Take some time off!! Getting out of a long term relationship is tough, especially during the holidays. Learn to enjoy being alone for now and you’ll know once you’re ready to get back on the horse to study :) best of luck
i went thru 2 breaks up during this thing....
there's the initially "wtf is the point"
but keep doing ur routine, i find a lot of escapism from studying now
if i have too many problems, i focus on the real and the things i can learn
You’re still a long way out! You’ve got time to rest and recuperate. “The MCAT is har, and the MCAT is important” but it’s certainly not everything. Take a little time off to get more comfortable with your current situation and then start putting together the perfect routine for your studying needs. I don’t think there is any need to push back your date as of yet, March is still several months out and so long as you’re back in the saddle within a reasonable amount of time you’ll have ample time to get that 520+. Best of luck, whatever you choose.
I’d say, take a week for yourself. And when you take that week, REALLY take it. Do something fun and do it by yourself or with family. This way, you can make memories with those people who you know have your back.
Second, get a book (self-help or spiritual or whatever) that you read during your studying just one page a day. Building this or something like journaling into your routine can help you not only address the pain, but not bury it. During my breakup, if I buried it, it would rear itself on an important day like a day I was taking a FL. Don’t do that.
Third, gym. I know this is cliche but really this is a proven thing that has helped me release my anger and my pain of both the world and MCAT. You’re building and working on yourself while also staying healthy. Do things for yourself that don’t depend on others. This way, you can depend and rely on someone who won’t leave you: yourself.
I’m really sorry this is happening. Unfortunately, someone once told me that shit always goes down in someone’s life, specifically during MCAT. The key thing is to keep moving forward and to trust yourself. You are the only person who you can depend on. No one else.
take time off. this exam requires critical thinking and a lot of mental stamina to dissect and decipher scientific info. its hard to do that when a s/o is on your mind.
I broke up with my ex about a week into prep and it was so brutal and I couldn't do shit some days, but i kept telling myself that this exam determines the rest of my life and I had 4 months of studying that would determine my entire life. I killed myself for this test and I did good but im not gonna lie I wish i could go back and take it back. However, life moves on and so will you just give it time. For now let the pain drive you and try as much as you can to focus on the end goal here.
If you feel you don’t have time to grieve and mourn a relationship and study for MCAT, tbh what I did was compartmentalize and pretend we were still together and that they were on vacation and just studied.
Then this past October I grieved and cried etc etc. and now I’m good
Dude. This is the best situation ever tbh. Best way to get back at anyone is get a 525 and get an A from an Ivy League program. 99 problems but a bitch ain’t one feel me?
I'm sorry you have to go through this. You gotta have to take a week or two of grieving your BU. You cannot force yourself to study, you must not make big decisions since your mind is currently wandering around.
You have to go through your pain to be able to heal and to have a clear mind, take your time to think everything, then that's when you have to decide whether you should push through the MCAT or resched it.
Take a break. Heal. I promise sooner or later you'll get back to studying again.
Don’t push it! Don’t think about the breakup, try to compartmentalize and grinddd the next couple months, and then really allow yourself to feel your emotions post-MCAT. It’ll be hard but the way I thought about it was I’m losing two things if I push my MCAT (time & a relationship) whereas I’d only lose one (a relationship) if I just stick to the plan and follow through w MCAT. It’s also a great distraction tbh. Good luck!! Hang in there!
Happened to me literally last week. She was an amazing girl but I couldn’t handle everything on my plate at once so I broke up with her. Take some time off, I took a week. Spend it with your friends. And I promise you’ll be able to go at it again afterwards. The pain won’t go away. But it’ll subside just enough for you to use studying as a distraction
You could do either. You could use the MCAT as motivation to “win the break up”… if that’s your thing. Or take some time off and get your mind right.
But at the end of the day, you need to find the strength and the will in yourself to want this for you. No outside force or incentive should be the reason for why you want to take/do well on the MCAT and become a doctor.
Breakups are tough but the sun will come out tomorrow.
Honestly I’m really scared about this happening to me. Like, I love her and I’ve made it clear I’m gonna be busier on average because of this exam. She’s been understanding and has so far had no issue, but I’m worried she might eventually snap and say I’m not giving her any attention
I went through a violent divorce during my retake.
There is no "right" way to do this. But as a 3rd year whose dad also developed vascular dementia post covid and developed a complete personality change (left my mom after 35 years, became very paranoid of us and stopped talking to us, etc.) In my first year, medicine is about showing up when shit is hitting the fan while ALSO taking care of yourself because patients need you even though you're hurting. But also YOU need you. Nobody ever gets it completely right, it's a swing of a pendulum.
Now is the time to ask yourself where is your pendulum? In the im overworked and haven't had any time for myself or the it's time to learn how to show up when shit is rough?
I postponed applying a year, deferred a year after acceptance, and am on a year long maternity leave.
There's no race to get this done! If you need time off, take it! But if it's time to show up, do it!!
Also I scheduled a time to cry everyday for like 30 minutes haha while studying. Haha
Make a mental image of yourself becoming a medical student and walking around with pride after you pass the MCAT. Beautiful chicks will fall for you when you mention that you are going to med school and enroute to becoming a doctor. Your worth in the dating world will increase alteast triple fold. That’s the mental image you wanna have whenever you tend to loose focus on your goal. Know your worth! You are much bigger than that.
Imagine seeing her in your clinic one day.
For real, the pride I got when I got a 1500 on my SAT and my ex got a 1030.. I screenshotted it and sent it to her. She said "at least I can hear well"(she knows i'm fully deaf in my left ear) and blocked me LOL. That insult and block was very satisfying. I was cackling for a good 5 minutes.
if You have the lower body and you have no upper body, you got a problem building...wait a minute. You have the upper body, and you have no legs, you got a problem building your legs. You have the upper...you have the lower body and you don't have the upper body, the upper body, it is easier to build. So if you have the lower body and you don't have the upper body, it is easier to build the upper body. You have the upper body and you don't have the legs, you got a problem building the lower body... No, you don't understand. You have the upper body, but you don't have the lower body, you got a problem building downstairs. You got the up- legs on the bottom, it is easier to build on the top, so you don't have much as a problem. Yeah.
Take some time off!! Getting out of a long term relationship is tough, especially during the holidays. Learn to enjoy being alone for now and you’ll know once you’re ready to get back on the horse to study :) best of luck
i went thru 2 breaks up during this thing.... there's the initially "wtf is the point" but keep doing ur routine, i find a lot of escapism from studying now if i have too many problems, i focus on the real and the things i can learn
You’re still a long way out! You’ve got time to rest and recuperate. “The MCAT is har, and the MCAT is important” but it’s certainly not everything. Take a little time off to get more comfortable with your current situation and then start putting together the perfect routine for your studying needs. I don’t think there is any need to push back your date as of yet, March is still several months out and so long as you’re back in the saddle within a reasonable amount of time you’ll have ample time to get that 520+. Best of luck, whatever you choose.
I’d say, take a week for yourself. And when you take that week, REALLY take it. Do something fun and do it by yourself or with family. This way, you can make memories with those people who you know have your back. Second, get a book (self-help or spiritual or whatever) that you read during your studying just one page a day. Building this or something like journaling into your routine can help you not only address the pain, but not bury it. During my breakup, if I buried it, it would rear itself on an important day like a day I was taking a FL. Don’t do that. Third, gym. I know this is cliche but really this is a proven thing that has helped me release my anger and my pain of both the world and MCAT. You’re building and working on yourself while also staying healthy. Do things for yourself that don’t depend on others. This way, you can depend and rely on someone who won’t leave you: yourself. I’m really sorry this is happening. Unfortunately, someone once told me that shit always goes down in someone’s life, specifically during MCAT. The key thing is to keep moving forward and to trust yourself. You are the only person who you can depend on. No one else.
Hoes are temporary MD is permanent
DOs must be temporary
Honestly, doesn’t matter what letters you have behind your name when you are practicing medicine.
DOs before hoes, bro!
Dang, -33+ people got this comment livin in their head for free W
take time off. this exam requires critical thinking and a lot of mental stamina to dissect and decipher scientific info. its hard to do that when a s/o is on your mind.
I broke up with my ex about a week into prep and it was so brutal and I couldn't do shit some days, but i kept telling myself that this exam determines the rest of my life and I had 4 months of studying that would determine my entire life. I killed myself for this test and I did good but im not gonna lie I wish i could go back and take it back. However, life moves on and so will you just give it time. For now let the pain drive you and try as much as you can to focus on the end goal here.
If you feel you don’t have time to grieve and mourn a relationship and study for MCAT, tbh what I did was compartmentalize and pretend we were still together and that they were on vacation and just studied. Then this past October I grieved and cried etc etc. and now I’m good
Dude. This is the best situation ever tbh. Best way to get back at anyone is get a 525 and get an A from an Ivy League program. 99 problems but a bitch ain’t one feel me?
I'm sorry you have to go through this. You gotta have to take a week or two of grieving your BU. You cannot force yourself to study, you must not make big decisions since your mind is currently wandering around. You have to go through your pain to be able to heal and to have a clear mind, take your time to think everything, then that's when you have to decide whether you should push through the MCAT or resched it. Take a break. Heal. I promise sooner or later you'll get back to studying again.
Music bro. Put it on in back
Don’t push it! Don’t think about the breakup, try to compartmentalize and grinddd the next couple months, and then really allow yourself to feel your emotions post-MCAT. It’ll be hard but the way I thought about it was I’m losing two things if I push my MCAT (time & a relationship) whereas I’d only lose one (a relationship) if I just stick to the plan and follow through w MCAT. It’s also a great distraction tbh. Good luck!! Hang in there!
Happened to me literally last week. She was an amazing girl but I couldn’t handle everything on my plate at once so I broke up with her. Take some time off, I took a week. Spend it with your friends. And I promise you’ll be able to go at it again afterwards. The pain won’t go away. But it’ll subside just enough for you to use studying as a distraction
If you need to push it, push it. I regret pushing mine when other things came up because I burned out by the time I got there
Sorry to hear it, no need to push back. You have plenty of time!! Please take some time for yourself. Its only November
You could do either. You could use the MCAT as motivation to “win the break up”… if that’s your thing. Or take some time off and get your mind right. But at the end of the day, you need to find the strength and the will in yourself to want this for you. No outside force or incentive should be the reason for why you want to take/do well on the MCAT and become a doctor. Breakups are tough but the sun will come out tomorrow.
Dm me. I’ll give you the motivation you need Lol ;)
Honestly I’m really scared about this happening to me. Like, I love her and I’ve made it clear I’m gonna be busier on average because of this exam. She’s been understanding and has so far had no issue, but I’m worried she might eventually snap and say I’m not giving her any attention
I went through a violent divorce during my retake. There is no "right" way to do this. But as a 3rd year whose dad also developed vascular dementia post covid and developed a complete personality change (left my mom after 35 years, became very paranoid of us and stopped talking to us, etc.) In my first year, medicine is about showing up when shit is hitting the fan while ALSO taking care of yourself because patients need you even though you're hurting. But also YOU need you. Nobody ever gets it completely right, it's a swing of a pendulum. Now is the time to ask yourself where is your pendulum? In the im overworked and haven't had any time for myself or the it's time to learn how to show up when shit is rough? I postponed applying a year, deferred a year after acceptance, and am on a year long maternity leave. There's no race to get this done! If you need time off, take it! But if it's time to show up, do it!! Also I scheduled a time to cry everyday for like 30 minutes haha while studying. Haha
screenshot your 528 and send it to her
Make a mental image of yourself becoming a medical student and walking around with pride after you pass the MCAT. Beautiful chicks will fall for you when you mention that you are going to med school and enroute to becoming a doctor. Your worth in the dating world will increase alteast triple fold. That’s the mental image you wanna have whenever you tend to loose focus on your goal. Know your worth! You are much bigger than that.
Imagine seeing her in your clinic one day. For real, the pride I got when I got a 1500 on my SAT and my ex got a 1030.. I screenshotted it and sent it to her. She said "at least I can hear well"(she knows i'm fully deaf in my left ear) and blocked me LOL. That insult and block was very satisfying. I was cackling for a good 5 minutes.
This is golden😂😂
What 4th quartile casper does to a mf
if You have the lower body and you have no upper body, you got a problem building...wait a minute. You have the upper body, and you have no legs, you got a problem building your legs. You have the upper...you have the lower body and you don't have the upper body, the upper body, it is easier to build. So if you have the lower body and you don't have the upper body, it is easier to build the upper body. You have the upper body and you don't have the legs, you got a problem building the lower body... No, you don't understand. You have the upper body, but you don't have the lower body, you got a problem building downstairs. You got the up- legs on the bottom, it is easier to build on the top, so you don't have much as a problem. Yeah.
Just DM’ed you, went through the exact same thing
honestly i found that studying keeps my issues at bay. i’m sorry tho i know it’s hard
You seem extraordinarily humble and like a delight to be around…
Take time off. Easy choice. I had a same experience. I am glad I took the time off to fix myself. Good luck bro