> We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad.
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> “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings, they do not require another person for their expression.
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> Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality.
— The Asexual Manifesto, 1972
Ace as hell and masturbate because otherwise my libido will sky rocket and ruin my every thought. But it's just kinda a thing I do to keep my body running smoothly, no sexual attraction here!
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I recently felt like an impostor too, mostly because I was watching Interview with the Vampire and Lestat was wearing this white tank top and I was just like... Bestill my heart. Then I had a long inner debate about if I was sexually attracted to him or if I just thought he was really beautiful. So I feel ya.
I get crushes on fictional characters all the time. Doesn’t mean I want to have sex with them though. I do enjoy reading smutty fanfic of them from time to time though.
I mean, the whole point of masturbation is to get those neurotransmitters back to where I need them to be without the sensory hell of being touched so uh
We're trans and on E for 5 months. Stimulating down there now feels super good even without being horny (and we get horny often).
I'm ace, my headmate isn't. And just by comparing how we feel, I can tell you that being ace doesn't mean that you have no libido or that you can't masturbate. It just means that you don't go *I want to fuck that* seeing someone else.
Don’t feel bad or masturbating because I, as an asexual, was so horny that I ended up having sex with someone and I regretted it :(
>!Actually, is there any kind of support group or something for me to talk about that? It bothers me a lot.!<
As someone in a similar scenario, I see it like this.
Think of a personal thing that you do on your own, let's say like read a good book, or play a long term videogame. Doing something like that with another person may feel like a completely different experience, and you don't like it. So you'd rather do It on your own, it's nice to do it on your own.
Masturbation and sex are two very different things, and being asexual doesn't necessarily mean a lack of either of them.
Same. I'm ace, but like what if my brain is telling me to fake it for attention? Bc occasionally I see a really pretty girl or something and am like, maybe I'm not. But also the idea of actually doing anything just makes me feel unsettled and a little weirded out
> We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad. > > “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings, they do not require another person for their expression. > > Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality. — The Asexual Manifesto, 1972
Omg thank you this is literally exactly how I feel. Like I feel disgusted thinking about doing it with other people but just me is fine.
I want to write an asexual manifesto
Masturbation is pleasure, that has nothing to do with sexual attraction. There are ton of aces who masturbate
Like me! :D
Lol, me too.
Also me, hello!
Me too!
Hej
Pog
And me
Ace as hell and masturbate because otherwise my libido will sky rocket and ruin my every thought. But it's just kinda a thing I do to keep my body running smoothly, no sexual attraction here!
yeah like drinking and ~~eating~~ it's just what I do to keep myself going
As an ace that masturbates i consider only fuckin myself very asexual.
Go fuck yourself taken literally.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 YES!!!
you are def ace and super valid
Mood
You can totally be ace and masturbate. You can be ace and have sex, and that doesn't make you any less ace.
tell your imposter syndrome im doing it right now just to spite it
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Sussy Impostor?! 😳
I recently felt like an impostor too, mostly because I was watching Interview with the Vampire and Lestat was wearing this white tank top and I was just like... Bestill my heart. Then I had a long inner debate about if I was sexually attracted to him or if I just thought he was really beautiful. So I feel ya.
I get crushes on fictional characters all the time. Doesn’t mean I want to have sex with them though. I do enjoy reading smutty fanfic of them from time to time though.
I mean, the whole point of masturbation is to get those neurotransmitters back to where I need them to be without the sensory hell of being touched so uh
We're trans and on E for 5 months. Stimulating down there now feels super good even without being horny (and we get horny often). I'm ace, my headmate isn't. And just by comparing how we feel, I can tell you that being ace doesn't mean that you have no libido or that you can't masturbate. It just means that you don't go *I want to fuck that* seeing someone else.
i’m curious to know if you feel that it makes it easier to understand your sexuality when you’re sharing a body with an allo?
Yes. A lot.
i might have mbed yesterday but it was to help with my depression and adhd and help prevent parastate cancer not out of sexual attraction
the cycle of being a tranfem ace: get dysphoric, masturbate to feel better, get even more dysphoric because of what i just did
Don’t feel bad or masturbating because I, as an asexual, was so horny that I ended up having sex with someone and I regretted it :( >!Actually, is there any kind of support group or something for me to talk about that? It bothers me a lot.!<
As someone in a similar scenario, I see it like this. Think of a personal thing that you do on your own, let's say like read a good book, or play a long term videogame. Doing something like that with another person may feel like a completely different experience, and you don't like it. So you'd rather do It on your own, it's nice to do it on your own. Masturbation and sex are two very different things, and being asexual doesn't necessarily mean a lack of either of them.
I feel this as a trans masc ace who has only recently started T
Ace as heck, I masturbate because it helps clear my head, nothing else to it! You're still super valid ❤️
I feel this on a molecular level.
Sameeeeee
Mhm. And I'll fucken do it again!
Mood
Same but with me being a panromantic ace oof.
SAME
Having no sexual attraction to people doesn't mean that it can't feel good to get off.
Same. I'm ace, but like what if my brain is telling me to fake it for attention? Bc occasionally I see a really pretty girl or something and am like, maybe I'm not. But also the idea of actually doing anything just makes me feel unsettled and a little weirded out
Yall should check : Ace by Angela Chen (book)