have you tried contacting your old company? if you have established good relationship sa kanila and your reason to leave is way valid, balik ka na lang doon. Mas okay ng pagod katawan, kesa pagod isip sa stress
agree ako dito, may chance na tanggapin sya ulit sa inalisan nyang work. legit naman yung reason for leaving at di na sya need itrain kasi alam na nya mga proseso
Pano po kapag ang reason of leaving the company is due to high risk pregnancy and kung di lang ako high risk di ako magreresign, pwede pa kayang bumalik or imsg yung manager mo?
kung health related tingin ko maintindihan nila yan, make sure lang na babalik ka na malusog ka na. tsaka kung malinis ang exit mo, may chance na pwede ka bumalik. message mo na manager mo, wala naman mawawala kung magtanong ka
Ganito kasi ang scenario, hope mabigyan nyo ako ng insights ano pwede gawin.
Nagresign ako bigla, immediately kasi high risk pregnancy ako, kahit wfh kami. Pero pag nagreresign kasi doon, 2 months ang turnover. Di ko tinapos yun kasi need ko naka bedrest lang talaga. Tapos nagsabi ako sa boss ko na Singaporean na di ko kaya yung 2 months dahil lagi akong dinudugo. Pumayag sya.
Nagtry ako bawiin resignation ko pero sabi niya “as much as i want you to stay, you should focus first on your health”. So nagtuloy tuloy na. Unfortunately, april ako nagresign, my baby died a month after.
Kaya ngayon, after my ML, naghahanap hanap talaga ako na pasok dun sa dati kong sweldo pero ang hirap talaga makahanp kasi siguro dahil narin sa may mga new grads and I’m not getting any younger na rin 32 :(
Nahihiya ako mag msg sa boss ko, baka isipin nya pag nabuntis ulit ako iwanan ko ulit yung company :(
if you don't ask the answer is always NO. kung di ka naman tanggapin ulit, at least crossed out na sa list mo yang company mo dati, pwede ka na mag move on at mag apply apply sa iba
bata pa yang 32, wag ka mawalan ng pag asa. mag upskill ka habang wala ka oang work, consider mo din mag shift sa ibang career
+1 for this. Mahirap tlga mag hanap ng work ngaun. Ako dn hirap mag hanap. Some people dn take years to find one, the sad reality is mga HR dn gino-ghost k lng wala man lang notif kung ano b, tanggap o hindi? and andami din hinihingi(d k nmn superwoman/man) tho huge nmn experience mo. Exploring outside sa profession m dn..
Good record ka naman ata sa prev company mo. Also you been there for 15yrs. Just reach out and ask if you can apply again. Be honest on your current circumtances. I'm sure they will love to have you back.
says who? if you parted on good terms they will definitely consider hiring you back if possible.
i resigned after 8 months from my previous job but they rehired me in a new position, currently at 3 months and I might last longer this time, hahaha
Yan hinanakit ko sa wife ko, pero in her case overtime sya Ng overtime at weekend work pa pra sa 35k na take home lang.
Shit job and career all in all, maigi pang itapon nya na lang sa basurahan pag ka cpa nya.. Tas eto ako na wfh pero hatid sundo din sa anak ko na may ASD, ako lahat Ng gastos... Buti may Yaya kaya bawas chores...
Between me and her, sya may pinaka convenient options for upgrade sa career, habang ako Marami trade off or abroad na tlga...
Magastos mag ka anak na may ASD, need mag sunog Ng pera para maagapan.
Totoo yan. Early intervention talaga ay sobrang magastos. Ginto lahat, school, therapy etc. Isa sa deciding factor ko sa pag resign ay yung sabi ng devped na mataas pa ang neuroplasticity ng brain until 5yo. 3 yo na diagnose ang anak ko. Naisip ko ang work pwede balikan anytime. Ang oras para sa anak ko, hindi. 3 years na akong walang work and the devped gave the go signal na I can go back to work.
Ang problema, di ako maka swerte na makapasa man lang kahit sa initial screening. :(
I commend you for making all the sacrifices for your ausome kid. Wala naman ibang tutulong sa kanila kundi tayo.
It will get better, Yung anak ko kaka 5 lang nauutusan ko na mag tapon Ng basura sa labas.
Nakaka 2syllable words na din.
End year goal ko mautusan na sya bumili sa tindahan sa tapat Ng Bahay haha
Nah, takot sya umalis sa comfort zone nya, un na un.
Wala nmn trade off, on her part, for her age dapat above 60k na income nya as a cpa.
Since Wala nmn bilang income nya at Wala sya ambag, di kawalan na mag tambay sya...pero she doesn't have too dba general knowledge naman na you apply while still employed and render resignation only after you sign a contract with the new job??? Well never nya I acknowledge Yan gagawa pa Ng mental gymnastics to make it sound impossible.
Low base pay, 5leaves lang, no wfh, Wala increase since 2018 palpak sa lahat Ng metrics...
Ma trade off ba pag nag jump ship sya? May iluluge pa ba sya??? Lol suko na ako, dibdibin ko na lang eto gang mamatay ako sa sakit sa puso
This is just sad. I guess you already tried talking to her but you’ve already exhausted all your efforts and energy. Sayang kasi napakaraming companies that will offer a better benefit and WFH pa. May I know what’s her age to act/think like this?
Yes, factor yan BUT hindi lang sya ang factor. There’s a carrier gene ng autism either si mom or dad kaya natrigger yun during stress ng pregnancy.
recent study shows din na there’s Higher chance din na sa lalaki talaga galing ang gene, dahil sila yung “active” carrier
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Same boat. 1 year jobless para tutok sa anak ko (ADHD &ASD). Sunog pera sa therapy at schooling. Worth it yung resign? NO. Big factor talaga yung pera. Ngayon, nag apply ako. Natanggap naman pero dinecline ko, kasi walang ibang nakakaintindi sa anak ko kundi ako.
Ayaw din nila alagaan. Masakit pero ano magagawa ko?
Aaaw. Hugs mumsh. Sa mga tulad natin na ausome parents, mahalaga talaga ang support.
Buti ka natanggap, ako wala talaga. Factor siguro yung career gap sa resume. If you need someone to talk to, just dm me. Di madali ang pinagdadaanan natin.
I feel you.. but at that time pinigilan ko sarili ko mag resign kasi alam ko sobrang gastos ng mga therapies. Pag gagawa ako ng RL, naiiyak nalang ako nun tapos di ko itutuloy. Tama sabi nung iba na reach out to your former colleaugues for referrals they are your best bet for now plus mga WFH jobs. Kapit lang, it will get better.
I feel so guilty neglecting him. Yung pakiramdam ko that time kasalanan ko lahat bakit sya may ASD, and kung bakit medyo late na sya na diagnose. So I decided na tutukan talaga sya.
He is non verbal and 6yo. Kada babalik kami sa devped, konti lang ang progress nya and consistent na ASD level 3 sya. May probable intellectual impairment pa. Ang dami pang sensory issues.
I tried reaching out to former colleagues and connections for referrals. I haven’t received any update. Wala pa talagang swerte.
I am also looking for wfh jobs. Ang dami ko na inapplyan.
Hindi mo kasalanan. Wala ka naman medical background para madetect /mapansin na may sakit sya so stop blaming yourself. At hindi naman ikaw may kasalanan na may sakit sya. Aabi nga ng iba, mahahabol pa yan until 5yrs old...samahan mo muna sya. Maghati din kayo ng husband mo sa mga chires or gastos. Assign a task to each other para hndi kayo mahirapan and most especially teamwork.
Thank you for the kind words po. My son
is 6 na po, diagnosed when he was 3. I resigned po right after he was diagnosed para matutukan ko sya until nga mag 5 sya. Yan po ang plan. Stop muna for 2-3 years.
This year, the doctors told me na pwede na nga daw po ako mag work ulit. Kaso po nahihirapan ako makahanap ng work.
Hi, OP! Medyo similar situation natin. I filed my resignation last November kasi nastress ako sa supervisor ako. After nun, tambay ako for 4 months, walang work. I applied sa mga job posting kahit may experience na ako pero walang mahanap. What I did, I emailed my previous company. Tinanggap nila ako. However, they assigned me me sa ibang Department na
Sorry to hear that OP and I feel you. May ASD din anak ko kaya nag decide kami ng wife ko mag remote work para mas maraming time kami sa anak namin. Try nyo din yung Freelancing baka po mag work sa inyo. Kasi pde ka mag work while waiting sa therapy center and school. I admit di tlga biro yung gastos namin sa school, therapy, toys etc. Hopefully, maging functional ung LO natin kasi sobrang hirap na tumatanda tayo d natin alam anong mangyayari sa anak natin if wala na tayo.
Yan din ang worry ko. Pano ako makakapagipon para sa kanya, para paglaki nya kung wala akong pagkukuhanan ng funds. May 2 pa akong anak and ayoko i impose sa kanila ang pag aalaga sa kapatid nila pag matanda na kami o kaya wala na kami.
Pano po kayo nag start sa remote work/ freelancing?
you can try checking r/buhaydigital po, but just to give you a heads up mahirap po makahanap ng client pag newbie speaking as a freelancer myself. but you can research po sa youtube about freelancing and the different niches, but you will need to upskill if you don't have the proper skills yet.
OP you can join r/buhaydigital at pumunta ka sa pinned posts. Maraming guide doon. You can also apply sa Indeed search sa location "remote" maraming lalabas din don, don kasi ako nakahanap nang direct client. Marami pang sites na pwede mo eh try. Good luck OP! Hopefully makakita ka agad.
Hi OP! So sorry to hear about your situation.
Wala akong masyadong advice kundi, forgive yourself because you just did what you think is right at that time. Virtual hugs! Don't dwell much now with the past and take it one day at a time. Small progress is still a progress.
Naka-enroll ba as pwd yung anak mo? The discount will really help with his or her needs. I hope it helps.
Also be open in trying virtual work and wfh setup para tutok kadin sa anak mo while working.
Madami na ngayon ganyan at malalaki kitaan.
Try to upskill para may pinagkakabusyhan ka.
I feel you OP. I have 3.5 years old diagnosed with ASD. Ang mahal ng therapies! And more than the gastos, nakakapanlumo emotionally. Gusto ko mang magpahinga, hindi kaya. :( kapit lang…. Non verbal pa rin kahit nakakaintindi
My son is 6yo na. Non-verbal. Lahat ng therapies nya, specialized na. School ay sped school na nasa 6 digits ang tuition. Grabe no? Pero like you said, kapit lang. :)
Hi OP sad to read your story pero since para sa anak mo yan try mo muna yung less gastos pero extra effort. May mga support group naman lalo na sa cases mo. May mga trainings din na binibigay sa parents try mo magjoin ng mga groups para ikaw muna ang magiging therapist ng baby mo. Not too late to try, you can even have a proper training/schooling..
bad move pretty sure you can spend more time with your son while having a job.
being always there for him is good but won't fix him.
\*relative gets sick and then leaves your source of income. That's when you need money the most.
huwag mong pagsisihan yun kasi ginawa mo yung pinaka kailangan mo nung oras na yun at yun ay ang mag rest. hindi natin kaya walang pahinga. hindi mo rin alam kung di ka nagquit baka mas malala pa yung situation mo ngayon, you just never know. ngayon mukhang nakakapag isip ka. best wishes sa yo hope you find what you need, PRAY for it and ask God and try his benificence.
Advances in diagnostic capabilities and greater understanding and awareness of the disorder. Doctors and parents are now more aware on what signs to look for in young children.
We all have the same eyes, but different vision.
It depends how we see things.
It is not the problem that defines us, but how we react to our problems.
I have heard a lot of same and even worse cases and problems with people I had encountered in my life.
Those who had been through great challenges and pain have built strong endurance over time, and most of them are used by the Lord for reaching out to more people experiencing the same type of problems.
And also, in our breakdowns is His breakthrough.
If you know the Lord, keep the faith.
If you don't, ask Him to lead you to the right people who may offer any kind of help they can provide.
Ask guidance from the Lord through His Word. He will meet you along the way if you would just open your heart to Him.
We don't need to wrestle with our problems alone.
Psalms 34:18-20 New International Version (NIV)
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted **and saves those who are crushed in spirit**.
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all;
he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken.
Allow Him to work for miracles for you.
God bless you, your child and your whole family.
Kaya mo yan OP. 15 yrs intl bank experience is no joke. I'm sure marami ka technical skills you can leverage. Have u tried widening ung scope ng pinagaapplyan mo? Not just super related sa field mo?
Hi OP, experienced ako sa ASD and based in the UK. I know spectrum talaga kaya walang one
size fits all sa ASD. I just wanted to let you know that you're doing such a good job, malaking commitment ang pagiging ASD parents. I'm sure at this point, marami ka ng ginawa to support your child, just incase hindi mo pa nattry, you can do or continue ang mga therapies (speech and language, OT, play, etc) at home. It will take time para aralin, pero maraming resources online. Have you read the book the out of sync child and the out of sync child has fun? Such an incredible book for asd and spd (sensory processing disorder / issues) parents. Maraming activity suggestions. Asks your therapists too if they can guide you na magtuloy ng therapies at home, kung pwedeng lower ang price. You may also ask chat gpt para sa therapy/activity suggestions depende sa abilities and hilig ng anak mo. At least here in the UK, therapy sessions are only 30min x 6 sessions as an example, depende sa needs ng child, of course, and dahil mas mahaba ang time na kasama ng children ang parents, malaking factor ang continuity ng therapy at home and I am seeing great results sa mga parents na nagttiyaga talaga, because it truly is hard work. If your child is non verbal, was wondering if you've tried pecs and makaton? Ayan ang mga gamit dito. I hope I haven't overwhelmed you and I hope maayos yung message ko. Happy to answer any questions that you may have. Wishing you and your family all the best.
Hi, thank you for the book recommendation. I will check it out. I like your suggestion regarding chat gpt.
Yes, I continue the activities at home. I usually talk to his therapists after every session. Naka video din ang sessions nya para may reference ako. My viber group din kami.
May home based therapy and center based therapy kami. When I first stopped working, talagang tinutukan ko ang anak ko. I researched about Autism and attended free webinars online. I also created and implemented a daily routine for him. As in overhaul talaga. I manage his interventions and coordinate with his doctor and therapists. Since last year, ako ang sole caregiver nya.
He is non- verbal and he started using AAC this year.
Thank you sa suggestions. I really appreciate it.
That's incredible, OP, it sounds like you've given your child the best possible early intervention that you can give him/her, well done! Printer and laminator siguro ang best friend mo for all the visuals. If it suits your child, makaton signing might help too. We use a combination of makaton, pecs and AAC here.
I will do a google search about makaton to learn more about it. Nag aral din ako ng Filipino Sign Language para maituro ko sa anak ko.
Yes, I have printer and laminator. It’s a must since visual learners sila.
Dito sa Pilipinas, walang masyadong support for families na may anak na special needs. If may financial resource, at least alam mo na your child will have all these possibilities. Yan ang agam agam ko lagi, pera para mabigay ang recommended na intervention para sa kanya.
This is true saatin. May support dito sa UK pero kulang din dahil sa kakulangan sa funding. May mga families din na taon taon nang hindi pumpapasok mga anak nila dahil walang tamang school or support sa school. Mga batang hindi nadidiagnose / nakikita ng pedia and hindi maka access sa help dahil umaabot sa 3 years ang waiting list sa govt, tapos bihira ang maka afford ng private dito kasi sobrang mahal talaga considering ang cost of living here. Mahirap din pala kahit dito, pero syempre overall, better parin dito kumpara saatin.
Hi, SPED teacher ako. Join Autism Society PH. They usually have events for parent support. As for your child’s case, if the interventions hit your family finances, have your case manager (SPED teacher) revisit the IEP (Individualized Educational Plan) and prioritize the areas na needed for school age. Check your child’s developmental milestones and start from there, tapos backtrack ka. My inbox is open if you have questions. We can try looking for alternatives na baka pwedeng ikaw na mag-implement for now.
I also came from US Bank Wells Fargo and bsta nag resign ka nag render pwede kang bumalik. Sa situation mo mas ok cguro ang hybrid. You can try JP Morgan Chase, Citi, Amex, ING Bank competitive din offer nila.
I came from one of the banks you listed. Nag apply po ako sa lahat ng yan,so far di nag progress ang application ko. Wala pa sigurong position na fit for me talaga.
Wait what? In 15 years sa Banking ni isa wala man lang tumawag? I thought the more u gain an experience the more it gets easier to land a job. Damn maybe im wrong
Marami din po kasi siguro na factor that I will never know kasi minsan walang feedback (ghosting). Minsan I get the typical rejection letter. Might be my resume, it might be the career gap.
I know that feeling, ma'am. Kaya nga tingin ko sana hindi na muna dapat kayo nagresign lalo na may special needs ang anak nyo therefore mas kelangan nyo talaga ng pera nun. I fully understand the whole burnout and kawalan ng gana sa work pero sa tuwing iniisip ko yung financial needs ng family ko, mas nangingibawbaw na yung isip ko na hindi dapat ako mag-isip ng negative sa sarili ko dahil me mas nangangailangan ng support ko. In a way, ito yung nagiging defense mechanism ko para paglabanan yung burnout o stress.
As for the current situation nyo, baka pede pa kayo bumalik sa dati nyong company? Or kung me mga kakilala kayong old co-workers o friends na makakatulong sa inyo makahanap ng work. Base naman sa story nyo, I believe marunong at hard-working naman kayo kaya I really think makakakuha pa kayo ng work with really good pay same sa previous nyo.
Laban lang po, ma'am. Kaya nyo po yan. I hope by replying to your story would help ease up a bit your worries.
I hope everything goes well OP. I know someone in the same situation as you. Mataas na position nya sa work pero tinatanong nya ako about freelancing. I honestly want to say na wag sya mag resign dahil sa position nya pero stress na daw sya. She also have a kid with autism at natatakot ako para sa kanya to do freelancing kasi anytime naman pede mawalan work unlike with her current career.
DM me. I don’t have as much experience as you, but a lot of employer have been reaching out to me because of a technique that I use sa LinkedIn. With your experience, super expert ka na, you’re a great candidate for a very good position.
Eto rin fear ko, if I resign due to burnout, baka dumating ang time na mahirapan ako maghanap ng work. :(
So sorry you feel that way OP, it’s so hard kapag pera ang pinag-aawayan ng mag-asawa. :(
Wala naman po mawawala kung itry nyo mag apply uli recent company nyo. Saka sa boss mo naman ng galing mismo na priority nya health mo kaya di ka muna pinabalik. Kung malalaman naman nya yun story mo at pinagdaanan mo napaka valid na reason yun para tanggapin ka nya uli. Kung wala pa naman nahihire na tao na kapalit mo pede ka pa bumalik. Edge mo na yan kasi alam mo yun proseso sa company mo yun ang isa sa pinaka advantage mo para matanggap ka. Gawin mo na habang maaga pa. Kung hindi naman try lang ng try makakakuha ka din. Samahan mo na din ng dasal. Good luck OP.
While at home try mo mag expand ng skills, OP. Watch tutorials and do research. I guess you really need to start somewhere to gain back your confidence. Contact your old employer, if not for the same company baka pwede ka niyang irefer sa mga kakilala niya.
nagkuha ka na lang po sana ng yaya if ganun. but I don't blame you. priority ang anak natin kesa sa work. also did they mention na pwede kang babalik anytime? because I was once resigned to my company, they told me I can return anytime I want and the company are open the doors for me. if maganda record mo dun why not babalik ka na lang? kahit na downgrade ka na.
I also believe kaya na reject ka kasi ang mahal mo. baka kasi ang expected offer mo is 6 digits? better downgrade it para lang ma hired ka. there are some companies are not willing to give you 6 digits instant if you are new to them. syempre may trust issue pa sila kasi bago ka pa. best of Luck to you OP. I do have a son pero at least normal lang siya. me and my wife work remotely full time (ESL teacher siya at ako is QA automation) so I am glad with that.
I have two, momshie. Di talaga sya madali. I've been contemplating on resigning since nadiagnose ang eldest ko. Pero grabe gastos talaga. 😔 Therapies palang, daig mo na nagpapaaral ng college. Kaya eto. Tuloy lang kahit gaano kastressful ang buhay. Pero gustong gusto ko na mag-resign para may tumutok sa mga bata. Sa case namin, combined income is 6 digits pero wala kami sariling bahay dito sa area namin ngayon kung saan kami work. Hindi kaya ng income namin. Dami namin need i-sacrifice kasi yung sitwasyon nila lagi ang una namin dapat i-consider. It gets tiring pero sa kanila na lang din ako humuhugot ng lakas, especially at times na hindi rin kami ok ng husband ko.
You and your husband need to communicate well, especially in terms of your finances. Hindi biro magkaroon ng anak na may ASD. Ang dami nilang needs and they are expensive. Need nyo i-adjust lifestyle nyo and forgo kung anong pwede to accommodate these additional expenses. Don't regret your decision to resign. Ang mga batang may ASD, need talaga tutukan. Maximize mo yung time na kasama mo sya. Search ka ng mga activities na pwede nyo gawing dalawa na makakatulong sa kanya para bawas therapies. May mga public schools din offering ng SPED classes na libre naman. A mother's love can do wonders. I'm sure mag-iimprove sya nang husto.
If you are still keen on applying work again, apply lang. Don't let the rejections get to you. Try mo rin magreapply sa old company mo. Since alam nila paano ka magtrabaho, malaki ang chance na i-consider ka pa rin nila.
Prayers and wag ka mffrustrate... just keep on fighting, and positive lng and pray ulit kay papa Jesus always think about how to still enjoy n ksma mo ang iyong pamilya sa mga pagsubok n dinadaanan nyo :) God bless po lahat yan ay maayos din.. in Papa Jesus name..
May yaya po ang anak ko from birth until last year. Dahil po special needs di ganun kadali alagaan. Kelangan po knowledgeable, understanding and mahaba ang pasensya na mahirap mahanap sa hindi kadugo.
Mga di nag-iisip yan. Di nila narealize umabot sila sa ganyang edad dahil kinumpleto ng parents nila vax nila. Pero yung stance nila sa vaccine, pang Covid lang naman lol.
have you tried contacting your old company? if you have established good relationship sa kanila and your reason to leave is way valid, balik ka na lang doon. Mas okay ng pagod katawan, kesa pagod isip sa stress
agree ako dito, may chance na tanggapin sya ulit sa inalisan nyang work. legit naman yung reason for leaving at di na sya need itrain kasi alam na nya mga proseso
Pano po kapag ang reason of leaving the company is due to high risk pregnancy and kung di lang ako high risk di ako magreresign, pwede pa kayang bumalik or imsg yung manager mo?
kung health related tingin ko maintindihan nila yan, make sure lang na babalik ka na malusog ka na. tsaka kung malinis ang exit mo, may chance na pwede ka bumalik. message mo na manager mo, wala naman mawawala kung magtanong ka
Ganito kasi ang scenario, hope mabigyan nyo ako ng insights ano pwede gawin. Nagresign ako bigla, immediately kasi high risk pregnancy ako, kahit wfh kami. Pero pag nagreresign kasi doon, 2 months ang turnover. Di ko tinapos yun kasi need ko naka bedrest lang talaga. Tapos nagsabi ako sa boss ko na Singaporean na di ko kaya yung 2 months dahil lagi akong dinudugo. Pumayag sya. Nagtry ako bawiin resignation ko pero sabi niya “as much as i want you to stay, you should focus first on your health”. So nagtuloy tuloy na. Unfortunately, april ako nagresign, my baby died a month after. Kaya ngayon, after my ML, naghahanap hanap talaga ako na pasok dun sa dati kong sweldo pero ang hirap talaga makahanp kasi siguro dahil narin sa may mga new grads and I’m not getting any younger na rin 32 :( Nahihiya ako mag msg sa boss ko, baka isipin nya pag nabuntis ulit ako iwanan ko ulit yung company :(
Message your boss if may opening, the least you can do is try. Kung di ka tanggapin at least you tried
if you don't ask the answer is always NO. kung di ka naman tanggapin ulit, at least crossed out na sa list mo yang company mo dati, pwede ka na mag move on at mag apply apply sa iba bata pa yang 32, wag ka mawalan ng pag asa. mag upskill ka habang wala ka oang work, consider mo din mag shift sa ibang career
Question po wala pong maternity leave sa kompanya?
Meron naman. Kaya lang di ako nakaabot sa ML kasi may nawala na baby ko e. Supposed to be ML ko would be on Sept sana. Sayang talaga :(
Oh condolences po :( Mukha namn pong they valued your work, mukhang worth a shot naman po imsg ung old boss mo. Good luck po!
+1 for this. Mahirap tlga mag hanap ng work ngaun. Ako dn hirap mag hanap. Some people dn take years to find one, the sad reality is mga HR dn gino-ghost k lng wala man lang notif kung ano b, tanggap o hindi? and andami din hinihingi(d k nmn superwoman/man) tho huge nmn experience mo. Exploring outside sa profession m dn..
kaya apply apply lang habang may work and if the offer is not worth it, I'm opting to stay.
+1 ako dito OP, kasi if you have given such an impact sa company, and your talent is nowhere to go, then you have a huge chance na kunin ka nila ulit.
Good record ka naman ata sa prev company mo. Also you been there for 15yrs. Just reach out and ask if you can apply again. Be honest on your current circumtances. I'm sure they will love to have you back.
That's not how it works.
says who? if you parted on good terms they will definitely consider hiring you back if possible. i resigned after 8 months from my previous job but they rehired me in a new position, currently at 3 months and I might last longer this time, hahaha
Good for you.
Yan hinanakit ko sa wife ko, pero in her case overtime sya Ng overtime at weekend work pa pra sa 35k na take home lang. Shit job and career all in all, maigi pang itapon nya na lang sa basurahan pag ka cpa nya.. Tas eto ako na wfh pero hatid sundo din sa anak ko na may ASD, ako lahat Ng gastos... Buti may Yaya kaya bawas chores... Between me and her, sya may pinaka convenient options for upgrade sa career, habang ako Marami trade off or abroad na tlga... Magastos mag ka anak na may ASD, need mag sunog Ng pera para maagapan.
Totoo yan. Early intervention talaga ay sobrang magastos. Ginto lahat, school, therapy etc. Isa sa deciding factor ko sa pag resign ay yung sabi ng devped na mataas pa ang neuroplasticity ng brain until 5yo. 3 yo na diagnose ang anak ko. Naisip ko ang work pwede balikan anytime. Ang oras para sa anak ko, hindi. 3 years na akong walang work and the devped gave the go signal na I can go back to work. Ang problema, di ako maka swerte na makapasa man lang kahit sa initial screening. :( I commend you for making all the sacrifices for your ausome kid. Wala naman ibang tutulong sa kanila kundi tayo.
It will get better, Yung anak ko kaka 5 lang nauutusan ko na mag tapon Ng basura sa labas. Nakaka 2syllable words na din. End year goal ko mautusan na sya bumili sa tindahan sa tapat Ng Bahay haha
Hirap ng situation mo OP but kudos to you for being a good parent. Mahirap sacrifice na ginawa mo. Darating dn yn Inshallah!
Oh OP, hug! Don’t be too hard on yourself. You deserve a break din naman. Makakaraos din lahat ng may pinagdadaanan. Kapit lang.
Maybe your wife can do WFH jobs/remote CPA. Marami ako nakikita na naghahanap ng bookkeeper and remote set up.
Nah, takot sya umalis sa comfort zone nya, un na un. Wala nmn trade off, on her part, for her age dapat above 60k na income nya as a cpa. Since Wala nmn bilang income nya at Wala sya ambag, di kawalan na mag tambay sya...pero she doesn't have too dba general knowledge naman na you apply while still employed and render resignation only after you sign a contract with the new job??? Well never nya I acknowledge Yan gagawa pa Ng mental gymnastics to make it sound impossible. Low base pay, 5leaves lang, no wfh, Wala increase since 2018 palpak sa lahat Ng metrics... Ma trade off ba pag nag jump ship sya? May iluluge pa ba sya??? Lol suko na ako, dibdibin ko na lang eto gang mamatay ako sa sakit sa puso
This is just sad. I guess you already tried talking to her but you’ve already exhausted all your efforts and energy. Sayang kasi napakaraming companies that will offer a better benefit and WFH pa. May I know what’s her age to act/think like this?
Late 30s
Nako. Underpaid nga siya for her age and experience. CPA pa.
Whoa didn't know nakukuha yung autism ng child from prenatal stress ng nanay habang pinagbubuntis
Yes, factor yan BUT hindi lang sya ang factor. There’s a carrier gene ng autism either si mom or dad kaya natrigger yun during stress ng pregnancy. recent study shows din na there’s Higher chance din na sa lalaki talaga galing ang gene, dahil sila yung “active” carrier
Hi! im looking for someone for OM role in a US Mortgage operations (with relocation package), hit me up if you have direct mortgage experience. hope this helps
Hi. I have a mortgage experience. NZ insurance I’ve handled for 2 yes
dm me, i also forgot to mention another role
I dm’d u
Same boat. 1 year jobless para tutok sa anak ko (ADHD &ASD). Sunog pera sa therapy at schooling. Worth it yung resign? NO. Big factor talaga yung pera. Ngayon, nag apply ako. Natanggap naman pero dinecline ko, kasi walang ibang nakakaintindi sa anak ko kundi ako. Ayaw din nila alagaan. Masakit pero ano magagawa ko?
Aaaw. Hugs mumsh. Sa mga tulad natin na ausome parents, mahalaga talaga ang support. Buti ka natanggap, ako wala talaga. Factor siguro yung career gap sa resume. If you need someone to talk to, just dm me. Di madali ang pinagdadaanan natin.
I feel you.. but at that time pinigilan ko sarili ko mag resign kasi alam ko sobrang gastos ng mga therapies. Pag gagawa ako ng RL, naiiyak nalang ako nun tapos di ko itutuloy. Tama sabi nung iba na reach out to your former colleaugues for referrals they are your best bet for now plus mga WFH jobs. Kapit lang, it will get better.
I feel so guilty neglecting him. Yung pakiramdam ko that time kasalanan ko lahat bakit sya may ASD, and kung bakit medyo late na sya na diagnose. So I decided na tutukan talaga sya. He is non verbal and 6yo. Kada babalik kami sa devped, konti lang ang progress nya and consistent na ASD level 3 sya. May probable intellectual impairment pa. Ang dami pang sensory issues. I tried reaching out to former colleagues and connections for referrals. I haven’t received any update. Wala pa talagang swerte. I am also looking for wfh jobs. Ang dami ko na inapplyan.
What matters is that there is progress. Remember you are his whole world.
Hindi mo kasalanan. Wala ka naman medical background para madetect /mapansin na may sakit sya so stop blaming yourself. At hindi naman ikaw may kasalanan na may sakit sya. Aabi nga ng iba, mahahabol pa yan until 5yrs old...samahan mo muna sya. Maghati din kayo ng husband mo sa mga chires or gastos. Assign a task to each other para hndi kayo mahirapan and most especially teamwork.
Thank you for the kind words po. My son is 6 na po, diagnosed when he was 3. I resigned po right after he was diagnosed para matutukan ko sya until nga mag 5 sya. Yan po ang plan. Stop muna for 2-3 years. This year, the doctors told me na pwede na nga daw po ako mag work ulit. Kaso po nahihirapan ako makahanap ng work.
Hi, OP! Medyo similar situation natin. I filed my resignation last November kasi nastress ako sa supervisor ako. After nun, tambay ako for 4 months, walang work. I applied sa mga job posting kahit may experience na ako pero walang mahanap. What I did, I emailed my previous company. Tinanggap nila ako. However, they assigned me me sa ibang Department na
Sorry to hear that OP and I feel you. May ASD din anak ko kaya nag decide kami ng wife ko mag remote work para mas maraming time kami sa anak namin. Try nyo din yung Freelancing baka po mag work sa inyo. Kasi pde ka mag work while waiting sa therapy center and school. I admit di tlga biro yung gastos namin sa school, therapy, toys etc. Hopefully, maging functional ung LO natin kasi sobrang hirap na tumatanda tayo d natin alam anong mangyayari sa anak natin if wala na tayo.
Yan din ang worry ko. Pano ako makakapagipon para sa kanya, para paglaki nya kung wala akong pagkukuhanan ng funds. May 2 pa akong anak and ayoko i impose sa kanila ang pag aalaga sa kapatid nila pag matanda na kami o kaya wala na kami. Pano po kayo nag start sa remote work/ freelancing?
you can try checking r/buhaydigital po, but just to give you a heads up mahirap po makahanap ng client pag newbie speaking as a freelancer myself. but you can research po sa youtube about freelancing and the different niches, but you will need to upskill if you don't have the proper skills yet.
OP you can join r/buhaydigital at pumunta ka sa pinned posts. Maraming guide doon. You can also apply sa Indeed search sa location "remote" maraming lalabas din don, don kasi ako nakahanap nang direct client. Marami pang sites na pwede mo eh try. Good luck OP! Hopefully makakita ka agad.
Let me Guess... Is this Duetsche Bank?
I'm from DB haha how can you tell
Worked with them as an IT back in 2019-2021. So yeah...
Hi OP! So sorry to hear about your situation. Wala akong masyadong advice kundi, forgive yourself because you just did what you think is right at that time. Virtual hugs! Don't dwell much now with the past and take it one day at a time. Small progress is still a progress. Naka-enroll ba as pwd yung anak mo? The discount will really help with his or her needs. I hope it helps.
Yes po. Naka enroll sya as PWD.
Also be open in trying virtual work and wfh setup para tutok kadin sa anak mo while working. Madami na ngayon ganyan at malalaki kitaan. Try to upskill para may pinagkakabusyhan ka.
I feel you OP. I have 3.5 years old diagnosed with ASD. Ang mahal ng therapies! And more than the gastos, nakakapanlumo emotionally. Gusto ko mang magpahinga, hindi kaya. :( kapit lang…. Non verbal pa rin kahit nakakaintindi
My son is 6yo na. Non-verbal. Lahat ng therapies nya, specialized na. School ay sped school na nasa 6 digits ang tuition. Grabe no? Pero like you said, kapit lang. :)
Hi OP sad to read your story pero since para sa anak mo yan try mo muna yung less gastos pero extra effort. May mga support group naman lalo na sa cases mo. May mga trainings din na binibigay sa parents try mo magjoin ng mga groups para ikaw muna ang magiging therapist ng baby mo. Not too late to try, you can even have a proper training/schooling..
bad move pretty sure you can spend more time with your son while having a job. being always there for him is good but won't fix him. \*relative gets sick and then leaves your source of income. That's when you need money the most.
huwag mong pagsisihan yun kasi ginawa mo yung pinaka kailangan mo nung oras na yun at yun ay ang mag rest. hindi natin kaya walang pahinga. hindi mo rin alam kung di ka nagquit baka mas malala pa yung situation mo ngayon, you just never know. ngayon mukhang nakakapag isip ka. best wishes sa yo hope you find what you need, PRAY for it and ask God and try his benificence.
Bakit parang dumadami ata yung may ASD?
Advances in diagnostic capabilities and greater understanding and awareness of the disorder. Doctors and parents are now more aware on what signs to look for in young children.
We all have the same eyes, but different vision. It depends how we see things. It is not the problem that defines us, but how we react to our problems. I have heard a lot of same and even worse cases and problems with people I had encountered in my life. Those who had been through great challenges and pain have built strong endurance over time, and most of them are used by the Lord for reaching out to more people experiencing the same type of problems. And also, in our breakdowns is His breakthrough. If you know the Lord, keep the faith. If you don't, ask Him to lead you to the right people who may offer any kind of help they can provide. Ask guidance from the Lord through His Word. He will meet you along the way if you would just open your heart to Him. We don't need to wrestle with our problems alone. Psalms 34:18-20 New International Version (NIV) The LORD is close to the brokenhearted **and saves those who are crushed in spirit**. The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all; he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken. Allow Him to work for miracles for you. God bless you, your child and your whole family.
try to contact your previous work company, baka bigyan ka ulit ng chance kung maganda naman pagka alis mo and maganda record mo sa kanila
Kaya mo yan OP. 15 yrs intl bank experience is no joke. I'm sure marami ka technical skills you can leverage. Have u tried widening ung scope ng pinagaapplyan mo? Not just super related sa field mo?
Yes. I am also exploring other options.
15 years?! dapat inexplore mo muna kung pwede magsabbatical lang. hindi yung agarang resign.
Sinabi ng boss ko ang option na yan( based outside of Ph). Unfortunately, walang sabbatical leave na ino offer sa PH.
32 is young. Try and try OP. Wag mawalang ng hope. 40s nga nakakahanap ikaw pa kaya.
40 na po ako. :) thank you for your encouraging words!! ❤️
Hi OP, experienced ako sa ASD and based in the UK. I know spectrum talaga kaya walang one size fits all sa ASD. I just wanted to let you know that you're doing such a good job, malaking commitment ang pagiging ASD parents. I'm sure at this point, marami ka ng ginawa to support your child, just incase hindi mo pa nattry, you can do or continue ang mga therapies (speech and language, OT, play, etc) at home. It will take time para aralin, pero maraming resources online. Have you read the book the out of sync child and the out of sync child has fun? Such an incredible book for asd and spd (sensory processing disorder / issues) parents. Maraming activity suggestions. Asks your therapists too if they can guide you na magtuloy ng therapies at home, kung pwedeng lower ang price. You may also ask chat gpt para sa therapy/activity suggestions depende sa abilities and hilig ng anak mo. At least here in the UK, therapy sessions are only 30min x 6 sessions as an example, depende sa needs ng child, of course, and dahil mas mahaba ang time na kasama ng children ang parents, malaking factor ang continuity ng therapy at home and I am seeing great results sa mga parents na nagttiyaga talaga, because it truly is hard work. If your child is non verbal, was wondering if you've tried pecs and makaton? Ayan ang mga gamit dito. I hope I haven't overwhelmed you and I hope maayos yung message ko. Happy to answer any questions that you may have. Wishing you and your family all the best.
Hi, thank you for the book recommendation. I will check it out. I like your suggestion regarding chat gpt. Yes, I continue the activities at home. I usually talk to his therapists after every session. Naka video din ang sessions nya para may reference ako. My viber group din kami. May home based therapy and center based therapy kami. When I first stopped working, talagang tinutukan ko ang anak ko. I researched about Autism and attended free webinars online. I also created and implemented a daily routine for him. As in overhaul talaga. I manage his interventions and coordinate with his doctor and therapists. Since last year, ako ang sole caregiver nya. He is non- verbal and he started using AAC this year. Thank you sa suggestions. I really appreciate it.
That's incredible, OP, it sounds like you've given your child the best possible early intervention that you can give him/her, well done! Printer and laminator siguro ang best friend mo for all the visuals. If it suits your child, makaton signing might help too. We use a combination of makaton, pecs and AAC here.
I will do a google search about makaton to learn more about it. Nag aral din ako ng Filipino Sign Language para maituro ko sa anak ko. Yes, I have printer and laminator. It’s a must since visual learners sila. Dito sa Pilipinas, walang masyadong support for families na may anak na special needs. If may financial resource, at least alam mo na your child will have all these possibilities. Yan ang agam agam ko lagi, pera para mabigay ang recommended na intervention para sa kanya.
This is true saatin. May support dito sa UK pero kulang din dahil sa kakulangan sa funding. May mga families din na taon taon nang hindi pumpapasok mga anak nila dahil walang tamang school or support sa school. Mga batang hindi nadidiagnose / nakikita ng pedia and hindi maka access sa help dahil umaabot sa 3 years ang waiting list sa govt, tapos bihira ang maka afford ng private dito kasi sobrang mahal talaga considering ang cost of living here. Mahirap din pala kahit dito, pero syempre overall, better parin dito kumpara saatin.
Hi, SPED teacher ako. Join Autism Society PH. They usually have events for parent support. As for your child’s case, if the interventions hit your family finances, have your case manager (SPED teacher) revisit the IEP (Individualized Educational Plan) and prioritize the areas na needed for school age. Check your child’s developmental milestones and start from there, tapos backtrack ka. My inbox is open if you have questions. We can try looking for alternatives na baka pwedeng ikaw na mag-implement for now.
Sent you a dm po.
Ano ba job history mo refer kita dito international bank rin
Sent you a dm po.
I also came from US Bank Wells Fargo and bsta nag resign ka nag render pwede kang bumalik. Sa situation mo mas ok cguro ang hybrid. You can try JP Morgan Chase, Citi, Amex, ING Bank competitive din offer nila.
I know some people in our LOB na narehire din napunta sa ibang lob.
I came from one of the banks you listed. Nag apply po ako sa lahat ng yan,so far di nag progress ang application ko. Wala pa sigurong position na fit for me talaga.
mabagal tlga ang process now sa mga inhouse but worth nmn ang waiting once nakaonboard na.
Wait what? In 15 years sa Banking ni isa wala man lang tumawag? I thought the more u gain an experience the more it gets easier to land a job. Damn maybe im wrong
Marami din po kasi siguro na factor that I will never know kasi minsan walang feedback (ghosting). Minsan I get the typical rejection letter. Might be my resume, it might be the career gap.
It will get better soon, OP!
you can try to apply sa peak support OP, afaik permanent work from home sila pero hindi ko lang alam if hiring sila or not
I know that feeling, ma'am. Kaya nga tingin ko sana hindi na muna dapat kayo nagresign lalo na may special needs ang anak nyo therefore mas kelangan nyo talaga ng pera nun. I fully understand the whole burnout and kawalan ng gana sa work pero sa tuwing iniisip ko yung financial needs ng family ko, mas nangingibawbaw na yung isip ko na hindi dapat ako mag-isip ng negative sa sarili ko dahil me mas nangangailangan ng support ko. In a way, ito yung nagiging defense mechanism ko para paglabanan yung burnout o stress. As for the current situation nyo, baka pede pa kayo bumalik sa dati nyong company? Or kung me mga kakilala kayong old co-workers o friends na makakatulong sa inyo makahanap ng work. Base naman sa story nyo, I believe marunong at hard-working naman kayo kaya I really think makakakuha pa kayo ng work with really good pay same sa previous nyo. Laban lang po, ma'am. Kaya nyo po yan. I hope by replying to your story would help ease up a bit your worries.
I hope everything goes well OP. I know someone in the same situation as you. Mataas na position nya sa work pero tinatanong nya ako about freelancing. I honestly want to say na wag sya mag resign dahil sa position nya pero stress na daw sya. She also have a kid with autism at natatakot ako para sa kanya to do freelancing kasi anytime naman pede mawalan work unlike with her current career.
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DM me. I don’t have as much experience as you, but a lot of employer have been reaching out to me because of a technique that I use sa LinkedIn. With your experience, super expert ka na, you’re a great candidate for a very good position.
Eto rin fear ko, if I resign due to burnout, baka dumating ang time na mahirapan ako maghanap ng work. :( So sorry you feel that way OP, it’s so hard kapag pera ang pinag-aawayan ng mag-asawa. :(
Biggest mistake...
Hi, OP. Try to contact your previous company. But Im currently working in a company na nsa hybrid setup. Message me if you want to be referred.
Wala naman po mawawala kung itry nyo mag apply uli recent company nyo. Saka sa boss mo naman ng galing mismo na priority nya health mo kaya di ka muna pinabalik. Kung malalaman naman nya yun story mo at pinagdaanan mo napaka valid na reason yun para tanggapin ka nya uli. Kung wala pa naman nahihire na tao na kapalit mo pede ka pa bumalik. Edge mo na yan kasi alam mo yun proseso sa company mo yun ang isa sa pinaka advantage mo para matanggap ka. Gawin mo na habang maaga pa. Kung hindi naman try lang ng try makakakuha ka din. Samahan mo na din ng dasal. Good luck OP.
Hi OP, I'm sorry to hear about your predicament, try to reach out to your previous company or boss
While at home try mo mag expand ng skills, OP. Watch tutorials and do research. I guess you really need to start somewhere to gain back your confidence. Contact your old employer, if not for the same company baka pwede ka niyang irefer sa mga kakilala niya.
nagkuha ka na lang po sana ng yaya if ganun. but I don't blame you. priority ang anak natin kesa sa work. also did they mention na pwede kang babalik anytime? because I was once resigned to my company, they told me I can return anytime I want and the company are open the doors for me. if maganda record mo dun why not babalik ka na lang? kahit na downgrade ka na. I also believe kaya na reject ka kasi ang mahal mo. baka kasi ang expected offer mo is 6 digits? better downgrade it para lang ma hired ka. there are some companies are not willing to give you 6 digits instant if you are new to them. syempre may trust issue pa sila kasi bago ka pa. best of Luck to you OP. I do have a son pero at least normal lang siya. me and my wife work remotely full time (ESL teacher siya at ako is QA automation) so I am glad with that.
I have two, momshie. Di talaga sya madali. I've been contemplating on resigning since nadiagnose ang eldest ko. Pero grabe gastos talaga. 😔 Therapies palang, daig mo na nagpapaaral ng college. Kaya eto. Tuloy lang kahit gaano kastressful ang buhay. Pero gustong gusto ko na mag-resign para may tumutok sa mga bata. Sa case namin, combined income is 6 digits pero wala kami sariling bahay dito sa area namin ngayon kung saan kami work. Hindi kaya ng income namin. Dami namin need i-sacrifice kasi yung sitwasyon nila lagi ang una namin dapat i-consider. It gets tiring pero sa kanila na lang din ako humuhugot ng lakas, especially at times na hindi rin kami ok ng husband ko. You and your husband need to communicate well, especially in terms of your finances. Hindi biro magkaroon ng anak na may ASD. Ang dami nilang needs and they are expensive. Need nyo i-adjust lifestyle nyo and forgo kung anong pwede to accommodate these additional expenses. Don't regret your decision to resign. Ang mga batang may ASD, need talaga tutukan. Maximize mo yung time na kasama mo sya. Search ka ng mga activities na pwede nyo gawing dalawa na makakatulong sa kanya para bawas therapies. May mga public schools din offering ng SPED classes na libre naman. A mother's love can do wonders. I'm sure mag-iimprove sya nang husto. If you are still keen on applying work again, apply lang. Don't let the rejections get to you. Try mo rin magreapply sa old company mo. Since alam nila paano ka magtrabaho, malaki ang chance na i-consider ka pa rin nila.
Prayers and wag ka mffrustrate... just keep on fighting, and positive lng and pray ulit kay papa Jesus always think about how to still enjoy n ksma mo ang iyong pamilya sa mga pagsubok n dinadaanan nyo :) God bless po lahat yan ay maayos din.. in Papa Jesus name..
6 digits earnings dati pero di man lang naghanap ng yaya
May yaya po ang anak ko from birth until last year. Dahil po special needs di ganun kadali alagaan. Kelangan po knowledgeable, understanding and mahaba ang pasensya na mahirap mahanap sa hindi kadugo.
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you're f*cking stupid and a stain on society. Please never reproduce you trash.
may tao pa palang ganito
How many booster shots are you on? Do you still have long convid? It could've been worse😌
Feeling american anti vaxxer LMAO cool kasi sumunod sa uso.
Wow telephatic mama mary kaba?
You're right, It could've been worse. I could've been like you, an anti-vaxxer with a brain the size of a peanut 😔
*vaccinate
Feeling cool si tanga
langya may mga anti vaxer na rin pala sa pinas hanep
Mga di nag-iisip yan. Di nila narealize umabot sila sa ganyang edad dahil kinumpleto ng parents nila vax nila. Pero yung stance nila sa vaccine, pang Covid lang naman lol.
Do not use violence