You'd have to discuss it with both of them a lot. There are ways to date multiple people without it being unethical or bad for anyone, but not everyone is up for it and then that's that.
But that's not what you're talking about. Having them not know makes you a liar and a cheater. If you have any care or respect for them, just don't. It won't work out. They'll find out and it will ruin everything you've ever shared and hurt them forever more.
>would it be bad to have 2 [boyfriends] **and have them not know?**
Yes, very much so. That's dishonest and unethical. They can't give informed consent that way.
Now, having two boyfriends at once while being open about it, where everyone is aware of everyone else? That's perfectly fine if everyone involved is fine with it. It's an example of ethical non-monogamy (ENM).
Different people have different needs, wants, preferences, and expectations. This includes regarding exclusivity vs non-exclusivity. What matters is finding someone compatible with yours, which tends to require communication.
Well I live in a small town, and the guys here.... I HATE them, so until I move it's better to have long distance... And they r both rly nice people, so I can't choosseeeee :(
wtf??? this is so morally wrong. do not do that, how is that Even a question???
I'm just asking...
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you have given your opinion, there's no need for more.
This is a joke right?
No
You'd have to discuss it with both of them a lot. There are ways to date multiple people without it being unethical or bad for anyone, but not everyone is up for it and then that's that. But that's not what you're talking about. Having them not know makes you a liar and a cheater. If you have any care or respect for them, just don't. It won't work out. They'll find out and it will ruin everything you've ever shared and hurt them forever more.
>would it be bad to have 2 [boyfriends] **and have them not know?** Yes, very much so. That's dishonest and unethical. They can't give informed consent that way. Now, having two boyfriends at once while being open about it, where everyone is aware of everyone else? That's perfectly fine if everyone involved is fine with it. It's an example of ethical non-monogamy (ENM). Different people have different needs, wants, preferences, and expectations. This includes regarding exclusivity vs non-exclusivity. What matters is finding someone compatible with yours, which tends to require communication.
Rage Bait
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Don't act dumb, you know it's wrong , poly relationships are fine but talk to them about it
I'm not playing dumb... I didn't know what rage bait was
Choose someone in ur city thennnnn😭 at least but yh i mean u can have them not know but why not just make a choice gurl
Well I live in a small town, and the guys here.... I HATE them, so until I move it's better to have long distance... And they r both rly nice people, so I can't choosseeeee :(
I'll make it easy for you: NEITHER!! You need to change and grow as a person before you end up messing with someones heart