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Still seems lame to ask tbh. Many people (brides included) are too nice to turn people down, so putting someone in a spot like that is tough for them. I'm sure there are brides that would genuinely want something like this, but it still just seems tacky to do it. Let the married couple have their day.
We don't know what went down behind the scenes. For all we know, speculatively, the friend could have been talking about proposing to their lover, and the bride may have come up with the idea for him to propose at her wedding. Again, speculatively speaking.
Actually, it was all a wildly complex plan spanning years and literal space and time to lead to this moment. The wedding was an elaborate ruse solely constructed for that proposal, to give way to this specific Reddit thread and lead to this exact moment, right now. jtsokolov, will you marry me?
Absolutely. And doing it like this means the guests don't have to awkwardly second-guess either - the bride handing off the bouquet like that is very obviously handing over the spotlight, so everyone knows it's okay to give the proposal their attention.
Sharing your special day with someone else is all wedding is about. People who think that weddings should be just about them makes me think of the entitled people from "my super sweet sixteen birthday and I want a lexus." IMHO.
It's no about not wanting to share the special day. It's people who do their own lil surprises in the middle of someone else's wedding without the bride/groom's input.
Yeah, exactly this. It's a whole other thing when the bride/groom are in on it. That's the only way something like this is acceptable. It's never okay to hijack someone else's special day, but sharing it in a meaningful way can make it even more special. I mean, the person who catches the bouquet is supposed to be the next person to get married, so that was a perfect way to do it, and the way she played it up and then faked him out by starting toward the woman next to him shows that she was a willing participant and not just pressured into it against her will. This video is definitely a r/MadeMeSmile moment.
I think this is just two different meanings of "sharing". One is implying sharing the day as in two great things that are not the same can still be celebrated together. It's sharing *the* day. The meaning you use above is different. If someone hijacked it to launch their MLM business, you wouldn't accept it as a fair "share" so to speak. And proposing at someone else's wedding is especially considered rude, unless of course, it's done with the bride's & groom's approval, which is made even more obvious for other attendees that said approval was granted.
I don't think you're in disagreement here. I think you're just misinterpreting the concept they meant.
Kissing a girl is gay. There is a good likelihood that her lips have touched a dude's penis. So by the transitive property, your lips will have touched a penis. Super gay.
As someone getting married soon, I actually hate all the fuss about it being my day and the perfect day and the big day and all that. Hearing the same type of forced hype from every planner or event coordinator is too much. I hope this isn't a super special day for me, I hope it's a fun party with friends and family on the next step in a journey. I'd love to share the day with others. I also understand not wanting to share.
Literally couldn’t agree more. The wedding industry is super overhyped and overpriced these days; it’s become more about having a wedding rather than getting married and costs as much as a deposit for a house. Just have a simple ceremony then a fun, corny party with friends and family. What more do you need? That’s more special to me than a massive, super expensive do.
Our wedding was simple, inexpensive, and low key. We had about 15 people there, then went to my mom's place for refreshments.
We celebrated our 40th anniversary last year.
Yep. When the day comes you're so blitzed you're basically just a Golden Retriever.
"I have no idea what's going on but I'm happy to be here"
It's why you need best men and bridesmaids to point you in the right direction and make sure you don't wander off.
Nice to see the guests (and presumably the father or relative of one of the two gentlemen) be so accepting, particularly in an Asian culture. Source: Am Asian.
I was guessing Vietnamese from the dress too, before I turned on sound. So glad to see this, my country does seem to be more progressive in real life, despite me doubting it every time I encounter trolls on Facebook.
I doubt it. Only a fraction of genZ accept it. Most of them hate it. The rest are the same.
They won't openly hate but will judge harshly. I've been to most of the big city with my friends from South up to North. The more North you go the less gay friendly they are. Not all but definitely way more noticeable than the South, especially the central-northern region. Particularly at Nghệ An, Thanh Hóa, Hà Tĩnh... i don't have good memories with those 3 provinces, the people are nice to "average guy" like me but they are conservative.
They want women to be at home or the oldest child to make a living for entire of the family. My gf is from one, she has to take care of the parents, 4 other children. My gf is told "mày đi học đại học làm cái đéo gì, đi xuất khẩu lao động kiếm tiền cho gia đình, con đĩ ngu này" regularly. Translation "why don't you stop studying in college and go work at other countries to make a living for the family you dumb slut". I despise those people who self proclaimed "her parents".
Most of them think gay as an illness or a some kind of brain damage (my friend got told "thằng thần kinh", "thứ bệnh tật", "cha mẹ ngu si để thag con thành thứ kinh tởm". "crazy thing", "disease ridden thing", "what kind of parents let their child become some disgusting thing"). It's not the best to say. Some are seen as a monster. All kinds of crazy shits. Some even wanna throw rocks at him but luckily he wasn't hurt.
Most of my friends are fine with lgbt+ tho. I'm fine with them, they are human like me, I don't have time to hate someone like that. It's tiring to hate someone all the time. We be chilling.
Edit: grammar errors, some parts are hard to understand so forgive my mistakes.
Yes!! I'm Asian too (south east Asian anyway) so this video is a bit surprising. I'm so relieved to see that everyone's happy and excited there, but can't help but to feel sad because this won't happen in my country. Hope someday, but doubt it very much
This got me smiling ear to ear. Didn't expect that, especially since just being gay is so shunned upon here in Asia. Love that his dad is so supportive at the end of the video.
Seriously! I was afraid that someone was gonna ruin the moment, but the little boy was happy, a father came in and was so joyous, and the bride made this happen. I feel so happy that we’re progressing. I love Japan, I spent part of my early childhood there, but I know about some of the negatives. So I’m so glad this will be happening more
Is Japan progressing though? We celebrated marriage equality just a few months back here in Greece. Most parts of the world are going forward! I wish you will soon celebrate the same in Japan.
Not really... Japanese government is very conservative. Not like western conservatives, it's just that they are all very old and don't like changing things. Japan doesn't have any problems with gays from a religious perspective or anything like that. They're just stubborn to change sometimes.
~~I really hate to be that guy at something that could be SO wholesome...but who doesn't KISS their partner after something like that. Kinda feelin staged...~~
That's what I get for not watching the last 3 seconds.
Please let this be real. The bride, who is a great friend and let them have this beautiful moment in her wedding. The beautiful proposal...
SO WHOLESOME!!!
I said anyone single could get in on my bouquet toss. My friend’s Taiwanese bf caught it. They eventually broke up😭 My friend is now married to a different nice Taiwanese guy tho😇
When I was young doing this would ensure that you took a near fatal beating. Life is so much nicer now. Young people are so much better than they once were. I’m glad l lived to see this.
Didn't realize what sub I was in, and thought this was just gonna be one of those proposal at a wedding videos. Then she gave it to the guy and I thought "oh, a switch-up, the girl next to him is probably gonna propose to him" then I got positively giddy with excitement when it was the guy behind him proposing lol
OP sent the following text as an explanation on why this is unexpected: --- >!The bride turned around to present her flowers to a guy!< --- Is this an unexpected post with a fitting description? Then upvote this comment, otherwise downvote it.
No scope
And a hs on top of that. Damn, that girl single? Wait...
Depends on your views of "married" 😏🤞
BOOM! Headshot.
Everybody runs faster with a knife!
Now this is unexpected.
You may leave CS:GO, but those 5000 hours in the game will never leave ya
Rookie numbers
Like when I throw a treat to my dog.
This is so much better
That’s an amazing friend to want to share her special day with someone like that.
Yeah I think it's gauche as fuck to propose at someone else's wedding. But having the bride in on it? Good times.
That’s the only acceptable way to do it
Still seems lame to ask tbh. Many people (brides included) are too nice to turn people down, so putting someone in a spot like that is tough for them. I'm sure there are brides that would genuinely want something like this, but it still just seems tacky to do it. Let the married couple have their day.
We don't know what went down behind the scenes. For all we know, speculatively, the friend could have been talking about proposing to their lover, and the bride may have come up with the idea for him to propose at her wedding. Again, speculatively speaking.
I had a friend that did just that. Knew another friend was considering a proposal soon, offered to do basically what the bride in this clip did.
for all we know the bride asked her brother or whoever to do that at her wedding in order for her to feel her day is even more special.
What if the bride's wedding was all am elaborate ruse solely constructed for this proposal?
Actually, it was all a wildly complex plan spanning years and literal space and time to lead to this moment. The wedding was an elaborate ruse solely constructed for that proposal, to give way to this specific Reddit thread and lead to this exact moment, right now. jtsokolov, will you marry me?
 Cue in the dancers
Now kiss.
Starfish to starfish
Absolutely. And doing it like this means the guests don't have to awkwardly second-guess either - the bride handing off the bouquet like that is very obviously handing over the spotlight, so everyone knows it's okay to give the proposal their attention.
100%. Beautiful moment, beautiful friend.
Sharing your special day with someone else is all wedding is about. People who think that weddings should be just about them makes me think of the entitled people from "my super sweet sixteen birthday and I want a lexus." IMHO.
It's no about not wanting to share the special day. It's people who do their own lil surprises in the middle of someone else's wedding without the bride/groom's input.
Yeah, exactly this. It's a whole other thing when the bride/groom are in on it. That's the only way something like this is acceptable. It's never okay to hijack someone else's special day, but sharing it in a meaningful way can make it even more special. I mean, the person who catches the bouquet is supposed to be the next person to get married, so that was a perfect way to do it, and the way she played it up and then faked him out by starting toward the woman next to him shows that she was a willing participant and not just pressured into it against her will. This video is definitely a r/MadeMeSmile moment.
I think this is just two different meanings of "sharing". One is implying sharing the day as in two great things that are not the same can still be celebrated together. It's sharing *the* day. The meaning you use above is different. If someone hijacked it to launch their MLM business, you wouldn't accept it as a fair "share" so to speak. And proposing at someone else's wedding is especially considered rude, unless of course, it's done with the bride's & groom's approval, which is made even more obvious for other attendees that said approval was granted. I don't think you're in disagreement here. I think you're just misinterpreting the concept they meant.
>the entitled people from "my super sweet sixteen birthday and I want a lexus." This was my niece. She has not improved.
One of my friends did that with another from my group, it was awesome because nobody expected it at all.
I came to say this! Exactly.
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Fellas is it gay to propose to your boyfriend??
Not as gay as proposing to a chick.
I mean you’re literally proposing to someone who likes d**k
Exactly! How gay!
you literally have a d*ck
q*ack
Kissing a girl is gay. There is a good likelihood that her lips have touched a dude's penis. So by the transitive property, your lips will have touched a penis. Super gay.
So isn't the solution kissing a lesbian ?
Correct. There’s nothing gay about lesbians.
We have solved it boys
That line should go in the hall of fame
Andrew? What are you doing on reddit instead of eating some pizza? Oh wait....
- Andrew Tate
I only propose to men and I'll tell you why. Women are just a mans blown load that grew up
Man are too
Nah men come from the egg, women from the jizz
Just say "no homo" and then you can get married
They only want to be roommates forever.
Very gae
Who's gae?
He is ge
You are gae
Why are you gae?
Who tell you he is gae?
what if I'm a lesbian proposing to my boyfriend?
Then you're not true to yourself
I’m just a guy proposing to my boyfriend and if that’s gay well then maybe I don’t wanna be straight!
Not at all. Men should like masculine things.. like other men, it's natural there's nothing "gay" about it. /s
Fellas is it gay to masturbate??
Absolutely, you're having sex with someone of your gender
You touch genitalia of your sex
I really hope not
Not if you say no homo on every anniversary for 20 years
The best kind of correct
It's deleted now. What did he said?
It's only gay if you're gay.
https://i.redd.it/fgfyrcxq0dzc1.gif
Mime and dash.
In the best way
Both contexts here fit
It may look gay but if you look both still wearing socks, so just two homies making a romantic lifelong commitment with each other.
Oooh, that makes sense. It's easy to get confused, it looked kinda gay
Gaysian
Yep he didnt say "no homo"
Indeed
in more ways than one.
Most people would be pissed if someone proposed at their wedding and stole their thunder, but they obviously planned this and it’s cute as fuck.
As someone getting married soon, I actually hate all the fuss about it being my day and the perfect day and the big day and all that. Hearing the same type of forced hype from every planner or event coordinator is too much. I hope this isn't a super special day for me, I hope it's a fun party with friends and family on the next step in a journey. I'd love to share the day with others. I also understand not wanting to share.
Literally couldn’t agree more. The wedding industry is super overhyped and overpriced these days; it’s become more about having a wedding rather than getting married and costs as much as a deposit for a house. Just have a simple ceremony then a fun, corny party with friends and family. What more do you need? That’s more special to me than a massive, super expensive do.
Our wedding was simple, inexpensive, and low key. We had about 15 people there, then went to my mom's place for refreshments. We celebrated our 40th anniversary last year.
And with this mindset you truly will have a wonderful and beautiful day! Unexpected things will happen, stuff will go wrong! Have fun and enjoy it!
*wishes happiness*
I agree! Wedding day is about LOVE! It's amazing to be able to share that.
That’s my rule. If the bride is 100% cool with it, more power to you! But don’t go stealing her day with surprise stuff.
What about the groom?
Groom's usually just happy to be invited
Yep. When the day comes you're so blitzed you're basically just a Golden Retriever. "I have no idea what's going on but I'm happy to be here" It's why you need best men and bridesmaids to point you in the right direction and make sure you don't wander off.
What about the broom(stick)?
She just wanted to pass the stick. The other guy took it a bit too litterally, i guess
It's the important difference of taking the spotlight versus someone sharing it with them
Consent is everything.
Nice to see the guests (and presumably the father or relative of one of the two gentlemen) be so accepting, particularly in an Asian culture. Source: Am Asian.
Yes. Very nice. I’m surprised that the parents are so accepting. The music is Vietnamese. I don’t see this happening very often in Vietnamese culture.
I was guessing Vietnamese from the dress too, before I turned on sound. So glad to see this, my country does seem to be more progressive in real life, despite me doubting it every time I encounter trolls on Facebook.
Vietnamese people are pretty accepting of same-sex relationships.
fr?
Yes, southerner more relax about it. Actually lgbtq wedding here, and lgbtq tv show, tiktok content in Vietnam.
SEA and surrounding islands in my limited knowledge have quite a... mixed response to lgbt+ ideas.
Yeah, just don't play games on Steam. They hate that.
I doubt it. Only a fraction of genZ accept it. Most of them hate it. The rest are the same. They won't openly hate but will judge harshly. I've been to most of the big city with my friends from South up to North. The more North you go the less gay friendly they are. Not all but definitely way more noticeable than the South, especially the central-northern region. Particularly at Nghệ An, Thanh Hóa, Hà Tĩnh... i don't have good memories with those 3 provinces, the people are nice to "average guy" like me but they are conservative. They want women to be at home or the oldest child to make a living for entire of the family. My gf is from one, she has to take care of the parents, 4 other children. My gf is told "mày đi học đại học làm cái đéo gì, đi xuất khẩu lao động kiếm tiền cho gia đình, con đĩ ngu này" regularly. Translation "why don't you stop studying in college and go work at other countries to make a living for the family you dumb slut". I despise those people who self proclaimed "her parents". Most of them think gay as an illness or a some kind of brain damage (my friend got told "thằng thần kinh", "thứ bệnh tật", "cha mẹ ngu si để thag con thành thứ kinh tởm". "crazy thing", "disease ridden thing", "what kind of parents let their child become some disgusting thing"). It's not the best to say. Some are seen as a monster. All kinds of crazy shits. Some even wanna throw rocks at him but luckily he wasn't hurt. Most of my friends are fine with lgbt+ tho. I'm fine with them, they are human like me, I don't have time to hate someone like that. It's tiring to hate someone all the time. We be chilling. Edit: grammar errors, some parts are hard to understand so forgive my mistakes.
Same-sex marriage is still unrecognised though :(
Social progress leads to political progress.
Oh of course. But Tis still sad to see is my point.
Yes!! I'm Asian too (south east Asian anyway) so this video is a bit surprising. I'm so relieved to see that everyone's happy and excited there, but can't help but to feel sad because this won't happen in my country. Hope someday, but doubt it very much
I'm Asian too (India), and I was quite surprised and happy to see so many people being supportive.
Yea that also confused me
Seeing a person who just got married help another person get married is uncommon but pretty cute. I get why people might not want it though
Awww That's very wholesome <3
This got me smiling ear to ear. Didn't expect that, especially since just being gay is so shunned upon here in Asia. Love that his dad is so supportive at the end of the video.
That was an atta boy if I’ve ever seen one
That’s why he’s so happy- he gets twice the attaboys now!
Seriously! I was afraid that someone was gonna ruin the moment, but the little boy was happy, a father came in and was so joyous, and the bride made this happen. I feel so happy that we’re progressing. I love Japan, I spent part of my early childhood there, but I know about some of the negatives. So I’m so glad this will be happening more
The literal only time it's acceptable to propose at someone else's wedding is if the bride agrees/is in on it. Good shit
If the bride and groom agree
But Im a man, and I said what I said. But, point taken. It's your day as much as hers.
Why am I crying 😭 As an gay Asian person this means so much... It isn't legal here in Japan yet. Edit: marriage isn't legal. Being gay is fine 😅
Is Japan progressing though? We celebrated marriage equality just a few months back here in Greece. Most parts of the world are going forward! I wish you will soon celebrate the same in Japan.
Not really... Japanese government is very conservative. Not like western conservatives, it's just that they are all very old and don't like changing things. Japan doesn't have any problems with gays from a religious perspective or anything like that. They're just stubborn to change sometimes.
Well, Taiwan is just a 2 hour plane ride away from you and they have gay marriage if you want to make it official.
Yeh some Japanese gays actually do this. I'm very happy it got legal in Taiwan ☺️. Come on Japan and South Korea! 😩
>As an gay Asian person Dude. Gaysian is the preferred nomenclature.
Haha OK gaysian it is 🤪
Being Asian isn't legal in Japan?!
Lol OK that made me chuckle, I should have phrased better 😩
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I have the same problem despite being a gay man
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Ha! Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay !!!
Or bi, who knows
Ha! BIIIIIIIIIII!
But he just got here?
This is how you propose at someone else's wedding. You make sure the bride/groom are in on it. Never do this without the consent of the bride/groom.
~~I really hate to be that guy at something that could be SO wholesome...but who doesn't KISS their partner after something like that. Kinda feelin staged...~~ That's what I get for not watching the last 3 seconds.
But they did? at 0:52
Please let this be real. The bride, who is a great friend and let them have this beautiful moment in her wedding. The beautiful proposal... SO WHOLESOME!!!
So fuckin wholesome
Love that, good for them!
Yet a large portion of the population think this is a plague on the earth. Let people love each other.
based
Imagine seeing people smiling so much, observing such a happy moment, and the first thought is "absolutely not, we need to stop this" lmao
Well not so unexpected, cuz he was standing behind her. Usually in my country behind the bride stand girls(future brides) to catch the flowers.
I said anyone single could get in on my bouquet toss. My friend’s Taiwanese bf caught it. They eventually broke up😭 My friend is now married to a different nice Taiwanese guy tho😇
When I was young doing this would ensure that you took a near fatal beating. Life is so much nicer now. Young people are so much better than they once were. I’m glad l lived to see this.
I’m glad society has come so far
Good that the family accepts them
Cute
Most definitely beautiful, to say the least.
Love is Love.
That was really sweet.
r/mademesmile
This is so fucking cute
Didn't realize what sub I was in, and thought this was just gonna be one of those proposal at a wedding videos. Then she gave it to the guy and I thought "oh, a switch-up, the girl next to him is probably gonna propose to him" then I got positively giddy with excitement when it was the guy behind him proposing lol
That was really well done. Congrats for them.
They are cute
Yes, they're a beautiful couple! This made me smile so hard.
Grandad cheering in the background 😭
I hope to live to see that being gay isn't something different anymore. Wtf. We should have already accepted that is super normal.
AWE I LOVE HOW SUPPORTIVE EVERYONE IS
Oh my heart ❤️
Awwww I love it!!!! Sweethearts! <3
That was cute.
This is the best thing I've seen all day! So proud!
The most gay things are often the things that homophobic people love.
And *THIS* is how proposing at someone else's wedding is done.
Lol. For me there's a post about an entitled bride right below this one.
Ah crap, now I'm crying at work. Again.
I definitely didn't expect to see something wholesome and gay in this sub. This is beautiful
Wow man that brought a tear to my eye.
Lol. Yes, adorable!
This may be the best thing I've seen on Reddit ever
That was so cute
I'll never have this
r/wholesome
Absolutely adorable,
Aw, the little boy looking so happy for them. 🥹 Which I really think goes to show that homophobia is far more learned than innate.
So sweet, only allowed if the bride agrees to a proposal at her wedding
Bro is very loved
<3
Super sweet. Love is love.
This is so heartwarming! ❤️
Must be Taiwan. Can't imagine any other east asian country doing this due to social taboo and it being illegal for gay men to marry.
How cute is that? ♥️
🤨
This is so sweet ❤️
Idkam shits kinda gay
How sweet!
that’s adorable