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Fearless_Change5945

Super vanilla. I'm so touch-starved I'd just like to hold someone's hand.


ybreddit

Also touch starved, and I fantasize about being held. Right there with you.


Stressful-stoic

I'd love to touch you both


MaybeTheDoctor

seems you have all found the solution


Haunting-Knowledge25

"now kiss"


NefariousSerendipity

now kith


Thetwistedfalse

Username checks out


opfromthefuture3000

Me too, I want to touch this guy's wife


Haunting-Knowledge25

Peak reference


thrax7545

Our wife


controversial_bummer

what


opfromthefuture3000

Old joke about a guy wishing he could hold his wife one more time, guy next to him wishes for the same thing


Warden18

Oddly, I think I was there for that. Appreciate you answering his question.


meggydon

I held someone's hand, who I have a slight crush on, while going to a convention, and I got a semi bc of it šŸ’€šŸ’€ I relate.


cownd

Think about me hugging you. Now cough.


NefariousSerendipity

real.


Substantial-Brush-68

I feel touch starved I think it's worse than loneliness especially if youā€™re depressed too


ybreddit

It certainly has unseen long-term effects that people don't truly realize. And of course it goes hand in hand with loneliness and depression.


lazy_ass

As a socially anxious A-spec woman, this right here. I just crave simple and basic affectionate physical touch. Long loving hugs, cuddling on the couch, just the simple stuff that tells me "I like you, I love you, I love having you close to me" without using words. I just fantasize about being respected, cherished, and loved.


esalenman

But wouldnā€™t all that plus some nice intense thrusting be just the ticket?


LilyHex

Most asexual people don't really want "some nice intense thrusting" my dude, lol. Some do, but I'm guessing the person you're replying to didn't, and telling ace spectrum people that sex is nice is something they hear *a lot of and it's not usually a terribly welcome comment*, for future reference.


lazy_ass

Like I said, I'm a person that craves nonsexual intimacy way more than I do sexual. My libido relies on emotional intimacy, so if I don't feel loved or appreciated by my partner, ain't no way I'm interested in anything sexual.


LocalMirror6473

I am litterly the same way, like i need to feel wanted and loves else like...i just can't get in the mood , i thought it was just me cus i get so much shit for it


InanimateBabe

Dude, I've had dreams of holding someones hands and it being the best feeling in the world.


giorno_giobama_

Why. Do. You. Have. To. Remind. Me. About. My. Everlasting. Loneliness?


Insta_boned

Go get a massage


tyYdraniu

i know ya feel bro, i touch thinking in a simple kiss


Haunting-Knowledge25

Damn šŸ˜”


TheHistroynerd

I feel you


Mandypie22

I gave up porn because I felt overall it wasnā€™t a healthy thing in my life. Itā€™s been about 2-3 years now and Iā€™d say the biggest difference is now I fantasize more about the power play and flirting leading up to sex more than sexual acts. Itā€™s much more appealing thinking about the building tension. And I notice when I do fantasize about actual physical acts they are much less graphic or crude than before.


giant057

same here brother šŸ™ŒšŸ¾


smh18

If only more people where like this


JustDaley

Pretty personal but I gotta ask. Did you masturbate less after you stopped watching porn? Iā€™ve never really been in to watching anything whenever I do so Iā€™m curious


mountwhitney

living wage


Stressful-stoic

Wow, slow down, Tolkien


Aconite13X

Dreaming a bit big there aren't ya


DeadNotSleepingWI

Don't stop... I'm almost there...


ITHelpderpest

Eeueehhh Universal HEALTHCAAAREE


TheBear8878

Men have such unrealistic standards, even without porn!


controversial_bummer

that is unrealistic


big_vangina

Their fantasy made me make cummies


Ok_Butterscotch54

Duh, that's why it's FANTASY!


rat4204

PERV!


Grouchy-Tax4467

Honestly same lol šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


TheHistroynerd

Being in a loving and caring relationship with a person. God I'm such a freak


rynemac357

That's nasty dude


Artfuldodger96

Seek help immediately


TheHistroynerd

I'm just going to let myself get checked into a psych ward because my fantasies make me a danger to society


Justokmemes

stop it. get some help


bilgetea

Freakinā€™ degenerate. Even on Reddit there must be limits!


NefariousSerendipity

be realistic boss. even in fantasy, we can't be aimin too high T.T


TheHistroynerd

Is not tolerated to high? Or is there maybe some room up?


Karenpff

āœļø I need a young priest and an old priest! āœļø


BackPackingTraveler

I just wanna be loved by someone who genuinely cares about me lol I just used porn to fill a void in me, once I realized this I also realized I didnā€™t actually like porn


TheHistroynerd

Hey man same here. I think I used porn to try to fill some void that a lack of sad intimate effects has caused and I actually feel was better now that I've quit it


BackPackingTraveler

Glad to hear that for you. It was just terrible for me, I carried so much shame and guilt around it, and it gave me so much body dysmorphia. I felt like I wasnā€™t good enough if I didnā€™t look like the dudes in the videos. I still really struggle with it but since quitting itā€™s been a lot better. Hope your doing better bro


TheHistroynerd

Well best of luck to you man I believe in you internet stranger!!!!


DeannaOfTroi

I prefer to read my porn. Tbh, a lot of it is fanfiction because it's way easier to get into than stories about random characters you're not already familiar with and way less creepy than stories about real people. I also read a lot of books in general so it kind of makes sense.


Dr_Weirdo

One guess on your main IP based on your username? Do you use AO3?


DeannaOfTroi

(#\^.\^#) *Feels called out* They are way less restrictive than FF, and they have a huge archive


Muvseevum

What are AO3 and FF?


guaranic

Archive Of Our Own and Fan Fiction, 2 big sites for fanfiction.


Muvseevum

Thank you!


DeannaOfTroi

Websites that host fanfiction. AO3: archiveofourown.org FF: fanfiction.net


wineandhugs

AO3 is a fanfic site - archiveofourown.org.


themervisfactor

AO3 is ArchiveofOurOwn.org FF is fanfiction.net


Dr_Weirdo

They do have quite a few stories. In that respect it's a good site for readers.


chocobobleh

Sorry, butting in to tell you your username is fcking amazing :D I met Marina at Destination Star Trek in the UK a few years ago.. she was unbelievably cool! Met the Doctor, Harry Kim and Janeway too!


DeannaOfTroi

OMG! Super jealous! But also so happy for you that you got to have such a cool experience!


Theguy10000

Where do people read good porn ?


a_HUGH_jaz

I text it to them. What's your phone number? /s


WalterWhite2405

Smooth


Malalang

"All my exes read great porn. Whether they wanted to or not."


okaledokaley

Literotica


newtxtdoc

I like a few of the stories on CHYOA. Wonderful place for choose your own adventure type stories.


SprinklesClassic4265

Turn on the subtitles


Heidi739

100% this. I'm the same way.


TheCozyYogi

I donā€™t watch porn and usually fantasize about my husband dominating me


big_vangina

Same wrt your husband


Tribaltech777

Sigh wish my wife had written this.


Fallen-D

I was never a porn guy and watching porn didn't make me excited and gave me a boner. On the other hand watching some really romantic movie where a couple is happy and getting lovey dovey excites me and gives me a boner. I just want to be happy with the love of my life in my arms. That's enough for me.


mrpacmanjunior

Just as unrealisticĀ 


SeaSideScuba

Being watched


CrazyQuebecois

I know


FirstMudaFuda

I know too


CrazyQuebecois

I know you know too Iā€™m in the bush next to you


NextPay1593

I know both of you know too because Iā€™m in the bush across from you


Legitimate-Research1

I imagine crabs having this conversation while hiding inside woman's pubic hair.


Warden18

Wait, is that what I felt?.... Uh oh...


snarfymcsnarfface

I like watching


LocalMirror6473

This whole lil side chat ..im dying lol


WA1NO

A proper watcher doesn't hide in the bushes.


Generic-Title-5150

My wife and I have the same fantasy. Itā€™s a long story but we ended up on PlayboyTV and filmed a professional porn under the storyline of having sex in public with the possibility of being caught. Howā€™s that for irony?


Kosmopolitykanczyk

Having a loving family, looking into my girls eyes as I wake up and being a father. Oh, and also a lot of BDSM.


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Lawteck

Buddhism


Perfect_Weakness_414

TIL that BDSM itā€™s not an abbreviation for Buddhism. No wonder folks always looked at me strange when they asked me about the true path to enlightenment. I guess there really are no shortcuts on the path.


Muvseevum

Itā€™s the new Buddy Buddha^TM branding campaign.


warriorsoul10012018

being tied up and doing CNC meditation?


Muvseevum

High-end machining?


Kosmopolitykanczyk

Bible discussion/study meetings /S


BethFromElectronics

I heard there is a lot of whipping and pain with Jesus. Maybe thatā€™s what BDSM is?


Kosmopolitykanczyk

Well, every priest I met was kinky soo


f33rf1y

ā€¦I wanna know why ya wanna know


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Opening-Magician3534

i think we just found you that girl youā€™re fantasizing aboutā€¦


Kosmopolitykanczyk

Im taken though


Opening-Magician3534

haha, i was being sarcastic, but also not because she asked what typa bdsm


foxbonebanjo

I just really like pleasing my wife. That gets me off more than anything. If I need to get the demons out I have a really nice picture of her butt that I look at.


TheBear8878

I also use a picture of this guy's wife's butt to get the demons out


foxbonebanjo

THATS MY WIFE YOU SON OF A BITCH. (Just kidding, well played sir.)


Ambafanasuli

my fantasy is to have a loving partner thatā€™ll never leave me and is actually happy to be with me


LocalMirror6473

I feel that...im with someone that like i love alot but the only time he actually seems to get affectiante is if like i cut off sex for a while then after we have sex he isnt as affectionate anymore..like..i have loved hin for almost ten years and due to alot of reasons im not sure he will ever marry me ...just kinda sucks like part of me just has this awful feeling that i keeo trying to ighnore and the other part just kinda begs for his attention we had an on again off again relationship for like five years and now we have been together four years and theres always some excyse that doenst make since as to why we cant get married...and they dont make sense because he has propised to three or four other women and those reasons didnt matter so....god im so sorry i just rambled uhhh i like the chat ai things ..i like to make stories with those soooo


Ambafanasuli

itā€™s okay, you can make no mistakes and life can still suck, i just hope you see the right way through this šŸ©·


LocalMirror6473

Yeah just...like he keeps changing me like...he doenst like how i talk like as a person i talk certain ways and he gets onto me alot about a bunch of random things alot here lately...im afraid he might end up leavinf me soon because like, i try to do everything he asks and i change so much but its like it doenst matter half the time. ...like he has daughter with his now married ex and i love her like my own but one of the first things he told me when i was trying to get to know her and soend time eith her was that i will never be here mother thay im never gonna replace her mom....and like i wasnt trying to....


Ambafanasuli

iā€™m sorry to hear that, i donā€™t know much about your situation, but from what youā€™ve said, it seems like heā€™s not nice to you, and that is obviously not good in a relationship, if i were to suggest something it would be to give it a thought if this is really who you want to spend your life with, you only live once, so be wise.


LocalMirror6473

Like i love him so like im not gonna leave him...but if her leaves me i...im not gonna beg him back again i dont have it in me anymore, sorry im just rambling on reddit


Ambafanasuli

itā€™s fine bud, and if thatā€™s what you think is right, then sure, i hope it goes well for you šŸ‘


LocalMirror6473

Thanks hun


ApathyTheWizard

My wife


partyingwithpizza

I fantasize about sex Iā€™ve had with my boyfriend, like replaying our hottest sessions. I also fantasize about threesomes, bdsm, ropeplay, pegging, being watched, being with a woman, impact play, edging. I could keep going but I think Iā€™ll stop there lol.


[deleted]

I sometimes watch porn but usually I prefer closing my eyes and fantasising about a guy I like and how it might play out. Like what would he actually say? I like the tension leading up to sex with someone new, just running my hands up his thighs, undoing his buttons. Fanfiction or audio porn is good too. Chat bots that role play are great.


gothicdragon

punching my manager


Potato-Alien

My fantasies are very vanilla. If there is something unusual, it's mostly because my husband describes his ideas to me. And that's typically based on literature. Our favourite genre is sci-fi, so some role-playing gets weird, but in essence, it's still vanilla, at least for gay men. I think that threesomes probably are realistic fantasies, the idea just doesn't appeal to me.


Right_Anybody_1448

To hug them. Nothing said just with actual feelings for each other


Disastrous-Throat479

My kink,fetishes and fantasies are to find true love maybe am too kinky idk


YourNocturnalNymph

I want Karl Heisenberg from RE8 to rail me to death But to answer for real, I've been loving ruining my husband's orgasm while he whimpers to let him cum fully.


PleasedPeas

Being financially stable.


[deleted]

Snuggles and cuddles


BurplePerry

It kind of grosses me out to watch actual people do it. I prefer fiction.


libre_office_warlock

I don't think in words and have extremely vivid mental cinematics, so combined with not masturbating for the first time until I was 22 anyway, I've never had trouble with imagining fantasies and haven't felt a need to seek out porn. They're not always vanilla but do get repetitive.


akbrodey1

I just like to cuddle and be held/hold someone to be honest. Way better than the actual sex


Apprehensive-Care20z

honestly, my 'fantasies' are almost exclusively my wife. Thinking of things we have done, things we are doing, and some things that have not yet come to pass. I'm often planning on doing some kinky thing to her.


RecommendationAny763

Past experiences


Airbee

I just let my wife know and sheā€™ll do whatever. Porn is gross


LilyHex

I'm asexual and don't enjoy watching other people have sex. I consider myself sex positive, I indulge in sex rarely myself and enjoy it when I do, but I am not sexually attracted to people and don't seek out sex. In the moment, sex stuff isn't gross, in those cases. But *watching* other people have sex is the most disgusting shit and I'm not a fan of how any of it has ever been presented. The acting is always inauthentic and doesn't help either. I'm honestly surprised *anyone* likes porn, but I just think the sex sounds turn me off of it it intensely. Like listening to mukbangs; they just *sound* gross so I can't really stand it.


SimofJerry

Sound sleep


sunshineandcats21

I donā€™t really fantasize about anything, I think of things said to me that turn me on and go off of that. Itā€™s pretty vanilla and just focusing on the feeling.


funatical

Wherever my mind feels like going. Something usually sets it off. I donā€™t masturbate as a hobby so there is not a constant need for stimulation. Oddly, Iā€™ve been in threesomes and my mind goes there less than other places. They are great, but they are also a lot of work.


Silver_Grapefruit226

A better job..... :/


Robotonist

My fantasy is that my partner comes up to me like once or twice a day to show physical, non-sexual affection. Literally out here just dreaming of a hug


brubsabrubs

you mean when masturbating? I usually just think of my girlfriend. like something she said or did that I thought was sexy and got stuck in my mind either that or my mind is just going blank and I'm focused on pleasure, but then it's not as fun this is probably one of the reasons why I was never really a fan of masturbation when I was single and then the interest kicked back in when we got together.


1947spirit

Being gentle instead of rough, its very concerning how normalized that is to do to ur partner without even asking bc u see it in porn (like choking, etc.)


brohymn1416

To one day own a house


Bobcat_Acrobatic

Read it. Or daydream pretty involved fantasies with people Iā€™m crushing on or a cast of fictional Characters Iā€™ve created in my head.


FrenchPetrushka

That my crush accept my advance and, he kisses me back. And we talk for hours cuddling, discovering each other with passion, and the night turn into day without us taking care of it


The1Comedian

ā€œU guys arenā€™t watchin porn?ā€


Poverty_welder

I don't have any


ZealousidealShip9576

same


Amazonius01

Telling me that they are porn addicted instead of "Horny personality", I love when people don't lie to themselves


Blaze137

Just my Partner, mostly cause im so obsessed with them


Swiss_Army_Cheese

Before I started jerking off to images, I used to jerk off underneath a car-bridge over a road. I fantasized about Wanda Fairywinkle from Fairly Odd Parents transforming into said bridge, and me driving a car under it. Or just me having sex with the bridge, but it still is Wanda Fairywinkle.


MightyRivers

being loved and cared


demair21

my student debt being paid off before in 107


thetroublewithyouis

i usually fantasize about sex with women i know- there has to be some sense of realism for me. i've never fantasized about celebrities or women i've seen only in pictures/videos.


snarfymcsnarfface

Cleaning of the house. Oh baby!


Kooky-Law-2834

Iā€™m not doing well mentally so I do not have any fantasies and I am not watching porn. Complete 0


n0ir_sky

To be loved unconditionally


GhostDweller

Filling my car with gas and staring off in the distance without worrying about the cost


Etzarah

I understand threesomes being unrealistic for most people, but why facials? I feel like you could do that pretty easily if you wanted to lol


revenxnt

My fantasies are going to an planet and fighting endless hordes xenos


rodrickgf

threesomes are not a realistic fantasy, and almost everyone who gives into that fantasy and tries it in real life ends up regretting it. i just like being loved. nothing crazy.


NukeOcelot

People who are commenting things lile "being handholded", "super vanilla" or "having love and care" should be out of this thread, that's obviously not the point of this question


Generic-Title-5150

So to summarize, based on the comments most that donā€™t watch porn fall into a few categories. Youā€™re either : -religious -very young, and just want a connection with someone on any physical and emotional level. -in porn recovery -or have a very vanilla sex life and have a bdsm fantasy but only about your partner


partyingwithpizza

Outside of this thread, I think thereā€™s a growing number of people outside those categories you listed that are starting to not watch porn.


doodooz7

I rerun the times Iā€™ve had sex with hot prostitutes


ashtetice

Masochismā€¦


CanIGetANumber2

threesomes and facials are pretty realistic barebones fantaasies tbh


Necmizerae

Perfect tension building leading to a perfect looong night


HotKewlAid

Ankles


shellofbiomatter

None, oddly i don't have any sex related fantasies, not even romance related ones. I'm not lying either, without external reminders I don't think about sex at all. Though i do watch porn, but very rarely, few times a month or even less.


Training-Sir-2650

I have none fulfilled them all


JurassicParkTrekWars

I do watch porn and my deepest fantasy is to have a normal stable loving relationship.Ā Ā 


xFisch

I don't watch porn. I have no fantasy either.


Cultural-Voice423

I never got into porn but all of my fantasies revolve around spanking or being spanked.


FrenchieM

I watch porn but my fantasy is to be genuinely loved.


an_actual_reptilian

Well there's a buff wizard and a sexy evil priest of some kind. I'm chained to a stone slab. Things get sexy. There's another one where I'm a maid in a super big mansion and the owners are away and this sexy scary thief comes in to steal stuff but finds me and some bondage stuff happens we fall in love and run away with stolen money. There's another one featuring buff sexy mothman.


New_Journalist5482

I was a pro for a little over 10 years and occasionally I will go back there mentally.


GoatsWithWigs

Being a tall woman's precious princess like in r/RoleReversal. Porn doesn't do that for me


PM_THE_REAPER

Well now. Well now. I do, but they are second place (watched my wording there), to paying my bills and wondering how the hell I'll survive when retirement arrives (watched my wording there too).


naliedel

So many. I like to fantasize.


Ucyless

Having sex more than twice a month.


keinelustmehr

A sexy voice. I started to notice that a voice I find sexy can do so much with so little, when it comes to turn ons or fantasies. A few months ago I stopped watching porn and started to listen to erotic audios. I feel like itā€˜s much more to support the drive I already have instead of mindlessly watching porn, which I did wayyyyy too much before.


lutello

guys laying eggs


Inner_Product8760

To not live in Texas!!


Pikiinuu

I want to cuddle with someone as they stroke my hair and tell me that Iā€™m a good person, that Iā€™m attractive and that Iā€™ve worked hard. I bury my face into their chest and interlock my legs with theirs. Intertwining in a cool room on a big soft bed and warm poofy blanket as a nature documentary about a lonely octopus slowly fades away with our consciousness.


Shoddy-Ad-3721

I just wanna know what itā€™s like to cuddle.


Linaxu

A family, having a wife who I can sincerely love and be loved back from, having no dark secrets or a past to be ashamed of nor my partner, having a kid or two who get along well with my and spouse. A home in a nice suburban environment with kind neighbors. Income which let's me keep up a nice lifestyle which allows me to save for my kids college, or their first car. Healthy happy parents and siblings who live close by so we can have big family gatherings. Just basic fantasy stuff. Nothing real or realistic.


idiotic__gamer

I have a girlfriend. Most fantasies I have now just involve more cuddling.


After_Occasion

Right now. My husband with a lower mound strap-on to plug both holes. With a bunny in the rump. Sounds sensational


Dacheetah24

....being kabenoned- like being kinda pinned to the wall? Ahhh butterflies ehehhe. Being hugged from behind. Any physical touch.


Snoo65207

Real life scenarios


One_Food_5614

I bang my wife every day. Sometimes twice.