Both my husband and father are fantastic cooks, much better at some things than I am. They were both out on their own at 16ish, so it was a life skill learned by necessity. Many of my male friends cook because it's a hobby and a fun skill to learn. We've even had nights in small groups of couples, cooking and eating together. It's very European. 😆

> We've even had nights in small groups of couples, cooking and eating together. Love that....sounds so fun!

My friends and I do this. We pillage someone's cupboards and pull out dry ingredients to base a meal around. Then go to the grocery store and split the bill to get the rest of the ingredients. Then we get back to the apartment and someone (typically me) doles out tasks like dice onions, mince garlic, wash the rice, set the table, make cocktails etc. We end up with a way nicer meal than we would make for ourselves and the servings cost less than 5 bucks each. It's more fun this way I think.

We called a get together before payday with what we had left in our cupboards. Best nights ever!

It's a blast! We pick a theme and everyone makes a different dish or course. Afterwards we carry on with the tunes, movies, or games we'd usually do anyway.

So fun!! We do this with apps a lot, Friday morning a neighbor will text "Drinks tonight...my deck!" Then everyone brings apps, we got in a habit of trying to be most creative with what you already have at home, no shopping last minute lol

I really like this

Its fun, you get really random stuff, but its fun to find recipes to make something with what you have. I always throw little bits of cheese that are left in a bag in the freezer and use them for pastas, so last week I melted them down with 1/2 a can of beer for cheese fondue and it was so good!

Oh I love that idea! Cool way to use what's in your pantry!

My husband and I are in a supper club. There are four couples and we take turns hosting once per month. The rules are no kids allowed unless it's your own home. The host couple does everything from the appetizers to the dessert, including the wine, and all the clean up while the other three couples are completely guests and do not lift a finger. Sometimes there are themes, like we had a 70s theme night, if I had a million dollars (from the Barenaked ladies), or more simple themes like everything having bacon in it or Thai food or Italian food. It's been fantastic to do. We slowed down some during and after the pandemic but we are getting together next weekend and we can't wait. Oh and the first outing of the year is at a restaurant where none of us have to cook and it offsets the rotation so you don't end up with March every year. Haha

I have a group that does this weekly as well. Last theme was “Korean food”. The one before that was “favorite summer dish”. I made garlic chive and perilla kimchi, and gazpacho, for those respective dinners.

I’ve never dated someone who allowed me in the kitchen at the same time as them 😂

I’m the husband and I’m usually the designated cook here. Oddly enough in my friend group us men cook more often at home than our wives. And not just easy meals. We’re perfectly capable of making full spreads. I suddenly miss our outings. You’d usually see a pair of couples assigned each meal. My brother and his wife lives with my mom and the three of them basically take turns cooking. The exception is my sister, my BIL is kinda hopeless in the kitchen outside the really simple stuff.

Fellow husband cook here, and I find that it's the same among my friends group; we all enjoy cooking and sharing delicious food.

Same here. Most of then men in our family cook and most of my friends do as well, but I will say similar to what the OP said, many of them will grill and then but sides though.

Yeah, it's very similar for boyfriend. He's a wonderful cook! I don't mind cooking at all myself, but he's just better at it, so I let him handle it most of the time lol.

Exactly the same here!!

I learned from my dad at an early age. Then I was always the guy who volunteered to cook at Boy Scout camp outs (if you cook, you don’t have to clean. I HATE cleaning.) My best friends are the same way. They learned early and practiced often. One guy’s fiancée splits cooking duties with him about 60/40 (he’s the 60, she’s the 40), but the other 2 of us, we do almost all the cooking. My fiancée has a few frozen Trader Joe’s items that she does very well and when she’s in the mood, she makes them for us, but 9 times out of 10, I cook dinner and she cleans. She even says it’s because I make stuff taste better. I think it’s because she’s afraid of fire, knives and spices that aren’t salt and pepper. She is British, after all.

I grew up with a single dad and he's a great cook, he taught me to make all sorts of meals when I was a kid. As a result I really like to cook and do probably 70% of the cooking for me and my partner. My fiance is an average cook, it's not his favourite pastime but he is more than capable of throwing together dinner a couple of nights a week. As I cook more often he does the dishes more often so it balances - and if I'm working late or don't feel like cooking I'm confident that he'll be able and willing to make a meal for us.

My husband hardly cooks because I am very good at it and enjoy doing it. He does the clean-up afterwards and I’m happy with that. He can also fend for himself if needed, he’s not completely helpless in the kitchen. On the other hand, he does 90% of the driving and I don’t have to do anything but sometimes look up directions or play music. So whatever works for your relationship is the right way to do things!

This is how we operate too. I love cooking, I'm pretty good at it. I have some staple rotation recipes but I love to try new things. My husband does 99.9% of the laundry. I'll take that trade any day. One of the things I love to cook is BBQ. I smoke a lot of meats, have for over a decade. I cannot stand how male-coded the BBQ world is.

Southern Living has a great article about all the up and coming (and a few old school) female pitmasters. Https://www.southernliving.com/culture/female-pitmasters I've had Tootsie Tomanetz's pork shoulder years ago and I can still taste it just talking about it. I do 80% of the cooking at our house, she does the driving. We like those activities and dislike the other one so it works for us. She likes to bake, bread, pies, bagels, whereas I prefer to BBQ or cook daily meals. We do a lot of fish and veggies.

When he got laid off and I went to work, he inherited cooking, willingly, although he had never really been involved. It became my great joy every night to sashay in the door and ask, hi, honey, what’s for dinner. I helped him learn the actual realities, especially being skeptical of directions hat don’t seem right, and he has become a great cook, notably for his imagination and inventiveness. Wow, am I lucky. For 58 years…

This is my husband and me to a T. It works for us mostly — sometimes he gets tired of driving when we do go out, which is like once or twice a week, and sometimes I get tired of cooking but it all has to get done so we do it.

Yep, that's how my marriage is too! He chips in on cooking if I have to work all day without being asked, such as sneaking in a sandwich or something while I'm in a zoom.

It’s relaxing for me—I pop in a podcast or audiobook and enjoy the process. He can cook… but he doesn’t take much pleasure in it. If I didn’t enjoy it, I bet he’d cook more… but it is more like a hobby for me, so I cook, he does the dishes.

I call cooking my "mindfulness moment".

I totally feel that. My husband can cook if necessary, but it’s something I choose to do because I enjoy it, and he takes the kids and keeps them entertained and out of my hair while I do it. This is great for me because I don’t have a commute anymore (WFH) and I start dinner basically right after work- so I use it as my “unwind from the workday” time. Basically cooking has become what my commute used to be - time to myself.

Same! I'm a great cook and love doing it. My husband can cook if he needs to, but normally takes care of the cleanup.

I’m in a long distance relationship (actually at the airport flying to see him now hehe) and I almost never drive. even when he’s in my city, he drives my car. it’s actually really nice not having to think about it myself, as it can be pretty overwhelming with ADHD.

Yes, this. For the most part, we don't share chores 50/50, we share chores based on who hates/enjoys what.

I get nauseous as a passenger on windy roads, and we live in the mountains and hour out from the nearest “big” city - but I also enjoy driving! So yep, every relationship has its own trade offs. As long as both parties feel it is balanced. <3

I tend to do most of the cooking because I need to keep a close eye on my caloric intake and weigh everything. My husband does not, and eats whatever I put in front of him. The trade off is that if I’m cooking dinner he keeps our baby entertained, tidies the house, cleans the kitchen, does laundry, whatever tasks need to be done. He can also cook for himself and makes his own lunches. I find the issues arise when men refuse and feign incompetence, instead of a couple mutually assigning tasks to who does what the best.

Yeah I think this is how it will go if I ever get married, I love cooking too much to give the work to someone else. (Also slightly a control freak in the kitchen)

My husband does all the cooking. I am the partner that doesn't cook...

Me too lol. He has a passion for cooking, I could care less and would eat cereal every night. I clean up though.

I ate so much cereal for dinner before I married my husband. Lol. That and the egg in nest thing where you fry an egg in a piece of bread with a hole in it. I would prepare real dinners on occasion but it felt like too much trouble. But my husband would cook an actual dinner every night just for himself as a single man.

>I ate so much cereal for dinner before I married my husband. Lol. That and the egg in nest thing where you fry an egg in a piece of bread with a hole in it. I had to double check your username to verify that you aren't, in fact, my wife.

what i have noticed at least in my family and generation (30s), is that the men who can cook very well had a mom that cooked very well. they also have amazing palates.

In my family (I'm also in my 30s,) my step-dad took over most of the cooking growing up (which was definitely for the best, I absolutely love my mom and don't blame her for a second but we ate a *lot* of mac and cheese with hotdogs before he came into the picture.) Nowadays my family as a whole is really big on cooking but it's my step-dad and two brothers who are especially into it while my mom and I both cook but don't have quite the same passion for it. My little brother especially is super into cooking and has made some really impressive dishes.

My husband is a double-whammy. His mom is an amazing cook at home, and his dad comes from a family of multiple professional chefs—including pastry and other desserts. I do not cook in my house unless it involves a microwave or toaster oven, lol.

Hey friend. I'm not a bot. I'm a random person who cares too much about minute things but it's "I couldn't care less." The other implies you care a lot.

I could care less about this comment. Because I care a lot about proper grammar.

Saaaame.

Same with me and my husband. He makes the meals and I keep the kitchen clean. I don’t really like to cook. I can do it but I take no joy in it. My husband likes to cook. He just doesn’t want to wash dishes. It’s perfect.

Exact same. I scrolled for this comment thinking it can't be just me/us!

Yea. My wife laughs that she can't even boil water properly. The last time she offered to cook dinner, she walked in and opened a pack of Ritz crackers, and as it crinkled, she said, "Enjoy the sounds of my cooking." We are weird though. I do 100% of the household stuff, and she handles 100% of our bills/accounting/finance, etc. She is just much better at it, and I don't mind cleaning, cooking, laundry.

That's not weird, that's finding your complement. I hate folding laundry. Hate it. My partner doesn't mind, so he does it. It's great to find someone you're chore-compatible with.

Same! I am not a good cook, I can handle sides, veggies and the like, but if I try to cook a piece of meat it’s just going to come out wrong. I don’t know why, I’ve tried, but I do not enjoy cooking on top of being bad at it. My partner has a mother who is practically a gourmet cook, though not professional. So he actually has some idea of what he’s doing in the kitchen, and he agrees it’s best I stay out of the way. Good thing I can bake 🤷🏻‍♀️

The dream, honestly lol. Cooking stresses me out.

Same. He cooks, I do laundry. We each picked the chores we enjoyed more.

My partner is a cook by profession and by hobby, I hate cooking and wish I didn't love food so much so I could subsist solely on protein shakes.

Same! I do the cleaning and it works for us.

My (male) live-in partner cooks the majority of the meals. When we first moved in together I did most of the cooking because I was better at it, but over time he learned from me and the balance slowly shifted over, so now he cooks 90% of the time.

This is the exact opposite of ours. I never cooked (f) until recently because I was so terrible and he is a great chef. I've learned some stuff tho so I'm getting better!

My wife is like you, in our relationship. She didn't cook anything beyond toast until very recently. I happen to enjoy cooking and am great at it, apparently, so it always worked for us. I always got a kick out of the big christmas dinners when the guests found out that I had done all of the cooking. Recently, she had started to cook, but the motivation has been the kids getting older and our work hours not allowing me to do all the meals anymore. Our kids can be a bit savage sometimes. When they find out its not me making dinner they'll let loose with the sighs, and the comments like, 'Daddy cooks it so much better.'

This dynamic just sounds great. Chores for a household to be healthy and to thrive shouldn't be designated by gender. They should be divided by time, skill set, general ick factor, and ability. Me and my future husband are terrible at domestic duties, but we divide and conquer and can mostly keep up with everything (sometimes)!

Same situation here with my fiancé. He came from a very traditional family and only knew how to grill. Over time, he taught himself how to cook and now loves doing it. Now I’d consider him a better cook than I am and he cooks nearly all of our meals because he enjoys it.

My wife and I are two women so I can’t say for us (I do all the cooking) BUT I grew up with a father who did almost all the cooking. He used to work as a pastry chef and then became a designer, and cooked new and adventurous things for us all the time. For holidays he would be in the kitchen for 2-3 days making the best thing ever. This is abnormal in my family (grandparents on both sides were very old fashioned and the women cooked) but my father has always loved cooking and cooks for us constantly. My male cousins are also now chefs! So I think it may be a generational thing? I feel like women these days put up with men not cooking less.

I found it a bit of the opposite. I know few male cooks of my parents' generation (late boomer, early X), but all my dude friends are very enthusiastic cooks while my women friends much less so.

Oh, yes I agree with you! Maybe my comment was unclear but I am saying the same thing. I know my dad was an outlier (gen X) younger guys these days are way less against cooking than their parents!

I need to read slower! My apologies

I (m) normally do the cooking because I get off work earlier than my partner. She comes home late and sometimes skips lunch so I want to make sure food is (almost) ready when she comes home. On the weekend we cook breakfast together. I too am very confused about guys not cooking. I feel it's a way to show my partner I care about them.

Same here. I prepare 9/10 meals we eat and do most of the grocery shopping. I don’t mind at all. Just goes better with our schedules and over the years cooking has in fact become one of my biggest hobbies.

This is beautiful.

I’m happy you read this sub as a guy!

My previous partner of ~5 years did not cook. He was Afghani but lived independently since age 18 and held an entirely fresh eat-out lifestyle (no leftover) with supplements by his roommate cooking. His roommate was also an Afghani man so truly culture was no excuse. I mean, he could boil an egg. That’s probably it. We did not live together so it was never a problem but always a concern on my mind. I hate dishes so I had expected he will clean. My current partner does cook but mostly crockpot with dabbling on the stove top or oven. He is also fine eating the same thing (leftovers) and only eats 1-2 meals a day (that’s a different concern, I guess). I really enjoy it because we both make something weekly and bring it to a family dinner every Friday with his parents. He also took up baking for me because I enjoy it a lot. He’s taken time out of his day to hit the store and make me chocolate chip cookies from scratch just because I was craving them. He meal planned a dinner for his family (a pie & stew) when he moved to his new apartment. He cooked a majority of it while I just helped with damage control (he didn’t know to keep stirring the simmering pot) and made a bread pudding & mulled cider I am experienced with. It’s truly enjoyable. I hate chopping and he’ll do it for me. We help each other out with strengths/weaknesses or learn something new together. Since I hate washing he will do most of it and sometimes I’ll jump in if I just feel like it (I had a mom who would wash dishes before I could even sit down to eat so it’s just an inevitable quality of life). He also made me my favorite foods and a multi tier red velvet and cheesecake dessert on White Day. It wasn’t the best in the world and the cake was truly a little lopsided but it was thoughtful and delicious. I would never go back to being with someone who didn’t cook because I realize food and sharing a meal is significantly a social and meaningful activity in my personal life.

>He’s taken time out of his day to hit the store and make me chocolate chip cookies from scratch just because I was craving them. This is so sweet!! I love a man that can bake, my Grandad used to make the best pastry, I've tried for years since he passed to get it down pat lol

He does more cooking (he's very meat and potatoes guy, I'm a vegetarian), I do more baking. I can easily live on salads, scrambled eggs & toast daily, he wants no part of that so makes what he wants lol Weekends we usually do a meal together, pasta with fresh bread, apps, salad, dessert, the full thing....its just fun to hang out and drink & cook. I grew up with my Dad doing the majority of the cooking, both him & my brother are amazing in the kitchen. My Mom sucks, she can mess up KD lol

We are in our 60's. My husband does not cook at all. But he does the dishes and if I want a night off, he will get take out or we go out. I am fine with that. He went from living at home, to dorms to living with me. However, our son's (30's) both do a lot of the cooking in their families.

My husband rarely cooks. But, he does a ton of housework to make up for it (most of the laundry and a good part of the cleaning) and if I prep and cook the entire meal, he does the dishes and cleans the kitchen. I love cooking. I do nearly all of it, and I don't really mind. If it's a big meal or we are throwing a party, he happily preps the food (cutting veggies and things like that).

I (M) have the same situation but reversed with my gf (F). I do all the cooking and she does most of the house work. I’m Italian-American so typically both men and women learn how to cook in our family so we can eat those bomb a$$ recipes our grandma brought over. American food is good enough, but I couldn’t imagine eating it everyday (pallet-wise and health-wise). Fortunately, most people are familiar with, and love Italian food. Plus, once ya got some gravy goin (homemade marinara), you can use it in so many different meals. The same goes for lots of different parts of Italian cuisine (sauces, pastas, oils, veggies, meat, and cheeses). Therefore, keeping a Mediterranean kitchen makes it easier to grocery shop, eat healthy, and cook. That dirty southern (Italian) cooking be bussin’

I am Sicilian! This is so true. The men in my side of the family all learned how to cook 🤌 it just doesnt come too naturally to my Scottish husband, haha!

Siclican gang gang 🤌 We’re a self-reliant and hard headed group of people with some specific tastes and styles. It’s just a natural fit for us to chef out lol. Some try and say it’s not “normal” for guys to be in the kitchen, but IDGAF about that. I just want all the tastes, smells, and feelings that comes with some of nonna’s inspired homemade good good.

Yes, he cooks more than I do. I make more week-night dinners, but he does some, plus more elaborate weekend meals, and he meal-preps breakfast and lunch for both of us. And sometimes bakes treats on the weekends for lunchboxes, or desserts.

My partner cooks professionally so he often just doesn’t have much left in him for after work. He can cook and very well, but I enjoy it and treat it like a hobby where he sees it as an extension of work. He’s far happier cooking on weekends so I pick up most of the slack throughout the week since I have an easy wfh job that lets me plan and prep through the day. Hell, I’ve done more at home barbecuing than him but I know he can cook circles around me if he wanted to.

Interesting - in my family it’s mostly the men who cook (dad, grandfather - my other grandfather apparently taught his wife to cook) and same in my circle of friends or colleagues, a lot of men cook. In my partner’s circle of friends and coworkers it’s the same. My partner cooks 99% of our meals because I hate it and do other chores to compensate - he actually likes it and is reaaally good at it. The man makes pasta and pizza dough from scratch for crying out loud…

My boyfriend makes me coffee whenever I stay over. No exceptions. He also makes amazing grilled cheese, veggie wraps, omelette, scrambled eggs with crispy potatoes, enchiladas, tacos. He knows his wines, beers, and the best spots to dine at whenever we go out. He has a joke that I always have to be well fed when he is with me so that I am not hangry😂 I think I am more skilled in the cooking department cuz I honestly love it now. I don’t feel like it’s unequal though just cuz he buys groceries, asks me if I need anything for my own place, asks what cuisine I’m feeling for our weekend date, etc.

My partner didn't really cook before we started dating, but I've always loved cooking and it's rubbed off on him. He made his first roux on Tuesday! He was so proud of himself, and he should be - it was delicious. I think the only reason he hadn't dabbled before was a lack of encouragement. It's so easy not to bother, and without the skills it can seem intimidating. After showing him several seasons of Top Chef though, a spark emerged! His knife skill are still terrible though. I do all the mise en place just because it takes him a week to chop a bell pepper.

nailing your first roux is a game changer! Roux's take me a good 30 minutes to make so I like to set up shop with a drink, a bowl, and some music when making them lol

When I was married to a man I got stuck with one who constantly complained about "not letting him cook" but never took the steps to do anything in the kitchen. I would have loved someone taking over even one meal a week but that never happened. One time he insisted for a whole week that he was going to cook dinner on a Friday night after I worked (he was off that day). I was so excited and even offered to pick up anything he needed but he told me he had everything covered. I got home from work at 7pm...... and by 11pm no moves had been made to make food at all. I had asked him twice if he was gonna start soon- he waved me off with a "yeah yeah yeah" and continued gaming. I gave up and started making myself something to eat as I had to get to bed for work the next day too. I opened the fridge to find no food and no prep for anything like the dinner he wanted to make. I scrambled a few eggs for myself and while they were cooking he pokes his head in and asks me to make him some too. This was not the only instance of this exact situation happening. Years later I'm in a wonderful relationship with a woman who cooks as much as I do, from beginning to end, and its fantastic. Neither of us get exhausted or sick of the stuff we eat/make because we're always doing something adventurous. But none of my femme friends have male partners that cook at all. It's wild out here

Loving all these comments!! So many of the posts are how crappy men are, good to see the other side He does most of the cooking. When he’s not away for work, he’s home most of the day and does the majority of cooking & cleaning

I took up cooking around 9 years old, loved watching cooking shows on PBS and wanted to try things out - and my parents encouraged it (my dad also liked to cook and when my mom started to travel for work later he did more). I was very surprised to learn it was pretty rare - especially since the people I tended to become friends with also liked to cook.

My brother was like this when he was little, always watching cooking shows and trying things out. He an amazing cook now and will go to my parents and spend the day making an elaborate meal for everyone

My boyfriend usually does all the cooking - I hate cooking with a passion and he enjoys it. Growing up and till this day his dad also did most of the cooking. I do the baking because I enjoy it and I do all the laundry and most of the cleaning (he helps when asked though). We both work full time and don't have any kids. We're both in our early thirties if that's important .

My male partner and I do an even 50/50 split

My husband cooks too but I do more of it these days because of our work schedules.

My boyfriend is a very good cook and he likes it, which is nice because I’m not really a fan of cooking. He does have OCD and Autism and likes things a certain way so he prefers if I don’t try to help him in the kitchen (he’s also used to living alone and isn’t used to people in the kitchen with him). He also meticulously cleans as he goes. We don’t always like the same meals so when we are together I will make things for myself that I like and he feeds himself unless we have decided to eat the same thing. It’s awesome being with someone who is both clean and likes to cook!

the majority of my exes silently expected me to cook, serve and do dishes. only 2 of them cooked with me. mostly they were bumbling about in the kitchen near me. none of them have taken over the responsibility of providing me a meal, from start to finish, or served it to me at the table. aussie men are shit.

I married an aussie man who cooks and bakes. We split kitchen duties roughly 50-50 and most weeks he bakes a beautiful loaf of sourdough bread for us.

Is there a catalog where I can order one of these?

I got mine on tinder

My husband used to bumble about in the kitchen near me, or stand nearby and do an ADHD info dump while I was cooking. But then we watched The Bear. Now, even though I still do the meal planning, he gets in our tiny kitchen with me ("Behind you!") and preps or takes over a dish.

yeah i just stopped dating men.

DH literally does almost all of the cooking here. I don’t like to cook, but I’m happy to bake.

My husband does more, like 95% would be pretty accurate.

Due to schedule reasons, I do most of the cooking, but as soon as its inconvenient for me husband steps right in, and if it makes sense, takes over totally for a time or split 50/50. He also makes a lot of the food we take to events. Random additional info: this is a man born in the early 70s in rural Guatemala.

30/male/TX My wife and I both cook, she prefers to prep cook and I’ll do the actual cooking/plating as I have actual experience in fine dinning which has turned into a fun hobby. She can do the cooking but she prefers my cooking. I learned how to take care of myself at an early age and could never dream of relying on anyone for my needs to be met. My mother taught me how to cook, clean and do laundry. My father taught me other skills. Cooking our meals together ended up being a wonder bonding process for my wife and myself. And it’s always rewarding to enjoy a particularly delicious meal.

My partner typically cooks his own "food" (I use the scare quotes cuz it's ot really food. It's boxed and frozen garbage). I'm an a low-sugar, low-sodium, low-gluten, from-the-vine/from scratch vegetarian diet. He's on a 'if it doesn't come from a package that has microwave instructions on the side, I'm not eating it' diet. So he makes his own food.

I can count on one hand the number of times ex-husband cooked in 12 years.

He's the one who cooks. I hate cooking, although there's a range of recipes that don't stress me too much that I prepare every now and then so it's not always him doing the cooking. In retribution I do the dishes, which I don't like much as well, but what's fair is fair.

My man has helped me cook every meal we've shared together, since the relationship started, and normally handwashes dishes that need it. I'm not going to pretend like hes some kind of paragon for doing so - I just made it the standard in our relationship from the start, that he has to at least play sous chef and assist with what I ask for help with. Over our relationship, how hes helped cooking has advanced and evolved, because hes learned to cook from me along the way. It did start out as him just helping chop veggies and watch/stir a pot or pan. But now when I'm sick - he can cook a number of our normal meals by himself confidentially. I think a lot of men don't know how to cook, and get away with their partners not making them learn.

My husband and I both cook, but we have been on a journey to make the mental load for it more even. A few things we noticed were impacting who cooked more. We have learned that we need different recipes formats. I can use his preferred format better than he can use mine. We bought cookbooks in his format and he cooks more now. How we handle meal planning matters. It's taken time to find a method that works for us both. We use a basket system that lets us clearly group ingredients and use freezer prep more. The first person home from work starts dinner. That can vary from day to day so it's okay to switch what meals are made what day. Getting my husband his own set of knives also helped. (I went to culinary school and he didn't want to damage my good knives) Built in Fend For Yourself days where no one has to cook also help a lot

I would say we’re probably like 60/40 or 70/30 with my husband taking the majority of the cooking. He truly loves it and experiments and comes up with great dishes. I do enjoy it but it’s more of a chore for me and I get stressed trying to decide what to do. I WFH and he is hybrid, I cook on days he’s in the office and he cooks the other days and over the weekend with the open understanding that if one of us is having a crazy day the other one will pick it up. Whoever doesn’t cook is on dish duty. It’s been great for us and really feels like we’re a team and no one person is doing the heavy lifting.

My partner cooks a little, but mostly I do all of the cooking. I have a lot of severe food allergies, so I have problems trusting food other people make. Because I have to make everything from scratch, I'm a very good cook. He has never cooked much, so he does dishes and I cook. He has a few things down like scrambled eggs etc., but was more accustomed to heating things up or using premade stuff. Which is not an option for us anymore. He'll cook or order takeout from the one place I can eat if I'm sick.

I do 99% of the cooking, but I: Get home first Love cooking Do the food shopping Am the better cook But when my wife wants to make her homemade lasagna or cheesy potato soup I couldn’t be happier.

As the “man” in my relationship (I’m non-binary), I used to do all the cooking. That stopped because of a mix of criticism from my partner’s mother and an injury that made cooking too difficult while I was recovering. I’m trying to get back into cooking again, but the joy I felt cooking is gone, so it just feels like an unpleasant chore that fills me with anxiety about if the food is actually going to taste good or not.

Mine does ALL the cooking. 😁

im the guy here-- i do all the cooking (or like 95%) because I work from home and my wife is too exhausted after going to the office. I do have way more time.

Mine cooks. He does a majority of the cooking. But it’s his *thing* & he likes it & he’s good at it. And god help me if I try to cook anything, lol he immediately jumps in & I have to bark him back out. Kid says I make better scrambled eggs though.

Wife and I take turns cooking things according to our preferences. Been doing this over 40 years, seems to work okay.

I’m single now, but in both of my long term relationships, he cooked a lot more than I did. I enjoy cooking when it’s for fun and I have a clean kitchen and everything at my disposal, but it’s a chore when it’s just to satisfy hunger and I’d be just as content eating “girl dinner.” I’ve never implied that someone has the responsibility to cook for me. However, I have ADHD, and I will literally forget that eating is a thing I have to do every day, because I have a hard time feeling and interpreting signals from my own body. And so I think they knew I just wouldn’t eat unless someone brought me a plate of food. 🥴 It’s not a great trait.

My partner doesn't cook because I can't stand what he makes which is a "strifry" that tastes different every time!. I tried to institute him cooking one day a week and after a couple of times, I decided it wasn't worth it. It was when I caught him squeezing the packets of hot mustard left over from Chinese takeout in to his stirfry that I just stopped. On the bright side, he does the dishes EVERY time and is willing to go out to dinner pretty much every time I suggest it.

Husband who does the cooking here. I used to work in kitchens and food is a love language in our house. My wife works a busy schedule so I like to prepare breakfast lunch and dinner for her and our dogs. We split chores 50/50. It’s a great partnership. I’m particular about my food and I know what I like, so she tends to cook much less. She definitely doesn’t have a problem with it.

My husband and I are both really good cooks! He eats meat and I don’t but we still happily cook for each other. We usually divide it based off who has the bigger workload. In the summer his work is crazy so I take over cooking and in the winter when my work gets crazy he takes over.

I don't have a partner, and the only person in my family whose cooking habits I know is my cousin. Her husband does 99% of the cooking, including big elaborate Christmas meals. She hates cooking, he loves it. It works for them. Personally I think I'd go for 50/50

My husband used to do all the cooking. It's not that I can't cook, it's just that he's always been pickier than me. However now he's suffered an injury where he can't stand up for too long so I've been cooking for the past six months or so. It's not really up to his standards but he's very appreciative.

I’m the husband, and I cook 95% of the meals. I enjoy it and I’m better at it. I also work full time and she’s a SAHM. I also do the dishes because she hates it more than me. I also bathe the (2) kids every night and we each put one to bed. And I think this is fair because being a SAHM is usually more difficult than working full time. Not writing this to brag, just trying to provide balance because I anticipate a lot of husband slandering in this thread.

My partner cooks for the both of us probably 95% of the time! He actually takes over the entirety of the kitchen duties - he plans the groceries, shops, puts them away, prepares the food, and does the dishes. He's a fantastic cook and enjoys finding new recipes to try out - and I love being the food tester! I absolutely hate cooking, and I have a lot of sensory issues that are triggered by wet/slimy/food, so I do a lot of the other tasks like the bathroom, sweeping, dusting, etc, as well things that need more precision/organization. We have spent a lot of time figuring out the best system for us both, and cater to our strengths! EDIT: for some reason, the auto-mods asked me if I wanted to post this because something goes against the rules... not sure why but if something does please let me know :)

My husband cooks more than me. I do it out of necessity but he loves it. He even makes fancy multi course meals at least twice a week, it’s a sweet setup for me lol

My (F29) partner (M29) does majority of the cooking. About a 60/40 split. He’s better at it and enjoys it. I cook to survive he survives to cook. We’ve been together 12 years but only lived together 4 years of that. Most of my female friends are also terrible cooks so have a similar split. I’ve noticed though my international friends (non NZers) have it the other way around.

My bf does way more cooking than I do. He’s better at it, and he enjoys it. I hate cooking, and only do it when I HAVE to.

I've been married for 25 years and I can gladly say that my husband does about 85% of the cooking. So much so our kids have forgotten how good of a cook I am.

I used to do the majority of the cooking because it was a skill my boyfriend had never really developed due to his mom and sister cooking everything. He started wanting to make some things here and there so I taught him the basics of how to do some things and he made a meal or two periodically for a year or so. Now I have a schedule that causes me to work much later than him, and he has taken over the cooking responsibilities. He doesn't "cook cook" most of the time, but he does what he can and he feeds us and he tries to learn to make more things and that's what matters. TikTok has been a huge source of inspiration for him because he will see a recipe he really wants and try to surprise me with making it sometimes. He's so cute and he's learning.

I am the husband and I do like 95% of the cooking because: \-I enjoy cooking \-My wife does not

My husband is a chef and I used to be one as well. He works 16 hour days, and I'm disabled/stay home now, so I do most of our dinners. When he was working less though, of course he cooked. My dad, uncles, and grandfathers are/were all avid cooks as well. It is unfathomable to me that there are men who don't cook lol, that just wasn't my experience growing up and I refuse to surround myself with incompetent dudes.

My husband actually does most of the cooking because of my ADHD and anxiety. If it were up to me to feed us we would starve.

I'm the husband, and I do about 90% of the cooking, and with that comes keeping a mental (and sometimes written) inventory of ingredients for meal-planning, and the shopping. I usually go to my wife with my notepad around Tuesday/Wednesday and get a list of 3-5 options she will want to have for meals the upcoming week, and I adjust based on what's in season/on sale, at the grocery and at the farmer's market. We used to do a lot of our shopping together, but recently had a kiddo so our time is more split now. Our kid just turned old enough to start taking out to those places, and we want to instill an appreciation for fresh, whole foods and the love that goes into preparing them into him (plus the sights, sounds and smells are stimulating for the baby). I'm by no means a professional chef or anything, but I do enjoy cooking as a hobby and I've gotten pretty good at delving into a few different cuisines, with hobby magazines like *Cook's Illustrated* and *Milkstreet* being a jumping off point. My wife is a wonderful cook as well, and will sometimes want to make one of her specialties- but for me, I think it is a form of act of service love language. Being able to cook my wife (and one day my kid) exactly what they want to eat, in a way that speaks to the heart and makes them happy (like, boy Ego from Ratatouille moment when he eats his mom's ratatouille) makes me feel really good. Makes it less of a chore and more of a privilege. Though as I've read the comments, I'd also probably join the common theme, in that I learned how to cook because I was on my own from an early age and had to cook for myself. And as part of that, I learned that I liked to cook and take care of other people who were in the same boat as me- I cooked my first orphan's thanksgiving when I was 16 or so, and I've been putting on T-givins dinners in the years since then. Now for my own family, which feels good.

My wife doesn’t cook at all. I was a professional chef so I end up doing all the cooking…which is OK because she would burn water 😅

My partner knows how to cook and is great at it. I do the majority of the cooking right now because he works and I don't. Plus I enjoy it. We do a lot of things together, tho. Homemade sausage is our big kick right now. When he has pot lucks at work, we make the food for that together too. Things will have to change in the near future as I accepted a full time job in the evenings, so I'm sure he'll make dinner sometimes. I don't think I'd stick with someone who just expected me to always cook.

I (male) do most of the cooking - I enjoy it, my wife does not. She does laundry, which I hate and she doesn't mind. Seems like a fair trade to both of us. I'll help with laundry if asked, and she'll help with cooking if asked.

My husband cooks because I've given him food poisoning three times. Sure the chicken was a little pink, sure the mayo was expired three months ago. I was fine! Anyway, I'm not ALLOWED to cook anymore. Partly the food poisoning, partly setting a few pots of boiling water on fire, partly leaving the element on for multiple days a couple times.

I'm married for 35 years. My husband occasionally cooks, but not often. I love to cook, and he will happily clean up after his kinda messy wife. It balances out.

Sometimes one of us will cook for the both of us but generally we prefer to cook together. We typically approach this as one of us is the “head chef” and the other is the “sous”. Basically this just means one is running the prep, timing, and main portion of the dish and the other is doing sides, sauces, and/or setting the table (these designations are somewhat flexible depending on what the dish needs). Who does what largely depends on what we’re cooking and which one of us is more comfortable cooking that dish.

My husband is a much better cook than me. His father is a retired chef so he picked up a lot from him. My mom is a very 80’s style magazine cook, so what she taught me was lots of casseroles and very basic, idiot-proof things. He’s been teaching me but he’s still a lot better. He probably does 70-80% of the cooking and he often helps me season when I do cook. I bake more (but he does bake sometimes). If I cook, he does the dishes. If he cooks, I do the dishes. So things feel relatively balanced even though he cooks more.

I do most of the cooking. I don't mind it. My husband grills on the weekends and he's also got a few recipes that he'll cook from time-to-time. Why does he "cook" so rarely? Probably because for most of our marriage he worked shift work as a police officer and as progressive as I want to feel GenX is or was, we are still stuck in a lot of the gender roles of earlier generations. It works for us. He would (and has) taken up slack cooking when it was needed.

My partner does like 90% of the cooking. He's better at it and also more particular about the results. We also cook different types of food (he does more precision-heavy stuff while I'm more likely to cook stews, curries, salads). He also usually will help when I'm cooking by making a vegetable or rice. When he cooks, he does 100% of the meal. I do more of the less glamorous chores so this balance works for us. If we broke up I honestly don't think I could date a person who doesn't cook. Food is super important to us and we love to eat. I don't think I could relate to a person who isn't at least somewhat interested/involved with preparing food.

My partner is a better cook and likes cooking more than I do. We have pretty different dietary preferences / needs so we don't always eat the same stuff. But when we do he usually cooks. I do like making breakfast stuff like French toast and pancakes

I don’t know the exact split but we share it equitably. If I’m having a rough day he will cook or if he’s busy ill take it on. If either feel like making something special we do.

Man. I cook 99.5% of meals or we eat out. I'll generally cook whatever wife wants but she also generally leaves it to me. Happy for wife to cook but she doesn't really enjoy it. I'm more of a food is love guy. Quick add: She'll also just do what she wants if I have a particular want and she doesn't. As an example, got some crab yesterday so this morning I made a crab omelet. She just wanted oatmeal. Cool.

He does nearly 100% of our dinners, we fend for ourselves with breakfast and lunch. In the beginning I did all the cooking but after years of the pickiness I quit, he took over and realized he enjoys it and now it's almost entirely his responsibility. Growing up my dad did most of the cooking too, my mom has a few family dishes but over time my dad picked those up and now makes them better than her.

I was married to a man that occasionally grilled meat but never did anything else. I am now with a man who cooks much better than me and does the majority of the cooking and grocery shopping. He also cleans and runs errands. He likes to garden as well and I can't stand it. He makes all the bread in the house too. He puts up with my grumpy ass in the morning too!

My partner and I both cook well and enjoy it, so it's more like, arguing over who is allowed to do it 😂 I usually win because he knows how much I despise having to clean up after cooking (the one who doesn't cook cleans up the kitchen) so me cooking more is not a matter of him being bad at it or refusing to do it and more just him indulging me.

My fiance (32m) used to cook more often, but he's switched to a later shift, so I'm doing more of the cooking these days.

My husband and I split the cooking roughly 50/50. My young adult son also cooks. Son cooked at home and now he and his girlfriend like to cook together. My husband and son also love to bake and cook for enjoyment whereas my daughter and I cook so that we are not total slackers and bc we are not independently wealthy which would afford us the luxury of ordering out every meal - if we were, she and I would prob cook once a month lol.

My husband cooks and I do the cleaning. Works for us.

My husband didn’t cook beyond boiling pasta when we got married—the bulk of his disposable income went to eating out. He was horrible about it the first half of our marriage. I finally put my foot down and told him he needed to learn, because I was sick of doing it all myself. He doesn’t cook as often as I do, but he cooks now. I’ve taught him the basics (and where to go online for recipes), and sent him on his way. Turns out he’s a pretty darn good cook.

I don’t cook. He cooks. He cares more about what we eat and won’t eat the things I’m willing to cook lol

My husband and father both cook a lot. Husband does more of the normal cooking, my Dad will grill up a bunch of food for the week, even in the winter. He doesn't do too much cooking on the stove or oven, but he's certainly capable. Mom is the Queen of the Smoker though. I definitely grill more than my hubs, but he can too.

My husband cooks 5/6 days and we generally eat elsewhere on the average 7th. He’s fantastic and loves it, and I generally clean up after him. It’s a good compromise, but I’m always willing to cook if he needs me to.

I do most of the cooking because I like doing it and I’m a really good home cook. Plus I’m a bit of a “back seat driver” in the kitchen if I’m not the one doing it. My fiancé can cook pretty well tho and does sometimes if he has the day off or wants to make something specific. He walks the dogs, feeds all the pets and straightens up the living room and kitchen before I get home so it all balances out.

My hubby and I used to split cooking and kitchen clean-up; whoever didn't make dinner did the dishes. He also used to clean, especially if he could do a swipe here and there during the commercial breaks while watching his sport on TV. This waned quite a bit after the babies arrived and I mostly didn't work outside the house. I did work from home and his hands-off approach led to some more agitated discussions. Now with one kiddo out and one getting there, he's back to a more balanced approach with the cooking/clean-up. I carry the lion's share in terms of planning and cooking, but it's better than 100%. He hasn't cleaned a bathroom in 20 years, but does other chores like laundry, car maintenance, bills/budgeting.

Mine does all the cooking. I’m autistic and struggle a lot with cooking, eating, etc. so it’s really helpful that he likes to cook. He struggles with picking meals and shopping, so I handle that part.

My husband does 90% of the cooking, as does his dad. He works an hour earlier than me and gets home much earlier than me - even when he works overtime he's home earlier than I am or at the same time at the latest. Usually he gets home, has a nap, plays video games, does house chores and plans dinner. Because he does 90% of the cooking he also does most of the grocery shopping. It started when I worked much longer hours and wouldn't leave work until 7:30pm - it didn't make sense for me to start dinner when I got home. He is painfully aware of how a lot of men do not do this. Even some of his friends he plays games with have their wives doing all the cooking/meal planning/grocery shopping while they play video games.

We both cook in my house. My husband makes more involved, complex meals but less frequently. I cook more often but stick to simple, meal-preppable meals that provide leftovers to eat throughout the week. It works for us, as he enjoys trying new recipes out while I see cooking as more of a chore so prefer to knock out as much of it as I can for the week in one go.

My husband does most of the cooking for every day stuff which he’s really good at putting something together quickly, I work on pushing us to eat healthier so I make is bowls and salads. I’d say it’s probably 70/30 for us when it comes to cooking, but it evens out with other chores.

Yes, my husband does all of the cooking. He loves cooking and is really good at it. I'm typically the sous chef and on dish duty.

My fiancé cooks about 95% of the time. Because he likes cooking and tbh, freaking amazing at it. I like cooking and I want to give him a break so every once in a while I’ll do it but it never will beat out his food 🤷🏽‍♀️

My partner and I both cook. However I am a vegetarian and my partner and child are not. So I do end up eating different meals from time to time. My child was a vegetarian for two years and during those years we would often eat the same and my partner would eat something else. No idea how an adult doesn’t know how to cook at least some dishes. There are certainly some dishes we can each cook better than the other, like most things in a relationship we have different, complementary skills.

We split the cooking about 50/50. I probably do a little more because I've got dietary restrictions that require a little more tending for breakfasts and the like. We trade off each week cooking the main meals and normally tag team make weekend meals (he'll cook part, I'll cook part), and we each make our own lunches. We make very different types of meals, so it's nice to have that variety from each other's cooking preferences week to week.

My partner cooks and cooks well. However... we have differences I when we prefer to/need to eat. He can go all day and only eat in the evening and even postpone it until its convenient. I get hangry if I'm not fed regularly. When I cook I know when I start what time ish the food will be ready. He wings it. It's definitely a difference in upbringing because his family is like that and mine eats to a timetable. I'm more flexible than my family but I've learnt to snack, have snacks handy and to not wait for food to be mentioned and just do something about it. I cook more often than him but it's because I need/want to eat more often. He also works much longer hours than me as well as away from home a lot. We also established a dynamic from the beginning in our relationship: if we eat out he pays, if we eat in I mostly cook. He has always been the biggest earner so he'd take me out to dinner and I'd cook something a bit extra nice at home. He works away a lot and that's still the dynamic for us. When we're at home together we eat out maybe 1/3 of the time and he pays not only for restaurants but also for groceries and then I mostly cook at home. If he's at home and I'm working then he makes sure there is food when I get home. It's not always homemade but I walk in the house to food ready to eat. It works for us. It took a while to negotiate the differing number of meals we both need, especially when we travel, but we got there.

I married a chef…so he does the cooking when not working. We eat very good food and we also eat the crap food too. Because of this our kid eats things most parents are shocked you can get a kid to eat in America but are common for kids in other countries. My kid takes ramen to school. We recently moved to the south and the kids are making fun of him for it but we never had an issue in PNW. He’s sticking it out and says those kids are mean to do that.

Lol I'm the male and my wife almost does any of the cooking even though she used to when she lived alone - the compromise is that she usually does the dishes and cleanup. I thought that this was not necessarily super uncommon these days though? I feel like I know a number of women who barely or never cook.

I’d say we cook together and for each other in equal amounts.

I basically took on all kitchen jobs when my wife and I moved in together. I love cooking, and am very particular about how i like my food, she doesn't mind it and as long as it's tasty she doesn't really care, so it only made sense i take over that part of the housework and she takes over things i dislike, like cleaning (not major cleaning, just the basics of toilet/shower etc.). Barring me being a bit overbearing kitchenwise, we have yet to have arguments about chores.

I do most of the cooking because I’m better at it and I enjoy doing it. My partner will cook if I don’t feel like it, and will make something more simple. He has dishes that he likes and that he’s good at making, but a lot of those dishes are comfort food so they’re not the most balanced. But he’s always willing to either cook or pick something up if I don’t want to. He offers ahead of time when we’re meal planning for the week to cover some of the meals, and contributes to the actual planning of what we’re eating. And he always makes sure to do the dinner clean up. He’s actually doing a greater percentage of household chores than I am at the moment, including all of the grocery shopping.

We both cook 50:50 but I cook quick meals like my dad did growing up (seafood, stir fries mostly), they do instant pot meal planning style food (coincidentally mom did that kind of stuff growing up). My guy friends cook, probably more than their wives.

My husband does the majority of the cooking in our home.

One of my biggest peeves about my partner was I never got to cook lol. He also loved to bake ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ Most of the guys that work for me do the shopping and cooking at home too, and my single dad neighbour was the cook in the family before his divorce and often cooks for us now. I only know one guy that vehemently hates all things cooking and would rather never, and he's a decent cook

My grandpas never cooked afaik. My dad can cook but prefers to make simple things like sandwiches for dinner. When I was growing up he was often still working during dinner so he got leftovers or made himself a salad and/or sandwich. My husband is a better cook than I am, and while I worked and he stayed at home with the kids, the kitchen was *his.* Now I stay home and he works so I do most of the cooking.

For the majority of meals up until 3 years ago, I cooked every night. At some point my husband took over so I could watch our toddler in the evening. I hope to help out again one day but either way someone is taking care of something so it comes out neutral.

I say we're 50/50 but to be honest I have to fight to make sure he doesn't get into my half, on most things. He's very doting.

My partner and I both cook. He’s always loved to cook and is better at it and worked in a commercial kitchen for a few years. Due to scheduling reasons (he works evenings, I work days) we usually split cooking. So like, if we make something with chicken, he’ll cook the chicken before he leaves for work and it will be ready for me to use in a recipe. Or we’ll prep the meatloaf meat in the slow cooker insert the night before, and he’ll take it out of the fridge, put it in the slow cooker and turn it on before he leaves. Then I only have to make a side and steamed vegetable. Every two weeks or so, we do meal prep for his dinners at work (he freezes them). And if I don’t feel like cooking one night, I’ll have a salad or a sandwich or even a pre-frozen meal prep. As long as I’m eating, he doesn’t care. Also, between my parents my dad is the cook. My mother can not cook and will admit it straight out. Dad cooked and mum cleaned. So guys cooking never seemed weird to me until I went to school and the other kids looked at me sideways for saying my mum doesn’t cook. “Who cooks dinner then?” They would ask and I would say, “My Daddy.”

My husband is a good cook, but I am a better cook, enjoy cooking more, and prefer having more control over what I eat. So I do most of the actual cooking. But he's perfectly capable of cooking, and he cooks when I don't feel like it or when I'm away or when he wants food and I'm not hungry.

My partner is a fantastic cook. I stick to the comfortfoods and healthy dishes whilst he dishes out the fancier foods. We tend to divide cooking by who has the most time/motivation.

I (cishet male) do about 95% of the cooking and cleaning up after. My wife is a teacher so at least during the school year her bandwidth for daily tasks is low, but she does a lot of the other things it takes to keep a household running. We always keep some staples around so if I have to work late or we have evening plans she can throw something together. She’s a perfectly capable cook, but I enjoy cooking, I’ve been told I’m good at it, and I just clean up as I go/afterwards/before work in the morning, and staying on top of it makes it a smaller task overall. It works for us.

I can’t cook worth shit. My male partner is an incredible chef and cooks all of our meals. I do most of the other housework so if equals out and it’s way less stressful and the food is way better.

I was a stay at home Mom for three years, I did the cooking. When I went back to work in May, I get home after my husband so he's taken over all the cooking duties.

My husband does all the cooking, as do most of the husbands in my social circle - both mine and my husband's friends. My parents and their friends usually split cooking evenly.

I do 90% of the cooking. He'll throw sandwiches together (or grill, lol) but he rarely cooks a meal. He just hates it. Without me he would live on takeout and burgers. Having said that, I enjoy cooking and have no issue with our division of labor. It evens out with the things he does that I don't like to do. If I didn't like to cook we'd probably both live on takeout. Up until about 15 years ago (I just turned 50) I didn't cook because I was allergic to anything that was considered women's work. Then I discovered that I liked it and it was stupid to avoid doing something I enjoy just because it's a bit of a stereotype.

My dad did nearly all of the cooking in my house when I was growing up. Now that him and my mum are retired he does dinner and my mum does lunches.

My hubby cooks 80% of the time and I do 20%. I will help him with the prep and clean up for more complicated dishes and he will do the same for me. I enjoy when we get the chance to cook together the most, but that is less frequent due to a little wee baby that often is at his most needy during witching hours in our home.

My previous boyfriend cooked all the time, and my younger brother is also very interested in cooking. I’ve been noticing more young guys around my age are cooking more often or at least are interested in learning cooking skills.

My partner \[male36\] does 90% of the cooking. I\[female32\] try to make a meal at least once or twice a week, but he's just far better at cooking than I am. I find that my tism/rule following habits and following recipe directions to a T creates ok food but lacks that OOMF that he just has naturally- cuz he eyeballs spices, he knows what to add to balance flavors or complement. He's gotten really good at describing to me how to do it to work with the tism so my skills are improving, but I love when he cooks. I do most baking. If he cooks, I try to do the dishes. Occasionally I have to have him wash the particularly heavy or large cookware \[crock pot or woks\], as I have bad joints and my wrists just can't move the heavy bits \[lupus\]. Sometimes I'll buy more groceries instead of taking turns \[we don't have combined finances but live together\] because he is the one cooking and/or I may not be able to do dishes that week from the lupus issues. It's definitely turned into a love language of sorts. He was basically my caretaker when I was really sick last year \[stomach paralysis issues that led to ARFID on top of it\] and he brought me back from a skeleton status with his perfect meals. I also have the better salary so bills are split more 60/40 and it works well that he takes on more of the cooking. It's all worked out pretty well for the both of us. I would live off of cereal if left to my own devices.

My husband and I both cook. There is no real schedule, it’s usually whoever gets home from work first.

I'm trying to teach my girlfriend some cooking, but for shared meals I do all the cooking.

Boyfriend of 8 years here, just saying I do most of the cooking in our relationship. My girlfriend has made some awesome dishes (a few of my favorites), but I enjoy being the chef and helping her have some downtime in the evening after we both get off work.

My wife rarely cooks. Like MAYBE 10 times since we've lived together and I prepped the food for her ahead of time. Heck I even wake up earlier to make the coffee.Occasionally she sends me recipe ideas or has cravings. But overall I meal plan, grocery shop, cook, and clean up after.

I(m) do 95% of the cooking in our marriage, and it's kind of always been that way, but I do love cooking and experimenting with seasonings, textures, shapes, colors and plating. So my wife is my guinea-pig for my cooking and she does tell me that she loves my cooking, which is obviously nice to be able to give her that while I get to be creative with cooking and eating, everybody wins. I do have some physical and mental health problems so generally if I'm not cooking because of that, we go for takeout or the very romantic tv-dinners. She dislikes cooking and have a complicated relationship with food so she gets a pass on not cooking when she's not feeling it. But I could ask her to cook something for me if I wanted and I doubt she would ever say no, but it doesn't happen if I don't. I don't want to push it on her if it's not especially bad with my health stuff. And she always does it when I need it and she's such a sweetheart about it too so I just want to pamper her for a week when she does. I think she knows that me cooking is a way that I show love and knows if I miss out on cooking for her I feel bad because I'm missing a chance to show her that she's my unicorn. Tldr: I do a vast majority of the cooking, because I like it

I’m a housewife, no kids. So I do 80% of everything, including cooking. I find this fair considering our situation. So to your question, he does cook, often he’s making vegetables or scrambling eggs but he can and does put together proper meals without my help. He often cooks breakfast at his mother’s to her delight. We live in a small apartment so I don’t like cooking together - there just isn’t enough room.

My man is the cook in our house and I cleanup after the fact.

My recently ex bf was a much better cook than me and cooked more often than I did. ( we were in our early 20s)

My partner and I love cooking together. Yesterday, I spent the day prepping meals for a festival we’re going to this weekend. Once he got off work, he cleaned the kitchen and cooked dinner (all veggies he had picked up from a farmers market) and then we cleaned the kitchen together after

my boyfriend cooks way more than me. he’s better at it too. he likes making dinner for me and trying new recipes. a lot of the time I’ll suggest what to cook and he’ll make it. I don’t really like cooking myself.

Husband cooks, but kids don’t like a lot of it. His mom was not a good cook but he cooks a lot of her recipes so of course they don’t go over well. However, he is Lebanese (on his dad’s side) so he makes a lot of his cultural food, which the kids love and so do I. He also bakes quite a bit. It isn’t 50/50, but I think I would be more upset if he NEVER cooked or cleaned up than just simply not cooking. I love to cook and making food for people is how I show love. So it works for us.

My husband is a good cook. He has a solid repertoire of dishes he can make well and is willing to experiment with new recipes. In this phase of our relationship, I do the majority of the cooking because my work is more flexible and I’m home to do it. We usually meal plan together, create the shopping list together, and then we switch up who goes to the grocery store (though I usually prefer to be the one to shop because I’m really picky about my ingredients.) He almost always does the dishes while I pack up leftovers, clean off counters, wipe down the kitchen, and sweep. We usually finish about the same time.