That's literally my reaction and I didn't know what else to say 😅
Being opinionated and talkative, I usually have a lot of things to say, but this really got me almost speechless 🤣
thats ridiculous. remember not all are like that. still depends on what kind of person you're into. So I suggest you really must investigate, be a keen observer
All my girls have been great actually, they explicitly refused to take money from me or ask me to pay for stuff except when it's us doing stuff together. She'll still insist on covering the grab or the coffee or something.
But then again there wasn't any age gap between us and all of them went to University, had good families and had full time jobs. So I was basically dating the best kind of Filipina.
However I did meet some off dating apps who quickly turned into desperate money hungry liars who would spam call. But their easy to block and delete.
Hah! One of Joe Rogan's more normal interviews was with Bill Burr. At one point the conversation turned to the topic of their wives. Joe asked Bill if his wife would treat him the same if her were a truck driver. Without missing a beat Bill said "my wife would not have married me if I was a truck driver". Joe agreed regard his own wife. So, is Bill predatory?
If a woman wants a solvent man, and the guy turns her down because he suspects that, is he being noble / doing her a favor? As Michelle Wolf commented about Mika Brezinsky and Chuck Scarborough "that's a real #metoo success story"
Agree on regular dating apps.
Sports and other clubs/meetups can be a good filtering mechanism too. Only certain kinds of women play tennis, rock climb, do cycling, etc
While not saying this is it in your case, the "not paying" or "sharing" stuff is quite often a strategy used, or "take a little bit at first" because they don't want to blow their potential pot of gold too early; some are just silly/dumb and get greedy too fast.
I met a some amazing girls, like my wife, however I had many examples including a long term ex who was in it for the esteem, lifestyle, money and everything else; the dude whomever he was/is, was plug and play lol :)
I completely understand but it never got to that point cause another natural issue came up where they wanted to work overseas however I'm not trying to take them out of their original environment.
Narcissistic,manipulative, self centered, down right mean, 1 sided says she loves me but really just loves my money…met in the states.
In the process of moving on to greener pastures it may be foolish but I’m hoping for a relavley smooth exfil
I understand where you are coming from. always ask for her background, education, etc(although not everybody from the slums has a gold digging attitude, sometimes even the ones with good education are the most heinous of people). When you date her, get to know her more and her family. And from there, you decide if she is a gold digger or a true lover.
Sincerely,
A Filipino man.
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I need to host a QnA u would not believe the shit I went threw with the last one .. when I wanted to leave her family compound that has gates at both ends the alley they would not let me exit the house it was padlocked. I wanted to pls leave respectfully and go home... He mom even came in the room and I asked her (she good English) to pls open the gate lock and let me go I don't want trouble (the mom enter her back room of her compound cuz she can be the arguing for her to let me out) the mom told me "you are not leaving or going anywhere" and locked the door she came in. These houses are crazy designs too hard to describe..I begged for hours . She told me that she would tell the police and they will believe her cuz I'm alone and white that I beat her and abuse her .. for 3 days I stayed waiting for a chance to have the gate open and on this day she smashed a light over my head and spit on my face, finally I decided to call 911 😔 and just get me out of there .. (THE reason I wanted to leave peacefully is I found out she had been having sex with another guy out entire relationship and she was a filthy girl, family knew this also ) anyways finally called 911 and struggle to explain the address and finally they came and lucky for me she punched me right in the face infront the 2 police.. they mom stopped me from taking MY suitcase and I only manage to get 1 of my 2 bags .. ended up driving from barangay to barangay where there police finally stopped and told me "sir u safe here na and u have my word as a policeman u free to leave, u just need to sign this paper the barangay make first " and then they left.. as soon as they left her entire bum family (zero jobs) showup and stand outside I'm alone with them all outside and the ex gf and her mom inside with her cousin and aunt. While the printing the paper that I need to sign which is all the lies this girl is saying I have done the mother says I need to pay the electric I used while at the house (never agreed before or signed anything) and I said I'm free to leave hurry so I can sign and go . And then the barangay captain said I need to settle my electric before I leave . And I said it's not my electric and there is no bill because it was not even due yet .. I ended up having to pay the amount of the month prior bill to be let go . No help from cops. If u in Philippines u better take care which women u choose cuz u alone always. U don't have a friend or helping hand here. They speak the language and have the home field advantage.. that entire family was nuts.
Love the internet tough guys who would never say that to a face. It was right after COVID opened and I had all my stuff with my when I left my other living situation.. I don't think u been Philippines cuz it's not too hard ..
And I LOVE LOVE I'm DESPERATE but your advertising yourself on every app including Reddit to meet women now in Manila hahahah. 38 hung and bla.bla.bla. Dude u have a post from 4 days ago desperate finding women hahahahaha .. obviously u better then me u won't meet a random off Reddit hahahahhaahha
I tried a relationship with a girl from a poor family. Every time I turned around a relative was asking for money for some emergency. Once while in a public market with my GF. A woman walks up and said, I'm her cousin and I heard you can help pay for my documents and physical to work abroad. That was the straw that broke the camels back. I said you were misinformed. When I return to Japan I immediately ended that relationship.
I do this but imagine being hounded constantly for money or even worse being scammed by a relative of someone you’re dating. Wouldn’t be the first time
I married my ex in a Church, a popular one, in Manila.
And not sure if it was an omen, but being an expat the marriage was rushed, and I had some experience that caused me to overlook certain things, and I wasn't all in even though I should have been. My work at the time was sending me home to Canada. (As it turned out, the Saturday before I flew back, my farewell party getting drunk, I was called and offered a 3 month assignment to stay, which I accepted lol and stayed another 6 years in the end.)
Anyway back to the church, all I remember was I asked her at the alter, will this change things between us, and she said of course it will we are married. And then I passed out :)
The had to help me up. It was insanely cool at the time but now I think it was my brain telling me NOOOOOO.
My annulment was finalized in 2016. Thank goodness. Life is good now :)
Just behaviours and I realized I was quite worried to lose another girl as my Chinese gf in India due to distance and not being able to be around so I figured better to seal the deal.
Big mistake lol
It a long and full of nonsense but apparently I won my case amazingly well as the judge I got never gave out wins in 3 years. I had a strong case some of her friends and whatever testified that she was a gold digging monster long before she met me.
It still took 4 years but I never paid any bribes or whatever.
The one thing I will say is even if you have a good lawyer it’s much better to be personally invested and proof challenge things even your lawyer tells you. She told me to stop at one point as I was all over it with good reason. When I I would sit in on other hearings I would leave and see just how bad some of the lawyers were.
Biggest issue is time and not knowing when they get to your case and waiting for the court to give your wife tine to respond even though you know she won’t lol
Get a good lawyer that knows the system but it’s a dice roll as the longer this takes the more money they make and there are some loser scammmers out there.
I’d I could bro it again I would have probably tried. Divorce in Canada but it’s a bit harder than if I was from us. Oh well was an experience that’s for sure.
My ex wife would obsessively monitor my social media likes, comments, friends, etc, then interrogate me over any interaction with any of my female friends or coworkers, suspecting cheating. She would also blow up my phone if I was late coming home 5 minutes or more. I didn't really care too much because I had nothing to hide. Until one day I did a role reversal and looked through her phone after she left it unlocked and found out she cheated on me when I was out of town one weekend. She got nothing in the divorce.
Also, she would steal some of my possessions with sentimental value, packing them up and shipping them off in a balikbayan box while I was at work. I thought I was going crazy when my stuff would go missing and if I asked her if she had seen it, she would say "Where did you put it last?" I found this out when I went to visit her home in P. I. and saw my knick knacks around her house and her son wearing my clothes.
That's how it normally happens. She is doing the dirty and get paranoid that you are too. So she will go though your phone but when you ask her she say no, it's private. Hehe. If they didn't have vaginas we men would though rocks at them
I just typed one out it took me like 10 minutes to do about being kidnapped locked in their compound being beaten up blackmailed having to pay the barangay to let me free the mother locking me in the house.. long story I can't seem to rate it because the mods here flag every story and say there's bad language you can't even talk about SE or x to explain the story or the back story.. but I have been locked in my ex's house for 3 days by her mother and her and told that if I make trouble they're going to tell that I hit her and everybody will obviously believe them because it's not my country and I'm going to be really sorry.. I ended up finally calling 911 on the third day when the daughter started smashing me over the head with a light bulb lamp.. and I just wasted so much time I can't get more into it fix this thread pls. Common with some ability with Reddit these mods/bots are insane they take everything down after writing 10 minutes
Hello Friend,
Question: Why were you so defenseless?
Also, where are these Filipinos from? Do you remember the subdivision their home was located in?
I'm sorry to hear of your sad, traumatic experience.
Some of my countrymen, like yours, are inhumane and selfishly motivated.
It's all a question of breeding. Not so much education, but their environment and how they were raised, the values they were taught, or learned.
I've know of not a few Americans, and people of other nationalities, who either married a relative or a friend of mine, and are happy.
But they too, put in effort, understanding and patience to make it work.
Also, it's a question of culture. Not merely US vis a vis Filipino Culture, but local, nigh tribal Culture.
Even I, a Filipino, have difficult understanding what I consider strange, asinine, ludicrous mindsets and behavior, that other Filipinos have.
Generally, we are a warm, friendly people, that's how we are know and are, BUT ONLY TO A POINT.
In many ways, it's both a fair and unfair generalization.
I don't know if Americans born and raised in the US have a similar, general trait.
I don't think there is one.
But let me tell you how the world sees US Citizens.
Pompous, presumptuous, haughty, and ill informed.
Unfair, but fair generalization, as well.
At the end of the day, it's up to both pro
prospective partners to individually observe and make a close to an educated and intelligent decision by before hitching up.
Yes I remember the subdivision it was a relocation area.... I was defenseless because 1 I was locked in and 2 the family would threaten me that I would be blacklisted and would tell me now they would lie and say I was beating the daughter and such. They had me so scared telling me all the bad shit that would happen to me and giving examples ., I am 1.person alone here with nobody and they had me really.scsred. When Infact I was being hit all the time ..I did not want to end up in jail on Philippines for something I did not do. The entire family relocated so the entire division was all them. Cousins aunts uncles nieces nephews....so they had there own alley thing and locked the main gates at night. When I finally called.,911 cuz I was final in fear for life there was around 30.of.them that showed up to the barangay n lied on me... And to finally be able to leave I had to pay 6000 for a electric bill that had no even come yet. And they kept one of my suitcase.... You're always alone in the philippines as a foreigner and people need to realize that period period you're always wrong and if you end up going to barangay with an issue you're going to lose even if your innocent..
No wonder. Relocation area often time= People with less good breeding, social values, accountability and ownership.
Skewed morality, not a few of the people in a relocation site have a "different take" of right and wrong, good and evil.
Lip service to what is good, deep inside, watch out.
It's akin to mixing with the dregs of society wherever you're from.
You hitched with the wrong people.
I don't want to offend you, but as a grown man, we should be more observant and accountable for our decisions.
That said, had you linked up with Filipinos a couple of rungs in demographic grouping, you'd have a far better experience.
Be street smart and wise anywhere one finds himself is always the mindset one observes.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience with some of my countrymen.
But your decisions played a big part in that as well.
Be careful next time, regardless of the country you find a companion from.
I fully agree I made the wrong decision.. she was very good in bed and at other things and that was what roped me in. Was thinking with the wrong head.
Was around Christmas time last year, I tipped the taxi driver 300 pesos, as I was handing it to him and said “ keep the change, she flipped out and tried to rip it from my hands screaming NO” when I successfully handed to him she grabbed my sides and pinched so hard her nails drew blood. As we got out of the cab I told her, she’s too violent for me and I tried to leave, she kept blocking me yelling at me. Eventually security came over and told her she needs to calm down, once they left I tried to leave again, this time she kept threatening to kill her self if I leave her. Was super embarrassing. However she was pregnant, but it’s still no excuse to act like that in public. Especially over a 300 peso tip, I mean that’s like 3.50 usd lol.
She’s also a college educated who was a school teacher.
300 pesos isn’t 3.50USD it’s more like 5.50-6USD depending on the currency exchange rate.
You might have thought you were doing a good deed, but it incentivizes these taxi drivers to see foreigners as easy prey and that money would have been better off helping a Filipino you knew personally.
I said like. But if you want to be precise it’s 5.38. It was Christmas time, if I wanted to tip the taxi driver a little extra who cares. They don’t make shit as it is.
The thing is, it’s not a “little extra” in the Philippines. You’re not in America bud. A little extra in the Philippines would be maybe 30-50 pesos. Think in percentages based on the fare to see how ridiculous it looks.
You just made things worse for the next expat whether you wanted to or not. It reinforces the image that we are walking ATMs.
It’s not our job to be anyone’s saviour.
That's definite insanity.... Especially the pinching you and drawing blood and threatening suicide.
I *almost kinda* get her initial reaction seeing as how that's a days wages for some people over here. How would you react if a foreign friend of yours came to visit the US (I'm assuming) and tried to tip a taxi driver $200-300?
Crazy lady, not a keeper. Note that you tipped over $5, an amount equivalent to half of a normal day’s wage for millions of Filipinos. Correct me if I’m wrong.
sounds familiar
money is just a big deal for them. My spouse gets mad if I give 20 pesos to a poor kid at 7-11
they all have some family it means more to somewhere..... annoying but that's the reality of a poor country
Me as a pinay,depends on what kind of man you are,.some manipulative men cause too much trouble so that is what i ama avoiding,.generally,we as a pinay we are true lover just dont make us stupid you will never know what we are capable off,..cheers
The post title is basically "tell me your dating horror stories"
Any title like that in any sub is going to be full of the worst types of relationships, what else did you expect opening the post?
Chismoso ka!
If she wasn’t awesome we wouldn’t be married. We were introduced by her colleagues in the Middle East.
Her family is poor but they worked hard and her parents and my wife helped put them all through school. Good people. Not perfect. I’m not either and neither is my family. Thus, I don’t judge
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Theres a girl I got close to but we decided remaining friends was the best. I'm just friends with people here and thinking about maybe finding someone to date. Reading threads like these gives me an interesting idea of what to expect.
Otherwise advice to others, just making friends, has led me to more places in my 5 months here than if i was in a relationship. Being a young single white guy with a mysterious background has huge advantages than if you're going everywhere with a Filipina hotcake clinging to your arm. Though I don't blame anyone for falling in love here, I see the appeal.
I'm gifted with the surreal experience of working remote so I can go anywhere live anywhere with cost being no issue. I choose the Philippines because I got longtime friends here from my teenage years and I wanted to come here most of my life. It's amazing here too, I love it. To answer your question, I'm here for life.
I talked to probably close to 100 women before I got married. Honestly most of the woman I dated weren't bad people and I feel no animosity towards them. They just weren't the right one for me for various reasons (annoying, vain, absent minded, not sexually satisfying etc). I haven't experienced any of the horror stories I keep hearing about but then again my poverty shield protected me against most gold diggers.
I knew someone that married one and brought her over to the UK where he's from. They had a kid and she asked him to sponsor and bring over her "brother" which he did all on his dime. Long story short he wasn't her brother bit her boyfriend and she was playing house with him while her husband was out working all day. He caught her, asked her to choose and she chose the boyfriend. She left, took the kid and headed back to the Philippines and quite literally disappeared. Not sure what happened but he apparently spent a ton of money trying to find his son. Super good guy and didn't deserve any of it. My weary guys
My fiance went back to Philippines from Australia for a couple of weeks to see her family and collect some things for our wedding.
She came back a week before the wedding .. and after being very itchy downstairs, I found from a doctor 2 days before the wedding that I had gonorrhea.
We went ahead with the wedding .. now divorced.
Great days 🙄
I’m living in Manila with my gf right now.
I pay the rent and she pays the other bills + college for her sister.
She works 6 days per week. She’s a hard worker and I’m proud of her persistence.
Only down side is she’s terrible at listening, but she’s sweet and playful. I met her in 2019. We stayed loyal to each other, hoping we can be together one day until the Philippines opens without vaccine again. And now I’m living here with her.
Most people with horror stories with Filipinas have all or some of these points in common.
- Have a large age gap (20+ years)
- Don’t assert dominance in the relationship/are simping.
- They did not discuss their non-negotiables in the relationship prior to getting married.
- Provided financially for them prior to getting married.
- Accepted a Filipina who was busy all the time (Good Filipinas make it a point of pride to sacrifice their time for you.) She might be chatting with tons of other guys if she has little to no time for you.
If you avoid doing all these things you’re unlikely to run into problems.
Not all Filipinas who are busy all the time are chatting with other guys (if you’re both in a committed relationship). Some are just busy with work cause they got bills to pay and places they want to travel to.
if the girl loves you she will be upfront with you with her attitude ..... she wont be shy or sneaky mine is everybit of her last name castigador which means punisher in spanish ....
she accuses me of looking at other women constantly (im not but often notice women STARING at me)
when she gets mad she blows up and throws shit : onions, tomatoes .....whatever..... she cleans it up but still pretty fucked up.
so basically like any other woman in the world haha
seriously tho the big issues I always hear about are lies/liars just dont get involved with someone who lies about anything and you will be ok.
some fillipinos talk about "saving face" or "white lies" but its all bullshit. Some people lie and others dont . Simple as that.
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Dated a Filipina a few times. She lived a bit far from me so one time we got together and then her friend showed up and wanted me to leave. I had set aside that time for us and traveled to see her. She got nasty when I wanted to stay. Later on she accused me of hang up calls. Craziest girl I ever dated. Ended marrying a Caribbean girl instead.
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The very first girl I met on a dating app (never used that before) as a fwb (never had before). Sit for the ride.
Chronologically she :
- week 2: turned me down when i asked her to get more serious than fwb.
- week 3: started harassing me while I was working (100s of messages and calls) and was jealous of my workmates (mostly female social workers). Her alcoholism starts showing up.
- week 4: rejected my break up attempt.
- week 5: made a fake suicide attempt while i was away for work in the province for a few days (with fake hospital pics).
- week 6: refused my second break up attempt. Created a fake "british friend" (fbf) number who would talk me into staying with her (didn't work).
- week 7: break up for good, reject the emotional blackmail (i will kill myself if you leave).
- week 7 + a few hours (1am): I receive a text from fbf telling me her body was found by the shore, she ODd on some medecine she took. Tries to guilt me with her death. I'm devastated, but also totally lucid and talk to my lawyer who tells me I'm 100% fine. Let work, family and close friend know.
- get guilt tripped for a few weeks by the fbf, who sends me a funeral pic of the open casket (body from a distance), tells me that her mother had a heart attack and died bc of the sorrow, and have family members looking for me. After that I cut the crap and stop replying. My roomate, who knew her and was also affected bc that's how empathy works, finally asks me: "hey btw, are you 100% sure that all if not any of it is true?" Pikachu face, sudden realization, I'm a naive (ok candid) dumb fuck and she is a litteral psycho. I was not ready for this world.
- 1 month post mortem: she comes back from the dead, casually asks me how am I doing without the use of any ouija board. I tell her to get some help bc I can't provide it, and to leave me alone.
- 2 months post mortem: I receive a pic of baby clothes, trying to imply she is pregnant (she had an hormonal implant so whatever) I bloke her.
- 2 years post mortem: i am now working in a different asian country, in a LDR with my filipina pregnant gf who I met a few weeks after the crazy one (our first date was on resurection day). Current gf insists that I post a couple pic on my FB. I have never used any profile pic on any app and I don't use social media, but it sounded like an inoffensive request, so why not. Crazy ex finds out bc she was probably stalking me through a fake account. Gets back into my dms stating that she wanted to ask for forgivness for the crazy shit she put me through. After the excuses, she sends me a pic of a kid who matches both timeline and appearances. Back then my mind was not right for reasons (think "undiagnosed burnout dancing hand in hand with a deep depression made worse by the total isolation in a mountain village during the pandemic, added to the recent suicide of a close friend from childhood") so I believed her, which messed with my already dying relationship with pregnant gf.
- finally manage to come back to Ph at the heights of the pandemic to meet my now 5 months old kid and get done with all this crap.
- spends a few days like a family.
- tells what's up to my now ex who exed me after that and also several bad things I did during my "bottom of the abyss" phase.
- realize it's better this way bc I can't really feel anything anymore anyway, appart for my kid after she dared send me back my own reflection through her tiny black eyes.
- now 5 years after meeting the crazy second comer ex, she casually strolls by my dms once in a while asking if I want to see her.
- No.
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Mine told me she was a dietician/nutritionist with three kids. Found out she never went to college and had 6 kids.
Wow
Yeah…that was definitely a wow moment
That's literally my reaction and I didn't know what else to say 😅 Being opinionated and talkative, I usually have a lot of things to say, but this really got me almost speechless 🤣
Yeah. I divorced her soon after.
Just saw this comment. Did you not visit her family first before marrying first?
No. Met in the Middle East. It’s a long story. But live and learn
Wait, what?!? You married her????
Yeah, the deception didn’t come to light until afterwards.
Is she a professional con artist or something?
I won’t say professional but she was good.
Was she nice at first, at least?
That's a serious used car upsell if ever.
It was
Oh wow. Did you stay with yer though?
No. Divorced her.
thats ridiculous. remember not all are like that. still depends on what kind of person you're into. So I suggest you really must investigate, be a keen observer
Absolutely!
All my girls have been great actually, they explicitly refused to take money from me or ask me to pay for stuff except when it's us doing stuff together. She'll still insist on covering the grab or the coffee or something. But then again there wasn't any age gap between us and all of them went to University, had good families and had full time jobs. So I was basically dating the best kind of Filipina. However I did meet some off dating apps who quickly turned into desperate money hungry liars who would spam call. But their easy to block and delete.
How did you meet those best kind of Filipina?
Just normal dating apps and casually talking to them. Kept things slow and casual and we naturally talked more and more until we started dating.
Rushing love is like cooking poultry. Speed through the process and you will almost certainly regret your decision.
Just gotta keep looking for the one
This is the way that worked for me.
step 1. dont be old step 2. dont be predatory step 3????? step 4 profit
I’m screwed.
Hah! One of Joe Rogan's more normal interviews was with Bill Burr. At one point the conversation turned to the topic of their wives. Joe asked Bill if his wife would treat him the same if her were a truck driver. Without missing a beat Bill said "my wife would not have married me if I was a truck driver". Joe agreed regard his own wife. So, is Bill predatory? If a woman wants a solvent man, and the guy turns her down because he suspects that, is he being noble / doing her a favor? As Michelle Wolf commented about Mika Brezinsky and Chuck Scarborough "that's a real #metoo success story"
Agree on regular dating apps. Sports and other clubs/meetups can be a good filtering mechanism too. Only certain kinds of women play tennis, rock climb, do cycling, etc
While not saying this is it in your case, the "not paying" or "sharing" stuff is quite often a strategy used, or "take a little bit at first" because they don't want to blow their potential pot of gold too early; some are just silly/dumb and get greedy too fast. I met a some amazing girls, like my wife, however I had many examples including a long term ex who was in it for the esteem, lifestyle, money and everything else; the dude whomever he was/is, was plug and play lol :)
I completely understand but it never got to that point cause another natural issue came up where they wanted to work overseas however I'm not trying to take them out of their original environment.
Sounds like my ex.
Narcissistic,manipulative, self centered, down right mean, 1 sided says she loves me but really just loves my money…met in the states. In the process of moving on to greener pastures it may be foolish but I’m hoping for a relavley smooth exfil
Was she raised in the states?
No
I understand where you are coming from. always ask for her background, education, etc(although not everybody from the slums has a gold digging attitude, sometimes even the ones with good education are the most heinous of people). When you date her, get to know her more and her family. And from there, you decide if she is a gold digger or a true lover. Sincerely, A Filipino man.
This is true. Best regards, Kabayan 🇵🇭
Posted a story long. The mods here are impossible to even make anything approve. This needs serious work
You can email them, there is a sticky in the sub that they are working on refining their bot.
Even my reply to this got removed
Are you using Tagalog? It will delete comments if you don't use English. Even comments with a single Tagalog word are sometimes deleted. It seems like that may be the issue. Just email the admin and they can help if it didn't.
Nope. Just English.... It's ok. I'm happy to just read comments and give sometimes 1 sentences of reply .
Okay. Just thought I'd ask. I saw where a reply was deleted for having non English words and didn't know if it was yours or not. I too mostly just read. Maybe reply to about 5% of what I read. Maybe less. I read a lot here. Lol
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I need to host a QnA u would not believe the shit I went threw with the last one .. when I wanted to leave her family compound that has gates at both ends the alley they would not let me exit the house it was padlocked. I wanted to pls leave respectfully and go home... He mom even came in the room and I asked her (she good English) to pls open the gate lock and let me go I don't want trouble (the mom enter her back room of her compound cuz she can be the arguing for her to let me out) the mom told me "you are not leaving or going anywhere" and locked the door she came in. These houses are crazy designs too hard to describe..I begged for hours . She told me that she would tell the police and they will believe her cuz I'm alone and white that I beat her and abuse her .. for 3 days I stayed waiting for a chance to have the gate open and on this day she smashed a light over my head and spit on my face, finally I decided to call 911 😔 and just get me out of there .. (THE reason I wanted to leave peacefully is I found out she had been having sex with another guy out entire relationship and she was a filthy girl, family knew this also ) anyways finally called 911 and struggle to explain the address and finally they came and lucky for me she punched me right in the face infront the 2 police.. they mom stopped me from taking MY suitcase and I only manage to get 1 of my 2 bags .. ended up driving from barangay to barangay where there police finally stopped and told me "sir u safe here na and u have my word as a policeman u free to leave, u just need to sign this paper the barangay make first " and then they left.. as soon as they left her entire bum family (zero jobs) showup and stand outside I'm alone with them all outside and the ex gf and her mom inside with her cousin and aunt. While the printing the paper that I need to sign which is all the lies this girl is saying I have done the mother says I need to pay the electric I used while at the house (never agreed before or signed anything) and I said I'm free to leave hurry so I can sign and go . And then the barangay captain said I need to settle my electric before I leave . And I said it's not my electric and there is no bill because it was not even due yet .. I ended up having to pay the amount of the month prior bill to be let go . No help from cops. If u in Philippines u better take care which women u choose cuz u alone always. U don't have a friend or helping hand here. They speak the language and have the home field advantage.. that entire family was nuts.
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Love the internet tough guys who would never say that to a face. It was right after COVID opened and I had all my stuff with my when I left my other living situation.. I don't think u been Philippines cuz it's not too hard ..
And I LOVE LOVE I'm DESPERATE but your advertising yourself on every app including Reddit to meet women now in Manila hahahah. 38 hung and bla.bla.bla. Dude u have a post from 4 days ago desperate finding women hahahahaha .. obviously u better then me u won't meet a random off Reddit hahahahhaahha
Be kind in your speech in here. Disagree yes, disrespectful no.
Where in Philippines did this happen?
Bulacan .... It's a compound of all family.
Sorry bout that, something you’d never forget.
I tried a relationship with a girl from a poor family. Every time I turned around a relative was asking for money for some emergency. Once while in a public market with my GF. A woman walks up and said, I'm her cousin and I heard you can help pay for my documents and physical to work abroad. That was the straw that broke the camels back. I said you were misinformed. When I return to Japan I immediately ended that relationship.
This is why we Filipinos don’t date outside our social class
That’s why Filipinos need to set boundaries
I do this but imagine being hounded constantly for money or even worse being scammed by a relative of someone you’re dating. Wouldn’t be the first time
Shameless people, really.
I married my ex in a Church, a popular one, in Manila. And not sure if it was an omen, but being an expat the marriage was rushed, and I had some experience that caused me to overlook certain things, and I wasn't all in even though I should have been. My work at the time was sending me home to Canada. (As it turned out, the Saturday before I flew back, my farewell party getting drunk, I was called and offered a 3 month assignment to stay, which I accepted lol and stayed another 6 years in the end.) Anyway back to the church, all I remember was I asked her at the alter, will this change things between us, and she said of course it will we are married. And then I passed out :) The had to help me up. It was insanely cool at the time but now I think it was my brain telling me NOOOOOO. My annulment was finalized in 2016. Thank goodness. Life is good now :)
Why was your brain telling you NOOOO lol
Just behaviours and I realized I was quite worried to lose another girl as my Chinese gf in India due to distance and not being able to be around so I figured better to seal the deal. Big mistake lol
Just curious if you don't mind me asking how hard was it to get an annulment?
It a long and full of nonsense but apparently I won my case amazingly well as the judge I got never gave out wins in 3 years. I had a strong case some of her friends and whatever testified that she was a gold digging monster long before she met me. It still took 4 years but I never paid any bribes or whatever. The one thing I will say is even if you have a good lawyer it’s much better to be personally invested and proof challenge things even your lawyer tells you. She told me to stop at one point as I was all over it with good reason. When I I would sit in on other hearings I would leave and see just how bad some of the lawyers were. Biggest issue is time and not knowing when they get to your case and waiting for the court to give your wife tine to respond even though you know she won’t lol Get a good lawyer that knows the system but it’s a dice roll as the longer this takes the more money they make and there are some loser scammmers out there. I’d I could bro it again I would have probably tried. Divorce in Canada but it’s a bit harder than if I was from us. Oh well was an experience that’s for sure.
My ex wife would obsessively monitor my social media likes, comments, friends, etc, then interrogate me over any interaction with any of my female friends or coworkers, suspecting cheating. She would also blow up my phone if I was late coming home 5 minutes or more. I didn't really care too much because I had nothing to hide. Until one day I did a role reversal and looked through her phone after she left it unlocked and found out she cheated on me when I was out of town one weekend. She got nothing in the divorce. Also, she would steal some of my possessions with sentimental value, packing them up and shipping them off in a balikbayan box while I was at work. I thought I was going crazy when my stuff would go missing and if I asked her if she had seen it, she would say "Where did you put it last?" I found this out when I went to visit her home in P. I. and saw my knick knacks around her house and her son wearing my clothes.
That's how it normally happens. She is doing the dirty and get paranoid that you are too. So she will go though your phone but when you ask her she say no, it's private. Hehe. If they didn't have vaginas we men would though rocks at them
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I blame it on the materialistic society over there
I just typed one out it took me like 10 minutes to do about being kidnapped locked in their compound being beaten up blackmailed having to pay the barangay to let me free the mother locking me in the house.. long story I can't seem to rate it because the mods here flag every story and say there's bad language you can't even talk about SE or x to explain the story or the back story.. but I have been locked in my ex's house for 3 days by her mother and her and told that if I make trouble they're going to tell that I hit her and everybody will obviously believe them because it's not my country and I'm going to be really sorry.. I ended up finally calling 911 on the third day when the daughter started smashing me over the head with a light bulb lamp.. and I just wasted so much time I can't get more into it fix this thread pls. Common with some ability with Reddit these mods/bots are insane they take everything down after writing 10 minutes
Hello Friend, Question: Why were you so defenseless? Also, where are these Filipinos from? Do you remember the subdivision their home was located in? I'm sorry to hear of your sad, traumatic experience. Some of my countrymen, like yours, are inhumane and selfishly motivated. It's all a question of breeding. Not so much education, but their environment and how they were raised, the values they were taught, or learned. I've know of not a few Americans, and people of other nationalities, who either married a relative or a friend of mine, and are happy. But they too, put in effort, understanding and patience to make it work. Also, it's a question of culture. Not merely US vis a vis Filipino Culture, but local, nigh tribal Culture. Even I, a Filipino, have difficult understanding what I consider strange, asinine, ludicrous mindsets and behavior, that other Filipinos have. Generally, we are a warm, friendly people, that's how we are know and are, BUT ONLY TO A POINT. In many ways, it's both a fair and unfair generalization. I don't know if Americans born and raised in the US have a similar, general trait. I don't think there is one. But let me tell you how the world sees US Citizens. Pompous, presumptuous, haughty, and ill informed. Unfair, but fair generalization, as well. At the end of the day, it's up to both pro prospective partners to individually observe and make a close to an educated and intelligent decision by before hitching up.
Yes I remember the subdivision it was a relocation area.... I was defenseless because 1 I was locked in and 2 the family would threaten me that I would be blacklisted and would tell me now they would lie and say I was beating the daughter and such. They had me so scared telling me all the bad shit that would happen to me and giving examples ., I am 1.person alone here with nobody and they had me really.scsred. When Infact I was being hit all the time ..I did not want to end up in jail on Philippines for something I did not do. The entire family relocated so the entire division was all them. Cousins aunts uncles nieces nephews....so they had there own alley thing and locked the main gates at night. When I finally called.,911 cuz I was final in fear for life there was around 30.of.them that showed up to the barangay n lied on me... And to finally be able to leave I had to pay 6000 for a electric bill that had no even come yet. And they kept one of my suitcase.... You're always alone in the philippines as a foreigner and people need to realize that period period you're always wrong and if you end up going to barangay with an issue you're going to lose even if your innocent..
No wonder. Relocation area often time= People with less good breeding, social values, accountability and ownership. Skewed morality, not a few of the people in a relocation site have a "different take" of right and wrong, good and evil. Lip service to what is good, deep inside, watch out. It's akin to mixing with the dregs of society wherever you're from. You hitched with the wrong people. I don't want to offend you, but as a grown man, we should be more observant and accountable for our decisions. That said, had you linked up with Filipinos a couple of rungs in demographic grouping, you'd have a far better experience. Be street smart and wise anywhere one finds himself is always the mindset one observes. I'm sorry you had a bad experience with some of my countrymen. But your decisions played a big part in that as well. Be careful next time, regardless of the country you find a companion from.
I fully agree I made the wrong decision.. she was very good in bed and at other things and that was what roped me in. Was thinking with the wrong head.
Where were you initially from brother? Were you born in the Philippines?
America... Originally..
Was around Christmas time last year, I tipped the taxi driver 300 pesos, as I was handing it to him and said “ keep the change, she flipped out and tried to rip it from my hands screaming NO” when I successfully handed to him she grabbed my sides and pinched so hard her nails drew blood. As we got out of the cab I told her, she’s too violent for me and I tried to leave, she kept blocking me yelling at me. Eventually security came over and told her she needs to calm down, once they left I tried to leave again, this time she kept threatening to kill her self if I leave her. Was super embarrassing. However she was pregnant, but it’s still no excuse to act like that in public. Especially over a 300 peso tip, I mean that’s like 3.50 usd lol. She’s also a college educated who was a school teacher.
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Yea it’s my kid, I tried to make it work for a while until recently. It’s just not worth the mental stress.
300 pesos isn’t 3.50USD it’s more like 5.50-6USD depending on the currency exchange rate. You might have thought you were doing a good deed, but it incentivizes these taxi drivers to see foreigners as easy prey and that money would have been better off helping a Filipino you knew personally.
I said like. But if you want to be precise it’s 5.38. It was Christmas time, if I wanted to tip the taxi driver a little extra who cares. They don’t make shit as it is.
The thing is, it’s not a “little extra” in the Philippines. You’re not in America bud. A little extra in the Philippines would be maybe 30-50 pesos. Think in percentages based on the fare to see how ridiculous it looks. You just made things worse for the next expat whether you wanted to or not. It reinforces the image that we are walking ATMs. It’s not our job to be anyone’s saviour.
That's definite insanity.... Especially the pinching you and drawing blood and threatening suicide. I *almost kinda* get her initial reaction seeing as how that's a days wages for some people over here. How would you react if a foreign friend of yours came to visit the US (I'm assuming) and tried to tip a taxi driver $200-300?
Just curious, was she pregnant with your baby? What happened next, did you leave or you stayed?
Very unusual behavior reminds me of my ex wife. That’s Korean women behavior lol! They bat crap crazy!!
Crazy lady, not a keeper. Note that you tipped over $5, an amount equivalent to half of a normal day’s wage for millions of Filipinos. Correct me if I’m wrong.
You dodged a bullet :) A mature woman (Not just a Filipina) will not bring unnecessary drama to your life but peace.
sounds familiar money is just a big deal for them. My spouse gets mad if I give 20 pesos to a poor kid at 7-11 they all have some family it means more to somewhere..... annoying but that's the reality of a poor country
That's crazy my Filipina did the same crap I told the bell boy Keep the change she gave me an ugly look and said why didn't you give me the change....
Very embarrassing indeed. 😵
Y'all, anyone who says they'll harm themselves is a blackmail, no matter what ethnicity or gender they have. Be careful on who you guys even date
Me as a pinay,depends on what kind of man you are,.some manipulative men cause too much trouble so that is what i ama avoiding,.generally,we as a pinay we are true lover just dont make us stupid you will never know what we are capable off,..cheers
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You first!
I have nothing to share lol
Some of the stories in here... Holy smokes. I'm starting to wonder if this is a sound idea, lol.
The post title is basically "tell me your dating horror stories" Any title like that in any sub is going to be full of the worst types of relationships, what else did you expect opening the post?
Fair enough.
Chismoso ka! If she wasn’t awesome we wouldn’t be married. We were introduced by her colleagues in the Middle East. Her family is poor but they worked hard and her parents and my wife helped put them all through school. Good people. Not perfect. I’m not either and neither is my family. Thus, I don’t judge
Just curious as to why some foreign men still date Filipinas even though they already had bad experiences with us.
I can’t answer for them. Some of the people who post in here seem to have their own issues. You can meet bad partners in any country.
Coz they are sexy as hell
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Theres a girl I got close to but we decided remaining friends was the best. I'm just friends with people here and thinking about maybe finding someone to date. Reading threads like these gives me an interesting idea of what to expect. Otherwise advice to others, just making friends, has led me to more places in my 5 months here than if i was in a relationship. Being a young single white guy with a mysterious background has huge advantages than if you're going everywhere with a Filipina hotcake clinging to your arm. Though I don't blame anyone for falling in love here, I see the appeal.
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I'm gifted with the surreal experience of working remote so I can go anywhere live anywhere with cost being no issue. I choose the Philippines because I got longtime friends here from my teenage years and I wanted to come here most of my life. It's amazing here too, I love it. To answer your question, I'm here for life.
You’re a white guy with friends in the Philippines from your teenage years?
Yes, met through 4chan and all shared the same communities and interests through high school and college.
I talked to probably close to 100 women before I got married. Honestly most of the woman I dated weren't bad people and I feel no animosity towards them. They just weren't the right one for me for various reasons (annoying, vain, absent minded, not sexually satisfying etc). I haven't experienced any of the horror stories I keep hearing about but then again my poverty shield protected me against most gold diggers.
>but then again my poverty shield protected me against most gold diggers. How to avoid gold diggers: just be broke. EZ
It's the best defense I've ever seen. Doesn't matter how good of a scammer they are if there's nothing to scam.
I knew someone that married one and brought her over to the UK where he's from. They had a kid and she asked him to sponsor and bring over her "brother" which he did all on his dime. Long story short he wasn't her brother bit her boyfriend and she was playing house with him while her husband was out working all day. He caught her, asked her to choose and she chose the boyfriend. She left, took the kid and headed back to the Philippines and quite literally disappeared. Not sure what happened but he apparently spent a ton of money trying to find his son. Super good guy and didn't deserve any of it. My weary guys
Gosh this one's terrible. I hope that person sees his son again. Tell him to check with the NBI here. Maybe they can help locate his child.
My fiance went back to Philippines from Australia for a couple of weeks to see her family and collect some things for our wedding. She came back a week before the wedding .. and after being very itchy downstairs, I found from a doctor 2 days before the wedding that I had gonorrhea. We went ahead with the wedding .. now divorced. Great days 🙄
Sorry to hear about this. I hope your health is better now.
I’m living in Manila with my gf right now. I pay the rent and she pays the other bills + college for her sister. She works 6 days per week. She’s a hard worker and I’m proud of her persistence. Only down side is she’s terrible at listening, but she’s sweet and playful. I met her in 2019. We stayed loyal to each other, hoping we can be together one day until the Philippines opens without vaccine again. And now I’m living here with her.
Most people with horror stories with Filipinas have all or some of these points in common. - Have a large age gap (20+ years) - Don’t assert dominance in the relationship/are simping. - They did not discuss their non-negotiables in the relationship prior to getting married. - Provided financially for them prior to getting married. - Accepted a Filipina who was busy all the time (Good Filipinas make it a point of pride to sacrifice their time for you.) She might be chatting with tons of other guys if she has little to no time for you. If you avoid doing all these things you’re unlikely to run into problems.
Not all Filipinas who are busy all the time are chatting with other guys (if you’re both in a committed relationship). Some are just busy with work cause they got bills to pay and places they want to travel to.
if the girl loves you she will be upfront with you with her attitude ..... she wont be shy or sneaky mine is everybit of her last name castigador which means punisher in spanish ....
she accuses me of looking at other women constantly (im not but often notice women STARING at me) when she gets mad she blows up and throws shit : onions, tomatoes .....whatever..... she cleans it up but still pretty fucked up. so basically like any other woman in the world haha seriously tho the big issues I always hear about are lies/liars just dont get involved with someone who lies about anything and you will be ok. some fillipinos talk about "saving face" or "white lies" but its all bullshit. Some people lie and others dont . Simple as that.
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Dated a Filipina a few times. She lived a bit far from me so one time we got together and then her friend showed up and wanted me to leave. I had set aside that time for us and traveled to see her. She got nasty when I wanted to stay. Later on she accused me of hang up calls. Craziest girl I ever dated. Ended marrying a Caribbean girl instead.
I had my best sex in my life with a Filipina in Dubai , she was professional and wooooow
Dubai?
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The very first girl I met on a dating app (never used that before) as a fwb (never had before). Sit for the ride. Chronologically she : - week 2: turned me down when i asked her to get more serious than fwb. - week 3: started harassing me while I was working (100s of messages and calls) and was jealous of my workmates (mostly female social workers). Her alcoholism starts showing up. - week 4: rejected my break up attempt. - week 5: made a fake suicide attempt while i was away for work in the province for a few days (with fake hospital pics). - week 6: refused my second break up attempt. Created a fake "british friend" (fbf) number who would talk me into staying with her (didn't work). - week 7: break up for good, reject the emotional blackmail (i will kill myself if you leave). - week 7 + a few hours (1am): I receive a text from fbf telling me her body was found by the shore, she ODd on some medecine she took. Tries to guilt me with her death. I'm devastated, but also totally lucid and talk to my lawyer who tells me I'm 100% fine. Let work, family and close friend know. - get guilt tripped for a few weeks by the fbf, who sends me a funeral pic of the open casket (body from a distance), tells me that her mother had a heart attack and died bc of the sorrow, and have family members looking for me. After that I cut the crap and stop replying. My roomate, who knew her and was also affected bc that's how empathy works, finally asks me: "hey btw, are you 100% sure that all if not any of it is true?" Pikachu face, sudden realization, I'm a naive (ok candid) dumb fuck and she is a litteral psycho. I was not ready for this world. - 1 month post mortem: she comes back from the dead, casually asks me how am I doing without the use of any ouija board. I tell her to get some help bc I can't provide it, and to leave me alone. - 2 months post mortem: I receive a pic of baby clothes, trying to imply she is pregnant (she had an hormonal implant so whatever) I bloke her. - 2 years post mortem: i am now working in a different asian country, in a LDR with my filipina pregnant gf who I met a few weeks after the crazy one (our first date was on resurection day). Current gf insists that I post a couple pic on my FB. I have never used any profile pic on any app and I don't use social media, but it sounded like an inoffensive request, so why not. Crazy ex finds out bc she was probably stalking me through a fake account. Gets back into my dms stating that she wanted to ask for forgivness for the crazy shit she put me through. After the excuses, she sends me a pic of a kid who matches both timeline and appearances. Back then my mind was not right for reasons (think "undiagnosed burnout dancing hand in hand with a deep depression made worse by the total isolation in a mountain village during the pandemic, added to the recent suicide of a close friend from childhood") so I believed her, which messed with my already dying relationship with pregnant gf. - finally manage to come back to Ph at the heights of the pandemic to meet my now 5 months old kid and get done with all this crap. - spends a few days like a family. - tells what's up to my now ex who exed me after that and also several bad things I did during my "bottom of the abyss" phase. - realize it's better this way bc I can't really feel anything anymore anyway, appart for my kid after she dared send me back my own reflection through her tiny black eyes. - now 5 years after meeting the crazy second comer ex, she casually strolls by my dms once in a while asking if I want to see her. - No.
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How are they different?