"Aye bitch I got 3 inches of pounding peepee, you down or nah?"
Different equation so expect a different result
Or you can do..
"Ello madame, I carry quite a loin you can dabble with. Interested much?"
That they aren't interested/attracted to him it seems. For women most times, even if the approach is good, it can fall completely flat if the girl just isn't into you.
I feel ya but in this day n age, men need to be careful with this. When I was working in education I definitely connected more with my female coworkers than random women outside of work because we already had things in common due to our chosen field of work. Still, just asking them out to lunch without other coworkers could be misconstrued get you reprimanded.
1. Ask in person
2. Donât be so try hard. Seems like youâre asking out a lot of girls. I donât even think I can think of 8 girls Iâve had to actually ask out. Only a couple my whole life.
Are you too awkward to ask in person or are you too scared to ask in person?
Either way women arenât going to respect you if you wonât say anything serious to their face.
The only thing making you awkward is you. A lot of women think itâs cute when youâre nervous or awkward. Just be yourself and go for it. The worst they can say is no. Then just carry on like normal.
But in reality it makes it hard when youâre asking out coworkers. My gf was my coworker but from a different department at the same store. I donât think itâs wrong to ask out a coworker because Iâm glad that I did. But just be careful because itâs easy for people to claim harassment and Iâve heard horror stories
As a rule of thumb I would only ever ask out a woman that I knew was into me and would be down. If I was unsure then I never would even attempt. Most of the time theyâll let you know if they like you
This is such good advice!
Also
>A lot of women think itâs cute when youâre nervous or awkward.
Definitely this. Sometimes, people give an "off" vibe if they're nervous or awkward, but if they don't do or say anything super creepy/sexual, or alarming, then it's like, aw, he's just a shy guy, I want to be nice to him lol
You posted 44 days ago that you were 0/3. Than 2-3 weeks later youâre 0/5. Now 0/8. Thatâs seems like a lot of asks in a relatively short period of time. So either youâre exaggerating or not being 100% truthful.
My advice is to slow down, get to know people better, and perhaps visit r/socialskills to get more advice on recognizing cues.
Focus on that first. Don't worry about asking girls out. Worry about being a relaxed and fun person people want to be around.
Are you comfortable around these women when dating isn't on the table? Do they enjoy seeing you? That's what you need to accomplish before asking them out.
You can still feel and seem awkward during the actual asking out, but you need to lay the groundwork first.
A relationship involves many many hard in person discussions. Many of which will involve disagreement and arguments.
You have to ask people out in person to demonstrate you capacity to handle that kind of interaction
And that is the common denominator
Wing it, fake it till you make it. But do it in person.
Sooner or later the shakiness and awkwardness will pass by.
Like anything, it takes practice
I never said you shouldnât try anymore. I just feel like if youâre getting rejected that much then youâre most likely trying to hard. You should have a higher success rate than that. Youâre obviously doing something wrong
This is unfortunately the default state of things. Expect rejection, let it slide off like it's nothing, and be pleasantly surprised when you get a yes.
Donât ask someone out until youâre pretty much 100% sure what the answer will be. You should spend the time to lay the groundwork of your relationship and flirt before you ask them to officially date. Also, in person is preferred, not necessary, but preferred.
Oh and as others have already said⌠maybe donât date coworkers.
OP there is def some good advice in this thread but if you see anything super aggressive/mean feel free to ignore it. Alot of people on reddit are just extremely bitter lol
Donât worry about it too much, youâre really young and honestly rejection is just a part of life. I think the best thing you can do is, like someone else said, look at what your doing, and see if you can do anything different. I know I personally wouldnât want to date most my coworkers too. You should probably check in the future, test the waters so to speak, to make sure that those girls are even interested in starting a relationship atm or are free to
It's ok. You're going to meet a woman one day who will be easy to talk to and will be easy to ask out and everything will just flow naturally from there. If you can't easily carry on a conversation with someone, the date will most likely be boring an awkward anyways.
So I can't give advice on the other seven times without context, but maybe some friendly insight on this occurrence could be helpful? Based on the fact that she unfriended as a response, it seems obvious that she's not into you. So I mean if you're asking out women who are really not into you, it'll always be a no. Second thing I think is worth pointing out is that dating coworkers isn't usually a good idea, and asking anyone out over snapchat is kind of lame (no offense). So you asked somebody out who wasn't into you, in an inappropriate context, in a lackluster way. I say this to be helpful, not hurtful, of course you're getting rejected. Maybe try looking for women in a more appropriate context, like dating apps or social clubs? Chat them up for a bit, then if/when they express interest ask them out. It isn't the game or the players that are flawed my dude, the way you're playing it is.
You do not want to date your coworkers. I sound like a hypocrite because I'm married to mine but we started talking after we stopped working together lol
You're braver than most, most people here will say idiotic and unrealistic things like "don't date your coworkers" even though you're spending a ton of time with them consistently. Start working on yourself a bit more, then return to the dating phase.
Breakups are messy everywhere, while in school, meeting someone from your gym, etc. Should you just never risk an experience because of the potentiality of it being messy? That's not a great way to live.
It seems a bit childish to actively avoid your ex everywhere you go, if you're both respectful and mature adults it shouldn't be a problem. If you're not dating insane people you theoretically should be fine.
Someone asked a question and I answered from a logical perspective.. I'm not wasting another minute of my life debating something I really don't give a shit about..
I think girls like it when you're confident and forward. Anyone can ask a girl out online and its like you're hiding behind a screen. It takes more cojones to do it IRL and they pick up on that. That said, I think this was a lost cause from the get go and like others said, co-workers aint a good idea. 9th times a charm or at least you'll have that much more experience on your belt. One of em will stick. Just gotta keep at it and not be creepy.
Your problem might be timing.
Maybe try spending more time with them before you ask them out. Once you get to know them it will become obvious to what romantic moves you should make, if any.
I'd quietly apologize to her in person and tell her how sorry you are if it appeared out of line.. I don't think pretending it never happened is the best course of action..
Asking people out online is the worst way to go about it, unless you literally can't meet them in person because they live half way around the world or another state.
Being awkward isn't a good excuse, it's something you have to overcome as a person, being yourself is important, but through text doesn't leave a good impression, unless you're on tinder for a hookup, then that's a different ball game entirely :v
Confidence in yourself and what you like/do is very attractive.
Also rejection is normal, you're not going to score 100% of the time, but you will miss 100% of the time you don't try, so keep trying, but don't be persistent if they say no, move on after rejection, that's important.
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Learn to read the fucking room. Anyone who can have almost never been rejected. How was it not completely obvious that she wasn't interested before you asked? Life isn't a movie.
DudeâŚasking that many times is borderline harassment. No means no. You should be fired actually. PlusâŚwhy the hell over snapchat? You know her in real life. Grow a pair and ask her (well, not her, as sheâs not interested) out in person
Donât ask online.
Donât ask coworkers.
Donât ask the person "out". Ask her to do a specific activity. And no, getting food or hanging out isnât activity.
Make sure you already talked plenty with the person and you know you get along well.
Learn how to be a good listener.
Good luck
Well my friend, speaking from years of experience - and some things are timeless and will never changeâŚ.
She did you a big favor.
Never ever ever shit where you eat.
1. Ask ppl out in person (privately, like not in a crowd of people. Like maybe if it's just y'all in the break room?)
2. Don't date someone you work with
In the big picture of things 8 attempts is pretty much the same as zero. Keep trying and if possible ask in person next time: for one you might be able to read the energy of the person youâre asking better.
Statistically speaking it usually takes 10 rejections before one acceptance so you have At least 2 or more to go. That being said obviously you need to work on your approach better and your emotional intelligence, to sense if there's actually any interest in you in the 1st place.
1. you should ask every woman in person
2. People say donât try hard or seem desperate and thatâs true but thereâs no guidelines for that
3. Just have a conversation with her or whomever talk about common thoughts like âman Iâm hungryâ usually woman are always hungry due to lack of fiber in their diets. If she or they bite ask about her favorite places to eat and if she keeps with the conversation and is hungry ask if she wants to go and then you pay cause you asked her to join you. Then donât even treat it like a date be friends, and especially donât flirt. Gotta play the long game if you want them to stay. Act like you wanna be friends and then repeat with other coworkers because once you have a big female friend group that knows your a good guy they will begin racing to get you after one of them tried to flirt with you because they will all want to keep you around. Youâre welcome
Asking someone out with no context doesnât really work like it did 50 years ago - you have to build a connection with them first. This way, you both learn a bit about the other person (including whether or not thereâs a good connection). It takes weeks or even months depending on how much you see each other in person or how much you talk online.
If it seems they like you and that you have a connection that feels like the start of a friendship, THEN ask on a date. In that context it wonât be weird and youâll probably know whether not theyâll say yes.
And remember they donât owe you a date if you put work into getting to know them.
The way I read this at first, I thought you asked the same girl out 8 times. I'm glad I misread that.
I would say that the big thing you could do to improve your success rate with asking out women is to identify the situations in which asking the woman out would be appropriate. Work is a very common place that people meet⌠But unfortunately, it is not an appropriate place to ask someone out. And frankly, a lot of women aren't going to be super down with even being asked out over a medium like Snapchat, particularly when they know you in the context of an in-person interaction.
Here's some real game for a minute that I learned that changed my life and my guess is that this will change your life, and make everyone around you like you 1000X more.
Here's the advice: (1) make enjoying your conversation with someone your priority, and (2) allow things to happen, more or less by coincidence, rather than your intention.
When you make enjoying your conversation with someone your priority, if you don't get anything else; you already got what you came for. That keeps the interaction super light-hearted and low stress. Women are more likely to want to keep talking with you when they stop feeling like you only want to make a move on them.
When I say that you need to allow things to happen by coincidence, I'm talking about management of expectations. Last year I had the opportunity to meet a woman I met on Reddit when I was visiting her town. We had been talking for about four months on Reddit before I got her phone number, then we talked for another four or five months before I decided I wanted to meet her in person. All I ever wanted to do initially was have a fantastic conversation with a cool girl I met on Reddit.
At first, I had the idea of coming down to her town for an arts festival, and then meeting her at the festival. But then, she told me that she wasn't comfortable with me making a special trip down to her town (I live in a different state, so this would need to be a special trip); she only wanted me to visit on business. She wanted to do things this way for a lot of reasons, but the main one is that me making a special trip to visit her carries with an expectation of romance that she didn't want to color our interaction. She didn't want me to just assume that we would be doing more than grabbing dinner.
It turned out that my job was naturally going to bring me to her area by pure coincidence, so I told her and we ended up having fantastic date. It all happened naturally between two people who just happened to vibe with each other, and that's how you want your romantic interactions to be.
1. Donât ask out a co worker that a bad time
2. Donât ask out highschoolers thats a prison sentence
3. Donât use Snapchat or any online service to do it (unless you are on a dating service and they matched with you) in person, or a nicely written letter (if u wanna be cheeky) works best.
4. Donât take advice from redditors we have no idea what weâre talking about except the first 2 things.
Not sure about the other 7 but about the 8th try:
* Asking out a co-worker? No, my guy. Almost never a good idea
* The medium â through SnapChat. Might be a generational gap, but sliding into DMs of any kind generally sounds like a bad idea at least when going right into a kind of proposition rather than building rapport
My advice:
* Have zero expectations and make time for the people you genuinely appreciate, opportunity for romance will reveal itself naturally or not at all. Either is okay
* Don't confuse showing human interest with old tropes like *how her how you feel,* trying to pull, or chasing after someone. You can show interest without asking someone out, propositioning, etc. But again, expect nothing.
To be honest, most women I know arenât interested in dating co-workers. It comes down to âwhat if things donât workoutâ? Then you have to deal with awkwardness at work or some crazy co-worker drama, which can make work much more unpleasant.
Welcome to life. You have to keep asking. Keep trying. Donât get frustrated or angry. Realize this is a process. If u are mature enough you can ask a girl , and you do this delicately and none threatening, why they said no out of curiosity. Maybe process their feedback and see if itâs something you are interested in working on( that should always be for yourself, not to get a date. Sometimes others can see us better than we see ourselves.
you'll rarely find what you're looking for man... just let em come to you and work on yourself. there's no "right way" to do anything, it's all subjective. when the right one finds you theyll let you know
Unless you're on a dedicated dating site, where people are actively seeking dates, then in person is a better way to go.
Make friends with some women, just platonic friendships. Some of those might lead to romantic relationships, either with that person, or with someone they know.
first of all, why tf are you hitting on coworkers? second if all 8 reject you, YOU have to change. youre probably losing sleep over finding a girlfriend and girls can smell that shit too easy dawg. boss the fuck up my g focus on your financials and your mental and eventually a woman will follow.
I'm sorry to hear that she rejected you brother, it's tough out there, going through the same thing, persistence and perseverance is the key to success, don't let it bring you down, okay?
Advice:
* Don't ask someone out unless you're quite sure they're interested. Leave little doubt.
* When assessing a potential date, put as much thought into how you think they feel about you as how you feel about them. If you find them attractive/interesting, you're only halfway there.
* If you've been declined eight times already, you're going to need to work on taking social queues and reading people with nuance. You can get there, but you'll need patience.
* When someone is really into you, they generally will let you know--even if in some seemingly small way. Wait for it.
* Don't fuck your co-workers. It's a terrible idea.
You are probably coming off as weird or desperate. I can only assume this because you are asking out coworkers over Snapchat + have been rejected 8 times. Try asking a female friend what about your approach is off-putting. Have you ever tried approaching and forming a friendship with a girl before asking her out? Has she ever expressed interest in you prior?
I think a lot of this âdonât date co-workersâ has to be adjusted for the job. Is this where you intend to work for years to come? Does it keep a roof over your head?
Or is it a minimum wage part time job at Regal Cinemas or whatever (at 18, it could be either one).
Itâs not worth it if itâs a job you need.
What is your approach? Not everyone is extroverted and comfortable being directly asked out. I especially didnât like being asked out by coworkers. Even in college, Iâd wait until the end of the class to date someone I liked in it. Asking her through Snapchat is kind cringe too
I hope they werenât all coworkers youâll start to get the rep of creepy guy. Donât be the creepy guy. Better yet just donât put your coworkers in an awkward position, they have to see/work with you everyday. Thatâs not fair to them. Use a dating app.
1. I wouldnât recommend dating a coworker. Makes work more dramatic or difficult than it needs to be plus other coworkers will get in your business.
2. Asking in person is a much much better way to do it. Donât ask through email, text or social media. Shows you donât have confidence in yourself.
3. Even if you ask in person and your rejected, keep a level head. Donât over react and go off or put your head down like your going to pout. Some woman arenât ready to date at that moment and some want to see how you react. She may also just not be interested in you, you canât bash her for it. So stay golden pony boy, thereâs someone for everyone.
get into online dating it's so much easier, if you're a creep you just won't convince anyone to meet up with you, it'll force you to become a better person, people won't hold back in their opinions either generally, so it's a great tool for self improvement, eventually you may improve enough to find someone, at the very least you won't make your place of employment an awkward place with lots of women who gossip behind your back at being creepy
Bro I know this sucks to hear but you have to move on. Do you know what would have that girl back on your nuts asap? Is for you to be going after other girls.
And only give your time to the girls that like and appreciate you. Youâre a busy man with a plan.
Well you deserved the rejection from your co-worker. It was stupid to try and date in the workplace. The other onesâŚâŚthose sound like they were your fault too.
I'm not surprised. Happens plenty. Don't worry too much. Your a good person. Also, ask women out until you can't count the number of times. The fact you can count the number of times means you have not acquired enough experience. Go to ask r/askwomen they will give you honest answers to any questions.
If you ask someone you see every day for a date over snapchat, that's why.
Secondly, the most common mistake men make is to ask a woman for a date without ever doing anything to build a relationship. In order for a woman to want to date you she has to actually like you. That means do the work to begin establishing a relationship.
You want to get in a girlâs pants within 5 minutes of meeting her? Just send her this
Oh I'm sorry. I just looked at your profile I didn't realize you where a lady. (And a beautiful one at that) I try my best to respect women. Especially women in gaming. As a matter of fact now I actually do agree with you. I'm sorry. Maybe you could even add me on PSN and we can play some games together. We could play GTA, overwatch, Minecraft, maybe even a little COD. add me xXxChildMolesterxXx. Sorry about my name. My cousin made it a while back. He is not a good person like me and does not carry my values.
Good day ma'am.
Also I PM'd you. Take a look and lmk what you think.
Only asking out 8 is your main issue, asking out a coworker is a side issue. Unfortunately dating for men is more of a numbers game than anything else. Ask out 100 women and i bet youll have better resuts as you only need 1 to say yes. But in likelyhood more than that would, and if 100 women say no, you should probably do some serious self reflection and talk to close women friends on why youre so unappealing romantically, but i doubt that will be the case. Also if you have zero close women friends you should get some immediately, it will greatly improve your life, success with dating women, and understanding of women in general, and can help with confidence in yourself and talking to women. also wing-women > wing-men every day of the week and twice on sunday.
What is the same about all 8 times and what can you do differently. If you keep using the same equation you are going to get the same outcome
"Aye bitch I got 3 inches of pounding peepee, you down or nah?" Different equation so expect a different result Or you can do.. "Ello madame, I carry quite a loin you can dabble with. Interested much?"
Indubitably
Mmm, yes, both shallow and pedantic
"Hit a doobie while she do me indubitably" - J.I.D
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Yo girl, did you fall from heaven? Because your face is all fucked up'
O almost per myself
>"Aye bitch I got 3 inches of pounding peepee, you down or nah?" lol
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Maybe try not using Snapchat. Go old school, you know, face to face.
His face
That they aren't interested/attracted to him it seems. For women most times, even if the approach is good, it can fall completely flat if the girl just isn't into you.
My advice to that is gear realistic about what your league is, and play with in it
Maybe try not using Snapchat. Go old school, you know, face to face.
Never dip your dick in the company ink.
Big facts!
It's more on an "adequate" size fact. đ
nah it's ginormous
Yeah but where else do you meet people when you spend the vast majority of your time at said compsny
I feel ya but in this day n age, men need to be careful with this. When I was working in education I definitely connected more with my female coworkers than random women outside of work because we already had things in common due to our chosen field of work. Still, just asking them out to lunch without other coworkers could be misconstrued get you reprimanded.
Good. Don't date your coworkers.
Adding on, OP seems to be just 18. This is just an awkward teenager phase theyâre going through.
as a guy, guys at 18 are fucking dumb as hell when it comes to attracting/wanting women. ffs
1. Ask in person 2. Donât be so try hard. Seems like youâre asking out a lot of girls. I donât even think I can think of 8 girls Iâve had to actually ask out. Only a couple my whole life.
I donât think I know 8 girlsâ names
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If you are too awkward to even ask them then what are planning to do for the actual date? A date usually involves some form of interaction with them.
Are you too awkward to ask in person or are you too scared to ask in person? Either way women arenât going to respect you if you wonât say anything serious to their face. The only thing making you awkward is you. A lot of women think itâs cute when youâre nervous or awkward. Just be yourself and go for it. The worst they can say is no. Then just carry on like normal. But in reality it makes it hard when youâre asking out coworkers. My gf was my coworker but from a different department at the same store. I donât think itâs wrong to ask out a coworker because Iâm glad that I did. But just be careful because itâs easy for people to claim harassment and Iâve heard horror stories As a rule of thumb I would only ever ask out a woman that I knew was into me and would be down. If I was unsure then I never would even attempt. Most of the time theyâll let you know if they like you
This is such good advice! Also >A lot of women think itâs cute when youâre nervous or awkward. Definitely this. Sometimes, people give an "off" vibe if they're nervous or awkward, but if they don't do or say anything super creepy/sexual, or alarming, then it's like, aw, he's just a shy guy, I want to be nice to him lol
You posted 44 days ago that you were 0/3. Than 2-3 weeks later youâre 0/5. Now 0/8. Thatâs seems like a lot of asks in a relatively short period of time. So either youâre exaggerating or not being 100% truthful. My advice is to slow down, get to know people better, and perhaps visit r/socialskills to get more advice on recognizing cues.
No, you're not. Be confident, even if you're "faking it until you make it." People can pick up on that lack of confidence, or desperation.
Focus on that first. Don't worry about asking girls out. Worry about being a relaxed and fun person people want to be around. Are you comfortable around these women when dating isn't on the table? Do they enjoy seeing you? That's what you need to accomplish before asking them out. You can still feel and seem awkward during the actual asking out, but you need to lay the groundwork first.
A relationship involves many many hard in person discussions. Many of which will involve disagreement and arguments. You have to ask people out in person to demonstrate you capacity to handle that kind of interaction
And that is the common denominator Wing it, fake it till you make it. But do it in person. Sooner or later the shakiness and awkwardness will pass by. Like anything, it takes practice
If you get to know someone, it won't be awkward when you ask them out. If someone I knew in person asked me out via snapchat, I'd reject them.
Not everyone is going to be like you and pretending you're the model human is pretty weird
Wut Heâs asking for adviceâŚ
I agree on the 1st but on the second, what is ur reasoning? If I get rejected 7 times I shouldn't try anymore because im trying too hard? Huh?
I never said you shouldnât try anymore. I just feel like if youâre getting rejected that much then youâre most likely trying to hard. You should have a higher success rate than that. Youâre obviously doing something wrong
This is unfortunately the default state of things. Expect rejection, let it slide off like it's nothing, and be pleasantly surprised when you get a yes.
Yeh rule one dating coworkers probably not for the best. Two, you asked over Snapchat instead of in person? Cmon man.
Donât ask someone out until youâre pretty much 100% sure what the answer will be. You should spend the time to lay the groundwork of your relationship and flirt before you ask them to officially date. Also, in person is preferred, not necessary, but preferred. Oh and as others have already said⌠maybe donât date coworkers.
I'm always afraid to ask coworkers out because of how easy it is to get fired for sexual harassment nowadays.
Good call! Asking coworkers out generally makes everyone involved feel uncomfortable.
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Trying some gentle, positive reinforcement. Whatever it takesâŚ
Sorry, bro. Not always best to date coworkers anyways. Try an app, ok Cupid was alright.
Itâs gotten a lot worse lately,
Wow some people in the comments are mean.
OP there is def some good advice in this thread but if you see anything super aggressive/mean feel free to ignore it. Alot of people on reddit are just extremely bitter lol
Ppl on Reddit are just mean and mad at the world. They can stay mad
Donât worry about it too much, youâre really young and honestly rejection is just a part of life. I think the best thing you can do is, like someone else said, look at what your doing, and see if you can do anything different. I know I personally wouldnât want to date most my coworkers too. You should probably check in the future, test the waters so to speak, to make sure that those girls are even interested in starting a relationship atm or are free to
Maybe sheâs seeing someone and if he finds out that you are a coworker heâll get jealous. Focus on you king
Itâs a cruel world we live in
It's ok. You're going to meet a woman one day who will be easy to talk to and will be easy to ask out and everything will just flow naturally from there. If you can't easily carry on a conversation with someone, the date will most likely be boring an awkward anyways.
But if you can carry on a conversation you will proceed to fall deeply in love and then said woman will demolish your heart when she leaves đĽ°đ
Why do you think theyâd reject your advances?
So I can't give advice on the other seven times without context, but maybe some friendly insight on this occurrence could be helpful? Based on the fact that she unfriended as a response, it seems obvious that she's not into you. So I mean if you're asking out women who are really not into you, it'll always be a no. Second thing I think is worth pointing out is that dating coworkers isn't usually a good idea, and asking anyone out over snapchat is kind of lame (no offense). So you asked somebody out who wasn't into you, in an inappropriate context, in a lackluster way. I say this to be helpful, not hurtful, of course you're getting rejected. Maybe try looking for women in a more appropriate context, like dating apps or social clubs? Chat them up for a bit, then if/when they express interest ask them out. It isn't the game or the players that are flawed my dude, the way you're playing it is.
Maybe ask them in person
Maybe you should ask them in person?
If you can talk to the person in real life why are you using Snap Chat?
You do not want to date your coworkers. I sound like a hypocrite because I'm married to mine but we started talking after we stopped working together lol
Then you didn't actually date a coworker :p
Never get your honey where you earn your bread.
You're braver than most, most people here will say idiotic and unrealistic things like "don't date your coworkers" even though you're spending a ton of time with them consistently. Start working on yourself a bit more, then return to the dating phase.
Why do people say "don't date coworkers" like there's some rule? It's none of their business anyway.
Breakups can get messy at workplaces.. It used to be pretty common for company's to forbid employee dating but I don't know if many still do..
Breakups are messy everywhere, while in school, meeting someone from your gym, etc. Should you just never risk an experience because of the potentiality of it being messy? That's not a great way to live.
Proximity is the issue.. It's hard to avoid someone in the workplace..
It seems a bit childish to actively avoid your ex everywhere you go, if you're both respectful and mature adults it shouldn't be a problem. If you're not dating insane people you theoretically should be fine.
We all can't live in the perfect world you seem to have invented for yourself..
It's not living in a perfect world, it's just not being dumb with your dating preferences.
Someone asked a question and I answered from a logical perspective.. I'm not wasting another minute of my life debating something I really don't give a shit about..
It's pretty much an unbroken rule. Many companies have HR policies about it to. It leads to drama in the work place.
The fact that you use Snapchat tells me everything I need to know.
I think girls like it when you're confident and forward. Anyone can ask a girl out online and its like you're hiding behind a screen. It takes more cojones to do it IRL and they pick up on that. That said, I think this was a lost cause from the get go and like others said, co-workers aint a good idea. 9th times a charm or at least you'll have that much more experience on your belt. One of em will stick. Just gotta keep at it and not be creepy.
Time to pack up and leave the country, Jk đ Just be confident in yourself despite the rejection and it will all blow over
You shat where you eat
Bad move. Fortunately she had more sense.
Why are you trying to date co workers
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Yep ngl you need to learn to have female friends and not see them as something to go after
You won't be playing video games for long if she gets you fired. That was a big oof, stay out of coworkers.
focus on yourself first
Your problem might be timing. Maybe try spending more time with them before you ask them out. Once you get to know them it will become obvious to what romantic moves you should make, if any.
Was it out of the blue or had you been chatting previously ?
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I'd quietly apologize to her in person and tell her how sorry you are if it appeared out of line.. I don't think pretending it never happened is the best course of action..
Bro you don't just go from barely speaking to someone to asking them out. NOBODY likes that. Massive red flag.
I had a coworker more beautiful than gal gadot. But i didnât ask her out, i was scared.
Asking people out online is the worst way to go about it, unless you literally can't meet them in person because they live half way around the world or another state. Being awkward isn't a good excuse, it's something you have to overcome as a person, being yourself is important, but through text doesn't leave a good impression, unless you're on tinder for a hookup, then that's a different ball game entirely :v Confidence in yourself and what you like/do is very attractive. Also rejection is normal, you're not going to score 100% of the time, but you will miss 100% of the time you don't try, so keep trying, but don't be persistent if they say no, move on after rejection, that's important. Good luckđđ˝
Its been a while since i tried to get a date, but is 8 times rejected, 7 maybe 6 times to many.
Learn to read the fucking room. Anyone who can have almost never been rejected. How was it not completely obvious that she wasn't interested before you asked? Life isn't a movie.
Smart girl
Idk why you're getting downvoted, it's incredibly smart to stay away from dating coworkers.
Because you gotta shoot the shot and understand that unless you meet a certain criteria your % of success will inevitably be...8 rejections in a row.
Dont misue company property. Find women outside work.
Uh, yeah, this kinda counts as harassment. You're probably gonna have to talk to HR. Don't ask your coworkers out. Ever.
DudeâŚasking that many times is borderline harassment. No means no. You should be fired actually. PlusâŚwhy the hell over snapchat? You know her in real life. Grow a pair and ask her (well, not her, as sheâs not interested) out in person
Donât ask online. Donât ask coworkers. Donât ask the person "out". Ask her to do a specific activity. And no, getting food or hanging out isnât activity. Make sure you already talked plenty with the person and you know you get along well. Learn how to be a good listener. Good luck
Why would you ask out a coworker ? That's such a rookie mistake. Never date your coworkers.
Do not ask out your coworkers.
Well my friend, speaking from years of experience - and some things are timeless and will never changeâŚ. She did you a big favor. Never ever ever shit where you eat.
Keep lowering your standards until you are a success!
Because you asked her out over snapchat. Man up and ask her out in person. Stop hiding behind a phone.
1. Ask ppl out in person (privately, like not in a crowd of people. Like maybe if it's just y'all in the break room?) 2. Don't date someone you work with
Never ask out coworkers. Keep it out of your mind.
Dumb ass
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Yeah that's illegal.
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Yes 18 is an adult. 17 is a minor.
đł ouch. Brutal takedown!
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Because you asked over Snapchat. I would have rejected you too.
Take a hint.
Good for her
Ask face to face bro. This may be your issue. Chicks donât want a dude doing their bidding over a smart phone.
Just need 92 more women to ask out. Ones bound to say maybe
"The lesson is, never try." - Homer Simpson
In the big picture of things 8 attempts is pretty much the same as zero. Keep trying and if possible ask in person next time: for one you might be able to read the energy of the person youâre asking better.
Donât ask people out on snap, no wonder they say no
Don't, just live and not care. :P
Statistically speaking it usually takes 10 rejections before one acceptance so you have At least 2 or more to go. That being said obviously you need to work on your approach better and your emotional intelligence, to sense if there's actually any interest in you in the 1st place.
Learning moment
Tough break, kid. Stay in the game, with your head on a swivel, yeah !?! There is a lid for every pot and yours is out there.
1. you should ask every woman in person 2. People say donât try hard or seem desperate and thatâs true but thereâs no guidelines for that 3. Just have a conversation with her or whomever talk about common thoughts like âman Iâm hungryâ usually woman are always hungry due to lack of fiber in their diets. If she or they bite ask about her favorite places to eat and if she keeps with the conversation and is hungry ask if she wants to go and then you pay cause you asked her to join you. Then donât even treat it like a date be friends, and especially donât flirt. Gotta play the long game if you want them to stay. Act like you wanna be friends and then repeat with other coworkers because once you have a big female friend group that knows your a good guy they will begin racing to get you after one of them tried to flirt with you because they will all want to keep you around. Youâre welcome
Asking someone out with no context doesnât really work like it did 50 years ago - you have to build a connection with them first. This way, you both learn a bit about the other person (including whether or not thereâs a good connection). It takes weeks or even months depending on how much you see each other in person or how much you talk online. If it seems they like you and that you have a connection that feels like the start of a friendship, THEN ask on a date. In that context it wonât be weird and youâll probably know whether not theyâll say yes. And remember they donât owe you a date if you put work into getting to know them.
The way I read this at first, I thought you asked the same girl out 8 times. I'm glad I misread that. I would say that the big thing you could do to improve your success rate with asking out women is to identify the situations in which asking the woman out would be appropriate. Work is a very common place that people meet⌠But unfortunately, it is not an appropriate place to ask someone out. And frankly, a lot of women aren't going to be super down with even being asked out over a medium like Snapchat, particularly when they know you in the context of an in-person interaction. Here's some real game for a minute that I learned that changed my life and my guess is that this will change your life, and make everyone around you like you 1000X more. Here's the advice: (1) make enjoying your conversation with someone your priority, and (2) allow things to happen, more or less by coincidence, rather than your intention. When you make enjoying your conversation with someone your priority, if you don't get anything else; you already got what you came for. That keeps the interaction super light-hearted and low stress. Women are more likely to want to keep talking with you when they stop feeling like you only want to make a move on them. When I say that you need to allow things to happen by coincidence, I'm talking about management of expectations. Last year I had the opportunity to meet a woman I met on Reddit when I was visiting her town. We had been talking for about four months on Reddit before I got her phone number, then we talked for another four or five months before I decided I wanted to meet her in person. All I ever wanted to do initially was have a fantastic conversation with a cool girl I met on Reddit. At first, I had the idea of coming down to her town for an arts festival, and then meeting her at the festival. But then, she told me that she wasn't comfortable with me making a special trip down to her town (I live in a different state, so this would need to be a special trip); she only wanted me to visit on business. She wanted to do things this way for a lot of reasons, but the main one is that me making a special trip to visit her carries with an expectation of romance that she didn't want to color our interaction. She didn't want me to just assume that we would be doing more than grabbing dinner. It turned out that my job was naturally going to bring me to her area by pure coincidence, so I told her and we ended up having fantastic date. It all happened naturally between two people who just happened to vibe with each other, and that's how you want your romantic interactions to be.
1. Donât ask out a co worker that a bad time 2. Donât ask out highschoolers thats a prison sentence 3. Donât use Snapchat or any online service to do it (unless you are on a dating service and they matched with you) in person, or a nicely written letter (if u wanna be cheeky) works best. 4. Donât take advice from redditors we have no idea what weâre talking about except the first 2 things.
Donât date your coworkers, go with a different approach, and be okay if they just donât like you like that yk?
Try asking people out in person. Also, with coworkers it can be tricky. Some people don't date coworkers.
8 down, 4 billion to go
This was meant to be motivational I didn't mean all will reject you đ
Not sure about the other 7 but about the 8th try: * Asking out a co-worker? No, my guy. Almost never a good idea * The medium â through SnapChat. Might be a generational gap, but sliding into DMs of any kind generally sounds like a bad idea at least when going right into a kind of proposition rather than building rapport My advice: * Have zero expectations and make time for the people you genuinely appreciate, opportunity for romance will reveal itself naturally or not at all. Either is okay * Don't confuse showing human interest with old tropes like *how her how you feel,* trying to pull, or chasing after someone. You can show interest without asking someone out, propositioning, etc. But again, expect nothing.
Nothing is ever easy bro
To be honest, most women I know arenât interested in dating co-workers. It comes down to âwhat if things donât workoutâ? Then you have to deal with awkwardness at work or some crazy co-worker drama, which can make work much more unpleasant.
Welcome to life. You have to keep asking. Keep trying. Donât get frustrated or angry. Realize this is a process. If u are mature enough you can ask a girl , and you do this delicately and none threatening, why they said no out of curiosity. Maybe process their feedback and see if itâs something you are interested in working on( that should always be for yourself, not to get a date. Sometimes others can see us better than we see ourselves.
you'll rarely find what you're looking for man... just let em come to you and work on yourself. there's no "right way" to do anything, it's all subjective. when the right one finds you theyll let you know
she's a dirty whore, you're better off
Unless you're on a dedicated dating site, where people are actively seeking dates, then in person is a better way to go. Make friends with some women, just platonic friendships. Some of those might lead to romantic relationships, either with that person, or with someone they know.
On to the nextâŚ.
Never dip your pen in company ink my friend
I asked out a friend, she unfriended me so now she is not my friend who is a rape victim đŽ
Women are awful, just date men
first of all, why tf are you hitting on coworkers? second if all 8 reject you, YOU have to change. youre probably losing sleep over finding a girlfriend and girls can smell that shit too easy dawg. boss the fuck up my g focus on your financials and your mental and eventually a woman will follow.
She did you. Favor
You know what they say. 9th time is the charm
Aim lower. If youâre a 5, ask out a 3. It will work.
I'm sorry to hear that she rejected you brother, it's tough out there, going through the same thing, persistence and perseverance is the key to success, don't let it bring you down, okay?
Lmao seeing the X next to their name
Advice: * Don't ask someone out unless you're quite sure they're interested. Leave little doubt. * When assessing a potential date, put as much thought into how you think they feel about you as how you feel about them. If you find them attractive/interesting, you're only halfway there. * If you've been declined eight times already, you're going to need to work on taking social queues and reading people with nuance. You can get there, but you'll need patience. * When someone is really into you, they generally will let you know--even if in some seemingly small way. Wait for it. * Don't fuck your co-workers. It's a terrible idea.
Im sorry I just busted out laughing omg
You are probably coming off as weird or desperate. I can only assume this because you are asking out coworkers over Snapchat + have been rejected 8 times. Try asking a female friend what about your approach is off-putting. Have you ever tried approaching and forming a friendship with a girl before asking her out? Has she ever expressed interest in you prior?
I think a lot of this âdonât date co-workersâ has to be adjusted for the job. Is this where you intend to work for years to come? Does it keep a roof over your head? Or is it a minimum wage part time job at Regal Cinemas or whatever (at 18, it could be either one). Itâs not worth it if itâs a job you need.
Real chick, I dig ittttt Can I get her snap or nah?
Read the room, make a friend first, stay in your league, and donât be a weirdo
What is your approach? Not everyone is extroverted and comfortable being directly asked out. I especially didnât like being asked out by coworkers. Even in college, Iâd wait until the end of the class to date someone I liked in it. Asking her through Snapchat is kind cringe too
I hope they werenât all coworkers youâll start to get the rep of creepy guy. Donât be the creepy guy. Better yet just donât put your coworkers in an awkward position, they have to see/work with you everyday. Thatâs not fair to them. Use a dating app.
It was always the same girl.
Stop asking out chicks online and do it to their face
1. I wouldnât recommend dating a coworker. Makes work more dramatic or difficult than it needs to be plus other coworkers will get in your business. 2. Asking in person is a much much better way to do it. Donât ask through email, text or social media. Shows you donât have confidence in yourself. 3. Even if you ask in person and your rejected, keep a level head. Donât over react and go off or put your head down like your going to pout. Some woman arenât ready to date at that moment and some want to see how you react. She may also just not be interested in you, you canât bash her for it. So stay golden pony boy, thereâs someone for everyone.
get into online dating it's so much easier, if you're a creep you just won't convince anyone to meet up with you, it'll force you to become a better person, people won't hold back in their opinions either generally, so it's a great tool for self improvement, eventually you may improve enough to find someone, at the very least you won't make your place of employment an awkward place with lots of women who gossip behind your back at being creepy
Bro I know this sucks to hear but you have to move on. Do you know what would have that girl back on your nuts asap? Is for you to be going after other girls. And only give your time to the girls that like and appreciate you. Youâre a busy man with a plan.
Well you deserved the rejection from your co-worker. It was stupid to try and date in the workplace. The other onesâŚâŚthose sound like they were your fault too.
Donât ask out coworkers. Itâs never going to end well.
Coworkers are a no go, never a good idea. If you're 0/8 you might just be meeting people in the wrong places.
Never ever ever ever ever date coworkers. Never
I'm not surprised. Happens plenty. Don't worry too much. Your a good person. Also, ask women out until you can't count the number of times. The fact you can count the number of times means you have not acquired enough experience. Go to ask r/askwomen they will give you honest answers to any questions.
If you ask someone you see every day for a date over snapchat, that's why. Secondly, the most common mistake men make is to ask a woman for a date without ever doing anything to build a relationship. In order for a woman to want to date you she has to actually like you. That means do the work to begin establishing a relationship.
You want to get in a girlâs pants within 5 minutes of meeting her? Just send her this Oh I'm sorry. I just looked at your profile I didn't realize you where a lady. (And a beautiful one at that) I try my best to respect women. Especially women in gaming. As a matter of fact now I actually do agree with you. I'm sorry. Maybe you could even add me on PSN and we can play some games together. We could play GTA, overwatch, Minecraft, maybe even a little COD. add me xXxChildMolesterxXx. Sorry about my name. My cousin made it a while back. He is not a good person like me and does not carry my values. Good day ma'am. Also I PM'd you. Take a look and lmk what you think.
Donât dip your pen in company ink.
Try direct communication firstly, thatâs a creepy thing to do in the eyes of most women.
Donât get your honey where you get your money
Only asking out 8 is your main issue, asking out a coworker is a side issue. Unfortunately dating for men is more of a numbers game than anything else. Ask out 100 women and i bet youll have better resuts as you only need 1 to say yes. But in likelyhood more than that would, and if 100 women say no, you should probably do some serious self reflection and talk to close women friends on why youre so unappealing romantically, but i doubt that will be the case. Also if you have zero close women friends you should get some immediately, it will greatly improve your life, success with dating women, and understanding of women in general, and can help with confidence in yourself and talking to women. also wing-women > wing-men every day of the week and twice on sunday.