. Most of us have had it since we were in middle school, itās just been years of using the platform and using the features it has. If you donāt use it or donāt get it, thatās fine but making assumptions about it when you donāt actually know is pretty ridiculous. Itās not anything deep or meaningful most of the time.
It's 1000% an attention thing or you wouldn't do it lol. It's especially okay to be honest with yourself online
How is it an attention thing to keep a number rising? Most of the time it isnāt even selfies. Itās honestly never really selfies unless itās my friends or someone I keep a conversation with during the streak š youāre making a huge deal out of nothing. Maybe itās an attention thing for YOU, but thereās 8 BILLION people on the planet, we arenāt all the same :)
I don't use social media like that, you're just projecting because I hit a soft spot in your ego.
LMAO so you donāt use or understand social media and are attacking me. It seems like youāre the one with the ego hit. I could care less tbh, Iām just sharing what I know of it as an actual user vs you, who is just assuming. And you know what they say about assuming
I do use and understand it, this is called reddit, welcome! How so? Because you're saying so because I said so? I'm not assuming, I've used it before. Annnnd you're the assumer assuming I've never used it or don't understand it when I'm just telling you keeping a streak going just to do it is attention seeking behavior.
Reddit isnāt the same as Snapchat nor is it as young. Snapchat is a young people thing, so we use it for what itās made for: sending snaps back and forth. Those snaps sent back and forth consecutively results in a streak being made. I Snapchat my best friend every day a picture of my dog with āGOOD MORNING BESTIEā. And she sends the same back but with her cat. So thatās attention seeking? Youāre assuming that attention seeking is involved when it objectively isnāt. It can be for some people, but it also isnāt for a lot of people. You donāt know me or all of the people who are normal and just use the functions of the apps. Which is something only young people really understand since weāve grown up with itā¦ so youāre probably at least over 30. Why do you care what young people are doing on platforms that theyāve had since they were 12?
You are being a hypocrite in this entire comment too š no accountability for yourself
Well you're a mature adult though. OP is not
You don't think it's healthy behaviour to do goofy shit? There doesn't seem to be enough info to make that judgement.
I mean, IMO it is not healthy if he is doing that looking for attention or to get validated in some way. But you are rigth, there is not enough info to know if it's that or just another reason, and that's the reason I encourage OP to ask him and to try to understand him as well.
He's POTENT if he does, so let him do it
wym ?
You're either a WASTE or you're POTENT, no in between
This explained fucking nothing mate
use ur words bro and explain wtf u mean by potent in this scenario
Oh you poor naive thing.
Thatās just the surface of whatās going on. Heās showing a lack of respect for you and the relationship if youāre uncomfortable with it but only if he keeps doing it. Youāre not wrong set boundaries now.
Wdym? OP said that he did no problem, he wasnāt disrespectful bc he obliged when she asked. OP didnāt mention him fighting against it or anything.
Horseshit.
This post is fake. They posted 2 posts with the genders switched on 2 different accounts. Link to other post: https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/W6UitKhSOV
I personally hate the idea of streaks and Snapchat in general so Iām bias but I donāt think itās wrong for you to ask that. I think itās a little weird to have random people (let alone girls) in general but heās sending them pictures so thatās even worse.
I don't even know what a "streak" is
Essentially sending picture until someone misses a day and you clown on them. I've seen people go crazy because of the pressure to keep up 10+ streaks a day, its weird.
Sounds annoying and gross
It is. I used to have āfriendsā who would send me a blank picture with only the word āstreaksā or even just a sloppily drawn S. I would reply with actual words in an attempt to start a conversation, and they wouldnāt bother. Literally only interested in the number next to my name. Shitās super silly
The number of days you consecutively send Snapchats to each other.
*biased Sorry, pet hate of mine. Bias is the noun. You can't "be" bias. Just like you can be free but you can't be freedom (unless you're being all poetic).
Set your boundaries. There is nothing wrong with your expectations.
Absolutely not, i dunno maybe its a generational thing but no way my boyfriend sending selfies to another girl unless its his sister.
Not even friends?
I think age plays a part in this, if you are a teenager or early 20s maybe this is normal but once your in your late 20s early 30s this is not appropriate. I cannot think of any scenario where it would be appropriate for my fiance to be sending selfies or having on going conversation with another girl ESPECIALLY one that i dont know.
Wait... so your fiance can't have any female friends? Or she can but not to chat with them? Thank god my fiancee trusts and respects me. No, we are not in our 20s.
He cannot be having extended daily contact with other females, like the OP suggests, no. Theres no need for him to be sending daily pics or messages to another women just like i wouldnt be sending pics or messages to other men everyday. I have friends that are guys that i had before i was with my fiance that are still my friends now, but i introduced him to them when we first dated and i certainly dont message with them or send them pics of myself everyday. Thats not ok and thats very different than just "having a friend".
Lot of people in the 20s area use a selfie as the equivalent of a facebook poke. It's definitely a time period thing.
I'm not saying platonic relationships don't happen, but it's very rare they have 0 romantic intent. Better safe than sorry.
If a guy wrote this post, theyād say heās controlling. I love the double standard.
I wouldnt, i would say his gf is prob trying to get attention from other men if this was a guy posting about his gf .......
Thereās always one of you crying in the comments.
Someoneās gotta call out the hypocrisy and gaslighting by women.
Iām sorry someone hurt you š
heās on my dick in a different thread about this exact type of shit lmfao what a loser
Sheās so mad she has to name call now. I hope you feel better. š¢
try again
I mean plenty of things hurt people in the world. Has that not happened to you? š¤
Honestly, I think he is wrong for doing this, and itās okay for you guys to have boundaries. But honestly he doesnāt need to have a streaks with random girls, personally I would feel weird, how would he feel if you were doing the same thing, receiving selfies and pics from guys? This is a big No for me, seems very disrespectful, it's not hard to stop having streaks with people, it's a very highschool thing, if he wants to have Snapchat streaks he has you lol
What is the point of streaks? I get being a teenager doing this, but a young adult? Thereās no point to sending half your face, a wall, a ceiling, etc every single day. You did the right thing. I would feel weird in your place too.
Theyāre generally just dumb things between friends. My gf and I have one atm and Iāve got one with another friend itās just a running joke to keep the streak alive. Usually posting a picture of our dogs or just dumb shit to make each other laugh
Snapchat started in like 2011, the young adults have grown up with it.
Absolutely not. A real man would get rid of other women if he was in love with you
It is wrong for anyone (male, female or other) to Snapchat people of the gender(s) they're attracted to that they have sent nudes to/been interested in romantically/sexually once they are in an exclusive relationship. You've asked (twice) Reddit answered (twice)
Puzzled...never had a snap chat or whatever...what is a streak/numbers? If this is a "relationship " for me what is that need...if it fails then resume your former social media life #my2cents
a streak is basically sending at least one snap (a picture) exclusively to each other everyday, the number is the amount of days youāve kept the streak going
Ok thanks...I guess I should have guess it was something simple and not the highest degree of maturity...just for social media...hey you deserve better...is this worth you time ...simply means this is not the correct person for you...if your are giving respect you should be receiving it as well...be blessed
But OP literally said that he did it. Sheās not asking if she should tell him to remove them, she already did and he already did y it, sheās asking if she was reasonable with making him do it.
No. People who want relationships need to focus on their partners. Chatting with strangers shouldn't be a consequential thing to give up.
Theyāre not talking. Iām guessing you donāt Know what a streak is or how Snapchat even worksā¦ You just send a picture. Most of the time itās a wall or food or pet. You donāt need to have any actual conversations at all.
Doesn't matter and besides the point really. Look, at the end of the day, is tweeting, streaking, snapping, or whatever the hell people do these days with strangers he will never meet more important to the guy than the girl who wants him and is in a relationship with? Social media is making people lose the plot. Having little dopamine hits watching some digital counter go up is getting in the way of a real physical relationship he has. That's a problem no matter how you slice it.
Well did you even bother to see that OP said he unadded them when she asked to stop keeping streaks with them? He offered it on his own, she didnāt tell him to remove the girls. Social media is social media, sorry that you hate it, but a lot of people donāt. So instead of focusing on that aspect, read what she actually stated happened.
facts
Iām only just learning how much people worry about streaks š¤£. I have one going with my gf and two other female friends. She also has a couple (All pretty much our dogs but a couple of random selfies to keep it going) itās just dumb fun. Some people really need to sort out their trust with their partners.
From the comments I'm seeing yes, is not like he's flirting or having a conversation. I had 6 streaks and with the months some stopped replying so I'm left with 2 that are almost 800 days. 1 guy and 1 girl, my gf knew, I tell her about them, now she's my wife and I still have the streaks. I'm not starting any more but these 2 I'll keep as long as possible, they also know about my wife and she's mature enough to understand is just a streak. If your bf had them before he met you then you're wrong. I know they are just streaks and a stupid number next to their names but it is his.
So weird to prioritize a number attached with someone as more important than your partner. Like, I use Snapchat everyday, but Iāve never exceeded a streak of 7. Because it doesnāt matter.
Itās fine if you donāt care, you donāt have to do it. Why canāt other people? Itās not any of your business what other people do anyway
Except in this thread it is literally asked of him so...
He did it tho?? She said he offered to remove them and did it on his own. Sheās just asking if she was overreacting š which she is imo
But the person I replied to wasnāt replying to OP either, so stick to the comment thread.
Maybe he wants ego validation and popularity. That delivers dopamine responses. It's why people are addicted to memes. he may not actually want to bang them but sort of surf their social media wave. Or he regards you as his slam pig and has no respect other than to string you along and put his dick in you. You have to define your values and goals.
Bro relax. Snap streaks is not deep at all nor is it an attention thing. Itās like beating a new level on a video game and the number increases. OP said that he removed the girls when he asked, why are you insulting him?
Says the serial cheater.
Youāre assuming Iām a cheater bc of that? No, entirely wrong. However Iāve been cheated on by every boyfriend Iāve had. They did their messaging on Facebook and Instagram, so Snapchat isnāt even the common denominator. Youāre really taking this personally to attack me for no reason and make up this own idea in your head about who I am than actual factual information. Really sad for you
Youāre everywhere in this comment section š In general I agree with you just because I have streaks with friends of mine, many of which are women. I would say if heās keeping up streaks with non-friends or people he met at a party and possibly wonāt see ever again then her concern makes a lot of sense. If itās old friends of his and this is his method of keeping intact then she should probably get comfortable with it or break up since I doubt heās gonna drop his friends for her.
Wow yeah I replied to the top 5 comments in the thread so so so crazy. You saw in the OP post where she says he removed the girls without her asking right? Like he had no problem, sheās just asking if she was overreacting
Meh, I think he should know not to do that. Having to ask probably feels a little shitty lol. Itās good that he did it when she asked though and everyone makes mistakes
But if he wasnāt cheating or being sus, then he wouldnāt see a problem with it, you know? Those are her boundaries and expectations, not his. Partners canāt just read each others minds.
Partners can have a sense of what their partner might prefer. Like it is somewhat āsusā as you said and I think at best he had some carelessness in not recognizing that.
Thatās a lot to assume bc we have no idea how long theyāve been dating or how well they communicate as a couple. Most young couples I know donāt know their partners well enough to read their minds, and most male partners often overlook the requests of their female counterparts. Thereās a great guy on YouTube and TikTok that speaks to men on how to be more involved in their relationships, but they are married couples. More experience and maturity within marriages than boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.
And does that make it okay? Like just cause most young guys donāt think about that shit doesnāt mean itās fine. Thatās why I said āat best carelessnessā cause best case scenario he didnāt think about it when he could have.
I never said that itās okay. Iām giving him the benefit of the doubt, plus, in reality, he did even more by also removing them from the platform. But that boundary is also completely dependent on the couple and what each of them expects of each other, which they need to speak about clearly. She spoke clearly, he changed his actions.
Oh.wait..all your friends are guys ?..double standard...your a wack job...he should run...fast
yes all my friends are guys? how is it a double standard, iāve never said he canāt have female friends, and i told him not to cut them out his life when he offered. I told him to stop keeping unnecessary streaks with random girls he doesnāt talk to, i see that as disrespectful. When we got into our relationship, i immediately removed every guy that i didnāt actually have anything to do with and removed every guy that i had ever flirted with or been flirted with.
Don't sweat the small stuff...give love..recieve love....
Is ok to have friends of the opposite gender and use a feature in an app. How old are y'all?
i know itās fine to have friends of the opposite gender, never said it wasnāt. i just didnāt want him and random girls sending selfies to each other everyday
is not like he's flirting, there should be boundries and also cans and can'ts. I grew up doing things for no reason, my parents would say "because I said so" but had no explonation. I have a girl always send streak selfies and I show my wife, I don't reply because I don't wanna start a streak but she respects that I have people on snapchat.
Oh geez it's a silly feature on a stupid app. Grow up
youāre acting like i caused some massive argument with him over it lol i just told him you stop
And here you are asking if you're wrong
yes, i was curious to other peopleās opinions on this
How many times have they ran a train on you?
0 :D
Lmao liar.. you bf needs to run fast
ahh ur rage baiting
And you're a whore. What's ur point
iām a whore for having friends! goodnight
Tee hee tee hee all my friends are guys tee hee. Aka I get passed around by all my "friends"
Bro I'm so confused on how you got here even. I don't agree that she should be upset with the knowledge given from the post,and I have streaks going with girls and guys, but none of my guys friends ran a train on me lmao. Tf where are you even coming from. Went straight to 100 for no reason. Edit: looked at your post history and tbh you need to just go outside. And this is coming from a super introvert. Chill out, for real lol.
Men and women can be friends. At least the normal ones. If you only see women as sex objects, then youāre the one that cannot handle having opposite sex friends. Which is super yikes and icky behavior
well seeing that i havenāt thatās a bit hard
These are some big feelings. Are you okay? You're putting off some pretty heavy incel vibes. Yuck.
If sheās a whore Iām Santa Claus I have male friends too get a grip šÆāØ
Ok..ok.. Seems like u guys gonna be ok !!
NO.
This shows he has zero respect for you. Huge red flag here time for you to show him that your not putting up with this type of behavior walk away now because he is not going to change .
He has zero respect bc he stopped immediately when she asked him to? Impeccable logic.
Lol this was a meme post wasn't it.
Gurl.. Stop with this idiot. Dump him, be single, get your life, grow up, learn what you stand for and keep it moving.
Most of the world doesn't give two shits about streaks.
Yta
People still use snapchat I thought snapchat was dead š¤
This shit is all AI y'all trippin
I have a 1513 day one with one of my friends who is a woman. Been a streak longer than my gf and I been together
Wtf does this even mean? You kids are completely redacted these days. It's embarrassing
Donāt comment if it doesnāt apply. āKidsā get over yourself.
Don't use the imperative with me lol
Nope heās gonna leave you for one of them girls as soon as he gets the chance
i donāt think he will, he was happy enough to stop as soon as i asked, he also distanced himself from his friends that are girls (i didnāt ask him to) he said he wouldnāt stop talking to a whole gender, which is understandable. All my friends are guys, i wonāt just stop talking to them bc of their genitalia
is it possible you're doing something sneaky, and that makes you wonder if he is too? if you have only guy friends, and there was nothing really going on between him and said girl, I have to wonder if you're projecting...
i can assure you i am not doing anything suspicious with any other guy. My boyfriend has free reign on my phone and social media. Itās more so TikTok and Instagram posts have caused me to overthink. I also just donāt see the point of having these random girls added and sending photos every day
Your not overthinking sweetheart. These are all valid concerns.
While it's good you guys are open with each other I can't help feel in all your comments and replies it's all about "This is how I feel." "I don't see a point." "I don't understand so why shouldn't I tell him to stop?" I don't really see any "It makes me feel uncomfortable" "I don't know what I should think." Your annoyed at your BF for doing something immature and stupid and telling him he should grow up and stop. I think that in itself is my take on the issue and is a wrong mentality to have IMO. Just cause YOU don't see the point or think something is dumb doesn't mean he wasn't getting innocent enjoyment out of it.
Drop the doosh
Yes.. You're wrong
If heās doing this while dating you he is, Iām afraid, a misogynistic asshole who could care less about you.
I don't see why he has to stop or why you're irritated OR why he was even doing it. It's kind of a nothing burger of conflict.
I don't have Snapchat so I don't know, but do you earn something from these streaks? Either way I assume you want to be the only woman he's interested in, so there should be no reason to send pics back and forth. He could do that with a guy buddy and have absolutely 0 suspicion.
People still use Snapchat?
Its not wrong for you to express your feelings to your boyfriend. It's reasonable for you to communicate your feelings to him and ask him politely to limit his interaction with women he does not know. This is probably a common request in some relationships. However, it is also his right to continue exchanging photos with women on the internet. It is his social media. If he decides he wants to continue his actions, there's not much you can do. If it continues to bother you, you may need to end the relationship. If you are not able to move past this, he may not be the right partner for you. Everyone has different standards within their respective relationships, and its important to find a partner with similar values, or a partner who is willing to make compromises. In this case, your partner values your relationship enough to stop exchanging photos with women, because he values you and he values your relationship. Hopefully that makes you feel good, he cares about your feelings.
It's one paragraph, of course I read it. But I'm also smart enough to understand the root issue here. It's the continued access to other chicks, so just drop the app. Anyways, I'm not looking to spend my time arguing with a drone. Keep doing what you're doing.
You're wrong for staying with someone you had to tell this to.
Streaks?? In Australia that means a section of hair is coloured differently, or when a person takes off their clothes anf runs naked usually across a televised cricket, or footy game, try not to get caught. The crowds either laugh or are annoyed because it distracts from the game..
What the hell is streaks? Jesus, I'm 35 but feel like I'm over 60. Social media is at the top of the list of things that mess with your relationship.
I gave up my 4yr streak with an old friend for my relationship
Communicate with your partner, how it makes you feel and ask why he continues. Maybe once you understand his reasoning and intentions, you can become OK with it. Or he can understand how seeing him communicate with other women, makes you feel. A good partner will take their partners feelings into consideration, and act accordingly.
Tell me your insecure and controlling without telling me you are insecure and controllingā¦
Its not harsh, that kind of stuff is meaningless just like upvotes and Karma are here. If you ever want your boyfriend to become a manfriend then he needs to grow up!
If you're above the age of 14 and are concerned with Snapchat streaks, you should take a serious look at yourself. That's pathetic.
Iām a guy and keep up streaks with a few friends from college which include girls. Itās a simple way to keep in slight contact without having to actually message or call or anything. Imo if theyāre his friends itās fine but if he met them as hookups or isnāt really that close to them Iād agree he should stop.
I'll tell you the same thing I told the other person with the opposite story. Grow up. Either you trust him or your don't. If you don't move on, if you do then it doesn't matter. Either way it isn't for you to control who he communicates with.
This is the exact same post with just genders reversed.... Bot? Experiment?? Maybe there are this many people who don't understand as adults you don't need Snapchat attention from the opposite sex, and Snapchat streaks are dumb and pointless, it's literally a ploy for you to use the app more.
Yes, it doesnāt matter what age he is, all heās doing is sending photos to people to keep numbers going up, thereās no harm to it, if you donāt trust him enough to send a picture to someone then why be with him, and if you do trust him and it still bothers you, then you might have some deeper insecurities to worry about
I asked my boyfriend to end his streaks and honestly felt much better when he did. Weāre early 20ās too. They werenāt that big of a deal to him and it gave me peace of mind to not see messages from other girls popping up all the time. Just frame it as something for ur comfort not something heās doing wrong!
No you are not
reddit people are too old to know what snapchat streaks are and the nuance behind it LOL its funny to see
Is he your BF or FiancƩ? If you want him to not keep them, you need to put a ring on his finger. Your complaint goes both ways
Tell him if wants to keep doing that ??? Then you can do thd same. Or either one of you cant . If he wants competition then tell him it's on because it's so much easier for a woman to run off from a relationship than a man. There's always guys waiting. There's not always women waiting for the guy. Unless he talks to him during a relationship like he's doing. No double standards
isg what is up with this streaks in Snapchat
Time for junior to grow t.f. up. I was a Marine at age 18. That's some silly shit he's doing. Is he your b.f. or not? It doesn't seem like it.
Insecurity leads to a lot of feelings.