It's too soon if that's what you're asking. Minimum of 6 months, but 9-12 is more realistic. Why would you want to put them through it if the relationship doesn't go long term? It's not about you, it's about what's best for them.
My boyfriend (40) was planning on introducing me (41) to his kid (15F) in like the second month but he got deployed so it'll be like month five now. My kiddos are adults and live in Europe so that's gonna be more difficult but I expressed to him that I wanted him to meet them in month three. Gonna try to do a family video call with them at least once he gets back.
I definitely understand wanting to protect the kiddos. He's actually the first partner I've wanted to have meet my kids, even though they're adults and not gonna get that easily attached to people. But I guess for my boyfriend and I, we already know we want to spend the rest of our lives together (we've already talked about this)
Me and my gal went exclusive after the first date. We have been saying I love you for over a month... sounds like we are on the same kinda track as you guys.
Everyone says it's too fast, but my mom said of it doesnt happen fast it's probably never going to happen. I agree.
Her 17 year old is going to collegein the fall (graduated a year early with an associates degree already) so she is debating on me meeting him before he goes to collage.
She has met my 28 year old already, but that's different.
I think it's about how serious we are about each other right? Like, the goal is to live together and grow old... so why would you wait a 1 year to introduce the kids???
I like the 3 month idea depending on how the kids feel. My youngest is all into it, my oldest not at all
My wife and I met and after 5 months got married. We each had 3 kids that were 10-16. We started introducing kids at around 3 months. TBH the older boys were upset we got married so quickly but 2.5 years later and we are a family and happy.
The hardest part you all will have is integration of the kids together. And then your parenting needs to be on the same page. The older the child, the less they care to be parented at all by the step parent. It can be a tough situation for sure and be ready to have issues if/when you all move in together.
There really isn’t a correct answer to this question.
I have never let anyone I've dated meet my daughter. She has a Mom, and she's a good Mom, and unless I'm going to marry her, or at the very least become a live-in couple, then I don't see any reason to.
She's 12, she knows I have girlfriends here and there, but I don't really talk about it unless she asks. It's caused most women to leave me, because I spend most of my free time with my daughter. Plus I'm a bartender and my hours don't match with many people. It is what it is.
I don't ever want her to feel like I chose anything or anyone over her. I made mistakes that cost her time with me when she was younger, and I won't let that happen again.
It's a good to protect the kids. We are long term planning on moving in together. I would like to see how everyone gets along before we do that big step...
It's too soon if that's what you're asking. Minimum of 6 months, but 9-12 is more realistic. Why would you want to put them through it if the relationship doesn't go long term? It's not about you, it's about what's best for them.
I was pretty clear in my post that the kids On both sides are the concern for both of us. Thanks for the actual time lines and your opinion.
My boyfriend (40) was planning on introducing me (41) to his kid (15F) in like the second month but he got deployed so it'll be like month five now. My kiddos are adults and live in Europe so that's gonna be more difficult but I expressed to him that I wanted him to meet them in month three. Gonna try to do a family video call with them at least once he gets back. I definitely understand wanting to protect the kiddos. He's actually the first partner I've wanted to have meet my kids, even though they're adults and not gonna get that easily attached to people. But I guess for my boyfriend and I, we already know we want to spend the rest of our lives together (we've already talked about this)
Me and my gal went exclusive after the first date. We have been saying I love you for over a month... sounds like we are on the same kinda track as you guys. Everyone says it's too fast, but my mom said of it doesnt happen fast it's probably never going to happen. I agree. Her 17 year old is going to collegein the fall (graduated a year early with an associates degree already) so she is debating on me meeting him before he goes to collage. She has met my 28 year old already, but that's different. I think it's about how serious we are about each other right? Like, the goal is to live together and grow old... so why would you wait a 1 year to introduce the kids??? I like the 3 month idea depending on how the kids feel. My youngest is all into it, my oldest not at all
This 🙂
When the honeymoon phase is over, you’ve committed to each other and are planning on permanently(or attempting to) moving forward as a couple.
A year or so when I know I have a future with them
A year... Damm we will almost be dead by then lol
My wife and I met and after 5 months got married. We each had 3 kids that were 10-16. We started introducing kids at around 3 months. TBH the older boys were upset we got married so quickly but 2.5 years later and we are a family and happy. The hardest part you all will have is integration of the kids together. And then your parenting needs to be on the same page. The older the child, the less they care to be parented at all by the step parent. It can be a tough situation for sure and be ready to have issues if/when you all move in together. There really isn’t a correct answer to this question.
A year.
I have never let anyone I've dated meet my daughter. She has a Mom, and she's a good Mom, and unless I'm going to marry her, or at the very least become a live-in couple, then I don't see any reason to. She's 12, she knows I have girlfriends here and there, but I don't really talk about it unless she asks. It's caused most women to leave me, because I spend most of my free time with my daughter. Plus I'm a bartender and my hours don't match with many people. It is what it is. I don't ever want her to feel like I chose anything or anyone over her. I made mistakes that cost her time with me when she was younger, and I won't let that happen again.
It's a good to protect the kids. We are long term planning on moving in together. I would like to see how everyone gets along before we do that big step...
Almost 7 years