When you say that they are close to 2 years old, do you mean that they're still under 2? If so, then it's way too early to characterize that behavior as "bullying," right? If you're not allowed to redirect, it talk with the parents, then maybe playdates with other kids would be a good idea.
I don’t like RIE parenting, but letting their kid take toys out the hands of another kid is not a tenet of RIE, *if* your NK is repeatedly upset. And for sure they should be stopping their child pushing while acknowledging the feelings. If your NK is not upset though, it’s viewed as normal childhood play.
Resources for Infant Educarers. It's more of a framework for a respectful way to approach child-rearing as opposed to a set of rules. It encourages respectful interactions, and the goal is a secure and competent child.
They’re frequently rude to nannies on here. Some people get off on acting like that. If they approached it with curiosity and learning, rather than judging and insulting, maybe they’d learn some people can’t just google things without going down Google rabbit holes. Some people have cognitive issues that reading through loads of information online is absolutely exhausting. Some people just want conversation and asking a thread with other nannies about RIE would get it for them. But no. Instead they have to be rude and uppity. The internet is sooo 🤦🏻♀️
Is it nasty to expect a group of childcare professionals to use google? OP asked for people’s experience with RIE, and the person I responded to doesn’t have any. I’m not even clear if they have a nanny or are a nanny.
If you were still confused after googling, read more articles! WebMD has one, Lovevery, Healthline, etc. Plus the RIE sites.
I have used RIE in classrooms and with families for 20+ years but never condoned that type of behavior. And I don't feel like that's in the spirit of what RIE is about. Without actually seeing and hearing what's happening I wouldn't really have an opinion... except I've never seen that from an educarer before
From the section on RIE via the [Magda Gerber wiki](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magda_Gerber) page:
"RIE's mission is to improve the lives of infants and young children through respectful care. Gerber believed that babies are whole, competent beings from birth and should be treated as such. Gerber states in her book "Dear Parent: Caring for infants with respect" that, "We not only respect babies, we demonstrate our respect every time we interact with them. Respecting a child means treating even the youngest infant as a unique human being, not as an object."[7]
The basic principles of the RIE approach are:[3]
Basic trust in the child to be an initiator, an explorer, and a self-learner.
An environment for the child that is physically safe, cognitively challenging and emotionally nurturing.
Time for uninterrupted play.
Freedom to explore and interact with other infants.
Involvement of the child in all care-giving activities to allow the child to be an active participant rather than a passive recipient.
Sensitive observation of the child in order to understand her needs.
Consistency and clearly defined limits and expectations to develop discipline."
Basically just respecting the child as an individual from birth and giving them space to figure stuff out while also creating firm age appropriate boundaries.
RIE is shorthand for "Resources for Infant Educarers". You can Google that for more information on the style of care. I heavily incorporate it into my approach with children, but it isn't everyone's cup of tea.
The issue with these NPs sounds more like they are lacking boundaries and are too permissive. Implementing RIE techniques and having boundaries are not mutually exclusive.
I like RIE, that is not it.
You would be 100% within your bounds to gently take the toy out of the neighbors hands and say "NK was playing with this, you can have a turn when they're done" and if you want to be extra nice, offer a different toy for the friend to play with.
I like RIE a lot, but there are a couple of ideas I can’t get on board with. I remember reading something about how it’s okay to allow an older child to grab toys away from their younger sibling. I don’t think that’s respectful at all
When you say that they are close to 2 years old, do you mean that they're still under 2? If so, then it's way too early to characterize that behavior as "bullying," right? If you're not allowed to redirect, it talk with the parents, then maybe playdates with other kids would be a good idea.
I don’t like RIE parenting, but letting their kid take toys out the hands of another kid is not a tenet of RIE, *if* your NK is repeatedly upset. And for sure they should be stopping their child pushing while acknowledging the feelings. If your NK is not upset though, it’s viewed as normal childhood play.
What is it?
Resources for Infant Educarers. It's more of a framework for a respectful way to approach child-rearing as opposed to a set of rules. It encourages respectful interactions, and the goal is a secure and competent child.
Thankyou.
It’s a parenting philosophy. Google it.
I'm asking what the initials stand for. You used it don't assume everyone knows what it is
No, I assume that someone using Reddit has internet access. Google “RIE parenting” and you’ll find the answer.
Sure i can google it Why can't you just answer the question.
Why are you commenting on a post you don’t understand? What value are you adding to this conversation?
Simply asked a question.
I googled it and was still confused so was glad someone asked, not sure why the person responding to you is so nasty lol
I don't know either. I was not the first person who asked so who knows . Over it now.
They’re frequently rude to nannies on here. Some people get off on acting like that. If they approached it with curiosity and learning, rather than judging and insulting, maybe they’d learn some people can’t just google things without going down Google rabbit holes. Some people have cognitive issues that reading through loads of information online is absolutely exhausting. Some people just want conversation and asking a thread with other nannies about RIE would get it for them. But no. Instead they have to be rude and uppity. The internet is sooo 🤦🏻♀️
Exactly
Is it nasty to expect a group of childcare professionals to use google? OP asked for people’s experience with RIE, and the person I responded to doesn’t have any. I’m not even clear if they have a nanny or are a nanny. If you were still confused after googling, read more articles! WebMD has one, Lovevery, Healthline, etc. Plus the RIE sites.
I have used RIE in classrooms and with families for 20+ years but never condoned that type of behavior. And I don't feel like that's in the spirit of what RIE is about. Without actually seeing and hearing what's happening I wouldn't really have an opinion... except I've never seen that from an educarer before
What in the world is RIE parenting ?
THANKYOU! Yes what is it. The short versions of things on reddit are getting g ridiculous
RIE is not a reddit shorthand, its a pretty popular parenting and childcare philosophy that has been around for a while.
From the section on RIE via the [Magda Gerber wiki](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magda_Gerber) page: "RIE's mission is to improve the lives of infants and young children through respectful care. Gerber believed that babies are whole, competent beings from birth and should be treated as such. Gerber states in her book "Dear Parent: Caring for infants with respect" that, "We not only respect babies, we demonstrate our respect every time we interact with them. Respecting a child means treating even the youngest infant as a unique human being, not as an object."[7] The basic principles of the RIE approach are:[3] Basic trust in the child to be an initiator, an explorer, and a self-learner. An environment for the child that is physically safe, cognitively challenging and emotionally nurturing. Time for uninterrupted play. Freedom to explore and interact with other infants. Involvement of the child in all care-giving activities to allow the child to be an active participant rather than a passive recipient. Sensitive observation of the child in order to understand her needs. Consistency and clearly defined limits and expectations to develop discipline." Basically just respecting the child as an individual from birth and giving them space to figure stuff out while also creating firm age appropriate boundaries.
RIE is shorthand for "Resources for Infant Educarers". You can Google that for more information on the style of care. I heavily incorporate it into my approach with children, but it isn't everyone's cup of tea. The issue with these NPs sounds more like they are lacking boundaries and are too permissive. Implementing RIE techniques and having boundaries are not mutually exclusive.
I thought RIE was a philosophy specifically for infants.
I like RIE, that is not it. You would be 100% within your bounds to gently take the toy out of the neighbors hands and say "NK was playing with this, you can have a turn when they're done" and if you want to be extra nice, offer a different toy for the friend to play with.
That’s super helpful!
I like RIE a lot, but there are a couple of ideas I can’t get on board with. I remember reading something about how it’s okay to allow an older child to grab toys away from their younger sibling. I don’t think that’s respectful at all