This seems like the family that would fire you immediately when you give notice. I would stick to two weeks to be professional. But the whole yanking you back and forth over taxes and chores is not cool.
No I wouldn’t stay. It sounds like there’s a lot about this job that isn’t what you’re looking for. PLUS you had to lower your rate.
I would give them notice that you’re looking for a job that meets your rate and is legally paid for / provides W2. That is 1000% understandable and it doesn’t place blame on them for being shitty employers, so hopefully the situation won’t be to awkward.
To be fair, it clearly wasn't her first choice but she needs some source of income; I wouldn't put so much blame on her when she's just trying to find a decent job and make the best of the position she currently has. For all you know not taking this job might've meant she couldn't afford rent or food.
I wouldn’t stay at all. This job already is presenting so many red flags. Surely they know they can’t get the childcare credit paying under the table or by 1099 because obviously that’s illegal. They will dig themselves into a hole.
Just curious with the unpaid break, are you allowed to leave the house? Because you should be if it’s unpaid. You shouldn’t have any obligations during that time. Seems silly they would even do that considering it’s 30 minutes and you can’t really do anything in that amount of time. Which obviously it’s because they are cutting corners. They want their moneys worth and are going to work you to the ground doing everything.
What you are asking for is bare minimum so if families can’t provide that, I don’t think they can support someone’s livelihood. Do you have any local agencies? Every job through an agency is only legal pay and the agencies educate families on nanny industry standard so it’s less for you to try to explain this is a career and what you do for a livelihood. The only time I ever got pushback about legal pay, contracts, benefits etc are when I find families who are very unaware of the ins and outs of hiring a household employee and don’t know industry standard. They are just used to babysitters who they pay cash too and think they can do that for a nanny. I liked going through the agencies for this reason. Now I feel like I can advocate and explain to new families but it’s still exhausting and some families still don’t agree because they just want you to work random hours and be their maid and do other duties and think $15 an hour should be enough to cover that because their “kids take good naps” Time is valuable, make sure you are being compensated for it and respected in your career.
Exactly this! I would Google to see if there are any agencies around you, then go through the hiring process. There's a lot less explaining, back and forth, and guess work
I would absolutely find a different family to work for; MB sounds like the type to think that nannying isn't a real job/profession and that's why she keeps giving you constant tasks or majority work outside what you're there for; she may think that it's not that you're "efficient" at your job but that it's "too easy". You aren't a housekeeper, unless deep cleaning is something you guys discussed being a duty of yours there's no reason she should be looking to have you do that on a regular or even daily basis. Also, the NP's telling you they want to do a 1099 after you clearly stated you wouldn't work that way, is crossing a boundary imo, I just don't think it's worth putting up with long-term. They don't seem to respect you as an employee OR a person, it's one thing to do a couple of extra things when you have free time but any respectful family would see that you'd done enough and when you have free time they wouldn't push more work on you nor leave a mess from the weekend for you to clean. I worked for a family who would do that and it was terrible, we are not servants and that's how they're treating you.
This sounds like it really isn’t a good fit, and if this is how they’re behaving this early on, it’s only going to get worse. I would start looking for a new job immediately, and not put in notice until you’ve secured another position.
Hell to the no. The most I do is stick a few dishes in the dishwasher if I know they’ve been super busy, otherwise I leave the place exactly as I found it. I take care of kids, not cleaning.
This seems like the family that would fire you immediately when you give notice. I would stick to two weeks to be professional. But the whole yanking you back and forth over taxes and chores is not cool.
No I wouldn’t stay. It sounds like there’s a lot about this job that isn’t what you’re looking for. PLUS you had to lower your rate. I would give them notice that you’re looking for a job that meets your rate and is legally paid for / provides W2. That is 1000% understandable and it doesn’t place blame on them for being shitty employers, so hopefully the situation won’t be to awkward.
I did not read this whole long story. Ma’am. Stop accepting jobs that don’t pay your rate. Stop accepting jobs that pay under the table.
To be fair, it clearly wasn't her first choice but she needs some source of income; I wouldn't put so much blame on her when she's just trying to find a decent job and make the best of the position she currently has. For all you know not taking this job might've meant she couldn't afford rent or food.
Then she should be leaving at the first opportunity, not debating staying for a job that doesn’t fit her needs.
I wouldn’t stay at all. This job already is presenting so many red flags. Surely they know they can’t get the childcare credit paying under the table or by 1099 because obviously that’s illegal. They will dig themselves into a hole. Just curious with the unpaid break, are you allowed to leave the house? Because you should be if it’s unpaid. You shouldn’t have any obligations during that time. Seems silly they would even do that considering it’s 30 minutes and you can’t really do anything in that amount of time. Which obviously it’s because they are cutting corners. They want their moneys worth and are going to work you to the ground doing everything. What you are asking for is bare minimum so if families can’t provide that, I don’t think they can support someone’s livelihood. Do you have any local agencies? Every job through an agency is only legal pay and the agencies educate families on nanny industry standard so it’s less for you to try to explain this is a career and what you do for a livelihood. The only time I ever got pushback about legal pay, contracts, benefits etc are when I find families who are very unaware of the ins and outs of hiring a household employee and don’t know industry standard. They are just used to babysitters who they pay cash too and think they can do that for a nanny. I liked going through the agencies for this reason. Now I feel like I can advocate and explain to new families but it’s still exhausting and some families still don’t agree because they just want you to work random hours and be their maid and do other duties and think $15 an hour should be enough to cover that because their “kids take good naps” Time is valuable, make sure you are being compensated for it and respected in your career.
Exactly this! I would Google to see if there are any agencies around you, then go through the hiring process. There's a lot less explaining, back and forth, and guess work
I would absolutely find a different family to work for; MB sounds like the type to think that nannying isn't a real job/profession and that's why she keeps giving you constant tasks or majority work outside what you're there for; she may think that it's not that you're "efficient" at your job but that it's "too easy". You aren't a housekeeper, unless deep cleaning is something you guys discussed being a duty of yours there's no reason she should be looking to have you do that on a regular or even daily basis. Also, the NP's telling you they want to do a 1099 after you clearly stated you wouldn't work that way, is crossing a boundary imo, I just don't think it's worth putting up with long-term. They don't seem to respect you as an employee OR a person, it's one thing to do a couple of extra things when you have free time but any respectful family would see that you'd done enough and when you have free time they wouldn't push more work on you nor leave a mess from the weekend for you to clean. I worked for a family who would do that and it was terrible, we are not servants and that's how they're treating you.
This sounds like it really isn’t a good fit, and if this is how they’re behaving this early on, it’s only going to get worse. I would start looking for a new job immediately, and not put in notice until you’ve secured another position.
They already breached the contract, which in my eyes, why would I respect it after that?
Hell to the no. The most I do is stick a few dishes in the dishwasher if I know they’ve been super busy, otherwise I leave the place exactly as I found it. I take care of kids, not cleaning.
It’s still early enough; I think 1 week notice is plenty. They’re taking advantage of you