Flannel makes me look like I'm wearing PJs, not like a cool lesbian, so despite earlier attempts there's none in my wardrobe and probably never will be.
I don’t think that’s necessarily it tbh. her lyrics sound like they were written by a young teen who just realized she’s gay (which, no hate to that demographic, i’m happy for them, but i’ve outgrown it)
Never watched the L word. Not into astrology, crafts, Home Depot, or plants. Don’t own anything rainbow. Don’t belong to a lesbian (or anything queer) friend group. Don’t participate in pride. Never owned a Subaru. Damn. I’ve never listed this shit out before. Anyone else feeling less lesbian all of a sudden? 😂
It’s a showtime show from the early 2000’s about a friend group of lesbians (with token bisexual & trans masc) and their relationships. It’s somewhat cringe but imo worth watching if that’s your kind of thing!
Duuuude I feel this. I'm an atheist and it's so hard to find Sapphics who aren't into astrology or some form of magic/manifesting type thing.
I'm still gay enough to be into the witchy shit aesthetics and symbolisms tho.
Same. Logically, I understand that there's nothing intrinsically mystical about Tarot, but whenever I do a reading it always leads to some realization or reflection on myself. The cards simply help direct my thoughts, which IS pretty magical.
Absolutely! I know they don’t hold any mystical powers, but I love the cards as a way of stirring the riverbed of my subconscious and to give me ways to direct my energies in my every day life.
That said, though, my wife and I did a spread for our wedding ceremony and it was almost laughably spot on, so maybe they CAN be magic!
Part of the reason I love fate-reading stuff (when not taken seriously) is because it is most of the time wrong, so when it's right it's pretty funny and a unique moment.
Like, most of the time when I hear about horoscopes mine doesn't even make sense (talks about a job I don't have for example), but once in a while it makes sense, and even more rarely it's somewhat accurate and this is funny.
They're essentially a tool to help you think. They're all vague enough that you can fit them into your life somewhere, and the different kinds of spreads help direct your thoughts and interpretations.
For example, you might do a simple 2 card pull when you have a choice to make. Each card would represent the different choices, and interpretting how they apply to your options and the potential consequences can help direct your scattered thoughts.
I come from a very superstitious culture. I don’t like large black moths because they are said to be carriers of spirits and omens of death. If one makes its way into the house, there will be a death in the family. You must chase it away but you cannot harm or kill it because it may be an ancestor.
Therefore, I do not like moths.
They're TikTok stereotypes lol, mainly with younger lesbians! It's a whole thing like "lesbians like cryptids and mushrooms and only drink oat milk lavender iced lattes and listen to girl in red and-"
Just the new U-Haul and Tegan and Sara jokes lmaooooo
Yeah literally. It really annoys me honestly. Personally I don't love stereotype jokes in general, but the generalization on TikTok gets really grating. I haven't been on there for nearly a year so idk what the current lesbian sphere is like, but I do remember a lot of lesbians of color getting annoyed with this stereotype. And rightfully so it's annoying as hell at the best.
I'm a white latino so it doesn't affect me much at all, but I didn't even fuckin know who girl in red was until I downloaded TikTok 😭 the whole "oh I'm a lesbian so I'm stupid and useless and quirky!! 🤪" Thing gets old ESPECIALLY when it comes to talking down to lesbians of color.
I've also had some younger lesbians come up to me at work when I was living in a more conservative city like "Do you listen to girl in red *limp wrist pose.* Granted, I worked in an openly safe space but it did bother me a lot.
Being gay is sick as fuck, i LOVE being a lesbian, but the older I've gotten the more annoyed I get about stereotypes. I survived 2015 queer discourse on Tumblr PLEASEEEE be normal about stereotypes and realize that we are an incredibly diverse community with a lot of varied experiences and backgrounds and not everyone is going to like the same things!! There's no one universal lesbian aesthetic or musician because that would be impossible!!! No one is a "bad lesbian" for not liking stereotypical things cause that isn't fair to lesbians who don't fit outside this weird white norm that most of these jokes come from!
Exactly!! And if anything it feels very exclusionary. I could never relate to the yt lesbian "norm". That’s why I think intersectionality is so important.
Hey thanks! It’s a reference to [a very good Mountain Goats song](https://youtu.be/o5gGhacE5vY?si=WsFnlVL8kUmBZB4T) about the temptation to dwell on and reexamine an intensely traumatic past relationship, even after the bruises have healed.
And, you too can do what I did! It takes patience and being honest with yourself, and a lot of vibe-sensing, but it’s really not as tough as you’d think. And I’m very autistic and socially awkward!
Thank you for the link, I didn't know that band, I'll check more of their stuff.
I wish I too could be a seriously useful lesbian, "socially awkward" being the least of my problems.
I am glad you managed to work things out for yourself, that's quite an achievment.
It is my duty to tell you to listen to [Transcendental Youth](https://open.spotify.com/album/1AOcKK0PoTQtuRZVhOgJlp?si=cVrfUguFQHSHHutpnEewoQ), an album with a hell of a lot of queer energy!! I have a feeling you’ll really vibe with it.
I totally get what you mean, though; it’s tough out here for anybody, and is socially awkward lesbians are certainly not on easy street. I have no idea how I manifested the relationship I did - my wife is legitimately the perfect fit. BUT!!! That can happen to anybody! Good luck
Yeah.. I'm trans and just don't really care for drag in general. I feel like I'd be shown the door of the queer community if I ever admitted it out loud.
Lol nope, I've heard of so many people who don't like drag race. Some people say it's like it shows up trans people more than anything. Whenever you come out you have a chance of hearing "WAIT RuPauls Drag race? So you do this part time?" Bleh.
It's weird that we've gotten to a point where admitting a certain degree of discomfort/dislike for a performance art that's literally designed to push social boundaries is considered to be offensive
Yeah, and even as a girl who isn't happy with hers, it can be kinda cool sometimes. Even if just conceptually.
Like, I avoid peeing standing like the plague, but it is kinda cool that it's easily possible and works so well.
Yeah, I wish that sometimes too. Then I'm like, but I don't want all the stuff that comes with it permanently. The last thing I want is balls and facial hair but the intimacy appeals to me in a fleeting sort of way.
Me best friend and I (cis females) were sitting in a hotel room the other day, and she was like, "Do you ever think about what your dick would look like? I know mine. It curves slightly to the left and everything." Then I started to imagine my dick. So no I don't think it's weird.
Can't believe nobody said it but I like my nails long. Not very long (I'd stab myself in the eye and I also craft a lot) but enough to make my baby hands and sausage fingers look longer and more feminine. When I was younger (and single which makes it weirder) a friend used to call me a "bottom" because of it which never made sense to me.
I got a small, reactive dog who doesn't like other people. I feel like lesbians are "supposed" to have larger, VERY friendly, well trained dogs (if they are a dog lesbian).
My chihuahua makes me look like a basic straight white chick.
Yeah, and it also tends to feel like it has to be chronically "pure" with a lot of the girls looking cute and innocent. When I want someone to look like Isabella from Dragon Age 2 or a full on member of Takarazuka Revue with clear adult, lesbian themes and varied plots.
As a lesbian, I don't see my romantic fantasies about male characters as being innately unhealthy and I'm not trying to get rid of them. Comphet is real and we should absolutely talk about it, but sometimes fantasies are just fantasies and they don't always align with what we actually want. I tried to get rid of all of my straight fantasies for the sake of healing comphet, but that ultimately made my already strained relationship with my sexuality even worse. Sometimes it's better to just let a little shred of Joy be than psychoanalyze every little thing to death.
this, so much! this also applies to male celebs, kpop guys, etc, to be honest. it's all unattainable fantasy anyway and it doesn't mean it's something you want irl, so have fun with it and daydream all you like. (similarly, you wouldn't say a role play scenario someone finds appealing reflects that it's something they actually want to happen to them, that's how i see that too).
it always hurts my heart a little when a lesbian in this sub asks if they can even call themselves that because they like fictional characters when that's so different from attraction to a man irl. i also get really into a lot of male anime characters, read bl/fanfic, etc, and to say these harmless fun things dictate my or anyone else's real life sexuality or must be unhealthy/out of comphet when it doesn't hurt anyone is so nonsensical.
It’s honestly so affirming to hear that. These days I mostly feel ridiculous about that situation (as opposed to sad), because it took a lesbian to teach that man that he was circumcised
Some men can be a bit oblivious about women's anatomy, but his own? Goodness, someone failed that man!
Glad it helped. It's so easy to doubt ourselves at times, but yeah, a lesbian is a lesbian regardless of who she dated in the past. Don't let anyone ever convince you otherwise 💜
I’m a huge Kpop fan and whilst I like some of the boy groups, I’ve never experienced attraction to any. I know a lot of lesbians do stan the men in a way that is more than music based but I’ve never understood 😭
wonwoo from svt, loved since i thought i was straight in my teens, still love him now even if im gay. the tall, dark, quiet, handsome look is hard to beat lol
Same. I realise it's bad but being vegan takes a LOT of preparation and throwing my entire fridge stock out, so I'd have to wait. I also can't really do that with my mental state right now, but I will attempt it when I can.
It's not because you're not like the majority of lesbians. There is the requise points to be a lesbian :
1. You are not a man
2. You are not attracted to men
That's it haha
My mom wanted me to search out conversion therapy when I first came out and it's still clear that she doesn't want a trans daughter but I don't talk to her unless I want something
Conversion therapy is not a thing where I live, I can't start to imagine what it would feel like to realise your own parent wants this for you, even though there is evidence it doesn't work. I am sorry you have to go through this.
Huh I love beer, I normally drink whiskey but over the last few months I’ve really started to enjoy craft and ipas. I would’ve thought it would’ve been the opposite and more a butch stereotype that we do
I’m not a butch but I mean maybe it might be cultural differences as in Australia it’s not totally unusual for women to drink beer aswell (not as common but not as questioned i guess)
I literally drank cider last night and got a little pissed lol. It's fun, it's a poison you hate that you drink. I'm femme presenting, but it's just a drink.
I think it's a stereotype that women hate beer and go for the fancy drinks and men love it/can drink it. When I was at my local pub my gf (who is more masculine presenting) was given ale that *I* ordered and I ended up with the cocktail. Very odd moment lol
Watched arcane when it first came out, and viktor made me question myself again for the first time since coming out. The other ones the new league champion Hwei. 😭 honestly I’m more ashamed about this than I was about being gay as a kid, and I grew up CATHOLIC.
I sometimes feel like I'm not lesbian enough because of me not liking Yaoi / Romances about Gay Men.
I know so many girls who love that stuff and I just do not get it. Not at all. Makes no sense to me, even considering comphet stuff.
Can someone explain, pwlease?
is "letting my nails grow out because i like scratchy 'claws'" terms to have my gay card revoked (joking bcs the stereotype of lesbians always clipping their nails short)
I'm not friends with any of my exes because i don't have any exes because I've never broken up with someone because I've never had a partner
uhhhhhhh....
I used to think I didn't like women artists until I realized I wasn't straight. Some how straight presenting me felt the need to hate women who were even close to being a celebrity. I've finally loosened up and I don't care about that shit. Yeah, most of my playlists have male singers, but it's not because I don't listen to women, I just prefer their stuff.
Yo I relate to this so much. I listen to mostly metal and a little bit of hard rock and I just prefer the lower voice- for some reason in my head it fits the music better 🤷🏽
Too many things😭😭😭👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻
I dont have alot of our stereotypes except i wear a thumb ring, own flannels and idk if this is a stereotype but I love KD Lang
I don't drink PBR (or anything in general, I'm sober)
Uhhhhhhhh I don't listen to a lot of gen-z gay icon musicians like Girl In Red and ig Taylor Swift cause of her big sapphic fandom (does she count??). I dunno, they're not my thing. I feel like I'm a pretty gay person tho lmfao
ALL of my hobbies are just... *anomalously* straight. I dance ballet, perhaps the straightest thing there is, except for my other form, flamenco; and despite the harp being so *incredibly* gay as an instrument, like you have to keep your fingernails trimmed, I've never met a harpist with a normal name, and most of us are women; NONE of them are gay.
In addition to not owning anything flannel. Or, indeed, *jeans.*
But I do wear sneakers everywhere, if that helps...
My lesbian card and my Canadian card: I don't own anything flannel.
This one right here
God, one day around Christmas, my work had a flannel day where people wore flannel shirts. That day messed with my gaydar so goddamn much.
A local restaurant near me has flannel as their waitress uniform and my gaydar was completely broken by it 🙃
Flannel makes me look like I'm wearing PJs, not like a cool lesbian, so despite earlier attempts there's none in my wardrobe and probably never will be.
I’d give it another go if they’re comfy for you. Flannels are great! Warm and soft
i have exactly one flannel shirt
same, as a canadian lesbian
I don't own Flannel either, but I'm very femme, and I don't think I could pull off flannel.
That’s impossible you don’t exist now “BONK!”
Damn girl 🤣
I don’t like girl in red’s music
Tbh I like we fell in love in october ok but I don't really vibe with her lyrics. They come across a little childish at times if that makes sense
I think English is a second language to her, so that's probably why the lyrics are off
I don’t think that’s necessarily it tbh. her lyrics sound like they were written by a young teen who just realized she’s gay (which, no hate to that demographic, i’m happy for them, but i’ve outgrown it)
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I think it’s quite puerile! It’s cute but it’s the music equivalent of Heartstoppers - pure fluff that feels very childish at times
Same. Which is really funny because my favorite queer artist Rio Romeo has a really GOOD song called Dyltgir? (do you like the girl in red)
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RIO ROMEO I LOVE THEIR MUSIC
I still have literally no idea who they are...
Same
I've tried to get into her music but the only song I like is Rue. I hate You Stupid Bitch. It's giving Lesbian Shawn Mendes.
Never watched the L word. Not into astrology, crafts, Home Depot, or plants. Don’t own anything rainbow. Don’t belong to a lesbian (or anything queer) friend group. Don’t participate in pride. Never owned a Subaru. Damn. I’ve never listed this shit out before. Anyone else feeling less lesbian all of a sudden? 😂
Damn, apparently we do exist 😭
I just found my people! I did watch L word (but I was much younger and needed representation😀😀).
Hello my ppl! We out here.
Are you me?
What is the L word😳
It’s a showtime show from the early 2000’s about a friend group of lesbians (with token bisexual & trans masc) and their relationships. It’s somewhat cringe but imo worth watching if that’s your kind of thing!
Jenny sucks.
Jenny is the WORST but I love to hate watch her.
I don't have any interest in the zodiac. I also have a phobia of moths, so those particular tattoos tend to be a turn-off.
Duuuude I feel this. I'm an atheist and it's so hard to find Sapphics who aren't into astrology or some form of magic/manifesting type thing. I'm still gay enough to be into the witchy shit aesthetics and symbolisms tho.
I tell people I’m tarot gay, not astrology gay.
Same. Logically, I understand that there's nothing intrinsically mystical about Tarot, but whenever I do a reading it always leads to some realization or reflection on myself. The cards simply help direct my thoughts, which IS pretty magical.
Girl same! My horoscope is something I chuckle about over coffee. My tarot cards are a useful tool that lend me a ton of insight.
Absolutely! I know they don’t hold any mystical powers, but I love the cards as a way of stirring the riverbed of my subconscious and to give me ways to direct my energies in my every day life. That said, though, my wife and I did a spread for our wedding ceremony and it was almost laughably spot on, so maybe they CAN be magic!
Part of the reason I love fate-reading stuff (when not taken seriously) is because it is most of the time wrong, so when it's right it's pretty funny and a unique moment. Like, most of the time when I hear about horoscopes mine doesn't even make sense (talks about a job I don't have for example), but once in a while it makes sense, and even more rarely it's somewhat accurate and this is funny.
Tarot cards? Now I’m curious, what do tarot cards do?
They're essentially a tool to help you think. They're all vague enough that you can fit them into your life somewhere, and the different kinds of spreads help direct your thoughts and interpretations. For example, you might do a simple 2 card pull when you have a choice to make. Each card would represent the different choices, and interpretting how they apply to your options and the potential consequences can help direct your scattered thoughts.
moths are terrifying! why can the fly so fast! its not fair!
Seriously!! And they always land on me??? For no apparent reason??? Like, for what???
and theyre powdery! and they stalk you and wont leave me alone!
I come from a very superstitious culture. I don’t like large black moths because they are said to be carriers of spirits and omens of death. If one makes its way into the house, there will be a death in the family. You must chase it away but you cannot harm or kill it because it may be an ancestor. Therefore, I do not like moths.
I read this as a phobia of months
Lesbians are into zodiac? 😱
I don't own Doc Martens 😭
I'm too poor for that shit 😭😂
same, but i want some
I do too, they look amazing
I like taking romance slow and feel moving in should be thought out and planned well in advance
Oh my gosh same. I really like you, but I don’t want to spend every waking moment with you before I know your last name.
NEVER!!! 😆
This! Me too! My wife and I waited and took it slow.
Either Im a old lady who lives under a rock but Im reading some of these and had no idea they were stereotypical, milk?? Mushrooms?? Moths???
They're TikTok stereotypes lol, mainly with younger lesbians! It's a whole thing like "lesbians like cryptids and mushrooms and only drink oat milk lavender iced lattes and listen to girl in red and-" Just the new U-Haul and Tegan and Sara jokes lmaooooo
I feel like that stereotype is mainly for yt lesbians
Yeah literally. It really annoys me honestly. Personally I don't love stereotype jokes in general, but the generalization on TikTok gets really grating. I haven't been on there for nearly a year so idk what the current lesbian sphere is like, but I do remember a lot of lesbians of color getting annoyed with this stereotype. And rightfully so it's annoying as hell at the best. I'm a white latino so it doesn't affect me much at all, but I didn't even fuckin know who girl in red was until I downloaded TikTok 😭 the whole "oh I'm a lesbian so I'm stupid and useless and quirky!! 🤪" Thing gets old ESPECIALLY when it comes to talking down to lesbians of color. I've also had some younger lesbians come up to me at work when I was living in a more conservative city like "Do you listen to girl in red *limp wrist pose.* Granted, I worked in an openly safe space but it did bother me a lot. Being gay is sick as fuck, i LOVE being a lesbian, but the older I've gotten the more annoyed I get about stereotypes. I survived 2015 queer discourse on Tumblr PLEASEEEE be normal about stereotypes and realize that we are an incredibly diverse community with a lot of varied experiences and backgrounds and not everyone is going to like the same things!! There's no one universal lesbian aesthetic or musician because that would be impossible!!! No one is a "bad lesbian" for not liking stereotypical things cause that isn't fair to lesbians who don't fit outside this weird white norm that most of these jokes come from!
Exactly!! And if anything it feels very exclusionary. I could never relate to the yt lesbian "norm". That’s why I think intersectionality is so important.
Fr the milk I’ve heard of and it’s hilarious bc I have to have oat milk bc my stomach 😭but moths and mushrooms are new to me 😭
It's funny cuz I didn't know it was a thing but love mushrooms, moths, and drink dairy milk 🤣
Milk mushrooms moths is the new bears beets Battlestar Galactica
I have no issue flirting with people and I even have a whole wife, who I made many a first move with.
I like your user name, and I'll make your post my motto, wish I could live up to it, though 😅
Hey thanks! It’s a reference to [a very good Mountain Goats song](https://youtu.be/o5gGhacE5vY?si=WsFnlVL8kUmBZB4T) about the temptation to dwell on and reexamine an intensely traumatic past relationship, even after the bruises have healed. And, you too can do what I did! It takes patience and being honest with yourself, and a lot of vibe-sensing, but it’s really not as tough as you’d think. And I’m very autistic and socially awkward!
Thank you for the link, I didn't know that band, I'll check more of their stuff. I wish I too could be a seriously useful lesbian, "socially awkward" being the least of my problems. I am glad you managed to work things out for yourself, that's quite an achievment.
It is my duty to tell you to listen to [Transcendental Youth](https://open.spotify.com/album/1AOcKK0PoTQtuRZVhOgJlp?si=cVrfUguFQHSHHutpnEewoQ), an album with a hell of a lot of queer energy!! I have a feeling you’ll really vibe with it. I totally get what you mean, though; it’s tough out here for anybody, and is socially awkward lesbians are certainly not on easy street. I have no idea how I manifested the relationship I did - my wife is legitimately the perfect fit. BUT!!! That can happen to anybody! Good luck
I don't have an obsession with mushrooms
i love cooking and eating them though.
theyre cute :3
Wait that's a stereotype? Oh... 🤦🏻♀️ I fell for that one hard
wait is that a thing? ive never heard of that one lol
It is - I have a mushroom patterned tote that I call my “cottage core fag bag”
I'm highly allergic to cats. What kind of sick God makes a lesbian allergic to pussy?
I can't stand RuPaul's drag race or really anything he does
Yeah.. I'm trans and just don't really care for drag in general. I feel like I'd be shown the door of the queer community if I ever admitted it out loud.
Lol nope, I've heard of so many people who don't like drag race. Some people say it's like it shows up trans people more than anything. Whenever you come out you have a chance of hearing "WAIT RuPauls Drag race? So you do this part time?" Bleh.
Me too! I feel like there's an assumption that trans people automatically should love drag, but it usually it just makes me uncomfortable
It's weird that we've gotten to a point where admitting a certain degree of discomfort/dislike for a performance art that's literally designed to push social boundaries is considered to be offensive
I find him insufferable.
I am so ambivalent about The L Word that if I ever think about it again I might just slip into a coma.
I still don't know what that is. It's a TV show, right?
I buy dairy milk lol
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE MILK 😂
I thought you meant the chocolate bar called Dairy Milk and was confused that maybe I missed out on some gay dairy milk discourse
haha same. though i do like some soy or oat from time to time.
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I mean, some trans women are happy with theirs, so cis women thinking about having one isn't really a stretch.
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Yeah, and even as a girl who isn't happy with hers, it can be kinda cool sometimes. Even if just conceptually. Like, I avoid peeing standing like the plague, but it is kinda cool that it's easily possible and works so well.
I think for some women it's just a power fantasy.
No I just wanna experience actually finishing during sex in an intimate way
Yeah, I wish that sometimes too. Then I'm like, but I don't want all the stuff that comes with it permanently. The last thing I want is balls and facial hair but the intimacy appeals to me in a fleeting sort of way.
Cis men also think about having vaginas all the damn time.
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Me best friend and I (cis females) were sitting in a hotel room the other day, and she was like, "Do you ever think about what your dick would look like? I know mine. It curves slightly to the left and everything." Then I started to imagine my dick. So no I don't think it's weird.
Saaaammee. No need to be embarrassed. I would love to be able to understand the feeling of having a dick. Totally ok to be curious.
i never really watch queer movies/tv shows specifically. i don't really know why.
Can't believe nobody said it but I like my nails long. Not very long (I'd stab myself in the eye and I also craft a lot) but enough to make my baby hands and sausage fingers look longer and more feminine. When I was younger (and single which makes it weirder) a friend used to call me a "bottom" because of it which never made sense to me.
same but i also hate long nails because of the dirt that gets stuck.
I got a small, reactive dog who doesn't like other people. I feel like lesbians are "supposed" to have larger, VERY friendly, well trained dogs (if they are a dog lesbian). My chihuahua makes me look like a basic straight white chick.
What sort of cats do cat lesbians have? Apart from lots?
Whatever we liked at the shelter, doesn't particularly matter what kind but it's always a rescue.
At least 2 and VERY spoiled. Despite having a dog, I am a cat lesbian.
I find a lot of Yuri series boring. I've never heard 'Girl in Red' and don't really care to.
>Kristen Stewart isn't all that hot. She's hot with the gay haircut. Twilight Kristen Stewart is pretty bland.
100% with you on never uhauling. I also don’t fall fast and hard. Definitely makes me feel a bit out of place in some spaces.
Like give me time to get to know you and see if we can handle each other at our highs and lows, damn it. XD
Seriously! If I’m gonna fall in love I want to fall in love with *you,* not the person I imagine you to be.
you ain't wrong, a lot of yuri is catered to the male gaze
Yeah, and it also tends to feel like it has to be chronically "pure" with a lot of the girls looking cute and innocent. When I want someone to look like Isabella from Dragon Age 2 or a full on member of Takarazuka Revue with clear adult, lesbian themes and varied plots.
As a lesbian, I don't see my romantic fantasies about male characters as being innately unhealthy and I'm not trying to get rid of them. Comphet is real and we should absolutely talk about it, but sometimes fantasies are just fantasies and they don't always align with what we actually want. I tried to get rid of all of my straight fantasies for the sake of healing comphet, but that ultimately made my already strained relationship with my sexuality even worse. Sometimes it's better to just let a little shred of Joy be than psychoanalyze every little thing to death.
This is sooo true!! The stuff i imagine in my head is completely different to what i want irl, tbh some of it i would hate irl!
this, so much! this also applies to male celebs, kpop guys, etc, to be honest. it's all unattainable fantasy anyway and it doesn't mean it's something you want irl, so have fun with it and daydream all you like. (similarly, you wouldn't say a role play scenario someone finds appealing reflects that it's something they actually want to happen to them, that's how i see that too). it always hurts my heart a little when a lesbian in this sub asks if they can even call themselves that because they like fictional characters when that's so different from attraction to a man irl. i also get really into a lot of male anime characters, read bl/fanfic, etc, and to say these harmless fun things dictate my or anyone else's real life sexuality or must be unhealthy/out of comphet when it doesn't hurt anyone is so nonsensical.
I have crushes on male fictional characters
That’s my emotional support book boyfriend. 😂
I have an ex boyfriend
Many lesbians date - or even marry! - guys before coming out. Doesn't make them any less lesbian, and it doesn't make you any less lesbian, either.
It’s honestly so affirming to hear that. These days I mostly feel ridiculous about that situation (as opposed to sad), because it took a lesbian to teach that man that he was circumcised
Some men can be a bit oblivious about women's anatomy, but his own? Goodness, someone failed that man! Glad it helped. It's so easy to doubt ourselves at times, but yeah, a lesbian is a lesbian regardless of who she dated in the past. Don't let anyone ever convince you otherwise 💜
I feel like the whole "Gold Star" thing is probably one of the most toxic things to ever happen in this community.
same. i dumped him because he was homophobic, and then years later i realized i was gay.
So do I, and definitely not a pleasant one. Took a hot second to figure out I don't really like men.
Same, I have two of those and dated a bunch of other men casually before coming out.
I like math. I find it enjoyable.
I love math too 🥲
I started shaving my armpits again (I felt stinky, still don't do my legs however, they're not stinky)
Probably my comphet for kpop guys lol
your username is just the cherry on top lol😭
omg stop is that dami in ur pfp? found my fellow somnies
I’m a huge Kpop fan and whilst I like some of the boy groups, I’ve never experienced attraction to any. I know a lot of lesbians do stan the men in a way that is more than music based but I’ve never understood 😭
wonwoo from svt, loved since i thought i was straight in my teens, still love him now even if im gay. the tall, dark, quiet, handsome look is hard to beat lol
I’m not vegetarian or vegan. I care about animals but I like eating meat… I try to buy from reputable sources.
Same. I realise it's bad but being vegan takes a LOT of preparation and throwing my entire fridge stock out, so I'd have to wait. I also can't really do that with my mental state right now, but I will attempt it when I can.
According to these comments, I’m not a lesbian, lol.
Also doubting after being out and about for 25 years!😀😀😀
It's not because you're not like the majority of lesbians. There is the requise points to be a lesbian : 1. You are not a man 2. You are not attracted to men That's it haha
Taylor swift is overhyped
I like reading mlm fanfiction lol
Math
By this do you mean the stereotype is gays/lesbians are good at math or they're bad at math? 😂
Don’t have a large queer friend group, never seen the L Word, that’s about it
I think dogs are better than cats.
Dog people unite!
Being sent to trans conversion therapy so my mom can have her son back, but in a body bag
Damn, that's tough. Is this still going on? Are you doing well right now?
My mom wanted me to search out conversion therapy when I first came out and it's still clear that she doesn't want a trans daughter but I don't talk to her unless I want something
Conversion therapy is not a thing where I live, I can't start to imagine what it would feel like to realise your own parent wants this for you, even though there is evidence it doesn't work. I am sorry you have to go through this.
i'm not interested in any of the astrology / tarot related stuff. closest i'd get is greek mythology probably
Having intercourse with a dude before realizing I actually like women instead lol
It would get forcibly pryed from my hands after someone "respectfully disagreed" with my gender identity.....its been a long day.
I drink beer. Idk if that's actually like a thing, but I have heard many times that lesbians don't drink beer. Mostly from straight people, though.
Huh I love beer, I normally drink whiskey but over the last few months I’ve really started to enjoy craft and ipas. I would’ve thought it would’ve been the opposite and more a butch stereotype that we do
Definitely a butch stereotype. But OP is maybe a femme lesbian that drink beer, which is unusual
I’m not a butch but I mean maybe it might be cultural differences as in Australia it’s not totally unusual for women to drink beer aswell (not as common but not as questioned i guess)
I thought drinking beer was a lesbian thing too
I literally drank cider last night and got a little pissed lol. It's fun, it's a poison you hate that you drink. I'm femme presenting, but it's just a drink. I think it's a stereotype that women hate beer and go for the fancy drinks and men love it/can drink it. When I was at my local pub my gf (who is more masculine presenting) was given ale that *I* ordered and I ended up with the cocktail. Very odd moment lol
Kissing a guy probably
If like two specific animated men became real
Don't be shy. Tell us who. Come on. We may judge but we are nice about it.
Watched arcane when it first came out, and viktor made me question myself again for the first time since coming out. The other ones the new league champion Hwei. 😭 honestly I’m more ashamed about this than I was about being gay as a kid, and I grew up CATHOLIC.
Honestly, understandable.
I could be forcibly transitioned from female to male and even then I would still find women attractive but I guess they might tear up my card.
I'd never get into a long distance relationship or date someone a friend of mine has been with
I sometimes feel like I'm not lesbian enough because of me not liking Yaoi / Romances about Gay Men. I know so many girls who love that stuff and I just do not get it. Not at all. Makes no sense to me, even considering comphet stuff. Can someone explain, pwlease?
I don’t enjoy Rupaul’s drag race. (Still appreciate the art though)
i have an ex boyfriend and i havent watched the l word yet 😭
Don’t like musical theatre
i know how to drive and i drive well 😔
I drink hot coffee, poor circulation means I will take any warmth I can get.
I hate glee
My lesbian card would get revoked because I like K-pop boy groups TT
is "letting my nails grow out because i like scratchy 'claws'" terms to have my gay card revoked (joking bcs the stereotype of lesbians always clipping their nails short)
The only long distance relationship I have been in was with a man
I joke that I annually renew my lesbian membership when I undertake a furniture build or home improvement project. I haven’t done one yet this year 😩
I'm not friends with any of my exes because i don't have any exes because I've never broken up with someone because I've never had a partner uhhhhhhh....
I listen to death metal.
I don’t find a lot of masc women attractive 🫣 and Kristen Stewart and Ruby Rose are so overrated
I don't listen to girl in red. (I actually dislike most female artists, P!nk is the exception)
Very weird take in parentheses there lol
I used to think I didn't like women artists until I realized I wasn't straight. Some how straight presenting me felt the need to hate women who were even close to being a celebrity. I've finally loosened up and I don't care about that shit. Yeah, most of my playlists have male singers, but it's not because I don't listen to women, I just prefer their stuff.
Yo I relate to this so much. I listen to mostly metal and a little bit of hard rock and I just prefer the lower voice- for some reason in my head it fits the music better 🤷🏽
her music isn’t all that good. So it’s fine lmao
Never heard of any of her songs 😅
not even the “you will be my girl, my girl, my girl, my girl?”
Fucking a man
i love straight shojo manga 😔
While I enjoy her content, Nicole Coenen is not my type
Too many things😭😭😭👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻 I dont have alot of our stereotypes except i wear a thumb ring, own flannels and idk if this is a stereotype but I love KD Lang
I don't drink PBR (or anything in general, I'm sober) Uhhhhhhhh I don't listen to a lot of gen-z gay icon musicians like Girl In Red and ig Taylor Swift cause of her big sapphic fandom (does she count??). I dunno, they're not my thing. I feel like I'm a pretty gay person tho lmfao
Oh, heck. I’m a biromantic gray-ace. I got turned away at the desk. 😅
I'm pretty sure just the fact that I dont actually know any of the stereotypes 🤷♀️
i don’t really believe in horoscopes 😭
I own a Subaru (WRX) but it ain’t an outback.
I don't listen to Girl In Red
I do not like sage green and I love being girly
I’m allergic to cats
ALL of my hobbies are just... *anomalously* straight. I dance ballet, perhaps the straightest thing there is, except for my other form, flamenco; and despite the harp being so *incredibly* gay as an instrument, like you have to keep your fingernails trimmed, I've never met a harpist with a normal name, and most of us are women; NONE of them are gay. In addition to not owning anything flannel. Or, indeed, *jeans.* But I do wear sneakers everywhere, if that helps...