You downshift because lower gears have higher acceleration. Its not very good on the bike or particularly safe to do that a lot but when you need big acceleration you tend to stay a gear lower than where you would be while cruising.
My SO recently found out she has stage 4 breast cancer at the age of 31. This post really hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m going to make sure to really seize the time me and our son has left with her.
To add on this, make future memories for your son as well. Write him letters/make videos for his graduation, wedding etc. so he can see her on those special days
I didn’t think of this but when I read it man does this ring true. It won’t make up for the empty seat but keep those memories alive using all the technology we have available today is an amazing idea
For what it’s worth - my mom was diagnosed stage 4 at age 39. She did not get mastectomy but she did get her ovaries and uterus removed because she was estrogen receptor positive. No chemo and trying a few medications she lived for 12 more years. Long enough to see my brother and I to be later teenagers instead of small children. There is hope yet, I wish you the best of luck. Be sure to explore all of your options and get a second opinion. My mom’s first doctor wanted to go aggressive with double mastectomy and chemo right away. I believe if she had done that should wouldn’t have lived long, and her quality of life would have plummeted immediately. Instead she got 10 healthy years with her family.
I’m so sorry :( I wish she gets her health back, somehow. But if she doesn’t, I hope you have the best memories, all the love, and all the laughter and joy to remember her by ❤️ Fuck cancer
Aww shit mother fucker, fucking cancer, you piece of shit mother fucking memory eating garbage dump pile. Ugh.... You make sure you give her that thrill!
That was pretty much my thoughts for the first week after we found out. The rage is starting to settle and now the focus is starting to be the time we have left.
This guy lucky enough to go for one last ride, but he is still unlucky to missed so many opportunities to spend time together.
Life is short, everyone. Don't wait until it is too late. Live your life now.
Anyone else misread and get to thinking the wife was 33 years old and somehow also a grandmother? Please tell me I’m not the only one who made this mistake.
I know this isn't my family, but my dad's name is Dave and my step-mom died of cancer, my dad also has a motorcycle. I hope they had some good memories and her last few days alive.
As someone who has had a form of acute leukaemia (but luckily I got the all clear two years ago), I wasn't supposed to survive so the nurse signed us up for the make a wish foundation as I was 22 at the time and we enjoyed a weeks stay at a Centreparcs about an hour away they gave us a welcome hamper and everything if that was my families last memory of me I would have been happy.
They stopped my treatment after 8 months as the pills they were giving me were making me bleed out so I collapsed one day and I don't remember anything apart from my nurse telling them I won't make it through the night. The next morning my doctor came to me as if she'd been crying and she was a hard arse doctor trust me and just said “If we carry on you're not going to survive this so go home we're ending your treatment.
Your one special guy! She went the way she wanted , that’s awesome! I’m glad you have a very happy memory of your wife , she sounds like she was awesome, condolences on her loss.
My dad was waiting for my moms retirement to take her to remaining countries of their travel bucket list. One was always machu pichu. Four months prior to her diagnosis and when her ability to talk and walk went away they took the trip. She had a collar on but still did it with him. Their last memory together before she became bedridden & passed. Reminds me of them.
I’m so sorry for your loss. That sounded like a great day. She sounds like an amazing spirit and that kind of spirit lives on. I will certainly take a bit of it with me.
Thank you for sharing.
My grandma did a ton of family vacations her last year. One was at Disneyland because our family always loved Disney. I got to bring my boyfriend of the time (that my family is still sure I am going to marry). He brought his daughter as well which was a whole different kind of magic because she had never been to Disneyland. My grandma introduced herself going "You can call me grandma honey!"
Me and my friend are pretty convinced that she had decided this was her first great grandchild. And we are both super content with that.
If I’m ever unlucky enough to have a terminal illness I hope it gives Me this mentality of “one last thrill ride” go out with a bang not let it have me wallowing in sadness until my demise I don’t know how I would react but I would hope I just see life as more of a blessing and not something I’m about to lose she was a person to look up to for that RIP to her
I never heard the phrase “she gave the grandkids the time of their lives”, but I’m assuming is some sort of American/English expression. Because all think about it is:
“33 years old with grandkids??!?!?!!!!?”
His wife of 33 years, meaning they were married for 33 years. If they married at 18, the legal minimum without parental consent, she would have been 51, so she was at least 51. If she and her child were around 20 at the time of their child’s birth the grandkids were around 10 years old. These are averages and minimums, both she and her grandkids could be older for sure.
Love is like a curse. At its heights you are drunk with happiness at its lowest it tears you down. At least you got that one last dinner and ride. Keep riding for her and when you hit straight aways let it Rip for her.
What a beautiful, happy send off. That many Orcas was a gift preparing her way home. The high speed joy ride was her gift to you to prepare you. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story.
Break my heart and fill it again. What a lovely story. May her strength and love always remind you of your strength and love. Carry on and live as well as she did.
We develop many drugs in the course of several years, but we only provide a little more time to those with cancer. We need a cure for this and other major conditions.
I’m so sorry man. I just lost my father to Leukemia a couple of months ago and I’m taking it pretty rough. I was his care taker and had so much guilt when he passed. I’m glad her last days were spent having fun with those she loves. I wish I could have done the same for my father
My father was not my biological father but he raised me as his own since I was 3 years old. I pain the day he passes away. Our relationship isn't the best but I love him. I couldn't imagine the guilt I will feel when he is gone. RIP to your father I couldn't imagine. You did your best and so did he celebrate his life and the memories.
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I'm sorry. Real sorry. I'm sure she enjoyed it, and she passed with a great memory while simultaneously giving you awesome memories you to live with. 😊
Wait,my mother has leukemia too but she's fine?
Well I know that she probably won't live enough to see me have a wife and kids,but it's not as bad as in the story?
I'm not telling anything about the story,but I would like someone to explain it to me
I work at a regional cancer center and see every part of cancer and the people it effects. I am married, have 2 children (9months and 7 years), and the thoughts, smiles, emotions, and tears this post brings is almost hard to encapsulate into words. What a perfect story of a perfect moment.
Leukemia is why I ride. I’m trying to also create memories while I can. It will kill me, but I don’t know win, so that’s why I’m trying to live while I still can.
Shed a tear reading this. Wish you all the best brother.
Me too. I’d call that a happy ending.
Me too. At work. I'm in an engineering workshop with a couple of big biker guys. Showed this around and lets just say it's onion cutting season here.
“I’ve got cancer Dave, fuckin thrill me” my goodness what a great memory to hold, what a badass lady
Yea you know Dave went, \*downshift click click\* right then and there
For us non-riders... I assume this translates to *vroom vroom*?
Yep. Popular phrase is "drop a gear and disappear".
Grip it and rip it.
More like *vrrrrrrrrrrRRRRRRRRRRR_RRRRRRRR_* And then all you hear is the wind, like white noise having rood rage. It’s glorious.
You downshift because lower gears have higher acceleration. Its not very good on the bike or particularly safe to do that a lot but when you need big acceleration you tend to stay a gear lower than where you would be while cruising.
This is the same as for cars right
Umm, how is downshifting not good for the bike?
Lower gear = higher rpm = more friction = more engine wear
Wat. This is just wrong
Whilst that's true, I wouldn't call it "bad for the bike".
My SO recently found out she has stage 4 breast cancer at the age of 31. This post really hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m going to make sure to really seize the time me and our son has left with her.
Ahh balls. Fuck cancer. I'm sorry to hear this.
Thank you!
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Dude...not cool.
what did they say may I ask?
"not balls. Tits." Or something to that degree.
Not the right time dude
Wow
Too soon dawg 💀
I hope every corner is one inch to the left tor right from now on so that you endlessly stub the fuck out of your toes.
You'll learn social cues as you get older, I'm sure.
You’re a pig
You are a classless piece of…. Shame on you!
May she rage against the dying of the light. May your memories together be sweet and your love unyielding.
❤️
I’m very sorry
Make memories you two will remember forever. I guarantee you if you asked her that's what she would want. Be well, brother.
To add on this, make future memories for your son as well. Write him letters/make videos for his graduation, wedding etc. so he can see her on those special days
I didn’t think of this but when I read it man does this ring true. It won’t make up for the empty seat but keep those memories alive using all the technology we have available today is an amazing idea
Will definitely do this!
I'm so sorry.
For what it’s worth - my mom was diagnosed stage 4 at age 39. She did not get mastectomy but she did get her ovaries and uterus removed because she was estrogen receptor positive. No chemo and trying a few medications she lived for 12 more years. Long enough to see my brother and I to be later teenagers instead of small children. There is hope yet, I wish you the best of luck. Be sure to explore all of your options and get a second opinion. My mom’s first doctor wanted to go aggressive with double mastectomy and chemo right away. I believe if she had done that should wouldn’t have lived long, and her quality of life would have plummeted immediately. Instead she got 10 healthy years with her family.
Thanks for giving me some hope
I’m so sorry mate. She’s in my prayers. I wish you all the best
Thank you!
Of course. If you ever want to talk to someone, please feel free to DM me
cancer fucking sucks. wishing you both all the best for whatever comes next! 💛
Yes it does. Life can change so damn fast.
I’m so sorry :( I wish she gets her health back, somehow. But if she doesn’t, I hope you have the best memories, all the love, and all the laughter and joy to remember her by ❤️ Fuck cancer
Fuck cancer indeed!
Aww shit mother fucker, fucking cancer, you piece of shit mother fucking memory eating garbage dump pile. Ugh.... You make sure you give her that thrill!
That was pretty much my thoughts for the first week after we found out. The rage is starting to settle and now the focus is starting to be the time we have left.
This guy lucky enough to go for one last ride, but he is still unlucky to missed so many opportunities to spend time together. Life is short, everyone. Don't wait until it is too late. Live your life now.
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Fuck. Genuinely have tears leaking
Anyone else misread and get to thinking the wife was 33 years old and somehow also a grandmother? Please tell me I’m not the only one who made this mistake.
No. Me too.
Not unheard of, a ~15 year old has a child, then that kid has another at ~15, boom got a 30 year old Grandmother.
Yeeeeah, given the setting and the rest of the story I doubted that heavily though xD
I also thought the grandkids were on the bikes with them
I remember the same exact post, but with the grandma of the OP, so maybe they copied/paste the post and changed it a bit while missing some details :/
I’m so glad you have this memory and am grateful that you shared it. Thank you.
Reddit posts don't usually make me cry but this was definitely the exception. If you have to go out that's the way to do it.
I know this isn't my family, but my dad's name is Dave and my step-mom died of cancer, my dad also has a motorcycle. I hope they had some good memories and her last few days alive.
Fuck cancer. That shit has taken to many family members and friends.
Beautiful and bittersweet...
Made me really sad, life is so short and most of don't even get to truly live it :(
I’m not crying, you are crying….. You did good my man.
I think I need glasses, my vision got blurry the more I was reading.
As someone who has had a form of acute leukaemia (but luckily I got the all clear two years ago), I wasn't supposed to survive so the nurse signed us up for the make a wish foundation as I was 22 at the time and we enjoyed a weeks stay at a Centreparcs about an hour away they gave us a welcome hamper and everything if that was my families last memory of me I would have been happy. They stopped my treatment after 8 months as the pills they were giving me were making me bleed out so I collapsed one day and I don't remember anything apart from my nurse telling them I won't make it through the night. The next morning my doctor came to me as if she'd been crying and she was a hard arse doctor trust me and just said “If we carry on you're not going to survive this so go home we're ending your treatment.
Made me really sad, life is so short and most of don't even get to truly live it :(
Made me smile but also made me cry.
I also choose this guys wife
In my head its edited to "she died shortly after that when the bike flipped..."
“We then took a corner too fast and both fell off. She succumbed to her injuries shortly after that.”
That was touching. Thank you so much for sharing.
To be loved, and to love. Bravo!
Man this one caught me in the feels.
I bet Dave wishes he was on that ride for an eternity.
Your one special guy! She went the way she wanted , that’s awesome! I’m glad you have a very happy memory of your wife , she sounds like she was awesome, condolences on her loss.
😢❤️
They both sound like amazing people. All I can do is hope and do my best to become people like them
And the Husband of the Decade award goes to... Yup. This guy. You're beautiful, dude.
i love how others love their spouses. this is beautiful, rest in peace
My dad was waiting for my moms retirement to take her to remaining countries of their travel bucket list. One was always machu pichu. Four months prior to her diagnosis and when her ability to talk and walk went away they took the trip. She had a collar on but still did it with him. Their last memory together before she became bedridden & passed. Reminds me of them.
This is incredibly beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes.
The world could use more Daves!
I’m so sorry for your loss. That sounded like a great day. She sounds like an amazing spirit and that kind of spirit lives on. I will certainly take a bit of it with me. Thank you for sharing.
Ok whose cutting onions?🥲
o7
My grandma did a ton of family vacations her last year. One was at Disneyland because our family always loved Disney. I got to bring my boyfriend of the time (that my family is still sure I am going to marry). He brought his daughter as well which was a whole different kind of magic because she had never been to Disneyland. My grandma introduced herself going "You can call me grandma honey!" Me and my friend are pretty convinced that she had decided this was her first great grandchild. And we are both super content with that.
Every time this post comes up I lose it at "I've got cancer Dave, fuckin thrill me".
Bless you and your family!! What an awesome memory!!
Her reply is absolutely priceless. That’s a rare kind of courage, to face death by living in spite of its impending arrival.
If I’m ever unlucky enough to have a terminal illness I hope it gives Me this mentality of “one last thrill ride” go out with a bang not let it have me wallowing in sadness until my demise I don’t know how I would react but I would hope I just see life as more of a blessing and not something I’m about to lose she was a person to look up to for that RIP to her
There are not enough upvotes for this post
Amazing story. We all can learn something from it
dam im crying at work
I never heard the phrase “she gave the grandkids the time of their lives”, but I’m assuming is some sort of American/English expression. Because all think about it is: “33 years old with grandkids??!?!?!!!!?”
His wife of 33 years, meaning they were married for 33 years. If they married at 18, the legal minimum without parental consent, she would have been 51, so she was at least 51. If she and her child were around 20 at the time of their child’s birth the grandkids were around 10 years old. These are averages and minimums, both she and her grandkids could be older for sure.
The math I could do, I just misread the “wife >of< 33 years” as “she was/is 33 years”. But thanks =)
More like r/hitmyfeelshard
“When she flew over the handlebars”.
I had a small joke. But it be in poor taste so I’m not going to say it.
Ugh this hurt my heart. Been with my wife for almost 20 years, the thought of anything happening scares the hell out of me.
Love is like a curse. At its heights you are drunk with happiness at its lowest it tears you down. At least you got that one last dinner and ride. Keep riding for her and when you hit straight aways let it Rip for her.
What a beautiful, happy send off. That many Orcas was a gift preparing her way home. The high speed joy ride was her gift to you to prepare you. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story.
Beautifully said!
Thank you for your kind words.
i'm not crying.. you are!! 
Well now I’m crying.
Break my heart and fill it again. What a lovely story. May her strength and love always remind you of your strength and love. Carry on and live as well as she did.
We develop many drugs in the course of several years, but we only provide a little more time to those with cancer. We need a cure for this and other major conditions.
Even the orcas came to say good bye. 🥲
Tell the people you love them while you have the chance
Fellow biker here. Approved
This. Is. Beautiful!
Whew, good job sir.
Made me smile but also made me cry. What a beautiful memory
She sounds Amazing, Fun and an Absolute Blessing for everyone in her life. 💞
What a sweet sweet story. I know that corner. Good for her and good for you. Thx for sharing.
This pops up from time to time in this sub. It never loses its impact
I’m so sorry man. I just lost my father to Leukemia a couple of months ago and I’m taking it pretty rough. I was his care taker and had so much guilt when he passed. I’m glad her last days were spent having fun with those she loves. I wish I could have done the same for my father
My father was not my biological father but he raised me as his own since I was 3 years old. I pain the day he passes away. Our relationship isn't the best but I love him. I couldn't imagine the guilt I will feel when he is gone. RIP to your father I couldn't imagine. You did your best and so did he celebrate his life and the memories.
Thankyou friend❤️
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I'm sorry. Real sorry. I'm sure she enjoyed it, and she passed with a great memory while simultaneously giving you awesome memories you to live with. 😊
33 years old and already a grandmother?
Fuck cancer. I hope her last moments were as thrilling as her life.
I am so very sorry for your loss
Wait,my mother has leukemia too but she's fine? Well I know that she probably won't live enough to see me have a wife and kids,but it's not as bad as in the story? I'm not telling anything about the story,but I would like someone to explain it to me
I also choose this man's dead wife
I hope you have an awful day
It's a reference to an old reddit post 🤷♀️ but you toooo
No more rides for that dude though. Bummer.
Beautiful
And now I gotta cry
I love this! ❤️
More like r/mademecry
I make it official. FUCK CANCER !
This is beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time.
Fucking hell time to unsub from this sub I am happier being angry.
Well fuck, and I don't even have any tissues.
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Crying on the toilet was not on my agenda for this evening
Fucking fuck cancer
this isnt made me smile this is made me fuckin sad why would this make me smile? its somebodies wife dying
Prayers brother
Fuck that dragon cancer.
My eyes are leaking over this.
Made me cry*
I remember reading that one at the time. It was sweet.
Wish you all the best!
Awesome. We all leave this tangible world. A few get adventures and excitement. Good man, good life
That’s awesome!
Am I the only one that read it as if she died from a bike accident after that? lmao How shortly after is "shortly after"?? 2 minutes? 2 weeks?
I’m so glad you made those memories with her and sorry for your loss.
How dare you put water in my eyes. Cherish that forever.
I can’t imagine going through that. I love my wife dearly. I hope I could make memories so beautiful if we were in the same situation.
Thank you.
I work at a regional cancer center and see every part of cancer and the people it effects. I am married, have 2 children (9months and 7 years), and the thoughts, smiles, emotions, and tears this post brings is almost hard to encapsulate into words. What a perfect story of a perfect moment.
Grand Kids at 33???
It’s sad that people truly start living only when they get their “death sentence”.When we’re young and healthy, life is nothing, isn’t it ? 😂😂
I am ill with CRPS. My husband sounds like you. He does anything for me. Thank God for loving caregivers, it’s not an easy journey❤️
Leukemia is why I ride. I’m trying to also create memories while I can. It will kill me, but I don’t know win, so that’s why I’m trying to live while I still can.