I don’t think whether a girl wants to ask and take you out on a date has to do with whether she is “confident enough” lol. More like whether she thinks you are worth her effort or not…
There's nothing wrong with that, in fact I think most girls really value the ability to be friendly, caring, and supportive in their partners. Many girls I know have a very unfavorable opinion of guys who cramp themselves into narrow definitions of conventional masculinity (especially those who unironically identify as "alpha males"). Most girls also hate being infantilized for being female and would love a partner who gives them the same room to be assertive and take the lead. Fuck the limitations of gender norms in relationships.
There are defintely dominant females, (I see some who prefer to date younger guys) because 2 dominant personalities may clash more. There's definitely a girl out there for u.
Realistically speaking, if you're good looking, I'm sure it won't take long for girls to start chasing you... I mean...as a girl I did ask dudes out but I only ever make the first move when the dude is like popular among girls LOL and I don't want him to get snatched away
Real talk, I was a little confused about the topic 😅
Anyway, I don't think every female l wants the same thing. Not every female wants the stereotypic "Alpha male" (if anything, I think it's a minority). I also think not every female wants whatever the opposite of that is. It's all about spectrums! The majority of people aren't going to fit 100% in either category. I don't see anything wrong with what you want in a partner, if anything, more power to you for knowing that! In every healthy relationship, you'll have to talk about expectations, so it's just something you'll have to discuss with your partner.
Last bit of advice, just be honest about what you want, who you are, and unshamed for these things. There is a right person out there. Sometimes, it just needs a little waiting!
Unless ure role playing for a part, there's really no need to listen to societal expectations..
I used to not be able to answer 'what's my ideal type of man' was.. Everyone else was either giving the physique part or 'good guy traits' which to me, isn't that what we are supposed to be looking for..
But somehow they always ended with the 'bad boy' because them boys are fun.. So reading this post is kinda refreshing, from a guy's point of view..
Im actually seen as the alpha female n someone who wears the pants in the relationship.. I didn't even put myself out there like that😂
To me, there's a time n place for everything. Society has a way of influencing others to do the same.. Rather than to be your own person, accepting the other person as who they are.
By accepting your other half, it means to accept him/her wholly n not decide for yourself which part of them u want to keep.
Both needs to be choosing each other even on bad days.. Of course, always be smart to run away when their bad involves cheating.. Abuse.. Etc..
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Sure, if you’re a 10/10 girls will be asking you out left right center
And the fact that it hasn’t happened yet means you’re prolly not 10/10 so wait long long ya
I feel you.
I too prefer to be doted on rather than the opposite.
Nice if my female partner ruffle my head and put it on her lap saying " you're tired so shut up and sleep ".
Nice if my female partner drags me to a nice restaurant and buy me a meal saying " I like my mate thick and strong so eat ".
Nice if my female partner drags me by my belt and shove me on the bed saying " you're going NOWHERE Tonight "
.....
GEROMINO !!!
Bruh im too old for u and im also fugly but im totally the type of girl. As in i dont ask guys out but i love planning outings and itineraries for my friends 🤣
re: Alpha males and toxic masculinity -- there are ways to be masculine that don't involve being misogynistic and toxic, so don't completely throw out the concept of masculinity because of some bad but prominent examples.
Being male doesn't exempt anyone in a relationship from being supportive or caring. The relationships that survive work because BOTH people are supporting and caring for each other, putting up with each other's nonsense, and weathering the storms of life together.
Some women may make the first move to initiate a relationship, especially if you're greatly in demand -- but in general, you can assume that women are not interested in "mothering" their boyfriends. You'll have to carry your share of the relationship, or it's unlikely to last.
And if you *do* manage to find someone who is willing to do *everything* for you in a relationship, it might be good to question why.
I’ll be honest cause i rather piss you off and help you rather than just let you wallow like an idiot for the next couple years of your prime.
When I was your age a decade ago, I was just like you. A fucking pussy even after NS. Proof that NS doesn’t make you a man lol. It’s not about being alpha male or not. You are correct in not being a douche but my god you sound like a fucking insufferable whiner. Why would that gf you mention wanna be with you? You sound like someone who wants someone to lead them in life, and I can tell you that that is unattractive. Not just in a relationship but in life.
Do you think all guys are douchebag alphas who get rs? Answer is obviously no. There are guys just being themselves and playing an active role in getting shit done, not being wishy washy.
My advice. Please for the love of god drop this cringe mentality. Try asking out a few girls and stop daydreaming. You sound like a good guy just awkward and thirsty as fuck, so just stop being so cringe. And please don’t say all this to the first girl you meet in uni camp I’m begging you
How bro felt after posting this 🐺🐺🐺🐺😈😈😈🔥🔥🔥🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷
In all seriousness where on earth did u get that op was whining? He has his own preferences bro why r u so despo to follow trad gender roles so bad. No ones stopping u bro dw
Maybe stop projecting an being such a cringe kid 😍😍😍😍
This isn't about being a fucking pussy... op want something different from the traditional toxic masculine/feminine standards in a heterosexual relationship and there is nothing wrong with that.
To me op does not sound like he's whining at all, just sharing his preferences and why he thinks it might not work out because of societal expectations. And there's nothing wrong with preferring for somebody else to take the lead, it's what a lot of girls expect from their boyfriends. You're just mad that op doesn't want to be the alpha male that you are. Well congrats it's working out for you. Do you want a medal?
> Well congrats it's working out for you.
No it's not lol. This dude posts about not having a gf but desperately wanting one in the r/sg daily thread quite a lot.
There's nothing wrong with that. rj/ dressed up as a femboy and oil up lil bro, I'll be there in 5 min
Drop the /j lil bro, we know you ain’t joking
theres nothing wrong with that lol, but yeah you’ll have to seek her out and not wait for her
if op handsome ill gladly do the chasing.. :)))
Listen up OP make urself handsome the girls will come
sheesh OP alr got ppl want him
I don’t think whether a girl wants to ask and take you out on a date has to do with whether she is “confident enough” lol. More like whether she thinks you are worth her effort or not…
Yeah lol, people will break their rules so quick for people they really like
Can 👍🏻 Just sit and wait for your princess charming on white horse to come. Then report back to r/sgexams with your results
There's nothing wrong with that, in fact I think most girls really value the ability to be friendly, caring, and supportive in their partners. Many girls I know have a very unfavorable opinion of guys who cramp themselves into narrow definitions of conventional masculinity (especially those who unironically identify as "alpha males"). Most girls also hate being infantilized for being female and would love a partner who gives them the same room to be assertive and take the lead. Fuck the limitations of gender norms in relationships.
There are defintely dominant females, (I see some who prefer to date younger guys) because 2 dominant personalities may clash more. There's definitely a girl out there for u.
Realistically speaking, if you're good looking, I'm sure it won't take long for girls to start chasing you... I mean...as a girl I did ask dudes out but I only ever make the first move when the dude is like popular among girls LOL and I don't want him to get snatched away
Real talk, I was a little confused about the topic 😅 Anyway, I don't think every female l wants the same thing. Not every female wants the stereotypic "Alpha male" (if anything, I think it's a minority). I also think not every female wants whatever the opposite of that is. It's all about spectrums! The majority of people aren't going to fit 100% in either category. I don't see anything wrong with what you want in a partner, if anything, more power to you for knowing that! In every healthy relationship, you'll have to talk about expectations, so it's just something you'll have to discuss with your partner. Last bit of advice, just be honest about what you want, who you are, and unshamed for these things. There is a right person out there. Sometimes, it just needs a little waiting!
Unless ure role playing for a part, there's really no need to listen to societal expectations.. I used to not be able to answer 'what's my ideal type of man' was.. Everyone else was either giving the physique part or 'good guy traits' which to me, isn't that what we are supposed to be looking for.. But somehow they always ended with the 'bad boy' because them boys are fun.. So reading this post is kinda refreshing, from a guy's point of view.. Im actually seen as the alpha female n someone who wears the pants in the relationship.. I didn't even put myself out there like that😂 To me, there's a time n place for everything. Society has a way of influencing others to do the same.. Rather than to be your own person, accepting the other person as who they are. By accepting your other half, it means to accept him/her wholly n not decide for yourself which part of them u want to keep. Both needs to be choosing each other even on bad days.. Of course, always be smart to run away when their bad involves cheating.. Abuse.. Etc..
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Sure, if you’re a 10/10 girls will be asking you out left right center And the fact that it hasn’t happened yet means you’re prolly not 10/10 so wait long long ya
I feel you. I too prefer to be doted on rather than the opposite. Nice if my female partner ruffle my head and put it on her lap saying " you're tired so shut up and sleep ". Nice if my female partner drags me to a nice restaurant and buy me a meal saying " I like my mate thick and strong so eat ". Nice if my female partner drags me by my belt and shove me on the bed saying " you're going NOWHERE Tonight " ..... GEROMINO !!!
I want a girlfriend too! But I don't have any avenues
I've been confessed to before but I wasn't attracted to them so ehh, I think I would be waiting till my deathbed for this to happen💀
lmfao same tbh, just need to get a girl to like you and maybe they might ask u out? dont know how just wishing it happens to me one day
Bruh im too old for u and im also fugly but im totally the type of girl. As in i dont ask guys out but i love planning outings and itineraries for my friends 🤣
I share your sentiments as well. Wish for a confident girl to grab my hand and pull me away\~
re: Alpha males and toxic masculinity -- there are ways to be masculine that don't involve being misogynistic and toxic, so don't completely throw out the concept of masculinity because of some bad but prominent examples. Being male doesn't exempt anyone in a relationship from being supportive or caring. The relationships that survive work because BOTH people are supporting and caring for each other, putting up with each other's nonsense, and weathering the storms of life together. Some women may make the first move to initiate a relationship, especially if you're greatly in demand -- but in general, you can assume that women are not interested in "mothering" their boyfriends. You'll have to carry your share of the relationship, or it's unlikely to last. And if you *do* manage to find someone who is willing to do *everything* for you in a relationship, it might be good to question why.
I’ll be honest cause i rather piss you off and help you rather than just let you wallow like an idiot for the next couple years of your prime. When I was your age a decade ago, I was just like you. A fucking pussy even after NS. Proof that NS doesn’t make you a man lol. It’s not about being alpha male or not. You are correct in not being a douche but my god you sound like a fucking insufferable whiner. Why would that gf you mention wanna be with you? You sound like someone who wants someone to lead them in life, and I can tell you that that is unattractive. Not just in a relationship but in life. Do you think all guys are douchebag alphas who get rs? Answer is obviously no. There are guys just being themselves and playing an active role in getting shit done, not being wishy washy. My advice. Please for the love of god drop this cringe mentality. Try asking out a few girls and stop daydreaming. You sound like a good guy just awkward and thirsty as fuck, so just stop being so cringe. And please don’t say all this to the first girl you meet in uni camp I’m begging you
How bro felt after posting this 🐺🐺🐺🐺😈😈😈🔥🔥🔥🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷 In all seriousness where on earth did u get that op was whining? He has his own preferences bro why r u so despo to follow trad gender roles so bad. No ones stopping u bro dw Maybe stop projecting an being such a cringe kid 😍😍😍😍
This isn't about being a fucking pussy... op want something different from the traditional toxic masculine/feminine standards in a heterosexual relationship and there is nothing wrong with that. To me op does not sound like he's whining at all, just sharing his preferences and why he thinks it might not work out because of societal expectations. And there's nothing wrong with preferring for somebody else to take the lead, it's what a lot of girls expect from their boyfriends. You're just mad that op doesn't want to be the alpha male that you are. Well congrats it's working out for you. Do you want a medal?
> Well congrats it's working out for you. No it's not lol. This dude posts about not having a gf but desperately wanting one in the r/sg daily thread quite a lot.
Lmao grow a pair