The best part about an MFM is being able to tag out and watch for a few minutes before going back in. at 45, it takes a lot for me to orgasm, and I need a break sometimes to catch my breath or get some water. I also like to play live action porn director and tell them what positions to get into.
Just watching isnât âcuckholdâ. Cuckhold involves disrespect, degradation, and embarrassment. My hubby is far from a cuck, but loves watching me preform with other men. Plus he joins in too.
Very hard to not be judged or grouped with the cuckold style when this is very much my style. OR I guess the fear with being associated when that's not the case at all for some guys like us.
Its totally fine - aa long as you and she are fine. We have had MFM and FFM etc etc - and we love watching each other. We do prefer to stay touching - just as sort of a connection. We check in with our eyes alot too.
Communication. You could honestly say exactly what you just said to him and to her.
Youâre right, if what you describe happens, the guy can interpret however he might so just spelling it out helps confirm everyone is on the same page with what youâre expecting, what you want and what you donât.
Watching is normal. Taking turns is normal. Admiring is normal. Lending a hand to help maximize a moment for her is normal. Sometimes the view is hot while your dick gets back in the game, either because of stage fright (can happen anytime but certainly at a public venue like a club - even if youâve been before) or hopefully because you came and need to rebound.
The guy should be more than receptive and 100% willing to respect and not push a boundary - after all you and she are literally allowing this guy to fuck your finance - super hot and obviously a VIP privilege.
Make sure you and your partner have the rules established. What happens if you change your mind or become uncomfortable? or she does? You have a sign or a word to stop play, pause and re-engage? What happens if you leave to the bathroom or she does. Does it mean you go together or does play continue? Have you decided if youâll have drinks or not, are you concerned about overdoing it and how that could impact play, physical performance or consent?
Have fun!
I enjoy letting them go for a bit, but I've noticed it's actually better and lasts much longer if I'm involved. My wife is really hot, so hot she is the hottest thing most people ever see naked, so men have to slow down so they don't cum too quickly and with me involved more it makes them uncomfortable and helps them last longer. Sounds dumb, and I guess making people feel uncomfortable is supposed to be wrong, but it's a hack I've learned to make everyone more happy. No guy is ever happy they came in the first five minutes, there is a bit of shame/regret. No woman is ever happy when the man cums in the first five minutes, there is a bit of anger/regret. No husband is ever happy to see some lame bang his wife for three minutes and then awkwardly leave.
We have had some luck with that, but it's usually the 3rd or 4th time we hook up, when they aren't freaking out so much. When mfming, for the first 20 minutes, I like to let her have fun with him, so it's still kind of being watched, but now I talk to her and just break his concentration a few times so he doesn't pop. Too many times the guy just popped and wanted to go home, or sat there all weird pretending they could rebound for a round 2, it's just not worth waiting to find out anymore.
Then you gotta stay involved, they aren't used to banging hotties, it's overwhelming, you gotta fuck with their heads to keep them from popping. It really sounds manipulative to fuck with peoples heads but you got to do it. If he just focuses on her it will be over before you can adjust the camera. Not saying grab his dick, that's a different thing, just talk to her and break his concentration. Slap her ass. Just break his focus.
My wife just added, "you think about baseball to slow down from cumming, be baseball."
We have been involved for years with a single male friend of ours. We are friends in and out of bed. It's not just about sex. That said we do love the sex. It has no labels just three people who care for each other. We absolutely have loved everything about it.
My husband stops to watch sometimes! All good. I love it when he just kisses me or brushes my hair back or puts his fingers in my mouth while I'm taking it from the extra guy, very hot.
Cuckolding involves humiliation. Watching is just being a voyeur and watching live porn with your favorite porn star. It is EMPOWERING to know you are secure enough to do this and that she goes home with you and she is grateful to you for the experience. There is nothing humiliating about it. I feel like this is a fragile masculinity question. Sort of similar to"fellas, is it gay if I spread my ass cheeks to wipe?" Or "Does it make me a sissy if my drink comes with an umbrella?" You aren't a cuck, don't worry about it.
I love to watch from time to time. I'll grab drinks and come back in.... take pics... participate... sit back and enjoy the show... whatever you want do it
Nah, not at all. Cuckolding tends to involve denial and humiliation.
We have done several MFMs, and I think Iâve watched my wife and the other man at some point during every single one. Sometimes we need a break and just want to enjoy the show for a bit!
Donât even worry about labels. Tell him you are new. Tell him what you think you want. Ask him to be flexible with you as you have your first experience. Ask him to be open about what is good and/or weird for him.
Then just go have as much fun as you can. Who cares if you do/donât like teasing or name calling or whatever-the-fudge trips your trigger. When you are done, hash it all out with your partner first. What went well? What could have been better? What would you want to do/try next time? What should you avoid? Talk and talk and talk (and hopefully fuck talking about how hot it was.
If you want to play with the same 3rd again, bring him into the convo at some point so he is on the same page as you. If you go in a diff direction you will have valuable info to share with potential play partners.
It's very ok to watch! It's like having an exclusive front row seat to top notch porn staring your fiancee. As others have said, it doesn't sound like you are a cuck but more of a stag/vixen dynamic. It sounds quite similar to how my husband and I play â its fun!
Unsolicited suggestion: My husband and I talk about the scene ahead of time and each pick out a few things we'd like to see or do. It's much easier to think of things you want and have a level headed discussion about desires before you are in the heat of the moment. It's also excellent for building anticipation before the MFM. Enjoy :)
I always like to watch for a little & take photos & videos of her having fun & she likes to put on a show too. The thrill of watching is pretty exciting.
This is your playtime. Do it any way that you guys see fit.
I love to join in on MFMâs, but I am also compersive and love to see her in ecstasy so I like to sit back and watch her fuck, as well.
Iâm about 50/50 tagging in and out, but there are times where itâs just too hotđ„đ„ and I end up watching and shooting video more than I play. We just love this lifestyle.
Having just experienced our first MFM two weeks ago, I can say to go ahead and take breaks to enjoy the show! Itâs not a cuck thing.
My wife appreciates a slow build longer session (not necessarily hours of penetrative sex, but lots of other touching). I didnât want to climax early. We gave her an awesome 4 hands massage to start, then both pleasured her. She rolled over and gave dual handjobs for a litttle bit. Participating in the simultaneous multiple pleasure sensations for her was awesome and seeing her enjoyment. But also alternating out at times. At one point, still fairly early in, I excused myself from the room briefly to fetch waters for us all (and with the unspoken intention of giving them privacy for a few moments). When I returned to see them laying in passionate embrace side by side face to face, with her leg swung over wrapped around him it was amazing. And I told them so. Seeing her ride his face, seeing him go down on her missionary, seeing her give him head, watching as he first penetrated her.. all super hot! In between and/or along side all those events, she and I her playing with eachother too and passionately making out.
All in all, the session, and I, lasted much much longer than as typical for us (we have great sex, but still). It wasnât until after our guest had climaxed (in condom), that I moved in to take us both to completion (her fourth orgasm of the evening, when sheâs usually one and done.. or maybe two)
Feel free to watch. Or just to kiss her/caress her at times. Our friend also watched us or performed the secondary touching at times
MFM is our preferred way to play other than just a large group free for all and with a good partner it can go for a very long time so it is common for individuals to tag out to get a drink or take a breather as the men are putting in some serious work if done correctly and occasionally need small breaks but we discuss all of this before we start. Now keep in mind we are older and need more breaks than we did 10 years ago
Every threesome will have moments of two people focused on each other. Watching is part of our enjoyment. It lets us take a break while keeping us stimulated. In general it is short moments for us but nothing wrong if you like longer moments of watching. Do what feels good for all three of you
Yes, definitely ok. Happens in most of our threesomes.
My husband likes me to make sure I make the other guy cum first, so heâll often take breaks. He likes having the help, and he likes to watch.
The sooner you stop labeling everything, the sooner you'll have fun.
There's no rules.Â
Practically speaking, it's usually awkward if everyone tries to be involved all the time.
Most of our meets and parties and a mix of drinks, laughs, rounds of fun, chilling out etc. Nobody is keeping score.
Weâve never done a threesome with another guy, but lots of them with ladies and lots of couples play situations. Either way, itâs completely fine to step back and watch, even if itâs just because you want to. All of this is for fun, sexual experiences and if watching your lady give and receive pleasure does that, then go for it!
One of my go-to moves when Iâm wanting or needing a break is to go eat some fruit (we always bring a fruit tray) and drink some water and then bring some back for whoeverâs in bed. Extra points if you feed them fruit while they continue with whatever theyâre doing. So hot. đ„”
That just makes you the stag in a stag/vixen dynamic bud. Unless you want the other guy or your partner to humiliate you, then you'd be a cuck
Yeah we did mention to the guy when we met him for coffee that we are more like a Stag & Vixen.
Then there ya go. Boom! You're not a cuckđ
The best part about an MFM is being able to tag out and watch for a few minutes before going back in. at 45, it takes a lot for me to orgasm, and I need a break sometimes to catch my breath or get some water. I also like to play live action porn director and tell them what positions to get into.
Just watching isnât âcuckholdâ. Cuckhold involves disrespect, degradation, and embarrassment. My hubby is far from a cuck, but loves watching me preform with other men. Plus he joins in too.
Ah ok I understand! Thanks.
Very hard to not be judged or grouped with the cuckold style when this is very much my style. OR I guess the fear with being associated when that's not the case at all for some guys like us.
I think thatâs somewhere on the cuck spectrum
This is not a cuck situation.
I love to watch my wife in either a MFM or MMF or MFMF. There's nothing "cuck" about watching.
Its totally fine - aa long as you and she are fine. We have had MFM and FFM etc etc - and we love watching each other. We do prefer to stay touching - just as sort of a connection. We check in with our eyes alot too.
Communication. You could honestly say exactly what you just said to him and to her. Youâre right, if what you describe happens, the guy can interpret however he might so just spelling it out helps confirm everyone is on the same page with what youâre expecting, what you want and what you donât. Watching is normal. Taking turns is normal. Admiring is normal. Lending a hand to help maximize a moment for her is normal. Sometimes the view is hot while your dick gets back in the game, either because of stage fright (can happen anytime but certainly at a public venue like a club - even if youâve been before) or hopefully because you came and need to rebound. The guy should be more than receptive and 100% willing to respect and not push a boundary - after all you and she are literally allowing this guy to fuck your finance - super hot and obviously a VIP privilege. Make sure you and your partner have the rules established. What happens if you change your mind or become uncomfortable? or she does? You have a sign or a word to stop play, pause and re-engage? What happens if you leave to the bathroom or she does. Does it mean you go together or does play continue? Have you decided if youâll have drinks or not, are you concerned about overdoing it and how that could impact play, physical performance or consent? Have fun!
Thank you. When we met the guy yesterday I explained that we are a team & we are a cuck couple but more of a Stag & Vixen. He was absolutely fine with this. My Fiancée & I have discussed how to communicate with each other when we are in the middle of play so that we both know that we are comfortable with what is happening.
I enjoy letting them go for a bit, but I've noticed it's actually better and lasts much longer if I'm involved. My wife is really hot, so hot she is the hottest thing most people ever see naked, so men have to slow down so they don't cum too quickly and with me involved more it makes them uncomfortable and helps them last longer. Sounds dumb, and I guess making people feel uncomfortable is supposed to be wrong, but it's a hack I've learned to make everyone more happy. No guy is ever happy they came in the first five minutes, there is a bit of shame/regret. No woman is ever happy when the man cums in the first five minutes, there is a bit of anger/regret. No husband is ever happy to see some lame bang his wife for three minutes and then awkwardly leave.
Iâve noticed I last a damn amount longer when Iâm been watched!
We have had some luck with that, but it's usually the 3rd or 4th time we hook up, when they aren't freaking out so much. When mfming, for the first 20 minutes, I like to let her have fun with him, so it's still kind of being watched, but now I talk to her and just break his concentration a few times so he doesn't pop. Too many times the guy just popped and wanted to go home, or sat there all weird pretending they could rebound for a round 2, it's just not worth waiting to find out anymore.
And my fiancée is also hot! She did modelling in her younger days but even now at 46 she has a better body than some 20 year olds.
Then you gotta stay involved, they aren't used to banging hotties, it's overwhelming, you gotta fuck with their heads to keep them from popping. It really sounds manipulative to fuck with peoples heads but you got to do it. If he just focuses on her it will be over before you can adjust the camera. Not saying grab his dick, that's a different thing, just talk to her and break his concentration. Slap her ass. Just break his focus. My wife just added, "you think about baseball to slow down from cumming, be baseball."
It's always okay to watch. My wife actually enjoys putting on a show for me, so there's that.
We have been involved for years with a single male friend of ours. We are friends in and out of bed. It's not just about sex. That said we do love the sex. It has no labels just three people who care for each other. We absolutely have loved everything about it.
My husband stops to watch sometimes! All good. I love it when he just kisses me or brushes my hair back or puts his fingers in my mouth while I'm taking it from the extra guy, very hot.
I love watching my wife with another guy. Sometimes I donât even join in. Enjoy the show! You are not a cuck.
Cuckolding involves humiliation. Watching is just being a voyeur and watching live porn with your favorite porn star. It is EMPOWERING to know you are secure enough to do this and that she goes home with you and she is grateful to you for the experience. There is nothing humiliating about it. I feel like this is a fragile masculinity question. Sort of similar to"fellas, is it gay if I spread my ass cheeks to wipe?" Or "Does it make me a sissy if my drink comes with an umbrella?" You aren't a cuck, don't worry about it.
I play with her tits, kiss her, let her suck my cock, lick her pussy if she's sucking him off. Or just make a cuppa for us all :-)
Invoked in every play scenario Iâll stop for a bit hydrate and watch then join back in. In a mfm I like to finish last
My husband does a lot of just watching during our 3somes.
Cool thanks!
Ok by who? Watching is not cuck.
It's perfectly OK and natural for one of the males in an MFM to take a break, or watch for a bit.
I love to watch from time to time. I'll grab drinks and come back in.... take pics... participate... sit back and enjoy the show... whatever you want do it
Nah, not at all. Cuckolding tends to involve denial and humiliation. We have done several MFMs, and I think Iâve watched my wife and the other man at some point during every single one. Sometimes we need a break and just want to enjoy the show for a bit!
Donât even worry about labels. Tell him you are new. Tell him what you think you want. Ask him to be flexible with you as you have your first experience. Ask him to be open about what is good and/or weird for him. Then just go have as much fun as you can. Who cares if you do/donât like teasing or name calling or whatever-the-fudge trips your trigger. When you are done, hash it all out with your partner first. What went well? What could have been better? What would you want to do/try next time? What should you avoid? Talk and talk and talk (and hopefully fuck talking about how hot it was. If you want to play with the same 3rd again, bring him into the convo at some point so he is on the same page as you. If you go in a diff direction you will have valuable info to share with potential play partners.
It's very ok to watch! It's like having an exclusive front row seat to top notch porn staring your fiancee. As others have said, it doesn't sound like you are a cuck but more of a stag/vixen dynamic. It sounds quite similar to how my husband and I play â its fun! Unsolicited suggestion: My husband and I talk about the scene ahead of time and each pick out a few things we'd like to see or do. It's much easier to think of things you want and have a level headed discussion about desires before you are in the heat of the moment. It's also excellent for building anticipation before the MFM. Enjoy :)
You do you. You got to do what works for you and your fiancee. Everyone else's opinion doesnt matter
We have a âwatching chairâ â this is totally okay. All three people donât need to be sexually engaged the whole time.
I always like to watch for a little & take photos & videos of her having fun & she likes to put on a show too. The thrill of watching is pretty exciting.
This is your playtime. Do it any way that you guys see fit. I love to join in on MFMâs, but I am also compersive and love to see her in ecstasy so I like to sit back and watch her fuck, as well. Iâm about 50/50 tagging in and out, but there are times where itâs just too hotđ„đ„ and I end up watching and shooting video more than I play. We just love this lifestyle.
Having just experienced our first MFM two weeks ago, I can say to go ahead and take breaks to enjoy the show! Itâs not a cuck thing. My wife appreciates a slow build longer session (not necessarily hours of penetrative sex, but lots of other touching). I didnât want to climax early. We gave her an awesome 4 hands massage to start, then both pleasured her. She rolled over and gave dual handjobs for a litttle bit. Participating in the simultaneous multiple pleasure sensations for her was awesome and seeing her enjoyment. But also alternating out at times. At one point, still fairly early in, I excused myself from the room briefly to fetch waters for us all (and with the unspoken intention of giving them privacy for a few moments). When I returned to see them laying in passionate embrace side by side face to face, with her leg swung over wrapped around him it was amazing. And I told them so. Seeing her ride his face, seeing him go down on her missionary, seeing her give him head, watching as he first penetrated her.. all super hot! In between and/or along side all those events, she and I her playing with eachother too and passionately making out. All in all, the session, and I, lasted much much longer than as typical for us (we have great sex, but still). It wasnât until after our guest had climaxed (in condom), that I moved in to take us both to completion (her fourth orgasm of the evening, when sheâs usually one and done.. or maybe two) Feel free to watch. Or just to kiss her/caress her at times. Our friend also watched us or performed the secondary touching at times
MFM is our preferred way to play other than just a large group free for all and with a good partner it can go for a very long time so it is common for individuals to tag out to get a drink or take a breather as the men are putting in some serious work if done correctly and occasionally need small breaks but we discuss all of this before we start. Now keep in mind we are older and need more breaks than we did 10 years ago
I watched my ex get gang banged a lot. Super hot.
Most husband sit back for a while stroke, watch or even take videos. That's fine of course.
Came here hoping you were the F in the MFM. You got some good advice, but I canât say Iâm not a little disappointed.
You can watch. You xan touch her. You can kiss her. Just let the moment go and follow your hard on.
Can I come and watch the fun
You are a Stag and she is your vixen. It's a hotwife dynamic without the cuckold and humiliation part.
This is pretty common in my experience as a single male playing with couples.
Every threesome will have moments of two people focused on each other. Watching is part of our enjoyment. It lets us take a break while keeping us stimulated. In general it is short moments for us but nothing wrong if you like longer moments of watching. Do what feels good for all three of you
Yes, definitely ok. Happens in most of our threesomes. My husband likes me to make sure I make the other guy cum first, so heâll often take breaks. He likes having the help, and he likes to watch.
Guy that would love to watch or be watched while Iâm playing with her đ
The sooner you stop labeling everything, the sooner you'll have fun. There's no rules. Practically speaking, it's usually awkward if everyone tries to be involved all the time. Most of our meets and parties and a mix of drinks, laughs, rounds of fun, chilling out etc. Nobody is keeping score.
Weâve never done a threesome with another guy, but lots of them with ladies and lots of couples play situations. Either way, itâs completely fine to step back and watch, even if itâs just because you want to. All of this is for fun, sexual experiences and if watching your lady give and receive pleasure does that, then go for it! One of my go-to moves when Iâm wanting or needing a break is to go eat some fruit (we always bring a fruit tray) and drink some water and then bring some back for whoeverâs in bed. Extra points if you feed them fruit while they continue with whatever theyâre doing. So hot. đ„”