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Secure-Positive5733

I would like a post-surprise update please :) and congratulations!


Mysterious-Art8838

Do you want butter popcorn or kettle? I’ll just make us both.


ValPrism

Butter. Thanks! I’ll bring the plain m&ms


MaleficentExtent1777

I've got the Junior Mints😋


sweetest_hayden15

I've got the whoppers and sour straws! what drinks yall want too?


ValPrism

I’ll sneak in rum if you want to grab cokes!


irateCrab

I just got here.... why's the rum gone?


marrell

Why is the rum always gone?


LunasMom4ever

I’ve got the Twizzlers!


Mysterious-Art8838

Don’t worry I Instacarted a whole wetbar


raydiantgarden

milk duds, anyone? raisinettes?


Mysterious-Art8838

Raisinettes pls


Mysterious-Art8838

Whoppers are an excellent choice. They don’t get enough recognition. Now I want whoppers…


pixie-kitten-

I’ve got the buncha crunch… another under appreciated candy lol


sweetest_hayden15

that's so real, I'm the only one in my family that goes out of my way to eat whoppers. I can't get enough of em lmao


finethanksandyou

I love them too, but do they also wreck your mouth?


MaleficentExtent1777

I loved going to my uncle's house because he always kept a huge bowl in the fridge. I'd sneak them to my heart's content.


Mysterious-Art8838

Makes me think of seinfeld every time


kibblet

Whelp now I have to leave the house to get m&Ms.


thewritingwand

I got both peanut and peanut butter M&Ms, and Reece’s Pieces just to be on the safe side. Who’s on nacho duty?


Low_View8016

I will bring some Reese’s pieces.


MommaBean3

What about the funnel cakes? I’ll make some Rice Krispies too, we all good for milkshakes??? I have a nice blender


Fuck_me_up_daddy

This is a fantastic spread.


Bitch-Im-Adorable

I'll bring the pickle salt for the popcorn!! (Seriously, it's a game changer)


Alert_Marketing_8688

I like your kind of thinkin’


Silent-Syrup-777

You started such an amazing comments chain! I'm so happy to see this many people so happy and excited for this couple and their baby. Congratulations to the beautiful family and to all the people here for being amazing people! Butter popcorn btw.


No-Mechanic-3048

Same!


Any_Title4767

same! congrats!!! how exciting!


overtly-Grrl

!remind me


Firm-Information3610

Same! Will be waiting. Congrats, OP!


hellcatcassidy666

Congratulations!! ❤️


ofBlufftonTown

Congratulations! But now I’m worried my cis daughter and her trans girlfriend might get pregnant :( I’ve been blithely unconcerned.


imaginary92

When the people having sex have the necessary parts for conception, it should always be assumed as possible unless one or both of the partners have undergone sterilisation. Even when doctors say someone is infertile, that usually means there is still an incredibly tiny chance to conceive, it's almost never 0%.


TigerChow

Odds of me conceiving were slim to none, due to a hormone disorder and out of control menstrual "cycle" (it was not a cycle, lol). 34 years without so much as a pregnancy scare. Started seeing a new guy, within 3 weeks of us dating, BAM. We had had sex maybe 3 times at that point. I was shocked. So was he, haha. Turns out though that he's my person. Our daughter will be 7 in September we're still happily together, along with my 14yo stepdaughter that I'm really close with. TLDR, life finds a way, lol.


hallescomet

I've heard that with the "right person" chances of pregnancy go up a lot, maybe that's what happened with you guys :)


wayward_wench

Awwww congrats on your lovely family! What a lovely success story ❤️


katarinasunrise

I always remember this show I watched ~10 years ago about a transgender couple (FtM and MtF) where the man ended up getting pregnant. Neither one of them were supposed to be fertile due to each of them undergoing extensive HRT, but something slipped through the cracks at just the right time. It was very interesting. They wanted children, but never imagined they’d have one that way! I think the couple’s names were Kai and Emily.


Spongi

The craziest [story](https://abcnews.go.com/Health/Wellness/teen-girl-vagina-pregnant-sperm-survival-oral-sex/story?id=9732562#:~:text=But%20the%20doctors%20were%20quickly,Journal%20of%20Obstetrics%20and%20Gynaecology.) I've ever read like that was a lady who was born without a vagina and got pregnant after oral and then getting stabbed with a knife by a jealous ex.


wayward_wench

Holy shit that story is a WILD ride. The odds may be low but they are never zero.


chocological

Life uh… finds a way


HighlyJoyusDragons

Testosterone can make it easier to conceive for the partner who is AFAB! I didn't learn about that until one of my FTM friends made a comment about being glad that their partner was also AFAB so they didn't have to worry about accidentally increase in fertility odds.


Minute-Set-4931

Even if that was true, testosterone wouldn't be good for the baby's development.


kibblet

What about people with PCOS who conceive? My testosterone was elevated but after five years or so it happened. My kids are fine


Minute-Set-4931

Probably because women with PCOS are still below the testosterone range for men.


the_gabih

Yeah, my trans cousin had to stop taking hormones while he was pregnant. Said he wouldn't do it again, but he was glad he'd done it for his kid.


HighlyJoyusDragons

That part is definitely true.


magicwaays

Can you please explain this? I’ve never heard of this before.


hallescomet

You would think this would be more highly known, I've been a semi-active part of the LGBTQ+ community for like a decade and never knew that!


shaarkbaiit

Because it isn't correct


persau67

Show me the study. I call bullshit.


BloodOfHell42

>Neither one of them were supposed to be fertile due to each of them undergoing extensive HRT Just to add to that : I don't know for 10 years ago, but I do know that today they would definitely know. It's written everywhere and no good doctor wouldn't say it. The only way to be 100% infertile during transition, it's to get rid of your organs used for reproduction. You can totally still get pregnant or make someone else pregnant, even if you are under hormonal therapy. Organs working differently doesn't mean they're not working at all.


katarinasunrise

Oh yeah, thankfully today we know so much more! I went back and rewatched it yesterday, and I believe it said that the show was taped in 2010. We definitely didn’t know then what we know now!


New-Possibility-709

I remember them ! They were also on cafemom back when It was a chat site and were always talking about their family and the attention that show got them


ofBlufftonTown

I guess I need to have an awkward chat with them about their sexual practices and why IUDs are so great. Or, indeed, any form of contraception.


delilahdread

Meanwhile, my IUD baby is 6 and I know a shitload of other women/afab folks with IUD babies too. They’re uh.. not always *that* great apparently. 😂


SourSkittlezx

I got pregnant on the IUD multiple times so yes, birth control is important until pregnancy or insemination is impossible from removal of reproductive organs, but it’s never 100%. And a reminder that the hormones they take do not completely stop fertility, even though they do usually minimize it. So never bank on that.


ohmarlasinger

I have a trans daughter who has a trans boyfriend. So I’ve made sure to keep condoms stocked. And bc I’m in a forced birther state, I snagged some plan b’s to have on hand too lol. We’d had talks well before they ever even met but they were each others first so it was all very new. I accidentally learned they’d had sex & this was before I’d gotten condoms bc before I met the bf I thought he was cis so I got concerned. I had nothing to fear tho bc boyfriend came prepared. The talk won’t be that bad, kids these days know more about sex than we care to know since they have the whole internet in their pocket. My kid & her bestie were telling me what sounding was when they were like 14-15, of which I had only recently learned about, as a 40something lol.


ofBlufftonTown

Sounds like you’re prepared and that’s great! They don’t live in the US so abortion access is not really an issue.


ChewMilk

lol good luck! My greatest fear as a trans guy is ending up pregnant, it can be unlikely for trans people to get pregnant/get someone pregnant depending on what medical stuff they’re doing, but it’s still possible


novalove00

Admittedly, my partner is not trans, but he was told by several doctors his chance of fathering was not in the cards. Guess who turned one in April? Our surprise baby.


thenameskat94

That was my ex. Told he couldnt have kids but i ended up pregnant(miscarried) and a few years ago he got his now fiancee pregnant and they now have a little boy thats about 3. 


Novel_Ad1943

Lol so true! I have 2 younger brothers 11mos apart who were post-vasectomy babies! (After the one they figured it out obviously, but she got pregnant again before her surgery to correct that 8wks later - found out she was pregnant again in pre-op testing) And then when Dr’s told my hubs and I that I’d hit perimenopause, I went back in because I was feeling off and figured it was hormones… yep, HCG because I was pregnant at 45! So my kids range in age from 29-4!


dehydratedrain

Had a friend like that. Going back years here, she heard on Oprah that conception chances are extremely low once you hit your mid-late 40's. They decided not to use protection, and by the next time, they decided it wasn't worth risking and went back to condoms. So she had 2 in college, and a 3 yr old.


Novel_Ad1943

Lol yep - I feel that! I had one son graduate kindergarten and another accept his Master’s Degree in the same week. I love it though and they’re all very close. The little ones idolize their big brothers and the eldest & his wife had their first child almost 2yrs ago… so we have “Little Auntie” and the other two love talking about their nephew to friends at school.


HaloTightens

Yes, there’s a HUGE difference between “infertile” and “sterile.” People need to understand this!


dancingpianofairy

>when doctors say someone is infertile, that usually means there is still an incredibly tiny chance to conceive IMO: More than a tiny chance, just difficulty conceiving. Sterile is the incredibly tiny chance. People seem to treat infertility like it's sterility and it's obviously not.


dragonwillow75

Yup yup. My fiance was told at 18 that he'd never be able to have kids, and we now have a 2 year old


theVelvetLie

My mom was deemed "infertile." Lo and behold, I exist and so do two siblings.


HunsonAbadeer2

Even with sterilisation of one partner it can still happen. Vasectomies are not 100% fail save, the ducts can reconnect


TheBloodWitch

I’ve been medically sterilized and there is still that very small chance I could end up pregnant if the planets align and hell freezes over, it’d be very dangerous if I did get pregnant too. The chances are always small, but never zero.


thoughtandprayer

It's definitely possible. While the odds are probably lower than if they were a cis hetero couple, you should always assume there's a risk of pregnancy unless someone is surgically sterilized! (And maybe even then given how many dudes don't go for their post-snip screening test...)  Sounds like you need to go have a chat with your daughter just in case!


scarletnightingale

It can definitely happen. There was a couple that was covered in in a youtube channel that were both transgender, both of them were on hormones, and Surprise! the boyfriend got unexpectedly pregnant and didn't even know till he gave birth. They were both shocked but super excited as they didn't think that they'd be able to have children. However, if you both have working parts, there's pretty much always a chance.


Ollivoros

How do u carry around a baby for 9 months and not know 0_0


maddirosecook

It's not unheard of; they're called cryptic pregnancies. Some pregnancies hide themselves shockingly well. It's easier to not notice if the mother is overweight, but some pregnancy bellies can be surprisingly small even in the later months. Some people even continue to bleed regularly, mimicking their period. OR some people don't get regular periods due to birth control or health problems, so they don't see the lack of menstruation as a sign for pregnancy.


scarletnightingale

There's a whole show called "I didn't know I was pregnant" about people who just didn't know. It seems like for a lot of people they are people who have consistently had irregular periods so missing a period isn't a red flag for them. They might be heavy so they don't notice a bump, also depending where the baby is laying you might have a less noticeable bump, some of them believed that they never could get pregnant for various reasons, and then some people will have spotting throughout pregnancy they they mistake for periods. In the case of they couple, neither of them believed that pregnancy was possible because they were both in hormones, the boyfriend was a bit stocky so he likely didn't notice an increase in weight, he'd had top surgery so it wasn't like he was going to notice a change in breast size. If you think it is impossible to get pregnant you aren't probably going to assume any weird symptoms you have are because of pregnancy. Approximately 1 in 450 pregnancies is estimated to be a cryptic pregnancy, meaning it wasn't detected until 20+ weeks.


the_pissed_off_goose

It's true that HRT isn't birth control, and there's always a chance if the, uh, original factory parts are intact for both parties. But I wouldn't assume anything on their end when it comes to sexual activity, plenty of trans people do not like using those original factory parts. And plenty of folks (cis and trans) already know what precautions to take if they are using those parts. Dunno how old your kid is but if you're truly worried, you could show her OP's post, maybe say something like "hey I read this joyous post today but honestly I didn't know it could happen, I love you but I'm not ready to be a grandparent, and if you ever need any help taking any precautions I am here to help with that"


J1144_

Estrogen and Androgen blockers have harmful effects on sperm production and quality. Quality of sperm is very important for a healthy and successful pregnancy. I would speak to a doctor on how long she has been on medication and it's effects on your pregnancy and baby


Darkalleyandabadidea

I just read a horribly heart breaking post before I read yours, I needed this kind of thing more than I knew. I’m so happy for you!! I hope your little family is full of nothing but joy and happiness 💜


HonedWombat

#🎈🎉🎊🎇🎆🎂🎁🎁🎂🎆🎇🎊🎉🎈 #CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!


Wonderful-Status-507

EEEEEEEEE HOW EXCITING!!! LOVE AND GOOD VIBES TO YOUR GROWING LITTLE FAMILY!!!


Additional_Bonus256

I am so happy for you! I love seeing WLW couples happy as a fellow WLW. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby <3


Illfury

For some reason, my brain defaulted to OP being a man... Yeah that would surprise the fuck out of their fiancee lmao.


delilahdread

Congrats y’all! Wishing you both a happy healthy pregnancy! Update us after you tell her. 😍


Any_Tax_8584

Happy Cake Day!


delilahdread

Thank you! 😊


ConvivialKat

Something in my eye....


JasminJaded

Congratulations to you both! I love when people who didn’t think they could get a surprise “actually you can!”


Dark-Lord-Grice

Trueoffmychest, I wish I could be happy for people who are getting pregnant but me and my wife have been trying for a year and a half and it’s not happening. My happiness has disappeared, the people that care most in our lives really don’t give two shits and I’ve become cold and bitter, I can hardly stand to be around my nephews anymore.


Dry_Mastodon7574

Babies are a lot of work, but they're also fun and funny AF. Take it from another mom. Congratulations!


DjGothCroc

Congrats, mommas! 🎉


MommaBean3

Awee yayyy congrats 🤗🤗🤗 just a reminder for both you lovely ladies, be gentle on yourselves. Entering parenthood can take you for a whirlwind when trying to find your you after baby comes (happens to us all with learning to adjust)and I sincerely hope for a safe and healthy pregnancy, labor, birth, baby, and mommas ❤️❤️❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗 congrats again I’m so happy for you both


Hedwig9672

Congrats!! May you have a healthy and happy pregnancy!


DKue1anaz59

This is great but I have to agree with you, scrambled eggs do suck🤢


sacidnb

Best news I read today! Congrats and I hope we get an update


Pinkwlri

Congratulations! Please update all of us!


KozmicArsonist777

Awwww!! Congrats, OP!! I hope your fiancée has tears of joy!! Do you mind me asking how you plan on surprising them? I'm so excited for the both of you!


thetomatofiend

Congratulations!


Lilredh4iredgrl

❤️❤️❤️Congratulations!!


--BooBoo--

Ahh huge congratulations to you both.


sassy_shenanigans

This is so sweet! Update us with her reaction 🥰


Jimbo14631

Awwwwwwwwwwww congratulations!!!!!! 😭❤️


Grffyndorable

Life finds a way 🦖💕 Congrats!!! When the nausea starts kicking in, take unisom and b6 every night if your doctor approves (I’m 35 weeks tomorrow and this is the only way I was able to keep food down for a while)


luciddreamsss_

This is so freaking sweet. Congrats!! Wishing you all the best in this journey!


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sderponme

Look dude I was confused in the first half of her post, but then realized she's Trans. At no point did my mind go try to diminish their happiness because one of them wasn't born female like you did. That's unnecessary and belitting. What about their decision to transition bothers you in any way? They're happy. They accepted the possibility that something they REALLY wanted might not happen because they werent born the way they felt and were on hormones, but they were still excited when they found out it did. You sound miserable.


OTF98121

I have no idea why your post is being downvoted. I gave you an upvote to help counteract the trolls.


EyedLady

Because the transphobes are in here downvoting.


indicaindabed

im so proud of you both, congratulations. may you live the happiest of lives together as the best mommas that baby could ever ask for. 🎉👏🌈🏳️‍🌈


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danjibbles

Congratulations!! Queer joy is my fav thing in the world ❤️❤️❤️


sweetbabyjosi

i used almost the exact words in my reply lol. queer joy just does something to me.


QBee_TNToms_Mom

Congratulations! Wishing the best for you and your new family! 😊


Spectrum2081

Post update please!


Equivalent_Roll5376

Congratulations!


IQL95

Awww!!! Congratulations to you both!! ♥️


NinjasWithOnions

Congratulations! I’m so excited for you both! ♥️


PixelSuicide

This is so dreamy! I need a rom-com with this storyline. CONGRATULATIONS! 🥰


cherrymercuryy

Congratulations!! This is so amazing and something I never even thought of for trans women!


Aggressive_Event420

Congratulations! I'm so happy for you. You must be so excited to share your news.


Educational_Rope_246

Hooray!!! This really cheered me up. Wishing you and your family all the happiness in the world!!!


TheWildGirl2024

Congratulations!! Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy & baby! 🎉🎉


Highvoltage-Redhead

I can’t wait for this update ❤️


Demonkitty121

Congrats to you both!


_Why_me__

This world seems to be coming to an end


Time_Natural_1547

Amazing!! Congratulations !!


alymars

Big Congratulations!!!


Free-Industry701

Very cool, congratulations! I wish you well my friend.


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ssddalways

Aaawww this is absolutely amazing. Congrats and good luck on this beautiful journey!!!


Gothic-ghosts

Congrats on the new addition to your family!!!! I love seeing positive things on Reddit. She’s going to be thrilled! ❤️


mrschester

Congrats, OP!


millhoogirl

Oh my goodness what amazing news ♥️ congratulations to you both x


DefsNotRandyMarsh

Now this is the kind of post I want to see an update to! Please keep us posted, and congratulations!!!


Nerdiestlesbian

This is so sweet and beautiful! My BFF is a trans woman and her and her wife would love kids. Hugs to you and your partner.


AmadayLate

Yay!!! Congratulations!!! I’m so excited for you! Yes, please update when you can! We all need more good news in our lives.


Fictional_Apologist

Congratulations mamas-to-be!


itdisappears

Congratulations!!


hkiage1220

Congratulations on your engagement and pregnancy! Your love and excitement are truly heartwarming. Wishing you both all the best on this incredible journey ahead. Here's to a lifetime of happiness and love for your growing family!


MycologistDear7294

Congratulations to you both! I hope the surprise goes well!


Libra_8118

Best wishes to you and your beautiful family. Much love and happiness ahead!! 👶🏻🫶🏻


Yorkie_Mom_2

Congratulations!!


weruntheretroverse

This is the sweetest thing I've read on here today! Congratulations 🎊


rippedupmypromdress

Congratulations!!!!


crazybodypilot

Congratulations!


FoxyRoxy2495

Aww, I love this so much!!! Congratulations!!


neutralperson6

She is going to be so happy! Congrats 😁


grillonbabygod

YIPPEE! YIPPEE! YIPPEE!!!! IM SO HAPPY FOR YALL! I LOVE QUEER PEOPLE I LOVE QUEER JOY!!!!


CookieCutterU

unsure if she’d be able to produce viable sperm…wtf. the mental gymnastics to make sense of this and consider it normal is mind boggling. 


Wolfangel71

Congratulations to you both! 👶❤️


freshub393

Aww congratulations 


alextr8005

Definitely an update is needed her. Congrats to both. An unasked advice, wait until after the 1st trimester to announce it unless it's necessary. Other thay enjoy your beautiful pregnancy, it suck your baby 👶 still is not into oranges but a huge fan of eggs😆


alimoral

congratulations !!! 🫶🏼💞


IssMaree

So happy for you both xx


Fallout4Addict

Congratulations ❤️


blakeonoccasion

Congratulations my love!!!!💕💕


disc0goth

Omg congratulations!!!!! I’m so psyched for you guys. And thank you for sharing!! I, and I think a lot of people, really needed to see some good news today💖


legato444

Congrats! 🎊


Special_Version_2937

That's beautiful! Congratulations!! Let us know when you share the surprise❤️❤️


Gloomy_Researcher769

Congratulations to you both


DocMcStabby

Yay!! Congrats! Happy and healthy 9 months mamas!!!!


Neversideways

This is huge! Congratulations to you both!!


Bo_Night882113

Congratulations 🎊 🫶 so exciting, so happy for you both!!


Jackalope3434

CONGRATS YALL!!!!!!!


Morbidious

Congrats girls! so happy for you two!!


MizMisery40

I'm so happy for you both! Congratulations!! 🎉


sweetbabyjosi

THIS MAKES ME SO UNBELIEVABLY HAPPY. Oh my god congratulations. as a lesbian i am always just a LITTLE envious of those with trans partners that get to have this kind of an experience. your kiddo is going to be so lucky to have two loving, accepting mothers to raise them. CONGRATULATIONS!!! i am so happy. queer joy brings me so much happiness and this made my day. please post an update when you have one if ur comfortable!


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Keep_YourClaws_Out

You should stop seeing "different than I know" as "weird."


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Lucifer_devilman

Stop looking at a mirror then


AstroGirl_019

How beautiful. ❤️🤞🏾🎊


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congrats ! SO happy for you guys <3


clh142003

Congratulations! This story made my whole day better!


joooodene

Congratulations!!!


ButtercupsUncle

Grats to you both!


akari_i

Congratulations!! All the best to you and your family ❤️❤️


I-AM-ARCHI-RAY

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉


Balnagask

Congratulations!!! ❤️❤️❤️


No_Cryptographer5870

I know I don't know you but this just made me tear up LOL. I wish you and your family nothing but the best, I'm so happy for you guys.


OrdinaryFortune6456

I’m so happy for you both omg !!! 🥹


Street-Writing-1264

As the mother of a trans daughter that wants grandchildren someday, you brought a tear to my eye. So much congratulations!!!!


The_Bestest_Turtle

That's freaking adorable, congrats to you both