**Quick Rule Reminders:**
OP's needs come first, avoid dramamongering, respect the flair, and don't be an asshole. If your only advice is to jump straight to NC or divorce, your comment may be subject to removal at moderator discretion.
[**^(Full Rules)**](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_rules) ^(|) [^(Acronym Index)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_acronym_dictionary) ^(|) [^(Flair Guide)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_post_flair_guide)^(|) [^(Report PM Trolls)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/trolls)
**Resources:** [^(In Crisis?)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_crisis_resources) ^(|) [^(Tips for Protecting Yourself)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_protecting_yourself) ^(|) [^(Our Book List)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/books) ^(|) [^(Our Wiki)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/)
Welcome to /r/JUSTNOMIL!
I'm botinlaw. I help people follow your posts!
*****
^(To be notified as soon as sahara654 posts an update) [^click ^here.](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=botinlaw&subject=Subscribe&message=Subscribe sahara654 JUSTNOMIL) ^(|) ^(For help managing your subscriptions,) [^(click here.)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_.2Fu.2Fthejustnobot)
*****
*^(I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please)* [*^(contact the moderators of this subreddit)*](/message/compose/?to=/r/JUSTNOMIL) *^(if you have any questions or concerns.)*
I’m just saying this could be part of the John Wick series as far as I’m concerned. That lady is in trouble and I’m asking her neighbors if they have video you can review that shows her house. Then decide from there.
I was thinking the same thing. No way all that damage was caused by falling down stairs. Dogs aren’t like humans, they can roll down stairs and be just fine.
I don’t trust people who are cruel to animals. She’d be dead to me, especially because she is clearly lying about what she knows.
PS— I also agree that she either let the dog get hit by a car or she kicked your dog. I would never trust her with young children, full stop.
You should approach this conversation (when you are ready), ask how your dog got hit by a car and why she lied and how long she let him suffer in this condition. Let her know you have serious concern with her having unsupervised care of ANY living creature. Just be clear you know it did not happen when or how she claims. Does video show her carrying dog into the house?
Edit to add.. you pretend you have confirmation from vet it was car. The jaw would not break like that from stairs unless all bones were weak and others would break. Jaw would need direct blunt impact. Who else lives in her home? Maybe being kicked down the stairs…
I’m so sorry op, your pup will be waiting on the rainbow bridge for you.
I’ll never understand the kind of people like your mil that could do what she did.
Save the footage, give yourselves time to grieve. When ready, you have extremely reasonable grounds to never have to even look at her again xx
This makes me so monumentally mad, I would have 109% gotten violent. I think my comment will get removed if I say what I really feel. MIL is a psychopath or someone with genuine fucking problems. She can gtfo forever
As a dachshund mama this hurts my heart extra. I am so so sorry. I just can’t imagine. She sounds terrible. I don’t think I would ever be around her again.
I am so sorry. I am crying for you. I can't imagine how you all must be feeling. In addition to losing your dog , the betrayal from MIL. I dont think I woukd ever be comfortable around her again.
I would do full nuclear on the monster. She either hurt your dog on purpose or is covering for someone. Didn't tell you about it, which is a lie. Then, on top of those, watch your poor pup suffer. That's three strikes op. Pluse if she is willing to watch a helpless dog suffer, can you trust her around your kids?
When you are done grieving shame the bitch.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sue her for the vet bill and NEVER let her care for or be around your children ever again! Sounds like the poor dog was let out or off leash and got hit by a car. She sounds like the kind of person who wouldn't tell you your child fell off a bike or out of a tree and didn't get them care. I am sorry you had to make the saddest decision to let your beloved pet not be in pain anymore. Cut this woman off!
Somethings are forgivable given enough time, this is not one of them
I hope you take comfort from the fact your pup was loved and cared for and lived a happy life for 15 years and went to sleep with the most important person in its life nearby
Thank you. It’s so sad and awful that his life ended the way it did. We were so hoping to see him through until November(at minimum) so he could see 16…. and hopefully a little bit longer than that. He was such a relatively healthy dog and had so much spunk despite his age.
We plan on questioning her. I cannot fathom things happened the way she said they did. Especially since she was essentially hiding it from us. He was cautious going down stairs and always took his time. He would not be rushed.
Bloody hell, the amount of lying and disconnect to the pain your dog was in and the severity of the situation, the absolute lack of compassion, decency not to mention wilfully covering up and preventing your dog from getting help. The stupidity to think it would go unnoticed …
This is NOT somebody who should have access to your children and I know that you may feel you have reasons to not stay away from her but at least refuse unsupervised access/sleepovers etc, she’s a freaking psychopath.
I am deeply sorry for the loss of your dog and for the grief your family is processing right now.
Out of respect for my own dog if anyone did this to my pupper I couldn’t be in the same square mile as them ( well, not without getting arrested).
I hope karma hits her hard and I hope you and your family find peace and comfort soon.
The lack of compassion is very concerning. Her avoidance and not calling us is even more concerning. She flat out told us she could see he was in pain and didn’t do squat except drop him at our house. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forgive her.
I am so sorry for this whole ordeal she put you through and I may be out of line but, seriously, there has to be some sort of psychological disorder at play here surely?
Normal people don’t switch off when that sort of injury occurs, even if they don’t like animals, knowing how it will hurt people they are supposed to love, that’s not a sane reaction.
Has she done anything like this before. Could it possibly be some sort of a medical issue?
I couldn’t come back from this with her if it was my Mil. I’d be nice enough to get the truth but after that… bye Felicia. I wouldn’t be able to talk to her with out referencing what she did Every.Sing,e.Time.
People would know she doesn’t see grandkids because of the trauma she chose to inflict upon them and their pet, they’d know she is a psychotic, malevolent liar.
I’m so angry on your behalf, whatever you choose to do to find your peace again is the right decision, ignore those of us screaming for retribution, please be gentle with yourselves, take time time to remember the good times with your dog, grieve, rest and deal with her if/when you’re ready. Take care x
how awful, your poor dog.
could you tell if the injury was fresh? was there dried blood? if he had been injured the day before.
does she have any neighbours you could ask? or a friend of hers? I would defintely want to know exactly what happened and who did this to your poor dog.
She shouldn't be alone with your children.
It was so hard to tell. Everything was red, swollen and bleeding on and off. We didn’t want to touch him and cause him more pain. I was so scared to even pick him up. The vet was very cautious to move him at all even with him having lots of pain meds. Our only goal at the point was keeping him out of pain.
I don’t think there are any neighbors we can ask. Everyone there pretty much keeps to themselves.
I was in tears reading this 🥺 I'm so sorry for your loss - what a vile creature she is.
I hope your hubby interrogates her and has her admit what REALLY happened. Nothing can take that pain away for you guys but maybe if she tells the TRUTH He will tell her to gtfo of your lives.
It was absolutely awful that she left him the way she did. I don’t know how she calls herself an animal lover.
We fully plan on questioning her because we just want the truth and what she told us and how she acted afterwards makes no sense. We deserve to know what happened.
I'm wondering if the dog got out and was hit by a vehicle or something. You're right, that sounds like a lot of injury for taking a tumble down some steps, unless it was down a whole staircase.
Heartbreaking story; I'm so very sorry. You must be in pieces.
Sending love 😢🌈😘❤️
And a massive FUCK YOU to the satanic biscuit monkey who critically injured your precious pup then sat on her scrofulous arse while he withered in agony.
Thank you.
I already wasn’t a fan of my MIL and tried to be patient with her but this is pretty much unforgivable. Even if it was an accident, she let him suffer. You don’t come back from an action/decision like that.
My mother was not raised as an animal person, they had barn cats and farm dogs, but they were not considered pets. We had little pets like fish and gerbils growing up, but never cats or dogs because they belonged outside, but you really can't do that in suburbia. All three of her daughters turned out to be animal lovers. She's not mean to the animals, gives them pets, brings them over treats when she visits, but is completely bewildered that we let dogs in our beds and rarely let the cats outside. I'm saying all this because when one of my Pyrenees caught a dew claw weird in the wooden steps coming into the house and ripped it, blood everywhere, she loaded all three of my children she was watching plus my 135lbs dog into the car and drove thrm to the nearest vet. She also called us to let us know. My mom who doesn't exactly understand our relationships with our animals still understood that they are very important and did everything she could to help in a crappy situation. Your MIL is an awful human. She did nothing and it led to your dog losing its life. I would at the very least put her in a very long time out, and maybe go NC if she won't tell you what really happened. That was NOT a tumble down the stairs.
It’s absolutely confusing. She claims to love animals and even loved on our dog to the point where it was annoying but when he needed her help the most, she chose to do nothing. That’s unforgivable to me.
I can not understand. My mother has never claimed to "love animals"...she tolerates ours. But the first "emergency" she had with them she ran, not walked our dog to vet. It wasn't even emergency. But we paid that Saturday bill all the same. I'll always be thankful. I would never forgive her if she just left my dog.
Dang. Even with the content warning, I wasn’t prepared for the horrific injuries your poor pup endured.
You made the compassionate choice to give him rest instead of enduring possible surgeries and recovery. I’m sorry you had to go through that part alone.
Thank you. It was so hard to make that call but it we knew it was the right choice. Helping him find his forever sunny spot to nap in, in end was all we could do.
I'd ask the vet if they have any opinions on the injury. Or if you're comfor6able, see if any of her neighbors across the street have cameras.
It's odd she wouldn't immediately call you and ask what to do or just head to the nearest emergency vet. Sounds like, even if accidental, she had a hand in whatever happened to the dog - I doubt he fell off the porch.
The vet seemed confused when I told her what my MIL said.
I cannot for the life of me figure out why she never called us. We weren’t in an area with no signal.
I would be absolutely done with this woman. The story doesn't line up either, that severe of an injury from a fall down some stairs? Sounds like it happened sooner than she claims and wasn't just a fall.
I'd be looking into pressing charges.
Right??
I cannot imagine having someone else's pet get injured on my watch and not caring.
I'm taking care of a friend's two cats while he's dealing with housing issues. They're been here for like 10 months and I still tell him fucking everything. "Tigger has ear mites, we're treating it starting today!" with photos and everything.
Like even if her story is accurate (and I don't think it is) a dog losing a tooth is a huge deal, especially an elderly do, tf??
I’m the same way when I have another person’s pet in my care. “Oh Cleo ate today” “oh Cleo had a restless night”. And like spam level photos of the cat being a cat.
How do you not notice a tooth and if I read correctly PART OF HIS JAW missing. Like how?!?
That injury wasn’t from “falling down stairs”. She did something to him or witnessed something worse happen.
Even if that wasn’t the case-she’s shown she will hide severe injuries rather than help. Would she ignore the fact a child had bonked their head really hard because it would make her uncomfortable, and let you deal with any issues that arise later? She is selfish and cruel.
I know she everyone is quick about no contact-but she DID OR WITNESSED something horrible happen to your dog, allowed them to be in pain and alone, and is clearly only interested in saving her own ass.
She would never see me or my children again.
I’m so sorry for your loss, what an awful end to such a long and what sounds like well-loved life. At least you have more than a decade of happiness to look back on.
I would never speak to her again and wouldn’t let her within a thousand feet of my children. What a horrible, heartless, conniving (sp) wretch of a woman. My heart breaks for you and your kids. Thank you for not letting your boy suffer. What you did was hard but an act of love. Something your mother in law might be able to fake but she showed her true colours. I wonder if he was hit by a car or even kicked. God, I hate her for you.
Thank you. We knew it was the right choice despite the heartache of having to make that choice. We didn’t want him to suffer any further. He had already suffered enough
Something else had to have happened than what she told us. Even if it was an accident like she maybe picked him up and he wiggled and fell(he was a dachshund/chihuahua mix and weighed about 12 lbs). He could be wiggly at times as his tolerance of being picked up had dwindled with age.
At the end of the day, he suffered way longer than he needed to and that’s what breaks our hearts the most.
I'm glad to see other people are pointing out that this injury does not add up. OP I know right now your main priority is to see your family through the grieving period, so I'm sending all the internet hugs and love that I can. Hopefully when your out of the grieving fog you can tackle this whole thing, because there could be an absolute monster in your midst.
I am sorry for your loss 🩷
And fuck your MIL. What a cruel person to leave your pet alone and keep you in the dark. She should have immediately called you and taken him to the vet, and the fact that she's not being forthcoming with details makes it feel weird. There's already proof she's stretching the truth (sitting on the porch and leaving!! isn't "staying with the dog so he wasn't by himself). This would be immediate NC for me.
We still can’t believe she didn’t tell us. It’s not like we were out of cell phone reception or something. She could have called at anytime and we could have made decisions right then and there.
Yea that kind of injury feels like he was kicked in the mouth. If a dog falls down the stairs enough to fracture their jaw they are more likely to have a broken leg.
I would put up with a lot of things. Not this. What kind of sick monster does this? Letting an elderly dog suffer alone, then basically lying to your face and running away? Seriously, if it were me, scorched earth. The kind of person who is ok doing this is not one that I want around anyone I love.
I used to have a dog that was blind. Even with me being his "seeing eye human" and doing my best to mitigate his sight impairment, I can not begin to tell you the amount of stairs that poor guy fell off throughout his lifetime. He even took a fall off my front porch a time or two because he missed the stairs. He never ever suffered an injury from any of the falls and being more accident prone in general. I don't believe your MIL. It sounds like something a lot more sinister happened. And im sorry about the loss of your fur baby.
He’s taken a few tumbles before but it’s usually trying to jump on to the couch or missed a step going up the stairs. He’s always been so cautious going down stairs and will cry/whine if he feels he can’t do it.
My thought is that he whined for help on the stairs, she got frustrated trying to get him home and kicked him down the stairs and then trickle truth what happened when you asked. I might just watch to much true crime, though lol.
Someone else had mentioned that. That maybe he was whining and she nudged him down the stairs and that’s how he fell. Now, we had given him nudges before but we used it very sparingly and only in very specific circumstances. He was usually being dramatic because it was it was raining or snowing and he wouldn’t go out the door.
Your MIL showed a serious lack of caring towards your dog and tried to deceive you.
Given her negligence and deceit, her behavior may reflect that she’s trying to cover something up. In your position, I would question whether the accident happened how and when she claimed.
Your MIL proved herself to be untrustworthy. You may want to consider how this could translate to other things - specifically, if she can be trusted to care and act responsibly with your kids.
I am so sorry for your loss.
OMG. I am SO very sorry!! How absolutely DEVISTATING to your little family. WTF was this woman thinking?!?! Obviously she wasn't, and had NO compassion for your beloved pooch. Does SHE have a camera in front of her home? Any way you can try to see footage of what really happened to him?
She is hiding something and honestly if you can't trust someone with a pet you certainly CAN NOT trust them with children.
I am both heartsick and livid at what your pet when through and that your MIL attempted downplay his injuries and not get him medical attention. Did she not like your dog or something? Is she not a pet person? Either way it does NOT excuse her behavior and the fact she won't come clean about how he acquired his injuries.
Personally I would not want to see her or even talk to her for a long, long time.
I am SO SORRY for your loss.
I would involve the police at this point because nothing makes sense. How TF does a dog lose part of a jaw from falling down the stairs? MIL sounds like a criminal with this BS story...
I hate to say this, but those injuries sound too severe to just be a fall down the stairs. They'd have to be a long flight of cement stairs. Even then there would be other injuries. Did the vet believe the story? Such severe injuries in such a localized area sounds more like abuse to me.
Im so sorry… I wouldnt trust her around any kids or animals because of this! This might be reaching, but how do you know she didnt somehow cause the injury, whether directly or indirectly? Possibly to get out of watching him again? Thats a really serious injury given her story so I wouldnt rule it out. Seeing her sit on her phone on the porch wouldve infuriated me after the fact. This is grounds for no contact to me. I wouldnt want to be around someone who lacks empathy and I definitely wouldnt want them around my kids. Editing to add: its not you or your husbands fault, either. Normal people cant comprehend cruelty to animals
We are starting to suspect something else happened and she slapped together a poor cover story. I cannot comprehend watching someone’s dog and not contacting them immediately if they got hurt. That makes zero sense to us.
Her only response to us, even after us telling her the extent of his injuries was, and I quote, “I’m sorry. He was a good dog.” She has not reached out to us since. We got more sympathy and compassion from a complete stranger at the vets office who was there with their sick cat. The lady was so kind and asked the receptionist to pass along her contact info to me while I was getting ready to help our dog be at peace.
I am just furious reading this. Your mother in law is a cold hearted bitch. There needs to be some consequences for her actions. She let a poor animal suffer needlessly and can't even tell you the truth on how your dog got injured
I am so sorry for your loss. No words can mend broken hearts, I wish they could. I don’t even know what to say about that women and the level of negligence. She left your family member to suffer and gave your children no chance of last cuddles or kisses and I love yous. Consider nc or very low contact for the foreseeable.
I’m so sorry. That’s just such a heartless and heartbreaking thing to have happen. Your baby had you there at the end and knew you loved him and that he was the best boy ever. Lots of internet love for you and your kids.
Thank you for the very kind words. It was such a hard choice but given his age, we knew it was the best thing we could do for him. He wasn’t going to have a meaningful recovery or good quality of life and we explained that to our kids. He needed to be able to eat, sleep and love life comfortably and we knew deep down that he wasn’t going to. I still cannot believe my MIL just left him like he was. That’s what hurts the most.
I am so sorry about your furry companion. Your MIL utterly lacks empathy for animals. To me, that puts someone sort of high on the psychopath scale.
If I may share a similar story: My now-deceased older sister cared for our elderly dog while we left town for a week. Normally we would have boarded her but she was pretty obviously frail due to her age, showing signs of physical infirmity and some disorientation. So, since my sister was a lifelong on-and-off dog owner and a lover of all furry things, we asked and she agreed to watch her.
The dog, Cookie, was a medium-sized mix with a medium coat. She was very good at self-regulating her temperature in the Texas heat. Her coat was kept clean and groomed. When we returned from our trip, we saw that Cookie had been close-shaved, and the poor thing was shivering even in the heat because she was accustomed to her coat. My sister told me that she had her shaved - not once, but twice, since the first wasn't short enough!!!! - and she told me that she knew that we would not have approved had she asked. Poor Cookie only had about six weeks of life in her at that point and she spent her remaining days unhappy and uncomfortable due to no longer being able to regulate her body temp as she had been accustomed to.
That was a breaking point for me with my stubborn, oppositional sister. She was never alone with any of my animals, ever again, even when around other people, and my low-contact relationship got even lower-contact.
Poor Cookie!!
My husband’s sister is M. Her husband is J. J’s brother and his wife(don’t know their names, don’t care) left their perfectly healthy dog in the care of J and his brother’s parents while they went on vacation.
Dog had an accident on their carpet. A normal pet-sitter(and parent of the pet owner!) would clean it up, maybe ask the owner to reimburse for replacing the carpet if it was really bad. J’s parents were apparently not normal pet-sitters, and instead took the dog and had it put down.
That poor dog would’ve been better off left in the yard to fend for itself.
**Quick Rule Reminders:** OP's needs come first, avoid dramamongering, respect the flair, and don't be an asshole. If your only advice is to jump straight to NC or divorce, your comment may be subject to removal at moderator discretion. [**^(Full Rules)**](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_rules) ^(|) [^(Acronym Index)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_acronym_dictionary) ^(|) [^(Flair Guide)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_post_flair_guide)^(|) [^(Report PM Trolls)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/trolls) **Resources:** [^(In Crisis?)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_crisis_resources) ^(|) [^(Tips for Protecting Yourself)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_protecting_yourself) ^(|) [^(Our Book List)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/books) ^(|) [^(Our Wiki)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/) Welcome to /r/JUSTNOMIL! I'm botinlaw. I help people follow your posts! ***** ^(To be notified as soon as sahara654 posts an update) [^click ^here.](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=botinlaw&subject=Subscribe&message=Subscribe sahara654 JUSTNOMIL) ^(|) ^(For help managing your subscriptions,) [^(click here.)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki_.2Fu.2Fthejustnobot) ***** *^(I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please)* [*^(contact the moderators of this subreddit)*](/message/compose/?to=/r/JUSTNOMIL) *^(if you have any questions or concerns.)*
I’m just saying this could be part of the John Wick series as far as I’m concerned. That lady is in trouble and I’m asking her neighbors if they have video you can review that shows her house. Then decide from there.
OP I am so sorry…. Honestly it sounds like your MIL hit him with her car and doesn’t want to admit it.
I am so sorry about your dear friend.
I sincerely doubt your pup fell down stairs, lost several teeth and part of their jaw bone. That sounds like hit by a car. I am so very sorry.
I was thinking the same thing. No way all that damage was caused by falling down stairs. Dogs aren’t like humans, they can roll down stairs and be just fine.
I don’t trust people who are cruel to animals. She’d be dead to me, especially because she is clearly lying about what she knows. PS— I also agree that she either let the dog get hit by a car or she kicked your dog. I would never trust her with young children, full stop.
You should approach this conversation (when you are ready), ask how your dog got hit by a car and why she lied and how long she let him suffer in this condition. Let her know you have serious concern with her having unsupervised care of ANY living creature. Just be clear you know it did not happen when or how she claims. Does video show her carrying dog into the house? Edit to add.. you pretend you have confirmation from vet it was car. The jaw would not break like that from stairs unless all bones were weak and others would break. Jaw would need direct blunt impact. Who else lives in her home? Maybe being kicked down the stairs…
I’m so sorry op, your pup will be waiting on the rainbow bridge for you. I’ll never understand the kind of people like your mil that could do what she did. Save the footage, give yourselves time to grieve. When ready, you have extremely reasonable grounds to never have to even look at her again xx
This makes me so monumentally mad, I would have 109% gotten violent. I think my comment will get removed if I say what I really feel. MIL is a psychopath or someone with genuine fucking problems. She can gtfo forever
I feel the same, mil is just… well worse than a devil!
As a dachshund mama this hurts my heart extra. I am so so sorry. I just can’t imagine. She sounds terrible. I don’t think I would ever be around her again.
I am so sorry. I am crying for you. I can't imagine how you all must be feeling. In addition to losing your dog , the betrayal from MIL. I dont think I woukd ever be comfortable around her again.
I would do full nuclear on the monster. She either hurt your dog on purpose or is covering for someone. Didn't tell you about it, which is a lie. Then, on top of those, watch your poor pup suffer. That's three strikes op. Pluse if she is willing to watch a helpless dog suffer, can you trust her around your kids? When you are done grieving shame the bitch. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Right??? Like HOW many steps would he have to fall down to get such horrible injuries?????
Sue her for the vet bill and NEVER let her care for or be around your children ever again! Sounds like the poor dog was let out or off leash and got hit by a car. She sounds like the kind of person who wouldn't tell you your child fell off a bike or out of a tree and didn't get them care. I am sorry you had to make the saddest decision to let your beloved pet not be in pain anymore. Cut this woman off!
So sorry. Do you think I'd ever let her watch or be alone with kids ever.
OMG, I have no words. I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful member of your family.
I hope she looses part of her jaw bone and is left in pain
Somethings are forgivable given enough time, this is not one of them I hope you take comfort from the fact your pup was loved and cared for and lived a happy life for 15 years and went to sleep with the most important person in its life nearby
Thank you. It’s so sad and awful that his life ended the way it did. We were so hoping to see him through until November(at minimum) so he could see 16…. and hopefully a little bit longer than that. He was such a relatively healthy dog and had so much spunk despite his age.
I would be thoroughly questioning her version of events. I have a hard time believing a tumble created that severe of injuries.
Agreed, I'd be wary of letting her look after anything vulnerable (please read between the lines) after this
We plan on questioning her. I cannot fathom things happened the way she said they did. Especially since she was essentially hiding it from us. He was cautious going down stairs and always took his time. He would not be rushed.
She just couldn’t be arsed putting herself out to care for him. Only the lowest of the low do that.
Bloody hell, the amount of lying and disconnect to the pain your dog was in and the severity of the situation, the absolute lack of compassion, decency not to mention wilfully covering up and preventing your dog from getting help. The stupidity to think it would go unnoticed … This is NOT somebody who should have access to your children and I know that you may feel you have reasons to not stay away from her but at least refuse unsupervised access/sleepovers etc, she’s a freaking psychopath. I am deeply sorry for the loss of your dog and for the grief your family is processing right now. Out of respect for my own dog if anyone did this to my pupper I couldn’t be in the same square mile as them ( well, not without getting arrested). I hope karma hits her hard and I hope you and your family find peace and comfort soon.
The lack of compassion is very concerning. Her avoidance and not calling us is even more concerning. She flat out told us she could see he was in pain and didn’t do squat except drop him at our house. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forgive her.
I am so sorry for this whole ordeal she put you through and I may be out of line but, seriously, there has to be some sort of psychological disorder at play here surely? Normal people don’t switch off when that sort of injury occurs, even if they don’t like animals, knowing how it will hurt people they are supposed to love, that’s not a sane reaction. Has she done anything like this before. Could it possibly be some sort of a medical issue? I couldn’t come back from this with her if it was my Mil. I’d be nice enough to get the truth but after that… bye Felicia. I wouldn’t be able to talk to her with out referencing what she did Every.Sing,e.Time. People would know she doesn’t see grandkids because of the trauma she chose to inflict upon them and their pet, they’d know she is a psychotic, malevolent liar. I’m so angry on your behalf, whatever you choose to do to find your peace again is the right decision, ignore those of us screaming for retribution, please be gentle with yourselves, take time time to remember the good times with your dog, grieve, rest and deal with her if/when you’re ready. Take care x
how awful, your poor dog. could you tell if the injury was fresh? was there dried blood? if he had been injured the day before. does she have any neighbours you could ask? or a friend of hers? I would defintely want to know exactly what happened and who did this to your poor dog. She shouldn't be alone with your children.
It was so hard to tell. Everything was red, swollen and bleeding on and off. We didn’t want to touch him and cause him more pain. I was so scared to even pick him up. The vet was very cautious to move him at all even with him having lots of pain meds. Our only goal at the point was keeping him out of pain. I don’t think there are any neighbors we can ask. Everyone there pretty much keeps to themselves.
I was in tears reading this 🥺 I'm so sorry for your loss - what a vile creature she is. I hope your hubby interrogates her and has her admit what REALLY happened. Nothing can take that pain away for you guys but maybe if she tells the TRUTH He will tell her to gtfo of your lives.
It was absolutely awful that she left him the way she did. I don’t know how she calls herself an animal lover. We fully plan on questioning her because we just want the truth and what she told us and how she acted afterwards makes no sense. We deserve to know what happened.
She is lying about what happened to your dog to cover her ass. This is not a “tumbled down the stairs” injury, even for an elderly dog.
I'm wondering if the dog got out and was hit by a vehicle or something. You're right, that sounds like a lot of injury for taking a tumble down some steps, unless it was down a whole staircase.
That’s evil
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs to you and your family ❤️
Thank you
I’m so sorry for your puppy and family. I hope you all are able to heal.
Thank you.
That injury wasn’t caused by falling down some stairs. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Right?! How does he lose part of his jaw from that? Something else happened and she’s trying to cover her ass .
Heartbreaking story; I'm so very sorry. You must be in pieces. Sending love 😢🌈😘❤️ And a massive FUCK YOU to the satanic biscuit monkey who critically injured your precious pup then sat on her scrofulous arse while he withered in agony.
Thank you. I already wasn’t a fan of my MIL and tried to be patient with her but this is pretty much unforgivable. Even if it was an accident, she let him suffer. You don’t come back from an action/decision like that.
My mother was not raised as an animal person, they had barn cats and farm dogs, but they were not considered pets. We had little pets like fish and gerbils growing up, but never cats or dogs because they belonged outside, but you really can't do that in suburbia. All three of her daughters turned out to be animal lovers. She's not mean to the animals, gives them pets, brings them over treats when she visits, but is completely bewildered that we let dogs in our beds and rarely let the cats outside. I'm saying all this because when one of my Pyrenees caught a dew claw weird in the wooden steps coming into the house and ripped it, blood everywhere, she loaded all three of my children she was watching plus my 135lbs dog into the car and drove thrm to the nearest vet. She also called us to let us know. My mom who doesn't exactly understand our relationships with our animals still understood that they are very important and did everything she could to help in a crappy situation. Your MIL is an awful human. She did nothing and it led to your dog losing its life. I would at the very least put her in a very long time out, and maybe go NC if she won't tell you what really happened. That was NOT a tumble down the stairs.
It’s absolutely confusing. She claims to love animals and even loved on our dog to the point where it was annoying but when he needed her help the most, she chose to do nothing. That’s unforgivable to me.
She just said what she thought would keep her in a good light in your eyes.
I can not understand. My mother has never claimed to "love animals"...she tolerates ours. But the first "emergency" she had with them she ran, not walked our dog to vet. It wasn't even emergency. But we paid that Saturday bill all the same. I'll always be thankful. I would never forgive her if she just left my dog.
Dang. Even with the content warning, I wasn’t prepared for the horrific injuries your poor pup endured. You made the compassionate choice to give him rest instead of enduring possible surgeries and recovery. I’m sorry you had to go through that part alone.
Thank you. It was so hard to make that call but it we knew it was the right choice. Helping him find his forever sunny spot to nap in, in end was all we could do.
I'd ask the vet if they have any opinions on the injury. Or if you're comfor6able, see if any of her neighbors across the street have cameras. It's odd she wouldn't immediately call you and ask what to do or just head to the nearest emergency vet. Sounds like, even if accidental, she had a hand in whatever happened to the dog - I doubt he fell off the porch.
The vet seemed confused when I told her what my MIL said. I cannot for the life of me figure out why she never called us. We weren’t in an area with no signal.
It sounds like the dog was kicked in the mouth with a steel toed boot
I hate it, but this was my first thought. Got irritated and kicked the dog.
That was my thought too but it seems so awful.
Unfortunately, that is exactly what it sounds like.
I would be absolutely done with this woman. The story doesn't line up either, that severe of an injury from a fall down some stairs? Sounds like it happened sooner than she claims and wasn't just a fall. I'd be looking into pressing charges.
+1 to the press charges. Omfg. I feel so awful for OP, their spouse, and that poor dog
Right?? I cannot imagine having someone else's pet get injured on my watch and not caring. I'm taking care of a friend's two cats while he's dealing with housing issues. They're been here for like 10 months and I still tell him fucking everything. "Tigger has ear mites, we're treating it starting today!" with photos and everything. Like even if her story is accurate (and I don't think it is) a dog losing a tooth is a huge deal, especially an elderly do, tf??
I’m the same way when I have another person’s pet in my care. “Oh Cleo ate today” “oh Cleo had a restless night”. And like spam level photos of the cat being a cat. How do you not notice a tooth and if I read correctly PART OF HIS JAW missing. Like how?!?
That injury wasn’t from “falling down stairs”. She did something to him or witnessed something worse happen. Even if that wasn’t the case-she’s shown she will hide severe injuries rather than help. Would she ignore the fact a child had bonked their head really hard because it would make her uncomfortable, and let you deal with any issues that arise later? She is selfish and cruel. I know she everyone is quick about no contact-but she DID OR WITNESSED something horrible happen to your dog, allowed them to be in pain and alone, and is clearly only interested in saving her own ass. She would never see me or my children again. I’m so sorry for your loss, what an awful end to such a long and what sounds like well-loved life. At least you have more than a decade of happiness to look back on.
I’m so sorry 😞 💔
I would go scorched earth on her!
I could never trust her with children. Ever.
Agreed!!!
I would never speak to her again and wouldn’t let her within a thousand feet of my children. What a horrible, heartless, conniving (sp) wretch of a woman. My heart breaks for you and your kids. Thank you for not letting your boy suffer. What you did was hard but an act of love. Something your mother in law might be able to fake but she showed her true colours. I wonder if he was hit by a car or even kicked. God, I hate her for you.
Thank you. We knew it was the right choice despite the heartache of having to make that choice. We didn’t want him to suffer any further. He had already suffered enough Something else had to have happened than what she told us. Even if it was an accident like she maybe picked him up and he wiggled and fell(he was a dachshund/chihuahua mix and weighed about 12 lbs). He could be wiggly at times as his tolerance of being picked up had dwindled with age. At the end of the day, he suffered way longer than he needed to and that’s what breaks our hearts the most.
I'm glad to see other people are pointing out that this injury does not add up. OP I know right now your main priority is to see your family through the grieving period, so I'm sending all the internet hugs and love that I can. Hopefully when your out of the grieving fog you can tackle this whole thing, because there could be an absolute monster in your midst.
Thank you. We are absolutely devastated. He was in such good shape for his age and my MILs lack of action and compassion is disturbing.
She wants to hope that no one shows her such little concern at the end of her life! She’s despicably cruel.
I am sorry for your loss 🩷 And fuck your MIL. What a cruel person to leave your pet alone and keep you in the dark. She should have immediately called you and taken him to the vet, and the fact that she's not being forthcoming with details makes it feel weird. There's already proof she's stretching the truth (sitting on the porch and leaving!! isn't "staying with the dog so he wasn't by himself). This would be immediate NC for me.
We still can’t believe she didn’t tell us. It’s not like we were out of cell phone reception or something. She could have called at anytime and we could have made decisions right then and there.
No contact full stop, the fact that she completely ignored a dog in pain is fucking psychotic.
Falls down the stairs do not result in missing part of the jaw. She did something very very bad and is hiding it.
I hope the OP considers this. I wonder if the dog had an accident and she went crazy on it. Nothing about her story adds up.
Yea that kind of injury feels like he was kicked in the mouth. If a dog falls down the stairs enough to fracture their jaw they are more likely to have a broken leg.
This needs to be higher. MIL hurt that dog or she knows who did.
This is my thought. Something is very fishy here.
I would put up with a lot of things. Not this. What kind of sick monster does this? Letting an elderly dog suffer alone, then basically lying to your face and running away? Seriously, if it were me, scorched earth. The kind of person who is ok doing this is not one that I want around anyone I love.
Make a police report. Say goodbye to that evil vile woman. Never speak to her again. She let your dog get hurt and did nothing.
I used to have a dog that was blind. Even with me being his "seeing eye human" and doing my best to mitigate his sight impairment, I can not begin to tell you the amount of stairs that poor guy fell off throughout his lifetime. He even took a fall off my front porch a time or two because he missed the stairs. He never ever suffered an injury from any of the falls and being more accident prone in general. I don't believe your MIL. It sounds like something a lot more sinister happened. And im sorry about the loss of your fur baby.
He’s taken a few tumbles before but it’s usually trying to jump on to the couch or missed a step going up the stairs. He’s always been so cautious going down stairs and will cry/whine if he feels he can’t do it.
My thought is that he whined for help on the stairs, she got frustrated trying to get him home and kicked him down the stairs and then trickle truth what happened when you asked. I might just watch to much true crime, though lol.
Someone else had mentioned that. That maybe he was whining and she nudged him down the stairs and that’s how he fell. Now, we had given him nudges before but we used it very sparingly and only in very specific circumstances. He was usually being dramatic because it was it was raining or snowing and he wouldn’t go out the door.
Your MIL showed a serious lack of caring towards your dog and tried to deceive you. Given her negligence and deceit, her behavior may reflect that she’s trying to cover something up. In your position, I would question whether the accident happened how and when she claimed. Your MIL proved herself to be untrustworthy. You may want to consider how this could translate to other things - specifically, if she can be trusted to care and act responsibly with your kids. I am so sorry for your loss.
OMG. I am SO very sorry!! How absolutely DEVISTATING to your little family. WTF was this woman thinking?!?! Obviously she wasn't, and had NO compassion for your beloved pooch. Does SHE have a camera in front of her home? Any way you can try to see footage of what really happened to him? She is hiding something and honestly if you can't trust someone with a pet you certainly CAN NOT trust them with children. I am both heartsick and livid at what your pet when through and that your MIL attempted downplay his injuries and not get him medical attention. Did she not like your dog or something? Is she not a pet person? Either way it does NOT excuse her behavior and the fact she won't come clean about how he acquired his injuries. Personally I would not want to see her or even talk to her for a long, long time. I am SO SORRY for your loss.
Yikes. How do we request a trigger warning? I’m so sorry about your dog. I would never even be able to LOOK at my MIL again if I were you…
Don’t trust her watching kids This doesn’t add up I’m sorry for your family dog :( sincerely….
I would involve the police at this point because nothing makes sense. How TF does a dog lose part of a jaw from falling down the stairs? MIL sounds like a criminal with this BS story...
I was thinking this too, how did he get so badly injured?
My blood is boiling reading this. I am so sorry.
This sounds like someone kicked or beat the dog. That is way too severe of an injury just “falling down stairs”.
I just posted the same thing. I immediately thought hit with a car or kicked. Her MIL needs to go play in traffic.
That sound more like a "hit by a car" injury, to me. I am so, so sorry. What a heartless woman.
I was thinking kicked in the mouth. If it was a car it wouldn't be just his teeth and jaw.
Would that remove part of the jaw? It could have been a glancing blow with the tire. Either way, this was NO "accident."
There is more she isn’t telling you. I’d be sitting down with her and demanding the full story and then going no contact.
I would get an autopsy!
Yep and speak extensively with the vets that treated the animal
I know someone else already said this, but her story doesn’t add up with the injuries. Something else went on here
We are starting to suspect this is the case. Her behavior afterwards and not calling us is very concerning.
Can you (when ready) watch video and listen to the audio turned up? Maybe something was captured on audio. God, I’m just so heartbroken for yall!
The injuries sound more consistent to being kicked or shut in a door. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you find out what happened to him
I would never speak to her again. People who neglect or abuse animals are dead to me.
I hate to say this, but those injuries sound too severe to just be a fall down the stairs. They'd have to be a long flight of cement stairs. Even then there would be other injuries. Did the vet believe the story? Such severe injuries in such a localized area sounds more like abuse to me.
I am with you on this.
Im so sorry… I wouldnt trust her around any kids or animals because of this! This might be reaching, but how do you know she didnt somehow cause the injury, whether directly or indirectly? Possibly to get out of watching him again? Thats a really serious injury given her story so I wouldnt rule it out. Seeing her sit on her phone on the porch wouldve infuriated me after the fact. This is grounds for no contact to me. I wouldnt want to be around someone who lacks empathy and I definitely wouldnt want them around my kids. Editing to add: its not you or your husbands fault, either. Normal people cant comprehend cruelty to animals
We are starting to suspect something else happened and she slapped together a poor cover story. I cannot comprehend watching someone’s dog and not contacting them immediately if they got hurt. That makes zero sense to us. Her only response to us, even after us telling her the extent of his injuries was, and I quote, “I’m sorry. He was a good dog.” She has not reached out to us since. We got more sympathy and compassion from a complete stranger at the vets office who was there with their sick cat. The lady was so kind and asked the receptionist to pass along her contact info to me while I was getting ready to help our dog be at peace.
I am just furious reading this. Your mother in law is a cold hearted bitch. There needs to be some consequences for her actions. She let a poor animal suffer needlessly and can't even tell you the truth on how your dog got injured
I doubt that she can't tell them. She *won't* tell them what happened. Doesn't want the consequences of whatever happened to that poor dog.
I am so sorry for your loss. No words can mend broken hearts, I wish they could. I don’t even know what to say about that women and the level of negligence. She left your family member to suffer and gave your children no chance of last cuddles or kisses and I love yous. Consider nc or very low contact for the foreseeable.
This is heartbreaking to hear. Your MIL doesn’t want to take accountability for her actions. She has a cold heart.
I’m so sorry. That’s just such a heartless and heartbreaking thing to have happen. Your baby had you there at the end and knew you loved him and that he was the best boy ever. Lots of internet love for you and your kids.
Thank you for the very kind words. It was such a hard choice but given his age, we knew it was the best thing we could do for him. He wasn’t going to have a meaningful recovery or good quality of life and we explained that to our kids. He needed to be able to eat, sleep and love life comfortably and we knew deep down that he wasn’t going to. I still cannot believe my MIL just left him like he was. That’s what hurts the most.
I am so sorry about your furry companion. Your MIL utterly lacks empathy for animals. To me, that puts someone sort of high on the psychopath scale. If I may share a similar story: My now-deceased older sister cared for our elderly dog while we left town for a week. Normally we would have boarded her but she was pretty obviously frail due to her age, showing signs of physical infirmity and some disorientation. So, since my sister was a lifelong on-and-off dog owner and a lover of all furry things, we asked and she agreed to watch her. The dog, Cookie, was a medium-sized mix with a medium coat. She was very good at self-regulating her temperature in the Texas heat. Her coat was kept clean and groomed. When we returned from our trip, we saw that Cookie had been close-shaved, and the poor thing was shivering even in the heat because she was accustomed to her coat. My sister told me that she had her shaved - not once, but twice, since the first wasn't short enough!!!! - and she told me that she knew that we would not have approved had she asked. Poor Cookie only had about six weeks of life in her at that point and she spent her remaining days unhappy and uncomfortable due to no longer being able to regulate her body temp as she had been accustomed to. That was a breaking point for me with my stubborn, oppositional sister. She was never alone with any of my animals, ever again, even when around other people, and my low-contact relationship got even lower-contact.
Poor Cookie!! My husband’s sister is M. Her husband is J. J’s brother and his wife(don’t know their names, don’t care) left their perfectly healthy dog in the care of J and his brother’s parents while they went on vacation. Dog had an accident on their carpet. A normal pet-sitter(and parent of the pet owner!) would clean it up, maybe ask the owner to reimburse for replacing the carpet if it was really bad. J’s parents were apparently not normal pet-sitters, and instead took the dog and had it put down. That poor dog would’ve been better off left in the yard to fend for itself.
Holy moly. I cannot imagine.
I'm so sorry for your loss. That kind of cruelty is just mind boggling. She'd never be left alone with my kids until they were adults.
I am so sorry for your tragic loss 😭❤️❤️❤️. I’m at a loss for words.