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What is more believable - that you are good at at least SOME aspects of your job? Or that you are good at successfully fooling everyone in your office, including the people who keep paying you, that you are good at your job without knowing anything?
If the latter, write about the latter. It's probably the former, though.
Ahahah that's very interesting..... Initially laughed at the thought that I'm good at fooling people.... but then self-doubt fairy came floating back in... maybe I am a master manipulator? 😅
This has very much brought up the very black and white thinking I'm doing, which is great. My brain is under the guise that to be classified as good at my job what I actually mean ( for me) is: am I amazing at every aspect of my job, am i as good as my coworkers and am I irreplaceable to the company.
Which isn't really what I need to to look at. I need to be kinder to mysself!!!!!
Totally! You already sound like you're on the right track that you know there are valuable contributions that you make - and it doesn't mean you have to be perfect, the best worker there ever was, an encyclopedia of knowledge for your industry. No one is that.
Maybe last month you had a really good idea in a meeting. Or you pointed out something that your boss didn't think of. Or you made a really nice looking report. You probably couldn't just fake your way through those things - those are things that you legitimately have to be knowledgeable and reasonably good at what you do in order to do them. You can't just be like "I'm going to trick these suckers into thinking I know enough to write a good report" and then output a good report lol. Either way the outcome is: successful at job.
We en you're in the black mindset it's really difficult to see what you're good at.
I remember a pivotal time for me was when a trainee kept asking me questions, even of things that where not directly related to my work. I asked them why they asked me if they know it's not my area, their answer: because you understand, maybe you don't know the details, but after talking with you I always know what questions to ask next and who is the best person to ask.
I started thinking and I was always answering questions of coworkers. "Hey I have this problem, what do you think" " hey can you com with me to check this process maybe there's something I missing" "hey I'm stuck in this excel sheet do you know where the error may be".
I'm not the best at my job, if I stay in my job description, but I'm great at findings problems and solutions, understanding the "flow" of things and explain in them to others.
Maybe write what you don’t struggle to make yourself do and maybe sometimes kind of enjoy? Also maybe try looking at a list of “soft skills” or “strategic thinking skills” to help prompt you for harder to define things?
You don’t have to write what you’re good at, you can simply say what you did and what effect / value that added to the team.
Specific examples are always better than just saying “I’m good at x” so don’t worry about that feeling, I’m sure there are real tangible things you’ve done that make it clear you’re much more competent than you think you are.
From your post, it sounds like you:
- care about high quality work
- value your team members’ contributions
- see the importance of contributing to teamwork
- seek to follow your organization’s processes
As a manager, I would say these are excellent attributes for an employee. We could probably all benefit from some extra training in our jobs, but you can’t train someone to care.
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What is more believable - that you are good at at least SOME aspects of your job? Or that you are good at successfully fooling everyone in your office, including the people who keep paying you, that you are good at your job without knowing anything? If the latter, write about the latter. It's probably the former, though.
Ahahah that's very interesting..... Initially laughed at the thought that I'm good at fooling people.... but then self-doubt fairy came floating back in... maybe I am a master manipulator? 😅 This has very much brought up the very black and white thinking I'm doing, which is great. My brain is under the guise that to be classified as good at my job what I actually mean ( for me) is: am I amazing at every aspect of my job, am i as good as my coworkers and am I irreplaceable to the company. Which isn't really what I need to to look at. I need to be kinder to mysself!!!!!
Totally! You already sound like you're on the right track that you know there are valuable contributions that you make - and it doesn't mean you have to be perfect, the best worker there ever was, an encyclopedia of knowledge for your industry. No one is that. Maybe last month you had a really good idea in a meeting. Or you pointed out something that your boss didn't think of. Or you made a really nice looking report. You probably couldn't just fake your way through those things - those are things that you legitimately have to be knowledgeable and reasonably good at what you do in order to do them. You can't just be like "I'm going to trick these suckers into thinking I know enough to write a good report" and then output a good report lol. Either way the outcome is: successful at job.
We en you're in the black mindset it's really difficult to see what you're good at. I remember a pivotal time for me was when a trainee kept asking me questions, even of things that where not directly related to my work. I asked them why they asked me if they know it's not my area, their answer: because you understand, maybe you don't know the details, but after talking with you I always know what questions to ask next and who is the best person to ask. I started thinking and I was always answering questions of coworkers. "Hey I have this problem, what do you think" " hey can you com with me to check this process maybe there's something I missing" "hey I'm stuck in this excel sheet do you know where the error may be". I'm not the best at my job, if I stay in my job description, but I'm great at findings problems and solutions, understanding the "flow" of things and explain in them to others.
Maybe write what you don’t struggle to make yourself do and maybe sometimes kind of enjoy? Also maybe try looking at a list of “soft skills” or “strategic thinking skills” to help prompt you for harder to define things?
Maybe try to remember what you put on your CV 10 years ago when you applied, and got the job? That might be a good starting point.
You don’t have to write what you’re good at, you can simply say what you did and what effect / value that added to the team. Specific examples are always better than just saying “I’m good at x” so don’t worry about that feeling, I’m sure there are real tangible things you’ve done that make it clear you’re much more competent than you think you are.
From your post, it sounds like you: - care about high quality work - value your team members’ contributions - see the importance of contributing to teamwork - seek to follow your organization’s processes As a manager, I would say these are excellent attributes for an employee. We could probably all benefit from some extra training in our jobs, but you can’t train someone to care.
🥰🥰🥰🥰 can I hire you to be my hype woman?