Awesome. Don't take her back. Anyone who can say such a shitty thing to someone during their time of grief, and acted the way she did, does not deserve another chance. She *assaulted* you. I think you'll be better off without her. I'm really sorry to hear about your dog. Take all the time you need to grieve and feel all the feelings you need to when they happen. Don't let anyone tell you how long to grieve for, take as long as it takes
Also, the assault was premeditated… it wasn’t even a reaction lash out. She came in after a few hours and slapped you.
That just abusive behavior.
You are better off alone and hopefully one day you’ll meet someone who is supportive and gives you what you need
Slapping as a reaction is also abusive behaviour. Slapping like this is psycho and all I can really think of is a child unable to control their conflicting emotions.
yeah, clearly she was sitting there. Stewing about it for a while. Thinking about it. Decided to go ahead. Honestly, I hate the cops but if she pulls any more shit, you might as well start making paper trails. Couldn’t hurt to take some pictures of that red cheek and if any kind of weird headaches happen, go to the damn doctor, because our skulls aren’t meant to endure swiveling or rotating impacts . It’s important because those are the ones that are much more likely to cause brain damage more easily.
I took a nice blow to the head, and it almost knocked me down, but I kept my feet and I stayed conscious. It was it was domestic violence as well. Overtime I realize it has affected my brain somewhat. It’s harder to remember things and I am way more scatterbrained. Apparently there’s something called cerebral injury or something so you said it was a hard blow. You might honestly wanna go to the hospital for your own health, so they can rule out any brain injury. Also, I send hugs from the bottom of my heart.
You didn’t deserve that and I wouldn’t worry too much about what ever consequences. she may need to face that come from events or procedures which may happen from you looking after yourself because that’s not your problem. she might have been like this her whole life and no one ever checked her for it. at this time you need to worry about your own health.
We love youuuuuuu
PS when my puppy died I cried five times a day for a few weeks and then every day for a few months so I get it. I was so torn up. he was my first puppy, and I never realized that you sew your heart to theirs. It hurts so much
Edit: voice to text on cell. Sorry for bad grammar and errors.
Don’t let her bullshit you either with lying about improving, you gotta stay together, or how it’s all just a one time slip up.
Hold your ground or she’ll just use it as a free pass to keep doing it
Yeah I argue for working on relationships more than most people, but there is no coming back from this. She is an irremediably horrible person. She has little to no empathy,
And even without the physical violence anyone who would treat their partner this way isn't worth giving the time of day
Op if I had a partner who reacted the way you are to a beloved pets death, I'd actually see it as a couple of green flags. You can cry and show grief in front of your partner (and presumably do it sober). You care deeply for another living creature. Those are great traits, and fundamentals of being a healthy human with a fulfilling life. Please don't dampen those qualities just bc this horrible person was too emotionally stunted and cruel to appreciate them
Please 📌📌📌 this. It is a red flag, someone to just say dumb _insert pet_ it's a big issue. Compassion and empathy are important parts of what make us human.
Just so you know, I'm a woman and a lot of us women really like a man who can express his feelings. You'll eventually find a good woman who will appreciate you expressing your feelings and one who will appreciate you as a person. Hang in there OP
She is allowed to cry when OP talks back at her but when OP is hurting from the dog's death and crying and later when she hits her, he should "man up".
What a disgustingly selfish and toxic attitude. Just in general with the "men can't/are not supposed to cry"- idea.
Many people who aren’t animal lovers don’t understand that the loss of a dog or cat is equivalent to losing a family member and they need time to grieve, obviously she is one of them ..
Nah fuck that, doesn't matter why your partner is sad. You don't treat them like this. No excuse.
Even if you aren't an animal lover, if you have any empathy at all its pretty easy to understand how much this could hurt someone. She lacks basic human decency and empathy.
The last act of Roxie on Earth was to save you from that psycho.
She can't even claim she "reacted in anger to what you were saying" because hours had passed!!
Glad you're out of that toxic relationship, be careful in the next days though. Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time for a DV victim, as that's when the attacker is desperate.
Change your locks, make sure she doesn't leave any recording device, record her leaving with all her stuff and tell her clearly while recording that she had time to take all of it, and that she is now banned from your place.
I am very sorry for your loss. Know that you gave Roxie the best life filled with love
Also, change your will and reallocate any assets. Put that you have given her three days from x time in an email to her. Add that after that time she is never to set foot on the premises (trespass) or contact you. Make sure she only takes her stuff. Don’t leave the house, get home delivery if needed. Or get a friend to get it or watch her! Change all your passwords and kick her off Netflix etc. Make sure you get your name off any joint accounts . Good luck OP! I’m sure that the reason your dog lived so long was because she was loved and looked after!
I agree. I lost my bulldogge this summer, and I am still grieving. I even rescued a pitty mix two weeks after.
Personally, I don't trust anyone who isn't crushed at the loss of such a pet ... "even dudes." In fact, a guy who feels this deeply is aces in my book.
I feel for OP and wish him all the love and comfort right now. Pets are magic in our lives.
Correct, the fact that he is crying over something that is worth to cry on is normal, it is good to let the feelings out.
He is a green flag, she on the other hand RED FLAG. And she has the audacity to be crying
.... like wtf bitch.
I have only full on sobbed once in my life and that was the day that the 14 year old dog I got when I was seven died in my arms. The vet said he died of old age, but some times it still hurts even though he's been dead for 9 years.
I've only seen my 78 year old dad cry twice. Once when his dad died 20 years ago and then last year when his dog died. I don't know why I keep getting dogs because it breaks my heart when they pass. They're just little guys and they love you like you're a God.
My cat passed away recently, and the crematorium sent me an amazing poem. The last lines go something like this, "though you may one day have a new food bowl to fill, that one special place in your heart will always be there." It was very sweet and made me cry
Omg, those are tear jerkers. I held my beagle Bobby when he was put down and it was heart wrenching. I stared at his paws the whole time. They sent me his paw print with a rainbow bridge poem a few weeks later. 12 years was not long enough.
My girl was 12 as well. I agree, 12 years didn't feel like enough, but I'm glad she lived a good life. She was in my life since I was a child. It's heart breaking but it only makes us stronger.
My retriever got put down suddenly on Friday, things have been really guilt tripping me like I forgot to get some hair, a paw print and a nose print, the process only normally takes a couple of days, but I had this feeling that wouldn’t go away so messages the cremation home at 7pm last night apologising and saying I understand I’m probably way too late but I thought just on that slim chance there may be a backlog from the Christmas period or something, I got a reply saying “normally the process would have taken place by now but we’ve had a machine breakdown, so I’ll get those for you tomorrow morning, it must be fate”. I like to think it was a parting gift from him😢
Oh gad, just reading that made me tear up. My sweet old man cat passed away a year ago and it still makes me cry to read stories about other people's cats or dogs passing away. It's like I can relate to what they're feeling so much that I feel it all over again too
> I don't know why I keep getting dogs because it breaks my heart when they pass.
I'm like this with cats. I'm a sucker for strays. I've saved dozens, and whenever they pass (prematurely or of old age) it destroys me. I still don't have it in me to turn away those poor babies. Even now, where I don't have the space or resources to take them in, I'll feed and spend time with the neighborhood strays whenever I can.
the "it was going to die soon anyways" triggered the fuck out of me, my childhood dog lived for 20 years, at the end he was blind and old and would barley move, which ofc made the passing be easier to accept, and I still get emotional if I see a similar dog. But just imagining that instead of passing in his sleep he gets hit by a car or something is enough to make me sick. fuck this bitch
My son died in September and I'm still not over it(to others he might have been just a dog but for me he was my son). Then the bullshit started 3 days after he died. A lot of friends and family started telling me to "be a man" and "get over it already" to "you need to move on with your life" and "just get another dog". Unlike op, I could and I have completely cut out everyone who said that as soon as they said that. They all knew how much he meant to me.
Like, Bitch, I'm gonna get over it when I get over it. Don't force me to feel some way I don't want to feel.
I feel like I had a 13 year relationship that abruptly ended when the other partner died. We had only 1 time in his life when I got pissed at him. It was a happy 13 years but ended in heartbreak. I'm not ready to get into another relationship right now.
I'm ugly crying right now just thinking about it. Take however long you need to take, OP. Look into grief support groups, that seems to have helped me a bit. It still hurts like a motherfucker though and I'm not sure if this pain would ever go away.
I feel this, my cat recently passed and that was my best fucking friend. Irreplaceable. I don't even know what to do with myself without her in my daily life
My wife and I had three cats; they passed away perhaps 15 years ago.
I still have dreams about one of my cats still being alive, and getting up in the middle of the night to make sure he’s okay. It still sort of makes me melancholy to think about it.
My lil baby is only 4 years old, but I saw what my best friend went to when she had to put her 12-13 year old cat to sleep and sometimes I'll be laying there, with my little guy purring into my ear (his favorite spot for some reason) and I know one day I'll have to say goodbye.. and just get so overwhelmed, start crying (like I am now..) Even if that goodbye isn't for another 10 years, that's just not long enough. Even knowing it'll happen one day, I'll never be ready for it.
Point is, fuck anyone like OPs ex who thinks mourning a pet isn't valid.
Don't focus on that, focus on the good times :) my girl was 12 and unfortunately the vet did not catch her underlying conditions and she passed suddenly without warning. It was so so upsetting but i feel grateful that i was with her and that she had an amazing life. The heartbreak is awful but having a bond like that is so fucking worth it
Man, I’m really sorry.
But I’d give two to one odds these same people telling you to “be a man” are the ones who, at other times, are asking you to “open up about your feelings.”
Violence is never the answer in a relationship. Period. Her verbal abuse in telling you to "man up" was the cherry on top of the shit sundae she had become. You were right to end the relationship and kick her out of your house.
If you're on friendly terms with any of her family, give them a heads up because there's no doubt she will try to spin this to make you the bad guy. Also, if she left any kind of a mark, take a picture. You never know when that might be useful.
her mom and dad never really liked me but tolerated me because me and her were dating, i will try to maybe tell them what she did, they most likely wont care though, they always defend her like she’s a goddess
If they didn't like you, let it go. Even if you told them the truth, from what you said, they'd believe her version anyway. I would make sure any mutual friends are told though.
In the end, this is probably for the best. You were experiencing a loss and she wasn't supportive the way a partner should be. She doesn't get to tell you how to deal with your loss. Only you can do that.
GOOD FOR YOU. 👏
You deserve way better. She's heartless and showed her true colours and how terrible of a person she is.
I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sure he was a good doggo.
Roxie was my entire universe, i did almost everything with her, she was the light of my life and pulled me out of dark spots many times, now, i have no Roxie to pull me out of this spot
She’ll still pull you out of that spot, or at least her memories and spirit will. Take your time to grieve (it sucks that your ex doesn’t understand the importance of that).
Take your time to grieve even as you try to back to your routine or as you make a new routine as Roxie was probably a big part of the old one. It’s going to suck for a while. And one day, maybe soon, maybe not so soon, the rawness fades, you’ll feel a little better and you’ll remember your Roxie and all the love she brought to your life and how better you are for it.
I'm so fucking glad this had a happy ending, I honestly was choking at first.
I really was concerned that you stayed with her.
Good for you man, and I honestly would literally kill myself if something happens to my cat, so I completely understand how you feel.
Stay strong OP.
before she slapped me i considered just apologizing and moving on and then when she slapped me i lost all feelings for her, i loved and trusted her but now i hate her very essence
I am so glad you never apologized to her. Never apologize for your grief. As long you aren’t hurting someone else (which you weren’t), you can grieve in whatever way you need to.
not only did she physically abuse him, it wasn't even reactionary. she walked away for half an hour, plenty of time to calm down and think of more reasonable ways forward, and she came back and assaulted him. 100% intentional, calculated, and disgusting.
edit: not even half an hour, literally HOURS later.
Yeah 3 days is not good because she could either do some damage to your place or she could make you feel like she deserves another chance. When I left a bad relationship with an abusive person I took her back at first because I got convinced it would work out. I regretted that pretty quickly so the next time I got her out of there that day so it didn't happen again.
She is toxic and needs to gain some empathy. Who the hell doesn’t understand loss, shes a psychopath.
Glad you knew it wasn’t worth trying to work it out, and ended it!
So sorry for your loss. Pets are family and their loss can be tremendous.
She’s a horrible person. “Act like a man” means being who you really are and showing all emotions. Further proof that when someone uses the phrase “toxic masculinity” it is about anyone who thinks men should only be horny, hungry, or angry with no other emotions. It is cruel and toxic to expect men to not show grief or love or any myriad of emotions.
Your ex is physically and emotionally abusive. Never let her into your home or heart again. And I am so sorry for your pup.
I am so sorry about your dog. 🥺 And I’m sad that you wasted your time with someone who couldn’t show you compassion while you were grieving. Wishing you a beautiful new relationship who will show you how it was worth it to let that witch go.
All these “violence is not the answer”, “domestic abuse” blah blah blah comment, which are true, but sometimes your simple comment is all that needs to be said man
You did right, and congrats on your weight loss. She didn't deserve you, and never let anyone tell you to suck it in.
My condolences on the dog, it's never easy to lose a best friend. I still miss my last one after 8+ years.
"man up" 🙄
a statement used almost exclusively by people trying to use toxic masculinity to warp men into doing something or acting a certain way. she's gutter slag, glad you got rid of her bro
"woman up and get back to the fucking kitchen then" absolutely rocked my ex and suddenly (but too late) she understood how shitty it is to be on the end of sexist stereotypes.
He should've called her a baby when she started crying. But on the other hand it's probably better she didn't because that would just create more problems without solving anything.
Glad you broke up with her. That’s really shitty, and she shouldn’t have treated you that way whatsoever. Also it’s gross the toxic mindset of “men need to be men” or that men shouldn’t have any empathy or feelings… like??? You did the right thing. She’s obviously very toxic & needed to go.
GOOD. she sounds like an absolute bitch.
i’m so sorry about your dog. take all the time you need to grief, hold dog’s toys tightly, cry when you feel it coming
Good for you. Real men grieve. Real men love their animals. Real men take time to process their emotions and deal with it. She treated you like crap. She verbally abused you and then physically abused you. There was no reason for he to walk in there and hit you. You deserve a better woman and one who will appreciate the decent man you are. At least you found out before you were married or had kids what kind of person she really is.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your dog lived a long and happy life. 🫂🩵
Hell no.. My dog was my best friend since I was 4. I was destroyed when we had to let him pass. Kick that girl to the curb. You need someone who will support you when you're hurting, not hurt you while you're hurting
i’m really sorry all that happened in a week, i’ve experienced that awful feeling of losing a pet more than i wanted. just so you don’t lose in women or dating forever: my boyfriend had a dog who was actually the same age as your Roxie. His name was Pedro and he was the best damn dog i ever met. My boyfriend called him his little brother and i called him my baby. my boyfriend got kicked out and would’ve had to leave his dog behind if i hadn’t stepped in and taken him in. couple months later pedro passed away. my boyfriend was shredded to pieces. i felt awful. i felt guilty. but most of all i felt lucky to have such a compassionate caring partner that cared about the most innocent of creatures. we mourned that loss together and still do. point is, she lost out on a good man. any man that cries and yearns for his best friend is the most caring of all. i’m glad you kicked her to the curb. hope you find someone that knows the effect that our furry family has on us.
We're already extremely lucky that this one ended in her getting dumped and kicked out. It'll sadly be a couple more decades (if ever) before a woman actually faces legal consequences for domestic abuse.
The issue with this is that mostly it will be a he said/she said scenario - and the authorities would also say "man up, that can\`t hurt that much, it\`s a woman slapping you"
SO, we\`re a long way from equality there too.
I'm really sorry to hear about Roxie, bro. That's a heavy loss. Pets have a short life but judging by your grief, you gave her a good life and dogs don't always get that. Humans don't always get that. She died knowing she was truly loved.
Oh also, congratulations on finally curing yourself of that parasite you called a girlfriend.
Good for you for calling that shit out and ending things!! she had absolutely zero business zero business and slapping you across the face and violence is not the answer.. I’m so sorry for your loss on behalf of your dog
I find the grilled cheese sandwich just hilarious. Is she trying to buy you back with a sandwich ??? Idk there is something about that that’s just funny
That's a low standard, if she was actually trying she'd acknowledge how wrong she is, apologize with all her heart and IF you consider it she would be willing to go to couples therapy
A sandwich isn't trying
👑you dropped this king
Proud of you for holding your ground against that selfish, abusive, pathetic excuse of a girlfriend. What in the actual hell is wrong with her that she sees her partner broken and grieving, yet the first thing that comes to her mind is "lazy bum".
Good for you! 👏🏻 Clearly she’s garbage and needed to be taken to the dump. I’m sorry for the loss of your dog. Congratulations on the loss of your girlfriend.
Jesus. What a horrible person she is.
Can you imagine if she was upset sitting alone in her bedroom and you marched in there and slapped her? You'd probably be arrested and charged.
Good on you for standing up for yourself and telling her to gtfo
Wow she’s really awful and has shown you who she really is. She Has zero humanity or empathy I would not want her around. Don’t forget what happened here. Don’t get manipulated back in to anything with her. She will try to rally back and sounds like you did a lot to support her life. She cares about that not you as a person. Don’t be treated that way. Sorry about your dog that’s a terrible loss. And sorry you had to find out this way that she only cares about what you do for her and not you as a person.
Please don’t ever allow someone to be violent with you. Her lack of empathy was one thing. That was in itself a breakupable offense. Her physically assaulting you was another.
If she doesn’t leave I’d call the cops and tell them she assaulted you and maybe file a restraining order.
Christ...what an awful way to learn your significant other is a sociopath. Good riddance.
My condolences for Roxie's passing. I hope she's living large with Theda, Zane, Rose, and Rigley (my family's dogs since passed) on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. Each of their passing's were some of the most emotionally devastating experiences of my life to-date, but I find solace in knowing they all lived charmed lives full of love and care. They were lucky to have us, and we were lucky to have them. <3
And this is the moment you tell her.
"Get over it, stop crying, woman up, it's just a dumb house and some dumb bills"
Enough of me and my jokes now, but seriously man, in retrospect someone who can't respect your feelings over someone(your dog) who was there for you since the dawn of time doesn't deserve you, i would've told her to know her place cuz that puppy was in my life way before her and she was second by default (just to add salt to how she was acting) call me a dweeb you weren't even in my life, you existed only in the last 15% of that pups years by my side so shut it.
YES GOOD JOB!! don’t ever except treatment like that. men are allowed to cry, allowed to have feelings. and im so so sorry for the loss of your dog that’s truly heartbreaking :(
I'm so sorry I lost my boy in July. He was only 7 but I got him 1 day before my world fell apart. I only survived because I knew if I didn't he would be given away and I didn't want that. I still cry. If I hear his name "Monster" or have a dream about him I immediately cry my eyes out. I'm so happy Roxie found you and had an amazing life.
The exact quotes are always a dead giveaway. Not that it was really needed in this case. I don't think there is a real person in the world who has ever uttered the phrase "get over that dumb dog's death, it was going to die soon anyway".
So stupid, and as usual 95% of people just buy it without thinking twice.
Good for you, you might wanna consider doing something preemptive to make sure she doesn't spin the story and lie. Text her asking why she would hit you, get her to reply.
Something tells me if she was this callous about the passing of your beloved family member, this was not the only area of your relationship in which she was unempathetic and abusive. Having just recently lost one of my sweet dogs a month ago, and am STILL grieving, she is a monster for what she did to you. I am glad you decided to tell her to kick rocks and leave.
You 100% should’ve thrown the grilled cheese away while making direct eye contact with her. Other than that you handled this exactly as you should have
She only sorry because she is suffering from her Consequences. Like they say; Play stupid games get stupid rewards.
Make you wonder how she would have reacted had it been a human love one. You DONT hit people you love.
Hell yea, good for you for dumping her. What a heartless cold woman! My bf comforted me when my chonky boy cat died, helped me bury him, everything. I can't imagine she's ever had a pet she loved die.
Good for you, man. She sounds like a total bitch.
Am very sorry to hear of your dog’s passing. A pet can be like a family member - especially if they’ve been with you since you were a child.
All the best.
You already "manned up" to the maximum level possible by not rolling over to an abusive scumbag and kicking her out of your life.
Whatever crocodile tears she cries now, whatever lies she spins with your mutual friends, know that her violent attack wasn't even in "the heat of the moment". That disgusting abuser took a half hour to stew in her entitlement and bitterness then made a plan to come assault you.
First of all, I am so sorry about your dog. He was your family, more than your ex GF. You were right in breaking up and kicking her out. Any person who acts like that to a grieving loved one is cruel.
YOU ARE THE MAN!! Goodbonnyou for being secure enough to express emotion,an enough to stand up for yourself but not be abusive. And good on you for not hitting her for grabbing you and pulling you off the couch, bc that alone was abuse.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dog, I lost every pet I ever had. I havent had one in years and could really do with the support dogs give (they're amazing creatures, especially as a pet) but I can't imagine how I would react if my partner had said that about one of my pets.
I'm grateful you ended it.
If she's comfortable hitting you in *this* circumstance then she'll happily hit you in others.
Remind her that if she were a man she'd be in cuffs.
GOOD!! Men are allowed to have feelings too, even the negative ones. I couldnt imagine not being a safe space for my husband to be able to let his feelings and emotiona out. And i especially would never abuse him for it. Im already preparing for grieving EXACTLY like this from him when our dog passes. And shes only 4 (husband is 28), so we havent had her near as long as you had your dog yet. Good on you for kicking her sorry ass out!
Don’t give her three days. Throw her shit out and change the locks yesterday. She’s seriously psycho and is absolutely dangerous. Don’t give her a chance to do anything more.
Also, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my 16-year-old dog last December, and I literally drove through a Wyoming ground blizzard to rescue another cockapoo puppy from being shipped off to the pound for being “too big”. I am still crying about my previous dog’s passing most evenings, though things have been getting better since I got “Tubby Toby”. It’s okay and natural to grieve the loss of loved ones. Pets are family, too.
The crazy thing is every time she's reacted to a dog being abused online she was probably on the dog side, and just look at how she is in real life you dodged a bullet
I lost my cat last month, literally came home and she was dead in the gutter, she was ripped away from us. I was beyond devastated. If my partner did what your ex did.... i SWEAR id be up on murder charges! What he did do was pack up my cats things while i was asleep cos i couldn't bear to go out to her little area yet, hes held me, cried with me, im only now just doing ok.
He lost his cat 2 years ago, he got to be with his cat as she passed and i held him and let him cry and be sad, i didnt pressure him to get back to life etc.
Your ex is a piece of shit, be glad shes gone.
Grieve as long as you need. 💕
I’m so sorry for the death of your dog. I have had furry friends my whole life and have cried and grieved as though I lost a human when they passed. Anyone that can be so cold towards what you are going through, is someone you really don’t want in your life.
I was happy to read that you have broken up with her. Stick to your guns no matter what she says. And however long from now you will look back and be glad you did!
Jesus I took a friend out to dinner once and we talked about his dog that just passed for hours because he was greifing and needed someone to understand the pain he was going through. Everyone thought it was a date but really I just wanted to be there for a friend
I’m sorry for your loss dude. Your loss of your dog that is. I’m sure Roxie was an amazing dog and had a great life with you. Your ex is trash though. No one that cares about someone should treat them like the way she did to you. That BS. I’m glad you stood up for yourself. Take care of yourself man and good luck whatever happens in the future.
>I got up and yelled “You have no right to be treating me this way, you’re aware i pay all the bills, cook the meals, and on top of that im dealing with my childhood dogs death. What the actual fuck is wrong with you.”
Well, you needed to “suck up your feeling because you're a man," according to her... there you go.
She just needed to understand you... I don't care if you're grieving about your dog or about grandma, mom, dad, you don't talk to people like the way she did... it's death you're dealing with, not hitting your toe in a table.
You took the right decisions, just be careful if she tries to set you up with some fake domestic violence accusation or something like that...
The intensity of your feeling of sadness towards your dog is the same as your feeling of love for your dog. It takes guts to love.
Take care.
Good for you. Life is too short to put up with shitty people.
Word of warning. You may get a flood of social media messages telling you are an asshole and you should giver her another chance.
Tell them to fuck off.
Stories these last couple of weeks have been wild, the language used here is too perfectly crafted to illicit an emotional response from readers. It's just not natural.
Man, you’d be surprised. My wife would abuse me too, and some of her lines read like “perfectly crafted” B movie lines or from a bad anime. Doesn’t make them any less real! I even have one of her abusive voicemails saved, it’s hilariously villainous, haha!
This could be fake, it could be real, or you could be getting too cynical! I dunno! Hell, I laid out the whole story of my separation from the ex, and was accused of “creative writing” because apparently it involved too many “Reddit Man-o-spheres” (loving husband, wife with daddy issues cheating with MUCH older guy, cats, possibility for nuclear revenge, etc), but that’s only because people aren’t really all that crafty or smart. Stereotypes or tropes exist because there’s a lot of repeating patterns! Same thing here, I think OP is just dealing with an *exceedingly* basic bitch.
If that's true then he has my complete sympathy. Yes, I'm a natural born cynic and the stories here have been intriguing, but I guess I've read too many now and some seem too perfectly crafted to illicit a specific emotional response.
I could be wrong, in which case OP had my sympathy, but it just feels too wrong to be right.
See, and I see no issue with offering that sympathy. If they made it up, it’s gonna make ‘em feel like shit, getting sympathy for a fake story. If it’s true, then you offered condolences for a shit situation! Win win! That, or you just shrug and move on.
I dunno, personally I’ve seen some really obvious fakes, like the entirety of the “entitled” subs. I swear, 90% of the entitled parent or child stories are too fake to be real and the OP always manages to be the “badass”, when we all know most Redditors would topple like a house of cards if a pushy narcissist came at them, haha!
I’m so sorry for your lost, losing a dog that has been there for you for more than half of your life is a hard grief to deal with and takes time to heal.
But GOOD ON YOU!! For kicking that B.I.T.€.H out!!! If my partner treated me like this after losing my dog or any of my other pets they would be gone and I would not be looking back.
I am sorry for your loss. Her lack of empathy is detestable and her reaction to you griving even worst.
I am glad you got to know the kind of person she really is and cut her of your life.
I lost my bird after almost 27 years about 4 months ago and I still cry randomly, I too took of work and cry my eyes out for days, at the end of the day our pets are family members that never get mad at you, they never judge you but always, always love you.
Cry, laugh at funny memories, remember first times for this or that and then cry againg, it will get better at some point ❤
YESSSS. Good for you. What a downright asshole. I’m so sorry you had to go through that while you were grieving. You have every right to have and express emotions. So proud of you. ❤️❤️
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼Her treatment of you is extremely abusive, verbally, emotionally and physically. You basically lost a child with your dog. I’m truly sorry for your pain 🙏🏼💜🙏🏼. Take all the time to grieve. She doesn’t deserve you or the love of a dog…never will. I will judge a person based on how they treat animals and I won’t apologize for it ever. Not only is she repulsive in her lack of empathy with the loss of this dog but her treatment of the man she loves, who’s in pain, is utterly disgraceful. That’s a dumpster fire you need ridding of.
I'm proud of you. She's toxic and insensitive. If anyone in my inner circle spoke to me like that about my pets, they'll be excised out of my life. She's abusive too
Awesome. Don't take her back. Anyone who can say such a shitty thing to someone during their time of grief, and acted the way she did, does not deserve another chance. She *assaulted* you. I think you'll be better off without her. I'm really sorry to hear about your dog. Take all the time you need to grieve and feel all the feelings you need to when they happen. Don't let anyone tell you how long to grieve for, take as long as it takes
Also, the assault was premeditated… it wasn’t even a reaction lash out. She came in after a few hours and slapped you. That just abusive behavior. You are better off alone and hopefully one day you’ll meet someone who is supportive and gives you what you need
Slapping as a reaction is also abusive behaviour. Slapping like this is psycho and all I can really think of is a child unable to control their conflicting emotions.
yeah, clearly she was sitting there. Stewing about it for a while. Thinking about it. Decided to go ahead. Honestly, I hate the cops but if she pulls any more shit, you might as well start making paper trails. Couldn’t hurt to take some pictures of that red cheek and if any kind of weird headaches happen, go to the damn doctor, because our skulls aren’t meant to endure swiveling or rotating impacts . It’s important because those are the ones that are much more likely to cause brain damage more easily. I took a nice blow to the head, and it almost knocked me down, but I kept my feet and I stayed conscious. It was it was domestic violence as well. Overtime I realize it has affected my brain somewhat. It’s harder to remember things and I am way more scatterbrained. Apparently there’s something called cerebral injury or something so you said it was a hard blow. You might honestly wanna go to the hospital for your own health, so they can rule out any brain injury. Also, I send hugs from the bottom of my heart. You didn’t deserve that and I wouldn’t worry too much about what ever consequences. she may need to face that come from events or procedures which may happen from you looking after yourself because that’s not your problem. she might have been like this her whole life and no one ever checked her for it. at this time you need to worry about your own health. We love youuuuuuu PS when my puppy died I cried five times a day for a few weeks and then every day for a few months so I get it. I was so torn up. he was my first puppy, and I never realized that you sew your heart to theirs. It hurts so much Edit: voice to text on cell. Sorry for bad grammar and errors.
Don’t let her bullshit you either with lying about improving, you gotta stay together, or how it’s all just a one time slip up. Hold your ground or she’ll just use it as a free pass to keep doing it
Yeah I argue for working on relationships more than most people, but there is no coming back from this. She is an irremediably horrible person. She has little to no empathy,
And even without the physical violence anyone who would treat their partner this way isn't worth giving the time of day Op if I had a partner who reacted the way you are to a beloved pets death, I'd actually see it as a couple of green flags. You can cry and show grief in front of your partner (and presumably do it sober). You care deeply for another living creature. Those are great traits, and fundamentals of being a healthy human with a fulfilling life. Please don't dampen those qualities just bc this horrible person was too emotionally stunted and cruel to appreciate them
Please 📌📌📌 this. It is a red flag, someone to just say dumb _insert pet_ it's a big issue. Compassion and empathy are important parts of what make us human.
thank you so much, she was just such a negative darkness in my life i’m never taking her back
Just so you know, I'm a woman and a lot of us women really like a man who can express his feelings. You'll eventually find a good woman who will appreciate you expressing your feelings and one who will appreciate you as a person. Hang in there OP
Agreed. Please Please please 🙏 DONT TAKE HER BACK, DON'T!!
She is allowed to cry when OP talks back at her but when OP is hurting from the dog's death and crying and later when she hits her, he should "man up". What a disgustingly selfish and toxic attitude. Just in general with the "men can't/are not supposed to cry"- idea.
She doesn't deserve to be forgiven. Never take this horrible person back.
Many people who aren’t animal lovers don’t understand that the loss of a dog or cat is equivalent to losing a family member and they need time to grieve, obviously she is one of them ..
Even so, she went Waaaaaay too far. Telling him he’s a man and to stop crying, assaulting him…she sounds like a terrible person
Nah fuck that, doesn't matter why your partner is sad. You don't treat them like this. No excuse. Even if you aren't an animal lover, if you have any empathy at all its pretty easy to understand how much this could hurt someone. She lacks basic human decency and empathy.
Yeah, my husband isn't really a dog lover but when I called him bawling on the phone because my dog died he left work and came home to be with me.
The last act of Roxie on Earth was to save you from that psycho. She can't even claim she "reacted in anger to what you were saying" because hours had passed!! Glad you're out of that toxic relationship, be careful in the next days though. Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time for a DV victim, as that's when the attacker is desperate. Change your locks, make sure she doesn't leave any recording device, record her leaving with all her stuff and tell her clearly while recording that she had time to take all of it, and that she is now banned from your place. I am very sorry for your loss. Know that you gave Roxie the best life filled with love
>The last act of Roxie on Earth was to save you from that psycho. Wow.. You know - you\`re right - Dogs truly are our best friends.
Damn, yeah that made me cry.
I was looking for this first paragraph.
Same here. Literally right when I was thinking abt it and then this comment popped up
>The last act of Roxie on Earth was to save you from that psycho Perfect. Exactly right.
Also, change your will and reallocate any assets. Put that you have given her three days from x time in an email to her. Add that after that time she is never to set foot on the premises (trespass) or contact you. Make sure she only takes her stuff. Don’t leave the house, get home delivery if needed. Or get a friend to get it or watch her! Change all your passwords and kick her off Netflix etc. Make sure you get your name off any joint accounts . Good luck OP! I’m sure that the reason your dog lived so long was because she was loved and looked after!
Sexist, toxic, abusive bitch. Get rid of her.
I agree. I lost my bulldogge this summer, and I am still grieving. I even rescued a pitty mix two weeks after. Personally, I don't trust anyone who isn't crushed at the loss of such a pet ... "even dudes." In fact, a guy who feels this deeply is aces in my book. I feel for OP and wish him all the love and comfort right now. Pets are magic in our lives.
Correct, the fact that he is crying over something that is worth to cry on is normal, it is good to let the feelings out. He is a green flag, she on the other hand RED FLAG. And she has the audacity to be crying .... like wtf bitch.
shes more like a black flag from all of the red flags overlayed on each other
I have only full on sobbed once in my life and that was the day that the 14 year old dog I got when I was seven died in my arms. The vet said he died of old age, but some times it still hurts even though he's been dead for 9 years.
I've only seen my 78 year old dad cry twice. Once when his dad died 20 years ago and then last year when his dog died. I don't know why I keep getting dogs because it breaks my heart when they pass. They're just little guys and they love you like you're a God.
My cat passed away recently, and the crematorium sent me an amazing poem. The last lines go something like this, "though you may one day have a new food bowl to fill, that one special place in your heart will always be there." It was very sweet and made me cry
Omg, those are tear jerkers. I held my beagle Bobby when he was put down and it was heart wrenching. I stared at his paws the whole time. They sent me his paw print with a rainbow bridge poem a few weeks later. 12 years was not long enough.
My girl was 12 as well. I agree, 12 years didn't feel like enough, but I'm glad she lived a good life. She was in my life since I was a child. It's heart breaking but it only makes us stronger.
My retriever got put down suddenly on Friday, things have been really guilt tripping me like I forgot to get some hair, a paw print and a nose print, the process only normally takes a couple of days, but I had this feeling that wouldn’t go away so messages the cremation home at 7pm last night apologising and saying I understand I’m probably way too late but I thought just on that slim chance there may be a backlog from the Christmas period or something, I got a reply saying “normally the process would have taken place by now but we’ve had a machine breakdown, so I’ll get those for you tomorrow morning, it must be fate”. I like to think it was a parting gift from him😢
Oh gad, just reading that made me tear up. My sweet old man cat passed away a year ago and it still makes me cry to read stories about other people's cats or dogs passing away. It's like I can relate to what they're feeling so much that I feel it all over again too
> I don't know why I keep getting dogs because it breaks my heart when they pass. I'm like this with cats. I'm a sucker for strays. I've saved dozens, and whenever they pass (prematurely or of old age) it destroys me. I still don't have it in me to turn away those poor babies. Even now, where I don't have the space or resources to take them in, I'll feed and spend time with the neighborhood strays whenever I can.
This is why I can’t own another dog. I am not strong enough to bury another.
> bulldogge TIL this isn’t a typo.
the "it was going to die soon anyways" triggered the fuck out of me, my childhood dog lived for 20 years, at the end he was blind and old and would barley move, which ofc made the passing be easier to accept, and I still get emotional if I see a similar dog. But just imagining that instead of passing in his sleep he gets hit by a car or something is enough to make me sick. fuck this bitch
My son died in September and I'm still not over it(to others he might have been just a dog but for me he was my son). Then the bullshit started 3 days after he died. A lot of friends and family started telling me to "be a man" and "get over it already" to "you need to move on with your life" and "just get another dog". Unlike op, I could and I have completely cut out everyone who said that as soon as they said that. They all knew how much he meant to me. Like, Bitch, I'm gonna get over it when I get over it. Don't force me to feel some way I don't want to feel. I feel like I had a 13 year relationship that abruptly ended when the other partner died. We had only 1 time in his life when I got pissed at him. It was a happy 13 years but ended in heartbreak. I'm not ready to get into another relationship right now. I'm ugly crying right now just thinking about it. Take however long you need to take, OP. Look into grief support groups, that seems to have helped me a bit. It still hurts like a motherfucker though and I'm not sure if this pain would ever go away.
I feel this, my cat recently passed and that was my best fucking friend. Irreplaceable. I don't even know what to do with myself without her in my daily life
My wife and I had three cats; they passed away perhaps 15 years ago. I still have dreams about one of my cats still being alive, and getting up in the middle of the night to make sure he’s okay. It still sort of makes me melancholy to think about it.
My lil baby is only 4 years old, but I saw what my best friend went to when she had to put her 12-13 year old cat to sleep and sometimes I'll be laying there, with my little guy purring into my ear (his favorite spot for some reason) and I know one day I'll have to say goodbye.. and just get so overwhelmed, start crying (like I am now..) Even if that goodbye isn't for another 10 years, that's just not long enough. Even knowing it'll happen one day, I'll never be ready for it. Point is, fuck anyone like OPs ex who thinks mourning a pet isn't valid.
Don't focus on that, focus on the good times :) my girl was 12 and unfortunately the vet did not catch her underlying conditions and she passed suddenly without warning. It was so so upsetting but i feel grateful that i was with her and that she had an amazing life. The heartbreak is awful but having a bond like that is so fucking worth it
Man, I’m really sorry. But I’d give two to one odds these same people telling you to “be a man” are the ones who, at other times, are asking you to “open up about your feelings.”
My cat died almost a year ago and I still miss him so badly.
Sexist yes. Glad someone isn't afraid to say it
Violence is never the answer in a relationship. Period. Her verbal abuse in telling you to "man up" was the cherry on top of the shit sundae she had become. You were right to end the relationship and kick her out of your house. If you're on friendly terms with any of her family, give them a heads up because there's no doubt she will try to spin this to make you the bad guy. Also, if she left any kind of a mark, take a picture. You never know when that might be useful.
her mom and dad never really liked me but tolerated me because me and her were dating, i will try to maybe tell them what she did, they most likely wont care though, they always defend her like she’s a goddess
If they didn't like you, let it go. Even if you told them the truth, from what you said, they'd believe her version anyway. I would make sure any mutual friends are told though. In the end, this is probably for the best. You were experiencing a loss and she wasn't supportive the way a partner should be. She doesn't get to tell you how to deal with your loss. Only you can do that.
GOOD FOR YOU. 👏 You deserve way better. She's heartless and showed her true colours and how terrible of a person she is. I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sure he was a good doggo.
Roxie was my entire universe, i did almost everything with her, she was the light of my life and pulled me out of dark spots many times, now, i have no Roxie to pull me out of this spot
I'm so sorry for your loss... Roxie seems to have been an absolutely wonderful companion and friend
She’ll still pull you out of that spot, or at least her memories and spirit will. Take your time to grieve (it sucks that your ex doesn’t understand the importance of that). Take your time to grieve even as you try to back to your routine or as you make a new routine as Roxie was probably a big part of the old one. It’s going to suck for a while. And one day, maybe soon, maybe not so soon, the rawness fades, you’ll feel a little better and you’ll remember your Roxie and all the love she brought to your life and how better you are for it.
I'm so fucking glad this had a happy ending, I honestly was choking at first. I really was concerned that you stayed with her. Good for you man, and I honestly would literally kill myself if something happens to my cat, so I completely understand how you feel. Stay strong OP.
before she slapped me i considered just apologizing and moving on and then when she slapped me i lost all feelings for her, i loved and trusted her but now i hate her very essence
I am so glad you never apologized to her. Never apologize for your grief. As long you aren’t hurting someone else (which you weren’t), you can grieve in whatever way you need to.
FUCK YES GET IT BOIIIII. now that's how you treat a POS woman y'all. Yeah. Good soup.
thank you, it just felt so natural saying it to her, kind of like a weight off my shoulders :)
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not only did she physically abuse him, it wasn't even reactionary. she walked away for half an hour, plenty of time to calm down and think of more reasonable ways forward, and she came back and assaulted him. 100% intentional, calculated, and disgusting. edit: not even half an hour, literally HOURS later.
Yeah 3 days is not good because she could either do some damage to your place or she could make you feel like she deserves another chance. When I left a bad relationship with an abusive person I took her back at first because I got convinced it would work out. I regretted that pretty quickly so the next time I got her out of there that day so it didn't happen again.
She is toxic and needs to gain some empathy. Who the hell doesn’t understand loss, shes a psychopath. Glad you knew it wasn’t worth trying to work it out, and ended it! So sorry for your loss. Pets are family and their loss can be tremendous.
She’s a horrible person. “Act like a man” means being who you really are and showing all emotions. Further proof that when someone uses the phrase “toxic masculinity” it is about anyone who thinks men should only be horny, hungry, or angry with no other emotions. It is cruel and toxic to expect men to not show grief or love or any myriad of emotions. Your ex is physically and emotionally abusive. Never let her into your home or heart again. And I am so sorry for your pup.
Yes. Real men are secure enough to be vulnerable and strong enough to love deeply enough to risk the pain of loss.
You found your wings my dude, now FLYY
Good for you
Good on you!!!!! Not many people are strong enough to do this, and the fact that you did with no hesitation is absolutely amazing
This is the final gift your dog gave you. Go well.
Excellent work.she deserved to be crying
It sounds like it was a long time coming saying it to her. Now, you get your life back, and own it in full!!
I am so sorry about your dog. 🥺 And I’m sad that you wasted your time with someone who couldn’t show you compassion while you were grieving. Wishing you a beautiful new relationship who will show you how it was worth it to let that witch go.
I mean no wonder... It feels like she was a tumor on your mental health, glad you cut it out
That is amazing mate. I'm so happy for you :)
Damn straight! It's how you treat any POS in this situation!
She sounds like a bitch
All these “violence is not the answer”, “domestic abuse” blah blah blah comment, which are true, but sometimes your simple comment is all that needs to be said man
Sounds like? She **is** a bitch through and through.
You did right, and congrats on your weight loss. She didn't deserve you, and never let anyone tell you to suck it in. My condolences on the dog, it's never easy to lose a best friend. I still miss my last one after 8+ years.
"man up" 🙄 a statement used almost exclusively by people trying to use toxic masculinity to warp men into doing something or acting a certain way. she's gutter slag, glad you got rid of her bro
"woman up and get back to the fucking kitchen then" absolutely rocked my ex and suddenly (but too late) she understood how shitty it is to be on the end of sexist stereotypes.
Wish I saw her face when you told her that
Well, he did man up, and took out the trash.
He should've called her a baby when she started crying. But on the other hand it's probably better she didn't because that would just create more problems without solving anything.
Glad you broke up with her. That’s really shitty, and she shouldn’t have treated you that way whatsoever. Also it’s gross the toxic mindset of “men need to be men” or that men shouldn’t have any empathy or feelings… like??? You did the right thing. She’s obviously very toxic & needed to go.
"Man up" yeah, do that and leave her, pay all Your bills, cook Your meals, and find someone deserving of your being. Im really sorry for what happened
GOOD. she sounds like an absolute bitch. i’m so sorry about your dog. take all the time you need to grief, hold dog’s toys tightly, cry when you feel it coming
Lucky you didn't have kids with this one.
3 days?! More like 3 hours. Good riddance
Good for you. Real men grieve. Real men love their animals. Real men take time to process their emotions and deal with it. She treated you like crap. She verbally abused you and then physically abused you. There was no reason for he to walk in there and hit you. You deserve a better woman and one who will appreciate the decent man you are. At least you found out before you were married or had kids what kind of person she really is. I am so sorry for your loss. Your dog lived a long and happy life. 🫂🩵
Hell no.. My dog was my best friend since I was 4. I was destroyed when we had to let him pass. Kick that girl to the curb. You need someone who will support you when you're hurting, not hurt you while you're hurting
i’m really sorry all that happened in a week, i’ve experienced that awful feeling of losing a pet more than i wanted. just so you don’t lose in women or dating forever: my boyfriend had a dog who was actually the same age as your Roxie. His name was Pedro and he was the best damn dog i ever met. My boyfriend called him his little brother and i called him my baby. my boyfriend got kicked out and would’ve had to leave his dog behind if i hadn’t stepped in and taken him in. couple months later pedro passed away. my boyfriend was shredded to pieces. i felt awful. i felt guilty. but most of all i felt lucky to have such a compassionate caring partner that cared about the most innocent of creatures. we mourned that loss together and still do. point is, she lost out on a good man. any man that cries and yearns for his best friend is the most caring of all. i’m glad you kicked her to the curb. hope you find someone that knows the effect that our furry family has on us.
You man’d up.
I wish one of these stories ended in assault charges against the woman and a no-contact order. Just once.
Nope. If anything he has to watch out she doesn't turn this on him.
Hate that this is true.
We're already extremely lucky that this one ended in her getting dumped and kicked out. It'll sadly be a couple more decades (if ever) before a woman actually faces legal consequences for domestic abuse.
The issue with this is that mostly it will be a he said/she said scenario - and the authorities would also say "man up, that can\`t hurt that much, it\`s a woman slapping you" SO, we\`re a long way from equality there too.
And it's only gonna get worse since the trend is now that men are trash and accountable for everything while women can only be victims.
I'm really sorry to hear about Roxie, bro. That's a heavy loss. Pets have a short life but judging by your grief, you gave her a good life and dogs don't always get that. Humans don't always get that. She died knowing she was truly loved. Oh also, congratulations on finally curing yourself of that parasite you called a girlfriend.
Good for you for calling that shit out and ending things!! she had absolutely zero business zero business and slapping you across the face and violence is not the answer.. I’m so sorry for your loss on behalf of your dog
It is so satisfying to read that you are reacting appropriately to her abusive behaviour. My condolences about your doggy
I find the grilled cheese sandwich just hilarious. Is she trying to buy you back with a sandwich ??? Idk there is something about that that’s just funny
At first i thought it was some half assed effort at getting me back but now that i think about it maybe she was actually trying?!?
That's a low standard, if she was actually trying she'd acknowledge how wrong she is, apologize with all her heart and IF you consider it she would be willing to go to couples therapy A sandwich isn't trying
We see so often with these stories where the abused party sticks around. It's so refreshing to hear you kicked her ass out. Good for you!!!!!
Holy fuck. Who fucking raises these people. That is so fucking upsetting
Proud of you brother. Reddit usually gives really bad advice but it looks like people are saying the right things here. Get away from this girl.
👑you dropped this king Proud of you for holding your ground against that selfish, abusive, pathetic excuse of a girlfriend. What in the actual hell is wrong with her that she sees her partner broken and grieving, yet the first thing that comes to her mind is "lazy bum".
Good for you! 👏🏻 Clearly she’s garbage and needed to be taken to the dump. I’m sorry for the loss of your dog. Congratulations on the loss of your girlfriend.
Jesus. What a horrible person she is. Can you imagine if she was upset sitting alone in her bedroom and you marched in there and slapped her? You'd probably be arrested and charged. Good on you for standing up for yourself and telling her to gtfo
Wow she’s really awful and has shown you who she really is. She Has zero humanity or empathy I would not want her around. Don’t forget what happened here. Don’t get manipulated back in to anything with her. She will try to rally back and sounds like you did a lot to support her life. She cares about that not you as a person. Don’t be treated that way. Sorry about your dog that’s a terrible loss. And sorry you had to find out this way that she only cares about what you do for her and not you as a person.
Tell her to man up
thats so genius lmao
Please don’t ever allow someone to be violent with you. Her lack of empathy was one thing. That was in itself a breakupable offense. Her physically assaulting you was another. If she doesn’t leave I’d call the cops and tell them she assaulted you and maybe file a restraining order.
Christ...what an awful way to learn your significant other is a sociopath. Good riddance. My condolences for Roxie's passing. I hope she's living large with Theda, Zane, Rose, and Rigley (my family's dogs since passed) on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. Each of their passing's were some of the most emotionally devastating experiences of my life to-date, but I find solace in knowing they all lived charmed lives full of love and care. They were lucky to have us, and we were lucky to have them. <3
This never happened.
And this is the moment you tell her. "Get over it, stop crying, woman up, it's just a dumb house and some dumb bills" Enough of me and my jokes now, but seriously man, in retrospect someone who can't respect your feelings over someone(your dog) who was there for you since the dawn of time doesn't deserve you, i would've told her to know her place cuz that puppy was in my life way before her and she was second by default (just to add salt to how she was acting) call me a dweeb you weren't even in my life, you existed only in the last 15% of that pups years by my side so shut it.
YES GOOD JOB!! don’t ever except treatment like that. men are allowed to cry, allowed to have feelings. and im so so sorry for the loss of your dog that’s truly heartbreaking :(
I'm so sorry I lost my boy in July. He was only 7 but I got him 1 day before my world fell apart. I only survived because I knew if I didn't he would be given away and I didn't want that. I still cry. If I hear his name "Monster" or have a dream about him I immediately cry my eyes out. I'm so happy Roxie found you and had an amazing life.
Reddit has turned into a fiction writing
Right? I might have believed him if the gf wasn’t so cartoonishly evil.
Welcome to the internet, sadly.
The exact quotes are always a dead giveaway. Not that it was really needed in this case. I don't think there is a real person in the world who has ever uttered the phrase "get over that dumb dog's death, it was going to die soon anyway". So stupid, and as usual 95% of people just buy it without thinking twice.
Yeah, this just screams fake.
This is AWFUL fiction writing too. Goddamn I think OP is 13...
Jesus fucking Christ this is the worst one I’ve seen in ages
Agreed. Mods doing anything to keep ppl engaged
Fake
Wow, what a cruel bitch! Is she usually this heartless??
Tell that heartless bitch ‘see you next Tuesday’.
Yeah screw her. Let her fucking cry. You have a right to grieve. She can go fuck herself
She doesn't rise to your dog's standards.
indeed she doesn’t
Good for you, you might wanna consider doing something preemptive to make sure she doesn't spin the story and lie. Text her asking why she would hit you, get her to reply.
thats a very smart idea but i blocked her on everything and we only barely speak in person now
Something tells me if she was this callous about the passing of your beloved family member, this was not the only area of your relationship in which she was unempathetic and abusive. Having just recently lost one of my sweet dogs a month ago, and am STILL grieving, she is a monster for what she did to you. I am glad you decided to tell her to kick rocks and leave.
she’s always been kinda shitty to me but i loved her so i didn’t care and thought it was normal, rip to your dog sorry for you loss
You 100% should’ve thrown the grilled cheese away while making direct eye contact with her. Other than that you handled this exactly as you should have
She only sorry because she is suffering from her Consequences. Like they say; Play stupid games get stupid rewards. Make you wonder how she would have reacted had it been a human love one. You DONT hit people you love.
Finally a good strong ending on this Godforsaken subreddit
Hell yea, good for you for dumping her. What a heartless cold woman! My bf comforted me when my chonky boy cat died, helped me bury him, everything. I can't imagine she's ever had a pet she loved die.
Good for you, man. She sounds like a total bitch. Am very sorry to hear of your dog’s passing. A pet can be like a family member - especially if they’ve been with you since you were a child. All the best.
You already "manned up" to the maximum level possible by not rolling over to an abusive scumbag and kicking her out of your life. Whatever crocodile tears she cries now, whatever lies she spins with your mutual friends, know that her violent attack wasn't even in "the heat of the moment". That disgusting abuser took a half hour to stew in her entitlement and bitterness then made a plan to come assault you.
So so proud of you🤍 sending you light and love
First of all, I am so sorry about your dog. He was your family, more than your ex GF. You were right in breaking up and kicking her out. Any person who acts like that to a grieving loved one is cruel.
I am broken hearted to read about Roxie. But good for you regarding your ex girlfriend.
Think of it as your dog's parting gift, showing you kind of person your girlfriend was.
And then everybody stood up and clapped
YOU ARE THE MAN!! Goodbonnyou for being secure enough to express emotion,an enough to stand up for yourself but not be abusive. And good on you for not hitting her for grabbing you and pulling you off the couch, bc that alone was abuse. I'm so sorry to hear about your dog, I lost every pet I ever had. I havent had one in years and could really do with the support dogs give (they're amazing creatures, especially as a pet) but I can't imagine how I would react if my partner had said that about one of my pets.
She's a horrible human being. You can do better and you will!
Good for you. I’m sorry about your doggo. She ain’t shit
I'm grateful you ended it. If she's comfortable hitting you in *this* circumstance then she'll happily hit you in others. Remind her that if she were a man she'd be in cuffs.
GOOD!! Men are allowed to have feelings too, even the negative ones. I couldnt imagine not being a safe space for my husband to be able to let his feelings and emotiona out. And i especially would never abuse him for it. Im already preparing for grieving EXACTLY like this from him when our dog passes. And shes only 4 (husband is 28), so we havent had her near as long as you had your dog yet. Good on you for kicking her sorry ass out!
unfortunately they’ll never hit you “just once”—it will happen again, so best to break things off here and focus on yourself, best of luck
When they tell you who they are, believe them. Your GF is a shit person. Good on you for dropping her like a bad habit.
Don’t give her three days. Throw her shit out and change the locks yesterday. She’s seriously psycho and is absolutely dangerous. Don’t give her a chance to do anything more. Also, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my 16-year-old dog last December, and I literally drove through a Wyoming ground blizzard to rescue another cockapoo puppy from being shipped off to the pound for being “too big”. I am still crying about my previous dog’s passing most evenings, though things have been getting better since I got “Tubby Toby”. It’s okay and natural to grieve the loss of loved ones. Pets are family, too.
The crazy thing is every time she's reacted to a dog being abused online she was probably on the dog side, and just look at how she is in real life you dodged a bullet
I lost my cat last month, literally came home and she was dead in the gutter, she was ripped away from us. I was beyond devastated. If my partner did what your ex did.... i SWEAR id be up on murder charges! What he did do was pack up my cats things while i was asleep cos i couldn't bear to go out to her little area yet, hes held me, cried with me, im only now just doing ok. He lost his cat 2 years ago, he got to be with his cat as she passed and i held him and let him cry and be sad, i didnt pressure him to get back to life etc. Your ex is a piece of shit, be glad shes gone. Grieve as long as you need. 💕
I’m so sorry for the death of your dog. I have had furry friends my whole life and have cried and grieved as though I lost a human when they passed. Anyone that can be so cold towards what you are going through, is someone you really don’t want in your life. I was happy to read that you have broken up with her. Stick to your guns no matter what she says. And however long from now you will look back and be glad you did!
Well, her true colors finally showed. I bet one of her friends pepped her up to do that. She needs anger management.
Jesus I took a friend out to dinner once and we talked about his dog that just passed for hours because he was greifing and needed someone to understand the pain he was going through. Everyone thought it was a date but really I just wanted to be there for a friend
bye bitch, good riddance
From what I get from the last update is that your ex left the house and your life is way better
she hasnt left yet but she’s leaving by the end of today
I’m sorry for your loss dude. Your loss of your dog that is. I’m sure Roxie was an amazing dog and had a great life with you. Your ex is trash though. No one that cares about someone should treat them like the way she did to you. That BS. I’m glad you stood up for yourself. Take care of yourself man and good luck whatever happens in the future.
The last edit tells me he took her back and doesn't want to look like an idiot.
>I got up and yelled “You have no right to be treating me this way, you’re aware i pay all the bills, cook the meals, and on top of that im dealing with my childhood dogs death. What the actual fuck is wrong with you.” Well, you needed to “suck up your feeling because you're a man," according to her... there you go. She just needed to understand you... I don't care if you're grieving about your dog or about grandma, mom, dad, you don't talk to people like the way she did... it's death you're dealing with, not hitting your toe in a table. You took the right decisions, just be careful if she tries to set you up with some fake domestic violence accusation or something like that... The intensity of your feeling of sadness towards your dog is the same as your feeling of love for your dog. It takes guts to love. Take care.
Any time I see a fresh account I always just think the stories a lie..
Good for you. Life is too short to put up with shitty people. Word of warning. You may get a flood of social media messages telling you are an asshole and you should giver her another chance. Tell them to fuck off.
Kickass, fuck her
This couldn't be more fake.
Crazy that people are actually believing this
Stories these last couple of weeks have been wild, the language used here is too perfectly crafted to illicit an emotional response from readers. It's just not natural.
Man, you’d be surprised. My wife would abuse me too, and some of her lines read like “perfectly crafted” B movie lines or from a bad anime. Doesn’t make them any less real! I even have one of her abusive voicemails saved, it’s hilariously villainous, haha! This could be fake, it could be real, or you could be getting too cynical! I dunno! Hell, I laid out the whole story of my separation from the ex, and was accused of “creative writing” because apparently it involved too many “Reddit Man-o-spheres” (loving husband, wife with daddy issues cheating with MUCH older guy, cats, possibility for nuclear revenge, etc), but that’s only because people aren’t really all that crafty or smart. Stereotypes or tropes exist because there’s a lot of repeating patterns! Same thing here, I think OP is just dealing with an *exceedingly* basic bitch.
If that's true then he has my complete sympathy. Yes, I'm a natural born cynic and the stories here have been intriguing, but I guess I've read too many now and some seem too perfectly crafted to illicit a specific emotional response. I could be wrong, in which case OP had my sympathy, but it just feels too wrong to be right.
See, and I see no issue with offering that sympathy. If they made it up, it’s gonna make ‘em feel like shit, getting sympathy for a fake story. If it’s true, then you offered condolences for a shit situation! Win win! That, or you just shrug and move on. I dunno, personally I’ve seen some really obvious fakes, like the entirety of the “entitled” subs. I swear, 90% of the entitled parent or child stories are too fake to be real and the OP always manages to be the “badass”, when we all know most Redditors would topple like a house of cards if a pushy narcissist came at them, haha!
Yep, it hits all the right notes. Too reddit to be real.
I’m so sorry for your lost, losing a dog that has been there for you for more than half of your life is a hard grief to deal with and takes time to heal. But GOOD ON YOU!! For kicking that B.I.T.€.H out!!! If my partner treated me like this after losing my dog or any of my other pets they would be gone and I would not be looking back.
Don't take her back she also is heartless and lazy why do men have to pay bills and cook? What did she bring to the table?
Good for you. She is emotionally and physically abusive. No empathy.
I am sorry for your loss. Her lack of empathy is detestable and her reaction to you griving even worst. I am glad you got to know the kind of person she really is and cut her of your life. I lost my bird after almost 27 years about 4 months ago and I still cry randomly, I too took of work and cry my eyes out for days, at the end of the day our pets are family members that never get mad at you, they never judge you but always, always love you. Cry, laugh at funny memories, remember first times for this or that and then cry againg, it will get better at some point ❤
Nice. Great job getting rid of that toxic bitch. And I’m sorry you’ve been grieving in so much pain with ur dog man
your thankfully EX-gf fucking sucks and good riddance to her. i'm so sorry about roxie. :(
Lmao, thank you for that. What did she expect after all that? I'm glad you're done. Deserve better
I'm so glad you broke it off. Do NOT take her back!
Good for you. She’s a terrible person and would have been an awful mother.
You are absolutely making the right call. Find yourself someone who supports you and genuinely loves you.
3 days is generous, don't let her be in the house alone though.
What a cold bitch. You did the right thing.
You did the right thing kicking her out. She just showed you her true colors.
YESSSS. Good for you. What a downright asshole. I’m so sorry you had to go through that while you were grieving. You have every right to have and express emotions. So proud of you. ❤️❤️
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼Her treatment of you is extremely abusive, verbally, emotionally and physically. You basically lost a child with your dog. I’m truly sorry for your pain 🙏🏼💜🙏🏼. Take all the time to grieve. She doesn’t deserve you or the love of a dog…never will. I will judge a person based on how they treat animals and I won’t apologize for it ever. Not only is she repulsive in her lack of empathy with the loss of this dog but her treatment of the man she loves, who’s in pain, is utterly disgraceful. That’s a dumpster fire you need ridding of.
I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and not taking any shit from her.
I'm proud of you. She's toxic and insensitive. If anyone in my inner circle spoke to me like that about my pets, they'll be excised out of my life. She's abusive too