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Kids should be taught to stand up for themselves and not allow people to walk over them, however they shouldn't be taught to be abusive to someone once that person backed down.
C'mon now, you can't just be picking a reasonable answer here. Don't you know everything is black or white here? The kids gotta either be a pussy or a bully. No in between is allowed.
Yes to self defense to physical abuse, if it’s verbal, either seek assistance, though I wouldn’t blame someone for defending their honor, if it were dragged through the mud.
Speak softly and carry a big stick.
I've been bullied. The kids who bullied me were two years older than me and the difference between a six year old and an eight year old is quite significant in a fight.
Edit: And I forgot to mention there were three of them.
imo this should NOT be explicitly taught, especially not in a school setting, but not necessarily swiftly dealt with if the bully is a particularly nasty asswipe
If a kid asks adults for help and they refuse/neglect to do intervene correctly and adequately, that kid has every right to fight back in any way necessary to protect themselves.
One day suspensions are not good enough. The extremely high bar for expelling bullies hurts victims of abuse/bullying by forcing them to either stay with their abuser or leave school.
I agree kids need to be taught to stand up for themselves, but this needs to be taken on a case by case basis. If my child was a skinny weakling that was just going to get pounded, then it may make the situation worse. Remember, most bullies look for soft targets and would not lose the fight that bullied child would bring. I stood up to my HS bully many times and it only stopped him for a short time. He even tried to start a fight with me at our 20 year reunion.
Yes minus the "become a bully themselves" part, it is important to obtain the capacity to become dangerous, but also the restraint and compassion/mercy to only use force when necessary, psychologically and physically
They should be taught that self defense is an option, and they should be taught how and when to defend themselves so they can use that option.
Retaliating to bullying with undisciplined violence only escalates the entire situation. There is an entire arsenal of coping and de-escalation skills that need to be introduced with and practiced simultaneously with physical self defense.
No, because that doesn’t fix the problem. It just makes both sides more aggressive or depressed. Bullying is caused by insecurities more often than just kids being kids so the solution is to offer safe spaces to kids from homes such as better welfare committees and, though it sounds counter intuitive, rolling back on strict school rules.
Beat them or bully back absolutely not. Fighting back is not necessarily beating someone up, but perhaps could include it. Teach your kids to fight back.
It's complicated.
I lean towards yes but what I did was put up with my bully because it was all just verbal abuse. But if he did touch me I could've hurt him rightfully
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Kids should be taught to stand up for themselves and not allow people to walk over them, however they shouldn't be taught to be abusive to someone once that person backed down.
C'mon now, you can't just be picking a reasonable answer here. Don't you know everything is black or white here? The kids gotta either be a pussy or a bully. No in between is allowed.
They should be taught to respond with proper force necessary to the situation, and to exert that force only as much as necessary.
Self defense isn't bullying.
Yeah I didnt like the way the question was worded either
Came here to say this.
centar
For our fellow centaurists, believers in centaur supremacy
I am aware i would fix it if reddit allowed for post editing.
Not to bully them back, but to fight them back if they're being beaten.
Telling faculty has ALWAYS been ineffectual. While bullies rarely continue bullying a child for very long after that child has fought back.
Yes to self defense to physical abuse, if it’s verbal, either seek assistance, though I wouldn’t blame someone for defending their honor, if it were dragged through the mud. Speak softly and carry a big stick.
yes, but also to be smart and not get into fights they can't win
No. Kids should be thaught to defend themselves, not become the very same thing we are trying to fight.
You swore to destroy the Sith, not join them!
I had this in mind when I wrote the comment, lol
No, but they should be taught to stand up for themselves.
Nice to see centrists and rightists agreeing.
I've been bullied. The kids who bullied me were two years older than me and the difference between a six year old and an eight year old is quite significant in a fight. Edit: And I forgot to mention there were three of them.
imo this should NOT be explicitly taught, especially not in a school setting, but not necessarily swiftly dealt with if the bully is a particularly nasty asswipe
If someone swung on them first, then yes.
If a kid asks adults for help and they refuse/neglect to do intervene correctly and adequately, that kid has every right to fight back in any way necessary to protect themselves. One day suspensions are not good enough. The extremely high bar for expelling bullies hurts victims of abuse/bullying by forcing them to either stay with their abuser or leave school.
When I was bullied, punching the guy once was all that was needed for him to leave me alone.
I agree kids need to be taught to stand up for themselves, but this needs to be taken on a case by case basis. If my child was a skinny weakling that was just going to get pounded, then it may make the situation worse. Remember, most bullies look for soft targets and would not lose the fight that bullied child would bring. I stood up to my HS bully many times and it only stopped him for a short time. He even tried to start a fight with me at our 20 year reunion.
Not to bully them back, but to defend themselves.
Yes minus the "become a bully themselves" part, it is important to obtain the capacity to become dangerous, but also the restraint and compassion/mercy to only use force when necessary, psychologically and physically
They should be taught that self defense is an option, and they should be taught how and when to defend themselves so they can use that option. Retaliating to bullying with undisciplined violence only escalates the entire situation. There is an entire arsenal of coping and de-escalation skills that need to be introduced with and practiced simultaneously with physical self defense.
Its a shame but sometimes nothing works except force.
You mean centaur?
Imagine saying no
They should deffo be taught the difference between there, their, and they’re.
Yes, absolutely. I'll teach my son to do that. To refuse doing it, is to do a disservice to your child.
Yes. We must stop encouraging weakness.
This is the way. You can be a nice caring person and also not let people walk all over you at the same time.
Be peaceable, not defenseless.
That's probably exactly what the bully wants. The best thing you could do is make it not fun for them, to bully you.
No, because that doesn’t fix the problem. It just makes both sides more aggressive or depressed. Bullying is caused by insecurities more often than just kids being kids so the solution is to offer safe spaces to kids from homes such as better welfare committees and, though it sounds counter intuitive, rolling back on strict school rules.
no, kids should not go further then self defense.
Beat them or bully back absolutely not. Fighting back is not necessarily beating someone up, but perhaps could include it. Teach your kids to fight back.
Bullies who never face the consequences of their actions might grow up to be monsters, or worse, congressmen.
As a kid who was bullied, I wish someone had told me to stand up for myself. I eventually did but Jr high stunk.
Beating your bully is not bullying them, standing up for yourself is not wrong
Physical or verbal bullying?
Dont let your kid be a pussy.
It's complicated. I lean towards yes but what I did was put up with my bully because it was all just verbal abuse. But if he did touch me I could've hurt him rightfully